[HN Gopher] Vanity Activities
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       Vanity Activities
        
       Author : surprisetalk
       Score  : 54 points
       Date   : 2025-12-01 18:57 UTC (6 days ago)
        
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       | boberoni wrote:
       | I too have hobbies.
        
       | sebastiennight wrote:
       | On a related note: I've run businesses for close to 20 years,
       | most of those spent selling to other businesses, and I still fail
       | to understand what the entirety of LinkedIn is for and if there
       | is any of it that wouldn't fall under the author's definition of
       | "Vanity activities".
       | 
       | If anyone has a clue, please enlighten me.
        
         | titanomachy wrote:
         | Definitely all the posting and activity on there seems very
         | strange and is not something I'm remotely interested in
         | participating in. But recruiters have often found me through
         | LinkedIn and connected me with jobs, so it's still useful
         | overall and I keep my profile up to date.
        
         | mooreds wrote:
         | I have a friend who calls LinkedIn "a rolodex that other people
         | keep up to date".
         | 
         | There is some value in posting on LinkedIn, but the real value
         | is that you can go back and find people who are weak
         | connections when you are looking to hire, purchase services, or
         | ask favors.
         | 
         | I think everyone should join LinkedIn and connect to every one
         | of their colleagues that they would work with again. Then, once
         | in a while, keep that connection alive by sending a message or
         | commenting on a post.
         | 
         | It's a long game, but will pay dividends should you ever need
         | to chat with them.
        
         | balamatom wrote:
         | >what the entirety of LinkedIn is for
         | 
         | Signalling allegiance.
        
       | mooreds wrote:
       | Some good points in here, but with respect to networking, the
       | author misses the forest for the trees.
       | 
       | Sure, when you go to networking events, you aren't certain you
       | are going to get a job from the folks you meet.
       | 
       | What you are doing is increasing your luck surface area. Hiring
       | is not an entirely rational process, but if someone doesn't know
       | you exist, they won't hire you (how could they?).
       | 
       | From there, it follows that meeting someone and letting them know
       | you exist increases the chances (however small) that they can and
       | will assist you on your career path. And a networking
       | opportunity, where you meet someone face to face (and can meet
       | them repeatedly) is a far better way to let someone know you
       | exist than sending them your resume.
       | 
       | There are other ways to raise your profile that don't involve
       | networking events and you can argue that they are better, but
       | that's a cost-benefit analysis you should consider.
        
         | wavemode wrote:
         | "Networking", in the abstract, can be good for finding a job.
         | As they say, it's who you know not what you know.
         | 
         | That being said, industry networking _events_ , like
         | conferences and such, are almost not at all useful for that
         | purpose. In my experience they're mostly used for B2B sales
         | (which is a kind of networking, I guess).
        
         | toast0 wrote:
         | I feel like networking _at_ events is valuable, but networking
         | events are less so with some exceptions. You ideally want to
         | bump into someone with a high value network, but most of the
         | people going to networking events are going to the events
         | because they don 't have a high value network.
         | 
         | An exception would be mixers for interns and juniors; few
         | people have a developed network at that point, so even those
         | with a couple good contacts are interested in expanding, and
         | there's a lot of potential.
        
         | asa400 wrote:
         | > Hiring is not an entirely rational process
         | 
         | Agreed! I'd go so far as to say hiring is irrational in the
         | aggregate.
         | 
         | The usual "rational" artifacts, if we can call them that
         | (coding challenges, resumes, etc.) serve almost exclusively to
         | eliminate candidates rather than boost good candidates. Firms
         | are generally ok with false negatives from these artifacts as
         | simply the cost of doing business.
         | 
         | > From there, it follows that meeting someone and letting them
         | know you exist increases the chances (however small) that they
         | can and will assist you on your career path.
         | 
         | I've seen this described as "people hire who they vibe with",
         | and I've yet to see it play otherwise in my career. I'm not
         | saying this is good, or fair, or desirable. It just is.
         | 
         | The folks who get offers are the ones who can meet people, tell
         | stories (even true ones!), listen, and demonstrate that they
         | can empathize with and contribute to messy, flawed
         | organizations.
         | 
         | Humans have yet to invent a technology more powerful than
         | social relationships, and I think technologists downplay this
         | at their own peril.
        
         | manmal wrote:
         | Why not just cold-message people from a potential employer when
         | you're applying there? Works way better than it should, and is
         | more targeted than talking to people 99% of who you'll never
         | see again, at an event.
        
           | mooreds wrote:
           | What is your go-to text for such a cold message? I haven't
           | seen that work but am always interested in new techniques.
        
       | titanomachy wrote:
       | I have this debate with people about news and podcasts sometimes
       | (news was one of the examples in TFA). People say they are doing
       | it to remain informed, and it's a high-value activity, but I
       | argue it's mostly entertainment since it rarely affects any
       | decision-making.
       | 
       | This is not a hardline position, but I'm surprised at how
       | vehemently people insist that their news habit has benefits
       | beyond entertainment.
       | 
       | (To be clear, I have nothing against entertainment.)
        
         | mystifyingpoi wrote:
         | I agree, but also the context matters. Reading news about
         | sports is basically always entertainment, with an exception of
         | maybe betting, to make better bets. Reading news about housing
         | market can get me in a better position to buy my next home for
         | cheaper, or strenghten my negotiation position.
        
       | DontchaKnowit wrote:
       | This article digs on atomic habits... honestly that book changed
       | my life. Stopped doing drugs, started eating healthy, started
       | working out. Direct result of that book along with some
       | philosophical reading.
        
       | arn3n wrote:
       | Are we really shaming having hobbies now?
        
         | foolserrandboy wrote:
         | No, the author actually says: Acknowledge that they are
         | hobbies.
        
           | grim_io wrote:
           | What does that even mean?
           | 
           | Why does the author care that much anyway? Seems like a
           | person I would not enjoy talking with.
        
             | krashidov wrote:
             | yeah this was a weird article and largely a waste of my
             | time
        
       | danilafe wrote:
       | It doesn't have to be one or the other. Both ethical consumption
       | and going vegetarian reduce one's environmental impact, and
       | they're independent of one another. So, while someone "truly"
       | optimizing for environmental impact would better spend their time
       | avoiding meat, someone who enjoys meat can still reduce their
       | environmental impact without becoming miserable. Variables like
       | "income" and "environment" are just parts of the equation for the
       | more important heuristic of happiness.
       | 
       | A lot of the activities on that list are like this. Reading the
       | news has a non-zero impact (hey, I'm on HN, and it definitely
       | helps me keep up to date), and it's "easy" in that it fits into
       | my heuristic for happiness. Same with using a metal straw, and
       | same with picking between credit cards.
       | 
       | In a sense, these activities are "free" in terms of their
       | perceived difficulty, but have a positive, if small, impact. If
       | they're "free", why not do them?
        
         | ErroneousBosh wrote:
         | > going vegetarian reduce one's environmental impact
         | 
         | Mmm, yes and no.
         | 
         | It depends where your meat comes from. If you buy meat the way
         | it's produced in the US where you have great big sheds full of
         | cattle in the desert with everything trucked in, then yes.
         | 
         | If you want permaculture, you absolutely must have livestock.
         | 
         | If you want arable farming of any sort, you absolutely must
         | have livestock.
         | 
         | The whole thing breaks down very quickly if you don't have
         | grass and clovers growing in fields, and ruminants eating them,
         | breaking down the tough cellulose, and then shitting it out and
         | trampling it in.
        
           | manmal wrote:
           | Won't that work better without killing & eating them young?
        
       | satisfice wrote:
       | To call reading the news "vanity" exposes the true vanity of this
       | kind of post. What is the logic of assigning the word "vanity" to
       | my interest to know what's going on in the world? It's vanity
       | because I have no important decisions to make about the war in
       | Ukraine, or the perfidy of my government?
       | 
       | It's not vanity, it's a desire to understand my world and my
       | place within it.
       | 
       | What IS vanity is imagining that one's own tastes are the only
       | tastes that matter in the world.
        
         | card_zero wrote:
         | The given definition of vain is "if they don't lead to
         | something more important (e.g. profit)". I don't directly
         | profit from reading the news, it's true. I'd have to make quite
         | hand-wavy arguments about why it's beneficial. We can also list
         | activities such as friendship, dreams, appreciating beauty, and
         | feeling excited as non-profitable. Then there's having
         | aspirations: what do we gain from that? Without goals, we could
         | save a great deal of time and effort. Striving for profit,
         | then, is a vain and non-profitable activity because of the
         | unnecessariness of everything.
        
           | satisfice wrote:
           | I like your comment.
           | 
           | I'm confused by how differently some otherwise smart people
           | view the world than I do. My wife and family, by some
           | definitions, are worthless. They have no economic value. But
           | I look at them and feel that we lead lives of meaning and
           | purpose every day. We know why we are alive and we are living
           | up to it. If that's unproductive, then productivity itself
           | is, I declare, vanity.
        
           | brokensegue wrote:
           | yeah that's just a bad definition. nobody would describe
           | painting for fun as "vanity". vanity metrics make sense
           | because in business the goal is to make money. in life that
           | is not the goal.
        
         | cachius wrote:
         | More like a desire for dopamine.
        
         | throwforfeds wrote:
         | Yeah, I think "vanity" is not totally the right term here, but
         | I do think they have a point that there are diminishing returns
         | with staying up on the news cycle.
         | 
         | For instance, I think there is a difference between reading
         | some news daily and consuming only news. My father was in the
         | latter category growing up -- I never really saw him read a
         | book, but he was always reading a paper or listening
         | to/watching a news program. Personally I find that I get more
         | from reading books as they're afforded the space to go into
         | depth on a topic. I think the author is trying to point out
         | that that surface level news consumption is fine but probably
         | not as beneficial as we might want to tell ourselves.
         | 
         | The one thing I've found most helpful news-wise, though, is
         | that I find that it's one of the better ways to learn a foreign
         | language to an upper-intermediate or advanced level. I relied
         | heavily on RFI and other news outlets when learning French,
         | with the added benefit that you're often getting international
         | news the media doesn't report on here in the US.
        
       | jerkstate wrote:
       | surprisingly not listed: writing blog posts
        
         | cachius wrote:
         | Or comments on blog post aggregators
        
       | bogrollben wrote:
       | I enjoyed the article. Many comments here on HN seem to be
       | missing the point.
       | 
       | The author isn't bashing on "hobbies" and is not even bashing on
       | "vanity activities". S/he is merely challenging us to acknowledge
       | them for what they are. Stop kidding yourself.
       | 
       | If you churn credit cards (for example) and are one of the 10%
       | that can make it truly profitable, then good for you. The other
       | 90% are probably kidding themselves. Same for the other examples.
       | The author is encouraging a self-sanity check. Are you in the 10%
       | or the 90%, and wherever you land, are you okay with that? If
       | not, you may want to reevaluate, pick something else, or make
       | peace with it. It's better than kidding yourself.
        
         | toast0 wrote:
         | IMHO, churning is clearly profitable if you pay off your card
         | every month, will hit the spend requirements organically and
         | are organized enough to cancel to avoid annual fees in the
         | second year. Some people dive into manufactured spending to hit
         | the required spending, but then you really need to consider the
         | time invested.
         | 
         | The question is more about if the rewards are meaningful. I
         | think it's actually worth doing a bit of churning to get
         | exposure to different banks and figure out which one you
         | like... might as well get paid for that. But after a certain
         | point, I value stability and routine more than $300 to jump
         | through hoops... and I'm not going back to Chase no matter what
         | they want to pay me.
        
         | ErroneousBosh wrote:
         | I feel like it's hobbies with an element of virtue-signalling.
        
       | sota_pop wrote:
       | Interesting thought. However, the author starts with "In
       | business...", then immediately goes on to shoehorn the idea to
       | people. The logic tracks if your underlying assumption is that
       | the core purpose of a human life is to "be productive" (sic
       | generate profit).
        
       | mjd wrote:
       | "The number of pageviews on your website and the number of likes
       | on your tweets are fun to look at and sound impressive, but
       | optimizing for them completely misses the point if they don't
       | lead to something more important (e.g. profit)."
       | 
       | Profit is fun to look at and sounds impressive, but optimizing
       | for it completely misses the point if it doesn't lead to
       | something more important (e.g. human flourishing, or net societal
       | gain)
        
         | carlosjobim wrote:
         | Profit is useful. Views, likes and comments have zero value.
         | That's why e-celebs with millions and millions of "followers"
         | can't sell more than a dozen coffee mugs when they try to make
         | money from it.
        
       | JoshTriplett wrote:
       | There's something horribly broken about the styling on this site.
       | Attempting to scale the page (Ctrl-+) doesn't change the font
       | size. I have no idea how the page managed that, but whatever
       | mechanism allowed that, browsers should kill it with fire.
        
         | msm_ wrote:
         | This page - a bit of barely styled text on a plain background -
         | also doesn't work without JS at all. Even though this is not a
         | SPA, the essay text is just there in HTML response. I know I'm
         | yelling at the clouds here, but I find this slightly annoying
         | (why do I need to run code to read this?).
        
       | captainclam wrote:
       | Author really should have figured out a better word than
       | "vanity."
        
         | TOMDM wrote:
         | Feels like a pretty tidy parallel to luxury beliefs. Luxury
         | activities would fit, especially since some of these are the
         | activity equivalent to the belief.
        
         | carlosjobim wrote:
         | Why?
        
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