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(DIR) Post #APJ5ZpDLocwNOcfPaC by Cousin_Isobel@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T22:07:18.255460Z
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When you think of your “culture,” what do you think of?
(DIR) Post #APJ5t0sEgr7z3jwLsu by GalacticTurtle@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T22:10:25.032724Z
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@Cousin_Isobel Interesting question! The first thing I'd think of is the culture of my country.
(DIR) Post #APJ66i4fNoX2o9HldA by Cousin_Isobel@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T22:13:15.316296Z
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@GalacticTurtle Me, too. I’ve always lived in the U.S., but lived in various states, even as a kid, so it’s as small as I go.
(DIR) Post #APJ6oHvXxUiaSJndY0 by GalacticTurtle@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T22:15:46.117107Z
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@Cousin_Isobel I think I only have regional things in the forefront of my mind when faced with someone from a different part of the states. For example, in my core unit at work, three people are from Texas but me and one other woman are from the Northeast so we give each other a lot of crap lol. Then racial subsets usually when faced with behavior I find bizarre or if I'm invited to dinner at someone else's house.
(DIR) Post #APJ6rWYS1wfsgtXWxE by FemaleIsNotAFeeling@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T22:19:53.637636Z
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@Cousin_Isobel I voted "I don't think I have a culture."Because I'm just a white American. Is that a culture? For some reason I don't feel any sort of cultural tie to my past. I just feel like I'm a white woman who was born in America and has lived here my whole life. We never do any sort of special cultural appreciation holidays, at least in my family. Or anything really like it. Perhaps my culture IS "white girl in America" who doesn't have anything fancy like the Natives to look back on.Perhaps my culture is what I make of it.But I don't personally really feel I have any ancestric roots as a white American and I'm okay with that. I don't feel I need that.And maybe I've overlooked something someone will point out, but if not, I think that's the long and short of it basically.
(DIR) Post #APJ7LoXJjtdt9DS8v2 by Cousin_Isobel@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T22:27:11.084839Z
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@FemaleIsNotAFeeling I think a lot of white Americans feel that way. I remember a quote I read about, from a little white girl, saying something like, “I wish I had a culture.” She does have one, I think, but what she meant was that she doesn’t have ongoing family connections to a culture outside of the United States.I don’t feel awfully different from, say, British people, but I do think I am part of American culture, and it’s pretty much the same one my black friends are a part of. We can note differences, but we’re still American and still have a lot of the same references. I actually feel more similar to my black atheist friends from Christian backgrounds than I do to my friends who, for example, practice Judaism – though I don’t feel entirely dissimilar from them, either.
(DIR) Post #APJ7MxF0rQBgR0R1kG by GalacticTurtle@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T22:26:52.908632Z
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@FemaleIsNotAFeeling @Cousin_Isobel America definitely has its own culture. Granted, my American-ness did not register that much to me until I went somewhere else. Even in Canada a small part of me thinks "wtf is going on up here?" 😂
(DIR) Post #APJ7Szz1ZvDUg0q3O4 by Jennifer_Lee@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T22:25:31.313160Z
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@Cousin_Isobel
(DIR) Post #APJ8bmsjl53QbUeVQu by Marvin@fans.sonichu.com
2022-11-05T22:40:42.023349Z
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@Cousin_Isobel state and ethnicity. I'm a Marylander and I'm Jewish.
(DIR) Post #APJ8vmkRxtDBysJOfg by Cousin_Isobel@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T22:44:53.576421Z
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@Marvin That’s cool. I have had several Marylander Jewish friends. I would still have them, but I moved. How’s being non-woke in that set?
(DIR) Post #APJ9UrWqBPfkwVfjvM by everlong@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T22:34:08.562869Z
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@Cousin_Isobel I voted regional. My father is from Turkey but he immigrated here when he was 5 and so the language barrier prevents me from communicating with my family overseas. In fact I recently found out my grandma died 3 years ago and she was my favorite lady in the whole world. somehow I was able to transcend the language barrier with her and we could communicate and understand each other with a little engineering when she would come to visit. I mourn the fact that I can’t connect with my roots in the way I’d like. Other than that, US southern culture has a charming appeal that I don’t hate. There are some downsides as with anywhere, but I appreciate my surroundings and the values that are common down here. IRL there’s not anywhere near the racial tension that the media would have you believe.
(DIR) Post #APJ9uf94qXM848rM1I by Cousin_Isobel@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T22:55:53.523446Z
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@everlong I’m sorry about your Grandma!Agree about the South; it has pros and cons, but not the amount of racism that people think. I don’t know where in the South you live, but have you noticed that, compared to other parts of the U.S., the women are especially nice, and the men are especially less so? It’s almost like it’s more sexually dimorphic than the rest of the U.S. (I have some family background in Tennessee and Alabama.)
(DIR) Post #APJEfPaCvN9HE863NI by everlong@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T23:26:27.133718Z
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@Cousin_Isobel I’m actually from Alabama. I haven’t traveled around much, mostly a handful of trips down to the coast in orange beach or to the panhandle. In my experience I think people tend to be generally friendly, it’s part of the culture that I like. I don’t think I’ve ever had a flat tire in the daytime before where a man (of different races) didn’t pull over to help me change it or ask if I needed the help. During my first pregnancy I never walked alone to my car after a late night shift and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t appreciate it. Some might call it misogyny but women down here will look after each other in the same way. The men tend to be protective of the women, (sorry to go off topic lol) but that’s one of the things that confused me so much about securitygate with KJK. Antifa types are universally despised down here and of the women I know, every single one of them has a cousin/husband/brother/uncle/somebody who’d absolutely be willing to stand guard in the face of death threats so she could plead for the safeguarding of her children or herself. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying sexism doesn’t exist down here, nor do I believe my experience is universal, but anyone in my general vicinity would be shocked to learn that KJK had to pay money to have men with guns stand behind her and ward off antifa. They would have all done it for free.
(DIR) Post #APJF0CkNqKBpUxlsh6 by Cousin_Isobel@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T23:52:55.130045Z
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@everlong That’s awesome. That rings true about the flat tires, even with my limited experience. Excellent about the men standing by the women in the face of threats, as well.I just had several experiences of women going out of their way to help me (or making me a hand-sewn or home-baked gift), while men didn’t do as much. I knew one guy who expected his girlfriend to do all the cleaning in his house, where she spent a lot of time but did not live full-time. I shouldn’t make generalizations, though.
(DIR) Post #APJF2K4nZ1MEoDKXCa by LaylaAlexandrovna@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T23:44:32.646231Z
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@everlong @Cousin_Isobel In the 'peaceful country' Canada, we spent HOARDS on security for every peaceful, non-inflammatory meeting or event we had including some at the main public library!Personally I don't have any men in my life - well not nearby anyhow. Son and grandson are hours away. That's pretty much it. (I don't know any women here who have men that would jump up to protect them for free. I personally have never known a man who'd do things for free except my one cousin I see every couple of yrs! And of course we still have to provide him with dinners and drinks if he does do something.)And of course, it SEEMS right now that Canucks are completely captured by this hideous ideology. I can't even imagine having the type of 'let women speak' events that Posie is organizing. Wish she'd come here. Women won't even meet nowadays. Too afraid of everything.
(DIR) Post #APJF8mRJ1X2CVqw9om by TheWitchBitch@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T23:43:39.750215Z
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@everlong @Cousin_Isobel I live in the Northwest and the only time men have offered to walk me to my car was to then subsequently assault me. So yeah.
(DIR) Post #APJFMdVF2vaMqoNviC by Marvin@fans.sonichu.com
2022-11-05T22:53:40.174934Z
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@Cousin_Isobel tricky. Half the jews I know are braindead sjws like the right wing makes them out to be. But the other half are pretty free thinking. I'd almost say the ratio is better with jews than the gentiles I know. To be fair, I live in the city and most white people in the city are hyper liberal mostly because they have the money to segregate themselves from any uncomfortable truths in the world. I would imagine the white people in the sticks are less seduced by dumb platitudes.Also not relating to Maryland but I was in Israel earlier this year and I saw terfy graffiti in Tel Aviv. This is fascinating because Tel Aviv is like the San Fran of the Mediterranean. When a rainbow group pisses them off, they must've fucked up something fierce.
(DIR) Post #APJFZTsq7dQmmVY10S by Cousin_Isobel@spinster.xyz
2022-11-05T23:59:17.968483Z
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@Marvin That’s great about the sticker!Pretty much all my friends in Maryland were SJWs because that was what I was seeking at the time. This was more than fifteen years ago, though, so leftism was more about economic issues and less about identity politics and trans bullshit.
(DIR) Post #APJG2YysFWZKzLEnEO by Kay@spinster.xyz
2022-11-06T00:03:16.559671Z
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@Cousin_Isobel I think of the weird cross section of cultures, that I grew up in. I'm Canadian by birth, but my parents are french-canadian, and European. So while other, anglo white kids would have ham at Thanksgiving and turkey at Christmas, we ate other stuff that made kids at school think I was intensely weird. It was a very uncomfortable thing, being in the cultural in-between.
(DIR) Post #APJJDtAZpP9ueOnsye by GhostBear@poa.st
2022-11-06T00:37:45.337471Z
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@Cousin_Isobel My personal vote? Familial. Without giving out too much info, my family were the first homesteaders where I lived, and as such instated their own rules and beliefs (those aligning with regional ranchers from Oklahoma and dirt farmers from Louisiana) upon their community. I have a bit of a southern drawl even though I live nowhere near the American south, and even use colloquialisms that are archaic even by Southern standards.With the influx of Californians though, everything's changed. Crimerate's up, awful policies are getting through state legislature, and worst of all everyone acts like a smug buttmunch. ...God I hate Californians.
(DIR) Post #APJKTUuJtzMRzSCqi8 by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2022-11-06T00:54:14.147209Z
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@Kay @Cousin_Isobel I get that. As a French-Canadian who has lived in other provinces, our Québec traditions were sometimes treated as bordering on exotic. We've had people basically invite themselves over for Christmas dinner. Very odd.
(DIR) Post #APJM3UTp4IQ12mXTyC by Kay@spinster.xyz
2022-11-06T01:06:40.662032Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @Cousin_Isobel Yeah, it's really weird. And you have to be very careful never to show pride or positive feelings about french-canadian culture, because someone will inevitably interpret that as racism, and racial pride when it's not that at all. I had a cultural dish potluck lunch thing at school, for which I prepared a tourtiere. I was so proud that I made the thing from scratch and didn't burn myself taking it out of the oven. And I had a traditional tomato thing to go with it that I knew of as ketchup - but it's not ketchup. There may or may not be an English word for that stuff. But as soon as I walked into class with my cultural dish, my classmates all suddenly decided to go vegan for the day in protest of my evil meat pie. I can laugh about it now, but that kinda stung my ego when I was in school.
(DIR) Post #APJMH7PncUHhZ09hVw by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2022-11-06T01:14:24.739244Z
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@Kay @Cousin_Isobel I think the ketchup is kind of like a chutney? My grandmother used to make it. When I was first married, I went all out with Christmas dinner and completely confused my poor anglo in-laws. 🤣 They had never heard of ragoût de patte....
(DIR) Post #APJMQS3qEDkgCZKqAq by Kay@spinster.xyz
2022-11-06T01:15:50.808677Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @Cousin_Isobel Yeah, it's like chutney, but when I've called it tomato chutney I've had anglos tell me I'm wrong. So I don't know what the hell they call it, but they don't like me calling it anything in English. 🤣
(DIR) Post #APJMXllnLj4jM4Nq4m by Cousin_Isobel@spinster.xyz
2022-11-06T01:17:25.432959Z
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@GhostBear That’s too bad about the Californians. When I heard they were fleeing their state, I thought maybe they preferred the culture of other states and wanted to (at least somewhat) assimilate to it. Maybe they just wanted more affordable houses.
(DIR) Post #APJTsfCte1U0lEyDNQ by everlong@spinster.xyz
2022-11-06T02:38:05.314036Z
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@Cousin_Isobel Oh yeah the women down here are amazing, My first pregnancy the women I worked with loaded me up with enough hand me downs to last me three years. Even the women without kids, or the ones I didn’t talk to as much knew someone who had something they didn’t need anymore. It was humbling, unexpected and touching. I was blessed with so many hand me downs, clothes and the stupid expensive baby shit you only get to use for a few months. I pay it forward now. That was an invaluable gift as a new mother, and I will always be thankful for those women. But yeah traditional gender roles are still very much a thing down here. They absolutely get exploited, but in a lot of ways they’re mutually beneficial. I worked in the restaurant industry for almost 15 years before I had my kids and everywhere I worked men and women would bargain. Men would anticipate that women would need something heavy for their shift and set it out for them, and women would have the eye for detail to go behind them and tidy up their side work; or if we rolled their silverware they’d take our trash out, that type of thing. There was always a guy who could take me to pull-a-part and knew what to get, and how to install it, if I did his laundry or cleaned his apartment. It saved me hundreds of dollars in labor. Alternatively there were plenty of tards, I was once propositioned for a blowjob in exchange for a 2 hour old quesadilla lol and any woman who’s ever worked in a restaurant has probably had her ass grabbed more times than she can count. I like to think the good outweighed the bad though. Down here a man can get a job going into the construction/trade industry and within three or four years be making $100,000 and provide for a wife and a couple of kids. Especially if he travels. There’s trade offs, stay at home moms don’t get much of a break if they don’t have extended family or friends around. The men sacrifice a lot of time away from their families, and work in extreme weather and conditions where you won’t find many women able or willing to fill those positions. Men rush back to work after their child is born and miss bonding time while women miss the support. Anecdotally though, those in my peer group seem to enjoy their roles tho.
(DIR) Post #APJU9eoYMEHMSxgelU by Cousin_Isobel@spinster.xyz
2022-11-06T02:42:42.186641Z
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@everlong Most of that sounds nice!