Post AW2UxsPCbMFoETRoX2 by gaypharm@queernerds.social
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(DIR) Post #AW2UxpcCyXsJZwVet6 by gaypharm@queernerds.social
2023-05-23T15:02:20Z
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if i get weary of how sex-centric gay culture seems to be, does that make me sex negative? I'd like to think not but I'm starting to wonder.
(DIR) Post #AW2UxqV9gFpMKMDXX6 by mybarkingdogs@universeodon.com
2023-05-23T15:09:28Z
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@gaypharm I don't think it does. I'm tired of it (and can be very critical of it) and I don't consider myself sex-negative as I don't hate on people having consensual, enjoyable sex within safe boundaries, etc.I do hate how capitalism and patriarchal gender roles have tried to sell the "if you're a man you must be a roaring sex machine to perform your role and here's all of these optimizations and ideals that must be bought, for a price of course, always money required."And how everyone is oversexualized and objectified nonstop etc.Maybe that's because I'm more ace-leaning or my original equipment is AFAB or I've never been "sexy" but... it's more like I just feel like sometimes the oversexualization and ability/youth emphasis to the point of fatphobia/ageism/ableism is a whole mess.But yeah, you may be talking to the wrong person, too, IDK
(DIR) Post #AW2Uxr3tb5cI46THgO by gaypharm@queernerds.social
2023-05-23T15:14:44Z
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@mybarkingdogs No, I think you raise good points. This idea that men must be ready for sex at all times and if they aren't it is somehow an indictment on their manhood is a little bit exhausting.
(DIR) Post #AW2UxrcdVvPDnqj1pg by RiversideBryan@blahaj.zone
2023-05-23T15:20:38.269Z
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@gaypharm@queernerds.social @mybarkingdogs@universeodon.com Great conversation. I've often felt the same way. Usually I chalk it up to the upbringing I had, rendering me a bit prudish. But I think it's more than that. Both online and IRL I find the gay community's obsession with sex sex sex exhausting. Is it a generational thing I wonder?I mean sex is great, but have you had a conversation about anything else today? This week? Month? Hahaha Ugh. I am a prude, aren't I? đź¤đź™„
(DIR) Post #AW2UxsPCbMFoETRoX2 by gaypharm@queernerds.social
2023-05-23T15:22:31Z
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@RiversideBryan @mybarkingdogs See that's where I'm at. I am on several Discord servers for gay/bi men that are supposed to be about support and conversation, but it seems they always end up being about sex. I don't think I'm a prude but I really start to wonder because I am looking for a deeper connection with people I interact with.
(DIR) Post #AW2Uxt5k3CHWMPLmq0 by RiversideBryan@blahaj.zone
2023-05-23T15:27:57.211Z
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@gaypharm@queernerds.social @mybarkingdogs@universeodon.com Same! Very much same. Harmless flirting is one thing, but often, especially online, it is much more than that.And IRL I'm having similar experiences. Recently returning to the dating scene after more than a decade, I'm not only out of practice ... but flabbergasted that sex is always the main conversation. 🥴
(DIR) Post #AW2UxtTUctHRY4SkrI by gaypharm@queernerds.social
2023-05-23T15:37:53Z
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BTW, I feel like I should say that the Queer Nerds Discord is decidedly not that way and I feel very honored to be a part of that community.
(DIR) Post #AW2UxtlvWM1eTF5Tai by theRICHARDexp@queernerds.social
2023-05-23T15:39:31Z
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@RiversideBryan @gaypharm @mybarkingdogs I don’t think y’all are being prudish, but I also have my own history of prudishness I’ve had to contend with. I think for me the part that gets frustrating or old is how every comment/post can be turned into something sexual even if it wasn’t intended that way. It then makes me question what the original intent was and whether I somehow just didn’t get it. I can innuendo with the best but sometimes a selfie is just a selfie.
(DIR) Post #AW2UxuNrFKMoMspliK by aaronpallan@queernerds.social
2023-05-23T16:31:09Z
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@theRICHARDexp @RiversideBryan @gaypharm @mybarkingdogs I don’t think it makes you prudish. I will say, though, that “queer culture” IS very sex-centric by virtue of a few factors:The one thing that brings us all together - our sexual orientation and gender identity - weighs conversation heavily in favour of those two factors.
(DIR) Post #AW2Uxv6sXwNacVtit6 by aaronpallan@queernerds.social
2023-05-23T16:32:17Z
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@theRICHARDexp @RiversideBryan @gaypharm @mybarkingdogs We’ve also had short timeline in which we’ve been able to operate openly in North America and Europe - this suppressed a lot of other aspects of culture or prevented them from developing in the first place. An entire generation of queer people were decimated by HIV/AIDS. So a lot of what developed previously was also lost because there were very few people left to transmit them.
(DIR) Post #AW2UxvptqYOMs8xg3s by Leyonhjelm@detroitriotcity.com
2023-05-26T05:41:10.970854Z
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@aaronpallan > An entire generation of queer people were decimated by HIV/AIDS. So a lot of what developed previously was also lost because there were very few people left to transmit them.It's only unfortunate that we didn't learn from 1920s Germany and realize it was time to stop letting them poison our society with faggotry.@theRICHARDexp @RiversideBryan @gaypharm @mybarkingdogs
(DIR) Post #AW2UxwDIRZ6i2huMWu by aaronpallan@queernerds.social
2023-05-23T16:35:30Z
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@theRICHARDexp @RiversideBryan @gaypharm @mybarkingdogs I think this “immature” stage of cultural development is also seen in areas outside of sex: the heavy reliance on aspects of popular culture as a touchstone, for example.
(DIR) Post #AW2UxxBuoBb34iGm12 by aaronpallan@queernerds.social
2023-05-23T16:46:16Z
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@theRICHARDexp @RiversideBryan @gaypharm @mybarkingdogs Finally, considering the repressive nature of the law and certain popular religions in many jurisdictions, I also think some people use sexual expression as an act of defiance.
(DIR) Post #AW2VxRwr4KAS8BY5Q0 by TheMadPirate@detroitriotcity.com
2023-05-26T07:17:31.066066Z
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@Leyonhjelm @aaronpallan @RiversideBryan @gaypharm @mybarkingdogs @theRICHARDexp Funny how Social Darwinism works, ain't it ?It's almost as if Nature is not and has never been kind to deviants.I wonder why.....
(DIR) Post #AW3IQo0iuqTYkoQDoW by ChristiJunior@detroitriotcity.com
2023-05-26T16:20:38.822265Z
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@Leyonhjelm @aaronpallan @RiversideBryan @gaypharm @mybarkingdogs @theRICHARDexp >An entire generation of queer people were decimated by HIV/AIDS. So a lot of what developed previously was also lost because there were very few people left to transmit them.Boohoo nigga
(DIR) Post #AW3IXPpZDNANmwM6LY by ArdainianRight@detroitriotcity.com
2023-05-26T16:21:50.777986Z
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@Leyonhjelm @aaronpallan @RiversideBryan @gaypharm @mybarkingdogs @theRICHARDexp Maybe they shouldn't have defied nature and God's will.