Post ATdeeWfOUBq96FMihc by jvizzard@mastodon.sdf.org
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 (DIR) Post #ATczIKk62iT3csre4m by ai6yr@m.ai6yr.org
       2023-03-15T03:59:30Z
       
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       @kairyssdal This happens a lot more than you might imagine. Particularly "Type A" people where their job/title was their reason for being--i.e their identity.
       
 (DIR) Post #ATd0qNlPPssGnQHHNo by McPatrick@mastodon.social
       2023-03-15T04:16:51Z
       
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       @kairyssdal People need meaning. Which we usually misunderstand. They -p we — need to be making meaning. And that can mean a lot of things. But people for whom life loses the ability for them to make meaning —to be meaningful, find a way to die.I watched my grandmother do it. She might have made other choices and had plenty to do and live for. But she in some way chose not to go those ways, and lost any meaning in life. And so a woman who’d whipped cancer TWICE just curled up and faded out.
       
 (DIR) Post #ATd3NvtHkn9K6V5UnY by dcreemer@sfba.social
       2023-03-15T04:45:21Z
       
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       @kairyssdal I’m guessing you are auto-cross posting an will not see the replies here. …but … thank you for sharing this (and of course to the original poster). This story has many echos in my family, and the lessons from it are very much a part of my life.
       
 (DIR) Post #ATd4BZhKXYTpklAPUu by SFJenifer@hachyderm.io
       2023-03-15T04:54:18Z
       
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       @kairyssdal this was a dear friend of mine. After he retired from a big software company, he had no direction. No purpose. It took him 11 years to drink himself to death. His brother and I were left to clean up his entire life. Knowing who you are and what your defines you is critical. Without knowing these things about oneself, one could spend years - decades - spiraling down this same path.
       
 (DIR) Post #ATddVLWGShPTy09cIK by GregCirillo@newsie.social
       2023-03-15T11:30:02Z
       
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       @kairyssdal Thanks for sharing this. I'm within a few years of this, and I have decided that retirement has to be a two-step process. First a sabbatical to clear the mind but with no clear plan. The second step is unknown.
       
 (DIR) Post #ATdeeWfOUBq96FMihc by jvizzard@mastodon.sdf.org
       2023-03-15T11:42:54Z
       
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       @kairyssdal I really worried when my dad "retired" and I've been happy he has kept busy with things related to his work that challenge and interest him. He has no real hobbies. People are surprised when I say I have no plans or desire to retire, but this is exactly why. I was unemployed for 4 months after retiring from the military and HATED it.