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(DIR) Post #A5wORz6VaNRqCzsgHQ by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T15:52:02Z
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THREADI see my late father with new eyes all the time. He was messed up. So was I, but not nearly as badly as he was, to HIS credit.Despite myriad differences we had mutual reverence and respect for the battles each of us were fighting.Dad had a very undeveloped sense of "other". He wasn't self-aware and couldn't see himself coming through OTHER people's eyes. Dad was EXTREMELY logical when it came to systems - not people. And that cost him dearly throughout his life.Example:
(DIR) Post #A5wOYJU8ipGp9nx5XM by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T15:53:13Z
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Dad, two uncles and I are in a coffee shop. Dad just treated the waitress as an interrupting annoyance before ordering her about and abruptly dismissing her.Cause and effect where people were concerned was never Dad's long suit. He was oblivious to what was about to PREDICTABLY come his way. CLANG! His plate of (likely-spat-in) food arrived.The waitress was long gone before his nerves could recover."WHAT THE HELL WAS THAT ALL ABOUT?!"All we could do was laugh. All of us.
(DIR) Post #A5wOei6S6dDHFIvHEW by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T15:54:22Z
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There was one area where Dad was A DEPENDABLE ROCK - to anyone and everyone.If you were down in a pit, he saw it, empathized, and would STRAIGHTWAY pull you out. With superhero agility.It didn't matter who you were or how you got there. He suddenly didn't exist for himself at all in the moment. EGO-LESS - he'd forget himself and pull you out, build you back up, fortify you, and make you feel like you could take on the world again.That from a man who suffered deeply from manic depression.
(DIR) Post #A5wOqjIFVSJcPdAiYK by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T15:56:33Z
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Dad's depression was so bad he spent 1971 as a Thorazine-doped patient at the Veterans Affairs Hospital in Menlo Park.Same hospital that inspired One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest several years later. Cuckoo's Nest was one of Dad's favorite movies because, "That is EXACTLY how it was! I was there! None of that movie was BS!"He said that the ONLY thing the movie DIDN'T portray was the level of violence that COULD come at any moment, by patients who were truly and severely mentally ill.
(DIR) Post #A5wOvy2Y6brlb3KGhc by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T15:57:30Z
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It was Dad's oldest brother Ralph who came to his rescue one day in the hospital lobby."My car is parked right outside, brother. All you have to do is come out there with me and get in. We'll go have Chinese food and decide what you want to do from there."Dad was ready. He got up and flew the Cuckoo's Nest, never to return.
(DIR) Post #A5wP6bENFZtK2YvW7s by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T15:59:24Z
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Democrats have ALWAYS been extremely cause and effect challenged where people AND systems are concerned.They are about to experience collective depression on a scale nobody has witnessed before. It's important, I think, that I not attack. Ever.Their REAL "new normal" will be quite the adjustment for them as it is. I will go HARD on the bastards at the top, EASY on the idiots who were blinded by them. If I can pull them STRAIGHTWAY out of their pit - I WILL.I love you, Dad. END
(DIR) Post #A5wQHlH2LpEWKN3h20 by Wally45@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T16:12:37Z
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@StevenDouglas Was thinking same thing over the weekend. Two nieces who were active trump haters, Biden cheerleaders have upended their relationship with their dad, a trump supporter. Both professionals. Their every Facebook posts contained their insane thinking. Democracy now and BLM advocacy. Took a peek Sunday on Facebook and both deleted their Facebook accounts. Could it be? I sincerely hope that all the ruined relationships can be repaired and we can all talk again regardless of politics.
(DIR) Post #A5wQdMT3GDSDlNyh9s by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T16:16:32Z
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@Wally45 Yes, and the best politics are NO POLITICS. Where they're concerned.Just get back to focus on positive living, where we're not all THAT divided - never were.Ignore all complex fantasy narratives that never had any bearing on reality.
(DIR) Post #A5wST8oDO7kKPk8CUC by 2020_DJT@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T16:37:06Z
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@StevenDouglas Whenever I read one of your threads, I ask myself, how can I do better? You always have one amazing story after another that is so uplifting and powerful. Two of the most powerful words in assessing a psych patient are insight and judgment. You are a very strong individual with incredible insight and judgment of self. Because of that strength, you can reach out and help others in ways not many are able. I am humbled by you...and that's a good thing. Thank you.
(DIR) Post #A5wTa1XCvqtZpo1QRM by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T16:49:32Z
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@AngryDuey @LordByron I keep thinking about the Shock Treatment that SO many liberals went through when attending a Trump Rally. Everyone friendly, having a great time - welcoming and not judging them at all.The OPPOSITE of what would/did happen in reverse. That's how we "beat" them. If we can't beat them THEY WILL SLAUGHTER US.If they can't beat US, they can join us. Happily. In peace. That's the difference in a nutshell. It's also why WE WON.
(DIR) Post #A5wUIB8ObLv6LjTGtc by KathrynK@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T16:57:32Z
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@StevenDouglas Beautiful thread, Steven.
(DIR) Post #A5wUrjesEbTfYhcKVk by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T17:03:58Z
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From Dad:Black Birdie was MASSIVE schizophrenic patient - a 6 1/2 foot 350+ lbs. black guy in his mid-thirties.SOFT spoken. Very small effeminate voice, prone to startling halluicinations. One day Dad was talking to another patient when he heard/felt a WHOOOSH! behind his head. Birdie had picked up a steel table and swung it at my dad's head. Orderlies spidered screaming crying Birdie to the floor. Birdie was trying to protect my dad by knocking out the Devil Bat that flew into him.
(DIR) Post #A5wUwfZ6sageJRH30i by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T17:04:51Z
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From Dad:Black Birdie was MASSIVE schizophrenic patient - a 6 1/2 foot 350+ lbs. black guy in his mid-thirties.SOFT spoken. Very small effeminate voice, prone to startling hallucinations. One day Dad was talking to another patient when he heard/felt a WHOOOSH! behind his head. Birdie had picked up a steel table and swung it at my dad's head. Orderlies spidered screaming crying Birdie to the floor. Birdie was trying to protect my dad by knocking out the Devil Bat that flew into him.
(DIR) Post #A5wVVA266mEieTHO1Q by Jaygarza1@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T17:11:04Z
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@StevenDouglas Jesus Comes to mind. Went hard to the top but was merciful to the bottom.
(DIR) Post #A5wWR8tCWACptvlXlY by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T17:21:33Z
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This picture was taken at a VA hospital hours before my father died in December 2010. He was the reason I came back from China. This is a collage I made of him in 2004.
(DIR) Post #A5wWzD11gPNYXnfcBM by Ryanownby@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T17:27:43Z
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@StevenDouglasSo sorry to hear about your loss. He sounds like he was a stand-up guy.Now, on cause and effect...If you ever want a quantifiable example of how Democrats don't get cause and effect, look at "The Fight for Fifteen" and their minimum wage hikes."Poor people can't afford things. Pay them more!"Their wages go up and Cost of Goods Sold goes up."F***ING GREEDY CORPORATIONS! Poor people can't afford things again, and there are more of them!"
(DIR) Post #A5wXTdLSM4LitJjYrw by Victoria99654@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T17:33:13Z
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@StevenDouglas Beautiful drawing.
(DIR) Post #A5wXVfLprpWHgysdxA by corychiarelli@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T17:33:34Z
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@StevenDouglas that’s terrifying. I wonder what came of Black Birdie, the poor soul.
(DIR) Post #A5wY9OYPjo3LBEhy0e by MadBeachBimbo@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T17:40:46Z
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@StevenDouglas this is a wonderful tribute to you father, Steven. He had to be a good father to raise a son like you. Thanks for your threads. I always feel 100 pounds lighter after I read them. And 100 times more hopeful about the goodness of humans.
(DIR) Post #A5we26SvBxJWmG2rmS by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T18:46:40Z
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@MadBeachBimbo Want to hear something cool, which I think you'll understand, but many can't relate to?My siblings often talk about how badly they miss my mother and/or father. I don't miss them. EVER. For me they're not gone. They never left. They're with me everywhere I go - both of them. And I don't mean that on ANY literal metaphysical level, like, "Yes, they're watching over me." Nobody knows how any of that works. I just mean emotionally. THEY'RE RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW. Always.
(DIR) Post #A5weVtR0CmEZ3ALuiW by MadBeachBimbo@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T18:52:04Z
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@StevenDouglas YES! You get it! That’s how I feel about my parents! They’re here with me all the time, in everything I do. My cat, on the other hand, I miss. My folks no because they are with me.
(DIR) Post #A5whYpvW0GtYtyigaW by seeker@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T19:26:11Z
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@StevenDouglas @MadBeachBimbo That makes the richness of your sharings.
(DIR) Post #A5wiZpQ1Tea5ZQ1gn2 by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T19:37:35Z
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@Victoria99654 Thank you. Dad approves!
(DIR) Post #A5wkFb3pLlnT9l7oSO by 2020_DJT@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T19:56:21Z
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@StevenDouglas @MadBeachBimbo If I miss anyone, it's my dad. I didn't get to know him as much as I would have liked. I have reason not to miss my mother. That's a whole other story.
(DIR) Post #A5wkyoot2bvwrPhTSi by StevenDouglas@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T20:04:31Z
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@2020_DJT @MadBeachBimbo That could be key, too. I didn't "miss out" on anything with either of my parents. I got it all, the good, bad and the ugly. I KNEW them both very well. Individually, from THEIR perspectives. So much so that I can still see everything through each of THEIR eyes. My other siblings were close to them, but not nearly as close as that. And what they loved they didn't feel they got enough of. So they "miss" them/that.
(DIR) Post #A5wlBlD3m5nvQdB6UC by 2020_DJT@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T20:06:51Z
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@StevenDouglas @MadBeachBimbo Indeed. Rather than missing them in the sense, "I wish you were here." Maybe it's more of sense of," I'm missing something from you that I didn't get the time to receive."
(DIR) Post #A5wrPUZd1UjPc0fJOi by MadBeachBimbo@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-05T21:16:34Z
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@StevenDouglas Interesting. I was my grandmother’s favorite but my two younger brothers were my mother’s favorites, especially the middle one. I wasn’t close to my mother but I knew her very well. My dad and I had a complicated relationship but I knew him very well. Probably because I am much like him.My brothers got mom’s love, I got grandmas love (which I didn’t want and that is worthy of a whole thread) and I was always trying to get my dad’s approval. 1/2
(DIR) Post #A61TFPEAcPwB1g5NR2 by Cdubois@social.quodverum.com
2021-04-08T02:39:25Z
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@StevenDouglas So true Steven.@AngryDuey @LordByron
(DIR) Post #A62NCS6j38LgWRlv3g by stormbringer@noagendasocial.com
2021-04-08T13:06:23Z
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@StevenDouglas @MadBeachBimbo the human brain activates the motor cortex and imitates mannerisms of others we are around, we already know the brain can copy voice and image of the person. I'll take it a step further and say I think the brain can copy a person's personality. We know the mind can handle multiple personalities. So why can't we carry a portion of our loved ones' soul with us wherever we go?