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(DIR) Post #A6MHS0hdgnei2KZi9w by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T03:21:08.992658Z
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What was your life like at 24 years old?Share your stories spinsters
(DIR) Post #A6MHS1ALy2clTO0duq by tangleofsnakes@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T03:31:08.463262Z
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@MellowMarigold Super uneventful? I was about a year into my current job and I was still living with my parents. It was probably when I had my first car wreck (nothing serious). Anxiety and depression were still kicking me around.
(DIR) Post #A6MO1TbQpcWTWoxyMq by 1ammyb0dy@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T04:49:32.779875Z
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@MellowMarigold I had graduated college, had unrealistic career expectations while working part time running kids programs. I lived at home. I had never kissed anyone or been on a date and was getting quite embarrassed and sad about it.
(DIR) Post #A6MOQ9d6ECxKp3VuNs by GrumpyOldNurse@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T04:54:28.346309Z
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@MellowMarigold I was in second year nursing school, I had run away from my ex, I was homeless but couch surfing with friends. Kind of a low point in my life.Eventually, I got a bursary and a student loan and found my own place to rent.
(DIR) Post #A6MSZFdFgELZrUB6eG by Gelatinousrube@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T05:40:18.789784Z
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@MellowMarigold urgh married and grinding. My ex said he was excited for me to finish grad school so he could live off me. I was working crazy hours and going to school.
(DIR) Post #A6MWSzAmMVB8tS807k by Kay@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T06:24:26.588673Z
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@MellowMarigold That was the worst year of my life. Hated it. Almost quit university.Anyway, whatever you're going through at 24, there are plenty of women going through the same or very similar things. You can survive it. You don't have to let shitty things derail your life plans.
(DIR) Post #A6MXeNW2IPiFWz4DxI by Gnomeshatecheese@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T06:37:29.999367Z
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@MellowMarigold I was having a breakdown. My long-term relationship was failing completely out of the blue for me, I was failing to do the most basic things, let alone keep working at the things I was supposed to be working at to push my life forward (and am still fixing the last bit of fallout from that) and in general it was the lowest point of my life, including both before and after. At 24 I pretty much hit the rock bottom.
(DIR) Post #A6MvkzXQRuEuP371fs by SCMcG@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T08:04:19.041539Z
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@MellowMarigold at 24, I left a good job in a nice veterinary practice with a decent boss after only a year to chase a dream of living in a remote Scottish idyll and marrying a farmer. I’d had cancer (melanoma) at 23 and I think there was a major reevaluation of priorities going on, but I chose very badly.So for the first half of 24 I had a reasonably positive life. I was overweight but had taken successful steps towards losing it, I had a social life as there were other young people in the practice. But I was desperate to find a life partner and was unable to appreciate the good things I had.I moved to Scotland where the working hours were ferocious and my boss was a bully. I was desperate to escape by getting married, which was entirely the wrong goal and meant I was much more likely to make a bad choice.Looking back, I should have tried to build a life around myself and built on the good situation I had, but I wasn’t very logical at that stage and I was desperate to meet a man. I think I probably had mental health issues due to the cancer diagnosis, the way I had been treated in my previous workplace before I landed, more or less by accident in the nice practice and from two abusive relationships at university, one of which almost broke me.
(DIR) Post #A6N2W0B0UbZdibQS1I by 0cean@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T05:54:17.626497Z
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@MellowMarigold It was terrible, to be honest. That was the year everything went to hell.
(DIR) Post #A6N2YaAVe8FFvOQJSS by Tiggy@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T06:48:21.151360Z
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@MellowMarigold I'm still 24. Just worked a shitty job this whole year will probably work it for at least another year
(DIR) Post #A6N2cPtjm2FDEIPHMG by Taralafya@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T07:05:06.571758Z
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@MellowMarigold I can tell you about my 20s, I dont remember the exact year of 24.In my 20s my mental health issues presented in a worse way than they do now. There was some mild self harm and at times I felt like I was going insane, like I needed to be in a mental hospital. Somehow I was strong enough to bear with it. I later realized these episodes may have been linked to my cycle which luckily doesn't affect me that way anymore.I had dropped out of college a few years before that and was working a shitty retail job. I think I was living with my longterm boyfriend's (at the time) family. There was a lot of drama involved and there were relationship issues. Or maybe at 24 I was living in a shitty cockroach infested apartment, I dont know which year it was.Now I in my 30s I'm married to the same dude, somehow made it out of the relationship issues (wtf), live on our own, with pets. The job is still customer service but better.And I still haven't figured out what I want to do with my life, it is a major struggle for me. And the corona year has been shit. So things have improved but I do live with with some mental issues still. I'm bored and nothing seems all that fun, but I'm hoping things get better once, if we're out of the corona shit.Basically in my 20s I was going nuts, in my 30s I'm just bored and ready to see where else life takes me. It's not perfect, but I'm still lucky and things have mellowed out.
(DIR) Post #A6N2eODoyanebuk2bI by Brookryn@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T07:24:45.912577Z
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@MellowMarigold I was working as a nanny, off the books no health insurance, wanted to do something else but no college degree so couldn't tempconsidering visiting my ex at his peace corps posting but he was being evasive after begging me to visit (he'd met someone else, I later discovered) my lease was ending and I needed to move to a cheaper neighborhood and my roommate was leaving town.
(DIR) Post #A6N2gWhqP3FPVFnsiu by grace_hawthorn@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T07:31:08.227299Z
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@MellowMarigold i was living in Poland, broke, felt like i had backed myself into a corner. Hyper-inflation meant my salary was basically worthless & I didn't know what else to do (it was also a massive financial recession in the UK and approx 4 million unemployed). I felt really lost.at the same time, it was also something i'm really glad i did and i still have friends from there at that time. It was just after the Berlin wall came down and communism was ending in E Europe and watching that was extraordinary. I still love Poland, and what i do now has nothing to do with what i was doing then, and it was still something that really had a big impact on me in all sorts of ways.
(DIR) Post #A6N2gxDdpS8BjOsdtY by ObligateSpinster@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T07:36:32.345931Z
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@MellowMarigold Stuck at home due to the pandemic.Unsure of what would happen regarding by PhD.
(DIR) Post #A6N2jUWsx7oLcY5jBg by ava@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T07:44:41.156371Z
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@MellowMarigold i'm trying to remember how it was like, i just finished undergrad and started grad school. surrounded by many woke and rich students and i was still identifying as *genderqueer* at that moment. i was really busy all the time and devoted many time for study and research... and now i can't believe how i used to be able to concentrate on one thing. 😅
(DIR) Post #A6N2m89qaOpR6aZe2y by Purple@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T08:00:38.809192Z
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@MellowMarigold This was a good year, actually. After breaking up with my boyfriend (benevolent sexist kinda guy, started identifying as genderfluid later) I've realized I've been always dating someone, so I've started focusing on myself. Taking studying seriously, bonding with my female friends, taking lots of psychedelics 😝 This was a huge and important milestone, although I did fall back to toxic structures later due to unfortunate events I wasn't yet strong enough to cope with. I was in a vulnerable position and the wrong people took advantage of it, but getting to know myself at 24 surely helped me not to let things become even worse. Got back on track again and my life got a lot better, proved myself in the meantime in tough situations. Please learn to set boundaries and get to know yourself as early as possible. This should be a job for parents, imho, but mine failed to teach me any of this.
(DIR) Post #A6N2wfIGF8YmlmX5Jw by skullhoney@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T08:25:18.213673Z
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@MellowMarigold Freshman in college, between bad relationships with NPD ex-military guys. Had my own place, but was letting a friend couch surf who paid me rent in party drugs. Went out dancing 3-4 nights a week. Kicked freeloader out when cops showed up to tell me he was a registered sex offender (statutory he said) and let this new guy that pursued me aggressively on myspace start spending the night all the time and move in gradually because the sex was good. He pretended to be this great guy who wanted a serious relationship when I really didn’t, maybe a bit scary but not toward me (yet.) He convinced me to get a bigger place so he could have a whole room for his guns and be close to the bar where he worked (and fucked everything in sight, I learned much later.) 180 change once I agreed to let him take over my life. He isolated me from all my friends, silver lining I guess was that I got sober. When bills and rent came around, he paid it grudgingly and later tried to say my ‘bean counting’ was why he always cheated. Took most of the year off from school because tending to the relationship with someone who was suddenly a stranger consumed me, and worked at a coffee shop. All I did was read books about codependency and how to be a more generous, conciliatory, accepting partner. He was abusive in every way you can imagine and then some and it’s a miracle I graduated with honors. Studying probably saved me in a way because it let me escape him.
(DIR) Post #A6N2y4pwl8CQHRxiPA by Mildred@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T09:11:02.703752Z
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@MellowMarigold Studying, a part-time job as a chambermaid, and living with a volatile bully of a husband who wasted the little money we had on alcohol and gambling. I completed my degree, escaped and moved on, but at the time I couldn’t see a different future for me. The kindness of others helped me to find a way out, but it took time to come round to the idea that another life was possible.
(DIR) Post #A6N2ys0FxaYqlcA8mG by EatKnitSleep@spinster.xyz
2021-04-18T11:09:47.417314Z
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@MellowMarigold When I was 24 I separated from a very abusive partner and rebounded into another unsuitable relationship. It wasn't a good year.