[HN Gopher] Transparent leadership beats servant leadership
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       Transparent leadership beats servant leadership
        
       Author : ibobev
       Score  : 336 points
       Date   : 2025-12-04 13:40 UTC (9 hours ago)
        
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       | dpflan wrote:
       | With "servant leadership" in its current form being attributed to
       | Greenleaf, here is the "source of truth" on servant leadership:
       | https://greenleaf.org/what-is-servant-leadership/
       | 
       | "Growth" of those being led is a key concept it seems, which I
       | would think is really only possible when the leader doesn't do
       | everything by themselves as a die-hard servant, but utilizes the
       | "leadership" part to help subordinates learn to lead themselves.
       | 
       | Granted this realm of ideas can be a gray-area, but it seems like
       | servant leadership as presented by the author here does not
       | incorporate the concept of growing those that they lead -- as
       | indicated by the fact they have self-invented a new "buzzword"
       | which actually seems to be involve the behaviors as laid out by
       | servant leadership -- am I missing something?
        
       | kagrenac wrote:
       | I've noticed a number of pieces lately that seem to suggest that
       | managers and leaders doing nothing is actually good. It's been
       | this way for a while - "bring me solutions, not problems" is the
       | classic boss's abdication, placing themselves above their teams
       | as judges and deciders rather than leaders - but I wonder if this
       | current glut is caused by AI anxiety. After all, if your job is
       | to just choose between options that other people will implement,
       | why not have Claude do that? But if it's a _good_ thing for your
       | boss to do nothing, maybe he can keep his job.
        
         | ramon156 wrote:
         | Sometimes bosses will repeat your idea to sound like he
         | solutioned it for you, without taking e.g. workload or priority
         | into account.
         | 
         | I haven't met a boss that wasn't incompetent. Not saying they
         | don't exist, though.
        
         | aranelsurion wrote:
         | > "bring me solutions, not problems"
         | 
         | If someone says this unprompted, I'd suspect they aren't a
         | manager, they aren't even an employee. They provide roughly the
         | same input one provides while ordering food at a restaurant.
         | Basically they are a customer, but also on the payroll.
         | 
         | That being said, there are some cases where this might be said
         | out of frustration. I've seen in my life a few people whose
         | output is mostly finding and bringing issues to the table for
         | someone else (who?) to magically solve them. That still brings
         | some value, and maybe they'd make excellent auditors, but it
         | wears the team and maybe their managers down.
        
           | cgearhart wrote:
           | When I say something like this it usually means "I don't want
           | to dictate your job to you. You're here because you're smart,
           | ambitious, and capable. We've talked at length in team
           | settings and 1:1 about our goals. What do _you_ think are the
           | problems that need attention, and what solutions do you
           | propose?"
           | 
           | The anti-pattern I've seen from some folks is that they never
           | want to propose solutions because then it's someone else's
           | fault if those fail. These folks often demonstrate minimal
           | ownership of any decisions, so they don't feel bad
           | complaining about all the problems they see. Not only is that
           | unhelpful, it can actually be very toxic for the team. (As
           | you mentioned.)
           | 
           | So when I'm saying "bring solutions" what I'm really asking
           | for is some shared ownership of the choices and consequences
           | --I'm asking folks to act like the main character in the
           | story. And don't worry, I own the consequences of the
           | mistakes in my team to my leadership--this isn't about
           | throwing them under the bus. (Getting this to work well
           | requires a lot of trust both ways.)
        
             | jmye wrote:
             | > When I say something like this it usually means...
             | 
             | Yes, exactly. This isn't "do my job for me", this is "do
             | the job you have, and solve the problems you should be able
             | to solve". It's also, at times, "pointing at fires is
             | junior shit - find a fire extinguisher while you call 911."
        
         | AnimalMuppet wrote:
         | But see, Claude can do nothing _even better_ than it can choose
         | between options. So why should that boss keep his job again?
         | 
         | "Bring me solutions, not problems" _can_ mean  "You are a
         | competent, knowledgeable employee, who has identified a
         | problem. You know enough to look at the alternatives and decide
         | which is best, or at least which ones are workable. Bring me
         | that, not just the problem."
         | 
         | And if it does mean that, it's empowering. You with your hands
         | on the situation, you get to tell the boss what you think the
         | best answer is, and the boss backstops you from deciding
         | something that won't work in the bigger picture.
        
       | alistairSH wrote:
       | I was never taught that servant leadership should be some weird
       | "manager as parent" relationship.
       | 
       | Instead, servant leadership implies the manager serves the team
       | (as the name implies). That includes removing impediments, but
       | also includes empowering the team, ensuring their careers are
       | growing, etc.
        
         | mergy wrote:
         | Yes indeed. Thank you.
        
         | rietta wrote:
         | Very succinct, I agree.
         | 
         | I honestly have never heard anyone--even those executing it
         | poorly--try to frame Servant Leadership the way the original
         | author did here (the "curling parent" analogy).
         | 
         | I have certainly seen people fail badly at practicing this
         | style, but that failure was invariably due to a lack of
         | character, poor communication skills, or other individual
         | execution matters, not an issue with the core concept of
         | servant leadership itself.
        
         | awb wrote:
         | Exactly.
         | 
         | It's the concept of a management chart as an inverted pyramid
         | with each layer holding up and supporting the layer above them.
         | If you imagine a promotion as working your way _down_ the
         | corporate pyramid, then it's easier to see how the managers at
         | the bottom are carrying more weight and deserving of higher
         | pay.
         | 
         | As opposed to a pyramid where it's visually represented as the
         | broader management layers supporting the layers above them.
         | 
         | In a pyramid, it looks like the CEO has a cushy, overpaid job.
         | In an inverted pyramid it looks like they have the weight and
         | responsibility of the company on their shoulders.
        
       | phoronixrly wrote:
       | You see, this only works in orgs that don't suck. It breaks down
       | the moment employees must be manipulated in some way to the
       | benefit of the company and to the detriment of the employees.
       | Unfortunately a regular occurrence even in countries that have
       | employee protection laws.
        
       | yet-another-guy wrote:
       | This is just trying too hard. "Servant Leadership" is a buzzword
       | invented to divert the general opinion from the power mechanics
       | that hierarchical organizations are funded upon, i.e., the boss
       | (sorry, _leader_ ) commands and the direct reports execute. Being
       | "servant" basically just means being a decent human being, as per
       | putting people in the right condition to carry out their duties,
       | not coming up with unrealistic expectations, and do the required
       | 1:1 coaching/mentoring for career development.
       | 
       | Hand-helding employees as this "blocker removal" interpretation
       | of servant leadership seems to imply is just the pathway to
       | micromanagement. It's ok to shield your juniors from the
       | confusing world of corporate politics, but if your direct reports
       | need you to do a lot of the sanitization/maturation of work items
       | and requirements then why should you even trust their outputs? At
       | that point you're basically just using them as you would prompt
       | an AI agent, double- and triple-checking everything they do,
       | checking-in 3 times a day, etc.
       | 
       | This "transparent" leadership _is_ the servant leadership, or
       | what it 's intended to be anyway in an ideal world. Some elements
       | of it are easily applicable, like the whole
       | coaching/connecting/teaching, but they also are the least
       | measurable in terms of impact. The "making yourself redundant",
       | i.e., by avoiding being the bottleneck middle-man without whose
       | approval/scrutiny nothing can get done is fantasy for flat
       | organizations or magical rainbowland companies where ICs and
       | managers are on the exact same salary scale. And it will continue
       | to be as long as corporate success (and career-growth
       | opportunities) is generally measured as a factor of number of
       | reports / size of org. managed.
        
         | zeroq wrote:
         | "Servant leadership" is not a buzzword but it's been misused
         | and abused by Big Corporations to the point that it basically
         | lost its meaning [1].
         | 
         | For me - personally - the idea is about being less of a boss
         | and more of a nightwatchman or janitor.
         | 
         | I believe in agency and ownership and - in sane environment -
         | people can be left alone with clear objectives. It's more about
         | removing obstacles.
         | 
         | I'll give you a simple example.
         | 
         | Once a week a maid comes to our apartment. Despite a clear
         | power balance disproportion (it's easier to find a new maid
         | than a senior engineer) and her being used to being transparent
         | and prioritizing to not disturb tenants for me it's the other
         | way around. I'm super happy to hastily finish a call or leave
         | my room is she feels the need to disturb me, and if she needs
         | an extra pair of hands I'm happy to help her with anything.
         | After all, I'm more interested with the final result than
         | feeling important.
         | 
         | We have a bucket list of tasks than has to be performed that
         | slightly exceeds her capacity and she has a full right to
         | prioritize things. It took my a while but I eventually
         | convinced her that it's ok to skip things - like cleaning the
         | windows - if she's feeling under the weather or it's cold
         | outside rather than faking it.
         | 
         | Most of the pointy hairs I worked in corporate environments
         | would probably prepare a list of requirements and walked
         | through the apartment with a checklist every time she would
         | finish giving her a full, harsh performance review.
         | 
         | But that doesn't build trust and long term relationship.
         | 
         | And after some time she developed - what people around here
         | call ownership - and sometimes I feel she cares about the
         | household more than I do.
         | 
         | Hope that makes sense.
        
           | dugmartin wrote:
           | I forgot where I read it (Steve McConnell?) but the best
           | analogy I've heard for a boss/project leader is to think of
           | your job is moving a house and the bosses job is to be a few
           | streets ahead taking down telephone pole wires so you aren't
           | slowed down.
        
       | CodeMage wrote:
       | From the post: "The middle manager that doesn't perform any
       | useful work is a fun stereotype, but I also think it's a good
       | target to aim for."
       | 
       | This is the kind of argument that makes people come up with
       | middle manager stereotypes in the first place. In fact, the whole
       | post is a great example of why middle manager stereotypes exist:
       | it starts with a straw man argument and comes up with a "better
       | alternative" that makes life easier for the manager, regardless
       | of what the manager's reports really _need_.
       | 
       | I've seen this whole "I will empower you to do everything on your
       | own" principle in action and it's _exhausting_. Especially when
       | the word  "empower" is a used as a euphemism for "have you take
       | on additional responsibilities".
       | 
       | Look, boss, sometimes empowering me is just what I need, but
       | sometimes I need you to solve a specific problem for me, so I can
       | keep solving all the other problems I already have on my plate.
        
         | zoeysmithe wrote:
         | Yep, this is just a ploy to create a PMC that actually has no
         | skill workers in it. You just shove MBAs, nepos, etc into these
         | roles and just have them gobble up some managerial course which
         | is often nothing but: delegate, CYA, and 'manage expectations.'
         | 
         | I dont think we need to go back to the old ideas of The Manager
         | who is Above It All and Doesn't Get Their Hands Dirty. At least
         | at middle levels.
        
         | Forgeties79 wrote:
         | >Look, boss, sometimes empowering me is just what I need, but
         | sometimes I need you to solve a specific problem for me, so I
         | can keep solving all the other problems I already have on my
         | plate.
         | 
         | One of the reasons I really like my current manager is he
         | spends a lot more time reminding us he can/offering to "take
         | care of any blockers." His whole management style can be summed
         | up as "Why is it blocked? Ok, leave it to me." Frankly I love
         | it. If it's something _we_ should take care of he 's very
         | specific about it too.
        
           | eithed wrote:
           | Agree and follow this principle to certain degree, however
           | there are caveats here - something being a blocker shouldn't
           | prevent you from trying to resolve the blockers by yourself
           | or work with your boss to resolve them ie - "hey boss, I'm
           | blocked with task A with refactor of this code; are you happy
           | for me to do XYZ?". Then I have options to say: "yes!
           | excellent! go ahead!" or "no, we need to do ASD here" or "no,
           | we cannot do XYZ right now". If every time people
           | encountering blockers would come to me to resolve them, or
           | wait until they're resolved I'd not get anything done. On the
           | flipside, if every time a blocker is encountered people were
           | to handle it themselves, then a) it might not align with my
           | vision on what actually needs to be done here b) I'm
           | blindsighted with what was actually done.
           | 
           | Clear boundaries and strategies eliminate these caveats =
           | team members are aligned on what they can make decision for
           | and general direction the team is heading towards.
        
             | Forgeties79 wrote:
             | Yeah like I said if we are straying in to over-reliance/not
             | really doing our job, he clearly lays out what to do and
             | says "there go take care of it" a few times. He does a good
             | job of not fostering a culture of constantly playing CYA
        
           | phil21 wrote:
           | I often describe myself as a bulldozer for my team. My job is
           | to lay out clear expectations, do my best to steady the
           | course free of external chaos, and bulldoze a clear path for
           | the team to get stuff done.
        
           | rootnod3 wrote:
           | My first manager at Amazon was like that. Loved him to
           | pieces. He didn't micro-manage, he didn't even fully care
           | about the scrum. Just said "I can see the ticket status
           | myself. If you are blocked by something, need any info or
           | resource, I'll hunt it down for you, otherwise you keep
           | cooking".
        
           | bena wrote:
           | Reminds me of something Joel Spolsky wrote about on his blog.
           | The best managers were those who "moved the furniture out the
           | way". Basically clear the way for the people working on the
           | problem to do so.
        
             | Forgeties79 wrote:
             | Like that metaphor
        
         | dasil003 wrote:
         | That entire paragraph is a string of poorly-articultated,
         | cringeworthy sentences. In fact the whole article seems to be a
         | series of strawmen set up on the basis of oddly specific and
         | naive interpretations of management concepts like "servant
         | leadership". There's basically nothing in here that I would
         | agree with as a blanket statement without a lot of company and
         | org-specific provisos.
         | 
         | All that said, to be charitable, I think what the author meant
         | to express is that you don't want to make yourself a bottleneck
         | as a manager, which is a common failure mode for newly
         | converted IC to junior manager. Where he goes off the rails in
         | the most tone-deaf way is describing that as "not doing useful
         | work". As a manager your work is constantly observing what
         | people are doing, staying the hell out of the way when things
         | are working, and leaning in when things are not going well from
         | a team and outcomes perspective. Doing that well is incredibly
         | challenging and important work.
        
           | brabel wrote:
           | > All that said, to be charitable, I think what the author
           | meant to express is that you don't want to make yourself a
           | bottleneck as a manager,
           | 
           | That's not being charitable, that's just having basic
           | interpretation skills of the very next sentence of the
           | article.
        
             | dasil003 wrote:
             | Huh? The next sentence is: "The difference lies in what to
             | do once one has rendered oneself redundant."
        
         | FuriouslyAdrift wrote:
         | If you ever want to quickly destroy an organization, just
         | separate the ability to control with the responsibility to
         | control.
         | 
         | Burnout, infighting, and chaos will ensue.
        
           | lowboy wrote:
           | Being responsible for something while having little/no
           | control is so demoralizing & infuriating.
        
             | stego-tech wrote:
             | As someone once again in such a role, it really is, and it
             | never gets easier.
        
             | nlawalker wrote:
             | Ah yes, the need for "influence without authority", i.e.
             | "the real challenge of this project is that you have been
             | organizationally set up to fail, and we expect you to find
             | a way to succeed in spite of that."
        
               | jghn wrote:
               | This is what removed any lingering thoughts I had about
               | moving up the corporate ladder. If in order to succeed I
               | either need to do certain things or at least get other
               | groups to do those things, and if I'm not allowed to do
               | those things, and if no other group is willing to do
               | those things, and if no one above me is going to change
               | the circumstances, why on earth would anyone think this
               | could be successful?
        
           | indymike wrote:
           | Control, responsibility and accountability have to align.
           | 
           | * You should only be accountable for what you are responsible
           | for.
           | 
           | * You should only be responsible for what you have control
           | of.
           | 
           | Bad managers hate this structure because in makes them
           | accountable for themselves and their subordinates and
           | prevents deflection of blame to low level employees.
        
             | cracki wrote:
             | Please compare and contrast "accountability" and
             | "responsibility".
        
               | Spivak wrote:
               | Responsibility without accountability is that it's your
               | job to make sure something gets done but you don't face
               | any real consequences for not doing it.
               | 
               | Accountability without responsibility is "being the final
               | desk." Leadership is usually in this position where they
               | aren't responsible for designing the product but they are
               | accountable if it doesn't happen and they miss targets.
        
           | exogenousdata wrote:
           | This is a wonderful, succinct way of capturing this danger to
           | businesses as they grow & jump the gap!
        
         | nlawalker wrote:
         | When I was a manager I had to take a training based on the book
         | "The Coaching Habit." It left me really sour on the role, and
         | explained some of the behavior of previous managers of mine
         | that I least appreciated, specifically that their approach to
         | management seemed to be to just get me to articulate and
         | explain my problems over and over until I somehow rubber-ducked
         | myself into solving them myself. When that didn't work, it
         | transitioned to "so how can I help?", which would again
         | eventually be turned around into "now you know how to go help
         | yourself", no matter how direct the request was or how much it
         | really needed management authority behind it.
         | 
         | I get that the point of the strategy is to help people with
         | strong director-style personalities to listen and empathize a
         | bit more, but in my experience it ended up being implemented as
         | "my responsibility to my reports is to listen and nod."
        
           | psunavy03 wrote:
           | This is a main reason why Agile Coaches often end up with
           | such a bad rap, and the role is on the outs.
           | 
           | They're supposed to be people who can work with leadership to
           | ensure the right people are on the right teams working on the
           | right stuff at the right time. And turn around and be able to
           | help teams untangle their QA and CI/CD processes to speed
           | delivery.
           | 
           | Instead, the damn "life coaches" got their foot in the door
           | and started infecting everything. The only time "coaching" is
           | a valid approach is when both you and a coachee agree that
           | the person has what they need to solve the issue and just
           | needs a sounding board or a rubber duck. There's nothing more
           | infuriating that needing help solving a problem and being
           | told "well how would YOU solve the problem?" Idiot, if I knew
           | that, I wouldn't be asking!
        
             | BobaFloutist wrote:
             | Also makes for a poor metaphor, because coaches in sports
             | are supposed to be absolute experts in absolutely
             | everything about the sport without the physical ability to
             | implement it.
             | 
             | Imagine if a football player told their coach "I'm not sure
             | how to deal with this specific opponent's strategy" and the
             | coach was like "Well have you tried thinking about it
             | more?"
        
               | skeeter2020 wrote:
               | there are lots of sports coaches that were not good
               | players, but they are absolute experts in their sport.
               | For some reason we've let agile/life coaches convince us
               | that "management" is the event and someone with customer
               | service management experience has a lot to say about
               | software development management. Ted Lasso is a great
               | show, but it's not gonna happen IRL.
               | 
               | Though the Diamond Dogs would be a great peer group for
               | Engineering Managers...
               | 
               | https://larahogan.me/blog/manager-voltron/
        
           | citizenpaul wrote:
           | > "The Coaching Habit."
           | 
           | Oh wow. This comment just completely explained the worst
           | "manager" I ever had. They must have been using this terrible
           | method.
           | 
           | >no matter how direct the request was or how much it really
           | needed management authority behind it.
           | 
           | They nearly drove me insane with this circular cycle. It was
           | the only job I ever walked out on. I emailed on a Sunday
           | night that I would not be returning to the office after a
           | particularly terrible cycle of this nonsense.
           | 
           | To be clear I am not a "needy" employee. When I ask a manager
           | for something it is because I do not have the authority do
           | the thing.
        
             | pyrolistical wrote:
             | Tell the manager you are assuming their authority.
             | 
             | You will force the answer out of them either way
        
               | hyperhello wrote:
               | This is really how it's done. Don't go over their head;
               | go under their boss's.
        
           | bsoles wrote:
           | The "required" reading for newly minted managers in my
           | $billion company was/is this shit called "One Minute
           | Manager":
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_One_Minute_Manager,
           | including "one minute reprimands" as if employees are
           | children. Happily, I am no longer a manager.
        
           | harrall wrote:
           | My biggest complaint about some people is that they measure
           | success by the act of doing and rarely by the result.
           | 
           | If I help someone, I am checking if you no longer need help.
           | If I say I'm going to be there at a certain time, I remember
           | every time I'm late. If I do laundry a certain way so I won't
           | lose a sock, I make sure I haven't lost a sock. When I do
           | something, my brain replays me "Oh the last time you did
           | this, you made this mistake. Do you want to try it a
           | different way?"
           | 
           | People read how you are "supposed to do things" and feel good
           | when they do it. If you switch to measuring your work by your
           | result, you learn way faster and also get really good at
           | things.
        
             | ToucanLoucan wrote:
             | You've put into excellent words what I have done my whole
             | life. Intent matters but it isn't sufficient. If you "meant
             | to be on time" but weren't, you failed. Simple as. You
             | don't need to lash yourself about it but too many folk are
             | ready to give themselves a pat on the back for good
             | intentions, or trying but failing, etc.
             | 
             | If you say you're gonna be somewhere, show the fuck up.
             | Anything short is a miss. Failing to account for that makes
             | you an asshole, IMO.
        
               | gretch wrote:
               | If you're interested in the subject and want to read
               | more, the concept is commonly called "outcome oriented"
               | vs "process oriented".
               | 
               | A LOT of workplace conflict arises out of outcome
               | oriented ppl having to work with process oriented people.
        
             | tomnipotent wrote:
             | How do you measure results until something is done? It's
             | simply not possible to reliably measure or predict the
             | result of something before it's done, and at best any
             | numbers will be incredibly rough estimates.
             | 
             | The only thing we can control for is the act of doing.
        
               | harrall wrote:
               | No I mean you measure after.
               | 
               | Some people just don't seem to measure after though.
        
           | skeeter2020 wrote:
           | Three buckets of "management":
           | 
           | 1. Mentoring: "this is what I did in a similar situation..."
           | - overused and often not as similar or detailed as needed.
           | 
           | 2. Coaching: "what do you think?" valuable for longer term
           | development that depends on deeper thought and introspection;
           | Your immediate problems a generally neither of these.
           | 
           | 3. Sponsoring: "You mentioned you're looking for X and I
           | heard about a new project where you could learn... want me to
           | connect you?" under-used by managers, super valuable but
           | harder to scale & can be hit/miss.
           | 
           | What your ICs actually need a lot of the time: "solve this
           | problem for me." Most managers can't do this, which is why
           | they became managers. The good ones combine their own skills
           | with 1-3 above to unblock and DON'T push it back on the
           | requestor.
        
             | jvanderbot wrote:
             | "Can't" is not why people become managers.
             | 
             | At least be thoughtful and say "Won't" (because they prefer
             | management)
        
               | skeeter2020 wrote:
               | I intentionally used the word can't, because I don't
               | think it's an option that they're choosing, rather a lack
               | of ability.
        
           | eecc wrote:
           | So basically a crash course in psychoanalysis?
        
         | reactordev wrote:
         | It was clear the author never actually performed servant
         | leadership. If they did, they would be writing a different
         | article about how much work they did to support their team
         | instead of "how much lack of work can I get away with". They
         | sounded like an _absent manager_.
        
         | michaelcampbell wrote:
         | > it starts with a straw man argument ...
         | 
         | Perhaps they have, but there are also no shortage of middle
         | managers that are adequately described by it. I worked for one
         | for a few years.
        
         | jf22 wrote:
         | One of my worst job experiences was when I depended on a
         | colleague who wouldn't deliver. Any feedback or conversations
         | with that colleague mostly resulted in tantrums and empty
         | promises.
         | 
         | The lack of delivery severely harmed the services I provided to
         | the company and to external users, ruined team morale, and was
         | a huge source of stress.
         | 
         | My boss always turned the problem back on me, despite him also
         | being my colleague's boss.
         | 
         | I tried everything I could for 18 months and had extensive
         | documentation of all my attempts, sometimes working in parallel
         | with my boss or using his recommendations.
         | 
         | Still, the problems persisted and every time I brought it up
         | with my boss it was as if he was oblivious to the ongoing saga.
         | I want to HR and over his head about it and he always fed me
         | shit about "empowerment" and "growth."
         | 
         | Yeah, I was empowered to interview with other company's and
         | grew into other new roles.
        
           | parliament32 wrote:
           | There's a good chance he was an executive's nephew or some
           | other protected class.
        
           | cj wrote:
           | You're describing one end of an extreme.
           | 
           | The opposite extreme is you have someone on your team who is
           | _only_ able to resolve conflicts by having their boss
           | intervene.
           | 
           | E.g. you leave some critical feedback in a PR review. The
           | author of the PR doesn't like your comments, so they tell
           | your mutual boss, then your boss comes to you to ask why you
           | left the comments in the PR, instead of the author coming to
           | you directly.
           | 
           | Obviously there are cases where it's appropriate for you and
           | a coworker to address a problem directly with each other. And
           | there are cases where it makes more sense for your boss to
           | intervene.
           | 
           | The problem is the culture at some jobs gravitate towards
           | either end of the extreme. The ideal is somewhere in the
           | middle. A good manager will find that balance.
        
             | jjk166 wrote:
             | > The opposite extreme is you have someone on your team who
             | is only able to resolve conflicts by having their boss
             | intervene.
             | 
             | What's wrong with that? Resolving conflicts is the boss'
             | job. So long as the team mate is doing their actual job
             | appropriately, that's all that matters.
             | 
             | > E.g. you leave some critical feedback in a PR review. The
             | author of the PR doesn't like your comments, so they tell
             | your mutual boss, then your boss comes to you to ask why
             | you left the comments in the PR, instead of the author
             | coming to you directly.
             | 
             | The author should not be coming to you directly, going
             | through the boss is the appropriate route. If the author's
             | complaints were unreasonable, it should be the boss telling
             | them that, not you. If your boss is coming to you, it means
             | they feel the author's complaints are at least partially
             | valid, and you should be hearing that from your boss, not
             | the author.
             | 
             | It's not necessarily a bad thing if people bypass the
             | manager to settle things directly, so long as both parties
             | are comfortable with that, but it's not a happy medium.
        
               | chowells wrote:
               | Handling negative feedback on a PR is a necessary skill
               | for a developer. A manager should only get involved if it
               | becomes hostile. Negative is very far from hostile.
        
         | SoftTalker wrote:
         | For me the worst of this is organizations where employees have
         | to write their own performance reviews. Eff that. _You 're_ the
         | boss, _you_ tell me how I 'm doing. If there's one thing a
         | manager should be accountable for it is the development and
         | evaluation of the people the manager is responsible for.
        
           | xkcd-sucks wrote:
           | No - Performance reviews are important legally, it's the only
           | company IP you're entitled to take with you when you leave
           | etc, so this is where you can have evidence of specific
           | projects etc.
           | 
           | Also - If you write the PR you want to get and give to your
           | manager, the burden of effort falls on the manager to correct
           | it where they disagree. If your manager writes it, the burden
           | of effort falls on the manager to comprehensively justify
           | your value as a matter of record. It is better the former be
           | halfassed than the latter
        
         | venturecruelty wrote:
         | Friendly reminder that management exists to get you to justify
         | your expensive pay check. Every employer-employee relationship
         | is adversarial. Adjust accordingly.
        
         | skeeter2020 wrote:
         | >> but sometimes I need you to solve a specific problem for me,
         | so I can keep solving all the other problems I already have on
         | my plate.
         | 
         | Managers definitely need to contribute and this is a great way
         | to do so, and also build credibility with your team. You don't
         | get the fun or deep technical problems; that's not your job,
         | but you can fulfill whatever transparent leadership is (I
         | think?) by protecting your team from the noise (i.e. the shit
         | umbrella) and contributing in a supporting role (the servant
         | part). The hard / tiring thing is doing this consistently and
         | repeatedly.
        
           | ryoshu wrote:
           | The reward is helping people hone their craft and grow in
           | their careers. Being a shit shield sucks, but the trade-off
           | is worth it.
        
         | moogleii wrote:
         | It isn't the best written piece, but your snippet feels taken
         | grossly out of context. The rest of it:
         | 
         | "A common response is to invent new work, ask for status
         | reports, and add bureaucracy. A better response is to go back
         | to working on technical problems. This keeps the manager's
         | skills fresh and gets them more respect from their reports. The
         | manager should turn into a high-powered spare worker, rather
         | than a papersshuffler."
         | 
         | While being an IC and a manager is quite challenging, I think
         | it's worth discussing the various permutations of it (only one
         | of which is what the author has written about). It can lead to
         | all sorts of systems (round robin leadership within a team
         | being probably one of the most experimental). But for a more
         | conservative, traditional system, there are many examples, e.g.
         | Apple leadership coming out of former ICs.
        
         | Spooky23 wrote:
         | In my experience, leadership is the ability to guide and
         | direct, power is the ability to influence and control. Leaders
         | wield implicit power. Officers of the company wield explicit
         | power.
         | 
         | I see management in the ideal case of finding leaders and
         | equipping them with organizational authority. That's often not
         | what happens, and when you fuck up, the tail wags the dog, and
         | you give empty suits power they can't control. It's one of the
         | reasons "MBA" managers often are perceived as shitty - they
         | lack domain knowledge, have mediocre finance/accounting skills
         | and are invested with lots of power.
         | 
         | As a senior leader in a tech org, my value is deep
         | understanding of the business and the engineering landscape
         | broadly, along with deep knowledge in a few verticals. My goal
         | every day is to plan and articulate what we need to do, make
         | sure my teams have what they need, and help "litigate" disputes
         | and problems. "Agile" religious adherents, project and program
         | managers are not leaders.
         | 
         | Engineers in general are terrible at organizing people, and
         | tend to create little fiefdoms of straw bosses. When I look for
         | directors and managers, I'm looking for the kids who played Civ
         | and SimCity who aren't literalists.
        
         | HWR_14 wrote:
         | The biggest issue in the post is "creates direct links between
         | supply and demand". One of the more important things to do as a
         | manager is sit in hours of meetings so your reports can get a
         | fifteen minute synopsis about the decisions made. And represent
         | your reports in those meetings.
        
       | kentf wrote:
       | Love this, thank you for sharing.
        
       | bbstats wrote:
       | this is so silly. porque no los dos?
        
       | great_wubwub wrote:
       | I once worked for a guy who'd obviously seen the term Servant
       | Leadership on a bumper sticker somewhere and figured that meant
       | he was the leader and we were the servants. Worst boss I ever
       | had, and I've been doing this 30+ years and have had a bunch of
       | bad bosses.
       | 
       | Why not just 'competent leadership', where 'competent' means
       | 'figure out what your people need you to do and do it'?
        
       | onion2k wrote:
       | "Servant Leadership" is a term was coined by Robert Greenleaf in
       | his 1977 book "Servant Leadership: A Journey into the Nature of
       | Legitimate Power and Greatness", which is _very specifically_
       | about being a church leader. Many of the more generic ideas are
       | applicable in any leadership scenario but if you read the book it
       | 's very clear that it was _not_ designed with business leadership
       | in mind. You shouldn 't really expect it to apply to being a
       | leader in a tech company.
        
         | codingdave wrote:
         | Many terms and frameworks evolve beyond their original intent,
         | so I'm not too worried that this has evolved, too.
         | 
         | I've always found it is easier to understand servant leadership
         | as the opposite end of the spectrum from autocratic leadership:
         | Is the leader primarily concerned about growing their own
         | power/success, or growing the power/success of those who work
         | for them?
         | 
         | There is a lot of middle ground between those two extremes, but
         | without that contrast in mind, you can easily lose track of
         | what the terms mean. The article does a decent job of trying to
         | find a healthier middle ground, IMO.
        
           | bluGill wrote:
           | The problem is when things evolve we no longer know if
           | someone refers to the evolved form or the original. Or more
           | importantly if the evolved form retains the important parts
           | of the original.
        
             | f1shy wrote:
             | Exactly. And like evolution, what of the millions of
             | species it evolved to are referring to.
             | 
             | IMHO either stick with the original, or say "like X with
             | following changes/details" or just go with a new thing.
        
           | onion2k wrote:
           | The problem with servant leadership is twofold:
           | 
           | Firstly, in 'proper' servant leadership as taught by
           | Greenleaf the leader is supposed to put _the church_ before
           | their own needs and wants. It is not about serving the people
           | who report to you; it 's about serving the organisation
           | first. In a business context that's horribly toxic and a
           | great way to spend years being exploited by a company that
           | will grind you to burnout for very little money. Thankfully
           | most people don't actually follow what Greenleaf teaches
           | because they think it's about the people.
           | 
           | Secondly though, people don't bother to read much about it.
           | They hear the term and a basic summary, and then fill in the
           | blanks based on their own biases and assumptions.
           | Consequently when someone says they practise servant
           | leadership you _can 't_ know what they mean unless you know
           | them well. People who practise their version of servant
           | leadership assume other people mean the same thing by it, and
           | automatically align themselves with that person based on
           | (probably) false assumptions. It is not a helpful term
           | because it's used for a _huge_ range of leadership styles.
        
         | phantasmish wrote:
         | All these trendy management things either go back to straight-
         | up bullshit (this is the more common case) or some non-bullshit
         | thing that's been ripped out of its original context such that
         | it becomes bullshit.
        
         | dogman144 wrote:
         | Servant leadership works just fine in business (as in a
         | competitive non-church environment) as long you're aware you
         | you're serving and who you're working peer to peer
         | with/against/whatever.
         | 
         | Another term for it somewhat is being a "players coach."
         | 
         | End state is you will build loyal as heck teams with it, and if
         | you want to take a very cynical business mindset, it produces
         | with the least pain and suffering three very impotent outcomes
         | - your team will produce output, they won't hate you along the
         | way, and your team will write you (well earned) manager perf
         | reviews. A manager who has a loyal as heck team up and down the
         | stack builds unique odds of corporate survival.
         | 
         | All it takes is a little EQ.
        
       | neilv wrote:
       | Some good points to think about. But also note that sometimes you
       | can shield and assist a team on things you can't be transparent
       | about with the team.
       | 
       | So a hybrid of the two schools of thought might be better than
       | either one (depending on the larger org).
        
       | hartator wrote:
       | > Teach a man to to fish
       | 
       | "Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Don't teach a man
       | to fish... and you feed yourself. He's a grown man. And fishing's
       | not that hard."
        
       | didip wrote:
       | Can't wait for AI Slack plugins to replace all low tier middle
       | managers. You can achieve so much transparency since the data is
       | already out there anyway.
       | 
       | There has to be a better way to organize how ICs communicate.
       | More productivity to unlock.
        
         | esafak wrote:
         | That's not going to fix the social problems. What happens when
         | your team needs something from another team?
        
       | vinceguidry wrote:
       | Author gives own take on what they thinks servant leadership
       | means, then invents a supposedly different kind of leadership
       | that is just servant leadership, taken into a different context
       | than the original church one, then gives it a new name, one that
       | doesn't really tie into their definition.
        
       | jppope wrote:
       | Just wanted to provide a useful link on the topic of leadership.
       | The US army publishes its doctrine for free and updates it
       | somewhat regularly:
       | 
       | https://talent.army.mil/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/ARN20039_...
       | 
       | The doctrine is a no-nonsense, no-fluff document based on 200+
       | years of military tradition where the effectiveness of the
       | leadership is actually life and death. Definitely worth a read if
       | you are interested in leadership.
        
         | AndrewKemendo wrote:
         | As a multiple time ground force commander both in Iraq and
         | stateside for CI operations, I can firmly state that there is
         | literally zero to be learned about leadership from corporate or
         | political worlds.
         | 
         | When I left the USG because it's fundamentally corrupt, I went
         | into private business thinking there were technical/business
         | leaders that had pro-social incentives, and their heads screwed
         | on.
         | 
         | Man was I wrong.
         | 
         | The US military has _by far_ the best, all encompassing, most
         | focused and persistently updating leadership development and
         | it's STILL absolutely garbage.
         | 
         | There's ZERO, and actually most likely negative, incentives to
         | think about and apply ethics in business and politics, because
         | at the end of the day the most ruthless will win in the long
         | run.
        
           | lostlogin wrote:
           | It sounds like you have been burnt, badly.
           | 
           | There is surely a business out there that does fit your world
           | view, though the pay and conditions might not.
           | 
           | In my view, the need for growth at any cost is toxic and
           | leads to all sorts of horrible behaviours.
        
             | AndrewKemendo wrote:
             | There are no good organizations, only ones that aren't
             | completely corrupt yet. Consider that to start and maintain
             | an organization takes significant capital and energy
             | expenditures upfront, which means you need to fund them
             | from somewhere and ask sources of funding are corrupted.
             | Consider: there are no long lasting egalitarian,
             | distributed power, grassroots organizations that can
             | compete at a level of social influence that can overcome or
             | resist the existing power structure.
             | 
             | I've looked at every possible organization that could
             | theoretically fit including; MSF a.k.a. doctors without
             | borders, swords to plowshares, goodwill industries (who
             | employ significant numbers of disabled people for sub min
             | wages while the CEO makes 3M+), Mondragon etc... and they
             | all have exactly the same fucked up incentives
             | 
             | why? because there is no way to survive as a structure, if
             | your org is made up of people who want to eat and don't
             | want to be a monk.
             | 
             | unless your organization is the lead maximalist resource
             | dominator you will be overrun by some organization with no
             | ethics
             | 
             | Ultimately it comes down to the fact that people have to
             | trade physical and mental work for money to survive. So
             | there is no alternative to do the "right thing" without
             | also risking your own safety and stability in your chosen
             | society. 99.99999% of people are completely unwilling to
             | risk their life on behalf of any particular philosophy - if
             | only because those people don't feel strongly enough about
             | any particular philosophy to actually put themselves on the
             | line for it.
             | 
             | So whoever has the most money, has the ability to get the
             | most people to work for their goals.
             | 
             | Unfortunately the people with all the money/power do not
             | care about anything other than growing their own personal
             | power
        
               | alwa wrote:
               | I'd be curious what you identified as the shortcomings of
               | e.g. MSF or Mondragon. I might throw semi-decentralized
               | social ventures like the IFRC in the mix there too: that
               | emblem alone sure carries an almost-talismanic degree of
               | social weight, seemingly worldwide, I think in large part
               | because they're foresworn from swinging around their
               | influence outside of their lane.
               | 
               | And I mean... "don't want to live like a monk" seems like
               | a telling qualifier: the whole monastic lifestyle seems
               | pretty widespread and enduring across cultures and
               | through time... is the humbler mode of religious devotion
               | an example of what you're looking for?
               | 
               | In any case you've clearly thought deeply and widely
               | about this question--I'd be interested to read your
               | thoughts if you end up collecting them somewhere!
        
               | AndrewKemendo wrote:
               | I'm simply acknowledging that only a tiny fraction of any
               | group will find themselves devoted to the group in the
               | "monastic" way of self erasure
        
               | lostlogin wrote:
               | > why? because there is no way to survive as a structure,
               | if your org is made up of people who want to eat and
               | don't want to be a monk.
               | 
               | The worse offenders in terms of corrupting power
               | structures seem to be religious organisations, so being a
               | monk is out too.
               | 
               | That power eventually corrupts shouldn't rule out an
               | organisation, but if it does, start your own and keep it
               | to one employee.
        
           | sa46 wrote:
           | That's quite a strong claim. I disagree. Military leadership,
           | like business leadership, is imperfect. Both vary based on
           | individuals, the operating environment, and culture.
        
         | positron26 wrote:
         | Because of the Ukraine conflict, the phrase "mission command"
         | came to my attention. It's about C2 rather than leadership but
         | another one of those gems we might filter out in our "Bay Area"
         | (you're all terminally online Europeans / teenagers jk) bubble.
         | 
         | The idea of mission command is pretty simple. If you see an
         | incidental opportunity that will contribute to the big picture
         | and pursuing it won't compromise the objective of your orders,
         | take it. IIRC they call it something like "scoped initiative."
         | 
         | If you see an incidental opportunity that you can't take
         | because it would compromise your local objective, you escalate.
         | Up the chain, in the larger scope, that incidental opportunity
         | that would compromise the objective of the smaller unit may be
         | addressable using some available resources of the bigger unit.
         | 
         | It works by deduction and beautifully because you get the best
         | of both individual initiative and large-scale coordination.
         | It's an example where from-first-principle CS and pragmatic
         | emergent systems resonate because it's near a morally true
         | optimum.
         | 
         | In the context of OP, knowing the objective of your larger 1-2
         | organization levels is all the transparency that is every
         | necessary. Neurons aren't smart. Information flows in a network
         | are smart. Don't trust people who start performing and asking
         | for transparency because ninety-nine times out of ten, they
         | can't do better with what they ask for but will make everyone
         | else do worse by breaking the cohesion.
         | 
         | And finally I read OP. It's a vapid feel-good long-form tweet
         | that is nothing compared to the comment section.
        
           | cracki wrote:
           | > ninety-nine times out of ten
           | 
           | that gave me a chuckle
        
         | adverbly wrote:
         | > no-nonsense, no-fluff document
         | 
         | > Links ~100 pages pdf
         | 
         | > US army
         | 
         | Yeah that checks out...
         | 
         | I kid. Thanks for the share though!
        
         | TheOccasionalWr wrote:
         | I'm pretty sure software development of a website doesn't
         | translate to a life and death situation that US army is dealing
         | with. If anything it's why there is so many managers who think
         | this works as if we are solving lives so they have to be strict
         | and we all have to be strict and everyone needs to have their
         | story points updated. The reason why most people went into
         | software development is because they like building stuff so you
         | have to inspire that - it's quite different to why people join
         | US army.
         | 
         | My 2 cents on the actual manager philosophy is that it depends
         | on the organization and the personal and cultural differences
         | of the team members, some people like leaders, some people like
         | servants and some like equality. At the end of the day everyone
         | has to be aware they do work for the business and why they do
         | stuff. The manager has to make that aware and inspire people.
         | 
         | Team topologies Shapeup Sooner Safer Happier
         | 
         | I think those fit most companies.
        
         | taurath wrote:
         | Last published 2019.
         | 
         | I think were it rewritten with the current leadership, the very
         | first thing they'd remove would be this topic line:
         | 
         | > Army professionals recognize the intrinsic dignity and worth
         | of all people and treat them with respect
         | 
         | Both in political and corporate (especially tech) leadership,
         | this principle has proven to be convenient to say and equally
         | convenient to be tossed aside with the slightest provocation -
         | people are seen as consumers, workers, undesirables, or
         | chattel, not as beings with dignity, that is only for people in
         | privileged positions.
        
       | pragma_x wrote:
       | I must have misunderstood what "Servant Leadership" actually is.
       | I identify as such, but I also do just about all of the
       | "Transparent Leadership" things called out in the article. I may
       | have to re-evaluate my orientation.
       | 
       | There's only one place I disagree and that's when it comes to
       | empowering the team to do every last thing within your charge
       | ("become redundant"). Depending on the organization, there are
       | some actions that only a manager is empowered to do. Someone
       | still needs to be present to weigh in on disputes/arguments,
       | break ties, handle performance, reviews, interviews, PIPs,
       | dismissals, and handle _other_ managers when necessary. It's
       | simply not possible delegate these things and in the case of
       | dealing with other managers, can imperil a person's employment.
       | 
       | Also, I would caution anyone to avoid directly comparing
       | management to parenthood, even as a metaphor. A lot of people
       | have terrible parents, and so model the worst behaviors: they
       | can't nurture a houseplant let alone a human being. I've seen
       | people like this bring the worst possible models for management
       | into the workplace this way, and they do a ton of damage to
       | businesses, psyches, and careers in return. Instead, I urge
       | anyone to look to the carpenter/gardener dichotomy and how good
       | leadership requires a bit of both:
       | 
       | https://www.intellicoach.com/ep14/
        
         | alistairSH wrote:
         | _I must have misunderstood what "Servant Leadership" actually
         | is._
         | 
         | You did not. Or, at least we share an understanding of what the
         | term means which differs substantially from the author's.
        
       | mergy wrote:
       | This article is a great example of the Strawman Fallacy. I
       | suppose it's a method to generate traffic but I would argue a key
       | aspect of servant leadership is being transparent that you are in
       | a role that should collectively support and lead to enable and
       | expand the team.
       | 
       | I feel attributing any sort of parental concepts belittles the
       | meaning here.
        
       | chzblck wrote:
       | Coming from the Sales world sometimes I don't want to be taught
       | to fish.
       | 
       | I'm coming to my VP for help because I already tried diff baits,
       | went to diff ponds, and tried diff reels. I'm coming for a fish
       | finder not a lecture on maybe my casting was off
        
       | usernamed7 wrote:
       | They just described servant leadership and called it something
       | else. It's not about parenting or treating people like children.
        
       | dogman144 wrote:
       | Not a great post, I'd not follow it if interested in leading
       | teams long term.
       | 
       | A Self-admitted self taught manager learns the good parts about
       | servant leadership via self-learning (nice!) but figures that is
       | all there is instead of - "this is interesting, this seems to
       | work but have gaps, what is there to this?"
       | 
       | If the author did that, they'd discover a massive body of
       | knowledge to include the specific problem they point out - you
       | solve problems for your team, how do they start to solve their
       | own problems?
       | 
       | Servant leadership works if paired with the following, tuned to
       | the capabilities and maturities of the specific employee:
       | 
       | - servant leadership: resource your team, umbrella your team, let
       | the smart people you hired do smart things, or turn so so
       | employees into great ones by resourcing them to learn, getting
       | them mentorship, and "sun is strong than cold wind" sort of
       | thinking.
       | 
       | - Left/right limits and target outcome: consistently inform your
       | team their duty, in exchange for all the above manager work
       | that's way past the least-effort bar, is to get comfortable
       | solving problems within the bounds of what the solution does and
       | does not need to look like. Force this issue always, and they
       | start solving their own problems at growing speed, and you have a
       | QA check as a manager via documenting those boundaries per
       | project etc
       | 
       | - train your replacement: part serving your team is reaching
       | there's probably another sociopath on it who wants to lead teams,
       | wants raw power, and so on. Enable that! Teach them how to lead
       | teams in the above fashion. They'll realize it works. You'll
       | train someone who can take over the remaining problem solving.
       | This won't hurt your own job either.
       | 
       | Put it all together you'll get very loyal productive teams of
       | employees who'll respect you outside of work in your industry
       | where it matters for networking purposes, and you can live with
       | yourself after the laptop closes as you know you're treating your
       | fellow man/woman the right way while surving in crazy corporate
       | environments.
       | 
       | In short, bad advice in that article. There's a whole corpus to
       | leadership beyond what the author figured out in the side and
       | describes here ha.
       | 
       | Edit - ironically the author then argues for arguably similar as
       | the above, but claims it's something else of their own invention.
       | Engineers should really grok how there are existing bodies of
       | very useful knowledge for all the things that seem easily
       | dismissible as gaps or weak points from tho social sciences. It'd
       | save them a lot of time.
        
       | MrDrDr wrote:
       | IMO: I think there is a helpful distinction to be made between
       | leadership and management. Leadership provides purpose and
       | inspiration. Management provides, coordination and motivation.
       | I'm not saying one person can't do both.
       | 
       | I do agree that most management books read like parenting books -
       | but I'd add that whats more important than the method is
       | consistency in whatever approach you believe in. I'm not sure
       | that managers/leaders will ever do that well relying on a book or
       | a special 'way' they have read. They really need to have worked
       | this out for themselves.
        
       | ordinaryradical wrote:
       | I think this has somewhat strawmanned "servant leadership," which
       | is more about humility in posture than purely intercepting
       | annoyances and blockers, but nevertheless the conclusions are
       | solid.
        
       | simonw wrote:
       | My first few years as an engineering manager were heavily
       | influenced by my idea that I needed to be a "shit umbrella" - I
       | needed to protect my team from all of the shit raining down
       | around the organization so they could focus on getting stuff
       | done.
       | 
       | I eventually realized that this is a terrible management
       | philosophy! Your team would much rather understand what's going
       | on, _why_ things are happening and why certain projects are high
       | priority, and protecting them from the shit doesn 't actually
       | help with that at all.
        
         | wmeredith wrote:
         | Shit umbrella is not a great analogy. More like a shit filter.
         | Let through what needs to be let through and block all the
         | distracting crap.
        
         | michaelcampbell wrote:
         | You CAN tell the team it's raining and details of the weather
         | without letting them get overly wet.
         | 
         | There's middle ground here.
        
         | kepeko wrote:
         | Agree. team needs to know about the shit. It's important
         | information that helps them prioritize their work and motivates
         | them as they know that what they do is important for the bigger
         | bosses. If manager shields me from everything I go apathetic,
         | not knowing why I even do the boring stuff if manager doesn't
         | tell me his manager is giving shit
        
           | taurath wrote:
           | I hate having to rely on my own sense of what happened in a
           | meeting, or which executive is upset about something. While
           | its usually accurate, it's been borne out of chaotic
           | leadership and shouldn't be necessary, especially if its to
           | try to get off the tracks when a freight train is coming.
           | 
           | Sometimes the culture of poor management is so ingrained and
           | normalized people really don't understand what the problem
           | is. That usually ends with me looking elsewhere, as taking on
           | the responsibility other's won't while not having authority
           | has lead to multiple full years lost to burnout.
        
         | tonyarkles wrote:
         | I'm laughing because I used that exact same phrase: "shit
         | umbrella". Like some of the other replies mentioned, telling
         | your team it's raining is great. The balance I found was to let
         | them know what's coming and why but to let leadership's
         | "pivots" to stabilize for a few days before sharing the
         | unfiltered shit stream with my reports. This meant that the
         | team still knew what was going on early but didn't panic as
         | much when there was a sudden crazy random request from
         | leadership that would be highly disruptive.
        
         | zawaideh wrote:
         | The metaphor I prefer is to be a transparent shit umbrella.
        
         | Gormo wrote:
         | There's a big difference between protecting a team from all the
         | shit and hiding it from them completely.
         | 
         | It's good to be a _transparent_ shit umbrella. The team should
         | absolutely have visibility into what 's going on, and
         | understand why certain decisions are being made, but a good
         | manager does need to step in to avoid the shit hitting them
         | directly.
        
           | simonw wrote:
           | "Transparent shit umbrella" is indeed a much more useful
           | metaphor.
        
           | lesdeuxmagots wrote:
           | Love the idea of the transparent shit umbrella.
           | 
           | Some people advocate keeping the team inside and telling them
           | it's raining. But how far does that go? Are you keeping them
           | in an underground bunker? Or is it a room with a window? A
           | skyscraper with floor to ceiling windows surrounding them?
           | 
           | I'm of the mind that if it's possible, the team needs to be
           | outside in the shit rain while protected by the shit
           | umbrella. But they need to FEEL the weather, not just see it
           | or vaguely know of it, but still protected enough to be able
           | to get to where they need to go.
           | 
           | Of course, what if the shit storm is overwhelming and coming
           | in sideways, or if it's flooding shit, so that even with
           | protection, everyone is stuck in a quagmire? Well, obviously,
           | don't actually let them go outside, but 1) the company has
           | much bigger, likely existential problems it needs to deal
           | with, and 2) the team REALLY needs to know.
           | 
           | Needless to say, this all applies more to decently high
           | functioning organizations, but not to completely
           | dysfunctional ones. When it's a nuclear winter outside,
           | everyone is bought into the idea of staying in the bunker and
           | just keeping calm and carrying on regardless of how bad it is
           | outside. There's nowhere to go, you're there just to survive.
        
             | samwillis wrote:
             | > But they need to FEEL the weather
             | 
             | You mean they need to smell it!
        
             | sillyfluke wrote:
             | To your point about dysfunctional orgs:
             | 
             | After deploying your transparent shit umbrella, your next
             | problem is your own shitty boss or your boss's boss who
             | will get pissed off you are using a transparent umbrella
             | once that transparency starts blowingback on them. Because
             | once your team learns that it's raining shit outside, they
             | will want to know what you're doing to mitigate, reverse,
             | or sidestep the shit. Some of the time, the things you
             | confide to your team in the course of this feedback will
             | piss off adjacent teams or some people up the ladder once
             | they get wind of it (your opinion of some decisions, or the
             | perceived negative consequences of your mitigation strategy
             | on said people) Hence your umbrella being transparent makes
             | what people euphemistically call "managing up" much more
             | fucking annoying. I don't claim that there is an
             | alternative, just that it's a fact of the principled life
             | (one result being getting fired, often ironically for not
             | being a "team player"). I don't have a fix, but would like
             | to hear some if anyone has any.
        
         | cracki wrote:
         | Distinguish between "seeing the shit" and "being hit by it
         | all".
        
         | dyauspitr wrote:
         | A shit umbrella is not a two way block. It keeps shit from
         | falling onto the employees but doesn't prevent employees from
         | knowing what is happening at higher leadership levels.
        
         | munchbunny wrote:
         | You do need to expose your team to _some_ of the shit that 's
         | getting flung or else your team gets used to operating under
         | clean conditions and loses its tolerance.
         | 
         | For better or for worse, politics and randomization is just a
         | thing in our jobs, and for at least some people in your team
         | that means part of career growth is learning to handle it. If
         | you, the manager, are the sole person capable of being the
         | "shit umbrella" for the team, that's another way that your team
         | gets a bus number of 1. (I learned this the hard way.)
         | 
         | In an ideal world you have some senior engineers who are more
         | of the "don't bother me and let me cook" persuasion, and then
         | you have at least one who is probably on track to become a
         | manager, and they are your backup when you can't be in two
         | places at once.
        
       | RA_Fisher wrote:
       | Excellent analysis. It's like: servant of whom (themselves)?
        
       | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
       | That's interesting.
       | 
       | I did everything he mentions in "Transparent Leadership," but
       | also the stuff he talks about in "Curling Parenting."
       | 
       | I did it for 25 years. Seemed to work. I kept my job.
       | 
       | In my company, Personal Integrity and Honesty were _very_
       | important. Not sure how representative that is, in today 's
       | world. It was an old-fashioned Japanese corporation.
        
         | Traubenfuchs wrote:
         | If the dishonesty worked, you never know it happened!
         | 
         | So you can never tell how much of it there really is...
        
           | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
           | _> If the dishonesty worked_
           | 
           | Try it in an old-fashioned Japanese company, and let me know
           | how it works out. They tend to verify a lot.
           | 
           | I saw some real disasters, when their culture clashed with
           | modern SV culture.
        
       | ponooqjoqo wrote:
       | We should stop normalizing referring to managers or employers as
       | leaders. These are different things.
        
       | shevy-java wrote:
       | Hmmm.
       | 
       | "transparent leadership. In my book, a good leader
       | 
       | coaches people"
       | 
       | So ... why does coaching people require transparent leadership?
       | 
       | I think people can be sneaky and secretive; or transparent. Both
       | can easily be used for coaching and training and teaching people.
       | The other points have a similar issue in my opinion. The article
       | is more like a "feel-good" statement - people subscribe to "be
       | nice and kind". But are all leaders nice and kind? Are evil and
       | mean leaders automatically incompetent and ineffective? I think
       | the analysis part should be decoupled from ethics in regards to
       | "xyz beats abc". One has to define what the goal is.
       | 
       | For instance, some CEO firing 50% of the people will be
       | critisized by many - but greedy shareholders may get more money
       | that way, so for them they may prefer a CEO that is mean-spirited
       | here. That same mean-spirited CEO could be an awesome family guy
       | and super-friendly with his close reallife friends and family,
       | but when it comes to the company, he is ruthless. And so on and
       | so forth.
        
       | derekcheng08 wrote:
       | The biggest omission that immediately stands out to me is:
       | "provides a clear sense of direction".
       | 
       | I've seen so many examples of teams and organizations that
       | experience a lack of clarity, with all sorts of negative
       | downstream consequences - muddled strategies, moving goalposts,
       | fatigue/low morale. Having a leader that can provide that clarity
       | is so important.
        
       | weitendorf wrote:
       | Kind of a weird hyper-literal interpretation of "servant
       | leadership" IMO. Upskilling and empowering your team, not making
       | yourself a SPOF, treating your adult colleagues like adults, all
       | sounds like servant leadership to me...
        
       | ef2k wrote:
       | I think the premise is a little shaky since a good servant leader
       | is already transparent. But there's some good takeaways. Leaders
       | should inform their team of what's happening behind the scenes
       | and allow them to understand why things are playing out the way
       | they are. Allowing people to take on more responsibility, if they
       | want it, is a healthy sign of an organization, but it shouldn't
       | be imposed nor expected if they already have enough on their
       | plates.
        
       | herval wrote:
       | > Servant leadership seems to me a lot like curling parenting:
       | the leader/parent anticipate problems and sweep the way for their
       | direct reports/children.
       | 
       | That's not what "Servant leadership" is. It's about _letting the
       | team lead_ - and they can come to you if they need help - instead
       | of _pushing the team_. So in practice it's the opposite of
       | anticipating problems. If something, servant leadership gets a
       | bad rep for being used as an excuse to let people fall on the
       | sword, instead of protecting them
       | 
       | The rest of the post is just describing the role of "Management".
        
       | siliconc0w wrote:
       | The problem I've found with servant leadership in large orgs is
       | the direct manager usually has little agency over problems. The
       | best you can get is maybe they can provide additional context on
       | the good intentions behind the bad decisions. This is essentially
       | by design, a critical role they play are to be the scape goats
       | and shock absorbers for the bad machinery above them.
        
       | zetazzed wrote:
       | This is actually not such bad advice for a manager who manages
       | other managers, though I can see why ICs find it very
       | frustrating. If you are giving high level platitudes and
       | counseling-disguised-as-coaching to a junior new hire, they can
       | rightly ask WTF. But managers, especially those recently moved
       | from IC tech roles, often do benefit from this kind of forced
       | introspection. If they have an underperforming employee, they
       | should bounce ideas around with a more experienced manager, but
       | the first line manager ultimately needs to be the one deciding
       | how to rebalance work to maximize learning or to ultimately make
       | the call to part ways with the employee. If a servant senior
       | leader over them is actually doing the slog of working through
       | the hardest issues (interpersonal conflict, serious direction
       | change needed for team, firing people, top performers at risk of
       | leaving), the first line manager is never going to grow.
       | Similarly "cut out the middleman" advice in the article is great
       | for senior ICs/quasi-architects or sub-managers but potentially
       | toxic for junior engineers who may get steamrolled by the classic
       | "1000 urgent requests issue" that managers or potentially very
       | senior ICs need to drive.
        
         | dpark wrote:
         | Why is forced introspection good for managers but not for ICs?
         | 
         | I'm not saying that the extreme "I do nothing except act as a
         | sounding board and tell my team to solve their own problems" is
         | a good approach. But pushing people to solve their own problems
         | _does_ help them grow. It needs to be a balance.
         | 
         | A good manager should be able to see what someone is capable of
         | solving with zero, a little, or a lot of help and engage
         | accordingly. And sometimes they can't solve it at all and the
         | manager has to take it in directly or pull in someone else who
         | can.
        
       | adverbly wrote:
       | Between the article and the comments in this thread there is
       | actually some pretty good advice here and reasonable and nuanced
       | takes to management.
       | 
       | Bit surprised by this. Has the hn community aged into management
       | or something?
       | 
       | I guess we are not as young and naive as we used to be...
        
       | browningstreet wrote:
       | In a world where we've walked away from master/slave,
       | blacklists.. why is servant still being used?
        
         | ahoka wrote:
         | What historical systematic injustice do you associate this word
         | with?
        
           | 9rx wrote:
           | Serfdom.
        
       | krosaen wrote:
       | The founder of Zingerman's (famous deli and family of businesses
       | in Ann Arbor) description of servant leadership is a bit more
       | complete and overlaps heavily with what the author of this post
       | is advocating for:
       | 
       | https://www.zingtrain.com/article/servant-leadership/
        
       | maxdtroll wrote:
       | I've come to define Leadership as
       | 
       | "The ability to smooth things out for everyone while helping them
       | accomplish their goals"
       | 
       | I think it helps differentiate the "authoritarian" leader or the
       | "Servant leadership" from the "legitimate" one. All kinds of
       | leadership (sports, education, business, relationships) come from
       | understanding people's needs and providing more efficient
       | strategies to meet them.
        
       | codyb wrote:
       | Managing upwards beats being managed in my experience. Seems to
       | work with most managers, and reduces surprises which reduces
       | stress all around and causes course corrections and course
       | alignments earlier.
       | 
       | I tend to do status updates in public channels before anyone can
       | ask me but I've been the fortunate loner for the last couple
       | years where I get to work with a lot of people but outside a lot
       | of process.
        
       | lunarcave wrote:
       | I can't remember where I heard this, but the moment it flipped
       | for me is when someone phrased this as - "be a heat shield".
       | 
       | A heat shield has some leakage of heat that the people inside
       | know that there's heat, but enough cover that the team is
       | shielded somewhat.
        
       | rietta wrote:
       | I think the author is significantly straw-manning the concept of
       | servant leadership.
       | 
       | The short take presented in the article doesn't match my lived
       | experience with this style, both in secular and faith-based
       | circles. The core idea is absolutely not that of a "curling
       | parent." Instead, it embodies living the walk, walking the talk,
       | and putting the team's needs before your own ego.
       | 
       | In fact, this profound concept goes all the way back to Jesus
       | Christ, who modeled it by washing the feet of his disciples--a
       | task reserved for the lowliest servant of the time. This act was
       | deliberately shocking and context-defying. He effectively "turned
       | the world upside down" by saying, "Anyone who wants to be first
       | must be the very last, and the servant of all."
       | 
       | I'm not trying to proof-text, but this idea is ancient and deep.
       | It's a profound leadership style that is unfortunately often
       | executed poorly or misunderstood by modern practitioners. Poor
       | execution doesn't invalidate the concept itself.
        
       | trunnell wrote:
       | Having a bad manager in past roles can be some of the best
       | "manager training."
       | 
       | If one your past managers did something recommended in this
       | article but it caused problems, that's ok! It just means you have
       | seen another failure mode that the author didn't experience.
       | 
       | I remember being in a meeting with a bunch of the best managers
       | at a former company. "Why did you originally want to be a
       | manager?" was one of the first questions passed around the
       | circle. The most common answer was, "I had this one really bad
       | manager and I figured that surely I could do better."
        
         | Devasta wrote:
         | > I had this one really bad manager and I figured that surely I
         | could do better.
         | 
         | The only thing worse than being invited to a lot of meetings is
         | not being invited to those meetings.
        
         | mrguyorama wrote:
         | >"I had this one really bad manager and I figured that surely I
         | could do better."
         | 
         | That doesn't mean that those people are learning from prior bad
         | management. That could instead mean that management tends to be
         | people who are convinced of their own above average competence.
         | 
         | Did anyone ask the reports of those managers whether they were
         | any good?
        
       | ErrantX wrote:
       | I suspect this is written by someone who stepped into managing a
       | team and no further.
       | 
       | My reflection overall is; he's probably heard of servant
       | leadership but not understood it? It's not about sweeping away
       | problems but more a mindset that your role is to empower. I feel
       | strongly that all new managers should embrace and get good at
       | this because it instills the mindset that the best leaders
       | ultimately only succeed through their team.
       | 
       | A servant leader who becomes overworked is either not doing their
       | job well (delegation isn't contrary to the mindset!) or, more
       | likely, has a poor leader themselvesw.
       | 
       | I actually love the concept of transparent leadership but sadly I
       | can't see it come through in his points. They are all things a
       | good leader, a good servant leader, should also do.
       | 
       | For me transparent leadership becomes more critical as you move
       | up the stack. Once you get to multiple teams or teams of teams
       | leaders must pivot strongly to strategy setting, and in this your
       | servant leadership comes in painting a clear destination for
       | everyone to get to.
       | 
       | At this point I believe the best leaders are genuinely
       | transparent and the worst keep secrets. One of my most respected
       | mentors framed it as deliberately over-sharing. Which I love,
       | even if I get into trouble for it constantly!
       | 
       | (I do like the writers anarchic streak; the best leaders are
       | radicals)
        
       | hintymad wrote:
       | > continuously trains their replacement, and > generally makes
       | themselves redundant.
       | 
       | This is the advice we get from many business books and leadership
       | advices. However, I see more often than not leaders in a company
       | do the opposite to keep their power. There is a missing link to
       | making the good advice actionable: what can the leader do to keep
       | becoming more valuable while making themselves "redundant".
        
       | jjk166 wrote:
       | Comparing leadership to parenting right out the gate tells me all
       | I need to know about this person's management ability.
       | 
       | Your direct reports are not children. You are not raising them
       | out of an altruistic drive to guide the next generation. You are
       | a part of a team of grown adults. You are not above the team, you
       | have a roll on the team. It is an important roll: as a leader you
       | provide high level direction so people are working towards the
       | appropriate goal and confident it is achievable. Likely you are
       | also acting as a manager, coordinating resources and resolving
       | internal and external stakeholder conflicts. This makes the team
       | more efficient, it's important.
       | 
       | But the people you are leading are the ones actually doing the
       | work. They are likely more skilled at their particular role than
       | you, and knowledgeable about much more. You are not leading them
       | because you are better, you are leading them because that's how
       | you can best contribute to the team.
       | 
       | Leadership has absolutely nothing to do with coaching,
       | connecting, teaching, explaining, linking, growth inducing, or
       | training their subordinates. Zero. Zip. Nada. It is the role of
       | more senior practitioners to mentor their more junior colleagues.
       | Leaders often are drawn from more senior ranks, so it's not
       | uncommon for a person in a leadership role to also be in a
       | mentoring role, but they are two separate and unrelated
       | positions. If anything, the most important skill of a good leader
       | is effectively soliciting the right information and wisdom from
       | the right team members so they can most effectively leverage
       | their team's expertise.
       | 
       | You shouldn't be teaching everyone how to communicate with the
       | customer well, you should be identifying the person who is
       | already great at such communication and making sure the rest of
       | the team is giving them what they need to communicate
       | effectively. The person who is great at such communication should
       | be the one teaching that communication to their peers, and not
       | through coaching but by showing everyone how it's done.
       | 
       | A leadership style of getting your direct reports to do your job
       | for you is transparent in the sense that your subordinates will
       | see right through you.
        
         | geoffbp wrote:
         | Role*
         | 
         | Sorry
        
       | JoshCole wrote:
       | It is pleasantly sensible since servant leadership in a sense
       | creates an innocence because of the incents; the underlying
       | reality is that wisdom dwells with prudence. Principles of
       | revelation arise from incentive compatibility. Aiming at the
       | apparent target is good hearted folly.
        
       | evolve2k wrote:
       | I want to reproblematise the word 'leadership' here. The phrase
       | 'servant leadership' is actually a paradigm shift away from
       | classic 'out-the-front' 'the-boss-knows-best' 'dominate-others'
       | leadership.
       | 
       | What the author is missing is parallelisation. By definition in
       | systems of clear one person in charge leadership the work
       | bottlenecks and power centralises, hard.
       | 
       | In models of servant leadership, it's possible for multiple
       | people to bring leadership and leadership skills all at once.
       | 
       | In a group of a dozen or more people, huge bottlenecks and ego
       | power crap are resolved as multiple people can bring servant
       | leadership.
       | 
       | It's single core vs parallel, in the later leadership can then
       | come from all participants, even the very young and vulnerable
       | involved in the group can learn to do this.
       | 
       | The emphasis is on skill sharing and being of service OVER power
       | hoarding.
        
       | geoffbp wrote:
       | Servant leadership to me always meant that as a manager I am a
       | servant to the team. Pretty sure that was the intended meaning of
       | it.
        
       | rasengan0 wrote:
       | >transparent leadership. In my book, a good leader ...
       | 
       | I practice this in my day job, as in that is the default mode for
       | continued employment. Not sure how these practices are new. I
       | wonder if it is a generational thing.
        
       | jedberg wrote:
       | Looking back at the best leaders I've ever worked for, they all
       | followed that philosophy that was explicitly stated at Netflix:
       | Context not Control.
       | 
       | The goal of the manager was to explain to their reports what
       | problems the team need to solves and why. Make sure the team was
       | aware of any factors elsewhere in the org that might make a
       | difference, and then connect the people on their team with the
       | people on other teams who they need to talk to.
       | 
       | Beyond that the leader's job was to seek out such context from
       | their peers and leadership.
       | 
       | But then it was up to the IC to figure out the _how_. The manager
       | never told me how to accomplish the task unless I asked, and that
       | was more of a mentorship than as a manager. And when I was a
       | junior, most of that mentorship came from my more senior peers
       | than my manager.
        
       | paofii wrote:
       | My worst managers were "transparent" as in they were basically a
       | telephone game actor between me and my skip, with a little extra
       | anxiety mixed in. Needless to say, I couldn't quit those jobs
       | fast enough. Who comes up with this nonsense?
        
       | justatdotin wrote:
       | leadership is not a role it is a shared responsibility; an
       | emergent effect we can all nurture.
        
       | jimnotgym wrote:
       | I have a few management tips I think are worth something, perhaps
       | I'll start with this one.
       | 
       | Take all the things you don't like about your former managers,
       | and don't do them.
       | 
       | Then take all the things you thought were good and copy them.
       | 
       | That's it
        
       | lloydjones wrote:
       | I don't really relate to many comments here stating "my approach
       | is X", or "I went from servant-leader to process-master-whatever
       | leader".
       | 
       | I've found that trying to be anything but flexible to the
       | environment is unrealistic and even egotistical.
       | 
       | E.g, There are some environments where the CEO is so "command and
       | control" that the "I want us all to bring our authentic selves to
       | the peace circle of work, and from each according to his ability,
       | to each according to his needs, we will figure out a synergy that
       | works for all" just won't ever work.
       | 
       | And for me, being unable to adapt the approach to environment
       | suggests 'one trick pony'.
        
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