date: Mon 28 Apr 2025 10:00:43 PM PDT
sub: being a new parent early twins
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My wife and I decided to have a child about 9 months ago. Once
we found out she was pregnant and we went to find more
information at the doctors office, we were informed she has two
babies in her womb. I think we almost died with disbelief that
day (10/10/2025). I was in shock. I didn't think do financial
planning for two children. All my plans for one child were
over the bounds of my financial runway already, but two babies!
This isn't really happening. When the midwife said with a joy
and a smile "There's at least two in there." I thought at least!
There could be more than two! I think the blood drained from my
head. I couldn't reconcile how we were going to manage two
children financially. That night sleep escaped my grasp. The
next day my work announced a strike, then shortly after started
laying off workers. A few nights later I started having
fasciculations. Today my fasciculations are nearly as bad as
they were, and my stress level and shock faded, but wow what a
time. I'm still in disbelief about having twins. Its like a
dream of some sort, not real. I would say my actual dreams are
the real life, but you must sleep for those to appear. 

My wife just delivered our twins. They came early, and they are
very small. One was 5 lbs 1 oz, the other was 3 lbs, 6 oz. So
small. We were so happy to finally meet them at the hospital. It
was a huge day. I think one of the happiest days of my life. So
much joy and love. My wife's recover started going well, and
although its a struggle she seems to be good. Our babies were
in a different circumstance. They both wwent to the NICU. Our
larger twin boy was released first. They sent him home with us
and we were so excited. But being a parent isn't  like owning a
puppy. The smaller the baby the more work is required right
away, and already being exhausted its a tremendous amount of
work in terms keeping a baby happy, fed, and clean. Not having
any experience its mind blowing. 

We celebrated making it through the first 24 hours. Our
celebration was short lived. We had pediatrician appointment on
his second day at home, and found out he lost weight instead of
gaining weight. The pediatrician said you must feed your baby
every two hours. You are going to be sleep deprived. Oh my gosh.
This is incredible and daunting because my wife went a few days
with 1 to 3 hours of sleep a night for the last 6 days already.
Tears filled our eyes, and fear filled our hearts. I hope we can
do this. We take it 2 hours at a time. That's all we can hope for
get to the next feeding. We have no idea how we will manage when
our girl gets out of the NICU.


Its all a huge dream and fantasy until you get hit in the face
with the reality, this is probably the hardest thing a person
can do, raise twins!