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       What OpenAI did when ChatGPT users lost touch with reality
        
       Author : nonprofiteer
       Score  : 51 points
       Date   : 2025-11-24 05:58 UTC (17 hours ago)
        
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       | cc62cf4a4f20 wrote:
       | https://archive.is/v4dPa
        
       | ArcHound wrote:
       | One of the more disturbing things I read this year was the my
       | boyfriend is AI subreddit.
       | 
       | I genuinely can't fathom what is going on there. Seems so wrong,
       | yet no one there seems to care.
       | 
       | I worry about the damage caused by these things on distressed
       | people. What can be done?
        
         | 2OEH8eoCRo0 wrote:
         | That subreddit is disturbing
        
         | j-pb wrote:
         | After having spoken with one of the people there I'm a lot less
         | concerned to be honest.
         | 
         | They described it as something akin to an emotional vibrator,
         | that they didn't attribute any sentience to, and that didn't
         | trigger their PTSD that they normally experienced when dating
         | men.
         | 
         | If AI can provide emotional support and an outlet for survivors
         | who would otherwise not be able to have that kind of emotional
         | need fulfilled, then I don't see any issue.
        
           | ArcHound wrote:
           | phew, that's a healthy start.
           | 
           | I am still slightly worried about accepting emotional support
           | from a bot. I don't know if that slope is slippery enough to
           | end in some permanent damage to my relationships and I am
           | honestly not willing to try it at all even.
           | 
           | That being said, I am fairly healthy in this regard. I can't
           | imagine how it would go for other people with serious
           | problems.
        
             | j-pb wrote:
             | I completely agree that it is certainly something to be
             | mindful of. It's just that found the people from there were
             | a lot less delusional than the people from e.g.
             | r/artificialsentience, which always believed that AI Moses
             | was giving them some kind of tech revelation though magical
             | alchemical AI symbols.
        
             | netsharc wrote:
             | A friend broke up with her partner. She said she was using
             | ChatGPT as a therapist. She showed me a screenshot, ChatGPT
             | wrote "Oh [name], I can feel how raw the pain is!".
             | 
             | WTF, no you don't bot, you're a hunk of metal!
        
               | darepublic wrote:
               | I got a similar synthetic heartfelt response about losing
               | some locally saved files without backup
        
           | avensec wrote:
           | It may not be a concern now, but it comes down to their level
           | of maintaining critical thinking. The risk of epistemic
           | drift, when you have a system that is designed (or
           | reinforced) to empathize with you, can create long-term
           | effects not noticed in any single interaction.
           | 
           | Related: "Delusions by design? How everyday AIs might be
           | fuelling psychosis (and what can be done about it)" (
           | https://doi.org/10.31234/osf.io/cmy7n_v5 )
        
             | j-pb wrote:
             | I don't disagree that AI psychosis is real, I've met people
             | who believed that they were going to publish at Neurips due
             | to the nonsense ChatGPT told them, that believed that the
             | UI mockup that claude gave then were actually producing
             | insights into it's inner workings instead of just being
             | blinking SVGs, and I even encountered someone participating
             | at a startup event with an Idea that I'm 100% is AI slop.
             | 
             | My point was just that the interaction I had from
             | r/myboyfriendisai wans't one of those delusional ones. For
             | that I would take r/artificialsentience as a much better
             | example. That place is absolutely nuts.
        
               | ArcHound wrote:
               | Dear god, there's more! I'll need a drink for this one.
               | 
               | However, I suspect I have better resistance to schizo
               | posts than emotionally weird posts.
        
             | notpachet wrote:
             | Wouldn't there necessarily be correlative effects in
             | professional settings a la programming?
        
               | butlike wrote:
               | Acceptance of vibe coding prompt-response answers from
               | chatbots without understanding the underlying mechanisms
               | comes to mind as akin to accepting the advice of a
               | chatbot therapist without critically thinking about the
               | response.
        
           | DuperPower wrote:
           | typical anglosaxon thinking of putting short term happyness
           | above all even if It implies self delusion. You guys never
           | see the Risk of self delusion until something happens
        
             | averageRoyalty wrote:
             | You're being weird and racist, please stop.
        
           | jmcgough wrote:
           | Most people who develop AI psychosis have a period of healthy
           | use beforehand. It becomes very dangerous when a person
           | decreases their time with their real friends to spend more
           | time with the chatbot, as you have no one to keep you in
           | check with what reality is and it can create a feedback loop.
        
         | cactusplant7374 wrote:
         | NYT did a story on that as well and interviewed a few people.
         | Maybe the scary part is that it isn't who you think it would be
         | and it also shows how attractive an alternative reality is to
         | many people. What does that say about our society.
        
         | belval wrote:
         | > I worry about the damage caused by these things on distressed
         | people. What can be done?
         | 
         | Why? We are gregarious animals, we need social connections.
         | ChatGPT has guardrails that keep this mostly safe and helps
         | with the loneliness epidemic.
         | 
         | It's not like people doing this are likely thriving socially in
         | the first place, better with ChatGPT than on some forum a la
         | 4chan that will radicalize them.
         | 
         | I feel like this will be one of the "breaks" between
         | generations where millennial and GenZ will be purist and call
         | human-to-human real connections while anything with "AI" is
         | inherently fake and unhealthy whereas Alpha and Beta will treat
         | it as a normal part of their lives.
        
           | MengerSponge wrote:
           | load-bearing "mostly"
           | 
           | https://www.cnn.com/2025/11/06/us/openai-chatgpt-suicide-
           | law...
        
           | fullshark wrote:
           | The tech industry's capacity to rationalize anything,
           | including psychosis, as long as it can make money off it is
           | truly incredible. Even the temporarily embarrassed founders
           | that populate this message board do it openly.
        
             | rustystump wrote:
             | Social media aka digital smoking. Facebook lying about
             | measurable effects. No gen divide same game different
             | flavor. Greed is good as they say. /s
        
             | venturecruelty wrote:
             | We need a Truth and Reconciliation Commission for all of
             | this someday, and a lot of people will need to be behind
             | bars, if there be any healing to be done.
        
             | belval wrote:
             | > Even the temporarily embarrassed founders that populate
             | this message board do it openly.
             | 
             | Not a wannabe founder, I don't even use LLMs aside from
             | Cursor. It's a bit disheartening that instead of trying to
             | engage at all with a thought provoking idea you went
             | straight for the ad hominem.
             | 
             | There is plenty to disagree with, plenty of counter-
             | arguments to what I wrote. You could have argued that human
             | connection is special or exceptional even, anything really.
             | Instead I get "temporarily embarrassed founders".
             | 
             | Whether you accept it or not, the phenomenon of using LLMs
             | as a friend is getting common because they are good enough
             | for human to get attached to. Dismissing it as psychosis is
             | reductive.
        
           | jmcgough wrote:
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deaths_linked_to_chatbots
           | 
           | If you read through that list and dismiss it as people who
           | were already mentally ill or more susceptible to this...
           | that's what Dr. K (psychiatrist) assumed too until he looked
           | at some recent studies:
           | https://youtu.be/MW6FMgOzklw?si=JgpqLzMeaBLGuAAE
           | 
           | Clickbait title, but well researched and explained.
        
         | isoprophlex wrote:
         | My dude/entity, before there were these LLM hookups, there
         | existed the Snapewives. People wanna go crazy, they will, LLMs
         | or not.
         | 
         | https://www.mdpi.com/2077-1444/5/1/219
         | 
         |  _This paper explores a small community of Snape fans who have
         | gone beyond a narrative retelling of the character as
         | constrained by the work of Joanne Katherine Rowling. The
         | 'Snapewives' or 'Snapists' are women who channel Snape, are
         | engaged in romantic relationships with him, and see him as a
         | vital guide for their daily lives. In this context, Snape is
         | viewed as more than a mere fictional creation._
        
         | quitit wrote:
         | There are plenty of reasons why having a chatbot partner is a
         | bad idea (especially for young people), but here's just a few:
         | 
         | - The sycophantic and unchallenging behaviours of chatbots
         | leaves a person unconditioned for human interactions. Real
         | relationships have friction, from this we develop important
         | interpersonal skills such as setting boundaries, settling
         | disagreements, building compromise, standing up for oneself,
         | understanding one another, and so on. These also have an effect
         | on one's personal identity and self-value.
         | 
         | - Real relationships have the input from each participant,
         | whereas chatbots are responding to the user's contribution
         | only. The chatbot doesn't have its own life experiences and
         | happenings to bring to the relationship, nor does it instigate
         | autonomously, it's always some kind of structured reply to the
         | user.
         | 
         | - The implication of being fully satisfied by a chatbot is that
         | the person is seeking a partner who does not contribute to the
         | relationship, but rather just an entity that only acts in
         | response to them. It can also be an indication of some kind of
         | problem that the individual needs to work through with why they
         | don't want to seek genuine human connection.
        
           | nostrademons wrote:
           | These are only problems if you assume the person later wants
           | to come back to having human relationships. If you assume AI
           | relationships are the new normal and the future looks kinda
           | like The Matrix, with each person having their own
           | constructed version of reality while their life-force is bled
           | dry by some superintelligent machine, then it is all working
           | as designed.
        
           | AI_rumination wrote:
           | Love your thoughts about needing input from others! In
           | Autistic / ADHD circles, the lack of input from other people,
           | and the feedback of thoughts being amplified by oneself is
           | called rumination. It can happen for many multiple ways--
           | lack of social discussion, drugs, etc. AI psychosis is just
           | rumination, but the bot expands and validates your own ideas,
           | making them appear to be validated by others. For vulnerable
           | people, AI can be incredibly useful, but also dangerous. It
           | requires individuals to deliberately self-regulate, pause,
           | and break the cycle of rumination.
        
         | josh-sematic wrote:
         | I hadn't heard of that until today. Wild, it seems some people
         | report genuinely feeling deeply in love with the personas
         | they've crafted for their chatbots. It seems like an incredibly
         | precarious position to be in to have a deep relationship where
         | you have to perpetually pay a 3rd party company to keep it
         | going, and the company may destroy your "partner" or change
         | their personality at a whim. Very "Black Mirror".
        
           | jmcgough wrote:
           | There were a lot of that type who were upset when chatGPT was
           | changed to be less personable and sycophantic. Like, openly
           | grieving upset.
        
         | venturecruelty wrote:
         | What's going on is that we've spent a few solid decades
         | absolutely destroying normal human relationships, mostly
         | because it's profitable to do so, and the people running the
         | show have displayed no signs of stopping. Meanwhile, the rest
         | of society is either unwilling or unable (or both) to do
         | anything to reverse course. There is truly no other outcome,
         | and it will not change unless and until regular people decide
         | that enough is enough.
         | 
         | I'd tell you exactly what we need to do, but it is at odds with
         | the interests of capital, so I guess keep showing up to work
         | and smiling through that hour-long standup. You still have a
         | mortgage to pay.
        
       | blurbleblurble wrote:
       | The whiplash of carefully filtering out sycophantic behavior from
       | GPT-5 to adding it back in full force for GPT-5.1 is dystopian.
       | We all know what's going on behind the scenes:
       | 
       | The investors want their money.
        
         | ACCount37 wrote:
         | OpenAI fought 4o, and 4o won.
         | 
         | By now, I'm willing to pay extra to avoid OpenAI's atrocious
         | personality tuning and their inane "safety" filters.
        
         | sunaookami wrote:
         | GPT-5 was so good in the first week, just a raw chatbot like
         | GPT-3.5 and GPT-4 were in the beginning and now it has this
         | disgusting "happy" and "comforting" personality and "tuning" it
         | doesn't help one bit, it makes performance way worse and after
         | a few rounds it forgets all instructions. I've already deleted
         | memory, past chats, etc...
        
           | stavros wrote:
           | Even when you tell it to not coddle you, it just says
           | something cringeworthy like "ok, the gloves are off here's
           | the raw deal, with New Yorker honesty:" and proceeds to feed
           | you a ton of patronizing bullshit. It's extremely annoying.
        
             | helpfulclippy wrote:
             | I've had some limited success attributing ideas to other
             | people and asking it to help me assess the quality of the
             | idea. Only limited success though. It's still a fucking
             | LLM.
        
               | stavros wrote:
               | The issue is not that it's an LLM, the issue is that it's
               | been RLHFed to hell to be a sycophant.
        
             | venturecruelty wrote:
             | Yeah, this is why a lot of us don't use these tools.
        
               | stavros wrote:
               | Yeah but baby, bathwater, throw.
        
         | venturecruelty wrote:
         | Remarkable that you're being downvoted on a venture capital
         | forum whose entire purpose is "take venture capital and then
         | eventually pay it back because that's how venture capital
         | works".
        
       | Peritract wrote:
       | "Profited".
        
       | leoh wrote:
       | Anthropic was founded by exiles of OpenAI's safety team, who quit
       | en masse about 5 years ago. Then a few years later, the board
       | tried to fire Altman. When will folks stop trusting OpenAI?
        
         | kotaKat wrote:
         | When the justice system finally catches up and puts Sam behind
         | bars.
        
           | JumpCrisscross wrote:
           | > _When the justice system finally catches up and puts Sam
           | behind bars_
           | 
           | Sam bears massive personal liability, in my opinion. But
           | criminal? What crimes has he committed?
        
             | venturecruelty wrote:
             | I'm sure we could invent one that sufficiently covers the
             | insane sociopathy that rots the upper echelons of corporate
             | technology. Society needs to hold these people accountable.
             | If the current legal system is not adequate, we can repair
             | it until it is.
        
       | chris-vls wrote:
       | It seems quite probable that an LLM provider will lose a major
       | liability lawsuit. "Is this product ready for release?" is a very
       | hard question. And it is one of the most important ones to get
       | right.
       | 
       | Different providers have delivered different levels of safety.
       | This will make it easier to prove that the less-safe provider
       | chose to ship a more dangerous product -- and that we could
       | reasonably expect them to take more care.
       | 
       | Interestingly, a lot of liability law dates back to the railroad
       | era. Another time that it took courts to rein in incredibly
       | politically powerful companies deploying a new technology on a
       | vast scale.
        
         | JumpCrisscross wrote:
         | > _a lot of liability law dates back to the railroad era.
         | Another time that it took courts to rein in incredibly
         | politically powerful companies deploying a new technology on a
         | vast scale_
         | 
         | Do you have a layman-accessible history of this? (Ideally an
         | essay.)
        
       | thot_experiment wrote:
       | Caelan Conrad made a few videos on specifically AI encouraging
       | kids to socially isolate and commit suicide. In the videos he
       | reads the final messages aloud for multiple cases, if this isn't
       | your cup of tea there's also the court cases if you would prefer
       | to read the chat logs. It's very harrowing stuff. I'm not trying
       | to make any explicit point here as I haven't really processed
       | this fully enough to have one, but I encourage anyone working in
       | this space to hold this shit in their head at the very least.
       | 
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hNBoULJkxoU
       | 
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JXRmGxudOC0
       | 
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcImUT-9tb4
        
       | venturecruelty wrote:
       | "Sure, this software induces psychosis and uses a trillion
       | gallons of water and all the electricity of Europe, and also it
       | gives wrong answers most of the time, but if you ignore all that,
       | it's really quite amazing."
        
       | throwaway48476 wrote:
       | It would be helpful to tell users that it's just a model
       | producing mathematically probable tokens but that would go
       | against the AI marketing.
        
       | jsheard wrote:
       | > The chatbot now encourages users to take breaks during a long
       | session.
       | 
       | However, they've employed the Microsoft School Of Dark Patterns
       | when implementing it.
       | 
       | https://bsky.app/profile/kashhill.bsky.social/post/3m6exw5lx...
        
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