Post AS3yCEWUb7cspEs4uG by nonconsentual_pronouns@chudbuds.lol
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(DIR) Post #AS2oDv8SST5UZipqUa by Waldbrand@poa.st
2023-01-26T19:13:47.722348Z
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@josh Do you have that clip where you say verbatim: ''Some men have this Idea to design their Wife like in an RPG. Asians have +5 Trad Points. Whites have +15 Canine Resistance...''@mati_archiver
(DIR) Post #AS2oekxKPgu8p4QSAK by josh@poa.st
2023-01-26T19:18:37.825501Z
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@Waldbrand @mati_archiver I didn't use those as examples. I was kind of ranting at the all-of-nothing mentality that a lot of people have, including myself, and which I had to overcome to progress at all in life.There's no name that I know of to describe this mentality but I need to coin one.Effectively, a lot of people excuse themselves from responsibility by simply saying something isn't worth it unless they get exactly what they want. If you have to work to get into a relationship, then it's not worth it unless the woman is precisely what you have in mind in every way. It's not that a person can't be happy by meeting someone organically and dealing with compromise, it's that the work required to do that isn't desirable, so you come up with an internal rationalization for not trying.
(DIR) Post #AS2ot0SNZvPCx4kDei by DocScranton@chudbuds.lol
2023-01-26T19:21:12.217260Z
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the perfect must not be the enemy of the good?
(DIR) Post #AS2otNUzuMAMPr98Qi by Nudhul@shitposter.club
2023-01-26T19:21:14.651465Z
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@josh @Waldbrand @mati_archiver perfectionism?
(DIR) Post #AS2pDlCxT4mbjwQZnc by monsterislandcolonizer@poa.st
2023-01-26T19:24:58.206586Z
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@DocScranton @josh @Waldbrand @mati_archiver or "never settle for less than what you want"
(DIR) Post #AS2pLuBJzKXHt6XtrM by Nudhul@shitposter.club
2023-01-26T19:26:24.896304Z
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@josh @Waldbrand @mati_archiver or maybe learned helplessness
(DIR) Post #AS2q6JF19JxIvhOyY4 by DrScarGazer@chudbuds.lol
2023-01-26T19:33:55.350877Z
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How about, fantastic expectation?
(DIR) Post #AS2qQsbRNwTUOShO0u by Waldbrand@poa.st
2023-01-26T19:38:32.827260Z
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@josh @mati_archiver >So you come up with an internal rationalization for not trying.That was the important part I want to hear again. Thanks.
(DIR) Post #AS2r14u97omayIi0iO by ThotsAndOpinions@poa.st
2023-01-26T19:45:05.167117Z
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@josh @Waldbrand @mati_archiver I believe it's called black and white thinking. Just because it sounds racist, does not mean it is good.
(DIR) Post #AS308hcIUYtKeL4RBw by Francisco@chudbuds.lol
2023-01-26T21:26:31.098169Z
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> Effectively, a lot of people excuse themselves from responsibility by simply saying something isn't worth it unless they get exactly what they want. If you have to work to get into a relationship, then it's not worth it unless the woman is precisely what you have in mind in every way. It's not that a person can't be happy by meeting someone organically and dealing with compromise, it's that the work required to do that isn't desirable, so you come up with an internal rationalization for not trying.You just described the main flaw of Incelfags in that one paragraph.
(DIR) Post #AS3yCEWUb7cspEs4uG by nonconsentual_pronouns@chudbuds.lol
2023-01-27T00:37:13.266695Z
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That's clinically referred to as "dichotomous thinking". Dealing with people like that over pretty much any topic is a goddamn migraine, and it generally takes shattering a lot of cognitive dissonance through a desire to become a better person in order to overcome it. But when it's mixed with a self-inflicted sense of learned helplessness as you describe, that's when there's a danger of becoming an absolute dreg of humanity that no amount of non-social intellect can compensate for. Ie at the average level; the garden variety incel or soyfag.