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 (DIR) Post #A1rofOLWuImesYmHBo by SpiritKrabs@spinster.xyz
       2020-12-04T18:52:27.377820Z
       
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       I see this idea that children ‘should be allowed to do whatever they want, regardless of gender’ in gender-critical media, and I do think it is well-meaning. However it’s a bit ‘libfem’; if you allow children to do as they want, that’s certainly better than forcing anything, but it isn’t going to change much-girls will still do ‘girl things’ and boys will do ‘boy things’. Society is full of gendered messaging, and peer groups, other adults, etc. can exert a lot of pressure and groupthink. This won’t impact boys much, because male socialization is far more humane and liberating than female socialization. Girls will still be harmed, because they will internalize femininity and start restricting and suppressing themselves even assuming ideal conditions (they don’t get hit on or sexualized, femininity isn’t pushed on them and modeled for them by adult women, etc.), simply because girls want to be part of their in-group, and will seek social approval.I think it is especially important that girls are raised in environments that neutralize society’s gender role for them as much as possible, and actively promote the same breadth and depth of activities, learning, exploration, etc. as is done for boys. Basically, treat all children the way boys are treated, but sans the emotional suppression. This is also doubly important when considering that early years and play experiences significantly impact intelligence and personality, and those are perhaps the only tools women have that can’t be bested by men.
       
 (DIR) Post #A1rofOaQ0wh3cjkAOe by Robotpuppy@spinster.xyz
       2020-12-04T19:18:07.253787Z
       
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       @SpiritKrabs Having been involved with young children myself I’m tempted to say that boys should be raised along similar lines to girls - as very small children they are about as violent and willful (in dangerous ways, not just stubborn etc) as each other. The real difference shows when girls are censured for being outrageous and boys less so. Leading to violence and frankly delinquent behaviour being far more acceptable for boys than it is for girls. I know we say a lot here about the pressure to be nice and thoughtful and to consider others with your actions and we rightly point out this isn’t a natural state of affairs, but taught early and often. What would the world be like if we raised the standard for boys behaviour?