Post 640559 by aldersprig@tootplanet.space
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(DIR) Post #640559 by aldersprig@tootplanet.space
2018-10-19T13:48:52Z
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Thinking about how… dangerous the phrasing “I didn’t upset you, did I?” can be. It suggests compliance means “no, of course not.”#amwriting
(DIR) Post #640560 by InspectorCaracal@tootplanet.space
2018-10-19T15:12:52Z
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@aldersprig ... well, yes, of course it does, because it's the kind of question which suggests compliance, and those are always manipulative bullshit?
(DIR) Post #640561 by aldersprig@tootplanet.space
2018-10-19T15:14:38Z
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@InspectorCaracal I’m going to have to pay attention to that. (This brought to you by Nathen talking to the Beastie)
(DIR) Post #640562 by InspectorCaracal@tootplanet.space
2018-10-19T15:17:22Z
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@aldersprig an easy check is, does the question actually start as a question, or are you first making a statement and then asking for confirmation?
(DIR) Post #640563 by Archbeth@elekk.xyz
2018-10-19T18:10:10Z
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@InspectorCaracal @aldersprig Modified for tone of voice & past experience on whether behavior has changed in the past. E.g.:A: "Oh no, I didn't upset you, did I?" :blobsurprised: B: "Uhh..."A: "Oh, crap. I'm so sorry!" :blobscream:
(DIR) Post #640564 by noelle@elekk.xyz
2018-10-19T18:11:58Z
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@Archbeth @InspectorCaracal @aldersprig I remember having to explain to a college friend that there was a substantial difference between "Is it okay if we have a party in your room?" and "It's okay if we have a party in your room, right?".
(DIR) Post #640801 by Archbeth@elekk.xyz
2018-10-19T18:22:15Z
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@noelle @InspectorCaracal @aldersprig Yuuuuup.
(DIR) Post #643415 by TheShyIon@elekk.xyz
2018-10-19T20:23:20Z
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@noelle @Archbeth @InspectorCaracal @aldersprig augh