Post 9h8VC8sg2GiWmMDssS by leyonhjelm@freespeechextremist.com
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(DIR) Post #9h8V5G9ab5WtJ9qrSK by Canageek@cybre.space
2019-03-25T17:18:49Z
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Questions: Are weddings are boring as they sound? I've been invited to one as my significant others +1, won't know any of the people, and have never been to one before.
(DIR) Post #9h8VC8sg2GiWmMDssS by leyonhjelm@freespeechextremist.com
2019-03-25T17:20:05.457711Z
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@CanageekYes, they are
(DIR) Post #9h8VMw2O7wze8CuaOW by aldersprig@tootplanet.space
2019-03-25T17:21:59Z
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@Canageek There are a whole lot of factors involved in that answer. 1) if it’s religious and if so what religion. 2) if it’s designed to be long and showy or short and “efficient.”3) what the reception is like. In re. social function, most weddings are a brief to too-long bit of “we are here to witness this joining as this pair’s community”, agreeing to support them by your presence (implied, rarely spoken about these days) - and thena reception which is a long social meal, often with ~
(DIR) Post #9h8VPc8UZqVhHD2nxI by Canageek@cybre.space
2019-03-25T17:22:25Z
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@aldersprig Its 30 minutes long, and held at a bar. Currently taking that as a good sign?
(DIR) Post #9h8VR644mvduO9gZqS by aldersprig@tootplanet.space
2019-03-25T17:22:31Z
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@Canageek ~booze, sometimes with good food, usually with dancing. That’s more like a family/friend group reunion with chances to meet new people.
(DIR) Post #9h8VShVT49NSnmGLmi by aldersprig@tootplanet.space
2019-03-25T17:22:57Z
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@Canageek That seems like it’s likely to be tidy, efficient, and move on to the drinking part of the party quickly :-D
(DIR) Post #9h8VZC9m1STnbCDDQ8 by aldersprig@tootplanet.space
2019-03-25T17:24:12Z
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@Canageek (I have been in or adjacent to in … 6? or so wedding as an adult, not counting the ones that we just attended - 2 or three)
(DIR) Post #9h8VpFqO54mJfUnnU0 by ink_slinger@mastodon.club
2019-03-25T17:22:23Z
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@Canageek I've only been to a few weddings, so I'm no expert but, basically, it depends. Big weddings, where I don't know most of the other guests, are not fun, IMO.My cousin's wedding was pretty good because it was relatively small and there was a lot of family that I knew. Got drunk with my grandpa for the first time. 10/10 would attend my cousin's inevitable second wedding.My own wedding was a blast, I think, because we kept it very small and mostly just close friends.
(DIR) Post #9h8VpFxpdOjW2aHk5Q by ink_slinger@mastodon.club
2019-03-25T17:23:44Z
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@Canageek Also, I'm mostly talking about the reception. The actual wedding part? Meh, I'm not super emotional or sentimental, so I kinda just sit through it (especially the one Catholic wedding I went to, which was basically just Catholic mass with a couple wedding vows mixed in...that was noteworthy in being long and boring).
(DIR) Post #9h8VpG9AxDo6blanlg by Canageek@cybre.space
2019-03-25T17:26:58Z
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@ink_slinger I'm taking the fact its 30 minutes long and at a bar as a good sign
(DIR) Post #9h8W1aOrToJGteo7Hs by aldersprig@tootplanet.space
2019-03-25T17:29:18Z
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@Canageek I’ve only been at like one that I had trouble sitting still for through the whole thing, and I am not known for being able to sit still through things.
(DIR) Post #9h8W3eYsygNqNoTvgO by self@social.linuxlusers.com
2019-03-25T17:29:28Z
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Depends on who you go with, imo. Breaking off with someone, or a small group before/after the main events, and exploring the general area and getting in to minor mischief is usually the best way to enjoy these things. Not knowing anyone doesn't help the boring factor, but you do have your sig other, so you could make it work :)
(DIR) Post #9h8lERRZaZbaCEfCsa by gemlog@mastodonten.de
2019-03-25T20:19:39Z
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@Canageek Pretty much."Wow! What a great wedding!" was said never by no one.
(DIR) Post #9h8mSU1Mu3DMCLfM8m by Tayatranscendent@wubrg.social
2019-03-25T20:33:29Z
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@Canageek I’ve never been to a wedding and left thinking “this was an enjoyable experience”.
(DIR) Post #9h8oTdsTwQxixxBpeC by Canageek@cybre.space
2019-03-25T20:56:07Z
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@Tayatranscendent @gemlog So I should be glad its only 30 minutes long then?
(DIR) Post #9h8oeEozRNXyRNbov2 by gemlog@mastodonten.de
2019-03-25T20:57:59Z
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@Canageek @Tayatranscendent The actual ceremony varies between minutes and hours.The reception afterwards goes on forever. In my experience anyhow.
(DIR) Post #9h8p5D08Jfvwc7gKQ4 by I_Am_Clockwork@kind.social
2019-03-25T21:02:53Z
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@Canageek I’ve been to a few weddings as a musician. It was wild. The drummer got into a fistfight with the catering staff. Would not recommend.As an actual atendie, the one I’ve been to was a lot of sitting around listening to speeches and being awkward in a corner while I waited for the food to be ready.
(DIR) Post #9h8rnpWsd9iCkzP5qC by varx@cybre.space
2019-03-25T21:33:21Z
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@Canageek Mostly boring, can be fun. Going with a friend or partner is pretty important to making it not suck, unless you A) will know a lot of people there anyway, or B) plan to attend sort of as an anthropologist.I think ours was pretty good? Held outdoors in a neat place, kept the ceremony fairly short, and had *really* good food. (Specifically, it was catered by vegetarians.)
(DIR) Post #9h8tkLhXH3y1Hnr6p6 by suetanvil@mastodon.technology
2019-03-25T21:55:09Z
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@Canageek Yeah, pretty much. Unless the hosts have actively pushed to make it non-boring, in which case it may be less tedious.Basically, you go to show support for the family or your SO. The food might be good, though.
(DIR) Post #9h8wQtlpCCvV1LHL7I by USBloveDog@cybre.space
2019-03-25T22:25:16Z
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@I_Am_Clockwork @Canageek I want to hear more about this musician vs. culinary staff fistfight
(DIR) Post #9h9iyplxMUzeGcaV7I by I_Am_Clockwork@kind.social
2019-03-26T07:29:14Z
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@USBloveDog @Canageek The wedding had an open bar, and almost everyone was getting very very drunk. I don't drink and was one of the few sober people in the place, and had a good vantage of the initial confrontation. The drummer got into an argument with one of the catering staff. I think the caterer had made a comment on how inebriated Drummer boy had gotten which he overheard. Almost immediately, Drummer through a punch and it escalated. The fight made it outside before I lost sight of it.