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(DIR) Post #AEK8SZG5KPfd0nDoLw by Morbidemoness@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T09:19:15.192385Z
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This stupid crap is partially why we have the trans nightmare to deal with. Parents freaking out over boys playing with kitchen sets and girls playing with action figures. It's seriously so stupid that it makes my head ache and throb. I played knights with swords and also had an easy bake oven. I'm a woman, regardless. And since when the fuck did Legos become a 'boys toy' in the first place? Sometimes, I think people make up new gender roles on the spot. I once saw a woman rip a Tweety Bird stuffy out of a boys hand and tell him it was for girls. Like, that's not even a societal stereotype. People are dumb as fuck.https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/what-to-do-if-child-asks-for-toy-not-typically-for-their-gender-explainer-171800552.html
(DIR) Post #AEKK5teWXIFV3KboPo by steph@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T10:47:47.497827Z
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@Morbidemoness I didn't realise gender stereotypes were still so strong untill I had my daughter. I went with her to a shop to get bubble liquid and there was only cars bottles or frozen bottles. my daughter didn't know any of them (she was 3 ) she chose the cars one because it was red and it was her favorite color at that time. the man in the shop insisted she CAN'T have it because it's for boys.
(DIR) Post #AEKK6QfjlnpNSeQkO8 by Morbidemoness@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T10:50:18.733037Z
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@steph I have a shirt that says "I hope you like feminist rants because that's kind of my thing." I would've gone off on him đ
(DIR) Post #AEKK79CCETw5Y3xI5g by steph@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T10:52:37.540910Z
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@Morbidemoness I just bought the cars bottle anyway and never came back to that shop.the same happened in another shop when my daughter chose the "wrong" umbrella
(DIR) Post #AEKKAOpUYxncu8t0kK by Morbidemoness@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T10:55:49.700565Z
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@steph my little brother always loved Dora the Explorer, but he got ripped to shreds by the other kids for wearing the backpack and came home sobbing when was about 5 or 6. He refused to ever take it to school again. I imagine if he were in the same position today (he's 18 currently), the school would've given him "she/her" pronouns and helped him get access to puberty blockers.
(DIR) Post #AEKKAPCt9yVy4hphDM by steph@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T11:01:12.727137Z
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@Morbidemoness it's so sad that kids are so conformist.my daughter was also made fun of at the same age for wearing "boys shoes "đ now she is almost 9 and sometimes she is wearing boys clothes (I never told her they are boys clothes, because obvioulsy they are not, they are just sold on the boys aisle) and they are not making fun of her for that. I don't think the transkids bullshit is in french schools yet. at least not on primary schools that's for sure. even if there is quite a lot of propaganda on TV.
(DIR) Post #AEKKCb9Nj2WBhDEod6 by Morbidemoness@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T11:06:15.249043Z
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@steph That's good to hear! and that's great that she wears what she feels comfortable in!My brother just graduated highschool this summer, and he could barely cope with the last few years. Nearly everyone in the art school he went to was trans or genderqueer or whatever else, and he would come home and say how confusing it was, and how he couldn't remember how many genders there were supposed to be. One of his best friends, a gay boy with homophobic parents, became a 'trans woman' and is dating other 'trans women' online which terrifies me; I don't see that ending well for him.I always tried to tell my brother that he didn't have to use others preferred pronouns (I'm talking zi/zir and tree/treeself, not just he/him and she/her), but he was too afraid of retribution from the administration. luckily, he never got swept into it.
(DIR) Post #AEKKCwJ14PhdJAuJ3w by steph@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T11:10:31.620061Z
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@Morbidemoness yes it seems to be a lot more common in art schools or humanities than in other studies.
(DIR) Post #AEKKE5rB2sDPDgR5fM by Morbidemoness@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T11:12:58.711952Z
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@steph Definitely. My wife is a writer, and all her writer friends are into the trans crap unfortunately. Say JK Rowling around them, and they spit and seethe, and go blind with rage.
(DIR) Post #AEKKE6HlS1TyY8sK6i by Berco@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T11:18:16.323409Z
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@Morbidemoness @steph A rage of jealousy, perhaps? With a dash of misogyny.
(DIR) Post #AEKKjfyIoxKACmpQbw by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T11:58:45.362821Z
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@steph @Morbidemoness I think it is worse for boys. For girls, a lot of the stuff in the boys' section can be seen as unisex, but so much of girls' clothing is covered in pink and sparkles that if a boy wears it, it would really stand out. The last time I was teaching elementary school, it really struck me how much more comfortable the boys' clothing looked. Girls' clothing was always tighter, shorter, more low-cut, had shorter sleeves, and had all kinds of frills added. The boys' clothing just looked like it was made to be played in.
(DIR) Post #AEKKmLUxOeU7ZqNKuu by You_cat_to_be_kitten_me@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T11:06:32.702362Z
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@steph @Morbidemoness I worry about this, girlsâ shoes are so flimsy but I donât want them to be teased.
(DIR) Post #AEKKmLvtmU2GvOyquW by steph@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T11:09:17.943103Z
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@You_cat_to_be_kitten_me she has always been wearing sports shoes everyday to school just this pair was especially "boyish" like dark blue with orange stripes something like that. black ones or red ones are not labelled as boys shoes for some reason. đ¤ˇââď¸ @Morbidemoness
(DIR) Post #AEKKyvUvNRvAhcMK9o by Berco@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T10:43:10.586654Z
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@Morbidemoness This is why feminists in the 1970's spoke about the harms of "gender". We were and are gender abolitionists.This new emphasis and worship of "gender" is partially, since "gender" is a patriarchal tactic to oppress women, a backlash to feminists. The "Gender" religion.
(DIR) Post #AEKLTSg2a8bIIH7QnY by Gnomeshatecheese@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:07:01.551924Z
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@Fullycaffeinated Years back, I wrote some feedback to a sewing magazine. One of my two main points was to request they include more functional details in the outdoor clothing patterns meant for women, like they do with menâs patterns. I also mentioned that looser cuts would be welcome for many women. I got a mealy-mouthed response, which in no way addressed my points. My distinct impression was that they didnât see what the problem was. @steph @Morbidemoness
(DIR) Post #AEKNEE2Wv8A8SgV6W0 by FeartnTired@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:19:30.851637Z
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@Gnomeshatecheese @Fullycaffeinated @Morbidemoness @steph well of course not, women only like fashionable things, not sturdy or useful things.I wore boys shoes for a period in primary. We were short of money. My shoes were bought at the co-op shoe shop with stamps saved from co-op grocers in the same row. The boy's school shoes were brogues with good solid leather. I can't remember what the girls ones were like, but mum thought they would let in water and not last very long and since I walked to school I was happy with this.I got flack from classmates - those are boys shoes. I didn't care, I just asked if their feet were dry because mine were. They were worn with knee socks and a school skirt. Until the chill of winter and then it was thick tights. and when I was a bit older, we decided I should wear trousers in winter.
(DIR) Post #AEKNKwYUKGuEGGeV5E by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:02:26.455980Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @steph @Morbidemoness Bring back the 70s unisex, this pinkification frilly princess shiteseriously does my head in, it is OTT nonsense now.
(DIR) Post #AEKNLmmS9aySEdaO4O by Mildred@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:04:39.542972Z
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@HebrideanHecate @Fullycaffeinated @Morbidemoness @steph Aye, we had our male cousinsâ cast-offs. Denim back then was proper! And the only princess we knew of was Princess Anne. Never saw her in a pink meringue.
(DIR) Post #AEKNN95qgGOrj7J3xo by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:07:32.713320Z
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@Mildred @Fullycaffeinated @Morbidemoness @steph Itâs nuts, we had a party dress for Christmas school party and lateron a dance at secondary, rest of time it was pinafores, blouses, jumpers and jeans and cords and jumpers etc. Even when cousins and I were playing dressing up itwas not like this nonsense which is now actual daily wear.
(DIR) Post #AEKNPsJrVD1gZWA8lk by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:28:32.090422Z
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@Mildred @Fullycaffeinated @Morbidemoness @steph Our now closed village primary school, 1970, the year beforeI wentâŚnot much pink or frills.
(DIR) Post #AEKNmwqwoRAlIEdksC by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:32:57.688475Z
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@HebrideanHecate @Morbidemoness @steph Exactly! The clothing is so much more gendered now than it was when we were kids. We were almost always in clothing that was meant to be used, not just seen. I always feel bad for the girls in the playground who know that what they are wearing will not hold up to play the way the boys' clothing will.
(DIR) Post #AEKNpxXaiBnkIM1RAG by Mildred@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:30:50.815612Z
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@HebrideanHecate @Fullycaffeinated @Morbidemoness @steph A lot of great knitwear on display. My nan made us a lot of jumpers and I remember jerkins made of granny squares.
(DIR) Post #AEKNpxyX61Ltducx9s by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:32:00.297882Z
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@Mildred @Fullycaffeinated @Morbidemoness @steph Yes, and the boys all had balaclavas in the winter and thegirls had these âpixie hoodsâ, most of the women knitted.
(DIR) Post #AEKNrEU7CSxf8S0HDM by Spring@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:33:31.009678Z
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@HebrideanHecate Yes the 70s really did not have this pink/blue crap. (I mean it had its own problems with orange and brown and some staggering fashion crimes but I'll take that any day đ )@Fullycaffeinated @Mildred @Morbidemoness @steph
(DIR) Post #AEKOGIrE4yo7w8lfzE by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:38:07.760883Z
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@Spring @Fullycaffeinated @Mildred @Morbidemoness @steph Donât forget the astonishing curtains, wallpaper and lino, thepatterns were horrific!
(DIR) Post #AEKOKp54DSFZ29OgQy by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:39:04.884100Z
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@HebrideanHecate @Spring @Mildred @Morbidemoness @steph And appliance colours! Avocado and harvest gold were particularly ugly.
(DIR) Post #AEKOXclhIwXMc0RQTg by Spring@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:16:16.385603Z
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@Morbidemoness @steph Dora was a great character. Then they introduced Diego probably for the reasons you describe. Then they girlified Dora. So cross.
(DIR) Post #AEKOXdA9q06RprsxbU by Spring@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:23:02.876820Z
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@Morbidemoness @steph and personally I think this policing and punishing of boys for liking anything associated with the female (stereotypical feminine clothes, makeup, behaviours) is the reason why we have AGP. The taboo creates the crossdressing fetish. Until now the fetish was shameful and mostly kept hidden. Until drag and trans, and now we all have to allow them to practise their fetish in front of us under the trans cosh of 'including them and validating their true identity' and the drag cosh of 'family entertainment!'
(DIR) Post #AEKP6Y1UwGa61xU7BQ by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:40:27.989138Z
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@Spring @Fullycaffeinated @Mildred @Morbidemoness @steph When my late ex parents in law were renovating the house a lotof of cuts of wallpaper came out the loft, and their youngest one,my friend, says God almighty, mother, what in the name of heavenpossessed you to have put that on the walls :blob_dizzy_face:
(DIR) Post #AEKP6YX32xonboFJMO by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:46:04.946454Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @Mildred @Morbidemoness @Spring @steph Actually, I used to crave a nice dress, and I was always outside,but still had an urge for the odd piece of pretty. I had one cottonsummer dress once which was a little bit fancier than usual, cream cotton with tiny bunches of apricot roses on it, and shortsleeves, shirred front, I loved that thing! And when a bluewith white polka dots arrived in a parcel of cousin cast offs, itwas a bit too tight for me though. I must have been about 5, butI insisted on being stuffed into it, like a sausage, until I realisedthat yes, it really really was much too tight to be comfortable,and watched with envy as it was sent to a smaller cousin.
(DIR) Post #AEKPCy0tDkZyNKGFUW by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:48:51.379478Z
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@HebrideanHecate @Mildred @Morbidemoness @Spring @steph We had a few skirts and dresses but those were mostly worn for 'occasions'. Day-to-day wear was comfortable and durable (and could stand up to many washes).
(DIR) Post #AEKPDulgluTcbGbRUO by Morbidemoness@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:48:48.341217Z
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@HebrideanHecate @Fullycaffeinated @Mildred @steph Lately I've been rewatching some of my nineties childhood favorites like Are You Afraid of the Dark and Goosebumps. The girls wear generic overalls, primary colors, long-sleeved shirts. I think the girly pink and glitter crap must've started in the 00s. (I'm an 88 baby)
(DIR) Post #AEKPW1iffKKVN6pOCG by PennyLope@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:52:18.435457Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @HebrideanHecate @Mildred @Morbidemoness @Spring @steph Same, we even called them party dresses as a default, normally bought at Christmas and Easter. Looking back I actually grew up in the era of sports gear. I wore cycling shorts as a kid, shell suits as a teen and addidas jackets as a teen.
(DIR) Post #AEKPZLEJaCRukcD3Ts by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:52:54.625624Z
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@Morbidemoness @HebrideanHecate @Mildred @steph Definitely! I noticed a change when my (mid-nineties) kid started school. A lot seemed to be inspired by the Britney Spears sexy-schoolgirl look (I am not blaming her, it's just what seemed to be popular). That time really seemed to kick off the 'dress girls like smaller adult women' phase.
(DIR) Post #AEKPbFcVPXufvoR2ZM by Spring@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:43:55.417760Z
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@HebrideanHecate It'll all be back in fashion again before we know it. Just as the PTSD is finally wearing off. You can still come across the odd Artex ceiling and woodchip wallpaper. @Fullycaffeinated @Mildred @Morbidemoness @steph
(DIR) Post #AEKPbG6zaCIdSMhO5Y by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:48:02.255560Z
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@Spring @Fullycaffeinated @Mildred @Morbidemoness @steph My bloody ceiling is woodchip, been here since we moved inbut it has been low priority to replace, hate the sight of it!And this bloody âmid centuryâ is the in thing now, I hate itso much, hated it first time round, absence has not made meany fonder of any of it.
(DIR) Post #AEKPbGYzu4hWrDnkjw by Mildred@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:51:10.294761Z
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@HebrideanHecate @Spring @Fullycaffeinated @Morbidemoness @steph Our house is a museum to historical interior design horrors: woodchip, artex, busy carpets, primrose yellow bath suite. The cost of keeping an old house wind and water tight leaves no spare money to update. Plus the carpets are wool and will probably outlive us.
(DIR) Post #AEKPhCcbTKFEMyJpS4 by Morbidemoness@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:45:45.048317Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @steph It's a disturbing lens that shows just how early girls are sexualized. Even elementary school girls need tight, low-cut, and short to show that women are objects for the male gaze. It sounds like crazy rad fem stuff until you realize that little boys are not encouraged to dress in hot pants and nipple tassels. Only little girls are made to look this way. Why a six year old needs boob-shaped cups on the front of her dress is a question only a pervert can answer. And anything associated with girls is inferior therefore a boy can't wear or desire these items until he comes of age and then it's only acceptable if he calls himself a woman and fetishes it because, of course, male sexual satisfaction comes first and foremost.
(DIR) Post #AEKPidmxx0PqusqrSa by Mildred@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:44:16.906784Z
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@HebrideanHecate @Fullycaffeinated @Morbidemoness @Spring @steph This relates to a more benign manifestation of social delusion. Everyone was captured by hideous swirly carpets and shouty wallpaper.
(DIR) Post #AEKPieDYM9gQFLI5tw by Mildred@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:45:35.858909Z
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@HebrideanHecate @Fullycaffeinated @Morbidemoness @Spring @steph That should have been âcaptivatedâ but maybe the error fits well enough.
(DIR) Post #AEKPpglJIJkWAIRD3A by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:54:31.030520Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @Morbidemoness @Mildred @steph It did, it was a pox of a decade in this respect, I hated it, itall became very obvious where stuff was suddenly starting to go, very pernicious shift.
(DIR) Post #AEKPqoq0kp6PV9Ax60 by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:53:13.724640Z
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@Mildred @Fullycaffeinated @Morbidemoness @Spring @steph I know the feeling! When we moved in here it looked like a 1970scaravan which has been decorated by Sybil Fawlty.
(DIR) Post #AEKPsL32U1NPglzgS8 by Mildred@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:56:08.434311Z
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@Morbidemoness @HebrideanHecate @Fullycaffeinated @steph I saw it emerging in the 90s when Ivwas doing a design degree. Less so in high-end childrenswear, there was still a bit of crossover in terms of colours and print themes. But I think that was the time of mass produced, cheap clothing and products becoming more available. In particular I remember all the hideous Spice Girls merchandise.
(DIR) Post #AEKPtZ91YfK1hLNXKi by Morbidemoness@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:55:42.765023Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @HebrideanHecate @Mildred @steph It's so beyond disturbing that sexy schoolgirl is even a thing. That uniform, by default, is being worn by girls 18 and under, and this is a major fetish? Poor Britney was only like 16 when the song came out, 17 in the Oops I Did It Again video. It's gross AF
(DIR) Post #AEKPvc6xV08BTiOBFI by Gnomeshatecheese@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:56:56.036677Z
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@FeartnTired In all fairness, their womenâs outdoor patterns werenât bad, they just werenât quite as practical in certain ways than those of men. If it were just ordinary, everyday wear I wouldnât really care that much. But it annoyed me that fashion trumped function so clearly in outdoor clothing, which is fundamentally meant to be functional. @Fullycaffeinated @Morbidemoness @steph
(DIR) Post #AEKQ1MIHDkiI9uQFJQ by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T11:25:11.110817Z
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@steph @You_cat_to_be_kitten_me @Morbidemoness What an outrageous load of tripe it all is, utterly ridiculous.
(DIR) Post #AEKQ1MfJq593JNCeEC by You_cat_to_be_kitten_me@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:42:07.405408Z
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@HebrideanHecate @steph @Morbidemoness This is a random sample of âgirlâ and âboyâ shoes at one of the biggest retailers for school shoes in the UK. Little girls are immune to wet feet apparently.
(DIR) Post #AEKQ4muuh1aNb885y4 by sleepwalker@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:40:59.657614Z
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@Spring @Morbidemoness @steph but why don't women then masturbate to having short hair, wearing loose pants and playing with toy trucks in fake moustache to the same amount as men do, if ever? It's not about childhood taboos at all
(DIR) Post #AEKQ4nLV6AqwvaZKPQ by Spring@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:46:47.564247Z
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@sleepwalker @Morbidemoness @steph From what I've read, women don't form fetishes at all in the same number and scale that men do. Crossdressing is a very common fetish among men, and I do think that's because men see feminine apparatus everywhere around them in life. the taboo morphs into a fetish around the age of adolescence when male pubery kicks in.
(DIR) Post #AEKWUdSR5IVRVxW9ia by QueenSaluki@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T13:09:33.194425Z
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@PennyLope @Fullycaffeinated @HebrideanHecate @Mildred @Morbidemoness @Spring @steph My go-to outfit in 1995 (when I was ten) was a Universal Studios baseball cap, black and white striped Bermuda shorts and an "I just can't wait to be king!" Lion King t-shirt. I also remember an abomination of a bright yellow with blue stripes Adidas tracksuit. Then came Kappa!
(DIR) Post #AEKWUvMMWcLL2KoYka by FeartnTired@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:54:15.505738Z
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@PennyLope @Fullycaffeinated @HebrideanHecate @Mildred @Morbidemoness @Spring @steph ye were a Ned!
(DIR) Post #AEKWUvlszilAJUkwXA by grace_hawthorn@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:57:55.218206Z
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@FeartnTired @PennyLope @Fullycaffeinated @HebrideanHecate @Mildred @Morbidemoness @Spring @steph also quite flammable đ đ
(DIR) Post #AEKWUw9zY62fWG2C6i by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T13:00:39.995042Z
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@grace_hawthorn @FeartnTired @Fullycaffeinated @Mildred @Morbidemoness @PennyLope @Spring @steph Never understood the whole nylon obsession, the static!
(DIR) Post #AEKkHNBlevHSeRI89I by PennyLope@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T16:44:57.735752Z
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@FeartnTired @Fullycaffeinated @HebrideanHecate @Mildred @Morbidemoness @Spring @steph Ha! That should have read tween for Shellsuits, I was only about 10 and I think my mum got a notion. I still remember everyone wearing them though, young, old, men, women and kids. They were truly hideous, in a guady for everyone kind of way.
(DIR) Post #AEseYhHF6asSjJf7uC by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2021-12-12T12:48:44.556638Z
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@You_cat_to_be_kitten_me @Morbidemoness @steph Thatâs ridiculous.