Janis, I think you hit the nail on the head. Know thyself, and
   you know humanity. Have as much compassion for others as you
   allow for yourself. Seems to be a central tenat in many if not
   more or all of the world's religions and ethical philosophies.
   it's something I work on constantly - fail at much of the time -
   but keep trying. It does make you stronger - and sometimes
   unfortunately you do start to see some people as hamsters on a
   hamster-wheel, for you start to see those traits in yourself and
   recognize it in others. It's not pity so much but understanding.
   "