[HN Gopher] Homeschooling hits record numbers
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       Homeschooling hits record numbers
        
       Author : bilsbie
       Score  : 149 points
       Date   : 2025-11-21 00:31 UTC (22 hours ago)
        
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       | cc-d wrote:
       | Fantastic.
       | 
       | LLM's have revolutionized the way people learn and utilize what
       | they have learned. The future is 8 year old material science lads
       | doing chemistry in their step-mother's RV
        
         | deadbolt wrote:
         | More likely the future is a bunch of children not knowing jack
         | shit and suffering other abuse.
        
           | nvahalik wrote:
           | I've had to re-learn math skills long forgotten to help my
           | kids with their school work. It's been an interesting
           | experience.
           | 
           | The expectations for home schooling are different and are, in
           | some ways, aimed more towards reality. My son finishes the
           | bulk of his work in an hour most days and then has time for 2
           | instruments, learning C++, Rust, and Python, community/church
           | participation and more.
        
             | johnneville wrote:
             | is "time for 2 instruments, learning C++, Rust, and Python"
             | not schooling ?
        
               | nvahalik wrote:
               | He's still learning. Driven by what he loves. And this is
               | on top of the "standard" stuff.
        
         | JohnHaugeland wrote:
         | You might be surprised. The studies say it's a primarily
         | negative impact, especially in math and college attendance.
         | 
         | https://responsiblehomeschooling.org/research/the-test-score...
        
       | jmathai wrote:
       | I do think Covid forced people to ask questions they hadn't
       | before.
       | 
       | We have sent our kids to private, poor quality and top rated
       | schools.
       | 
       | We saw a stark difference between the poor quality and higher
       | cost options. No surprise.
       | 
       | But the reason we are considering home schooling our younger kids
       | _was_ surprising. It says something about a system dedicated to
       | teaching children when parents think they can do as well or
       | better.
       | 
       | That's just education. The social situation in schools is
       | ludicrous. Phones, social media, etc. what a terrible environment
       | we adults have created for kids to learn both educationally and
       | socially.
       | 
       | Home schooling has answers for ALL of that.
        
         | aidenn0 wrote:
         | > But the reason we are considering home schooling our younger
         | kids was surprising. It says something about a system dedicated
         | to teaching children when parents think they can do as well or
         | better.
         | 
         | What's the reason?
        
           | jmathai wrote:
           | I think we could teach them as well as the school does. And
           | more importantly, we can provide a better environment for
           | them to mature socially.
        
             | Aboutplants wrote:
             | "And more importantly, we can provide a better environment
             | for them to mature socially."
             | 
             | Take it from someone who was homeschooled from pre-k
             | through high school, you will absolutely not provide a
             | better social environment. I was so unprepared to handle
             | the social dynamics in casual, educational or professional
             | that it took years and years of active work to put myself
             | in a position where it wasn't an absolute detriment to my
             | success. I have no doubt you can educate your children
             | well, it's every other aspect of humanity that is typically
             | missed out on and can lead to unintended consequences.
        
               | Freedom2 wrote:
               | One could say this is where the free market of schooling
               | comes into play. Does it make more economic sense for
               | businesses to choose those with social skills learnt from
               | home schooling, or ones who have not been home schooled?
               | Definitely curious to see where this goes.
        
               | sanktanglia wrote:
               | If only it was actually a free market. Republicans are
               | actively kneecapping public education so they can pump
               | money to the schools that are free to to discriminate and
               | kick out underperforming kids
        
               | jmathai wrote:
               | Sounds like you had a hard time transitioning. Sorry for
               | that.
               | 
               | I don't believe it's a magic pill by any means. But I've
               | known many recently home schooled kids and they seem a
               | lot more mature than their public school peers. So I
               | think we have a decent shot at having similar results.
        
               | Voultapher wrote:
               | Seeming mature to an adult isn't the thing in question
               | though, is it? Not feeling or appearing awkward when
               | interacting on their own in their 20s is what is being
               | criticized. The anecdotal evidence you present doesn't
               | include home schooled children in their 20s as far as I
               | can tell.
        
               | jmathai wrote:
               | It doesn't but they seem on a trajectory for adulthood
               | that appears just fine compared to to others.
        
               | QuercusMax wrote:
               | Homeschooled kids have much more flexible schedules which
               | can allow them to do things in the community during the
               | daytime that are not available to kids who have to go to
               | school in-person full time.
               | 
               | This can include volunteer work or part time jobs working
               | with the public and interacting with people of all ages.
               | 
               | Why do you think you being forced into a monoculture of
               | only kids your own age would help your interaction with
               | others when you're in your 20s? 25 year olds don't behave
               | anything like teenagers.
        
               | Voultapher wrote:
               | Because I've met several homeschooled adults over the
               | years, and talking to them that's something most of them
               | had in common when explaining the impact it had on their
               | life. Looking for more objective data I found this one
               | source that seems to be written by people not already
               | convinced of the desirability of homescooling [1],
               | forgive me for being skeptical of the objectivity of
               | places called "national home education research
               | institute". Overall it paints a more positive picture
               | than I had expected, but also highlights it's
               | limitations.
               | 
               | [1] http://hks.harvard.edu/sites/default/files/Taubman/PE
               | PG/conf...
        
               | 0cf8612b2e1e wrote:
               | It is weird how adults are looking at children and
               | assessing their social abilities. You would need to ask
               | the children's peers what they think.
        
               | AlchemistCamp wrote:
               | Of my closest friends when I was in high school, the one
               | with the best social skills had been home schooling since
               | I met him when he was 10. However, he did participate in
               | extracurricular activities at the local public school,
               | like a computer club in middle school and then theater in
               | high school. The only area he was really lagging at age
               | 18 was in math, but that reversed a few years later and
               | now he has a STEM PhD and has been teaching at a large
               | state school for the past decade and a half.
               | 
               | I'd say a lot depends on both the quality of the
               | schooling and maybe even more depends on the person's
               | natural inclinations. He wouldn't have had time for all
               | the reading he did as a teenager if he weren't home
               | schooled, but he'd probably still have been in theater
               | and still have been very open and curious life-long
               | learner as an adult.
        
               | Brendinooo wrote:
               | I dunno. I think I could spin a narrative where public
               | middle school dynamics (that is, bullied quite a bit)
               | created issues for me that hampered my ability to succeed
               | in social settings.
               | 
               | I don't really think that way in general, but I guess I'd
               | just want to point out that the spectrum isn't "good
               | socialization in public school" to "bad/no socialization
               | in homeschooling".
        
               | QuercusMax wrote:
               | I had the opposite experience. I was home schooled from
               | 2nd grade through high school, but I didn't just spend
               | all my time alone with parents. My family was part of a
               | home-school co-op, I played in the local youth symphony,
               | and I had a job working at the local university when I
               | was 16 and taking college classes there. I also have a
               | large extended family.
               | 
               | I didn't really have much trouble adjusting to living on
               | campus at college, and I've never had issues with
               | interpersonal stuff at work or school.
               | 
               | Your anecdote is not universal; neither is mine.
        
             | Voultapher wrote:
             | > And more importantly, we can provide a better environment
             | for them to mature socially.
             | 
             | Citation needed.
             | 
             | Every perspective I've heard personally - and mirrored in
             | comments here as well - from the non parent side of things,
             | is quite negative in terms of learning how to behave and
             | socialize with your peers. To you the children might seem
             | polite and servile, and you might see this as something
             | positive - as you state in another comment - but you are
             | likely setting them up for life of social awkwardness and
             | ostracization.
        
               | indecisive_user wrote:
               | >but you are likely setting them up for life of social
               | awkwardness and ostracization.
               | 
               | Citation needed.
               | 
               | If you put your kids in homeschooling and provide no
               | other outlet for socialization then sure, they'll be
               | socially awkward.
               | 
               | My brother and I were homeschooled, but we were also
               | heavily involved in our community. We were at the local
               | park playing sports 3-4 times per week, we did various
               | summer camps, we had a few other homeschool families that
               | we'd setup playdates with. Our parents would sometimes
               | joke that we barely ever home! And, unsurprisingly, we
               | had no problems with socializing or making friends later
               | in life.
               | 
               | Was it the same kind of socialization you get from going
               | to public school? No, but I consider that a feature :)
        
             | standardUser wrote:
             | That's probably true in a lot of cases for K-5. But I don't
             | think any two people could teach a child with the same
             | robustness as a the ~15 teachers most kids have during
             | middle school/junior high, let alone provide things like
             | labs, workshops, extracurriculars, etc. With high school
             | that gap goes from big to enormous.
        
               | SauntSolaire wrote:
               | This just assumes the median education for 6-12 is any
               | good. Also, a lot of labs, workshops, and
               | extracurriculars can be easily found elsewhere - a lot of
               | these have groups specifically for homeschoolers.
        
         | Esophagus4 wrote:
         | How are you thinking about the socialization aspects of
         | homeschooling vs not?
         | 
         | I imagine part of the benefit of schooling is to socialize
         | children with their peers so I'm curious how you thought about
         | it.
        
           | jmathai wrote:
           | Having put 2 kids (10th and 8th grade now) through a couple
           | school options...the socialization in schools is pretty bad.
           | 
           | Kids from home schooling families we know are as polite or
           | substantially more polite than those in the school system.
        
             | jay_kyburz wrote:
             | I've always thought that learning how to deal with people
             | who are not as polite, and even kids that are downright
             | scary, is an important aspect of socialization. They'll
             | have to deal with those folks when they hit the real world
             | too.
        
               | SauntSolaire wrote:
               | Hopefully they learn how to deal with them instead of
               | picking up their communication style.
        
               | BeetleB wrote:
               | > I've always thought that learning how to deal with
               | people who are not as polite, and even kids that are
               | downright scary, is an important aspect of socialization.
               | 
               | It is, but do we have any studies showing how well school
               | kids are at this? From what I've seen, most kids in
               | school do not learn those skills.
        
               | variadix wrote:
               | I.e. disassociating from those people? Isn't that what
               | homeschooling does inherently? It's more likely that kids
               | will pick up bad behaviors than they will learn to "deal
               | with" those kinds of people.
        
           | AnimalMuppet wrote:
           | We homeschooled. When we wanted to socialize our kids, we
           | shoved them into the restroom and beat them up for their
           | lunch money.
           | 
           | I kid, but there's a real point: So much of the socialization
           | is _bad_.
           | 
           | More: Kids aren't going to be kids forever. Does
           | socialization with a bunch of other kids prepare them for the
           | adult society that they're going to go into?
        
             | estearum wrote:
             | Well it should, yes, given that socialization is the result
             | of shared social experiences.
             | 
             | Experiencing bullying is (unironically) one of those shared
             | social experiences that create bonds with people (whether
             | as victim, perpetrator, or witness)
             | 
             | These are real social dynamics that actually exist in adult
             | life, and I suspect people who are totally blindsided by
             | them are maladapted
        
               | JumpCrisscross wrote:
               | > _Experiencing bullying is (unironically) one of those
               | shared social experiences_
               | 
               | It also teaches you to deal with bullies. That said, we
               | had homeschooled kids in my Boy Scouts troop. They
               | learned how to deal with bullies just fine.
        
               | somanyphotons wrote:
               | Kids (and teachers) generally don't deal with bullies
               | well.
               | 
               | It really just results in them _continuing_ to being
               | bullied, or reacting badly and getting blamed themselves.
        
               | JumpCrisscross wrote:
               | > _Kids (and teachers) generally don 't deal with bullies
               | well_
               | 
               | Are there studies on whether bullying is higher in
               | lightly supervised versus moderately supervised groups?
               | Or mixed-age versus single-age groups?
               | 
               | Scouting is lightly-supervised mixed-age groups. If an
               | older kid bullied a younger kid, that resulted in adults
               | reading them the riot act. But if a younger kid bullied a
               | younger kid, the two sort of wound up sorting it out
               | until someone threw a punch or pissed off an older kid.
               | (For being annoying.) That second dynamic was, to my
               | memory, unique to mixed-age groups.
        
               | oceanplexian wrote:
               | Why would you need to learn to deal with bullies?
               | 
               | If you try that the modern world as an adult you get
               | charged with aggravated assault, pick up a criminal
               | record and then are weeded out from polite society.
        
               | JumpCrisscross wrote:
               | > _Why would you need to learn to deal with bullies?_
               | 
               | Because bullying is an extreme example of a common human
               | power dynamic.
               | 
               | > _If you try that the modern world as an adult you get
               | charged with aggravated assault, pick up a criminal
               | record and then are weeded out from polite society_
               | 
               | Fair enough. I was thinking exclusively of non-violent
               | bullying. (It may get physical. But in a roughhousing
               | way. Not one intended to cause pain or injury.)
        
               | balamatom wrote:
               | >(whether as victim, perpetrator, or witness)
               | 
               | Watch it, you almost said "rescuer" there.
        
             | missedthecue wrote:
             | This is my perspective too. A bunch of 11 year olds raising
             | your 11 year old doesn't always result in preferable
             | outcomes. I think the other part of it is that a lot of
             | people have this sort of idea that homeschooling means
             | sitting in your kid in the basement in front of their
             | homework and never seeing the light of day. Obviously
             | that's not accurate.
        
             | adamredwoods wrote:
             | As a parent, your view of socialization being "good" or
             | "bad" is heavily distorted. I think of socialization (I am
             | a parent) as a neutral activity, sometimes a skill,
             | although I really don't think it's needed as we live in a
             | mostly secluded society in the US, and verbal communication
             | has been supplanted by electronic means.
        
           | anon291 wrote:
           | My kids get more socialization than me. Our parish homeschool
           | group has daily activities. Monday is two hour playgroup.
           | Tuesday is extracurricular classes at the parish. Wednesday
           | is catechesis and play time. Thursday is free. Friday she
           | does a day long camp with an outdoor education program (not
           | parish based). All added up, she spends more time with kids
           | than I did and doing more interesting things
        
             | Esophagus4 wrote:
             | Oh I see - I guess I hadn't thought of homeschooling that
             | way (in a group with extracurriculars).
             | 
             | I always thought of it as parent / tutor + kid = almost all
             | interactions.
             | 
             | Thanks.
        
           | pacomerh wrote:
           | Homeschooling doesn't mean the kid stays at home all the
           | time. We homeschool and my kid has classes and different
           | activities all week, interacts with friends and teams. It has
           | worked very well for us given our lifestyle. I would
           | understand it's not for everyone.
        
           | jerf wrote:
           | This argument has not kept up with the reality of the public
           | school system. The homeschooled cohort my children are
           | associated with have problems associating with public school
           | children of the same age... but the problem doesn't lie on
           | the homeschooler's side, it lies 100% on the publicly-
           | schooled children's side! The public school attendees are
           | noticeably less mature for the same age and less able to deal
           | with anything other than the highly-specific and unrealistic
           | environment of public schools rather than the rest of the
           | world. The homeschoolers have trouble stepping down their
           | social expectations to levels the public school attendees can
           | meet.
           | 
           | We have a few reasons unrelated to socialization [1] to do
           | home schooling but one of the reasons I don't want to send
           | them back is _precisely_ the regression in  "socialization" I
           | would expect.
           | 
           | 30 years ago, this probably was a decent argument, but the
           | bar of "at least as socialized as a public school attendee"
           | has gone _way_ down in the meantime.
           | 
           | [1]: I guess before anyone asks, one of my children is deaf-
           | blind and while the people in the system did their best and I
           | have not much criticism of the people, the reality is still
           | that I was able to more precisely accommodate that child than
           | the system was able to. This ends up being a pretty big
           | stopper for a return to the public school system for that
           | child.
        
           | oceanplexian wrote:
           | Who's to say that they wouldn't be more socialized, not less?
           | 
           | It used to be folk wisdom that beating your kids built
           | character, teachers would even slap kids with a ruler back in
           | the 1950s. Could you say the same about bullies, cliques,
           | popularity contests, and all the other performative nonsense
           | that goes on in public schools?
           | 
           | Maybe it's all bullshit and giving kids a safe environment to
           | learn at their own pace without all these distractions makes
           | them better equipped for the modern world?
        
           | mikece wrote:
           | Homeschooled does not mean "completely isolated." My kids are
           | in bands, sports teams, and numerous extracurricular
           | activities both with other home schoolers as well as with
           | public schoolers. Also, homeschooled kids are far less
           | reliant on their same-aged peer group for socialization; my
           | kids talk with people in public regardless of their age
           | (something which surprises some adults).
        
         | mcphage wrote:
         | > It says something about a system dedicated to teaching
         | children when parents think they can do as well or better.
         | 
         | 6% of American think they can beat a grizzly bear in a fight.
         | That says absolutely nothing about the bear, and says a lot
         | about how misinformed people are.
        
           | jmathai wrote:
           | That's not a great example though, is it?
           | 
           | I've seen many kids, including my own older ones, who have
           | gone through the school system and others who haven't.
        
             | mcphage wrote:
             | I've watched people on YouTube make all sorts of amazing
             | things, and they make it look easy. Which leads to thoughts
             | of "hey, that's easy, I could do that".
        
           | Brendinooo wrote:
           | This is why it's useful to look up stats when we have them.
           | 
           | For example, homeschooled students do better on the ACT than
           | public school kids.
           | 
           | https://www.act.org/content/dam/act/unsecured/documents/Info.
           | ..
           | 
           | Obviously the schooling venue itself isn't the only factor
           | here, but if you think homeschooling a kid is worth an
           | analogy to fighting grizzlies, might be worth a reframe.
        
             | albedoa wrote:
             | This is some fascinating insight. Do you think that the
             | things being compared are [homeschooling] and [fighting
             | grizzlies]?
        
               | missedthecue wrote:
               | I would say the interesting thing is the sudden increase
               | over the last 5 years. Presumably, the number of
               | Americans who think they can KO a grizzly bear is a
               | lizardman constant situation in the surveys over time.
               | But the number of people homeschooling is recently
               | skyrocketing.
        
               | Brendinooo wrote:
               | Given the subject of the thread and the comment I replied
               | to: yes?
        
             | buellerbueller wrote:
             | I suspect there is a lot of selection bias in that data. My
             | hypothesis is that the homeschooled folks who take the ACT
             | are more likely to do well on the ACT than the homeschooled
             | folks who don't.
        
               | Brendinooo wrote:
               | Isn't that true of public school kids who do/don't take
               | the ACT as well?
        
               | brewdad wrote:
               | My Title 1 school made the ACT available to all students
               | for free (on one specific date). A lot of kids who were
               | unprepared for the ACT took it because, why not?
        
               | SauntSolaire wrote:
               | We didn't have that at my school. Unless it's super
               | widespread, it's probably not what's behind the different
               | test results.
        
           | BJones12 wrote:
           | An acquaintance of mine fought (got mauled by) a grizzly bear
           | a month ago. He went to the ICU (since released), but the
           | bear got shot and died. It was a pyrric victory, but he did
           | win the fight.
        
             | sanktanglia wrote:
             | What a horrible story to share.
        
               | buellerbueller wrote:
               | I didn't see it as horrible. I saw it as a story of human
               | triumph. And good fortune.
        
             | dooglius wrote:
             | I think the implication of the question is that one doesn't
             | have a firearm
        
         | AnimalMuppet wrote:
         | One of the key issues in school is classroom size. A teacher
         | with 30 kids is handicapped as a teacher compared to one with a
         | smaller class.
         | 
         | Let's say your family has four kids. As a family, that's large.
         | But as a classroom size, it's _really small_. That gives you an
         | advantage as a homeschooler over a public school teacher.
        
           | 5f3cfa1a wrote:
           | Grade retention ('holding kids back') has additionally
           | dropped significantly since the average HNer has gone to
           | school. I remember going to school where one of my peers went
           | to sixth grade with his brother two years older than him. But
           | now, we give out social promotions.
           | 
           | That might've worked if we funded schools & gave students who
           | fell behind significant interventions & 1x1 attention, but
           | that's not what happened. One of my friends has a very bright
           | and talented fifth grader in a class with multiple students
           | who can barely read or write. Guess who gets the most
           | attention from educators? Which group the teachers structure
           | the class for?
        
           | BeetleB wrote:
           | I used to think this way, but some experiences made me
           | realize it's not so cut and dry.
           | 
           | When you have a class size over 20, teachers are forced to be
           | a lot more systematic, which can improve the effectiveness of
           | their teaching. Good teachers make heavy use of social proof.
           | When I tried to teach my kid at home, it was a struggle. But
           | when the kid is around his peers in a classroom, and they are
           | going along with the teacher, he naturally falls in line with
           | no cajoling, etc.
           | 
           | If there were only 5 students, the likelihood he'll just go
           | along with things is much lower.
        
             | svieira wrote:
             | Yep, that's definitely true. That being said, figuring out
             | which approach to take requires _paying attention_ (which
             | you did), there 's no guarantee that any two people (or any
             | one person at two times) will be in the same cohort.
        
           | jancsika wrote:
           | Did you make a schedule of regularly switching off with other
           | families of four? In other words, those parents teach your
           | kids and you teach their kids? Otherwise I'm not sure how
           | you'd tackle confirmation bias creeping up in all kinds of
           | ways.
        
           | kevstev wrote:
           | That's also 4 entirely different curriculums which need to be
           | taught. I volunteer taught CS for about 10 years, and the
           | first year I taught a new class- and this was a single class
           | for high school kids- I always found I was much better at it
           | the second and third time around. I taught about 4 different
           | courses, of varying difficulty- intro to programming with
           | SNAP, "CS Principles" which had a little bit of everything
           | from (very) basic networking to html and a bit of javascript,
           | Javascript/Python, and then the final boss... AP CS in Java,
           | which is a very difficult class.
           | 
           | I find it difficult to wrap my head around you can make it
           | work teaching the entire curriculum for 4 different grades
           | encompassing reading/writing, math, history, science, art,
           | music, etc... I guess its potentially compensated for by the
           | fact that they are all getting very individualized attention,
           | but thats spreading a parent very thin.
           | 
           | Especially when we are talking about high school levels,
           | where you can even potentially go into AP courses- no way a
           | single parent can teach college level calculus, History, CS,
           | etc... effectively.
           | 
           | For all the flaws of our public education system, I don't see
           | how this can work better.
        
         | Atotalnoob wrote:
         | I was homeschooled and it affected me terribly. Please don't do
         | it.
        
           | anon7000 wrote:
           | I was homeschooled and I got a fairly strong education.
           | 
           | What matters is your parents and how you nurture your kids
           | and provide opportunities for them. It's easy for
           | homeschooling to be bad... if you don't give a shit about
           | your kids.
           | 
           | For socializing, the key part is making sure kids are
           | involved in a lot of social activities. I never went to
           | public school, but found my groove socially pretty quickly in
           | college, because I had a lot of opportunities for strong
           | friendships. I was working part time in high school too, so
           | got some exposure to pop culture.
        
           | pacomerh wrote:
           | What works for one might not work for another one. Can't
           | generalize.
        
             | Yizahi wrote:
             | We can actually. It's called theory of probability and
             | statistics, which is probably "forgotten" by these amazing
             | self-appointed homeschoolers. A few rare successes of
             | homeschoolers doesn't mean this practice is good on
             | average, and vice versa the rare failures of the public
             | education system doesn't mean that it is bad on average.
        
               | Brendinooo wrote:
               | Most times I look this up, I see stuff like "[t]he home-
               | educated typically score 15 to 25 percentile points above
               | public-school students on standardized academic
               | achievement tests".
               | 
               | https://nheri.org/research-facts-on-
               | homeschooling/#Academic
        
               | ribosometronome wrote:
               | Looking at the replies, I do not think the general
               | complaint is that homeschooling is bad for test scores
               | but social development and preparing kids for society
               | outside the house. It definitely requires considerably
               | more, active attention from parents. Perhaps some of
               | these people here have both the time to be hold down a
               | decent career and also tutor their child in multiple
               | curricula that haven't been important to them in decades
               | and ensure that they're maintaining an active social life
               | but I think the difficulty of nailing that as you go-
               | your-own-way is apparent.
        
               | Brendinooo wrote:
               | >I do not think the general complaint is that
               | homeschooling is bad for test scores
               | 
               | >Perhaps some of these people here have both the time to
               | be hold down a decent career and also tutor their child
               | in multiple curricula that haven't been important to them
               | in decades
               | 
               | This reads as an inconsistency.
               | 
               | As for the social stuff - as I commented elsewhere, it's
               | not hard to make a case that public school is bad for
               | socialization as well. Which isn't to say that public
               | school isn't irredeemable in that way, just that it's not
               | like one or the other is an obviously correct choice.
        
               | FireBeyond wrote:
               | Yeah, that study has been debunked or countered by "...
               | among home-educated students _applying for college_", and
               | the proportion of home schooled kids who apply for
               | college versus those in the traditional education system
               | is far lower, i.e. this is _very_ self-selecting.
        
               | AnimalMuppet wrote:
               | If you've got the statistics to validate your point, show
               | them. If not... pot, meet kettle.
        
               | negzero7 wrote:
               | This comment is so disingenuous. Few and rare?? Why would
               | you frame it like this? Homeschoolers are better
               | educated, more likely to get into college, and have
               | better socialization skills than their publicly educated
               | peers.
               | 
               | https://nheri.org/research-facts-on-
               | homeschooling/#:~:text=r...
               | 
               | https://chewv.org/college-preparation/college-
               | admissions/?ut...
               | 
               | https://nheri.org/research-facts-on-
               | homeschooling/?utm_sourc...
        
               | FireBeyond wrote:
               | They're not more likely to get into college as a whole.
               | In fact, they apply to college a lot _less_. But in that
               | subset, against public education as a whole, then yes,
               | they do better.
               | 
               | You may want to look wider afield than homeschooling
               | advocacy and lobbyist groups for your stats.
        
           | PKop wrote:
           | How so?
        
           | BeetleB wrote:
           | > I was homeschooled and it affected me terribly. Please
           | don't do it.
           | 
           | Any idea how many were affected terribly in school? I'm in
           | touch with my high school classmates. Almost half of them
           | blame the school experience to lifelong problems.
        
             | jeffbee wrote:
             | Everyone from my public high school class is now rich and
             | happy. My anecdote is just as good as yours.
        
               | BeetleB wrote:
               | And just as good/bad as the top level comment, which is
               | my point.
        
               | ecshafer wrote:
               | > Everyone
               | 
               | Did you grow up in Scarsdale or Palo Alto?
        
         | rich_sasha wrote:
         | I suppose there are few talented, hard working people who want
         | to teach, and they command a premium. Education is expensive
         | and underfunded.
         | 
         | As a parent/carer you probably are much more motivated than an
         | underpaid teacher who wanted to do something else anyway, and
         | you don't have to motivate yourself with money.
         | 
         | By extension, IME, motivated and talented teachers in any
         | school (good or bad) can do wonders. There just aren't that
         | many. And as you say, school environment tends to be a race to
         | the bottom - if Johnny can watch Tiktok during maths, I'll do
         | the same.
        
           | rahimnathwani wrote:
           | Education is expensive and underfunded.
           | 
           | Expensive yes. Underfunded depends on where you are.
           | 
           | San Francisco's school district has an annual operating
           | budget that equates to $28k per student.
           | 
           | I've heard people in San Francisco say that schools here are
           | underfunded. When I ask them how much we spend per student
           | per year, their guess is usually less than half of the actual
           | amount.
        
             | triceratops wrote:
             | $28k doesn't go as far in San Francisco because of the
             | insane cost of housing and everything else.
        
               | SauntSolaire wrote:
               | How does housing cost affect the cost for a school to
               | educate a student? Are you saying it's the cost of paying
               | for the school's real-estate?
        
               | ToValueFunfetti wrote:
               | High housing cost means teachers need higher salaries to
               | account for either their higher cost of living or the
               | extra commute
        
               | connicpu wrote:
               | It affects the minimum viable salary for a teacher to
               | even be able to live in the city where you want to hire
               | them to work, same for all the other support staff that
               | make a school function.
        
               | oceanplexian wrote:
               | I don't buy that argument, there's no reason a teacher in
               | San Francisco can't live in Oakland or Berkeley, or a
               | teacher in NYC couldn't live in NJ. You don't have a
               | human right to live in the most expensive real estate on
               | Earth.
        
               | mynameisash wrote:
               | GP didn't say anything about it being a human right. You
               | seem to be strawmanning their argument.
               | 
               | I think it's a reasonable expectation that even in HCOL
               | places like SF or NYC, people in careers important to
               | society should be able to live in the communities they
               | serve.
        
               | BobaFloutist wrote:
               | The price of SF real estate affects the price of real
               | estate in Oakland and Berkeley. So it's still a relevant
               | input variable.
        
               | joshstrange wrote:
               | Yeah, screw the teachers, they should just have a longer
               | commute, who cares about them? /s
               | 
               | I always want to laugh when I hear people complain about
               | finding near-minimum-wage workers in a HCOL area. They
               | can't seem to grasp that commuting is not free, it may
               | feel free to them at their income level but
               | transportation costs money (gas, car maintenance,
               | insurance or bus, etc) and time. I'm not saying teaching
               | is a minimum wage job but it's not a high earning one
               | either, paying them as low as we do _and_ also asking
               | them to have a longer commute is just absurd.
        
               | FireBeyond wrote:
               | Keep that argument going.
               | 
               | Jackson Hole residents complaining about "poor service"
               | in stores and restaurants in town, because shocker,
               | servers can't afford to live in Jackson Hole. And unlike
               | even SF or NY (which may not be perfect but have at least
               | functional transport), there's no easy way to travel from
               | the next town, an hour away or more.
               | 
               | Residents have started banding together to rent coaches
               | to bus people in, which seems the most reasonable
               | solution, after all, no poors in town, still, and it
               | doesn't hurt the residents that service industry
               | employees in their town have a three hour commute. /s
               | 
               | It got so bad in Atherton, CA, that the school had to
               | build accommodation for teachers in the school itself.
               | Next step, they can do janitorial work for extra money!
        
               | michaelt wrote:
               | With a budget of $28k per student, and 21 students per
               | classroom, that's $588k per classroom.
               | 
               | Now, granted, some of that goes on building upkeep,
               | cleaning, supplies, heating, pensions, managers etc - but
               | if $588k per classroom doesn't let you pay enough to
               | attract teachers there's something very suspicious going
               | on.
        
               | rahimnathwani wrote:
               | there's something very suspicious going on
               | 
               | Yup! SFUSD has ~9,000 government employees, and only
               | ~50,000 kids.
        
               | darth_avocado wrote:
               | San Francisco schooling district spends upwards of $1B a
               | year to educate 55k students. About 85% of the budget
               | goes to salary and benefits (excluding pensions). Of
               | that, 75% goes to educators and the rest for other staff.
               | 
               | Cost of living is the primary driver for cost of
               | education everywhere.
        
               | bluecalm wrote:
               | If an average class has 20 students it's $560k per year.
               | If an average student gets 1000 hours of schooling per
               | year you can pay 200$/hour and you have spent only just
               | above 1/3 of your budget.
               | 
               | It feels like there is more to the story that "$28k
               | doesn't go as far in San Francisco".
        
               | triceratops wrote:
               | Very possibly. All I'm saying is you can't just compare
               | dollar figures per student without considering where the
               | dollars are spent.
        
               | a2tech wrote:
               | It's because this is a very simplified view of a
               | classroom. What is presented above is the best case
               | scenario, not a realistic one. For example, there's no
               | consideration of costs associated with any sort of
               | handicapped student, or student with special education
               | needs.
               | 
               | Real world costs completely spiral out of control when
               | you look at the actual system--for example, the buildings
               | are all built during the rapid expansion of the country
               | so are now old enough to need expensive maintenance, and
               | there isn't money or interest from the community to tear
               | them down and build new ones.
               | 
               | Also something else that isn't being covered is that
               | involved parents are pulling their kids out for home
               | schooling, and well behaved kids are increasingly being
               | pulled out and put in charter sschools. This is leading
               | to a rapid collapse of the school system. Public school
               | is being left as a place for students who's parents don't
               | care enough to do anything with them, or with enough
               | behavioral or special needs that charter schools won't
               | handle them.
        
               | michaelt wrote:
               | _> the buildings are all built during the rapid expansion
               | of the country so are now old enough to need expensive
               | maintenance_
               | 
               | What kind of maintenance do you think is expensive
               | compared to a budget of $560k per room, per year?
        
               | rahimnathwani wrote:
               | there isn't money or interest from the community to tear
               | them down and build new ones
               | 
               | San Francisco voters have repeatedly voted to borrow
               | massive sums of money to fund SFUSD capital improvements:
               | https://www.sfusd.edu/bond/overview
               | 
               | The most recent $790,000,000 in 2024.
        
               | rahimnathwani wrote:
               | $28k per student is more than enough to run a school in
               | San Francisco. Let's assume we cannot take advantage of
               | the economies of scale available to SFUSD, and we're
               | running a school with just one classroom: 22 7th graders.
               | That would cost SFUSD $616k ($28k x 22). What would it
               | cost us?                 Teacher (all-in cost):
               | $150k       Teaching assistant:
               | $100k       Rent for commercial space in SF (~1,200 sq
               | ft):    $60k       Curriculum, books, supplies:
               | $23k       Technology (22 Chromebooks, projector,
               | software):  $18k       Field trips and enrichment:
               | $10k       Utilities, internet, insurance:
               | $27k       Furniture and equipment:
               | $20k       Admin/legal/accounting:
               | $8k              Total:
               | $416k
               | 
               | That leaves $200k unspent.
               | 
               | AND ... these numbers are deliberately conservative.
               | Teachers work ~40 weeks per year, not 52, so the $150k
               | all-in is really $3,750/week - very competitive for SF.
               | The $18k technology budget assumes replacing every
               | Chromebook annually, but they last 3-5 years, so
               | amortized cost is more like $5k/year. The rent estimate
               | of $5k/month assumes market-rate commercial space, but
               | you could find cheaper options in underutilized buildings
               | or negotiate with a church/community center. Furniture
               | lasts decades, not one year. The $1k per student for
               | curriculum and supplies is also high - you're not buying
               | new textbooks every year, and open-source curricula
               | exist.
               | 
               | If you were trying to minimize costs rather than be
               | conservative, you could probably run this one room school
               | house for $350k/year ($16k/student/year).
        
               | jorts wrote:
               | As the son of a teacher and a friend of several teachers,
               | you're way underestimating their workload.
        
               | rahimnathwani wrote:
               | I estimated that a class of 22 children would require one
               | full time teacher and one full time teaching assistant.
               | 
               | What am I missing? My table has $200k left over so we
               | could add another full time teacher at $150k?
        
               | lazyasciiart wrote:
               | Any specialized teaching: art, languages, in high school
               | I understand they have a different teacher for each
               | subject, a librarian, a substitute teacher on sick days,
               | an individual aide for one of the kids to represent the
               | special education budget...
               | 
               | But I remember you previously and you appear to want a
               | school system that spends money on exactly what your
               | child needs and nothing else.
        
               | brettcvz wrote:
               | The big thing you're missing is special education, and to
               | a lesser extent English Language Learners. School
               | districts are obligated to teach every student, some of
               | whom cost the district dramatically more than they
               | receive from the state.
               | 
               | Your admin costs are also low - you need to account for
               | each teacher being coached and managed, running school
               | operations and front desk, facilities management,
               | finance, IT, etc.
        
               | brettcvz wrote:
               | Also this is an area where first principles analysis is
               | likely to lead you astray - I'd recommend starting with
               | SFUSD's public budget to understand what their cost
               | structure is.
        
               | rahimnathwani wrote:
               | You're recommending I look at SFUSD's public budget when:
               | 
               | - that budget is how I was able to calculate per-pupil
               | spend
               | 
               | - in another comment you admitted to having 'no idea'
               | where the $28k/year number came from, suggesting to me
               | that you haven't looked at the budget yourself
               | 
               | The granularity in SFUSD's published budget is not
               | sufficient to analyze what is useful and what is waste.
        
               | brettcvz wrote:
               | Finally, I have no idea where people are getting
               | $28k/year; most schools in CA operate on closer to
               | $14k-$16k per pupil
        
               | rahimnathwani wrote:
               | To get the number, you just need to divide two numbers:
               | SFUSD's budget and the number of students.
               | 
               | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=41711345
        
             | Izikiel43 wrote:
             | In WA the state spends around 20k$ per student, people
             | still say it's underfunded.
        
             | mmcclure wrote:
             | Are you saying that's a lot or a little? Tuition for most
             | (non-religious) competitive private schools in San
             | Francisco is easily twice that amount.
        
               | rahimnathwani wrote:
               | I'm saying it's a lot. See my other comment here for my
               | reasoning:
               | 
               | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46008035
        
               | mmcclure wrote:
               | I think your reasoning is flawed, but fine...if the goal
               | is to try and have the cheapest possible one room school
               | house. That $200k gets eaten up pretty quick by things
               | like security, janitorial, building maintenance, support
               | staff like principals, librarians, guidance counselors
               | etc etc. If you're meaning to include total cost for the
               | full time employees (the teachers) in the list, then the
               | salaries are a lot less attractive once you're done
               | covering benefits, etc.
               | 
               | I've got multiple kids, so I'll admit I think about
               | schools here a lot. The absolute cheapest private schools
               | I've seen in San Francisco are subsidized by religious
               | institutions. The tuition for those schools per child is
               | roughly $28k. Non religious private schools usually start
               | in the $40k range and can easily get into the $50s and
               | _well_ beyond.
               | 
               | My point is that it's hard to point at some issue of
               | inefficient public bureaucracy, because clearly private
               | institutions aren't able to do it any cheaper. I would
               | also argue they wouldn't _try_ , because their goal is a
               | good education, or at least better than the public
               | alternative (that only spends $28k per kid).
        
               | zaphar wrote:
               | If the religious institution does a better job at roughly
               | the same cost-point then it's probably not the money that
               | is making the difference.
        
               | lazyasciiart wrote:
               | No, it's the selection process of parents and children.
        
               | rahimnathwani wrote:
               | "I think your reasoning is flawed, but fine...if the goal
               | is to try and have the cheapest possible one room school
               | house."
               | 
               | I was generous in my estimate for each of the line items.
               | I chose a one room school house as an example because
               | it's easy to grok, and anything larger would be cheaper
               | due to economies of scale.                 "I've got
               | multiple kids, so I'll admit I think about schools here a
               | lot."
               | 
               | Although I have only one child (in 4th grade), I think
               | about schools a lot, too.                 "The absolute
               | cheapest private schools I've seen in San Francisco are
               | subsidized by religious institutions. The tuition for
               | those schools per child is roughly $28k."
               | 
               | This $28k number is false. Most parochial schools charge
               | about $12k. Here is a breakdown by grade level of the
               | number of parochial schools in SF that serve that grade
               | level, and the median tuition among those schools for
               | that grade:                         #    Median sticker
               | price       Pre-K   7    $16,610        K     29
               | $11,530        1     29    $11,530        2     29
               | $11,175        3     29    $11,175        4     29
               | $11,175        5     29    $11,175        6     30
               | $11,519        7     30    $11,519        8     30
               | $11,519        9      4    $31,725       10      4
               | $31,725       11      4    $31,725       12      4
               | $31,725            "Non religious private schools usually
               | start in the $40k range and can easily get into the $50s
               | and well beyond."
               | 
               | This 'usually start in the $40k range' is also false. For
               | each of the grades K-5, 33-39% of non-parochial schools
               | in SF charge less than $40k. For each of the grades 6-8,
               | 30% of non-parochial schools in SF charge less than $40k.
               | "because clearly private institutions aren't able to do
               | it any cheaper"
               | 
               | Non-parochial private schools don't typically price based
               | on cost. The schools that have high demand (due to
               | parents and student population) can charge more. So they
               | don't need to manage their costs tightly. And they can
               | spend lots of money on marketing.
               | 
               | Moreover, not all students pay sticker price. So looking
               | at the sticker prices (which I've listed above) may give
               | an inflated view of total income.
               | "because their goal is a good education"
               | 
               | Their goal is happy customers (parents). Different
               | schools achieve this in different ways. Some parents
               | choose a school not based on the expected quality of
               | education but based on the expected networking
               | opportunities for themselves and for their child.
        
               | zaphar wrote:
               | Nearly every time we try to fix this problem with money
               | it fails. The problem is not money. All else being equal
               | there is little to no correlation between spend and
               | outcome. Money get's touted by schools and politicatians
               | as a way of pretending to care but not actually do any of
               | the work to improve outcomes.
               | 
               | What does tend to correlate with money and also
               | correlates with outcomes is parental involvement. Solving
               | that problem requires societal and economic change in a
               | district though not giving the school more money.
        
               | rahimnathwani wrote:
               | "Tuition for most (non-religious) competitive private
               | schools in San Francisco is easily twice that amount."
               | 
               | No it's not 'easily twice that amount'.
               | 
               | For each of the grades K-12, here is the % of non-
               | religious private schools in San Francisco that charge
               | $56k or more:                  K:  0%        1:  0%
               | 2:  0%        3:  0%        4:  0%        5:  0%
               | 6:  3%        7:  3%        8:  3%        9: 71%
               | 10: 71%       11: 71%       12: 71%
        
               | lazyasciiart wrote:
               | cost per student is higher for high school students. So
               | if you take an average across all grades for public
               | schools and then compare that to specific cost per grade
               | at private schools, of course private schools are going
               | to look relatively cheaper for younger students.
        
           | nradov wrote:
           | Education should be well funded but in many school districts
           | the problem is waste and inefficiency rather than lack of
           | funding. Huge amounts are paid to administrators and
           | consultants who do nothing to improve student outcomes, or
           | even make them worse. Generally there is little correlation
           | between funding per student and results.
        
           | joshstrange wrote:
           | > Education is expensive and underfunded.
           | 
           | Always makes me think of The West Wing scene:
           | 
           | > Education is the silver bullet. Education is everything. We
           | don't need little changes, we need gigantic, monumental
           | changes. Schools should be palaces. The competition for the
           | best teachers should be fierce. They should be making six-
           | figure salaries. Schools should be incredibly expensive for
           | government and absolutely free of charge to its citizens,
           | just like national defense. That's my position. I just
           | haven't figured out how to do it yet.
           | 
           | Video (sorry for the burned in subs, should be queued up):
           | https://youtu.be/IzV09gESyh0?t=39
        
         | Yizahi wrote:
         | Poor kids :( . Hope the damage won't be lasting for them, at
         | least they did went to proper schools previously and have some
         | basics taught.
        
           | sparrish wrote:
           | I'll gladly stand up my 7 homeschooled kids next to any
           | public school kids.
           | 
           | All tested above grade level on state mandatory testing
           | throughout their schooling.
           | 
           | Two graduated early (some with college credits).
           | 
           | My adult children (4 sons, ages 19-25) have gainful
           | employment, living on their own (2 own their own homes), and
           | standing on their own. One is married (I got a grandkid!),
           | all have friends, communities they're involved in, and are
           | healthy (physically and mentally).
           | 
           | None take prescription meds nor struggle with anxiety or
           | depression.
           | 
           | Poor public school kids... I hope they can find help for the
           | damage they suffered. <grin>
        
             | meroes wrote:
             | You didn't mention how many went to college
        
               | missedthecue wrote:
               | Given they are sufficiently successful to be living on
               | their own, married, and some with their own homes,
               | whether they went to college is probably an inappropriate
               | yardstick of success. I mean, be real. If a 25 year old
               | is married and owns a home, but doesn't have a BSc are
               | they a failure? What are we doing here.
        
               | meroes wrote:
               | OP is free to chose their metrics. I wouldn't trade
               | education for a home personally. I think it's interesting
               | how they chose their metrics.
        
             | buellerbueller wrote:
             | we are discussing on HN. The population of commenters here
             | is likely very different than the homeschooling population.
        
               | mikece wrote:
               | And yet there are many homeschooling parents in this
               | discussion thread (including a single-income dad of 9
               | whose kids are homeschooled). But I'm quite aware that
               | I'm the exception on HN.
        
             | yanslookup wrote:
             | Assuming you are Mormon, is home schooling sort of another
             | form of virtue signaling Mormon families employ or is it
             | more of a way to ensure your families don't get excluded?
             | Like, did you really have a choice in the matter once you
             | realized you either go full Mormon or leave the church
             | entirely?
        
               | mikece wrote:
               | Mormons aren't the only people with large families.
               | Ultra-conservative Jews, Muslims, and many Christians
               | have large families. What I don't think I've ever seen is
               | a couple who is non-religious or atheist and has a large
               | family.
        
               | yanslookup wrote:
               | Not sure if you are disputing something I didn't say but
               | yes, you are correct.
        
               | zdragnar wrote:
               | Catholics aren't so much anymore but used to be the same.
               | My parents both had 5 siblings growing up.
        
               | mikece wrote:
               | Not all Catholics, just the ones who go to the
               | traditional Latin Mass. :-)
        
             | Izikiel43 wrote:
             | > 7 homeschooled kids
             | 
             | Wow that's a lot, how did you manage?
        
               | mikece wrote:
               | Only seven? :-)
               | 
               | (My wife and I have had 9.)
        
         | 1970-01-01 wrote:
         | Is there an answer for athletics, music, robotics, and all the
         | other after school teams? How does that work?
        
           | chasd00 wrote:
           | i'm sure many others will reply as well but there's lots of
           | extracurricular options for homeschoolers as well as social
           | engagements. It's kind of like a shadow school system,
           | there's associations and groups and other organizations built
           | around home schooled children. My wife and I considered it
           | but we have managed to navigate our public school situation
           | well enough without me, or my wife, having to quit working.
        
           | dkhenry wrote:
           | Depending on where you live there are many options. In my
           | school district home school kids can join any club or team
           | offered by the public school system where you reside.
           | Additionally there are numerous non-school related clubs and
           | activities all over the place. My kids could play music with
           | the local school district, with a musical education non-
           | profit that is prolific in our area, or ( where they do play
           | music ) with private lessons that have group classes, bands,
           | and performance opportunities.
        
           | in_cahoots wrote:
           | Of that list my kids' top-rated K-8 public school only offers
           | music. Everything else is done privately.
        
           | 5f3cfa1a wrote:
           | Of these, most are easily handled. I am in a midsized city
           | and there are plenty of groups that offer music, robotics &
           | engineering, speech & drama, etc. focused towards
           | homeschooled students. That, plus the rise in homeschool
           | "pods"/co-ops means socialization and activities are very
           | available to students & parents who want them.
           | 
           | Sports might be the challenge. Many US states have athletic
           | associations that handle most K-12 sports, and they require
           | enrollment in an accredited member school. I am aware of
           | several homeschool specific athletic associations in my area,
           | but all are targeted towards religious homeschoolers. Not
           | certain what secular alternatives would exist, but soccer is
           | very popular & there are plenty of competitive academies that
           | operate outside the school ecosystem.
        
             | dmoy wrote:
             | Besides big ones like soccer that you mention, more niche
             | sports are often partially or totally outside of school
             | systems.
             | 
             | Fencing for example, is _usually_ clustered around external
             | clubs. Very few high schools will have fencing teams, and
             | in a lot of cities even the high schools that do have
             | fencing teams will be kind of a joke compared to the club
             | teams.
        
               | 5f3cfa1a wrote:
               | This comment made me curious so I did some research. Of
               | the sports offered by my local school district (in the
               | top 30 for enrollment in the country), I can find an
               | alternative for homeschoolers that offer competitive
               | opportunities for every sport but bowling and football.
               | 
               | Of the others, there are either homeschool alternatives
               | that are explicitly secular or at least not overtly
               | religious, or there are competitive clubs. All the
               | schools have track & field, but there is a large
               | homeschool league. And the district has a few schools
               | with pools and a few more with swim teams that practice
               | at the city pools, but the local swim club is the one
               | turning out the Olympians - but even then, it also seems
               | to have plenty of offerings for kids who won't set a
               | world butterfly record. Football, I imagine, is just so
               | popular that the private/public schools take all the
               | players.
        
             | Starman_Jones wrote:
             | I know several homeschooled students who played varsity
             | sports for their local high school (the one that they would
             | have been attending). I'm not sure about the universality
             | of that, but that's an option for at least some people.
        
               | 5f3cfa1a wrote:
               | I think it's patchwork & has changed over time. When I
               | was at high school one of my friends who was homeschooled
               | competed with me on our academic team. His older (and far
               | more athletically gifted brother ;-)) lettered in several
               | varsity sports. But now that state's athletic association
               | explicitly says no to homeschool students.
        
           | SoftTalker wrote:
           | Often, yes. Where I live, home-schooled kids can participate
           | in extracurriculars offered by the public schools.
        
           | logical_proof wrote:
           | My kids do Taekwondo and church youth groups. My eldest did
           | not want to do robotics but he does run the Dungeons and
           | Dragons group at our library. We do music as a family. My
           | daughter does choir. My son has done drama but declined to
           | participate this year. They have been homeschooled their
           | entire lives. All three of them received something I did not,
           | the ability to converse with adults from a young age. This is
           | of course anecdotal so YMMV but I would love to see a study
           | on the conversational skills of homeschooled students.
        
             | SamPatt wrote:
             | Anecdotally, homeschooled children often speak and behave
             | more like adults.
             | 
             | Whether this is a positive or negative thing depends on the
             | situation. Being precocious is something adults might think
             | positively about (though not in all situations) but it's
             | not something other kids usually admire.
        
               | logical_proof wrote:
               | I think you are right that this is situational. I can
               | understand it potentially hindering relationships with
               | other like aged children who are traditionally educated.
               | I can only say that I like my kids a lot, which is nice
               | as a parent.
        
           | Mountain_Skies wrote:
           | I went to public schools but still did that sort of thing
           | through the YMCA and our church. At the middle school level
           | and lower, most of those types of activities are community
           | based rather than centered around the school, though that
           | varies by area.
        
           | deltarholamda wrote:
           | Homeschoolers form co-ops. A local one here does ballroom
           | dance, tennis, basketball. There is often a youth symphony
           | option in mid- to large-sized cities.
           | 
           | For STEM-type stuff, see if there's a nearby Civil Air Patrol
           | squadron. That alone has tons of extracurricular stuff:
           | search and rescue, help with earning a pilot license,
           | robotics, drill and ceremony.
           | 
           | Homeschooling is not for everybody, but if you go down that
           | route there's a lot of support.
        
           | mikece wrote:
           | There are tons of clubs for such things. My kids are in a
           | homeschool music program (and learning piano and, until
           | recently, bagpipes); half of my kids are playing competitive
           | sports via homeschool programs that compete with other high
           | schools; one is getting his certification as a welder (as
           | part of a State program that pays for it if one is still in
           | high school). Because class times and locations are more
           | flexible this opens up far more possibilities for extra
           | curricular activities.
        
           | BeetleB wrote:
           | To me, this question highlights the whole problem: This is
           | not what schools are for.
           | 
           | Yes, it's great if they provide these things, but it's a
           | distant secondary concern. I'd rather my kid get a great
           | education and miss out on these things, than get a poor
           | education but have access to all these.
           | 
           | But of course, as others have pointed out, it's a false
           | dichotomy. You can have both.
        
         | jayd16 wrote:
         | Covid showed me that on the average home schooling (or at least
         | remote learning) leaves kids extremely under developed.
         | 
         | The stunted social and academic skills were pretty apparent in
         | retrospect once the schools reopened.
        
           | BJones12 wrote:
           | Remote learning. You didn't see homeschooling, which is a
           | very different thing, you saw remote learning.
           | 
           | The homeschooling crowd has developed methods over the years
           | to compensate. The COVID remote learning cohort did not, and
           | suffered for it.
        
             | lazyasciiart wrote:
             | Remote learning has also built many methods for success,
             | and absolutely nobody even consulted them before
             | implementing their ad hoc systems for Covid. There are
             | entire online public schools and their staff were just
             | ignored.
        
           | Redster wrote:
           | What happened to students who were in schools that closed
           | _was_ terrible. But it wasn 't anything close to
           | homeschooling.
        
           | wtallis wrote:
           | COVID forced remote learning to be adopted very broadly,
           | without the usual self-selection effect of families that
           | choose to homeschool when they have a choice. So the
           | observations from COVID don't really support any stronger
           | claim than saying that homeschooling _can_ be done badly.
        
         | danesparza wrote:
         | It also has its own problems that haven't even been quantified
         | yet.
         | 
         | If you think that homeschooling is a panacea, I guess we're all
         | about to f*ck around and find out...
        
         | thewebguyd wrote:
         | > Phones, social media, etc. what a terrible environment we
         | adults have created for kids to learn both educationally and
         | socially.
         | 
         | And this is only just now being investigated as a cause of
         | harm. When I went to public high school, the bullying happened
         | at school and stayed there. Kids now, their bullies follow them
         | home, and since most of the social interaction now happens
         | online instead of in-person, it's way more damaging to mental
         | health than the classic caricature of a schoolyard bully. The
         | most I had to compare myself to were my peers in my school, not
         | the entire globe of influencers and fake instagram.
         | 
         | There has been a complete erosion of boundaries. The threat is
         | constant, you can't escape it, and kids are in a state of
         | hyper-vigilance, always online or else they miss a crucial
         | social interaction in group chat, or need to constantly check
         | if a damaging photo, post, or rumor gets _publicly_ posted to
         | the internet while they were asleep.
         | 
         | Not only that, teens are losing the ability to read human
         | emotion, so misunderstandings escalate rapidly. In person
         | communication now becomes too intense, and only increases
         | anxiety and isolation, despite being hyperconnected.
         | 
         | And that's just barely touching the surface.
        
         | 5upplied_demand wrote:
         | ==It says something about a system dedicated to teaching
         | children when parents think they can do as well or better.==
         | 
         | I think it also says something about the parents who think they
         | can do as well or better.
        
           | seneca wrote:
           | Well, they tend to be right. Outcomes for homeschooled
           | children are broadly significantly better than government
           | schooled children.
           | 
           | Also, just FYI, to quote someone you prefix the text with
           | ">".
        
       | csense wrote:
       | Anecdotally, two factors at work here:
       | 
       | - Schools have stopped educating in favor of test metrics, making
       | sure the worst students pass, and pushing borderline
       | indoctrination of controversial, left-ish values.
       | 
       | - With remote education during the pandemic, people have more
       | visibility into their school's day-to-day teaching.
       | 
       | It's hard to fix the US education system by political means. If
       | you have the ability to do so, it's comparatively much easier to
       | pull your kids out and homeschool them.
        
         | mcphage wrote:
         | > pushing borderline indoctrination of controversial, left-ish
         | values
         | 
         | I wonder what sort of values they're indoctrinating their kids
         | with instead.
        
           | jimmygrapes wrote:
           | I expected this comment coming into the thread. I would just
           | like to point out that there is a huge range of options
           | between those two extremes!
           | 
           | If is entirely possible to teach up a child to be curious AND
           | well rounded in the basics (see also concepts of Trivarium
           | and Quadrivium, sorry can't link the references atm).
        
             | mcphage wrote:
             | > there is a huge range of options between those two
             | extremes!
             | 
             | Which two extremes would those be?
        
               | echelon_musk wrote:
               | Presumably the extremes of left and right?
        
               | jen20 wrote:
               | (Which are, of course, far more similar than people that
               | identify with either extreme would ever admit).
        
           | binary132 wrote:
           | yeah, it would be crazy if people were allowed to raise their
           | own children with their own values. we can't have that.
        
             | patall wrote:
             | Did anyone argue that you are not allowed to teach your
             | kids your own values? It seems to me, the question is more:
             | do you want to raise your kids without ever exposing them
             | to values that are not your own? Opinion Bubbles have been
             | increasing for a long time, do we really want to grow them
             | even more? Social media is full of people left and right
             | that seem to have no idea about the opinions and realities
             | at the other end of the spectrum.
        
             | llbeansandrice wrote:
             | Is this not possible while exposing children to a variety
             | of view points from different sources or does it require
             | that children are not exposed to certain perspectives at
             | all?
             | 
             | The original comment makes a very bold claim of
             | "indoctrination" of an entirely undefined set of values.
             | 
             | There has been no evidence that exposing children to this
             | (undefined and buzzwordy) set of values means that they
             | can't be raised according to other values.
             | 
             | I find this idea pretty wild to encounter on HN which is
             | generally focused on open source and widely available
             | information so that people can educate themselves is
             | suddenly gone in a puff of smoke and some buzzwords when
             | talking about educating the most curious minds in the
             | world.
             | 
             | Define the values. Cite sources that this is
             | "indoctrination" and not simply exposing viewpoints. Then
             | maybe we can have a productive discussion.
        
               | ryandrake wrote:
               | > Define the values. Cite sources that this is
               | "indoctrination" and not simply exposing viewpoints. Then
               | maybe we can have a productive discussion.
               | 
               | They're never going to do this, because it's not actually
               | happening, at least not to a significant degree. They
               | will keep their wording vague, not show examples, and
               | basically just repeat variations of "Trust me, bro.. this
               | indoctrination is happening. It's clear as day. You need
               | to see the real world, bro."
        
         | biophysboy wrote:
         | Parents side with their kids all the time in pass/fail battles;
         | they're not objective.
         | 
         | Name the left values; don't beat around the bush.
         | 
         | Observing remote education is not good visibility into pre-
         | covid teaching.
         | 
         | I think we have a responsibility to have educated citizens.
        
           | broof wrote:
           | One example is in high school I had an excellent literature
           | class that also covered a lot of philosophy. It wasn't until
           | later that I realized that the various philosophies we
           | studied were the philosophies that are often foundational for
           | Marxism, atheism, and general left of center academia.
           | Probably the best class I had in high school but I wish it
           | had also covered things on both sides, or been more
           | transparent that it was in fact biased.
        
             | AlotOfReading wrote:
             | It's pretty hard to touch philosophy without covering
             | marxism in some way. Very little of it has anything to do
             | with the family of political ideologies despite sharing a
             | similar name. The question of God's existence is also
             | fundamental to the history of philosophy. It's not
             | particularly shocking that a course might cover people like
             | Lucretius, Bentham, or Russell.
             | 
             | Most philosophy surveys will also include some of the other
             | sides, which you might not even recognize as such.
             | Descartes and Aquinas are fixtures, and Heidegger
             | (notoriously conservative and also a literal Nazi) often
             | features in university level classes. The point isn't to
             | indoctrinate you with any of these viewpoints, it's to
             | teach you how to analyze their arguments and think for
             | yourself.
        
               | Izikiel43 wrote:
               | > It's pretty hard to touch philosophy without covering
               | marxism in some way
               | 
               | The complaint was that the alternative wasn't discussed.
        
               | AlotOfReading wrote:
               | I read the parent as saying that the course covered these
               | at all, not as complaining that nothing else was
               | presented.
               | 
               | But continuing on that train, what would you want from
               | mentioning alternatives to a theoretical framework? A
               | framework is just a different way to look at the world
               | that you can discard if it's not useful.
               | 
               | To give a programming analogy, if a course does a module
               | on JavaScript exclusively with react, they're not
               | teaching that vue, angular, or svelte don't exist and you
               | should only use react. It's much more likely a statement
               | that react is common and useful for people to be familiar
               | with when they go into the outside world. Covering the
               | long list of alternate frameworks, many of which the
               | teacher will have never actually used in a serious way,
               | is both difficult to do in a useful manner and takes away
               | from the limited time available to cover what they can
               | with sufficient depth.
        
               | floren wrote:
               | It's philosophy, not catechism, you're not expected to
               | leave the class _believing_ everything you read.
        
             | patall wrote:
             | I have had more teachers actively advocating voting for
             | right wing parties than left wing parties. And once had
             | someone in biology class tell me that he thinks that
             | evolution and creation by god are equal and we should try
             | to merge those theories. And I live in a very secular part
             | of Europe.
             | 
             | But hey, both you and I are telling anecdotes. The only
             | conclusion for me is that public school exposes you to
             | people that do not think like you or your parents.
             | Something, we are less and less exposed to. If that is
             | good, anyone has to answer for themselves.
        
             | biophysboy wrote:
             | Don't agree with this. Marx's Capital is filled with basic
             | mathematical analyses. I don't agree with his labor theory
             | of value, but I do think algebra is good.
        
             | dfxm12 wrote:
             | "Both" sides? If you suggest Marxism is one side, what is
             | the other? Also, it's hard to take such a vague comment at
             | face value when you consider the long list of Marx's
             | influences. For example, there are right and young
             | Hegelians...
        
               | ecshafer wrote:
               | I do think there is too much politicization in education,
               | but this also stuck out to me. Marx was a synthesis of
               | Hegel with Adam Smith (And a lot of Ricardo) You
               | absolutely have many people taking those same ideas and
               | going right. Even Das Kapital isn't really "Left Wing"
               | _per se_ as it is more trying to explain how labor is
               | treated in an industrialized economies, its the communist
               | manifesto where Marx takes those ideas and starts
               | synthesizing with Hegel and making ideas of what should
               | happen.
        
           | SoftTalker wrote:
           | > Parents side with their kids all the time in pass/fail
           | battles; they're not objective.
           | 
           | I'm thinking this is fairly new. When I was in school, if I
           | got bad grades or got in trouble at school, I got in trouble
           | at home too. My parents were absolutely not calling the
           | teachers complaining about grades. When I had trouble
           | learning multiplication facts, they sat me down with flash
           | cards every night until I had learned them, they didn't blame
           | the teacher. This was in the 1970s/80s. This seemed pretty
           | normal based on what I remember. When/why did it change?
        
             | biophysboy wrote:
             | I think parents are trying to maximize the perceived value
             | of their child at the expense of their real value. I also
             | think various media (especially the internet) have lowered
             | trust in primary/secondary education, leading to more
             | parents feeling justified in "taking matters into their own
             | hands". You kind of see that attitude in this thread (its
             | not wholly unjustified).
        
         | ponooqjoqo wrote:
         | > pushing borderline indoctrination of controversial, left-ish
         | values
         | 
         | Which values? I haven't gone to school in a long time.
        
           | squigz wrote:
           | I'm very curious about this as well, GP, please.
        
           | VohuMana wrote:
           | I am very curious too, I've asked this to other friends who
           | have mentioned the same thing and the only concrete answer I
           | have got so far was teaching the theory of evolution and
           | climate change.
        
           | andrewmlevy wrote:
           | Lots of examples, gender identity and requiring ethnic
           | studies (focusing on white male privilege, settler/colonial,
           | putting groups into binary oppressor/oppressed). Also issues
           | with requiring those classes vs not.
        
             | voxl wrote:
             | These are two indisputable facts about our world, if you
             | disagree you are wrong and anti-science:
             | 
             | 1. Gender is a social construct
             | 
             | 2. Whiteness is a social construct and in particular has
             | been used as a bludgeon against minority "non-whites" in
             | the United States for a very long time
             | 
             | If you do not believe these things you are the problem. You
             | lack education. You lack critical thinking. You are
             | brainwashed.
        
             | dfxm12 wrote:
             | You've identified examples of values, but you have
             | forgotten to link them to the left, forgotten to show if
             | they are controversial and, probably most importantly,
             | forgotten to show how schools are borderline pushing
             | indoctrination of them.
        
               | abbycurtis33 wrote:
               | Each of those is well within public knowledge.
        
               | ryandrake wrote:
               | In other words, "Trust me, bro!"
        
             | throwaway-11-1 wrote:
             | Literally nobody forces groups into a good/bad binary more
             | than conservatives. What an embarrassing lack of self
             | awareness
             | 
             | (source: I went to a conservative christian school)
        
           | obscurette wrote:
           | Not a GP and I don't know if any of these qualifies as "left-
           | ish" (which is very US specific IMHO), but as I understand,
           | the education all over the western culture is destroyed by
           | few really simple and really crazy (for me) ideas:
           | 
           | - Kids are never responsible for anything.
           | 
           | - Teachers are responsible for everything.
        
             | ilikecakeandpie wrote:
             | That's a parenting problem though, not an education
             | problem, right?
        
               | obscurette wrote:
               | Actually no. The problem comes from society. If you think
               | that kids should be responsible for anything, you are a
               | bad person. If you think that kids should be punished if
               | they do something really bad, you are a monster.
               | 
               | Here we had a case teenagers bullying their teacher -
               | abused her verbally during school, posted deepfake
               | revenge porn into internet, stole stuff from her garden
               | etc. She cried for help and the case was investigated by
               | commission that included people from people from ministry
               | of education, police and psychologists. But the
               | commission concluded that she was the problem - she
               | lacked the skills to build a trusting relationship with
               | kids.
        
           | o11c wrote:
           | From the Conservative part of my social group, the main one
           | applicable here is pushing elementary school kids to identify
           | as trans. Because young children are _very_ impressionable,
           | and it is forbidden for staff to push back on on it at all,
           | despite the science saying  "there is absolutely no such
           | thing as trans before age 12, and much possibility of social
           | trauma from attempting it".
           | 
           | Left-ish people tend to say "this doesn't happen in the real
           | world, it's made up for internet arguments" - and I even said
           | that for a while on this and a few other subjects - but that
           | denial cannot survive extensive contact with the real world.
        
             | squigz wrote:
             | Why age 12?
        
               | o11c wrote:
               | Age 12 happens to be the cutoff used in the scientific
               | studies.
        
               | squigz wrote:
               | And the conclusion to draw from that is that one
               | absolutely cannot be trans under the age of 12?
        
             | ryandrake wrote:
             | Name some examples of school systems "pushing" kids to
             | identify as trans. The name of the school and individual
             | teacher, plus the wording that counts as "pushing" would be
             | fine. You say this is happening in the real world, so
             | surely you can point to a few examples.
        
         | RandallBrown wrote:
         | > With remote education during the pandemic, people have more
         | visibility into their school's day-to-day teaching
         | 
         | I'm not sure remote schooling during the pandemic is very
         | representative of day to day teaching in school. At least
         | that's the impression I got from my teacher friends back then.
        
         | csb6 wrote:
         | > Schools have stopped educating in favor of test metrics,
         | making sure the worst students pass, and pushing borderline
         | indoctrination of controversial, left-ish values.
         | 
         | As someone who was in public education less than 10 years ago,
         | the last part plainly untrue. In fact, several states will soon
         | require displaying the 10 commandments in public school
         | classrooms, which seems pretty "right-ish" to me.
         | 
         | Homeschooling is a symptom of the atomization of American
         | society - affluent people are retreating into their bunkers in
         | suburbia and withdrawing from civil society based on a shared
         | psychosis regarding "critical race theory" and "wokeness",
         | neither of which are taught in public schools.
        
           | SauntSolaire wrote:
           | > In fact, several states will soon require displaying the 10
           | commandments in public school classrooms, which seems pretty
           | "right-ish" to me.
           | 
           | That tells you way more about the (current) politics of the
           | local government than it does about the politics of the
           | median teacher. It might actually indicate the opposite - no
           | one would go to the effort of mandating pride flags at the
           | school I went to, seeing as they were already hung in every
           | single classroom.
        
             | csb6 wrote:
             | Why would hanging pride flags in every room be comparable
             | to showing the ten commandments in every room? A poster of
             | the commandments is promoting religion in a secular school,
             | and the flag promotes human rights for queer people. Why
             | would a pride flag be controversial to anyone who isn't a
             | religious zealot?
        
           | Izikiel43 wrote:
           | Do privilege walks count? Which seem to foster victim
           | mentality?
        
         | ilikecakeandpie wrote:
         | This is very anecdotal. Here in the south, the "controversial,
         | left-ish values" would be a breath of fresh air vs what is
         | being taught here
         | 
         | > Schools have stopped educating in favor of test metrics,
         | making sure the worst students pass
         | 
         | This is no child left behind in action, which was implemented
         | during W's term
         | 
         | > With remote education during the pandemic, people have more
         | visibility into their school's day-to-day teaching
         | 
         | ^ This is the micromanagement that a ton of people claim to
         | hate and get in their way on this site when folks are
         | complaining about daily standups.
         | 
         | IMO, if you're worried about the quality of your kid's
         | education then you'll either need to send them to a private or
         | home school, which will stunt them socially because life isn't
         | just one big private school or home, or encourage curiosity and
         | learning at home to supplement their rote learning from school
        
         | jrm4 wrote:
         | I'm not sure how your first thing much factors in? I haven't
         | seen any data but I'd be VERY surprised if e.g. a survey of
         | homeschoolers would cite to a lot of "making bad students pass"
         | and "lefty indoctrination."
        
         | jrm4 wrote:
         | Another nebulous but I think VERY observable factor would be
         | the extent to which "parents are, and expected to be, involved
         | in their kids school stuff."
         | 
         | Anecdotally, but I bet you see a lot of it, I can count on one,
         | maybe two hands the number of times my parents went to anything
         | at the school to see me do a thing. And for my kids, there's
         | something just about every other week.
        
         | ahmeneeroe-v2 wrote:
         | The other factor is not removing the bottom _% of hugely
         | disruptive and violent children from schools.
        
       | deepfriedchokes wrote:
       | This is how a significant portion of the population gets
       | radicalized by their parents. It needs to be shut down.
        
         | nvahalik wrote:
         | All kids are indoctrinated. As parents do you want to have
         | control of that or not?
         | 
         | With that attitude you might as well just tell parents that
         | they shouldn't participate in society!
        
           | bdangubic wrote:
           | the purpose of education is largely opposite of indocrination
           | (plus few other things). if your kid is being educated is
           | such an environment you should move (or pay for private
           | education).
        
             | kochikame wrote:
             | I get where you're coming from but I think your statement
             | is a bit naive.
             | 
             | Education systems as we know them today are absolutely
             | about indoctrination in so many ways. Capitalism, love of
             | country, views on family units, beauty and aaesthetics,
             | what has cultural value and what does not etc etc. Not to
             | mention many school systems just straight up having classes
             | on religion, allowing armed forces into schools to recruit
             | and the like.
             | 
             | Whether you're worried about left wing or right wing
             | indoctrination, it still holds true. All kids are being
             | indoctrinated every time they go to school same as every
             | time they watch TV.
        
               | bdangubic wrote:
               | I pay _a lot_ of money for my 12-year to not be in the
               | system you are describing and am grateful I can provide
               | this for her more than I am grateful for just about
               | anything else
        
               | xboxnolifes wrote:
               | Exactly. Which history lessons get taught, which books
               | get assigned as reading, which clubs are available, etc.
               | Even if they are taught to be critical of the assignments
               | they get, if the selection is limited enough, kids will
               | not have the breadth of knowledge to even see the
               | alternatives.
        
           | kochikame wrote:
           | I think the point is that part of having a functioning
           | society (civic life, engagement, tolerance of others) is
           | having people mix together. School is one of the prime places
           | where that happens.
           | 
           | If you allow a lot of people to pull away from that "forced"
           | engagement with others then you start to stress a lot of
           | societal bonds.
        
             | nvahalik wrote:
             | You're right. It's _one_ of the prime places.
             | 
             | I don't know a single homeschooler that sits at home all
             | day long. They work in family businesses, participate in
             | bands, sports, and co-ops. Many belong to churches where
             | families come from all different strata: our church has
             | surgeons, line cooks, programmers, self-employed handymen,
             | disabled vets. They interact with everyone--including kids.
             | They do things like "kid markets" where they have a
             | business. They watch their parents learn how the house
             | works and how to manage finances.
             | 
             | There is no forced engagement--in fact the peer pressure is
             | often completely gone. They are in an environment (their
             | family) where they are much freer to be themselves.
        
               | cyclotron3k wrote:
               | > I don't know a single homeschooler that sits at home
               | all day long.
               | 
               | Well, you wouldn't, would you?
               | 
               | Sorry, not to detract from your other points, but I
               | thought it was funny.
        
               | cosmicgadget wrote:
               | All of our planes came back with the wings shot up!
        
         | JoshTriplett wrote:
         | It's also how some of the population escapes getting broken by
         | a one-size-fits-all education system. People need options.
        
         | SabrinaJewson wrote:
         | 100%. The school and the Internet are the two places children
         | can encounter opinions different from their parents' for the
         | first time. With an increase in homeschooling and recent pushes
         | to ban social media for children, it's clear that critical
         | thinking is going to suffer most. I still have not met someone
         | who was homeschooled who was remotely thankful for it.
         | 
         | Honestly, support for these policies that benefit, more than
         | anyone else, abusive parents, makes me suspicious of people's
         | motives.
        
         | GaryBluto wrote:
         | One could also say banning homeschooling is how a significant
         | portion of the population gets indoctrinated by the state.
        
         | netsharc wrote:
         | If the article was about how Muslim families home-school their
         | kids, your comment would not be so greyed out...
         | 
         | (I'm not saying it's true for 1 religion and false for the
         | other, but I'm betting a lot of people would think so...).
        
       | JSR_FDED wrote:
       | Timmy's job will be done by AI when he grows up, but at least
       | he'll have fun a social skills
        
       | ec2y wrote:
       | Lemme just question how home schooling is at all possible without
       | one parent (statically more likely to be a woman) staying home to
       | supervise the learning. I don't think we're talking about remote
       | ranch situations where you either do online school or have to
       | send them to boarding school.
       | 
       | So I'm genuinely wondering if there's a corresponding exit from
       | the workplace or other demographic trends allowing/pushing this
       | boom in home schooling to happen?
        
         | stockresearcher wrote:
         | We've homeschooled all our kids up to 8th grade. Our oldest is
         | now a sophomore at the public high school but will start
         | attending community college next year, paid for by the school
         | district.
         | 
         | Most of the adults you see at the various group things are
         | stay-at-home moms. Most. Some stay-at-home dads. Some of the
         | moms have part-time jobs. I don't recall any dads with part-
         | time jobs. But many dads are present while also working full-
         | time. You get into a rhythm, have a schedule, etc. and you can
         | work it out. My wife is fairly unusual in that she runs her own
         | full-time business. Many moms don't like her, presumably
         | because they gave up their careers to do this and are jealous
         | that she does both.
        
           | toasterlovin wrote:
           | > My wife is fairly unusual in that she runs her own full-
           | time business. Many moms don't like her, presumably because
           | they gave up their careers to do this and are jealous that
           | she does both.
           | 
           | FWIW, my experience is that the dynamic at play in these
           | situations is that women who run their own businesses or
           | otherwise have high-powered careers tend to have a
           | constellation of personality traits that is significantly
           | shifted vs. those of stay at home moms, plus their daily
           | lives are very different, so they don't really fit in. Saying
           | that without value judgement, just an observation.
        
           | mikece wrote:
           | Wait... you homeschool your kids and yet you write "...and
           | [they] are jealous that she does both." No, they are ENVIOUS:
           | one envies what they don't have and are jealous of what they
           | have.
           | 
           | Sorry, couldn't let that one slide! :-)
        
             | istjohn wrote:
             | That's not true. Who told you that?
        
             | streb-lo wrote:
             | Product of homeschooling no doubt. Technically correct, but
             | missing the forest for the trees re: colloquial usage.
        
         | tylervigen wrote:
         | It only requires that one parent has enough free hours to
         | assign coursework. They don't have to exit the workforce, and
         | don't necessarily need to directly supervise learning (but of
         | course some of this is necessary for K-5).
         | 
         | I think a lot of how homeschooling can work, along with much of
         | median/lower household income life in general, is
         | misunderstood.
         | 
         | Source: Was homeschooled by a mom who worked.
        
         | csa wrote:
         | > Lemme just question how home schooling is at all possible
         | without one parent (statically more likely to be a woman)
         | staying home to supervise the learning.
         | 
         | There are at least two good answers to this:
         | 
         | 1. The first is a via a home-schooling collective. With as few
         | as 5 families, one can easily do a once-per-week rotation of
         | home schooling responsibilities. Also note that the formal
         | education part of this can be done fairly comfortably in 4
         | hours (even down to 2 hours with 1-1 instruction). As such, all
         | that is needed is a 4-day a week job, or a job with a flex
         | schedule who can do work on the weekend. I know one family that
         | does something like this.
         | 
         | 2. The second is to have a tutor do the instruction. For folks
         | who are high earners, paying a tutor who can come in for 2-3
         | hours a day costs about the same as a mid-tier private school.
         | Child care would still need to be covered, but that's usually
         | cheaper than a tutor.
         | 
         | So it's doable, but either time or money will need to be
         | sacrificed. I don't think that's a surprise.
         | 
         | That said, below are some things about home schooling that I've
         | learned over the years from people who have done it:
         | 
         | - When done well, it's probably close to an ideal education.
         | When done poorly, it can mess up the kid, and many of these
         | kids are very vocal about how bad it can be. Obviously there
         | will be a whole range of outcomes between these extremes. Just
         | be aware that it's not necessarily a panacea, and it's not
         | necessarily an ideological cesspit.
         | 
         | - There is a ton of support for home schoolers in some
         | communities, especially for socialization and specialization.
         | Many people do not realize this.
         | 
         | - That said, some (perhaps many) home school parents are just
         | ideological extremists -- extreme beliefs, extreme (sometimes
         | illegal) lifestyles, etc.
         | 
         | - A good litmus test of where a home school parent is on the
         | thoughtful-extremist continuum is to ask them why they
         | homeschool their kids. The thoughtful parents can rattle off
         | dozens of learning opportunities that their kids have had that
         | don't exist or barely exist at normal schools. The less of
         | these types of specifics they talk about, the more likely they
         | are to have ideological reasons that they may or may not openly
         | discuss.
         | 
         | - For folks who want a good learning environment for their kid,
         | I strongly recommend a _good_ Montessori school. I emphasize
         | "good", because some of them stray far from the Montessori
         | ideals. This just requires a small amount of research and some
         | observation. All that said, a good Montessori school almost
         | always sets up a kid to be a solid person and life-long
         | learner. Note that some kids absolutely hate the Montessori
         | style, and you will know this in about a day or two. I will go
         | out on a limb and say most of these kids will need special
         | attention in home school contexts as well (imho).
         | 
         | > So I'm genuinely wondering if there's a corresponding exit
         | from the workplace or other demographic trends allowing/pushing
         | this boom in home schooling to happen?
         | 
         | I don't think so.
         | 
         | Most of the people I know who home school are already stay at
         | home parents (mostly mothers, but one dad), or they have plenty
         | of disposable income to throw at the problem via tutors and
         | home school support services.
         | 
         | I will also say that some parents absolutely punt on the
         | education part, and they can do their part (often negligently)
         | while doing a full time work-from-home job -- think handing out
         | some work sheets and pointing their kid(s) to an online
         | learning environment with very little scaffolding. There are
         | some kids who respond well to this, but most don't.
        
         | paulddraper wrote:
         | Yes, it (effectively) requires a parent to stay home, at least
         | 90% of the time.
         | 
         | But that has happened for a long time, at a rate high enough
         | that you wouldn't need to see resignations to increase
         | homeschooling.
        
         | JKCalhoun wrote:
         | Interesting point. I know of one home-schooling family--and the
         | wife quit her career to homeschool.
         | 
         | Is this family well off financially? Of course they are. I
         | suspect the data on homeschoolers is going to reflect a
         | generally affluent slant.
        
           | gred wrote:
           | Anecdotally, I know of one child who was homeschooled
           | recently. The mother is a single mother, of modest middle-
           | class means. There was a homeschooling group nearby with a
           | few volunteer mothers handling most of the logistics and
           | teaching. This particular mother did not have to give up her
           | job. It does stretch the definition of "homeschooling" a bit
           | when it's a neighbor teaching in a neighbor's home, but they
           | made it work.
        
             | ryandrake wrote:
             | Yea, that does stretch it. At some point, it becomes less
             | "homeschooling" and more "an unlicensed private school."
             | Uber for Schools?
        
       | vivzkestrel wrote:
       | homeschooled kids are literally competing against kids from other
       | countries that are being schooled on calculus, geometry,
       | statistics, algebra with practical chemistry, physics and biology
       | lessons. This is not going to end well 15 yrs down the line
        
         | stockresearcher wrote:
         | Lots of colleges offer laboratory science classes for
         | homeschooled children. AOPS wipes the floor with any math
         | education you'd get at a public school. Most US national
         | laboratories have on-site programs for school-aged kids and
         | homeschoolers have equal standing for attending.
         | 
         | Anyone who takes it seriously gives up nothing.
        
         | sbuttgereit wrote:
         | You think avoiding these things are why people are thinking
         | about homeschooling?!
         | 
         | In San Francisco where I live the public school system made the
         | decision to not offer algebra until later for egalitarian
         | reasons. Basically since they couldn't bring up the students
         | that faired poorly in math, they delayed the subject for
         | everybody. Along the same lines, they took the one high school
         | dedicated to the highest achieving students and turned it into
         | a lottery system rather than something earned.
         | 
         | Yes, of course you're right, kids will be competing on all
         | those subjects. But the idea that public institutions are
         | somehow the safeguards of fundamental academic achievement is
         | just out of touch.
         | 
         | Of course, San Francisco public school's embrace of
         | socialist/egalitarian drive identity politics is just one
         | example of public education failure. Elsewhere in the US in
         | these times, other school districts are being turned
         | effectively into seminaries because the other political side
         | has other doctrinal objectives. In neither case is learning how
         | to think or how the world really works is important.
        
       | biophysboy wrote:
       | > When asked if they are satisfied with their children's
       | education, public school parents consistently rank last after
       | parents who choose private schools, homeschooling, and charter
       | schools. Importantly, among all parents of school-age children,
       | homeschooling enjoys a 70 percent favorability rating.
       | 
       | This is not surprising: homeschoolers are extremely confident in
       | their own teaching abilities and extremely cynical about the
       | abilities of others.
       | 
       | > Closures also gave parents a chance to experience public
       | schools' competence with remote learning, and many were
       | unimpressed. They have also been unhappy with the poor quality
       | and often politicized lessons taught to their children that
       | infuriatingly blend declining learning outcomes with
       | indoctrination.
       | 
       | Why would a parent compare a novel learning environment to the
       | pre-covid experience? Why would a parent think that their kid
       | will never encounter political topics if they stay at home - do
       | they use the internet at all?
        
         | jen20 wrote:
         | > Why would a parent think that their kid will never encounter
         | political topics if they stay at home
         | 
         | They probably imagine they'll never encounter political topics
         | from a perspective of which said parents do not approve. And
         | they're probably not wrong to believe that.
        
           | biophysboy wrote:
           | Yes, but then their kid will become an adult and feel like
           | they were kept in a snow globe. Even if the parents are
           | right, its a foolish strategy!
        
       | Scottn1 wrote:
       | Homeschooling is becoming an epidemic and a major reason is ---
       | SPORTS. From my experience, it is growing for all the wrong
       | reasons and I have not come across ONE family doing it properly
       | and in a matter I would consider better for the kid.
       | 
       | I have a 15yo son who plays sports and for the past 5 years,
       | homeschooling has been a way to "red-shirt" kids - hold them back
       | a year or two then re-entering them into public schools into
       | grades behind their age. Literally purposely holding back their
       | kids so they can be older as freshman.
       | 
       | A major problem with boys because of puberty, size etc around
       | this age. The difference between a 14yo and a 16yo, or 16/18yo
       | can be quite large at times. My son had a freshman on his team
       | last year that could drive and had a mustache playing vs these
       | tiny incoming freshman, it was so comical. He was 16 1/2 as a
       | freshman. And the parents were on the sideline acting like their
       | kid was the next coming of Aaron Judge. It REALLY hurts the rest
       | of us playing the rules and taking education seriously when our
       | kids are trying to make a team.
       | 
       | I've known several of these parents and they all are the same.
       | They haphazardly put them into the bare min online courses, still
       | go to work all day and stick them in front of computers to expect
       | them to self teach for a few years. The moms would be stay-home
       | types that didn't seem much educated themselves. The kids are
       | spoiled entitled types who think they are top athletes already
       | and would jokingly be calling my son at 11a telling him they are
       | done already for the day and headed to the gym and playing
       | Fortnite.
       | 
       | Now this is just MY circle, I am not saying there aren't very
       | serious and capable parents out there really homeschooling and
       | giving their kids a better education than public school, but I
       | haven't met any in maybe roughly 10 I know. Most of them seemed
       | to also be MAGA types poo-pooing public education and how they
       | are brainwashing kids. It is really despicable that this is most
       | likely happening ALL across America.
       | 
       | Education and manipulation aside, I would also think this isn't
       | good the kids mental and social health as well. They already are
       | on devices doom-scrolling enough nowadays, do we really want them
       | hermits too now?
       | 
       | I applaud anyone putting in huge effort to home school a kid
       | properly and with true care and teaching. But the image of them
       | at a desk being taught by a real smart/educated parent following
       | a true curriculum all day and on a schedule I imagine is ultra
       | rare. And we are going to pay a price for this in the long run.
       | Or not, GPT will just help them along to properly write that
       | email for them when they are adults in a corporate world.
        
         | mikece wrote:
         | I thought you were going to go in a different direction with
         | that: recruiting. In States where home schoolers can play on
         | public school sports teams there are cases where the family
         | gets an apartment and one parent and the kid establishes
         | residency for the purpose of being in a particular school
         | district. A notable case in recent-ish history was someone
         | called Tim Tebow in Jacksonville, FLA. It's not a common thing
         | though, far less of a complaint-magnet than the Catholic
         | schools who "recruit" players from all over a city or even
         | region to come be a starter on their football/basketball
         | team...
        
       | spwa4 wrote:
       | Well here is what the result was of public school for my 3 kids:
       | 
       | 1 kid: one year behind but doing very well
       | 
       | 1 kid: two years behind and not doing so well (in fact can't
       | continue to academia unless things change drastically, in other
       | words, will lose at least 1-2 more years if she does go to
       | academia)
       | 
       | 1 kid: two years behind and doing pretty well
       | 
       | This is the result of 9-11 years of public schooling. I feel like
       | all 3 have very suboptimal outcomes, including the one doing very
       | well.
       | 
       | I must say I am also getting very irritated by the
       | "indoctrination". That was fine, if occasionally crazy, during
       | the COVID years when the indoctrination was pretty progressive.
       | Sometimes batshit insane, but let's say "well intentioned". Pro-
       | climate claims ... that were bullshit, but at least pro-climate
       | and generally positive and pro-humanity. Now one of their
       | teachers is openly racist (in a class with 33% immigrants), and
       | even though most keep it more subtle than him, this is a general
       | trend.
       | 
       | So if someone can please suggest what is the suggestion here?
       | Keep working with public school? To be honest, the damage was
       | done by their previous public school where the situation
       | deteriorated to the point I had a fight with the principal, and
       | their current school (since 1.5 years) is actually undoing part
       | of the damage done there.
       | 
       | Keep them going to public school and give up?
        
         | ApolloFortyNine wrote:
         | I know a teacher who said one of their colleagues adamantly
         | believes the moon landing was faked.
         | 
         | >So if someone can please suggest what is the suggestion here?
         | Keep working with public school? To be honest, the damage was
         | done by their previous public school where the situation
         | deteriorated to the point I had a fight with the principal, and
         | their current school (since 1.5 years) is actually undoing part
         | of the damage done there.
         | 
         | Look up school ratings in your area and move is by far your
         | best bet if you wish to continue public school. There is also
         | the difficult truth that maybe your kids are the problem, but
         | again school shopping could help with that depending on what
         | programs they have.
        
       | andrewstuart wrote:
       | Group home schooling in a shared building is becoming a huge new
       | trend in home schooling, far more resource and time efficient and
       | pools the resources of the parents and allows the group to hire
       | someone to do the group homeschooling.
        
         | dfxm12 wrote:
         | This sounds like a private school (probably with less
         | oversight/regulation). What are the key differences?
        
           | PKop wrote:
           | Control over what happens there
        
         | jay_kyburz wrote:
         | I really enjoyed teaching my kids during covid, and they got a
         | bug jump ahead compared to the kids who just played video games
         | while the schools were closed. We only did 3-4 hours a day but
         | it was fun, and I could really see the changes.
         | 
         | I don't mind the idea of teaching 10 kids, my way, and in and
         | environment I can control. The thought of teaching 35 kids,
         | mired in bureaucracy, is a nightmare.
        
       | nxm wrote:
       | At the end of the day, it's a form of school-choice where parents
       | decide what's best for their kids which I strongly support.
        
         | cosmicgadget wrote:
         | Too bad for the kids though. You'd think their welfare would
         | matter more than the parents having control.
        
         | russdill wrote:
         | Only parents of privilege are given choice though. Parents who
         | are struggling are not. And then when it comes to vote on
         | fixing classrooms, paying teachers what they are worth, etc,
         | there's a great bulk of people who would rather just not
         | because it doesn't effect them.
        
       | gtirloni wrote:
       | I don't feel better prepared to teach at home than someone who
       | actually went to college for the various topics covered in high
       | school. How can I know all I need to teach about math, chemistry,
       | english, physics, etc, etc, etc when I already have to learn so
       | much for my own work? I think parents that think they can do a
       | better job are delusional.
       | 
       | Maybe the school _environment_ that a child has access isn't
       | great, right? But I don't think that says anything about
       | teachers.
        
         | rahimnathwani wrote:
         | In California, a teacher without a chemistry degree can teach
         | high school chemistry after passing the CSET Chemistry subtest.
         | This requires less depth of knowledge than AP Chemistry.
        
           | jeffbee wrote:
           | You do not need to know anything about the subject to teach
           | high school subjects. You need to know stuff about
           | _teaching_.
        
         | JoeAltmaier wrote:
         | At school, one teacher lectures to maybe 30 students. If all
         | they did was give individual attention student by student, each
         | would get maybe 10 minutes a day.
         | 
         | The first 10 minutes of your home-school day you've beat that
         | statistic. After two or three hours, you're up to a month of
         | class time.
         | 
         | Of course they don't do that; they just lecture. Which is
         | something you can get online (Khan Academy).
         | 
         | It's all about the homework and tutoring, baby.
         | 
         | All you have to do is learn along with your home student, and
         | validate their learning experience. Helps if you catch on
         | quicker, but not even necessary.
        
       | dkhenry wrote:
       | When I recently switched jobs, one of my requirements was I had
       | to remain remote, for at least the next few years, so I could
       | remain at home and help with my children's education. I don't
       | think there is enough money in the world to convince me to change
       | back to public education. Aside from the benefits everyone
       | mentions like a much better education, having so much extra time
       | with my children is a priceless gift that I wish we as a society
       | could give everyone.
       | 
       | Also its given me the chance to learn things that I missed during
       | my primary and secondary educations. Going through each proof in
       | Euclid's Elements again has been a lot of fun, and its been long
       | enough that I have forgotten most of them, so the thrill of
       | discovery is real for me too.
       | 
       | If you can make it work, you should make it work, even if that
       | means moving to a lower CoL area, there are a lot of small towns
       | in the US that have excellent amenities, and are great places to
       | raise a family.
        
         | kulahan wrote:
         | How do you make up for the resulting drop in interaction with
         | other kids? I had a boss who did this with his children as well
         | - it seemed as though his solution was to use PE credits to
         | have his kids attend sports with other kids.
        
           | dkhenry wrote:
           | My kids are part of a co-op where they meet once a week and
           | in this co-op they share some elements of their curriculum
           | with everyone else, they spend one day going over the weeks
           | assignments along with 8-10 classmates, and then during the
           | week they are at home doing their work. As they have aged
           | their school work now has a lot of collaborative elements, so
           | my oldest is actually meeting with kids from his co-op almost
           | daily to go over group projects and assignments.
           | 
           | Additionally they have a lot of extra curricular activities
           | they participate in ( sports, music, church youth group),
           | that also gives them a lot of socialization time with others.
        
             | kulahan wrote:
             | Sounds like a wonderful setup. Have the kids ever shown a
             | desire for public school? My brother is homeschooling his
             | kids to start, but the oldest just asked to start going to
             | public, so he sent her.
        
               | dkhenry wrote:
               | No, my wife and I discussed putting them into traditional
               | school as they got older, but now that they are older,
               | they have all strongly requested to remain in their
               | homeschool co-op. I think the biggest reason is they have
               | a good group of friends that they connect with, and have
               | been their class mates for multiple years. So there is a
               | strong desire to continue in the program with people they
               | know.
        
       | lapcat wrote:
       | > Recent estimates put the total homeschooling population at
       | about 6 percent of students across the United States, compared to
       | about 3 percent pre-pandemic.
       | 
       | One thing that concerns me about many pro-homeschooling comments
       | is a kind of tear-down-the-schools attitude, as if schools were
       | hopeless and irredeemable, despite the fact they're still
       | educating 94% of students even at today's elevated homeschooling
       | rate. Of course there are problems with schools, but on the other
       | hand there are countless success stories, or at least countless
       | non-failure stories, and educational outcomes tend to depend
       | crucially on local factors, the location of the school and its
       | socioeconomic environment.
       | 
       | I suspect that the vast majority of parents have neither the
       | desire nor the capability to homeschool their kids. I certainly
       | can't imagine my own parents doing it. In a sense, homeschooling
       | is a luxury of the few. The absolute numbers can increase, but I
       | don't think homeschooling can scale to the entire population. So
       | whatever problems may exist in the schools, we have to confront
       | and solve them, not just abandon them and pretend homeschooling
       | is a societal solution. You might claim that hundreds of years
       | ago, everyone was homeschooled, but I don't want to turn back the
       | societal clock hundreds of years.
       | 
       | Another concern I have is the religious and/or political
       | motivation of many homeschoolers. If homeschooling were _just_
       | about educational outcomes for children, then we shouldn 't
       | expect homeschoolers to be disproportionately conservative in
       | religious and/or political beliefs, yet my impression is that
       | they are. It's certainly suspicious to me. And though I've had no
       | involvement with K-12 education since I was in school myself,
       | I've had a lot of involvement in higher education, first as an
       | undergrad, then as a PhD student and lecturer. Frankly, the
       | horror stories and conspiracy theories about left-wing
       | indoctrination at universities are ridiculous and not based on
       | fact or experience. So I'm quite skeptical of similar claims
       | about K-12, especially since I saw none of that in my own
       | childhood. (I recall being forced to say the Pledge of Allegiance
       | every day, for all the good that did.) There's a type of person
       | who's set off if you say "Happy Holidays" instead of "Merry
       | Christmas" and consider that to be an act of war against them.
       | There are still a lot of parents in the United States who reject
       | biological evolution and would prefer that it not be taught in
       | schools at all, or at least to be taught as "controversial."
        
         | account1984 wrote:
         | I hear your viewpoint, but parents do have a right to teach
         | their religious beliefs to their children. There is no law or
         | social imperative that children must be taught a secular view
         | point. At the end of the day, there are over 7 billion people
         | in the world, it's okay if some of them believe differently.
         | Honestly, I am more concerned that in the last 20 years we've
         | progressed to the point where secularism has for some become as
         | militantly evangelized as any religion. It has become a belief
         | system of it's own, and I for one fear the coming crusades :)
         | 
         | I say live and let live, parents should be free to teach their
         | kids whatever belief system they want without political
         | interference. Much to the dismay of the left (and I say this,
         | being a left leaning moderate... I know, bad word today), kids
         | are not the communities children, they are their parents
         | children, full stop. The shift towards enforced collectivism,
         | away from individualism, is only putting fuel to the fire in
         | this surge in global fascism. At the risk of sounding too
         | kumbaya'ish, we all just need to accept each other and
         | recognize the real enemies to society is a global loss of
         | empathy and the rise of transactionalism. Now that is something
         | I could really get behind, forced empathy courses! :)
        
           | lapcat wrote:
           | > I hear your viewpoint, but parents do have a right to teach
           | their religious beliefs to their children.
           | 
           | I didn't claim that they don't have a right. I just claimed
           | to be skeptical of the idea that the primary motivation for
           | homeschooling was educational outcomes rather than
           | ideological outcomes.
           | 
           | > At the end of the day, there are over 7 billion people in
           | the world, it's okay if some of them believe differently.
           | 
           | If only they believed differently. ;-) It's no coincidence
           | that children tend to adopt the same beliefs as their
           | parents, no matter the country or region.
           | 
           | > I am more concerned that in the last 20 years we've
           | progressed to the point where secularism has for some become
           | as militantly evangelized as any religion.
           | 
           | The last 20 years? The First Amendment of the US Constitution
           | begins, "Congress shall make no law respecting an
           | establishment of religion". The principle of separation of
           | church and state is more than 200 years old.
           | 
           | > kids are not the communities children, they are their
           | parents children
           | 
           | I don't know what label you'd want to put on me, but I would
           | say that kids do not belong to anyone. I find the notion of
           | ownership to be noxious, practically slavery. We have a
           | responsibility to take care of those who cannot take care of
           | themselves (yet), but that doesn't mean children are simply
           | the personal property and playthings of the parents. I think
           | it's a disservice to a child to place them in a bubble and
           | shield them from anything the parents don't happen to like.
           | 
           | > The shift towards enforced collectivism, away from
           | individualism
           | 
           | "they are their parents children" is not individualism, or
           | certainly not individualism from the child's perspective.
           | 
           | Morover, from what I've seen and heard from homeschoolers
           | themselves, they do tend to form, or indeed come from,
           | specific communitites, and are not simply "lone wolf"
           | homeschooling parents.
        
       | rossdavidh wrote:
       | My daughter is in college now, but we used a variety of private,
       | part-time, and homeschooling approaches prior to that. One thing
       | is that there are a lot of resources (e.g. independent teachers
       | for subjects you don't know, co-ops for socializing, etc.), and
       | the more people are doing it, the more true that becomes. My
       | parents were both public school teachers, and yet we found
       | ourselves home- and alternative-schooling our daughter. Public
       | schools don't really seem to have a strategy for dealing with the
       | situation, other than complaining about it.
       | 
       | If you are offering a free service, that is quite time-intensive,
       | and increasing numbers of people choose to not use it, then there
       | should be more introspection going on. If it's happening in
       | public education, I'm not able to see evidence of it.
        
         | Izikiel43 wrote:
         | Seattle schools have that issue. After covid a bunch of kids
         | were moved to private schools, and SPS (the organism in charge
         | of school) complained and blamed parents on having money and
         | not wanting to mix with the riff raff and other bs. When they
         | actually asked the parents why their children weren't returning
         | after covid, it was because SPS decided to axe the
         | advance/gifted programs they had for kids, among other
         | educational quality things. The children that never came back
         | were children who would have taken advantage of those programs,
         | and parents decided to go pay to win instead to get those
         | programs back in private schools, as it becomes a compounding
         | advantage in today's competitive world. SPS is still using the
         | stupid hippie approach about children magically learning how to
         | read with pictures and guesses, instead of phonics, and some
         | numbers for reading are worst than Mississippi, which went hard
         | into phonics and overwhelmingly improved their numbers. WA is a
         | clear example that spending a ton of money doesn't improve
         | educational outcomes, you also have to do things that work.
        
           | ahmeneeroe-v2 wrote:
           | This is exactly right. I had a kid in Seattle schools during
           | this time and this is exactly how I saw it happen and and
           | Seattle schools were a major reason I left Seattle.
        
             | ryandrake wrote:
             | This might have been our experience from our bubble, but
             | are these examples representative of the overall pattern? I
             | suspect for every 1 kid pulled out of public school because
             | of academic reasons like gifted programs, there are 10
             | pulled out due to religious reasons or vaccines or the
             | gamut of anti-government reasons.
        
               | ahmeneeroe-v2 wrote:
               | People are allowed to pull their kids out for religious
               | reasons.
        
               | ryandrake wrote:
               | Nobody's saying they shouldn't be allowed to. We're just
               | speculating about the reasons and I don't know if there's
               | really any hard data showing which reasons are more
               | prevalent.
        
           | adamredwoods wrote:
           | This is why I didn't move back to Seattle, but stayed in the
           | nearby communities.
        
           | bluesummers5651 wrote:
           | I feel this pain. I grew up in what I thought were great
           | public schools and am a big believer that public school is a
           | fundamental institution that should raise the floor for
           | society. Now I'm raising kids in Seattle and it's a constant
           | struggle to get the kinds of educational programs and
           | opportunities for my kids that I took for granted when I was
           | in public school and just assumed would still be around when
           | I was an adult. For lack of a better way to phrase it, I feel
           | like I am exactly the kind of parent SPS _should_ want to
           | keep in its system - a strong believer in public education
           | with the means to support the schools, yet sometimes I feel
           | like they are actively driving families like mine out of
           | school system with their decisions.
        
         | rootusrootus wrote:
         | > then there should be more introspection going on
         | 
         | This assumes that the blame obviously lies with the schools.
         | Basically everyone I know that homeschools does it because they
         | disapprove of tolerance. Should the introspection lead schools
         | to embrace segregation again? It is going to be hard to bring
         | people with such wildly different viewpoints together in
         | harmony.
        
       | dclaw wrote:
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Generation_Joshua
        
       | kylehotchkiss wrote:
       | I can't say my public school experience was great, I was bullied
       | and didn't really click with the popular kids, but being around a
       | cross section of actual American kids in my age group (my school
       | district mixed middle class with lower class neighborhoods)
       | helped me shape my worldview and learn to deal with people who
       | didn't look or talk like me. I frequently saw fights, so I
       | learned that you just stay away and watch your mouth around
       | specific people. I learned that the BS American value of
       | "popularity" doesn't translate into successful futures.
       | 
       | I worry this move to homeschooling and micromanaging children's
       | social lives just creates bubbles and makes children incapable of
       | interacting with those outside of them.
        
         | gred wrote:
         | > I learned that the BS American value of "popularity" doesn't
         | translate into successful futures.
         | 
         | Popularity is not an exclusively American concept. Just as
         | public school broadened your horizons, so will traveling (or
         | living) abroad.
        
           | zdragnar wrote:
           | Too many CO2 emissions for that to be practical for the
           | billions of people who don't have public transit access to
           | another nation.
        
             | beeflet wrote:
             | not if you send em by boat
        
         | Redster wrote:
         | The positives you experienced are very possible for a
         | homeschooled student as well, and this seems to be a common
         | boogieman. Other factors seem to play a much larger factor in
         | the things you are (rightfully!) concerned about. As long as
         | the parents have "the will to have nice things" (to refer to
         | Patrick McKenzie's concept), then these are very surmountable
         | problems.
         | 
         | Respectfully, A grateful dad who was homeschooled and who will
         | homeschool.
         | 
         | P.S. Of course I will do some things differently than my
         | parents, but it was an amazing gift and I had an extremely
         | vibrant and stimulating time, including with peers (and
         | adults!) outside of my parents' network who pushed me,
         | challenged me, thought very differently than me, etc.
        
           | valar_m wrote:
           | >The positives you experienced are very possible for a
           | homeschooled student as well, and this seems to be a common
           | boogieman.
           | 
           | How do you do that? Seems like it would be impossible to
           | replicate the experience of learning to navigate daily social
           | interactions in a mixed group of people, especially when it
           | comes to dealing with conflict.
        
             | simeonf wrote:
             | Easy - homeschooling may include but does not require "in
             | the home" any more than "homework" is required to be done
             | in your house.
             | 
             | I was homeschooled and have homeschooled my three kids.
             | Never has that meant "only at home and only with my
             | family". My kids have been in co-op classes, taken classes
             | from Art or Technical instruction centers (piano lessons,
             | voice classes, programming, robotics), enrolled in
             | community classes via private institutions and the local JC
             | (cooking classes, performing arts) and been enrolled in
             | independent study charter public schools which have some
             | in-person classes. And in high school they start taking in-
             | person JC courses.
             | 
             | There is lots of regular exposure to a variety of other
             | people in all of that!
        
               | lazyasciiart wrote:
               | Just redefine homeschooling to include enrollment at
               | schools and community colleges, tada.
        
         | swannodette wrote:
         | If you can afford it! "Grass-roots segregation hits records
         | numbers" would be an equally fitting title.
        
           | nlavezzo wrote:
           | What leads you to believe the reason parents are willing to
           | dedicate huge amounts of their time and money to homeschool
           | their children is racism?
           | 
           | Maybe it's:                 - the terrible educational state
           | of the school system?            - the fact that device and
           | social media addiction is a prevalent and growing problem
           | that they don't want their kids brains rotted by?
           | - they want to provide their kids an education based on
           | experiential and project based learning rather than filling
           | out worksheets?             - they don't want their kids to
           | be forced to wait for the slowest / least interested kids in
           | class to catch up before moving on to more challenging
           | material?
        
             | verdverm wrote:
             | Are they going to spend huge amounts of time & money?
             | 
             | I'd be willing to bet that we'll hear some stories about
             | how they outsourced the effort to AI
        
             | 7thaccount wrote:
             | Not sure why you're being down voted. I'm sure there are
             | some folks homeschooling because of things like racism, but
             | that has always existed just like evangelical christians
             | have always been big into homeschooling.
             | 
             | If there is a big uptake, it's likely due to the ever
             | present threat of school shootings coupled with all the
             | things you said above. I have to teach my kid a lot outside
             | of school and they go to what is considered a good one. The
             | only reason I send them is my spouse and I work and my kid
             | needs to learn social skills. If I won the lottery, I'd
             | homeschool them myself and do it for a few other families
             | as well so that my kid can get the social aspect too.
        
             | sevensor wrote:
             | I'm sure these motivations do play out in some circles.
             | However, every single homeschooler I know personally, and I
             | know quite a few, does so because they want their children
             | to have a very specific kind of religious education. Often
             | the way this plays out is that they homeschool for a while,
             | transition to a denominational school, and then depending
             | on the family they may stay there or make a second
             | transition to public school around 9th grade.
             | 
             | I think this tendency is heavily dependent on where you
             | live. We have great public schools that will track advanced
             | children aggressively if the parents push for it, so the
             | motivations you list are unusual in my area.
        
               | BrenBarn wrote:
               | Religion is definitely a big motivator. My perception
               | though is other motivations have been on the increase,
               | especially since the pandemic. One other group attracted
               | to homeschooling is the hippie-type who thinks school is
               | some kind of diabolical machine designed to crush kids'
               | souls. Since the pandemic there's also been a big surge
               | in the "I don't trust vaccines" group (which already had
               | a good deal of overlap with the hippie group).
        
               | ryandrake wrote:
               | I have a feeling a really large percentage of
               | homeschooling is about religious separatism and political
               | separatism, and not about academic performance. Yes,
               | you'll hear HN commenters sing the praises of
               | homeschooling because this site is going to be
               | disproportionately represented by the group doing it for
               | actual educational reasons.
        
               | BrenBarn wrote:
               | That may be so, especially if you add a sort of "cultural
               | separatism" (a la the hippies I mentioned). An odd thing
               | I see recently too is people who seem to believe they're
               | making various choices for educational reasons, but it's
               | not clear if the education they're moving to is any
               | better. They just do it because they perceive their child
               | as being unhappy or stifled somehow. There seem to be,
               | for instance, more and more parents who believe their kid
               | is unusually smart and should be on some kind of fast
               | track or not have to do certain things, even when there's
               | little objective evidence of the kid's abilities.
        
               | ryandrake wrote:
               | Vague "educational reasons" is always the noble-sounding
               | excuse they use, but often if you dig deeper they'll
               | admit it's more about the various forms of separatism.
               | 
               | Sometimes you don't have to dig. A ton of moms in my
               | wife's church group permanently pulled their kids out of
               | public school in recent years, and they will openly admit
               | that it's about keeping their kids away from "those"
               | people, where the definition of "those" runs the gamut.
        
               | cosmic_cheese wrote:
               | Both were certainly major motivating factors for my
               | parents' choice to homeschool me in the 90s. Quality of
               | education was a concern too, but it very much took a back
               | seat to the other two.
               | 
               | The overwhelming majority of other homeschooling parents
               | they had contact with also held separatist motivations.
        
               | jandrese wrote:
               | We did the homeschool thing for one year after most kids
               | went back to school after COVID. My wife has underlying
               | medical conditions that made her quite concerned about
               | catching it before the vaccine rollout. We did a few of
               | the homeschool group organized field trips and I got to
               | briefly meet some of the parents. Overall I can't say
               | much about the kids, they seemed fine. The parents were
               | friendly, but when I asked about the curriculum they
               | almost invariably suggested PragerU material, which makes
               | me concerned for their children's future.
        
             | 5upplied_demand wrote:
             | It's insightful how they said segregation and financial
             | means and you immediately went to racism.
             | 
             | There is certainly some level of segregating the children
             | from families who have the means to "dedicate huge amounts
             | of their time and money to homeschool their children" and
             | children from families that don't have those means.
        
               | totallykvothe wrote:
               | You can't use the word segregation wrt people and then
               | pretend it's surprising or unreasonable when someone
               | assumes you're talking about racism.
        
             | vel0city wrote:
             | > What leads you to believe the reason parents are willing
             | to dedicate huge amounts of their time and money to
             | homeschool their children is racism?
             | 
             | A lot of the people I know who do homeschool (the extreme
             | majority of families I know) have openly said the reasons
             | why they're choosing to homeschool is because they don't
             | want their kids exposed to the other "cultures" in their
             | area whether that be immigrants, other religions, or LGBT
             | people.
             | 
             | One family I know was thinking about pulling their kids out
             | of public school because the choir was going to sing
             | "Dreidel, Dreidel, Dreidel" and was worried this was
             | indoctrinating their child into another religion. Forget
             | the fact the rest of that holiday choir event was filled
             | with Christian holiday tunes and what that means for the
             | non-Christians that have a right to go to the school, that
             | wasn't a concern at all.
             | 
             | Not all families, I agree. I've known a few outliers who
             | actually are exceptional teachers and think they'll do a
             | better job teaching the kids than the local schools (and
             | they're probably right). But they're definitely the
             | outliers around me. Most that I've personally known are not
             | like that, and rely on just giving their kids workbooks
             | with extreme religious bent to figure things out on their
             | own.
        
         | noboostforyou wrote:
         | As the parent of a small child, there is a very noticeable
         | difference in social skills that develop immediately as a
         | result of my child being in a daycare interacting with other
         | children of a similar age. Compared to my friends' same age
         | children who are mostly staying at home and babysat by a
         | grandparent.
         | 
         | (as a disclaimer, the daycare has very good teachers/caregivers
         | from what I can tell so I'm sure that's part of it as well)
        
           | mtrovo wrote:
           | Daycare quality is a spectrum, the same way as babysitting at
           | home. My smaller one just started daycare, and we settled for
           | one that actually does stuff with the kids (forest school
           | style). But I can tell you, we've visited lots of places that
           | are basically just making sure the kids are not dead by the
           | time you pick them up. Same for babysitting with
           | grandparents; there's the hyper-social grandpa style that's
           | always doing something, and the couchpotato with +10k hours
           | on Cocomelon.
        
             | noboostforyou wrote:
             | Yes, I'll admit that my sample size for comparison is
             | relatively small so I'm mostly offering anecdotal evidence.
             | And I totally agree on the quality of daycares being a
             | spectrum. Just like how one single, good teacher who
             | actually cares can really change a student's school
             | experience (even if the school itself is not that great).
        
           | mordnis wrote:
           | In my opinion, grandparents are the worst. They completely
           | spoil them.
        
             | Tade0 wrote:
             | Or have bad habits like playing shovelware games on their
             | phones.
        
         | ahmeneeroe-v2 wrote:
         | >cross section of actual American kids
         | 
         | So many factors have led this to be a major liability for young
         | people now. School is not what it was 20 years ago.
        
         | ecshafer wrote:
         | My kids are not school age yet, and I am not sure on if I will
         | home school or not. But I do think its possible to get good
         | socialization exposure while homeschooling. There is the
         | neighborhood kids, you have sports and clubs kids can join,
         | religious groups.
         | 
         | Plus not all homeschooling is just a student staying at home
         | all day. Some people "homeschooling" I know are groups of
         | parents getting together to educate their children together in
         | small groups of ~5 kids to share the responsibility, and hiring
         | a tutor to fill in the gaps. Monday they go John's house, his
         | mom has a philosophy degree and teaches them. tuesday they go
         | to Janes house, her dad is a Mathematician and teaches them.
         | etc.
        
           | skeeter2020 wrote:
           | It's going to depend greatly on your geo location and
           | socioeconomic circumstances, but a homeschooled kid who
           | interacts a lot in the neighbourhood (big "if", IME; those
           | kids all have a lot of school friends) is still going to miss
           | out on broader social, cultural, racial and financial
           | exposure. Example: my white, middle-class kids have a lot of
           | people exactly like them in community groups and sports
           | clubs, but lots of eastern european & asian immigrants in
           | their school classes. This is super-important in elementary
           | school when they're far less aware and insular about
           | interacting with people who are "different" IMO
        
           | andyjohnson0 wrote:
           | Having a degree in philosophy or mathematics or whatever does
           | not automatically make someone a good teacher. Teaching -
           | particularly with young children - is a skill that is almost
           | orthogonal to subject knowledge.
        
             | hombre_fatal wrote:
             | I think what makes you a good teacher is mostly a
             | personality trait.
             | 
             | Prior knowledge of the subject is just a cherry on top.
        
           | sejje wrote:
           | I used to work at a YMCA, and the local homeschool group
           | asked us to do a PE class, which I taught.
           | 
           | I had the kids doing swimming, rock climbing, and all kinds
           | of traditional PE games.
           | 
           | I worked with "normal" kids most of the time, and I will say
           | the homeschool kids stuck out. They're more awkward around
           | kids their age, but far less awkward around adults. They know
           | how to speak and act, in large part. And they were
           | disproportionately ahead of their peers academically--though
           | I think that's probably a selection bias for the parents
           | seeking out homeschool PE classes.
           | 
           | This was in the early 2000s, before Facebook. I'm sure the
           | avenues to connect have only grown with social media.
        
           | wildzzz wrote:
           | You don't need a degree in math to teach children age-
           | appropriate math topics. Teachers don't become teachers just
           | because they have a degree in that subject, they have been
           | taught the methods on how to teach. Having prior knowledge of
           | the subject is almost irrelevant. Teaching is really just
           | applying solid methods on how to build knowledge from the
           | most basic concepts as well as having the patience in dealing
           | with humans who are not fully formed in their emotions.
        
           | TaupeRanger wrote:
           | 15+ years ago, that might have been the case. Now, you might
           | find some friends in the 3-8 year old range, but then the
           | kids just...don't do things anymore. In both suburban
           | neighborhoods I've lived in the past 10 years, there are
           | basically zero middle school or high school kids doing
           | anything except playing video games and messing around on
           | their phones from the comfort of home. School is quite
           | literally the only social interaction most of these kids get
           | aside from their parents, and if they didn't go to school,
           | they'd just spend more time playing video games or on their
           | phones.
           | 
           | Outside of the coasts or university towns, there aren't any
           | "mathematicians" with kids just waiting around to form
           | homeschooling groups with you.
        
             | Telemakhos wrote:
             | My cousin homeschooled her kids, who are now finished with
             | college. I know they're capable of using phones (one's a
             | programmer), but I've never seen them pull one out. They're
             | social and love playing board games, and I suspect that
             | comes from their parents. They also socialized with other
             | homeschooled kids, because they were part of lots of
             | homeschooling groups.
             | 
             | The kids in public school are there by default; the
             | homeschooling parents are actively choosing to raise their
             | kids differently, and, from what I've seen, they're more
             | likely to interact with their kids instead of letting them
             | go terminally online or play video games.
        
           | drivebyhooting wrote:
           | John Jane Mary set up is incredibly idealized. In a big city
           | I have not been able to find anyone willing to commit to
           | anything except one off play dates in a museum which has
           | nothing to do with actual education.
        
           | bena wrote:
           | It sounds like school with extra steps.
        
             | lazyasciiart wrote:
             | And control over who else is in it.
        
           | MarkMarine wrote:
           | There is no such thing as "the neighborhood kids" anymore.
           | Having any kind of social circle for your children is going
           | to require your facilitation and effort... a lot of it. It'll
           | be extra hard without the common bond of shared activity.
           | 
           | Not knocking what sounds like your choice to homeschool, just
           | sharing something that has changed from my youth.
        
         | j45 wrote:
         | There is some realy valid things to consider here.
         | 
         | The thing it leaves me wondering is how many kids from
         | elementary through high school a child really keeps in touch
         | with, and if college is currently the place where many students
         | finally get to start to be themselves.
        
         | usefulcat wrote:
         | There are certainly tradeoffs, but it's not all negative. In my
         | experience, what it boils down to is that home-schooled kids
         | tend to have more experience with adults and less experience
         | dealing with a wide variety of other kids, particularly
         | assholes.
         | 
         | When I was a kid in public school, there was no shortage of
         | assholes and I definitely would have preferred to not have to
         | deal with them. OTOH, I don't doubt that there is also some
         | value in that experience, not to mention interacting with all
         | the other people. Also, we didn't have social media or semi-
         | regular school shootings when I was a kid. So yeah.. to me,
         | it's not at all obvious which set of tradeoffs is preferable
         | nowadays.
        
           | BobaFloutist wrote:
           | You're forgetting that public school also exposes you to more
           | adult assholes, including ones with direct power over you
           | that can screw you over for no reason.
           | 
           | It's important to know how and when to advocate for yourself
           | and others, when to escalate through proper channels and when
           | to escalate outside of proper channels, and when to back down
           | and let them be an asshole because they're frankly not worth
           | your time.
        
           | ghssds wrote:
           | What happens to asshole kids? Do they become regular adults
           | or asshole adults? Do they become soldiers or prisonners
           | never to be seen again by normies? Do they even reach
           | adulthood? Are they even a stable group or were we all
           | asshole kids to some other kids?
        
             | ksclarke wrote:
             | Some become President of the United States. Others probably
             | grow out of it?
        
             | kylehotchkiss wrote:
             | I think it's an important development milestone to learn
             | that people don't want to be their friends, and the longing
             | for human connection might be a good moderating force in
             | their life. I was a really pessimistic teenager, which I
             | received plenty of feedback on, and have worked against my
             | own nature to become a more positive and cheery adult.
        
               | arevno wrote:
               | This is a strange claim.
               | 
               | In my personal experience, the asshole kids overlapped
               | greatly with the popular kids in a Venn diagram sense.
               | People, in general, _did_ want to be their friends.
        
             | Matticus_Rex wrote:
             | Looking back at the assholes of my youth, they run the
             | gamut. Some seem like lovely adults, and are very
             | successful. Some are just like they were and are very
             | successful. Some others crashed out completely. The more
             | brash, upfront assholes and the clever assholes seem to
             | have done better than the sneering, malicious assholes.
             | 
             | And we were (almost) all assholes sometimes, but there's
             | definitely a class of kids who were assholes most of the
             | time.
        
             | usefulcat wrote:
             | Dunno, maybe all of the above? Believe it or not, I didn't
             | really keep in touch with them.
             | 
             | My point was that kids are disproportionately likely to
             | treat other kids badly, especially when adults aren't
             | around. That kind of situation is common at school, but
             | much less common at home, unless the parents choose to
             | allow it.
        
         | OneLeggedCat wrote:
         | In the rural areas that I've lived in, it's mostly about a
         | strong desire to supplant science and history with religious
         | ideas and principles.
        
           | satvikpendem wrote:
           | That is exactly what I've seen, to keep kids in their
           | brainwashing bubble.
        
             | TaupeRanger wrote:
             | Where I live in the Midwest that is absolutely the case.
             | The homeschool "groups" are almost all religiously oriented
             | in some way.
        
           | alphazard wrote:
           | I hear this a lot, and it may be true, but I am very
           | skeptical that it matters. The statistics about home-schooled
           | children don't support the idea that they have horribly
           | inaccurate models of the world guided mostly by religious
           | thinking. Or if they do it doesn't seem to affect life
           | achievement in any important way. Instead home-schooled
           | children are typically more advanced at graduation and have
           | higher lifetime achievement metrics than their public school
           | counterparts.
           | 
           | As an athiest, and a bayesian, it's difficult for me to worry
           | about other peoples religious beliefs that don't seem to
           | negatively affect them or me. Especially when there is
           | propaganda taught in the public schools that does warp the
           | students' world views in ways that harms them and me.
        
           | TheGRS wrote:
           | That has been the case for a long time, and I guess something
           | about the current generation of parents has gotten them to
           | act more on it. My dad came from a very religious family and
           | they all did private religious schools for their early grade
           | school years. Then they went to public for high school years.
           | 
           | If I had to guess, its maybe something about the demise of
           | church life that has gotten religious parents to just pull
           | back entirely. It wasn't that uncommon for public schools to
           | make nods toward Christian ideals/lifestyles before like the
           | 90s, but now that stuff just doesn't happen anymore.
        
         | alphazard wrote:
         | > I worry this move to homeschooling and micromanaging
         | children's social lives just creates bubbles and makes children
         | incapable of interacting with those outside of them.
         | 
         | The older I get, the more I think that helping your kids avoid
         | interactions with others who aren't _with the program_ is for
         | the best. Ideally your children 's friends should be people
         | that you think are good kids, kids that you would go to bat
         | for. Then when you are teaching your kids to compromise and
         | play nice and forgive, you can legitimately feel good about it.
         | I think my default assumption about a negative interaction with
         | a public school random would be that they are basically a wild
         | animal to be avoided.
        
         | jfreds wrote:
         | I was homeschooled until high school. I couldn't agree with you
         | more. The value that the socialization the public school offers
         | is underestimated.
         | 
         | Learning activities with other homeschooled kids is ok but not
         | enough. A tight-knit neighborhood of friends is huge, but not
         | enough. You need to develop a thick skin and a sense of self-
         | assurance.
         | 
         | I have no counterfactual of course, but I think much of the
         | social anxiety I've had to unlearn as a young adult came from
         | homeschooling. And I had great circumstances
        
           | pyuser583 wrote:
           | I was horribly bullied in high school. It was really bad.
           | 
           | The worst part was being ostracized. The school had anti-
           | bullying policies, but they don't force anyone to be your
           | friend.
           | 
           | Strangely, I was elected to lots of student government
           | office, and held leadership in lots of clubs.
           | 
           | Maybe my memory is just off, but I don't think so.
           | 
           | I think I was really good connecting with the grownups who
           | ran the school, so they made sure I got leadership positions.
           | 
           | I was always much better at being the kid in class the
           | teacher liked - same with principals, etc.
           | 
           | Probably one of the reasons the other kids didn't like me -
           | but that went over my head.
           | 
           | I think it's really easy to overestimate how important the
           | socialization in public schools is. We go to so many movies
           | where the plot is based on the dynamics of public high
           | school, we assume it's normal.
           | 
           | We see so much of terrible stuff downplaid like it doesn't
           | matter. Just rewatched Back to the Future which laughingly
           | brushes off every kind of violence as long as it's done at
           | the prom.
        
           | cosmic_cheese wrote:
           | As someone else who was homeschooled except the last three
           | grades, I also agree. Additionally, the effect is multiplied
           | if the kid in question lives in a rural or semi-rural area
           | rather than a suburb or city.
           | 
           | For the majority of my adult life I've been playing catchup.
           | Even now, barreling towards 40, there's aspects of social
           | interaction where I come up quite short relative to my peers.
           | 
           | If I'm ever to be a parent, I won't homeschool. Depending the
           | circumstances I might not send my kids to public school, but
           | their schooling situation will at minimum involve social
           | exposure comparable to that of public school.
        
           | DennisP wrote:
           | And I've always felt that most of my social anxiety came from
           | public school. Maybe we were both just prone to it.
           | 
           | (I unlearned it too, but it took quite a while.)
        
         | inetknght wrote:
         | > _I frequently saw fights, so I learned that you just stay
         | away and watch your mouth around specific people._
         | 
         | Unfortunately this encourages people to have a blind eye
         | regarding bullying.
         | 
         | I would be much more happy if more people intervened against
         | bullies and liars. Maybe we'd have better people in politics
         | today if 40 years ago schools punished bullies and liars and
         | sent them to have their behavioral problems addressed.
        
         | DennisP wrote:
         | Paul Graham pointed out that public school is a weird and
         | degenerate microcosm that isn't much like the real social world
         | at all.
         | 
         | > I think the important thing about the real world is not that
         | it's populated by adults, but that it's very large, and the
         | things you do have real effects. That's what school, prison,
         | and ladies-who-lunch all lack. The inhabitants of all those
         | worlds are trapped in little bubbles where nothing they do can
         | have more than a local effect. Naturally these societies
         | degenerate into savagery. They have no function for their form
         | to follow.
         | 
         | > When the things you do have real effects, it's no longer
         | enough just to be pleasing. It starts to be important to get
         | the right answers, and that's where nerds show to advantage.
         | 
         | > ...If I could go back and give my thirteen year old self some
         | advice, the main thing I'd tell him would be to stick his head
         | up and look around. I didn't really grasp it at the time, but
         | the whole world we lived in was as fake as a Twinkie...Life in
         | this twisted world is stressful for the kids. And not just for
         | the nerds. Like any war, it's damaging even to the winners.
         | 
         | https://paulgraham.com/nerds.html?viewfullsite=1
        
         | perrygeo wrote:
         | Fully agree. The foundation of education is learning how the
         | world actually is, not how we wish it would be.
        
       | homeonthemtn wrote:
       | Buddy of mine put it really well:
       | 
       | "I got to spend time with my kids when they still wanted to spend
       | time with me. Now as teenagers in no longer cool, but that's ok.
       | I got my time with them and that makes me happy"
        
       | GaryBluto wrote:
       | Nice to see Reason posted here.
        
       | righthand wrote:
       | NY state just signed a bill to include ChatGPT in their learning
       | and planning. Previously there were deals to bring in Google
       | hardware for students.
       | 
       | Of course people are fleeing public schooling when we're selling
       | the kids to big tech for laptops and services that require
       | network connection to write a word document, enable cheating, and
       | their data sold for profit without consent.
        
         | jimmar wrote:
         | People might be fleeing public schooling because lawmakers are
         | dictating what happens in the classroom. There are lots of good
         | teachers who struggle with the resources given to them and the
         | constraints imposed on them.
         | 
         | At home, parents can be flexible. They can let their kids use
         | AI when appropriate or discourage its use. They don't have to
         | wait for legislators to get involved. If there is a great math
         | book, parents can just buy it instead of waiting for some
         | committee to evaluate it.
        
           | righthand wrote:
           | > If there is a great math book, parents can just buy it
           | 
           | How do you know if the math book is great if there hasn't
           | been consensus about it. The problem isn't the committee that
           | will always be there in some form. The problem is the
           | politics the committee is used for. If the committee were to
           | prioritize and offload their specific requirements for review
           | instead of requiring substantial analysis twice then the
           | school system would be just as quick.
        
       | dmje wrote:
       | Obviously there is some serious nuance here - there are of course
       | edge cases and serious reasons for considering home schooling.
       | 
       | But as a general principle, encouraging kids further and further
       | out of (group) human contact seems like an obviously terrible
       | idea to me. We're already doing it with (lack of) play spaces,
       | "no ball games", insane screen times (which equates to less
       | "real" face to face time) amongst teens, awkward kids who can't
       | even engage with a stranger under any circumstances - and
       | meanwhile isolation and loneliness is on the increase, fear
       | continues to rise about even letting your kid walk down the
       | street to the shops, etc...
       | 
       | School is hard, as are parts of life. It's uncomfortable, it's
       | difficult, it's not always what you want it to be, you get
       | shouted at sometimes and big kids get their way and you don't get
       | asked on the football team. Honestly, and sorry, but - a big part
       | of growing up is learning how to deal with things. If kids don't,
       | and you as a parent don't help them deal with the bumps, you and
       | they will be building unrealistic expectations about how good
       | this life is going to be, and they'll spend all their time sad or
       | "triggered" or afraid, or isolated, or unable to join in. They'll
       | get more scared, more isolated, more depressed. This is not what
       | any parent wants.
       | 
       | This - of course and x1000 - need to be done with massive
       | quantities of love and compassion. This isn't some Victorian
       | hellscape I'm advocating here. Real bullying is real. Sometimes
       | adults need to weigh in. Kids will find school hard.
       | 
       | But loving your kids is NOT giving them everything they want.
       | It's teaching them how to navigate things that are difficult and
       | awkward and - ultimately - helping them become robust adults.
        
         | iambateman wrote:
         | I was homeschooled and my son is homeschooled.
         | 
         | I disagree with your premise that homeschooling pushes kids out
         | of group human contact. People who attend public school often
         | assume that kids who attend homeschool literally sit at home
         | all day...which is just not...real?
        
           | snerbles wrote:
           | It was the predominant notion when I was a homeschooled kid
           | 30 years ago, and for most of them there is no argument or
           | evidence that will convince them otherwise.
           | 
           | State-run education is their orthodoxy, and anything that
           | challenges that is tantamount to heresy.
        
         | ecshafer wrote:
         | The most common form of homeschooling is, I believe, in the
         | form of co-ops. Where groups of parents get their kids together
         | in class room like settings to teach them together. They don't
         | go to school, they might meet at a church, or library or a
         | home, but they are socializing. I know people who homeschool
         | and between church, youth fellowship, co-op classes, fencing,
         | swimming, basketball, neighborhood kids, family, etc. they have
         | extremely active social lives.
        
       | hereme888 wrote:
       | The biggest misunderstanding I hear year-over-year is
       | homeschoolers are "not exposed to the real world". Isolation
       | exists for some, but my extensive interaction with homeschoolers
       | is they are immersed in healthy communities, hand-picked by
       | parents to keep away problem children. Who would plant a flower
       | next to a sick or hostile one? Parents of healthy children should
       | give 0 s*ts of societal/political pressure against this concept.
       | Your kids are a bad influence for whatever reason? Not my problem
       | to fix.
       | 
       | Homeschoolers are some of the most resilient and well-behaved
       | people I know.
       | 
       | Modern academic life is only well suited to a small percent of
       | the population. Those children who are truly happy and excelling
       | in that setting.
       | 
       | So much time and resources, to produce what exactly? A piece of
       | paper and fancy picture to stare at? Forced mass education was a
       | good idea for developing societies, but personalized education
       | has been possible for at least a decade now, at a fraction of the
       | cost. And to add insult to injury, there's an increasing torrent
       | of deranged ideologies teachers and professors share with
       | students.
       | 
       | Here's a famous song on the topic for those who know how to "chew
       | the meat from the cud":
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8xe6nLVXEC0&list=RD8xe6nLVXE...
       | 
       | * It's fascinating to watch the points on my comment go up and
       | down a ton. Very controversial issue. I believe it highlights
       | pressure from social and political structures in society, and/or
       | personal experiences. They vary so much.
        
         | meheleventyone wrote:
         | I mean you're literally explaining how your home schooled kids
         | are separated from the real world.
        
           | hereme888 wrote:
           | Define "real world".
        
             | meheleventyone wrote:
             | The one that exists with problem children and opinions you
             | don't like.
             | 
             | As a parent I get the impulse to remove my children from
             | any potential harm but the real world has sharp edges. They
             | need to be confident in that world not just smothered.
             | 
             | And really as the person who used the term it's really up
             | to you to define what you mean.
        
               | seneca wrote:
               | > The one that exists with problem children and opinions
               | you don't like.
               | 
               | That's just not true though. Your job isn't going to
               | force you to interact with people who disrupt the
               | environment constantly. Those people are fired and
               | removed from the group.
        
               | meheleventyone wrote:
               | My job isn't the totality of my life and you have very
               | strange ideas about how quickly disruptive people
               | actually get fired. You get plenty of unfiltered
               | interaction in life. If anything I'd say the sort of
               | thing you describe sounds more like an insular cult.
               | Although even there you get misanthropic people, abuse
               | and so on.
        
               | seneca wrote:
               | > My job isn't the totality of my life and you have very
               | strange ideas about how quickly disruptive people
               | actually get fired. You get plenty of unfiltered
               | interaction in life.
               | 
               | In what environment are you, as an adult, forced to
               | interact with everyone who happens to show up? The only
               | instances I can think of are other government-run
               | institutions like the military or prison, and I don't
               | think anyone would argue those are standard modes of
               | "real life".
               | 
               | > If anything I'd say the sort of thing you describe
               | sounds more like an insular cult.
               | 
               | Name calling isn't an argument.
        
               | meheleventyone wrote:
               | Anywhere you happen to be in public essentially.
               | 
               | I also didn't call you names just stated that your
               | description sounded cult like.
               | 
               | If your environment is so controlled to not have a good
               | mix of people in it then that sounds even more cult like!
        
               | FireBeyond wrote:
               | > In what environment are you, as an adult, forced to
               | interact with everyone who happens to show up?
               | 
               | I was a paramedic. Every single day.
        
               | BrenBarn wrote:
               | > In what environment are you, as an adult, forced to
               | interact with everyone who happens to show up?
               | 
               | Have you heard of customer service?
        
               | AnimalMuppet wrote:
               | In functional workplaces, yes. In dysfunctional ones,
               | sometimes you have to leave.
               | 
               | In the military, say, you don't get that option.
               | 
               | In your neighborhood, you can move, but that's a fairly
               | difficult and expensive step. When someone moves in whose
               | kids want to be gang members, or who wants to verbally
               | abuse people out jogging, or whatever other antisocial
               | behavior, you have to deal with it, at least for a while.
               | 
               | So you can't completely avoid the brokenness of the real
               | world. (Note well: I am _not_ saying that throwing a six
               | year old into the deep end is the best way to prepare
               | kids for this.)
        
               | seneca wrote:
               | > In functional workplaces, yes. In dysfunctional ones,
               | sometimes you have to leave.
               | 
               | Agreed! And that is exactly what home-schooling families
               | are doing. Choosing to leave a dysfunctional environment.
               | 
               | > In the military, say, you don't get that option.
               | 
               | Yep, and other government institutions, like prison. I
               | don't think those are what anyone would call a typical
               | life environment though.
               | 
               | > In your neighborhood, you can move, but that's a fairly
               | difficult and expensive step. When someone moves in whose
               | kids want to be gang members, or who wants to verbally
               | abuse people out jogging, or whatever other antisocial
               | behavior, you have to deal with it, at least for a while.
               | 
               | That's another dysfunctional environment, and also what
               | the police are for.
               | 
               | > So you can't completely avoid the brokenness of the
               | real world. (Note well: I am not saying that throwing a
               | six year old into the deep end is the best way to prepare
               | kids for this.)
               | 
               | You're right, you can't. The world has a lot of
               | dysfunctional environments, and I agree that people need
               | to learn how to deal with them. Knowingly forcing your
               | child to be in one of those environments full-time for
               | many years seems like a pretty horrible way to teach them
               | that though, bordering on abusive.
        
               | array_key_first wrote:
               | Public school is not dysfunctional, per se.
               | 
               | And, to be clear, EVERY workplace will have people you
               | don't like. Every. Single. One. No exceptions.
               | 
               | Kids needs to be taught resiliency and healthy mindsets,
               | to a degree. They need to learn to live and let go, to
               | learn their value isn't derived from what people think of
               | them, to learn that embarrassment is self inflicted.
               | 
               | You just can't do that if you're only around people who
               | don't challenge you. If you're in a nice, cushy, social
               | bubble, you will develop self esteem and confidence
               | issues.
        
               | hereme888 wrote:
               | Exactly. Adults don't tolerate the same B.S. children are
               | forced into.
        
         | afavour wrote:
         | > homeschoolers are "not exposed to the real world". Isolation
         | exists for some, but my extensive interaction with
         | homeschoolers is they are immersed in healthy communities,
         | hand-picked by parents to keep away problem children. Who would
         | plant a flower next to a sick or hostile one?
         | 
         | ...a healthy community hand-picked by parents _is not_ "the
         | real world" though, is it?
         | 
         | I think your view is a very black and white one. Kids in public
         | school are exposed to society at large, in both good _and_ bad
         | ways. My kids are in class with others of different cultures
         | and lived experience and I believe that enriches their lives.
         | Despite, yes, there being some problematic kids in there.
         | 
         | The sad reality of parenting is that you're never going to be
         | able to hand-pick your child's experience all the way through
         | life. Sooner or later they're going to be exposed to the
         | "hostile flowers" you describe. Personally I think learning to
         | be around those people and still thrive is a part of childhood
         | that prepares you well for adulthood. It may be more valuable
         | than some of the academic work kids do.
        
           | hereme888 wrote:
           | I think your reading is very black and white. Add some leeway
           | to what I say. Hand-picked obviously doesn't mean all friends
           | go through a psych screening on a daily basis, or that you
           | have to helicopter-parent and tell your kids who to be
           | friends with...
        
             | afavour wrote:
             | > or you have to helicopter-parent and tell your kids who
             | to be friends with...
             | 
             | Isn't that essentially what you're describing, though? You
             | literally talked about "healthy communities, hand-picked by
             | parents to keep away problem children". No, you don't have
             | to _tell_ them who to be friends with... but you 've pre-
             | selected the pool of potential friends, so there's no
             | instruction necessary.
        
           | seneca wrote:
           | > ...a healthy community hand-picked by parents is not "the
           | real world" though, is it?
           | 
           | It very much is. No where else in life are people forced to
           | mixed with the general unfiltered public. "The real world" is
           | highly filtered social circles and freedom of association.
           | The idea that it's somehow an automatic good to force healthy
           | kids to mix with everyone who happens to show up, regardless
           | of whether they have severe behavioral or social issues, is
           | pretty questionable.
           | 
           | > My kids are in class with others of different cultures and
           | lived experience and I believe that enriches their lives.
           | Despite, yes, there being some problematic kids in there.
           | 
           | You can expose your kids to different cultures without
           | leaving them wide open to everything else. It's not a binary.
           | The point is that home schooling lets you pick and choose.
        
             | afavour wrote:
             | > No where else in life are people forced to mixed with the
             | general unfiltered public
             | 
             | I think "forced" is doing a lot of work there. No, you're
             | not _forced_ to work alongside someone problematic. But
             | quitting your job is quite an escalation to deal with the
             | issue. Same with a troublesome neighbor. To say nothing of
             | public transit, taking flights, interacting with other
             | drivers on the road...
        
             | pdabbadabba wrote:
             | > It very much is. No where else in life are people forced
             | to mixed with the general unfiltered public.
             | 
             | I'm baffled by this. Many workplaces? Mass transit? Walking
             | down the sidewalk? At a concert? Buying groceries? True,
             | there don't all expose you to the full sweep of human
             | existence at once but, in aggregate, it seems pretty
             | similar to what you'd encounter at most public schools.
             | What if they want a career in a hospital, or law
             | enforcement, or social services, ... the list goes on.
             | 
             | You might hope that your child will live a privileged
             | existence unbothered by the rabble, but it seems to me they
             | need to be prepared for a future where they encounter all
             | kinds of people. I'm sure this can be compatible with
             | homeschooling but I can't see how it's not generally a
             | disadvantage. (Though perhaps onerous clearly outweighed by
             | other advantages, depending on the situation.)
        
               | antonymoose wrote:
               | You don't have to sit side-by-side rubbing shoulders and
               | squabbling with rabble for 12 years in order to
               | understand and deal with it, just like you don't have to
               | wrestle with gators for 12 years to learn respect for
               | nature.
        
               | moduspol wrote:
               | The closest social equivalency to public school
               | socialization I can think of is prison. You're stuck
               | there for N hours per day with limited or zero control
               | over what other people you're around. Maybe parts of
               | military training might also be similar.
               | 
               | That's the kind of thing that is very much not like the
               | "real world." It's more than just being "exposed" to less
               | optimal peers (like you would on a bus), it's an entirely
               | different social experience.
        
               | WrongAssumption wrote:
               | Home schooled kids walk down sidewalks, go to concerts,
               | go grocery shopping.
               | 
               | Most workplaces are highly filtered. The whole interview
               | process is specifically geared towards filtering out
               | undesirable people.
        
               | brendoelfrendo wrote:
               | > You might hope that your child will live a privileged
               | existence unbothered by the rabble
               | 
               | I think it's telling that the other responses seem to
               | focus on exactly this; the idea that their child will
               | exist in a class apart from the rabble, and will not have
               | to interact with them.
               | 
               | It seems to speak to two very different views of
               | community. On the one hand, there is community as a
               | collection of all the people in a space: people who share
               | local resources, frequent the same local businesses, and
               | have the same local concerns. On the other, there is a
               | community of choice: people who share the same social
               | class, and possibly the same religion or cultural
               | beliefs. I think it's fair to say that you can have both,
               | but trying to say that you can belong _solely_ to the
               | communities you choose and treat everyone else as beneath
               | notice sounds quite problematic, and it will absolutely
               | _not_ give children a correct or complete view of the
               | world.
        
           | billy99k wrote:
           | "..a healthy community hand-picked by parents is not "the
           | real world" though, is it?"
           | 
           | School isn't their only exposure to life. You will get
           | exposure to other people and non-healthy people outside of
           | school.
           | 
           | "Kids in public school are exposed to society at large, in
           | both good and bad ways. My kids are in class with others of
           | different cultures and lived experience and I believe that
           | enriches their lives. Despite, yes, there being some
           | problematic kids in th"
           | 
           | When I was a kid, I was exposed to kids that should have been
           | in prison..and many of them ended up there. My life probably
           | would have been better if they weren't there.
           | 
           | "My kids are in class with others of different cultures and
           | lived experience and I believe that enriches their lives.
           | Despite, yes, there being some problematic kids in there."
           | 
           | This can still be done with home schooling.
           | 
           | "The sad reality of parenting is that you're never going to
           | be able to hand-pick your child's experience all the way
           | through life. Sooner or later they're going to be exposed to
           | the "hostile flowers" you describe."
           | 
           | I disagree. If someone is hostile and aggressive all the
           | time, I wouldn't be around them as an adult. I hand pick my
           | friends, and you probably do too. I also still get exposed to
           | the assholes of the world.
           | 
           | "Personally I think learning to be around those people and
           | still thrive is a part of childhood that prepares you well
           | for adulthood. It may be more valuable than some of the
           | academic work kids do."
           | 
           | If you are at work and someone is sexually harassing all of
           | the women there or generally causing issues for everyone
           | around them (preventing most other people from getting their
           | work done). Do you think they should stay, so everyone can
           | learn to be around them?
           | 
           | You seem to think everyone is a reasonable person that might
           | just have a few issues. This is far from the truth and many
           | times, public schools will just keep these kids there,
           | preventing everyone around them from learning.
           | 
           | It's also a burden to the teachers and staff.
        
           | MrDrMcCoy wrote:
           | Counterpoint from my own experience having been previously
           | homeschooled all the way to college: My parents went the
           | extra mile to ensure I was constantly immersed in large group
           | settings with other homeschoolers. Field trips, co-op
           | classes, sports, and general high-quality social time. There
           | were of course bad eggs as in any group setting, but with an
           | important difference: if it ever got bad, it was possible to
           | leave, and we did on occasion. In my mind, that's far more in
           | keeping with the "real world" than the seeming entrapment of
           | public schooling that offers little recourse for when social
           | experiences sour. In the real world, you have the freedom to
           | leave a toxic job or social group far more so than public
           | school.
           | 
           | In addition to peer socialization and mobility, the
           | flexibility in scheduling allowed me to work a day job
           | through my high school years, exposing me to yet more real-
           | world experience. The constant interaction with adults and
           | folks from other walks of life was a huge boon that allowed
           | me to function as a well-adjusted adult right out of the
           | gate. The high-school drama that people suffer and then bring
           | with them into adulthood is very disappointing and seemingly
           | unnecessary.
        
             | hereme888 wrote:
             | ^^^ That's my experience interacting with healthily
             | homeschooled children-now-adults. On average they seemed to
             | have so much less trauma than me and my peers, and less
             | "subconscious" issues to deal as adults.
        
           | zaphar wrote:
           | I can not conceive of a worse way to teach a kid how to
           | behave in Adult social settings than to throw them into a
           | group of other kids who have just as little experience as
           | they do and then expect the group to "figure it out". This is
           | not to say that there aren't some homeschooling parents who
           | practice a form of extreme isolation which produces what I
           | would regard as an equally bad outcome as public school. But
           | by the numbers from people who have studied this the evidence
           | indicates homeschooling produces the best outcomes for social
           | adjustment in Adulthood.
           | 
           | Probably because well run homeschooling groups tend to have
           | high parental involvement which means the child learns how to
           | socialize not from other children but from watching how the
           | adults they are around handle interactions.
           | 
           | [Edited for clarity in some sentences]
        
             | afavour wrote:
             | > I can not conceive of a worse way to teach a kid how to
             | behave in Adult social settings than to throw them into a
             | group of other kids who have just as little experience as
             | they do and then expect the group to "figure it out".
             | 
             | You are aware of teachers, yes?
             | 
             | > Probably because well run homeschooling groups tend to
             | have high parental involvement
             | 
             | Everything I've read shows that putting absolutely all else
             | aside, parental involvement is key to a child's success. So
             | perhaps the reason your by the numbers evidence shows home
             | schooling to be better is simply because it's a self-
             | selecting group of involved parents.
        
           | emtel wrote:
           | It absolutely is. If you are well equipped to navigate the
           | adult world, you place yourself in hand-picked groups of
           | people. I do not work with, socialize with, or live near a
           | random sample of the population, and I highly doubt most
           | people reading this thread do either!
        
             | HaZeust wrote:
             | Yeah but how do you LEARN the ability to do that? To keep
             | that practice always in your mental backburner, and
             | remembering how important it is? Why, you learn it by
             | seeing the impacts from those succumbed to negative
             | influences they surrounded themselves with!
             | 
             | You can't learn the application of hand-picking your people
             | and environments if you don't first see the outcomes when
             | such application is neglected, and understanding its
             | importance from there. If you have the hand-picking done
             | for you as well, you risk not learning the ability to do it
             | yourself. Or how to handle the situations where you can't.
        
         | dzonga wrote:
         | there's was a famous paper written by a former school teacher
         | which advocated for home schooling ? I been trying to find it
         | ever since
        
           | hereme888 wrote:
           | I don't agree with all of Piotr's writings, but here's an
           | extensive list of famous educators, maybe yours is among
           | them.
           | 
           | John Locke, John Holt, Peter Green, and:
           | 
           | https://supermemo.guru/wiki/The_Greatest_Minds_in_History_Op.
           | ..
           | 
           | https://supermemo.guru/wiki/Tom_Durrie
        
         | joshstrange wrote:
         | > Homeschoolers are some of the most resilient and well-behaved
         | people I know.
         | 
         | I'm sure they exist, they may even exist as the majority, I
         | will say for my part the homeschooled kids I knew through my
         | church growing up were not any of these things. I would quite
         | literally use the opposite of both those to describe them.
         | 
         | I'm not saying they represent the majority but they do exist
         | and they were not well adjusted IMHO.
         | 
         | As with many topics I feel like "Yes, if you want to devote
         | yourself fully to X thing you can do much better than Y
         | professional", the problem is, again from my own experience,
         | the people I knew who homeschooled their children were not
         | professionals, they were not capable, and their children
         | suffered for it. I want to stress, I fully believe it is
         | possible for certain people with certain mentors/teachers to do
         | better outside of the public (or private) school system. I just
         | also believe that the odds of most people (making that decision
         | for their children) to meet that bar are low. I also think that
         | some of the better homeschooled experiences that I've seen are
         | simply a super-private school by another name (various parents
         | being or being subject experts and taking turns teaching
         | coupled with many "field trip"-type trips with other
         | homeschooled kids).
         | 
         | > there's an increasing torrent of deranged ideologies teachers
         | and professors share with students.
         | 
         | Wait till you hear what the parents believe... I don't agree
         | with everything taught or the way it's taught but being exposed
         | to other types of people and ways of thinking is critical. I
         | can guarantee you that had my parents been able to, they would
         | have shielded me from a great number of ways of thinking. I
         | worry that many homeschooled children grow up in a small echo
         | chamber (we all live in echo chambers of difference sizes).
         | 
         | Can public school suck? Absolutely and I acknowledge that
         | homeschooling might be the answer for some people, but only if
         | you can afford to pay (with time or money) to educate your
         | children completely which is almost certainly going to require
         | working with other homeschooler parents to, essentially, build
         | your own school. If you can bring in tutors/mentors/teachers
         | that you vet and agree with and expose them to the world and
         | new ideas/experiences then yeah, you are probably going to have
         | good outcomes. If you plop them in front of a computer to
         | follow a curriculum just to shield them from the "evils" of the
         | world, well, I think you are going to have a bad time.
         | Obviously there is a whole range of people in between those 2
         | extremes, I just feel that, on average, people trend towards
         | the lower end of that spectrum.
         | 
         | >
         | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8xe6nLVXEC0&list=RD8xe6nLVXE...
         | 
         | Interesting song and I do agree with many points. For many
         | years I've complained about lack of teaching basic skills
         | (everything from home ec to budgeting and more), many of which
         | I heard in this song. I think there was a little of the baby
         | going out with the bathwater but overall I enjoyed it.
        
           | hereme888 wrote:
           | > song
           | 
           | Yea, the guy later made a video clarifying he never meant to
           | throw the baby out, just the bathwater.
        
         | FireBeyond wrote:
         | I get that on one hand, such regulation is one of the reasons
         | some parents do so, but the wide diversity of "oversight" is
         | challenging.
         | 
         | In Washington, homeschooled students still have to occasionally
         | connect at an actual school, or do some baseline testing.
         | 
         | In Louisiana, you just tell the state "we're homeschooling" and
         | the state is "have fun with that" and the child is essentially
         | off the grid.
         | 
         | Not for nothing, instances of child abuse/CSA in many
         | correlates with the laxness of educational oversight in home
         | schooling.
         | 
         | > And to add insult to injury, there's an increasing torrent of
         | deranged ideologies teachers and professors share with
         | students.
         | 
         | Ahh, this chestnut. A short jump to "teachers are training
         | preschoolers to be furries and LGBT" and litterboxes in the
         | classroom/bathroom.
         | 
         | For all your anecdotes my step daughter has plenty too. 10th
         | graders who are barely literate, cannot do elementary math. Who
         | when asked about their homeschool regime talk of waking at 10,
         | 10.30, playing Fortnite or going on Tiktok for a few hours, and
         | occasionally logging into some website to pretend like they've
         | been working, or doing some mind numbingly simple exercise to
         | show "participation".
        
           | ryandrake wrote:
           | > Ahh, this chestnut. A short jump to "teachers are training
           | preschoolers to be furries and LGBT" and litterboxes in the
           | classroom/bathroom.
           | 
           | Exactly. Notice how, when people complain about the "deranged
           | ideologies" that teachers are teaching their kids, they
           | either 1. stop short of actually naming those ideologies or
           | 2. spout fever dreams that are statistically vanishingly
           | rare.
        
         | bgnn wrote:
         | What you define here is isolation from the real world. There
         | seems to be a misunderstanding of your understanding of
         | misunderstanding.
        
         | aeturnum wrote:
         | > _Your kids are a bad influence for whatever reason? Not my
         | problem to fix._
         | 
         | Not your problem to fix for sure - but it is your problem to
         | equip your child to comfortably weather. There are bad
         | influences out in the world and they generally have outsized
         | effects on their social and professional scenes. In fact, the
         | kind of curated, limited community you're advocating for is one
         | where bad influences thrive.
         | 
         | > _So much time and resources, to produce what exactly? A piece
         | of paper and fancy picture to stare at?_
         | 
         | I certainly agree the degree is whatever - but I think you're
         | really under-valuing the social-gauntlet aspect of school. You
         | will have classmates who kind of (or really) suck. You will
         | need to do your work anyway. You will be incentivized to learn
         | perseverance and a self-centered locus of control. These are
         | valuable skills that only come from actual exposure to bad
         | influences.
         | 
         | Someone who's perfect in perfect conditions is going to
         | struggle because the world is not perfect. The aims you
         | highlight here make me think less of homeschooling than I did
         | before.
        
         | array_key_first wrote:
         | My general experience is that homeschool children have self
         | esteem and confidence issues precisely because they've been
         | around 'hand picked' people... forever.
         | 
         | They've never experienced assholes, or people who think their
         | personality is grating, or whatever. Thick skin needs to be
         | built up, to a degree. I'm not saying bullying is good, but
         | being exposed to the unwashed masses definitely can be.
        
         | codingdave wrote:
         | > increasing torrent of deranged ideologies teachers and
         | professors share with students.
         | 
         | You really might want to explain that further. At face value,
         | that sounds like parroted right-wing rhetoric.
        
         | cosmic_cheese wrote:
         | The problem is that what constitutes "healthy" varies so
         | greatly between individuals (especially these days) that it
         | barely carries any objective meaning, and the odds are heavily
         | against any one person's definition being correct.
         | 
         | If I put myself in the shoes of a parent, I wouldn't trust
         | myself on the matter enough that I'd feel good shaping my
         | childrens' entire world to match it. It's such a wildly
         | difficult thing to get right, and I'd rather they get a glimpse
         | of the world through wide variety of viewpoints and hope
         | they'll use the values I've instilled in them to construct
         | their own view.
        
       | jcpst wrote:
       | We tried homeschooling a few times. We were honest with ourselves
       | and determined we were not that great at it. Sure, we could
       | improve. But one of the primary factors in where we chose to live
       | was the school district. Fortunately it has worked out well. Of
       | course there's always something to deal with- you have to
       | advocate for your kids.
       | 
       | It's basically public daycare for a lot of people. Including us.
       | 
       | The social aspect is important for us. The idea of having to find
       | other people with kids for activities sounds exhausting. We're a
       | gang of neuro-spicy introverts. My social circle is comprised of
       | people I've been friends with for 25+ years. All from my school
       | days.
       | 
       | I dealt with a lot of bullshit at school. But overall a net gain.
        
       | tristor wrote:
       | As somebody that suffered through public school as a gifted kid,
       | I wish I had been homeschooled. Almost everything positive that
       | happened in my education was because of family, not due to the
       | school. School was hell on earth for me, and I imagine it's the
       | same for most other "neurodivergent" kids who are high IQ. Given
       | what I know from my own kid, there's no surprise to me why more
       | people are opting to home school. For my daughter we kept her in
       | public school because the district we moved to had magnet
       | programs, and that's what she wanted so she could be with her
       | friends from the neighborhood, but not every school district
       | cares about gifted kids and will happily put a child with a 150
       | IQ trying to read 6-8 grade levels above their peers in the same
       | room with a child with an 80 IQ child who has a violence problem
       | and consider that an acceptable outcome as long as nobody calls
       | the police.
        
       | iambateman wrote:
       | When a social failure happens at a public school - a child fails
       | a class, drugs are found, a teenager gets pregnant, there's a
       | fight - most people don't question the public school system
       | itself. But when a social failure happens to a homeschooler, we
       | wonder if the system of _homeschooling_ is broken.
       | 
       | In reality, stories of homeschooling failure are probably no more
       | common than stories of failure in public high school, they're
       | simply more attention-grabbing.
        
         | rootusrootus wrote:
         | The adults I know who are most against homeschooling today are
         | the ones who were homeschooled themselves. Maybe it's just a
         | pendulum.
        
           | gallamine wrote:
           | I was homeschooled. I'm doing the same with my children.
        
             | mmustapic wrote:
             | The person who you are replying to is stating a different
             | implication: hates homeschooling -> was homeschooled
             | 
             | You are saying: was homeschooled -> likes it and will do
             | the same with his/her kids
        
           | pyuser583 wrote:
           | The adults I know who are most against public school went to
           | public schools themselves.
           | 
           | The adults I know most against college went to college
           | themselves.
           | 
           | The adults I know most against private high schools went to
           | private high schools themselves.
           | 
           | Being really negative about your own education is an American
           | tradition!
        
         | brendoelfrendo wrote:
         | I think this is likely because people (accurately, in my
         | opinion) attribute behavioral problems with kids to the level
         | and quality of involvement of the parents at home, so it would
         | be bizarre to attribute a child getting caught with drugs at
         | school to the public school system itself.
        
       | mikece wrote:
       | Interesting to see this topic being discussed on HN; I'm curious
       | if any homeschooling parents here have kids who WANT to learn
       | computer programming. I haven't pushed my kids to do any of the
       | things that I loved doing growing up (or what I do now). If any
       | homeschooled kids are getting into programming was it as a result
       | of playing with something like Scratch or did they dive directly
       | into writing Python or JavaScript?
        
       | hamdingers wrote:
       | Unsurprisingly this thread has become a battleground on the
       | merits of homeschooling.
       | 
       | Something to keep in mind: "Homeschool" is a useless descriptor.
       | It covers a spectrum from complete educational neglect to world
       | class private tutoring. It includes cohorts almost
       | indistinguishable from school, and cohorts that engage in cultish
       | indoctrination.
       | 
       | Any criticism you might have for your idea of homeschool, there
       | exists a type of homeschooling that addresses that criticism, and
       | there will be _someone_ in the replies ready to tell you about
       | it.
        
       | jordanpg wrote:
       | > Once an alternative way to educate children, homeschooling is
       | now an increasingly popular and mainstream option.
       | 
       | TFA does not even begin to grapple with the single most important
       | issue, which is _who is actually doing the homeschooling._
       | 
       | This is only an option for certain families, with parents with
       | enough bandwidth and knowhow to do this effectively. That
       | excludes many tens of millions of Americans.
       | 
       | I think this is really about class, race, and religious
       | segregation. Families can do what they want, of course, but this
       | framing makes it sound like failing schools are the whole problem
       | and I don't think that's the whole story.
        
       | eagsalazar2 wrote:
       | Starve the beast, vilify it for being weak, then kill it.
        
       | 4fterd4rk wrote:
       | Every normal school kid who interacted with a home school kid
       | will recall what the problem is with homeschooling. I would never
       | want to raise a little weirdo like the weirdo home schoolers I
       | knew.
        
       | totallykvothe wrote:
       | The most popular argument against homeschooling appears to be
       | "the world sucks, so we should make kids worlds suck so they're
       | prepared for it", which is absolutely an abusive way to think and
       | those who use this argument need to sit and think about what it
       | means, then be ashamed.
        
       | satvikpendem wrote:
       | How many are now home schooled for religious reasons? It seems
       | like many are pulling their kids out of public schools, for
       | "woke" reasons rather than for a deep pedagogical pursuit, and I
       | worry these kids aren't actually learning at the level they
       | should be.
        
       | Kuyawa wrote:
       | I am an advocate of homeschooling but also know the importance of
       | social contact for kids, so always wondering how hard would it be
       | to create local clubs for kids where they learn mainly about
       | economy, liberty and social relations sprinkled with some
       | astronomy, history, biology, math and whatever personal interest
       | of their parents like sports or arts? I'd be happy to pay for a
       | private institution like that
        
         | incognito124 wrote:
         | I'm pretty sure you just described a public school
        
           | ryandrake wrote:
           | I was going to say! Dude just re-invented "school."
        
       | ranbato wrote:
       | Didn't homeschool here but started a charter school instead. Some
       | of our neighbors did homeschool and I have mixed feelings about
       | it. Some did very well, some not so well; but of course the same
       | can be said of all of the kids in the area no matter which way
       | they went.
       | 
       | A few things I'll note:                 - educational spending
       | has almost zero correlation with outcomes       - the number one
       | indicator of educational success is parental involvement       -
       | homeschooling and charter schools tend to attract the outliers
       | from both ends.  The smart who are underserved where they are and
       | the kids with problems whose parents are involved enough to
       | search for solutions.       - the real losers are those whose
       | parents can't or won't get involved and who aren't succeeding on
       | their own
       | 
       | In the current educational environment, teachers are often viewed
       | as babysitters whose job is to educate children "correctly" and
       | parents are only there to ensure that "correctly" matches their
       | expectations. In the "good old days" when parents and teachers
       | beat children regularly, at least they were unified in their
       | expectations that children would listen to and obey teachers and
       | not disrupt class. Now it is more common to see underpaid
       | teachers without any support confronted by angry parents when
       | their children misbehave and fail to actually learn.
        
       | pyuser583 wrote:
       | I used to teach high school. The amount of time I spent doing
       | crap work was insane. It was necessary. If you don't remind
       | students 100 times what the assignments are, they won't do them.
       | 
       | You also have to spend an insane amount of time with the lowest
       | performers, because with enough attention, they can improve
       | dramatically.
       | 
       | But this creates tradeoffs. Should I neglect the students doing
       | best?
       | 
       | One on one instruction is the best kind. It's generally reserved
       | for doctoral students.
       | 
       | I also tried homeschooling by eldest. It didn't work.
       | 
       | Its insane more parents don't homeschool.
        
         | kachapopopow wrote:
         | well if we just apply the bell curve here, on average children
         | will be pretty average (shocker) so those should be left on
         | their own and discover their own niche while bad performers
         | should get extra attention so they can keep up with the rest
         | and with the gifted (if they actually want to) given the
         | opportunity to explore higher level subjects.
         | 
         | so in the end we give attention to gifted and the struggling
         | since there's very little you can do to children who are
         | already decent and are capable of keeping up at most they lack
         | discipline or motivation.
        
       | whatsupdog wrote:
       | This is the result of more propaganda and brainwashing than
       | education in schools. We should have left the politics out of the
       | schools, after we got the prayers banned. But I guess some people
       | will stop at nothing.
        
         | russdill wrote:
         | When the hell did praying get banned?
        
       | bgnn wrote:
       | Asking as an non-US person: Is there mandatory education for
       | children in the US?
       | 
       | I guess homeschooling fits well with extreme individualistic
       | American culture, no surprises there.
        
       | rimbo789 wrote:
       | This is another item high on the "in the future we will all have
       | been against this" list.
       | 
       | Well funded public education is a bedrock of fair equal society
       | (which is why the right attacks it ever since its invention).
       | 
       | Public education isn't perfect but it is far better for
       | individual and society than any alternative (including any
       | religious run schools)
        
       | jedberg wrote:
       | I went to college with a few homeschooled kids. They were by far
       | the least capable of "normal" social interaction. Some were quite
       | book smart, but they had trouble communicating with others, so
       | they couldn't demonstrate it.
       | 
       | Also a fun side effect, they mispronounced a lot of words that
       | they had only ever seen in books but never heard out loud. One of
       | them was self-aware enough to ask us to correct him.
        
       | kachapopopow wrote:
       | home schooling is a very very priviledged concept to begin with
       | so it's not surprising that there is quite a lot of hate for it.
       | 
       | as a former child I think home schooling is better in every way
       | if there is a supporting environment built around it, but I also
       | think public schooling introduces a lot of variety that is not
       | seen in private or home schooling be it for better or worse,
       | although my time in public school was rough and failed me in many
       | ways I still wouldn't have it any other way.
        
       | lazyasciiart wrote:
       | This topic is such a basket case. "Homeschooling" in the US is a
       | word that has come to mean "not enrolled in an accredited school"
       | and can mean anything from being the Duggars to "my 4yo audits
       | classes at MIT" or "we have an unaccredited private school that
       | is identical to any other private school except for not being
       | subject to laws".
       | 
       | Advocating for homeschooling is simply advocating for absolutely
       | no regulation on schooling, which is fine for the Zuckerbergs and
       | will condemn children like the Duggars.
        
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