[HN Gopher] OkCupid gave 3M dating-app photos to facial recognit...
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       OkCupid gave 3M dating-app photos to facial recognition firm, FTC
       says
        
       Author : whiteboardr
       Score  : 271 points
       Date   : 2026-03-31 17:55 UTC (5 hours ago)
        
 (HTM) web link (arstechnica.com)
 (TXT) w3m dump (arstechnica.com)
        
       | everdrive wrote:
       | At this point, nearly every online service should be considered
       | hostile. If they can make a small amount of money by compromising
       | your privacy or your identity, they will. If they can make a
       | small amount of money by stealing your attention and addicting
       | you, they will.
       | 
       | Are there exceptions? I'm sure. Will I be erring sometimes by
       | being cautious? Definitely. But, there is really not much of an
       | alternative these days.
        
         | stephenhuey wrote:
         | I have long wondered about the market size for privacy-focused
         | apps. Sure, plenty of people don't know or don't care to value
         | that, but if there are enough, maybe you could have a whole set
         | of apps that emphasize they are not seeking world domination or
         | selling out to the highest bidder, and a major selling point
         | for using them would be that they are not < your expected
         | chat/dating/photo/social site >.
         | 
         | Am I too idealistic? If such apps are not aggressively seeking
         | hyper growth, it seems like these more trustworthy services
         | could be deployed to cheap servers and let people use them for
         | cheap without having to resort to selling user data.
        
           | throwway120385 wrote:
           | The problem is that large-scale use of the Internet for
           | social networks and for organizing meetings in real life is
           | fundamentally incompatible with privacy. It works for small,
           | tight-knit insular groups, but as soon as you expand the
           | scope of the network to include acquaintances and friends of
           | friends you'll eventually find a connection to someone who
           | cares less about privacy than about making a buck.
           | 
           | If we had a sort of "federated" system we'd still have this
           | problem because you might always find yourself federated with
           | someone who just wants to sell the information.
           | 
           | It's a cultural problem within this hyper-aggressive version
           | of Capitalism that we've adopted, that even data about people
           | has value. Until we decide as a culture that this kind of
           | data sale or data use is shameful and unacceptable we'll be
           | in this situation no matter what technical solution we adopt.
        
           | nemomarx wrote:
           | Users who want to be private and are willing to pay extra for
           | it are necessarily highly valuable for data brokers and
           | advertisers. So incentives always push towards betraying them
           | eventually I think.
        
             | jmye wrote:
             | Is that true? Not arguing, just curious. I would imagine
             | that the highly valuable users are those most likely to buy
             | things, and people that into privacy would be fundamentally
             | more likely to also go to extremes to block that
             | advertising, but this is very much not my area.
        
           | kube-system wrote:
           | This is a multi-axis problem.
           | 
           | On one spectrum, you have privacy -- at one extreme, the most
           | private of people don't even use social apps, they are
           | traditionally private people. At the other extreme, you have
           | the highest consumers of apps -- the people who demand
           | sharing the most.
           | 
           | On the other spectrum, you have technical acuity -- at one
           | extreme you have people who can audit software they use and
           | verify that it actually does what it says -- at the other
           | extreme, you have people who have no clue and will believe
           | whatever is convincing.
           | 
           | Given this, the market for "app that enables sharing, but has
           | privacy controls, and is verifiably so" is a tiny circle
           | somewhere in the middle of this grid.
        
             | JohnFen wrote:
             | > at one extreme you have people who can audit software
             | they use and verify that it actually does what it says
             | 
             | Unless the software sends data off to the cloud or a sever
             | somewhere. You can't audit what happens there.
        
               | kube-system wrote:
               | I was referring to the acuity of potential users, who
               | like you, would be able to identify that.
        
           | nonameiguess wrote:
           | Not privacy-focused, but OKCupid itself fit many of your
           | requirements when it first came out. It wasn't aggressively
           | seeking hyper growth and barely marketed outside of existing
           | SparkNotes and SparkMatch users. It was just a few math nerds
           | at Harvard that wanted to model human romantic compatibility
           | by categorizing you into a shareable cutely named personality
           | type, and they bolted on crowd-sourced questions to see if
           | whatever they hadn't thought of themselves might be relevant.
           | 
           | Ten years later, the social media revolution is in full
           | swing, the relatively small service they built that had
           | catered mostly to nerds was suddenly lucrative, and they sell
           | to Match Group and this happens.
           | 
           | To be entirely fair to these guys, I don't think they came
           | into it intending to sell out as their long-term goal. But
           | four guys who got into data analytics in college also didn't
           | find themselves as their mid-30s approached particularly
           | wanting to run a dating service for the rest of their lives,
           | either.
           | 
           | Whatever happened to FetLife? If any dating service had to be
           | privacy-focused, that was it.
        
           | JohnFen wrote:
           | > I have long wondered about the market size for privacy-
           | focused apps.
           | 
           | The real problem is how to trust that a "privacy-focused" app
           | is actually privacy-focused. You certainly can't take the
           | publisher's word for it.
           | 
           | The only safe stance is to withhold as much personal
           | information from as much software and services as possible.
        
             | pesus wrote:
             | Even if they were initially trustworthy, it's surely only a
             | matter of time before they start wanting/needing to make
             | (more) money and start abandoning their principles in
             | pursuit of profit.
        
               | neuralRiot wrote:
               | Or the company is sold to a big corp that doesn't give a
               | dammn about or privacy or one whose goal is to actually
               | get the data.
        
             | asveikau wrote:
             | > The real problem is how to trust that a "privacy-focused"
             | app is actually privacy-focused
             | 
             | I think the real problem is actually that legislative
             | bodies will make privacy focused apps illegal. California
             | AB 1043 is an example of what can happen.
        
             | OkayPhysicist wrote:
             | If a company wanted to, they absolutely could include
             | something along the lines of "If we violate the terms of
             | this privacy policy, we owe all affected users $1000" in
             | their Terms of Service. Pointing a gun at their own head to
             | prove that they're serious. Companies don't do this,
             | because they are cowards.
        
           | gjsman-1000 wrote:
           | > Am I too idealistic?
           | 
           | Open source developers are wildly idealistic. In the rest of
           | the world, I have finally internalized...
           | 
           | 1. Most people say they care about privacy... but won't spend
           | even $1 for it. They care about their privacy about as much
           | as an open source developer cares about user experience. Just
           | extract the tarball, it's not that hard.
           | 
           | 2. Most people don't care about technology and want it out of
           | their lives. They don't want to know what sideloading is.
           | They don't want to know how to discern safe from dangerous.
           | And they aren't wrong. How many open source developers know
           | how to drive manual? Car enthusiasts have just as much of a
           | righteous claim to attention, after all. The model railroad
           | enthusiasts are also upset by our community's lack of
           | attention. Every enthusiast, in every field, hundreds of
           | them, are upset by lack of mainstream attention, and this
           | will never change.
           | 
           | 3. Linux and open source software in general are not even
           | close to being popular on the desktop. Gaming and web
           | browsing is a tiny subset of what people buy PCs to do, and
           | Linux isn't even close on the rest. Even the gaming success
           | is so niche it's irrelevant in the grand scheme of things
           | (Switch 2 outsold 3 years Steam Deck sales in the first 24
           | hours).
           | 
           | 4. Some of this optimism was deluded from the start. Like
           | when Stallman said we can defeat proprietary software with
           | open source, then openly admitted he had no idea how any open
           | source developers could afford rent. "If everyone works for
           | free, while the big companies stop working, we could get
           | ahead" is gobsmackingly naive and it's honestly astounding
           | anyone fell for it.
        
           | dfxm12 wrote:
           | Popular apps, like OKCupid, will get bought, along with their
           | user data. Also, mission creeps when management changes.
           | 
           | I mean, an app that starts out as "privacy focused" won't
           | necessarily stay that way.
        
           | fsflover wrote:
           | F-Droid is the app store for such apps. FLOSS requirement
           | ensures that everyone can verify the claims.
        
           | michaelchisari wrote:
           | I'd ask what's the market size for an app with a truly great
           | user experience then ask if adding basic privacy (we don't
           | sell your data) helps at all.
           | 
           | There's a perfect storm of apps getting worse, more
           | predatory, less scrupulous, etc. People may not care about
           | one of those but the market for an app that cares about all
           | of them could be popular.
           | 
           | Problem is the business model. A subscription model where the
           | users are _directly_ the customers, free accounts don 't
           | exist, and nothing is ever ad-supported is the only viable
           | option.
           | 
           | Ten years ago that was a non-starter. People got so much
           | functionality for free. Now? We're seeing the cost of free.
           | Ten years from now? Paying a subscription to not have to deal
           | with the nuclear-level bs they'll be throwing at us will seem
           | like a no-brainer.
        
         | uoaei wrote:
         | The persistence of data means that if you expect a firm to
         | eventually become hostile, you should treat them as hostile
         | today.
        
         | prepend wrote:
         | I've never posted information anywhere off a machine that I
         | control unless I'm comfortable with it being sold or made
         | public.
         | 
         | Reduces anxiety.
        
           | cromka wrote:
           | That's great if you live like it's still the 90s.
        
             | pwndByDeath wrote:
             | I guess I have no sympathy for the addicts, let the social
             | media hyper capitalists consume your FOMO lives, I'll find
             | value elsewhere. It is sad to see how pathetic we are and
             | yet have so much potential.
        
             | stickfigure wrote:
             | So the answer is to go back to the 80s and not have social
             | software at all?
        
         | Simulacra wrote:
         | Another point to add, is that old saying: if the service is
         | free, you are the product. I have long considered that dating
         | apps are taking all of our data, and selling it. What's more
         | personal than social media? What do you think about dating. Who
         | you swipe on, the information you put in there, all deeply
         | personal. Sometimes more so than what you put on places like
         | Facebook
        
         | andai wrote:
         | I want to say "we structured the system like that, right?",
         | i.e. maximize profit at all costs.
         | 
         | But it seems to be the natural outcome of the incentives, of an
         | organization made of organisms in an entropy-based simulation.
         | 
         | i.e. the problem might be _slightly_ deeper than an economic or
         | political model. That being said, we might see something
         | approximating post-scarcity economics in our lifetimes, which
         | will be very interesting.
         | 
         | In the meantime... we might fiddle with the incentives a bit ;)
        
           | als0 wrote:
           | > we might see something approximating post-scarcity
           | economics in our lifetimes
           | 
           | Can you elaborate more on this? All I see is growing
           | inequality.
        
             | hamdingers wrote:
             | The upper arm of the K shaped economy uses their capital
             | invent and control the replicator and the lower arm dies
             | off? Seems like the most realistic path to "post-scarcity"
             | from where we're standing now.
        
         | freeAgent wrote:
         | This sort of stuff continues to ramp up as everyone rushes to
         | train LLMs while governments are pushing for ID verification
         | that would make it impossible to use the web (or even one's own
         | computer) anonymously. It's a very dark time for anyone who
         | cares whatsoever about privacy or digital sovereignty.
        
           | rdevilla wrote:
           | Nonsense, I have it on good authority that the old internet
           | sans LLM surveillance capitalism is still alive and well. You
           | just stopped going there.
        
       | baldrunner2049 wrote:
       | Counting the number of comments in this thread 50 minutes later
       | (2 including mine), I can just extrapolate most of HNers have an
       | OKCupid account
        
         | tenderfault wrote:
         | no comment
        
         | amiantos wrote:
         | Considering how long OKCupid has been around, there's a good
         | chance a significant majority of internet-using millennials
         | have had an account at some point in their lives.
        
         | morkalork wrote:
         | It _was_ good. I can 't tell you if it is anymore tho
        
         | glerk wrote:
         | I never created an OkCupid account, but I've had someone create
         | an account with my name and pictures for who knows what
         | purpose. Getting it closed required me sending OkCupid my ID
         | and a selfie after a couple of angry emails threatening legal
         | action. No way around it and no way to know what they did with
         | it afterwards.
        
       | Igor_Wiwi wrote:
       | Reminds me of another story when 23andme sold dna data
       | https://www.npr.org/2025/06/30/nx-s1-5451398/23andme-sale-ap...
        
         | KennyBlanken wrote:
         | I remember warning everyone I knew that 23andme was about to go
         | bankrupt and this would almost certainly mean all their data
         | being sold to anyone they could.
         | 
         | I was dismissed. "The privacy policy doesn't allow it"
         | 
         | Peeps: privacy policies are not binding agreements, and even if
         | they were, it _always_ allows a corporation to sell your data.
         | 
         |  _Always_.
         | 
         | No matter what it says today, because literally tomorrow they
         | can change it to whatever they want.
        
         | cromka wrote:
         | Didn't this actually _not_ happen at the end of the day?
        
       | ge96 wrote:
       | At least back then it was just 2D Tinder for verified you have to
       | do the side to side maybe photogrammetry
       | 
       | I don't participate in this stuff anymore the dating app algos
       | have put me in the ugly stack, sad but true
       | 
       | Also nowadays hard to tell if people are real
        
       | ChrisArchitect wrote:
       | [dupe] Discussion on source:
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=47575616
        
       | ex1fm3ta wrote:
       | The vast majority of users have not idea what exif metadata are.
       | It's probably time to look it up. You know that automatic
       | geographic location data that shows up in your favourite photo
       | app ... There you go.
        
       | cmxch wrote:
       | Between this and "date safety" invasions of privacy, maybe have a
       | discussion on data ownership and privacy?
        
       | josefritzishere wrote:
       | Does this still leave them open to liabi9lity in a class action
       | lawsuit? The criminality is staggering.
        
       | aitchnyu wrote:
       | Google GCP updates me with a list of third party subprocessors
       | which potentially interact with my data. All end users of any
       | service should be informed of direct and transitive
       | subprocessors.
        
       | Lio wrote:
       | > _The alleged conduct at issue does not reflect how OkCupid
       | operates today._
       | 
       | I mean, come on. This bullshit is what you said before.
       | 
       | You haven't changed, you're just pissed off you caught but a bit
       | smug you got away with it scott free.
        
       | amelius wrote:
       | In these cases can we use 3.0M to disambiguate from the company
       | name?
        
       | doodlebugging wrote:
       | I suspect that instead of them "giving" the photos to the facial
       | recognition firm they sold them. Those photos and the PII data
       | associated with them are the only things of value that a site
       | like OKCupid controls.
        
         | IncreasePosts wrote:
         | The company was run by someone on the board of directors for ok
         | cupid so it likely was just given
        
         | thinkcontext wrote:
         | You are wrong, the article discusses this in detail.
        
         | Bengalilol wrote:
         | > But even if they had no "commercial agreement," Zeiler
         | [Clarifai CEO] told the Times that his company gained access to
         | user photos because some of OkCupid's founders invested in
         | Clarifai.
         | 
         | And
         | 
         | > In September 2014, the CEO of Clarifai, Inc. e-mailed one of
         | OkCupid's founders requesting that Humor Rainbow give Clarifai,
         | Inc. (i.e., the Data Recipient) access to large datasets of
         | OkCupid photos. Despite not having any business relationship
         | with Humor Rainbow, the Data Recipient sought Humor Rainbow's
         | assistance because each of OkCupid's founders, including Humor
         | Rainbow's President and Match Group, LLC's CEO, were
         | financially invested in the Data Recipient.
        
           | neilv wrote:
           | Lawyers: Besides whatever issue the company(ies) and
           | investors might have with that behavior (self-dealing?),
           | could it also let wronged individuals pierce the corporate
           | veil, to go after personal assets?
           | 
           | Could this be the backstabbing surveillance capitalism
           | incident that finally gives pause to tech executives?
        
       | Theodores wrote:
       | From what I understand, most profiles in dating sites are ghosts
       | or bots of some sort. As for what is left, there will be those
       | photos of six foot tall men that happen to be five foot and
       | exaggerating somewhat. As for age information, isn't everyone
       | lying about that?
       | 
       | All considered, I can't think of a worse database to train facial
       | recognition on.
        
       | glerk wrote:
       | I'm going to say this plainly for the log trace: once the flip
       | switches and these evil corporations and their human appendages
       | are stripped of any amount of power, I hope the correction will
       | take the form of "re-education" rather than mere emotional
       | retribution.
        
         | ssl-3 wrote:
         | That'd be nice. But if it is even possible, we won't be around
         | to see it happen.
        
         | mschuster91 wrote:
         | > I hope the correction will take the form of "re-education"
         | rather than mere emotional retribution.
         | 
         | Why? There is no re-education that could make someone like Sam
         | Altman, Elon Musk, Donald Trump or the people behind Match
         | Group be a net positive contributor to society again.
         | 
         | Therefore... I'm fine with everything that makes them suffer,
         | just like they made us all suffer.
        
       | nova22033 wrote:
       | _OkCupid and Match do not have to pay a financial penalty_
        
       | cineticdaffodil wrote:
       | Joke is on them i generated that face
        
       | ianberdin wrote:
       | If people can misuse - they will.
        
       | bensyverson wrote:
       | Oh man... all across Chicago, lawyers are popping champagne right
       | now. [0]
       | 
       | [0]:
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biometric_Information_Privacy_...
        
         | cromka wrote:
         | "The Act prescribes $1,000 per violation, and $5,000 per
         | violation if the violation is intentional or reckless."
         | 
         | Per violation. Wow.
        
       | tantalor wrote:
       | Oh, not https://www.3m.com/
        
       | saintfire wrote:
       | "... agreed to a permanent prohibition barring them from
       | misrepresenting how they use and share personal data. "
       | 
       | So... Their punishment for breaking the law is having to promise
       | to follow the law going forward?
       | 
       | I wish I had that superpower, too.
        
       | cromka wrote:
       | Looking forward to my 30 USD class action compensation.
        
       | JoeAltmaier wrote:
       | In a free market the company that makes every cent they can has a
       | survival advantage. Enough time and transactions and the market
       | will be made entirely of survivors. The rest will have been out-
       | competed.
       | 
       | One counter-pressure is regulation. But hey the US has a fetish
       | about deregulation and so here we are.
        
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