Post ASsPNgjfaMjVJkStkW by lucasgonze@indieweb.social
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(DIR) Post #ASsOKufDFEvlgxUdF2 by evan@prodromou.pub
2023-02-20T15:54:45Z
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So, I'm going to pause doing my polls for a little while.I ask questions that I think will be fun to puzzle through, like "What's the best flavour of ice cream?"But I get a lot of replies from angry people who want to know exactly what I mean, what my parameters are, why there are only four choices, and so on.
(DIR) Post #ASsOL3ZA96RHInjQYq by evan@prodromou.pub
2023-02-20T16:06:55Z
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Mostly, I block people who come in hot and heavy over a poll about trains or oatmeal or whatever.Sometimes I try to ask follow-on questions to let them know that it's supposed to be fun and thought-provoking.But I realize that there are a lot of different kinds of minds on the fediverse.I don't think I should be stigmatizing people who get upset by vague, open-ended questions, even if their first instinct is to tear into me.
(DIR) Post #ASsOL6uXi4K7fyl2no by evan@prodromou.pub
2023-02-20T16:12:38Z
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I'd like to figure out a kind way to deal with these replies that makes people feel welcome into the conversation but still preserves my emotional well-being.
(DIR) Post #ASsOLMbHNSQCKrrszw by evan@prodromou.pub
2023-02-20T16:18:46Z
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Here are some of my thoughts:1. I'm going to work on a standard reply to share when I get this kind of reply.2. I'm going to lean more on Mute than Block for keeping my feed positive, at least with respect to poll replies.3. I'm going to ask people already in the conversation to help out. I'd like to open things up so it's more of a multilateral discussion. I will probably boost these angry replies to help with that.
(DIR) Post #ASsOLNH6rvskQbRICO by dick_turpin@mastodon.org.uk
2023-02-20T16:28:40Z
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@evan I've always prefered "Mute" to "Block"
(DIR) Post #ASsPNgjfaMjVJkStkW by lucasgonze@indieweb.social
2023-02-20T16:40:21Z
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@dick_turpin @evan Blocking is needless aggression. It's like calling somebody to say you're ignoring them.
(DIR) Post #ASsPek2KZ8i8TiKE5I by lnxw37a2@pleroma.soykaf.com
2023-02-20T16:43:26.986114Z
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@evan That's really sad. I think people need to have some tolerance for ambiguity in these polls. I don't want to read through a paragraph explaining whether 'chocolate chip' and 'cookies and cream' flavors are considered chocolate or vanilla in order to answer a poll.
(DIR) Post #ASsPq8viLyVOrvfQQa by JonnyT@mastodon.me.uk
2023-02-20T16:32:05Z
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@evan Suggest you have some boilerplate for each poll: The poll answers can't cover everything - and they can also be deliberately ambiguous - so pick what you think is your closest match and add your reason in the replies.Or something shorter/better than that.
(DIR) Post #ASsRHsekYGy0SYWRSi by evan@prodromou.pub
2023-02-20T16:56:37Z
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@lnxw37a2 I guess I should be more explicit.Some minds are more okay with ambiguity than others.That's great. We need lots of different kinds of minds. Neurodivergence is cool.I'd like to find a good way to incorporate more different kinds of minds into the conversation.How can I help someone who doesn't feel comfortable with ambiguity think through their response?
(DIR) Post #ASsT4HKuCBGwrCskM4 by ilja@ilja.space
2023-02-20T17:21:41.618259Z
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@JonnyT @evan I second this. It can explicitly set correct expectations for people. I feel boosting, especially if the reply already has an angry tone, could be seen as an invite for dogpiling for example.The goal of this boilerplate could even be broadened. Now I don't always know if people are expected to just vote and be done with it, or if they are expected to engage in conversation about the topic, or what. If it's clear that the poll is an invitation to conversation, then this may encourage people to do so more, and maybe even make them more comfortable of engaging in subthreads. After all, every one in the conversation now knows this is considered acceptable and even wanted.
(DIR) Post #ASsUQDgSYUdhr2zRRo by ghostdancer@mastodon.sdf.org
2023-02-20T17:36:12Z
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@evan You can't make everything suited to everyone's mind. As you say many different people around here. And that's good even though it can be difficult to manage sometimes. @lnxw37a2