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 (DIR) Post #A1VT91gXFk4woaD5ea by SpiritKrabs@spinster.xyz
       2020-11-23T16:30:21.284943Z
       
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       Sex is never a right-not even, or especially not within relationships. When women are accused of ‘withholding sex’, they are being accused of doing something that doesn’t exist. I do not live my life ‘withholding’ my kidneys from donation, it is quite literally impossible to withhold my organs from anyone else. In fact it is abusive to accuse someone of withholding sex in a relationship; it is furthermore abusive to do any of the following:Persistently ask to have sex despite being refused.Persistently relate sex to other actions within the relationship, or use other actions to bargain for sex (“I washed the dishes can we have sex now?”). Threaten to cheat or go to a prostitute if sex is not had within a certain time frame.Sulk and ‘have a bad mood’ as a result of not having sex.Show any emotional backlash to not having sex.Threaten divorce or couples’ counseling if sex is not being had (counseling is disadvantageous to the woman usually).Push for the woman to reveal her reasons for not having sex (if she doesn’t want to, she doesn’t want to, end of).Push for or approve of, in any way shape or form, ‘maintenance sex’, which is just emotionally coerced marital rape. Now to be clear if a person is not happy within a relationship due to lack of sex, they can and should leave/divorce. However using anything to threaten or guilt a woman into having sex, including the possibility of divorce, is wrong and is in fact a signal to the woman that she must divorce for her own wellbeing. If a man cannot live with a woman he purports to love with respect and kindness without having sex, sometimes for long periods of time, then he is at best useless and at worst a huge net negative. If sex within a relationship is to be consensual, there must be no emotional, physical, financial, or social consequence to the act of a woman refusing to have sex for any length of time, for any reason that does not involve cheating. This doesn’t mean that communication should not be ongoing, but it should also be respectful, and it should be with the goal of figuring out if there is any problem that can be solved that is behind the lack of sex drive. There are medical conditions that may completely wipe out sex drive even if the woman is otherwise content in the relationship, and in those cases if she does not want to have sex then it is her right, and being a loving partner means working with that rather than finding ways to push her.