Can anyone help me find an IRC/XMPP service (or server?)…
reddit / irc

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longshotforyourlove · 2023-12-22 05:10

In the real world, my life is pretty horrible… I’ve recently relapsed
again after finding out my very own father disowned me —WHEN HE WAS
THE ONE WHO PHYSCIALLY ASSAULTED & ABUSED me daily for years…

Yeah, I’m sorry to be such a bummer. I can’t find a place I feel like
I really belong, I have a truly wonderful girlfriend by my side but
her friends can’t also be my friends… There’s an obligation there for
them to like me, even more so because she is literally their boss.

I’d like to use IRC/XMPP on Thunderbird… I hope that doesn’t severely
limit my options… I just am in love with the UI & I’ve spent way too
much time making it my own.

How does one go about finding an IRC/XMPP chat room? Do I really have
to sign up for a dozen different websites every time I want to just
talk to other people? Can I link it to Thunderbird? The only chat room
I’m sort of regular on is the one on SLSK… idk if that counts… can I
link that to Thunderbird?

…thanks, sorry to be a boring trite old depressed person for most of
this… I just… I need more people than just my girlfriend who’s been
the only friend I’ve had since I first got clean 3-4 years ago…

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HexagonWin · 2023-12-22 14:39

for irc you can just connect/register on irc servers of your choice
like libera, not sure about xmpp as i've never used it properly.

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evilgold · 2023-12-22 16:05

IRC you can browse public servers for, XMPP sort of has public chats
but its not really common place, what you're looking for would mostly
be found on IRC and perhaps Matrix.

For IRC you can just join most servers, I'm not familiar with
thunderbird but to get started I'd suggest looking at
https://kiwiirc.com and browing the servers there till you're familiar
then decide if Thunderbird is the right tool for what you want.

For matrix you can join at https://matrix.org although many other
public servers exist the .org is the most populated and you can browse
public rooms from there as well.