Post 2844640 by vala@ilovela.in
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(DIR) Post #2844327 by desvox@catgirl.science
2019-01-10T20:46:53.703407Z
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previous: https://catgirl.science/notice/3799808I should have made a post about this yesterday but ive been pretty overwhelmed by a lot of feelings so it was hard for me to sit down and write anything out. Things have actually gone really well coming out to my family. Though going forward with other people I know this may be the last easy part.So my sister did....well, almost all of the work. I called her later that afternoon after she told me about my mom's reaction in the morning but calling 6 hours later, she kinda had a weird mental breakdown.So my mom went to work, got really fucking anxious and emotional, her boss noticed and let her go home. As culty as this sounds, she went to the pastor of her church to vent and get advice on how to handle this in...whatever way christians do when they need advice about their relationship with god. The pastor is actually a really nice person and so is his wife and their kids, and my parents have been very good friends with them for about 6 years now. Hell, even i like them. Though still very christian.His advice was basically that, despite my life being filled with sin, that my parents should continue to support me as much as possible, not disown me, and that they shouldnt treat me any different. He even went as far to say that they should respect my new name, pronouns, and identity in general. So like, thank fucking goodness.Though I know my mom was torn up about this still. She was questioning whether supporting her kids at this point (because my sister is also a "filthy heathen" like me) is getting in the way of her and my dad's relationship with god. Though it seems she's decided that her being a good parent to us is the best she can do.I should mention this was all told to me through my sister, because her and mom talked a lot before i came home. She didnt mention any of this when i called her before I left to go back home. She was actually really accepting of it by the time i got to talk to her. She told me she really liked my new name (Alayna) and would rather support me doing HRT safely than bootlegging it on my own. She offered to take me shopping for new clothes and will give me advice on how to do makeup. Cant say I expected that!!As for my dad, well, i dont know as much. None of us told him anything before he picked me up, so the whole hour we were in the car was awkward but i made it work. He had to unpack some stuff from his business trip so i got to talk to my mom alone for a little while, then when they were back in their room, they got on the phone with my sister and me being the ball of anxiety i am about these things, i havent faced either of them since. However, I did get a very nice message from my dad after they all talked: "Mom and Taylor has updated me about yalls recent conversations. And I understand and quite honestly I'm not very surprised because we have been seeing this for many years. And we do wish the best for you and want you to be happy! And we love you."We talked on telegram for a little while after that. They just ask that they can have some time to adapt but they will use my new name and pronouns. Whether they ever really accept that internally, who knows. But the least I can ask is that they dont misgender me or deadname me, and that makes me really happy that they will not only respect that but will also help with medical expenses. Today I will sit down with them after they come home from work. I also need to do some housework, since thats something they pay me to do, and they will also give me a little extra money to help pay for my pills when I go back to Tulsa tomorrow. My parents and I will find out another way to get treatment, probably when we talk tonight.Im not going to be able to spend all my money on alcohol anymore, which honestly is kind of a blessing because its been making me very sick. Ive been sober for about 2 days now and i feel surprisingly okay. I think having a cup of coffee helped. I am planning on being sober the entire time i stay with Elly and Alex this time, and so are they. It's not easy for any of us but it gives us all a sense of stability, at least.Im not at all sure if being on HRT is helping my mood or if its just the positivity of having friends who care about me, but either way, I feel calmer and overall less depressed than i usually do when im alone. At least since I woke up today. I know I got sad last night.Honestly though, immediately family aside, Im trying to cope with the fact that this may well be the hardest year of my life and dealing with other people about being trans is gonna be hell. Especially the rest of my family, in Louisiana. In fact my parents are traveling to see them next week. I may just stay home or stay in the closet to them.So like, anything could happen. No idea. Im not at all expecting this to be sunshine and rainbows.
(DIR) Post #2844328 by ky0ko@cybre.space
2019-01-10T20:59:27Z
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@desvoxthis is good to hearim glad this is all going well for you
(DIR) Post #2844640 by vala@ilovela.in
2019-01-10T21:09:50Z
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@desvox this honestly went better than i expected. congratulations on getting the hatgirl out of the closet to your closest family and staying sober. wish you the best of luck when it comes to the rest of the extended family and stay smug, hatgirl :lainhappy: