See, here's the thing about depression.
Depression is like nature. You can try to control it and succeed
temporarily. You can try to ignore it, but it won't last. You can be
as happy as can be for longer than you can remember, and you'll be
lulled into a false sense of being over it or "cured". You're
not. Depression will always strike again, and it will always, always,
win.
Just like nature. We can put up dams, levees, and other such
structures to try and control nature. In the end, though, nature will
always be stronger and will break down all barriers. Not matter how
stong you make them, nature will be stronger. This is just a fact, and
something we've seem time and time again.
I believe the cause is similar between the two as well. Any structures
we build will be imperfect in someway, and even if they were perfect,
they will erode and deteriorate. This is fact. It's not that nature
gets stronger; it's that our defences weaken. It is the same with
depression. It is always there, eroding you down, until, eventually
and inevitably, you break.
So, our we sealed in our fate? Well, yeah, actually. However, that
doesn't mean there's nothing we can do. Just because we will break,
doesn't mean we shouldn't try to prolong it (however, not at the risk
of "holding it in", which is far more damaging). We should keep doing
what we're doing becasue sometimes just keeping things at bay is the
best we've got, so we may as well do it as best we can.
There's a more important matter that we can handle, though. Damage
control. After nature destroys towns, the wreckage has to be
controlled and rebuilt. We're no different. Our depression affects
more than just us, and while there's usualy not much we can do about
it at the time, we can certainly do our best to clean up our messes
when the storm passes. In the best case, we have folks to help us
through not only the clean up but also the storm itself. In the worst
case, we have no one. Personally, I find myself fortunate enough to be
in the former situation. I weep for those in the latter.
Postscript: When I talk about depression, I mean clinical, chemical
depression. The kind you get diagnosed with for the rest of your
life. The kind that gets inherited and passed on. The kind where the
doctors try to put you on drugs, and they might help a little bit for
a little while, but in the end are a futile effort. The kind that only
takes one slip to fall back into, but takes every ounce of effort to
get out of, leaving so little of you left that sometimes you wonder if
it was even worth the effort. (It is, of course.) So before any of you
try to start on a "it's just depression; get over it" argument, turn
around, leave, and most importantly, count your blessings and thank
whatever god(s) you might believe in that you don't have this kind of
depression.
Because it sucks.