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Subj : Re: This Train Just Went Splat!
To   : alt.tv.er
From : Sharon
Date : Sat Sep 24 2005 22:07:03

From Newsgroup: alt.tv.er

>> But it's not a parental responsibility.  Do parents 'teach' children to
>> walk?

> yes, parents do teach children to walk.

Actually it's a milestone brought on by many inherant skills that come with 
growth and maturity. Yes, modeling the milestone helps, but healthy children 
walk with age, not teaching.

>>Do they force them to talk before they're ready?

> though not forced, it is a skill that parents need to teach their child.

Again, it's a skill that comes with modeling. Children learn language 
through many avenues, one being what's called motherese where they imitate 
sounds. Phyl can jump in here.

> it a 12 year old needs a teddy bear everyday because they are unable to 
> cope without one, yes, parents need to phase it out and give the child 
> other coping skills

I've had this discussion with my son's psychologist and his opinion was 
vastly different. A teddy Bear at bedtime or at home during the day when 
stressed used as a self soother is not bad at all. Eventually children move 
on to other soothing devices and finally learn to cope internally with 
mature thought and rationalization.

> one of my nephews wanted to keep nursing when my sister was done (he was 
> about 15 months old).  he used her as a pacifier to fall asleep.  he is 
> not emotionally harmed because he was forced to give it up (though the 
> first several nights he did scream and cry a lot) and he has no lasting 
> effects from this experience.    i would be interested to see the proof 
> that breastfeeding an older child is not damaging because in my 
> experiences, I seen the opposite

I'm sorry your experience with your sister's children was negative. When you 
have your own children you'll make your own decisions and unfortunately be 
the center of other peoples' opinion of what may or may not be good 
parenting. Simply nod when they give you their advice and do what you know 
to be right based on your own research, discussion with pediatrician and 
most of all, your gut feeling.

>don't try telling that to my sister, she was biten several times where 
>blood was drawn

I've been nipped, but never to the point of blood letting! OUCH

I guess there has to come a point where we understand that there are 
differing view points, vastly different experiences and a whole lot of 
research out there. As with so many ER episodes, this one found its PSA and 
we've latched onto it! Always good for discussion.

-Sharon

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