Yeah. I understand. Not just words there. I really do
   understand.

   Three times I had a phrase said to me which turned my whole
   purpose in life upside down each time:

   "Nobody asked you".

   I would put my all into helping people, but I would take too
   long, not do it the way they wanted to, but usually take longer
   than they wanted to.

   I'd explain myself, why I'm doing I'm doing, being as clear as
   possible, only to hear, "Nobody asked you" from the very people
   I was trying to help.

   Devastating. Emotional turmoil inside that nobody saw.

   After the third time by the same people over a course of years
   [and many times helping them where I _didn't_ hear those words],
   I stopped.

   I stopped helping them. No more initiative from me for their
   benefit. I didn't hate them. Didn't love them. I just stopped
   caring either way about them.

   I decided: "They're right. They didn't ask me."

   I refocused my energies into finding out what was important to
   me. I've been on that quest since. But it was hard, hearing
   exactly the words I didn't want to ever hear. In the end it
   helped. That's why I said what I did. It may or may not apply to
   you but all I can share is my story.

   In short, by agreeing with the very thing I didn't want to hear
   and transforming it into freedom, I gained new purpose and
   focus.