[HN Gopher] When did the job market get so rude?
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       When did the job market get so rude?
        
       Author : nlawalker
       Score  : 26 points
       Date   : 2025-12-12 20:15 UTC (2 hours ago)
        
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       | nlawalker wrote:
       | Gift link: https://www.theatlantic.com/culture/2025/12/job-
       | ghosting-man...
        
       | billy99k wrote:
       | "Ghosting behavior by applicants, then, might have a simple
       | explanation: "fair play"
       | 
       | What they are saying is that when you get abused (being ghosted
       | by lots of companies), it's fair play to then become the abuser
       | (ghosting an employer after they didn't ghost you and tried to
       | play fair).
       | 
       | I'm in a hiring position, and I would blacklist any candidate
       | that wasted my time like this.
       | 
       | It's childish and just adds to the current state of Gen Z making
       | it impossible to hire them (and then complaining they can never
       | find a job).
        
         | stalfosknight wrote:
         | So you don't ghost anyone you have no intention of hiring?
        
           | 01HNNWZ0MV43FF wrote:
           | That's something you could brag about in a job posting. "We
           | will always send you a rejection email if you get to the
           | first phone screen"
        
         | ok_dad wrote:
         | If they ghosted you they already blacklisted you. Your comment
         | has the energy of, "you can't quit, you're fired!"
        
         | hinkley wrote:
         | Advertisements and recruiter emails are pretty much the only
         | thing in my inbox for the last, I'd say almost ten years.
         | 
         | You'll forgive me if I miss one.
         | 
         | Recruiting is turning into the business that still needs a
         | paper check from you. Nobody else uses those grandpa.
        
         | mikestew wrote:
         | _I 'm in a hiring position, and I would blacklist any candidate
         | that wasted my time like this._
         | 
         | If you offered a position and, as described in TFA, they didn't
         | show up then it seems obvious to me that this hypothetical
         | candidate is not terribly bothered by your threats.
        
         | Nextgrid wrote:
         | The whole "blaming Gen Z" thing is getting old. You get what
         | you pay for.
         | 
         | You're likely offering "market rate" roles. You're getting
         | "market rate" candidates and behavior. It's like walking into a
         | Fiat dealership and being mad you're not getting Ferrari
         | treatment.
         | 
         | If you want better you are welcome to pay more and then maybe
         | people will have less incentives to ghost you. The Ferrari
         | treatment still exists, you just need to pay for it.
         | 
         | The job market didn't get rude, it just regressed to the mean.
         | "Rude" is the default; when one side shows respect it's likely
         | for the other side to reciprocate. When one side doesn't, there
         | is little reason for the other side to put in the effort.
        
           | GarnetFloride wrote:
           | Gotta love how "market rate" is about 60% of what you need to
           | qualify to rent an apartment these days.
        
             | Nextgrid wrote:
             | And of course the roles are hybrid specifically to prevent
             | you from living in a location where you can actually afford
             | rent.
        
         | urda wrote:
         | > I'm in a hiring position, and I would blacklist any candidate
         | that wasted my time like this.
         | 
         | > It's childish and just adds to the current state of Gen Z
         | making it impossible to hire them (and then complaining they
         | can never find a job).
         | 
         | This is an unacceptable interviewing posture. As a Bar Raiser
         | (or whatever your equivalent is) with authority over interview
         | standards and interviewer eligibility, I'd pull you from loops
         | for retraining. Repeat it, and you're removed from
         | interviewing.
        
         | zardo wrote:
         | I'm the context of hiring, "blacklisting" is collusion between
         | employers sharing a "do not hire" list.
         | 
         | Is that what you the mean?
        
           | fallingfrog wrote:
           | One would imagine such a practice to be illegal. But yeah
           | this was my question as well.
        
         | Ethee wrote:
         | I can understand why you're saying this and my response here
         | will be more of a general reply to your direct reply's as it
         | seems like a lot of them are missing the key element of WHY you
         | can act this way in the current market. The big 'L' word,
         | Leverage. In the current market you have all the leverage in
         | the world as the employer to find a perfect fit employee due to
         | the overall supply of workers and declining job market. When
         | the market swings back the other way eventually however, the
         | shoe will be on the other foot so to speak, and you wont have
         | such privilege.
         | 
         | It's amazing how short our memories are for all the companies
         | 10 years ago bending over backwards to give those employees
         | anything and everything they wanted.
         | 
         | A lot of my statement here is very generalizing but at the end
         | of the day market forces really do dictate a lot of this. I
         | keep seeing article after article from hiring managers about
         | how they're FLOODED with applications. You can't be 'polite' to
         | all those people, as most people don't have the attention span
         | for all that. There are definitely 2 sides to this coin it just
         | seems that from the side of the people wanting to be hired they
         | just have no empathy for those doing the hiring.
        
           | staticautomatic wrote:
           | I have multiple open roles right now and am finding that I
           | can't afford to hire the top applicants. I honestly did not
           | expect to have so little leverage.
        
             | Ethee wrote:
             | And that should be expected. Leverage in this situation
             | doesn't mean you get the cream of the crop for nothing. In
             | this sense it means that you get applications that fit your
             | role. When the market was flipped you were hard pressed to
             | find people that actually matched at least half of your
             | role requirements. Now even your statement gives away how
             | much that has changed that you're only looking at the 'top
             | applicants'. Now, you have so many people that fit you're
             | struggling because you want the perfect ones.
        
           | moregrist wrote:
           | > I keep seeing article after article from hiring managers
           | about how they're FLOODED with applications. You can't be
           | 'polite' to all those people, as most people don't have the
           | attention span for all that.
           | 
           | I dunno. Being polite in the context of a job application is
           | pretty basic: if the applicant didn't make it to a phone
           | screen, send them a polite form letter telling them that.
           | 
           | It doesn't require much attention, just a little automation
           | and caring enough to actually respond.
           | 
           | For those that made it to a phone screen but not past it, a
           | polite rejection email is also sufficient.
           | 
           | This doesn't seem like a lot to me.
        
             | Nextgrid wrote:
             | > a polite rejection email is also sufficient
             | 
             | The reason for the lack of those is that employers want to
             | hedge their bets - emailing a rejection will make the
             | candidate move on and potentially take another offer which
             | would make them unavailable.
             | 
             | Letting them stew means the candidate may remain available
             | if you suddenly change your mind or your top pick flakes
             | out and you need a replacement on short notice.
             | 
             | It's understandable - what's less understandable is being
             | butthurt about it when candidates start playing the exact
             | same game and flake out because they too hedged their bets,
             | picked another option and need to let you down.
        
             | Ethee wrote:
             | Well sure then let's break it down. Assume I have an open
             | role for a small business and I get 500 applications to
             | sort through. The first step is most businesses will use at
             | least some sort of filtering for the basic requirements to
             | determine good fit. So those are pretty easy to sort
             | through. Let's assume I cut those applications down to 50
             | that actually fit my requirements.
             | 
             | Now am I supposed to bundle up all those 450 initial
             | applications that got filtered out just to send them a nice
             | polite email that their resumes didn't even fit the
             | position they applied for? From a pure business perspective
             | this is a straight waste of time. Especially as most
             | businesses aren't going to have an automatic way to do this
             | easily, and building that automation doesn't make my
             | company money. But if I already happened to have some
             | automation setup for it, then maybe sure. This part is the
             | majority 'ghosted' applications. For the rest of the 50 I'd
             | probably be more likely to actually send them a
             | personalized email about the role because at least they
             | actually fit what they applied for.
        
               | Pryde wrote:
               | > Especially as most businesses aren't going to have an
               | automatic way to do this easily...
               | 
               | I find myself surprised by the idea that, in most cases,
               | any business is not used some form of automated solution
               | for resume filtering. In that case, it seems like
               | automated rejection responses should be a capability
               | provided by that solution. I can't recall the last time I
               | went through an application process that wasn't clearly
               | provided to the company I was applying for by a third-
               | party company, though I'll grant that the companies to
               | which I might apply are likely not those to which you are
               | referring.
        
               | mlsu wrote:
               | From a straight business perspective it's not a waste of
               | time, since the candidates you reject may be candidates
               | you want in the future.
               | 
               | It's always good to be polite. It would be an advantage
               | to send a form letter nowadays, since job seekers will
               | remember it.
               | 
               | And come on. You have a list of emails. Do you really
               | think it's insurmountable for a business to send an email
               | to a list of emails? My "promotions" inbox begs to
               | differ.
        
               | nlawalker wrote:
               | _> Now am I supposed to bundle up all those 450 initial
               | applications that got filtered out just to send them a
               | nice polite email that their resumes didn't even fit the
               | position they applied for?_
               | 
               | Yes.
               | 
               |  _> Especially as most businesses aren't going to have an
               | automatic way to do this easily, and building that
               | automation doesn't make my company money._
               | 
               | If you have the automation in place to receive and
               | process 500 applications in the first place, and
               | filtering that automatically cuts them down, I think it's
               | reasonable to expect that you'd have automation that can
               | email the people who were cut to tell them that they
               | weren't selected and not to expect any further
               | communication.
        
         | ericmcer wrote:
         | What does that mean, I have been on hiring committees before
         | but don't even know what it would mean to "blacklist" someone.
         | If you just mean not hire them at your company in the future I
         | think the candidate will be fine with that. If you mean across
         | many orgs then... Do recruiters and HR people have some secret
         | club I don't know about?
        
         | SuperNinKenDo wrote:
         | There's no equivalence, as outlined in the article. Discourtesy
         | in a wildly unbalanced power relationship is significantly
         | different depending on which side is displaying it. Further,
         | wasting your time that you are being remunerated for is vastly
         | different to wasting somebody's time when you are not
         | remunerating them, but merely dangling the carrot of possible
         | future remuneration. Your use of the word "abuser" is patently
         | absurd.
        
         | fallingfrog wrote:
         | "Blacklist" in what sense? Is there a master list somewhere of
         | people not to hire?
        
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