[HN Gopher] The happiest I've ever been
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       The happiest I've ever been
        
       Author : bewal416
       Score  : 241 points
       Date   : 2026-02-26 04:13 UTC (2 days ago)
        
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       | hyperhello wrote:
       | > For years, you've sat in front of a rectangle, moving tinier
       | rectangles, only to learn that AI can now move those rectangles
       | 10x better.
       | 
       | In response to this I would say that being in the industry comes
       | with a lot of learned role-playing, and if you are no longer
       | happy role-playing your job in one way, throw it entirely out and
       | find a new path.
        
         | SoftTalker wrote:
         | > only to learn that AI can now move those rectangles 10x
         | better
         | 
         | Teams are already using AI to scout opponents and plan game
         | strategy. IDK how much that will ever happen at the youth level
         | because they generally don't keep detailed stats at that age
         | but it will be coming to high school sports for sure, if it
         | isn't already being used.
        
       | reconnecting wrote:
       | The latest developments in digital culture are somehow more
       | frustrating than anything I saw in the previous 26 years.
       | Experience is replaced by prompts. Taste perfected over the years
       | with defaults.
       | 
       | I'm not afraid of competition with AI-driven competitors -- I'm
       | afraid of people replacing real beauty with A/B mechanics.
       | 
       | Perhaps this is indeed a good moment to switch to offline.
       | 
       | Thank you for sharing your inspiring example.
        
         | jnovek wrote:
         | I started programming when I was eleven years old and I'm now
         | in my 40s. I have no idea what to do with the rest of my life.
        
           | reconnecting wrote:
           | Same here. I've long had the feeling that the internet could
           | somehow help the world, but honestly, I don't feel that's the
           | case anymore.
        
             | reconnecting wrote:
             | jnovek, don't listen to him! Piracy is never the way.
             | 
             | https://youtu.be/9fUjwV4j-H0 (The Offspring - Have You
             | Ever)
        
               | mvanbaak wrote:
               | What if the the alternatives are worse?
        
             | DougN7 wrote:
             | There is a whole lot of crap out there. But I think the
             | Internet HAS been a game changer in lifting people out of
             | poverty and increasing standards of living. Communication
             | is awesome. And although there is a lot of propaganda
             | (which there has always been) there is now also a lot of
             | truth and counter claims. It's no longer just the rich that
             | have access to information (think of farmers guessing at
             | what their crop was worth). I _hope_ AI will do similarly,
             | but I have my doubts on that one.
        
               | reconnecting wrote:
               | The irony of the moment is that a billionaire in a
               | Michelin-star restaurant and a homeless person on the
               | street are scrolling through the same Instagram feed.
        
           | derektank wrote:
           | "Have you ever considered piracy? You'd make a wonderful
           | Dread Pirate Roberts"
           | 
           | https://youtu.be/IIbeFgaYTNs
        
           | Remnant44 wrote:
           | There's a whole lot of us out there. I don't know if there's
           | still a future in the thing that I love, which is where all
           | the malaise comes from.
        
           | kakacik wrote:
           | Do w hat we did in corporate/banking/other sociopathic envs
           | did decades ago - find another source of fulfillment and
           | happiness. For me its adventures and sports and kids, could
           | be something else for the next joe.
           | 
           | Or just code as you want as a hobby, unrestrained, for
           | whatever you need or makes you happy.
        
         | pixl97 wrote:
         | >I'm afraid of people replacing real beauty with A/B mechanics.
         | 
         | This has been happening for at least a decade now, no help from
         | LLMs needed.
        
       | dgritsko wrote:
       | These blog posts are fascinating to read. I don't have a personal
       | blog, but if I did I'm sure I would've written a very similar
       | post as I've been wrestling with similar thoughts over the last
       | few weeks. I have the distinct sense that I will look back on
       | February 2026 as an inflection point, where AI crossed over from
       | being an interesting parlor trick to something that fundamentally
       | and irreversibly altered what I do day-to-day. It's bittersweet,
       | for sure - it feels inevitable that the craft of software
       | development that I've loved for years will be seen as an archaic
       | relic at some point in the not too distant future. It may be
       | several years yet before the impact is broadly felt (the full
       | impact of today's frontier models has yet to be felt by the
       | general public - to say nothing of models that will be released
       | in the next few years) but this train doesn't seem to be slowing
       | down anytime soon. This post was a helpful reminder that who I am
       | is not defined by the code I write (or don't write) - there's so
       | much more to life than code.
        
         | DonThomasitos wrote:
         | One part of me tries to resist and tell you that our craft is
         | not becoming an archaic relic, the other half already knows
         | you're right. We just can't put the ghost back into the bottle
         | and now's a good time to re-calibrate your passion.
        
           | bityard wrote:
           | I look at it like this: Yes, AI can write code. It can write
           | it much faster than I can. Sometimes it can also write it
           | better than I can.
           | 
           | But: programming languages, libraries, and abstractions are
           | not going away. It is still possible (and might always be
           | possible) to get deep into the weeds of Python or Rust or
           | whatever to understand how those work and really harness them
           | to their full potential, or develop them further. It just
           | won't be _compulsary_ (in most industries) if your only goal
           | is to trade lines of code for dollars in your bank account.
        
         | UncleOxidant wrote:
         | > (the full impact of today's frontier models has yet to be
         | felt by the general public - to say nothing of models that will
         | be released in the next few years)
         | 
         | We definitely saw some kind of non-linear step function jump in
         | quality around the beginning of the year - it's hard to express
         | how good Claude opus/sonnet 4.6 is now. However, I wonder if
         | we're going to see the same kind of improvement from here? It's
         | kind of like we got to the 80% point but the next 20% is going
         | to be a lot harder/take longer than that first 80% (pareto
         | principle). Also, as more and more code out there is AI
         | generated it's going to be like the snake eating it's own tail.
         | Training models on AI generated code doesn't seem like it will
         | lead to improvements.
        
       | internet2000 wrote:
       | The moving tiny rectangles framing is interesting, it gets to the
       | heart of why I find all the anti-AI takes so difficult to
       | comprehend. If you never made any effort to connect what you do
       | with what value is added in real life, then it's no wonder better
       | tooling is leaving you lost. Programming (other than code golf)
       | has always been an implementation detail for solving problems
       | IRL.
        
         | voxl wrote:
         | If you've never made any effort to connect what you do to the
         | underlying mathematics, then no wonder you think it's all an
         | "automatible" implementation detail, despite three decades of
         | the industry trying and failing.
        
           | logicprog wrote:
           | What about mathematics means coding isn't automatible?
           | 
           | Also, hasen't coding gone through many waves of automation
           | now?
        
         | SoftTalker wrote:
         | The programming itself is the reward for people who love doing
         | it. It attracts the sort of detail-oriented thinkers who enjoy
         | the doing and don't frame everything in terms of "value added."
         | 
         | AI is attractive to the sorts of people who have their
         | secretary write their Christmas cards.
        
           | cataphract wrote:
           | I think there's a middle ground. I like coming up with
           | solutions to problems (mostly technical problems, may even be
           | very low level ones). But I always found writing the code
           | generally tedious. Basically, once I had a good detailed idea
           | of what the implementation would look like, actually
           | executing the plan would bore me.
           | 
           | AI is still not competent enough to come up with good
           | solutions in many things I work on. So, at least so far, AI
           | has made me happier.
        
           | signatoremo wrote:
           | AI helps you to focus on the aspects that you are interested
           | in. Perhaps you care about database nifty stuff, but you may
           | need the front end to make an end to end solution. You can
           | delegate that part to AI
        
         | tadfisher wrote:
         | Carpentry has always been an implementation detail for making
         | furniture. They have been able to purchase flat-pack chairs for
         | all of their lives, but for some reason there are people who
         | learn this skill and have fun slowly making things that
         | factories already make at scale. A subset of those people have
         | made lucrative businesses out of the very human craft that is
         | carpentry, and are able to create custom pieces on-demand that
         | you could never justify retooling a factory to create.
         | 
         | It is okay to view code as a means to an end. I disagree,
         | preferring to treat code as craft, and striving for better
         | systems that are easy to understand, maintain and extend. And I
         | think that's the source of our disconnect; deeper than one's
         | opinion about AI is one's value of human skill and the effect
         | that has on the output. Maybe I overvalue it, and maybe
         | creating code "manually" is going to look more like carpentry
         | in the future; but you cannot expect to convince a skilled
         | carpenter that an IKEA chair is just as good and accomplishes
         | the same task.
        
         | skuxxlife wrote:
         | If you see programming purely as a means to an end, then yeah,
         | I get this perspective. But to many there is enjoyment in the
         | _doing_ and the craft of it beyond the end result. It's why
         | people get into woodworking or knitting despite the fact that
         | it's much cheaper, faster, and easier to buy a table or a
         | sweater than to make one yourself. Value is subjective, and for
         | some the value of code is not primarily in what you can sell to
         | others.
        
         | davnicwil wrote:
         | I think all it means when we say 'solve problems in real life'
         | is just the stuff you have to do that tooling can't abstract
         | you away from any more.
         | 
         | The sharp end of the debate now is around what exactly that
         | means in the LLM world. It's extremely unclear what exactly the
         | new level of abstraction unlocked is, or at least how
         | general/leaky it is.
         | 
         | There's obviously just the stance of enjoying the craft, and
         | that's one thing off to the side, but I think the major source
         | of conflict for those who are more oriented towards living in
         | the top level of abstraction (i.e. what you can do in real
         | life) is between some of the claims being pushed about said
         | level of abstraction and what many still experience in actual
         | reality using these tools.
        
       | tayo42 wrote:
       | I just wrote my own blog post thinking about this. I guess alot
       | of us feel kind of weird right now.
        
         | mmmm2 wrote:
         | Yeah, I decided to become a "professional" musician a few
         | months ago after quitting my last tech job. I'm not amazing,
         | but I've got some places to play, and I'm starting to give
         | lessons, etc.
         | 
         | It's not an easy job, but I feel something I haven't felt in a
         | long time as a software developer: fulfillment and contentment.
         | Best of luck to anyone on a similar journey.
        
           | tayo42 wrote:
           | If I didn't have a mortgage and family that would work!
        
         | sntran wrote:
         | I feel similarly. Being laid off and doing job search recently
         | got me thinking about switching to become an electrician. I
         | don't mind starting over and lower wage, but mortgage and
         | family depending on me still hold me off.
        
           | tryauuum wrote:
           | any electricians here who want to give a piece of advice?
        
           | EddieB wrote:
           | Had this thought multiple times over the years. However,
           | reality in the UK is training cost and time (~2 years with 2
           | days a week college + at least ~PS5k cost and further 2 years
           | gaining experience) can be quite a blocker- difficult to
           | achieve with dependents for most. Then throw in the reality
           | of domestic work and building up experience. Greener grass
           | and all that
        
         | gobeavs wrote:
         | Curious to read if you want to share a link. I've been thinking
         | about this too.
        
       | fortzi wrote:
       | OP might love tech, but he sure doesn't sound like he loved the
       | craft.
       | 
       | Describing it as sitting in front of a rectangle, moving all
       | rectangles around is so reductive.
        
         | gombosg wrote:
         | Exactly, basically then every desk or office job means sitting
         | next to a box?
        
         | antonvs wrote:
         | I don't even know what he's referring to. What are the
         | rectangles he's "moving around"? And couldn't you say the same
         | thing about all writers, for example?
         | 
         | The one downside to the Internet and social media is that truly
         | useless takes can get much more traction than they deserve.
        
           | Flere-Imsaho wrote:
           | CSS boxes!
           | 
           | Honestly the one thing that I'm really looking forward to is
           | no longer having to touch CSS.
        
       | RickJWagner wrote:
       | I coached sports for all 3 of my kids. Great times.
       | 
       | One year, I had a superior athlete on my youth football team. A
       | foot shorter than everybody else and skinny as a stick, the boy
       | had the gift of speed. He'd run like the wind, arms and legs
       | flailing wildly. It looked like he'd cover distance twice as fast
       | as the other kids.
       | 
       | I took full advantage of the situation. Every game, I started by
       | getting wonder boy the ball until we'd racked up enough points to
       | be comfortable. Then the others got turns. We went the regular
       | season undefeated and I began to convince myself I really had
       | coaching talent. Maybe I could help out at the high school, or
       | the local college! The sky was the limit, I was a natural.
       | 
       | Then came the championship game, also against an undefeated team.
       | Their team had a wonderboy, too. He was actually faster than my
       | speedster!
       | 
       | Predictably, their coach played it just like I had. Through
       | superior speed, they took a healthy lead early in the game and
       | never let it go.
       | 
       | I enjoyed all my years of youth coaching, but that year was just
       | magical. Right up 'till the last game. It was a memorable year.
        
       | arjie wrote:
       | Huh, strange. I remember when I was a little 9 year old boy
       | typing in:                   FD 40         RT 90         FD 40
       | RT 90         FD 40         RT 90         FD 40         RT 90
       | 
       | To get a square on the screen. And then I was slightly older boy
       | destroying my dad's precious slides for his presentation by
       | formatting the entire disk accidentally while installing Red Hat
       | Linux 8 _Psyche_ from CDs my dad got at the bazaar. I was so
       | excited for _Shrike_ to come out the next year.
       | 
       | Then I was slightly older and discovered that 'programs' are just
       | text you use a 'compiler' on and not a special thing you made in
       | Borland's Turbo C.
       | 
       | Then I was older and started using vim. Then older still and made
       | HTML pages with this new thing called DHTML on Geocities. Then
       | ActivePerl. Then a VPS. Then Wordpress. Then discovered Prolog,
       | Eclipse for Java, Mex for C++ in Matlab, and git. Then some years
       | later github. Then interned in SF and discovered CI/CD, Hadoop et
       | al. and how servers look in a DC in SOMA. Then IntelliJ. Then a
       | trading engine. And then GPT was announced. And TalkToTransformer
       | showed the future. And then people were demoing these ugly To-Do
       | lists it could make. And suddenly we're here today.
       | 
       | Every stage of software has been incredible. I don't have to
       | `movq`. I don't have to `jstack`. If I want a TUI, the tools can
       | construct one to my specifications in moments. It's sheer magic,
       | man. It's a scary time (I've had a couple of what-if nightmares
       | about Dario Amodei ruling the world with his LLMs) but it's also
       | exciting. I think I am happiest today. We're going to do so many
       | wonderful things for so many people now that this is so much
       | cheaper.
       | 
       | Perhaps it's just the good fortune of being born at this time
       | during this thing and riding that wave, but it feels like the
       | world of computing has just been so full of amazing leaps forward
       | during my life. I look back each time and I think "man, I was
       | doing that thing when I could have been doing it so much
       | better?". And I feel so hopeful for the future.
        
         | pelma wrote:
         | I thought for a moment you were serious, but the line about us
         | doing wonderful things with tech gave it away as satire. Yeah
         | no. Best we can do is technofascism and surveillance state.
         | Glad you happy though!
        
         | lm28469 wrote:
         | We're retiring later and later, working more per week,
         | purchasing power is going down, quality of goods is going down,
         | life expectancy is decreasing, child mortality is increasing,
         | teenage suicide is increasing, illiteracy is increasing, &c.
         | 
         | But trust us this time we'll do incredible things, the same
         | things but more of it, faster and cheaper, will automatically
         | make things amazing!
        
           | lstodd wrote:
           | Excuse me, but can you please explain this whole concept of
           | 'retirement'?
           | 
           | It is some point where you just shut down your brain and feed
           | yourself to the fishes?
           | 
           | Not being an US person I'm struggling with this. How? Unless
           | one loses congnitive capability due to organic brain damage
           | how is this even possible?
        
             | anamexis wrote:
             | Retirement is the withdrawal from active working life, i.e.
             | having a job. It is not a US concept.
        
               | samf wrote:
               | Right, and a nice thing about software is that retirement
               | doesn't mean you have to stop doing what you used to do.
               | 
               | I'm retired (I know, I'm very lucky), and I've done as
               | much or more coding since retirement than I did in my
               | job. But to be fair, AI has really changed how I'm going
               | about things, and I'm not sure what the future is going
               | to bring. I really worry about my adult children and
               | their careers.
        
               | lstodd wrote:
               | But that's the point, ain't it? If you voluntarily
               | abandon doing things you are basically declaring "I'm
               | dead, ignore that I'm still breathing".
        
               | WJW wrote:
               | Not having a job anymore is very different from not
               | "doing things" at all.
        
               | xantronix wrote:
               | The notion that one's economic output is equal to one's
               | worth as a person seems pretty wrong-headed, when
               | considering what the purpose of life is.
        
               | lstodd wrote:
               | no contest on the first part, but can you enlighten on
               | what is the purpose of life?
        
               | anamexis wrote:
               | What point are you trying to make?
        
               | lstodd wrote:
               | Point being that at no point in your life are you bound
               | to be defined by "job"-"retirement" state transition.
               | 
               | Shed it already.
        
               | pixl97 wrote:
               | >when considering what the purpose of life is.
               | 
               | And what is that exactly?
               | 
               | At best we seem to be rather large containers to ensure
               | that genes get replicated.
        
               | coldtea wrote:
               | Only if your life is so insignificant and your interests
               | and social circle so narrow that your paid gig determines
               | the whole of it and is your sole purpose.
        
               | lstodd wrote:
               | But if it ain't so, there is effectively no retirement?
        
             | coldtea wrote:
             | If you work most jobs, whether cognitive or manual labor,
             | after some point you can't do them anymore, due to physical
             | and cognitive decline, medical issues, and the plain fact
             | that you can do that shit as a hobby if you really like it,
             | but you shouldn't need to go to some fucking office or
             | greet people in your local Walmart in your late 60s and 70s
             | just to survive.
             | 
             | We call this stopping of work at that point retirement.
             | 
             | How about that?
        
           | cheema33 wrote:
           | > We're retiring later and later, working more per week
           | 
           | That may be true. But, if somebody offered me a time machine
           | to travel back in time and live at any point in history,
           | would I take it? Hell no.
           | 
           | > purchasing power is going down
           | 
           | That is not a new thing.
           | 
           | > quality of goods is going down
           | 
           | Phones are better. Computers are better. Cars, planes,
           | washing machines ...
           | 
           | > life expectancy is decreasing
           | 
           | On the whole, this is not the case.
           | 
           | > child mortality is increasing
           | 
           | Globally?
           | 
           | > illiteracy is increasing
           | 
           | Globally?
           | 
           | You seem to have a negative view of things. And sure, many
           | things are not great. But the examples you gave are not it.
        
             | pixl97 wrote:
             | Ya some people don't know the difference between their
             | country falling apart versus the world falling apart.
        
         | RGamma wrote:
         | And simultaneously we built this huge machine that gives us
         | everything we need to survive on software we don't understand,
         | ready to have it abducted by people who have never done a
         | (positively) productive thing in their lives seemingly any
         | moment now. Monkeys with computers.
        
           | pixl97 wrote:
           | This is the history of every empire.
           | 
           | It's also why every empire in history collapsed.
        
         | RataNova wrote:
         | Learning the lower layer felt like earning access to the next
         | level of reality. You had to understand the constraints to make
         | anything happen at all. Now it increasingly feels like you can
         | just describe the intent and skip straight to the outcome.
        
         | coldtea wrote:
         | > _I look back each time and I think "man, I was doing that
         | thing when I could have been doing it so much better?". And I
         | feel so hopeful for the future._
         | 
         | The future appears now to be: "Young kids wont have this sense
         | of wonder, or control of the machine, anymore. And a whole lot
         | less will now have a career in IT either".
        
       | DonThomasitos wrote:
       | Isn't it ironic that we software devs laughed for decades when we
       | automated other people's work with our code - ,,it's called
       | progress, deal with it, dinosaur!" But now we see that a meteor
       | might have hit our planet too.
        
         | kakacik wrote:
         | I certainly wasn't laughing, plight of a fellow man is nothing
         | positive. But this is usually so abstracted and distant from
         | one's work that unless you have somebody close who gets
         | literally hit themselves is just abstract movement beyond
         | horizon due to myriad forces and random events.
        
         | pixl97 wrote:
         | Heh, I've posted here for years and every post I've made saying
         | programmers should unionize has been controversial at best and
         | nearly dead at worst. So many people trust the same system they
         | watch eat others.
        
       | NickNaraghi wrote:
       | Csikszentmihalyi's flow research[0] basically predicts the
       | author's whole arc here. People are happiest during structured,
       | challenging activities with clear goals and tight feedback loops.
       | Coaching middle schoolers in a gym hits every condition on his
       | list.
       | 
       | Btw, the other finding worth mentioning is that people
       | consistently predict that free time and relaxation will make them
       | happier, then report the opposite.
       | 
       | [0] Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience if you haven't
       | read it
        
       | bloomingeek wrote:
       | My new goals are: Seek beauty, Seek happiness and Don't make
       | people sad.
       | 
       | With a lot of effort, it's working. However, I soon discovered
       | the last goal was the most difficult. Long story short, I keep my
       | mouth shut a lot more. I feared, at first, that this would make
       | me feel I was compromising myself somehow. But I also discovered
       | that sometimes when I shared my opinion, knowing it was correct,
       | I would later regret how I made that person feel. Conclusion on
       | their feelings: There's nothing to be gained by hurting their
       | feelings when they weren't ready to hear the message. Double
       | success, I'm still happy and I didn't cause them any sadness.
        
       | bengale wrote:
       | In the nicest possible way, this is basically the oldest lesson
       | there is.
       | 
       | You weren't happy because you optimized your feelings or had the
       | right opinions. You were happy because you stopped focusing on
       | yourself and became responsible for other people. Six kids needed
       | you, in the real world, every week. That kind of outward focus
       | kills emptiness fast.
       | 
       | Chasing happiness, moral righteousness, or political engagement
       | just loops you back into your own head, helping people doesn't.
       | Feeling good is a side-effect of being useful, not the goal.
        
         | nvarsj wrote:
         | There's an entire generation of mostly childless adults who are
         | shocked to find they enjoy contributing to others' happiness. I
         | have friends like this, their only purpose in life is to have
         | no responsibilities, FIRE, and never give to anyone but
         | themselves. Seems like a terribly depressing way to live but
         | pretty common in tech/upper middle class circles.
        
           | bengale wrote:
           | Yeah, and I do get it to some extent. Everything about having
           | a child seems burdensome and hard. Turns out it's doesn't
           | feel anything like that and I can't think of anything I'd
           | rather be doing. I wouldn't swap with another person on this
           | planet.
        
             | nlavezzo wrote:
             | 100%. I never was excited about having a kid but it's
             | totally amazing to be helping a little human that you love
             | to figure out the world and grow into a good person.
             | 
             | People can obviously make the opposite choice, but I'd
             | encourage anyone that's never been around good little kids
             | as an adult, to find a way to be around them in a helpful
             | or fun role for a while. Volunteer at a youth group, sports
             | camp, coding class, whatever. Or just be an "uncle" to some
             | of your friends' kids. My volunteering at a church youth
             | group in my early 20's probably gave me the nudge I needed.
        
             | cheema33 wrote:
             | > Everything about having a child seems burdensome and
             | hard. Turns out it's doesn't feel anything like that and I
             | can't think of anything I'd rather be doing.
             | 
             | You got lucky and had kid(s) that were not extremely
             | difficult to raise. Not everybody gets that. Not all kids
             | are alike. Some will make your life a living hell. It is a
             | total crapshoot.
             | 
             | Also, not everybody enjoys parenting, even if they have
             | easy kids. We are not all built the same.
             | 
             | I did get lucky and had relatively easy kids. I love them.
             | But, I do not enjoy parenting.
        
           | whaleidk wrote:
           | People who want to be childless usually champion the
           | importance of building strong community through friends and
           | neighbors, just because they don't want kids doesn't mean
           | they don't want to contribute to others' happiness lol.
           | People wanting FIRE is a lot more to do with the current
           | economy and wealth of useless or harmful jobs than kids
        
             | arealaccount wrote:
             | > dont want to deal with kids
             | 
             | Someone has to bring up the next generation, the no kids
             | crowd want all the luxury of having the next generation
             | without putting in the effort or spending the money.
        
           | RGamma wrote:
           | Childlessness seems to be an increasingly compassionate
           | choice. Degrowth by force.
        
           | idiotsecant wrote:
           | It's always funny how many people think that the only font of
           | altruism is taking care of children _who have your DNA_ ,
           | like that's some kind of selfless act. It is, in fact, the
           | ultimate vanity of which humans are capable. Raising little
           | variations of yourself might make you feel good, but if you
           | think it's a unique path to a fulfilling life I suggest you
           | are the one in the little bubble.
        
         | jraby3 wrote:
         | Similar for me. Happiest I've ever been was when I was an
         | assistant guide for birthright Israel.
         | 
         | My job was to make sure the 40 kids that came were having a
         | good time. When your job is to make others happy, you become
         | happy.
        
         | et-al wrote:
         | Also, I think for a good number of people, their first job out
         | of college is oftentimes one they will look fondly back on
         | because they've just finished ~17 years of school, have
         | financial independence with a salary, and are still bright-eyed
         | about _all_ the possibilities.
        
         | perrygeo wrote:
         | The entire zeitgeist of software technology revolves around the
         | assumption that making things efficient, easy, and quick is
         | inherently good. Most people who are "sitting in front of
         | rectangles, moving tiny rectangles" have sometime grandiose
         | notions of their works' importance; we're making X work better
         | for the good of Y to enable Z. Abstract shit like that.
         | 
         | No man, you're just making X easier. If the world needs more X,
         | fine. If not, woops.
         | 
         | The detachment from reality makes it all too easy to deceive
         | yourself into thinking "hey this actually helps people".
        
           | Swizec wrote:
           | > Most people who are "sitting in front of rectangles, moving
           | tiny rectangles"
           | 
           | Hey dude these are my emotional support rectangles!
           | 
           | Truth is, anything can be meaningful. We make our own meaning
           | and almost anything will do as long as _you_ believe in it.
           | If optimizing rectangles on the screen makes you happy,
           | that's great. If it doesn't, find something else to do.
        
       | gedy wrote:
       | I "move rectangles on screen" to pay for Kids and House. That's
       | what makes me happy, and jobs I enjoy don't. There's no wake up
       | call necessary.
        
       | freetime2 wrote:
       | I honestly don't understand how anyone has the time and energy to
       | be a coach while working a full-time job. My kids practice three
       | times a week, and usually have games on both Saturday and Sunday
       | - sometimes several hours away. Just getting them to practices
       | and games often feels exhausting to me - I can't imagine all the
       | planning and scheduling that goes on behind the scenes, or having
       | to show up and actually run things all the time.
       | 
       | Hats off to youth coaches - you make a huge difference in kids'
       | lives.
        
       | jebarker wrote:
       | Personally I want to have my cake and eat it here. Tech has
       | amazing potential to make the world a better place to live in and
       | genuinely bring people together. The crowning achievement of AI
       | so far to me is not Claude Code, it's AlphaFold. I find the
       | documentary DM released about developing it inspiring both as a
       | technology story but also a team achieving things together that
       | make the world better. I want to see more of that and hope I can
       | steer my career in that direction.
        
       | RataNova wrote:
       | A lot of people aren't actually chasing leisure or money as much
       | as they're chasing irreplaceability
        
       | colinnordin wrote:
       | > But improving each kid's skill and confidence was the real
       | mission. Instead of my desk job, I'd be asking Clayton how we
       | could make Corey1 use his body for rebounding. Or how Monte's
       | soccer skills could be best leveraged. Or how Evan, our best
       | player, could become an on-court leader.
       | 
       | I wonder how software development would be like if we had coaches
       | like this.
        
         | matthewpick wrote:
         | I miss mentoring junior engineers in-person
        
         | RataNova wrote:
         | I suspect a lot of people don't actually dislike software
         | development, they dislike developing without anyone invested in
         | their development
        
         | data-ottawa wrote:
         | I have had managers like this and it was fantastic. I've tried
         | to be a mentor like this and enjoyed it too.
         | 
         | It feels like since 2022 the industry has been too rushed to
         | run this way though.
        
       | shermantanktop wrote:
       | My boss is a technologist. Adding computers to problems makes him
       | happy. Getting people out of the way makes him happy.
       | 
       | I'm an IC (no direct reports) and I'm a "humanist". Helping
       | people become better and more skilled makes me happy, in the same
       | way the coach here got joy from the goofball making a great play.
       | 
       | On paper we should probably switch jobs. I have way more
       | technical depth, but the crucial difference is that he is more
       | goal-driven, better at managing upward, and more in tune with
       | political trends.
        
       | billylo wrote:
       | I use my spare time helping kids at a FIRST robotics team. It's
       | fun.
        
       | pppoiuy wrote:
       | gggoip
        
       | carabiner wrote:
       | Just a reminder of how millennial-centric HN is. Everyone here is
       | in their 40s and moving to the suburbs to raise their kids, and
       | this article provides validation.
        
       | 0898 wrote:
       | Shaan Puri has also talked about how he's been coaching a youth
       | basketball team on the My First Million podcast recently. He says
       | it's one of the best things he's ever done.
        
       | hinkley wrote:
       | To ask the question Ted Lasso never answers:
       | 
       | What _is_ a Hoosier?
        
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