Post ATExeyPvHlgO5uolay by 3wombats@aus.social
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(DIR) Post #AT8FJe31kKw0oKJNHU by AndyPerfors@aus.social
2023-02-27T22:51:47Z
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Got in a random convo with my dad about #trans stuff. Background is, he’s been generally supportive in theory but clearly nervous about talking about it at all, and I’ve been following his lead. So this was a bit of a departure.Spoiler: the questions and comments were mostly adorable, and amazingly similar to many conversations within the trans community 💕 “I understand L, G, B, and T. But what is Q? I am completely baffled.”“You said hormones are basically like another puberty. So does that mean you’ll grow taller?”“Are there a lot more trans women than trans men? Because nobody ever talks about trans men.” 😍 “I can totally understand not wanting boobs. I would find them very annoying.” 😂 “Why is everyone so worried about trans women in bathrooms? Who would bother dressing as a woman and changing their name just to assault someone? I don’t get it”“So if someone is female and changes to male but was always interested in women, does that mean they are straight?”--Folks, if a 70+ rural-raised cis white dude living in Trumpland can be this thoughtful, so can anyone
(DIR) Post #ATExexHjUjXMaDyiBs by 3wombats@aus.social
2023-02-27T23:00:05Z
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@AndyPerfors That went well. :)
(DIR) Post #ATExexp3UqByFZZK88 by AndyPerfors@aus.social
2023-02-27T23:03:24Z
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@3wombats Yeah, he is great. I mean, he's not perfect and there are some issues: e.g. he still persistently calls me "she" (but a parent with Parkinson's who is clearly operating out of habit and not malice is one of the few situations where I give persistent misgendering a pass).But... he's mostly just a thoughtful, interesting nerd who is curious about everything. Which in practice means he is pretty great! Doesn't presume he knows stuff, asks questions and is honestly interested in learning, but also mostly still sees me as me because from his POV far more important than my gender is that I will talk about math with him 😂
(DIR) Post #ATExeyPvHlgO5uolay by 3wombats@aus.social
2023-02-27T23:08:26Z
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@AndyPerfors He sounds lovely. I too have pronoun trouble a beloved boy I knew is now they. I die a bit inside when I forget and go for the he. They are very forgiving as they know it’s not intentional just habit
(DIR) Post #ATExeywtJC3PkAF5yy by AndyPerfors@aus.social
2023-02-27T23:18:21Z
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@3wombats I totally get that, I have a few "they" people in my life and constantly struggle. I've found the trick is to stop trying to translate and just directly recode them as a different gender (i.e., really fully internalise that they are a THEY and what I'm seeking to do is change my conception of them, not the label I apply).(For some reason I don't have this problem with binary pronouns, only "they". Probably has to do with me having a harder time conceptualising what it means to be non-binary, since I'm not, and also age; function words get more and more entrenched with age)
(DIR) Post #ATExezOBfht96p0tWq by dhfir@suya.place
2023-03-03T13:48:08.383330Z
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@AndyPerfors @3wombats yeah, I know some people with it/its pronouns, and I, well, I try.