Post AVG5Fv5f4ZZ6YuRLPs by rees@breastmilk.club
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(DIR) Post #AVG1q7AZEygWdJjpsu by rees@breastmilk.club
2023-05-02T21:44:31.188391Z
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@kaia favorite psych book?
(DIR) Post #AVG1q7l53DtMSYoznU by kaia@brotka.st
2023-05-02T21:53:53.356728Z
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@reeswhat kind of book are you looking for? :comfy_cirno:
(DIR) Post #AVG43Sbx233Mo32RFI by rees@breastmilk.club
2023-05-02T21:57:43.439637Z
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@kaia “thinking fast and slow” seems to be highly recommended. but to answer your question, I like to learn about people so I’d like a book that would help me interact with people better without triggering their defense mechanisms
(DIR) Post #AVG43TCooyXmeOHsi8 by kaia@brotka.st
2023-05-02T22:18:40.572030Z
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@rees if you want "cheat techniques", there's NLP. it's a pseudoscientific approach that gives practical help how to act in social situations. many of these are good. there are books and paid seminars for it. on Udemy, Skillshare and Coursera there are courses. if you are a student, you might have access to them for free. don't invest too much into it - check first whether it's for you.many of the modern self-help books overlap in their content. personally I have not read any really good ones, sorry.you will not profit from reading 'famous' psychologists like Freud or Piaget. there is no practical help in those.some people learn from fiction like "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho.if you often trigger people's defenses unwittingly, maybe consult a psychiatrist and get tested to check whether you are on the autism spectrum. lot of good resources and help there.
(DIR) Post #AVG4iIOLvqe6z69Ka0 by rees@breastmilk.club
2023-05-02T22:21:55.488145Z
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@kaia >if you often trigger people’s defenses unwittingly, maybe consult a psychiatrist and get tested to check whether you are on the autism spectrum. lot of good resources and help there.no it’s actually the opposite, I’m talking about in extreme cases where the person has BPD/NPD, but thank you for the effortful reply kaia
(DIR) Post #AVG4iJ4BQK6f4pijmS by kaia@brotka.st
2023-05-02T22:26:04.346353Z
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@rees oh, interaction with BDP and NPD folks is always difficult :GraniHeadpat:most important to watch out for your mental wellbeing and fortitude. it's perfectly fine to be selfish and walk away sometimes.
(DIR) Post #AVG5Fv5f4ZZ6YuRLPs by rees@breastmilk.club
2023-05-02T22:30:49.960476Z
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@kaia I ran into another one earlier today and she freaked out when I enforced personal boundaries, hah. it’s seen as a personal slight somehow.
(DIR) Post #AVK3veqwPWlf5aAXIG by miss_s_b@witches.live
2023-05-04T20:35:26Z
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@kaia @rees I get VERY defensive around people using NLP techniques because they feel deceptive to me, so that might be a thing to look out for if you go down that road.When I was a little autist my biology teacher dad gave me a picture book on reading body language which was very helpful; I wish I could remember what it was called.
(DIR) Post #AVK4XkLkQDH78pjybI by kaia@brotka.st
2023-05-04T20:43:00.939211Z
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@miss_s_b @rees agreed, NLP should be done with great discretion. I try to never do the 'obvious' things like mirroring, but try to change my state instead to become natural.in German-speaking countries Samy Molcho is popular for body language stuff. I've seen "The Definitive Book of Body Language" a bunch for EN.
(DIR) Post #AVK4rzb3RaDaDjYQCG by hj@shigusegubu.club
2023-05-04T20:46:15.966335Z
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@kaia @rees @miss_s_bimage.png
(DIR) Post #AVK50a8nSPJVsRQseO by miss_s_b@witches.live
2023-05-04T20:47:23Z
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@hj @rees @kaia damn I want those shoes
(DIR) Post #AVK6TMqK4sBozD56rA by rees@breastmilk.club
2023-05-04T20:50:17.308279Z
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@miss_s_b @hj @kaia >I want those shoesshoes are nice and all but hear me out:
(DIR) Post #AVK6WiWfuu3z6VUM6q by hj@shigusegubu.club
2023-05-04T21:04:27.115376Z
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@rees @kaia @miss_s_b furry 💙
(DIR) Post #AVK6jWbPYldHt7oLj6 by rees@breastmilk.club
2023-05-04T21:06:34.778564Z
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@hj @kaia @miss_s_b