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(DIR) Post #AYjoyd4GdBvMvx5fjE by grammargirl@zirk.us
2023-08-15T00:27:18Z
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Does it make sense to describe someone as a "dear acquaintance"?Someone I knew in passing for years, but in a very friendly way, died of a massive stroke this morning. He was a young vibrant light, and the only way I can think to describe what he meant to me is that he was a "dear acquaintance." I was also so happy to run into him, and he always referred to me as "my friend." "Hello, my friend!" He was just that way, and so many people are going to miss him.
(DIR) Post #AYjpAl2qnXcH9KD9vM by jimfl@hachyderm.io
2023-08-15T00:29:30Z
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@grammargirl Sure. It’s someone you knew, and wished you’d known better.
(DIR) Post #AYjpE4ODKdVq0wmcBU by mlanger@mastodon.world
2023-08-15T00:30:04Z
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@grammargirl How sad. I'm sorry for your loss. Why do the good ones die so young?
(DIR) Post #AYjpEWRj1AxT1wdoXo by mckra1g@mastodon.social
2023-08-15T00:30:09Z
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@grammargirl I think that’s entirely appropriate. I’m sorry to hear about your loss. 🖤
(DIR) Post #AYjpSUhyHCW1h6u168 by waynedixon@mastodon.social
2023-08-15T00:32:42Z
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@grammargirl first, I’m so sorry for your loss of a such a dear acquaintance. Secondly, I think it makes sense to use that phrase if it’s appropriate. It may not be a common phrase but it’s easy enough to determine the relationship. Could another possible phrase be “close acquaintance”?
(DIR) Post #AYjpYj0Q20ctm6VCRU by SunsetFire@mastodon.xyz
2023-08-15T00:33:50Z
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@grammargirl "Dear acquaintance" is perfect for those lovely people in one's life 💕
(DIR) Post #AYjpbfU9ZoYJj1oW3c by bioluminescently@disabled.social
2023-08-15T00:34:22Z
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@grammargirl I think that is a really lovely way of putting it, that expresses well what you want to get across about how you stood in relation to each other. I'm sorry for your loss.
(DIR) Post #AYjpfhkn5KPFv1WKhM by curtiscchen@xoxo.zone
2023-08-15T00:35:03Z
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@grammargirl I know exactly the relationship you're describing and I feel that language is entirely appropriate. May his memory be a blessing.
(DIR) Post #AYjpmPFeH4fwYu9Kue by pootriarch@eldritch.cafe
2023-08-15T00:36:10Z
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@grammargirl we've not been blessed with expressive language for non-blood ties, and i haven't much use for those. bestie means something different from what i have. and then you're in the vast friendzone. i need twenty words for friend like the reputed twenty words for snow, though i think the snow words might be received fiction. and yeah, that includes your favorite prof, your normal ups driver, the cutie who you're happy to see many mornings at the caff, even though you'd never follow them home or take them to the movies. they all provide happy randomness.
(DIR) Post #AYjq5GYso5f1758hgu by aburtch@triangletoot.party
2023-08-15T00:39:42Z
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@grammargirl Absolutely. They are someone you knew and liked very much, but didn’t know well.
(DIR) Post #AYjqBWoDJSSzEzIQSG by grammargirl@zirk.us
2023-08-15T00:40:51Z
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@waynedixon Thanks. I feel like "close" isn't right because we didn't know each other well and it's been a few years since I ran into him anywhere.We were both at the same coffee shop on many days ~10 years ago when I was writing one of my books. I don't think we ever had a deep conversation, but we overheard each other's conversations with other people and shared lots of passing observations and small talk. And after that, we'd occasionally see each other around town.
(DIR) Post #AYjqaMYWZQxQgHndo0 by waynedixon@mastodon.social
2023-08-15T00:45:22Z
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@grammargirl in that case I think “dear acquaintance” makes the most sense. What about the phrase “fond acquaintance”, or does that presume more familiarity than the relationship?
(DIR) Post #AYjr9Wy5qijD6sWqJs by grammargirl@zirk.us
2023-08-15T00:51:39Z
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@waynedixon That's a good one. "Fond acquaintance" works too.
(DIR) Post #AYjsLgCvQL37C5p6A4 by fembot@mstdn.social
2023-08-15T01:05:05Z
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@grammargirl I'm so sorry for your loss, Mignon. He sounds like someone special, and dear. 😔 I think whatever feels accurate to you is prob ok? That said, another way might be close (or treasured, or favorite) acquaintance, something like that, unless you want to use more words to get more nuanced.
(DIR) Post #AYjxR13LqbFl42i168 by billyjoebowers@mastodon.online
2023-08-15T02:01:58Z
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@grammargirl Because of work there are a lot of people I've gotten along with really well, but we didn't keep in touch and it would be odd to calls us friends. There have been a couple that died and I was very affected even though we weren't close. A "dear acquaintance" is a pretty good description.
(DIR) Post #AYk66C2AiyYecxIqeW by HollyGoDarkly@wandering.shop
2023-08-15T03:39:10Z
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@grammargirl That sounds like a lovely way to characterize someone, especially someone as lovely as you've described him here. May his memory be a blessing.
(DIR) Post #AYkpwQVAftPGUg9F2m by kate@aus.social
2023-08-15T12:12:46Z
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@grammargirl I love “dear acquaintance”. It captures something so important about how we mind about each other. I also learned “may his memory be a blessing” from this thread, which I appreciate very much.