Post AU9ByAGQ5GfSSKBtTs by BarbatusRex@poa.st
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(DIR) Post #AU9AZMmEK8Ds4RgIr2 by retarded_online@poa.st
2023-03-30T16:36:39.118122Z
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I have a genuine question for the people on poastSo I was friends with an ex of mine, we had a really good relationship after our breakup and he met my current bf and he would talk about his current gf and we would talk about how our lives are going etc, but his new gf started acting like a looney tune about us being friends, accusing me of sneaking around to talk to him and saying I was being weird with him when she is aware I'm in a relationship also? We both offered for her to look at our messages and the first time she spazzed on me I tried to be cordial for the sake of my friendship but the second time she did it I was like holy shit chill out I'm not doing anything for you to not trust me I don't even KNOW you bro and now my ex refuses to talk to me because of how everything's spiraled out of controlI don't really think I'm at fault and I don't mind elaborating more on what's happened but do you guys think perhaps he was treating me like "the other woman?" I told him before he should treat me like a normal friend and not an ex and apparently he didn't, he'd be really weird about texting me while she was around and would also refuse to call when she was around which made me feel weird because I'd have no problem texting him and talking to him while my bf was around and so my bf never had to worry or anything, but her reaction to my being in my ex's life was beyond unreasonable and very dramaticI dunno it's just a retardedly confusing situation and I just want an outside perspective on it
(DIR) Post #AU9AfJSTZiftW2HEnI by retarded_online@poa.st
2023-03-30T16:37:43.567593Z
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She also frequently mentioned not being able to "live up to my standards" and said he'd talk about me like I was a living god which also makes me think he was treating me like the other woman or something which does make me feel bad for her but at the same time the way she handled was really piss poor
(DIR) Post #AU9ArexRSyzhfbeGlk by Kevin7557@poa.st
2023-03-30T16:39:00.908538Z
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@retarded_online Her behavior is to secure and protect access to her mate. You have previously slept with her mate. You are friendly with her mate. Her behavior is biologically rational to want you out of the picture.
(DIR) Post #AU9ByAGQ5GfSSKBtTs by BarbatusRex@poa.st
2023-03-30T16:48:58.893900Z
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@retarded_online If he cares about his current girlfriend, out of respect for her, you guys shouldn't be talking. It just makes her more insecure, sabotaging the relationship. If you still have feelings for your ex, go back to him. It seems like you just want the positive parts of him without the commitment. He probably still has feelings for you. Either take him back so he's not stringing along this other girl or fade into the tall grass.
(DIR) Post #AU9ByAxJVmykbMG9L6 by retarded_online@poa.st
2023-03-30T16:52:19.988430Z
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@BarbatusRex I am in a relationship and just want his friendship, I broke it off because I no longer had feelings and he accepted my offer to remain friends and we did, I don't want him nor have I acted like I want him
(DIR) Post #AU9C2PAqafTprCbeoC by retarded_online@poa.st
2023-03-30T16:53:04.600520Z
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@Kevin7557 She is also friends with her ex and a man she's slept with but haven't dated, her behavior isn't very rational if that's the only train of thought which is why I'm thinking he was doing something to make her feel that way
(DIR) Post #AU9CIkQTLMsyP0hwIq by retarded_online@poa.st
2023-03-30T16:56:03.511841Z
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@Kevin7557 She even made it a point to bring the guy she slept with and remained friends with up as an argument of why she's acting irrationally which only made less sense to me because it would lead anyone to assume that she's sleeping with him or wants to again, so no, I don't think it's to "protect her mate", I think it's projection because of her behavior or his behavior or possibly even both
(DIR) Post #AU9CV1LUGM4SLvECga by Kevin7557@poa.st
2023-03-30T16:55:44.104597Z
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@retarded_online Her train of thought is rational. She detects chemistry between you two, and that is a threat to her relationship. You can argue it is double standard for her to be friends with her ex, but that isn't the matter of contention. It is the security of the relationship.Would you want your boyfriend around a woman he had chemistry with, was very close to, and had previously snu snued?
(DIR) Post #AU9CV1ztq6OgNG8Tg0 by retarded_online@poa.st
2023-03-30T16:58:16.094440Z
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@Kevin7557 If I was insecure enough to believe they still wanted to have sex again without proof, I would just talk to him about it as I've done so with a few exes who remained friends with their exes while I dated them, if I have proof they still like each other in that when then I leave or if it got the point where my insecurity could not be fixed but I wouldn't and haven't ever acted irrationally like this, it doesn't make sense at all to me
(DIR) Post #AU9CpxTrpM1URn8DxI by BarbatusRex@poa.st
2023-03-30T17:00:08.063087Z
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@retarded_online Then let him be. You can have other friends without the baggage.
(DIR) Post #AU9Cpy41euwkFw36Jc by retarded_online@poa.st
2023-03-30T17:02:03.325627Z
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@BarbatusRex I suppose, I still don't think the way either of them have been behaving has been very rationally though and I don't think I ever will
(DIR) Post #AU9G2NB6PWe7U2xweW by Kevin7557@poa.st
2023-03-30T17:24:58.603748Z
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@retarded_online Well, it doesn't matter what you think. It matters what the reality is, and she considers you a threat to their relationship. Many women are not okay with their boyfriends remaining friends with their exs chiefly because oft men and women cannot just be friends. A lot of men share the sentiment in reverse.
(DIR) Post #AU9G2Ni4Qx198IOH2W by retarded_online@poa.st
2023-03-30T17:37:54.925640Z
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@Kevin7557 L defense it doesn't explain why she defended her relationship with her ex and her ex lover but went off on me and him, also just because "majority goes" doesn't mean it'll make sense or be the objectively correct take either