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Boundaries need no explanation [1]

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Date: 2026-04-20  

I don’t have to tell you why the boundary is there

There’s a misconception out there, that boundaries need explanations, that people have to understand “why” a boundary exists. So let me explain boundaries to those who don’t get it as if they were 5. No means NO.

That’s all anyone needs to know of boundaries to respect them. Now individually, explanations may be offered, but they are not owed to anyone, any time, anywhere. And let’s be clear we are talking about personal boundaries, not work rules, codes of conduct, or ethical rules which are spelled out for people when they enter whatever function or establishment (even schools) they enter.

The waiter does not ask me why I say “No onions” they understand No means no. The cashier understands if they ask me “do you want a fidelity card” and I say no. In almost every other circumstance in life if a person says NO it is respected even when folks don’t know why we say no. But somehow when it comes to our bodies and sexual advances, everything is up for debates and negotiations? NO it means effing NO.

I do not owe anyone my reasons for saying no, I do not owe them my life story and experiences for saying no, I do not owe them any effing thing but NO. My boundaries are mine. I set them for MY reasons. As does everyone else. It is my choice, if you knock on said gate to say yes, no or get the eff off my property. Think of it as a Stand your Body law.

Would you like some fries? NO. Would you like to charge that? NO. Would you like to sit down? NO. May I help you with that? NO. Would you like to dance? NO. Wanna go out? NO. The why doesn’t matter, it can range from I’m tired, bored, ill, don’t like your face, I’m not interested, I’m busy to I ain’t in the fucking mood. NO means NO. A 3 year old understands this.

Stop trying to find excuses for abhorrent behaviors. Stop trying to see the side of abusers, aggressors and bullies. Their side is simple, they wanted sex and they got a no and now they mad. That’s it. They are not looking for explanations, they are looking for excuses as to why even after NO they persisted sometimes to the point of harassment, abuse, rape or murder.

And take note: The NO can be verbal. It can’t be silent! Pulling away is NO. walking away is NO. Not responding is NO. Running is NO. they all mean NO.

No one should feel under pressure by society, peers, etc… to give a reason as to why they rejected / refused sexual advances! NO One!

#TheAmericanHaitianPoet

Muriel Vieux – April 20th, 2026 – ©All rights reserved

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