Post AUe3eCasP4dLqQIGEC by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
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(DIR) Post #AUe2XCoR5lZEXdjgQa by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:02:37Z
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Does your immediate family know about your gender identity/sexual orientation?
(DIR) Post #AUe3ZnLALwr4MdqML2 by Ewan_Croft@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:14:02Z
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@calculsoberic yeah. They’re all accepting, :asexual_flag: :gmpride: :blobfoxlurk2owo:
(DIR) Post #AUe3eCasP4dLqQIGEC by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:15:00Z
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@Ewan_Croft that's great!! My parents do too. I'm ok with my in-laws not knowing, I suspect they would not understand.
(DIR) Post #AUe3ifERrwHXp4vlE8 by Ewan_Croft@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:15:53Z
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@calculsoberic somehow my nephews know, i didn't tell them. I guess one of them found my Mastodon lol
(DIR) Post #AUe3m0Xl5diwmuYbZ2 by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:16:29Z
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@Ewan_Croft oh, probably!! :flan_laugh: How did they react?
(DIR) Post #AUe3ufJ7Pm5bX0pznc by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:18:05Z
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@Ewan_Croft I suppose you could say I'm pansexual because I find men, women, and trans people hot :QueerCat_Pansexual:
(DIR) Post #AUe3uoBIQEBD3MFNM8 by Ewan_Croft@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:18:06Z
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@calculsoberic pretty much just a thumbs-up. Their aunt (my sister) is openly lesbian so they probably are just used to it.
(DIR) Post #AUe3xh1ZUHl9j24dY8 by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:18:37Z
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@Ewan_Croft oh, awesome! that seems to help (sometimes)
(DIR) Post #AUe3y5WaOcpRiAlkDw by Ewan_Croft@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:18:42Z
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@calculsoberic or you just like bread? :flan_laugh:
(DIR) Post #AUe3zHliMItpyWPs4u by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:18:54Z
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@Ewan_Croft oh that too :flan_laugh:
(DIR) Post #AUe41Oz2VMOcvmerXE by Ewan_Croft@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:19:18Z
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@calculsoberic i should tell her. i still haven't 😅
(DIR) Post #AUe46Udgu955v56H8C by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:20:12Z
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@Ewan_Croft I would think she'd be the easiest to tell! Interestingly, my sister is bi too. Must run in the family.
(DIR) Post #AUe4AURBb2R4S79n4S by Ewan_Croft@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:20:57Z
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@calculsoberic yeahhhh but she's a queen of gossip, i didn't want to tell her first. i'll text her now.
(DIR) Post #AUe4bJaw19MKdvVYeG by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:25:47Z
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@felipe the best way to be!
(DIR) Post #AUe4zGRjNJMFpPcfyK by millie@fedi.criminallycute.fi
2023-04-14T14:29:33.695284Z
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@calculsobericThey don't about either... I mean, they probably think that they do, but they're wrong in every possible way
(DIR) Post #AUe4zI09aoUGeSjgGW by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:30:05Z
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@millie oh boy...it's a hard discussion to have.
(DIR) Post #AUe5Cc4eH6sSfbBvwu by Ewan_Croft@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:31:10Z
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@calculsoberic told her! she's happy for me :blobderpy:
(DIR) Post #AUe5CcdOBwfOPLRg6C by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:32:30Z
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@Ewan_Croft Aww, congrats! That's awesome!!
(DIR) Post #AUe5hhLciWRg0GxCRU by elr@fe.disroot.org
2023-04-14T14:37:12.319692Z
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@calculsoberic @Ewan_Croft why do you separate trans from men and women and what happens with enbyes?
(DIR) Post #AUe5hi16EJce4uMK5g by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:38:08Z
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@elr that's true, maybe I should've said "all genders" I can just edit it - my brain is not fully awake @Ewan_Croft
(DIR) Post #AUe5lohlJ0fdymGyqu by elr@fe.disroot.org
2023-04-14T14:38:10.797002Z
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@calculsoberic my sister knows a bit about my gender identity and completely about my romantic and sexual orientation.My mothers knows a bit just about the sexual and romantic orientation and my father less than that.
(DIR) Post #AUe5m0rQ6vWhgCsrZY by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:38:44Z
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@elr ok, fixed it! @Ewan_Croft
(DIR) Post #AUe5oUhU8d5EnzQ6T2 by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:39:21Z
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@elr Ah, yes, that gets tricky, especially if they aren't familiar with the concept.
(DIR) Post #AUe5yIa43OPW72clJQ by QueerMatters@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:41:07Z
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@calculsoberic None of my family know about gender stuff rn. They know my sexuality and are supportive of it. But working up the courage to figure out how to be vulnerable enough to bring them along with me on my gender journey!
(DIR) Post #AUe64eDKXCKiwd1AZs by elr@fe.disroot.org
2023-04-14T14:40:54.266846Z
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@calculsoberic I use to tell each person a different thing depending of the tolerance I am aware or their knowledge about the subject.
(DIR) Post #AUe64epGGAfsqGlShU by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:42:13Z
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@elr oh yeah, sometimes it's hard to approach because you don't know how knowledgeable they are about it. I think I'm nonbinary too, actually, but it seems to change from day to day, you know what I mean?
(DIR) Post #AUe6G993sDZS3rVKPg by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T14:44:16Z
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@QueerMatters Good luck on your journey! I'd like to know what happens
(DIR) Post #AUe6ydOgl4pId01kg4 by ChristiJunior@bae.st
2023-04-14T14:52:26.389813Z
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@calculsoberic @elr @calculsoberic If they're good people and parents, this would be their response:Faggots.mp4
(DIR) Post #AUe7u3bC0u7OOhG0Q4 by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T15:02:42Z
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@pyrox Aww. Gosh, I don't see why someone would be dishonest about that! Maybe she will come to understand eventually.
(DIR) Post #AUe8FeKUe3N2Oek4n2 by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T15:06:37Z
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@pyrox I don't know! I wonder if she can't wrap her head around the idea.
(DIR) Post #AUe8ZPAwhGbhBmhFTs by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T15:10:16Z
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@pyrox Interestingly, my wife is demisexual and her friends were surprised that she couldn't find celebrities "hot," if you know what I mean.
(DIR) Post #AUe8eG77obOqX6Dwoa by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T15:11:07Z
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@pyrox I think you're correct! It's a societal norm and if you don't fit into that norm it flummoxes people.
(DIR) Post #AUe8pQLa6o8bSKJGQC by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T15:13:05Z
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@pyrox Well, like I always say, I hope you enjoy the journey! Figuring it out is very freeing, I find.
(DIR) Post #AUe8xkqblxYRLynKQC by QueerMatters@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T15:14:40Z
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@calculsoberic will keep you posted! :blobheart:
(DIR) Post #AUe8yzBpvvh27pJM3s by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T15:14:53Z
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@QueerMatters awesome!!
(DIR) Post #AUeEOB8X9VLsBhbAB6 by millie@fedi.criminallycute.fi
2023-04-14T16:01:36.985058Z
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@calculsobericNot one I plan to have anytime soon
(DIR) Post #AUeEODZu4iQvlAQ37I by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T16:15:27Z
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@millie No obligation :ablobwink:
(DIR) Post #AUeEXa3jrMvO5eq492 by zappes@mastodon.online
2023-04-14T16:16:10Z
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@pyrox @calculsoberic I also think that society has weird, standardised expectation of Hollywood-Style romance. I would never call myself aromantic, but I guess that many others would call me that.
(DIR) Post #AUeEXagjWO7I2b5CvQ by calculsoberic@mstdn.social
2023-04-14T16:17:09Z
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@zappes True. It really leads to all kinds of unrealistic expectations and also pressure on people who don't fit the "norm" @pyrox
(DIR) Post #AUeEt0OD9yNJpidAQa by zappes@mastodon.online
2023-04-14T16:21:01Z
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@calculsoberic @pyrox Absolutely, yes. And I often feel that practically nobody actually fits that fiction of romance that Hallmark stuffs down their throat… Lots of people pretend to, though, and that leads to all kinds of disappointment and misery for everybody. Except for the accountants at Hallmark. They are probably smiling a lot.