Post 2974416 by squashedpie@mastodon.social
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(DIR) Post #2417885 by peachidandere@niu.moe
2018-12-30T00:15:01Z
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Why is making friends as an adult virtually impossible
(DIR) Post #2417886 by Ayachiii@niu.moe
2018-12-30T00:42:25Z
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@peachidandere it's hard to get people to stick unless you have common ground like work. I meet plenty of friendly people every week though just being out and about. friends for a minute.
(DIR) Post #2417966 by peachidandere@niu.moe
2018-12-30T00:45:24Z
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@Ayachiii that's been my issue; like I try putting in a lot of effort but then people just bounce out unless they need someone to complain to and that's just exhausting
(DIR) Post #2418033 by Ayachiii@niu.moe
2018-12-30T00:48:31Z
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@peachidandere Yeah I usually won;t put much effort in unless we see each other a lot and we naturally click but that just doesn't happen. Especially since I'm no bar/club goer, don't have much to relate to in others, and I see the same people every day at work who mostly just see me as someone else they're working with.
(DIR) Post #2418167 by peachidandere@niu.moe
2018-12-30T00:53:33Z
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@Ayachiii I can't really work bc of mental health issues so I've tried making friends online elsewhere but the problem with that is people get so /elitist/ about who they're friends w due to follower count and all that jazz so it's slim pickins :cry_konata:
(DIR) Post #2418216 by Ayachiii@niu.moe
2018-12-30T00:56:03Z
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@peachidandere Whether you do or not it hard, I been there. Besides here I'm not big on social media and I'm not in any communities online or off. it's like that everyone everyone is in their own little adult group and they don't bother with much else.
(DIR) Post #2418547 by peachidandere@niu.moe
2018-12-30T01:10:29Z
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@Ayachiii this has been my main form of social media these days. I use reddit and Instagram occasionally but Tumblr was just toxic. I made a friend there and more or less used me in a weird way to play therapist and then just disappeared out of nowhere so I've been rly wary ever since
(DIR) Post #2418629 by Ayachiii@niu.moe
2018-12-30T01:14:34Z
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@peachidandere I had like one friend on tumblr but they eventually disappeared. Therapy when I was in that hole didn't do anything past a point. The best thing I ever did was get more independent for my mental health and get comfortable being that outcast. It gets easier once you get more used to being outside on your own often and interact with people a lot even if mostly short interactions and observing others.
(DIR) Post #2419298 by peachidandere@niu.moe
2018-12-30T01:36:00Z
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@Ayachiii that's kinda how I've always been, I mean I have my boyfriend who's v supportive of me and always there when I need someone ig I'd just like to have one close friend as well ideally
(DIR) Post #2419543 by Ayachiii@niu.moe
2018-12-30T01:45:12Z
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@peachidandere that's all you really need, I don't want much on that front. I don't have a gf, I'm on the fence with someone tho and it won't stop messing with my head cause I have no idea what to do cause of multiple issues going on there.
(DIR) Post #2419714 by peachidandere@niu.moe
2018-12-30T01:51:34Z
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@Ayachiii with situations like that I feel like it's usually better to just have everything out in the open so as to not cause any confusion. It's hard to say without knowing the extent of everything but it's always best to be as open as you can to get through things thoroughly yknow
(DIR) Post #2420025 by Ayachiii@niu.moe
2018-12-30T02:03:57Z
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@peachidandere yeah I should just be honest as possible without being harsh because I don't want to devastate them knowing how that feels but otherwise I'm just not attracted to them and we're worlds apart too in other aspects even if we could probably still have some good times.
(DIR) Post #2420123 by peachidandere@niu.moe
2018-12-30T02:07:34Z
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@Ayachiii forcing a relationship could leave you both really unhappy so I suppose the best thing to do is think it through thoroughly to make sure you know what you want to do
(DIR) Post #2420233 by Ayachiii@niu.moe
2018-12-30T02:11:56Z
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@peachidandere definitely, I know that can't end well so I promised myself I wouldn't go there. I suppose the hardest part is having the talk in first place and giving them some resolve and let the rest take care of itself.
(DIR) Post #2420322 by peachidandere@niu.moe
2018-12-30T02:15:20Z
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@Ayachiii sending good vibes your way pal, honest talks are my weakest point so I get how hard the buildup is. In the end you'll both feel better one way or another just having solid footing in the whole situation
(DIR) Post #2974416 by squashedpie@mastodon.social
2019-01-13T19:33:46Z
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@peachidandere I don’t even try anymore, I’m just forced to small chat with random people that I meet when I tag along somewhere
(DIR) Post #2974417 by peachidandere@niu.moe
2019-01-13T20:05:27Z
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@squashedpie it's just exhausting for me at this point :/ trying to find and maintain relationships with people who don't actually wanna build friendship, they just want someone to talk to casually w no connection. Which isn't a bad thing at all, it's just not what I want
(DIR) Post #2974418 by squashedpie@mastodon.social
2019-01-14T19:44:25Z
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@peachidandere yea as you grow older you see people with lame intentions rather quickly