[HN Gopher] Getting into Public Speaking
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       Getting into Public Speaking
        
       Author : jbrooksuk
       Score  : 74 points
       Date   : 2025-12-10 10:03 UTC (4 days ago)
        
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       | drsim wrote:
       | I love public speaking, think I'm above average at it, and am
       | aiming to do more of it. Has anyone here tried Toastmasters?
       | 
       | Went to my local group last week and was pleasantly surprised
       | with the quality of speaking.
        
         | robaato wrote:
         | Would heartily recommend Toastmasters - get's you lots of
         | practice, encouragement and you can learn from some excellent
         | speakers.
        
           | euroderf wrote:
           | They do a variety of speaking formats. Exercise!
        
       | somethingsome wrote:
       | I'm always surprised by the amount of advises in rehearsal.
       | 
       | I like to give public speaches, but I organize myself completely
       | differently. I spend much time making Slides that are easy to
       | follow and logically ordered, and in each I know that I can say a
       | little more or a little less without disrupting the message. I
       | know that I can count on 1 slide = 1 min. Unless lots of images.
       | 
       | I don't rehearse as I know that I prepared well my slides. Then
       | during the talk I add more or less informations naturally
       | depending on the time left and on the facial expressions of the
       | audience. I usually finish exactly on time.
       | 
       | Usually I read my slides and think about what exactly to say only
       | just before the talk.
       | 
       | I find this way more natural, and less scripted, and I usually
       | get compliments on my presentation and naturalness. I think
       | rehearsing removes much of the naturalness of a talk, unless that
       | aspect is worked extensively, but that could sound a little too
       | scripted for my taste.
       | 
       | One trick that I use often if I tend to forget some information
       | that is important to say, is to put one word that trigger the
       | information IN the slide, but in very light Grey, and in a
       | natural place, like close to an image. So if I ever forget what
       | to say, I have my landmarks in each slide to guide me.
        
         | doomerhunter wrote:
         | I often tend to integrate talking passionately about a topic in
         | my head with an imaginary interlocutor. While not directly
         | being a rehearsal in itself, it really helps with developing
         | ideas and chaining concepts - at least for me.
         | 
         | I guess everyone is different in regards to handling the
         | pressure when talking in public, but I do agree that you can
         | feel it, most of the time, when someone rehearsed too
         | "scholarly".
        
           | ghaff wrote:
           | On the one hand, I tend to not do formal rehearsals a lot of
           | the time. On the other, I also find that if I give a live
           | talk for the second or third time, it often _is_ better
           | because I find some things that worked in my head don 't work
           | as well on stage.
           | 
           | All that said, an overly-rehearsed talk can come across as
           | stilted/reading from a script.
        
         | tannerc wrote:
         | This is how I present as well.
         | 
         | When what you're presenting is something you have actual
         | knowledge about, it can be easier to say what you think rather
         | than stress about "sticking to the script."
         | 
         | True of public speaking just as much as interviewing.
         | 
         | Many people unnecessarily stress about public speaking because
         | they believe the script is the only thing that matters.
         | 
         | Though I admit there is no one size fits all when it comes to
         | speaking.
        
         | matwood wrote:
         | I do almost your method, except I do the presentation a few
         | times as practice to make sure the flow works. When I give the
         | presentation it's not scripted, but since I practiced it is
         | much easier for me to improv. My slides are typically very
         | sparse and simply act as a trigger for which part of the topic
         | I'm speaking on at that time.
         | 
         | But, to your point, I agree that your method is the best way if
         | you know the subject matter. When I practice it's mainly for
         | transitions/flow and not the information.
        
         | gunnarmorling wrote:
         | This approach can work for experienced speakers, in particular
         | if you have spoken about the given topic before, but I'd
         | strongly advise against not rehearsing for folks a bit newer
         | into their speaking career. So often I have seen talks where
         | folks either were time after half of their time slot, or they
         | ran out of time towards the end. Or they lost track of the
         | plot, went off on a tangent for way too long, etc.
         | 
         | All this is not great for the audience (who have "invested"
         | into your session, by paying for the ticket, spending time away
         | from work and family, not attending other concurrent sessions,
         | etc.), and it can so easily be avoided by rehearsing.
         | 
         | The most common reason I have seen for folks skipping to
         | rehearse is the awkward feeling you might have when speaking
         | loud all by yourself. If that's the issue, it can help to do a
         | dry run in front of colleagues. In any case, "winging it" is
         | best reserved for later on, after having gathered quite a bit
         | of speaking experience and having spoken about the same, or
         | very similar, topics before.
         | 
         | I'd also recommend to avoid reading from slides during a talk
         | as much as possible, it's also not a great experience for the
         | audience. There shouldn't be much text on slides to begin with,
         | as folks will either read that, or listen to what you say, but
         | typically have a hard time doing both at once.
         | 
         | (All this is a general recommendation, not a comment on your
         | talks which I have not seen)
        
       | mnky9800n wrote:
       | I love to give talks but I find I only do them at science
       | conferences where I've submitted things out as an invited speaker
       | at universities. How do I find new places to give talks about my
       | interests?
        
         | doomerhunter wrote:
         | Depends on your hobbies. I'm into cybsec, there's a ton of
         | small events where you can either be on stage (so submit a
         | proposal), but there is often what we call "rumps" which are
         | usually unplanned 5 minutes talks about a subject. They're a
         | great way to practice.
         | 
         | Besides that, i guess schools/student groups that seek
         | professionals. Non-profits works as well, I did that when I was
         | younger (advocacy).
        
       | captn3m0 wrote:
       | Good advice. One of the things I suffer from is speaking too
       | fast, and yet to find a good solution for it. I put a sticky note
       | on my screen reminding me to slow down these days, but it only
       | helps so much.
       | 
       | Another comprehensive guide for tech-speakers is
       | https://speaking.io/ by Zach Holman.
        
         | rolandog wrote:
         | Do you think one's tendency to speak faster originates from
         | listening to podcasts at 2.x+ speed?
        
           | R_D_Olivaw wrote:
           | You know, I think that might certainly have something to do
           | with it, but I've also noticed that anytime I'm using tech
           | (video call/voice call) the conversation is at a much faster
           | pace.
           | 
           | It's as though the natural state of the machines and tech is
           | so fast, that we're trying to keep the information
           | transmission as dense as possible so we can end the call.
           | 
           | Side note, I was watching an interview with Cory Doctorow and
           | because of the tv segment style, both he and the interviewer
           | were BLASTING through their talking points.
           | 
           | I wonder how much of our speech is being affected by the "say
           | as much as you can before commercial break" model.
        
           | captn3m0 wrote:
           | Not for me. I listen at 1-1.25x, and not an avid listener. I
           | just speak fast, especially in english
        
           | ghaff wrote:
           | Which is something I have zero interest in doing. If it's a
           | good/interesting podcast, it's not about getting fed
           | information "efficiently" for me.
           | 
           | That said, I have recorded some podcasts with people where I
           | felt I really needed to go into Audacity and have it
           | automatically cut out a bunch of pauses because there were
           | just too many of them.
           | 
           | I've also found that having both video and audio of yourself
           | is a great way to uncover both visual and audio quirks.
        
           | sgc wrote:
           | People have been speaking too fast in public since the
           | beginning of public speaking. It's just nerves making us
           | press forward too quickly, and sometimes people are worried
           | it will be too boring if they speak slowly. I was taught to
           | speak far slower than is comfortable - and it will come out
           | just right.
        
             | ghaff wrote:
             | I've taken a few public speaking classes and I remember one
             | made a point of remembering to pause.
             | 
             | I also remember a senior IBM exec who, during Q&A at
             | analyst conferences, would make notes (or seemed to) which
             | served a few purposes including just taking a few seconds
             | to collect his thoughts.
        
           | probably_wrong wrote:
           | The problem with speaking fast predates 2x speed by decades.
           | From what I've seen it's usually the result of not rehearsing
           | beforehand - beginners tend to panic and speak fast as a
           | result while experienced speakers overestimate how much
           | information an audience can retain and/or how short a minute
           | is. Experienced speakers can tune it in real time, though,
           | and rehearsal time is expensive so they simply don't.
        
         | Rendello wrote:
         | I wonder if speaking fast is a problem in and of itself. Bryan
         | Cantrill's talks are some of the best around, and he talks very
         | fast. For other speakers, I usually put them at 1.5x speed.
         | 
         | It seems to me that the problem isn't speaking fast per se, but
         | almost speaking where you're tripping over yourself
         | unconfidently. Bryan, for example, often does trip over his
         | words, but he's confident in what he has to say and enunciates
         | very clearly (he's basically yelling).
         | 
         | During the pandemic I made a few Youtube videos, basically
         | public speaking without an audience. I was amazed at how hard
         | it was, I spend hours and hours trying to speak with any
         | confidence. Funnily enough though, at tech meetups, I'm pretty
         | comfortable presenting in front of everyone even though I see
         | others struggle so much. Not sure what's the difference.
        
           | ghaff wrote:
           | :-)
           | 
           | I think one of the problems with speaking for video is that
           | you're self-conscious and feel you need to be perfect. When I
           | started doing a lot of recorded presentations during COVID, I
           | just felt uncomfortable in a way that I didn't with an in-
           | person audience.
        
         | btilly wrote:
         | Mind-body techniques provide a good solution to this.
         | 
         | First exercise. Breathe out. Take a full breath in for a mental
         | count of 2. Hold for a mental count of 4. Breathe out for a
         | mental count of 6. How do you feel?
         | 
         | It sounds ridiculous that this does anything. But it relaxes
         | you because your brain recognizes the rhythm of a contented
         | sigh - then rushes to put you in that state. Do that the moment
         | that you stand on stage. Do it again any time you need it.
         | You'll be amazed at how much of a difference it makes.
         | 
         | Next exercise. Put, commas, in. The act of standing silent is
         | an act of control that leaves you feeling in control. Trying to
         | slow down results in, "I'mRacing,I'mRacing, SlowDown, I've
         | slowed down, I'mRacingAgain!" But putting in a comma makes it
         | easy to slow down.
         | 
         | This has a second benefit as well. If we're feeling nervous
         | silence is hard on us. So we put in those filler "ahs" and
         | "ums". It is very rare for people to be conscious of how much
         | we do that. Instead we process it subconsciously, as an
         | awareness of anxiety. And our awareness of our own anxiety,
         | creates more anxiety, and off we go!
         | 
         | And so I like to say, "Put in a pause, or you'll say your ahs!"
         | Try it. Those commas really work.
         | 
         | The third thing is this. When we stand in front of an audience,
         | most of us get a shot of adrenaline. We frame it as "social
         | anxiety". But it's really not. It's social adrenaline. If you
         | learn to interpret it as "on a rollercoaster" instead of
         | "there's a tiger", it goes from scary to fun.
         | 
         | This takes a bit of practice. But (with the mind-body skills),
         | less than you'd expect. And it is easy to find a place to
         | practice if you join a local Toastmasters club.
        
       | lucidplot wrote:
       | if you don't fancy toastmasters, sign up for a beginner's improv
       | class in your area.
        
       | macintux wrote:
       | A collection of related resources:
       | https://gist.github.com/macintux/5354837
        
       | rednafi wrote:
       | It's different for everyone. I love public speaking but tend not
       | to over-rehearse. Also, I prefer smaller conferences and meetups
       | than large sprawling ones.
        
       | Jnr wrote:
       | How to speak from Patrick Winston at MIT is my go to. A must
       | watch! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Unzc731iCUY
        
       | csswizardry wrote:
       | My own (similar) advice from 2016:
       | https://csswizardry.com/2016/06/speakers-checklist-before-an...
        
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