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 (DIR) Post #AQPVpr5TuCgVazC60u by Schneems@ruby.social
       2022-12-08T21:50:06Z
       
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       I'm still processing Chris Seaton's death. I've done some research and want to share some of what I've learned. This thread isn't comprehensive or authoritative. Take from it what you will.
       
 (DIR) Post #AQPVpvTNbIB5CGPEoq by Schneems@ruby.social
       2022-12-08T21:50:13Z
       
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       - The preferred term by professionals is currently "died from suicide." It's a way to accurately state what happened while placing suicide as the cause, not the action.
       
 (DIR) Post #AQPVq0QjAa1kZUCgsa by Schneems@ruby.social
       2022-12-08T21:50:28Z
       
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       - It's okay not to feel okaySome here feel they can't justify their grief because they "didn't know him well enough." Your feelings are real, and you don't need permission to feel them.
       
 (DIR) Post #AQPVq4sAeUM8Ll4fD6 by Schneems@ruby.social
       2022-12-08T21:50:39Z
       
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       - Talk to someoneTalk to your therapist if you've got one (I think all knowledge workers should have a therapist). Talk to someone else who might be going through this, maybe a friend in the local Ruby community. There are many support groups for someone affected by suicide—both online and in person. You don't have to justify your grief level as "high enough". You can just show up.You can talk about how you're feeling. It can also be helpful to share a positive memory.
       
 (DIR) Post #AQPVqAafOTv45CvllA by Schneems@ruby.social
       2022-12-08T21:50:48Z
       
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       - You're not the first. You're not aloneThere are a lot of resources online about coping with suicide. This article is about being about helping someone ELSE cope with suicide. You could send it to someone close to you that is trying to help.https://afsp.org/story/10-ways-to-support-a-loved-one-who-has-lost-someone-to-suicide
       
 (DIR) Post #AQPVqHoOXq3mToPKd6 by Schneems@ruby.social
       2022-12-08T21:51:14Z
       
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       - You can honor someone who died by suicide without accidentally glamorizing itA good article (linked below) suggests sharing a story of their life. You can do that anywhere with anyone. If you're worried (as I was) that talking about suicide might have unintended consequences, this article (and my therapist) suggests noting that annotating memorials that mention suicide with awareness information is a good idea.https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/livingablissfullife/2019/9/how-to-honor-someone-who-has-died-by-suicide
       
 (DIR) Post #AQPVqLuZIpNJC7KJo8 by Schneems@ruby.social
       2022-12-08T21:51:44Z
       
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       - If you want to learn moreBeyond posting suicide awareness information, there are training programs designed to help you actively engage with the people you're around to determine if they're potentially suicidal. One recommended by my therapist is ASK https://texassuicideprevention.org/additional-training-courses/ask-about-suicide-ask/.
       
 (DIR) Post #AQPVqPbZZOYaeMTCkq by Schneems@ruby.social
       2022-12-08T21:51:50Z
       
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       - You are not responsibleYour actions or inaction did not do this, no matter how you might wish you had more power over the situation.