[HN Gopher] Childhood Friends, Not Moms, Shape Attachment Styles...
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Childhood Friends, Not Moms, Shape Attachment Styles Most
Author : dnetesn
Score : 22 points
Date : 2025-11-14 15:11 UTC (7 days ago)
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| _wire_ wrote:
| Sure, and to whom does a childhood friend first attach?
| cjbarber wrote:
| Indeed, title should perhaps be: The parents of your kids'
| friends shape the attachment style of your kids
| lordnacho wrote:
| > But early friendship bonds played an even bigger part than
| maternal relationships in the ways people navigated adult
| friendships and romantic partnerships, accounting for 4 percent
| of the variance in adults' romantic partner- and best friend-
| specific attachment anxiety, and 10 to 11 percent in their
| partner- and best friend-specific avoidance.
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| Are those numbers r-squared figures? Seems like there's a lot
| more variance to be explained?
| pedalpete wrote:
| My first reaction was to refute this, but I think I've convinced
| myself this may be correct, assuming attachment styles are the
| right frame.
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| I've been painted with the Avoidant brush, and logically it makes
| sense, broken home, removed from mother, moved regularly changing
| schools once a year for 5 years.
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| However, my siblings are the opposite. We come from the same
| house, they didn't change schools as often as I did, which made
| me wonder how we could be so different.
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| But when looked through the lens of friendships forming the
| attachment style, it makes more sense. I changed schools more
| often than my siblings, and therefore had more friendship
| changes, and less ability for attachment.
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