[HN Gopher] Study finds growing social circles may fuel polariza...
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       Study finds growing social circles may fuel polarization
        
       Author : geox
       Score  : 74 points
       Date   : 2025-10-27 19:06 UTC (3 hours ago)
        
 (HTM) web link (phys.org)
 (TXT) w3m dump (phys.org)
        
       | dooglius wrote:
       | Links are "DOI NOT FOUND". Article does not seem to suggest that
       | the study actual found any relationship between the increase in
       | the two things, just that they both happened around the same
       | time.
        
         | unglaublich wrote:
         | The common demoninator is the rise of social media networks.
        
         | smallerize wrote:
         | _Unfortunately, even for the most fast-moving journals, that
         | time is typically several hours before the actual articles
         | appear on the journal's website. So, anyone who's reading
         | quickly is likely to find that the DOI fails.
         | 
         | But that rule only applies to the fast-moving journals, like
         | Nature and Science. Many other journals can take a few days
         | between when they allow journalists to write about a paper and
         | when it becomes available to the scientific community--PNAS,
         | which is a major source of material for us, falls in that
         | category._
         | 
         | https://arstechnica.com/science/2010/03/dois-and-their-disco...
        
       | foobarian wrote:
       | This always seemed intuitively inevitable if you ever played with
       | a graph layout tool like dot or similar kinetic layout engine.
       | With weak connectivity the nodes don't cluster readily, but with
       | more connections they "snap" into rigid subassemblies. It always
       | seemed to me like a bad thing for society but it could well be a
       | case of "old man yells at moon."
        
         | HPsquared wrote:
         | In the limit you get periodic crystal structures when
         | connectivity is maxed out and fully optimized.
        
       | txrx0000 wrote:
       | The problem isn't connectivity provided by the Internet or the
       | average number of friends. Those things are good on their own.
       | The problem is centralized moderation in an infinitely connective
       | environment (aka the Internet), which will create intellectually
       | and ideologically homogenous groups that increase in size without
       | limit.
       | 
       | For details see: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=45515980
       | 
       | The solution is to ban all server-side ranking, moderation, and
       | filtering mechanisms and replace them with client-side-only
       | solutions, at least for large platforms above a certain user
       | count like X and YouTube. Same thing for search engines and
       | chatbots.
       | 
       | Each person should be able to control what they can post and view
       | online, but not what anyone else posts or views. The norms that
       | we use to moderate physical public spaces must not be applied to
       | online public spaces. Until we discard those norms, people will
       | continue to become increasingly polarized, democracy will
       | continue to decline worldwide, and violent conflicts will
       | continue to increase in frequency and scale.
        
         | gruez wrote:
         | >The solution is to ban all server-side ranking, moderation,
         | and filtering mechanisms and replace them with client-side-only
         | solutions, at least for large platforms above a certain user
         | count like X and YouTube. Same thing for search engines and
         | chatbots.
         | 
         | This is such a HN response. A HN reader might think it's fun to
         | spend a weekend on writing/testing a ranking algorithm, but not
         | the average person. They're just going to use whatever the
         | platform recommends.
        
           | txrx0000 wrote:
           | We need to ban the platform from recommending at all.
           | 
           | It would be like more sophisticated Adblock. There are many
           | providers of Adblock lists, but they can't be provided by the
           | platform itself.
        
           | kiba wrote:
           | Most people will use the default algorithm. A minority will
           | choose a different algorithm.
           | 
           | It's only a partial solution. Really, the correct response is
           | regulatory oversight and taxation on remaining economic rent.
           | They are monopolies, and should be regulated as such.
        
           | philipkglass wrote:
           | It's impractical even for tinkerers. YouTube claims to get
           | over 20 million videos uploaded daily and it has well over 10
           | billion stored videos in its corpus. The metadata alone is
           | tens of terabytes. The usual introduction-to-recommendations
           | approaches out there are going to completely fall over on an
           | item set of this size, even if you have disk space to spare.
        
             | txrx0000 wrote:
             | The server can deliver a sparsely randomly sampled RSS feed
             | of embedding vectors and metadata.
             | 
             | Fetch media after ranking on-device.
        
           | lithocarpus wrote:
           | If facebook made it possible to write your own ranking
           | algorithm for what you see, there would be a huge variety of
           | different algorithms you could choose from. 99.9% of end
           | users don't have to write their own they just have to choose
           | whose they want to use - or combine multiple of those
           | available.
           | 
           | I think that'd be great, but not for facebook's profits
           | probably.
        
             | johnny22 wrote:
             | so how would a user know which one to choose?
             | 
             | I already get analysis paralysis as a software dev enough.
        
         | p1necone wrote:
         | In practice I don't think this really changes anything at least
         | for moderation. It takes a bunch of time and effort to moderate
         | online communities - under the process outlined by the post you
         | linked most communities are going to have a single effective
         | clientside moderation list you can subscribe to anyway.
         | 
         | Totally unmoderated internet communities would be completely
         | unusable because of spam, and it's also questionable whether
         | you could even stay up with _no_ serverside moderation - you 'd
         | have to delete stuff otherwise it just takes one script kiddie
         | with a botnet to flood your disk space with garbage.
         | 
         | (User produced ranking/filtering algos though I can see being
         | viable)
        
           | txrx0000 wrote:
           | There are multiple providers of Adblock lists. It would be
           | like that, not single-provider.
           | 
           | Regarding banning server-side moderation, we probably can't
           | do it without decentralizing content delivery in a BitTorrent
           | fashion. But even half measures like replacing moderators
           | with client-side filters would be a big improvement.
        
           | lithocarpus wrote:
           | Parent isn't saying "totally unmoderated" he's saying the
           | client chooses the algorithm/filters.
           | 
           | That means there can be a bunch of algorithms/filters out
           | there to choose from (any tech savvy person could make their
           | own as a blend of others that exist) and the end user could
           | basically choose which feed[s] to subscribe to.
        
       | tsumnia wrote:
       | "An information flow model for conflict and fission in small
       | groups (1977)" by Wayne W. Zachary
       | [https://www.jstor.org/stable/pdf/3629752.pdf]
       | 
       | I know this paper isn't about social networks, but we know this,
       | we knew it in the 70s. The only difference is that we continue to
       | ignore and forget it.
        
       | 0xbadcafebee wrote:
       | In-group dynamics are further ingrained as the group gets bigger.
       | If you have 4 friends in a group, their opinions aren't as
       | strong. If you have 40 friends in a group, not only are their
       | opinions stronger, they'll fight vigorously to defend the group's
       | commonly accepted beliefs. So a growing social circle does
       | reinforce the group dynamic. (this is well established by lots of
       | studies)
       | 
       | But increased polarization around the world isn't because of
       | this. There's the typical environmental factors: an increase in
       | changes (or challenges) to traditional values increases
       | polarization; an influx of migrants increases polarization. But
       | then there's also social media, where mastery of "engagement" by
       | businesses for profit has been adopted by political groups
       | looking to sow division to reap the benefits of polarization (an
       | easier grip on power). The rapid rise of polarization is a
       | combination of both.
       | 
       | It's nothing new of course, political/ideological groups have
       | been doing this forever. We just have far more advanced tools
       | with which to polarize.
        
         | txrx0000 wrote:
         | Before the Internet and social media, groups had a practical
         | size cap because they had to meet up in person. Polarization
         | was naturally limited.
         | 
         | I don't think the social media companies' algorithms are
         | entirely to blame. But more broadly it's centralized moderation
         | of public online spaces.
         | 
         | Moderation of public behavior of physical spaces was only
         | necessary because it wasn't possible to selectively filter
         | people's influences on eachother in public. If someone is doing
         | something you don't want to see in public, covering your eyes
         | is not good enough because you also block out the people you do
         | want to see. Centralized moderation was a practical half-
         | measure rather than an ideal solution for a democratic society
         | that values free expression and self-determination.
         | 
         | That kind of moderation isn't necessary online because all
         | filters can be implemented client-side. We just aren't doing it
         | because people are so used to the old way. But the old way will
         | naturally lead to more and worse conflict when we have infinite
         | connectivity.
        
       | crazygringo wrote:
       | > _" Despite minor differences between individual surveys, the
       | data consistently show that the average number of close
       | friendships rose from 2.2 in 2000 to 4.1 in 2024," says Hofer._
       | 
       | If true, this is an astonishing social transformation, and
       | because goes against everything we here about the loneliness
       | epidemic getting _worse_.
       | 
       | Or have people redefined what they consider to be "close
       | friends"? Or are people actually genuinely maintaining more
       | friendships because phones make it so much easier to message?
        
         | tanseydavid wrote:
         | >> goes against everything we here about the loneliness
         | epidemic getting worse
         | 
         | This seems like a hot-take. IMHO one does not and cannot cure
         | loneliness by having more online _friends_.
        
           | dijit wrote:
           | Yeah, if anything I would say that leans in to the loneliness
           | epidemic, if we take things like Dunbars Number to be true.
           | 
           | Having more shallow friends is actually much more isolating
           | than having fewer deep friends.
        
         | user2722 wrote:
         | Indeed. Conflicting info.
         | 
         | NOTE: I did NOT read the article.
         | 
         | If I'd guess I'd say close friendships meaning is now more
         | shallow. Or: younger demographics are against the wider trend.
         | 
         | We can also extrapolate this to unrelated topics, like friend
         | groups. Granted, completely unscientific. But if you know two
         | or three different friend groups and have a brain cell or two,
         | you'll notice group-member-patterns. The Joker; the athletic;
         | the geek; etc.. The question I'm trying to get to is: will the
         | search for authenticity in a subgroup of a greater acquaintace
         | group push you toward the fringes?
        
         | MattGaiser wrote:
         | Keep in mind that it is "average" and it is about close
         | friends.
         | 
         | Anecdotally, the pandemic was the great cutting of weaker ties.
         | I talk to far fewer people than I did pre-pandemic (and most
         | friends report the same), but I speak to those people more
         | often. I can easily see that ending in a way where some 20%
         | find themselves with nobody.
         | 
         | I would say I have 4 close friends. But some 10 weaker ties
         | disappeared from my life. Did those 10 also double down on
         | close friends? Or did perhaps some of them not have enough
         | close friends to do that?
        
           | jerlam wrote:
           | I would agree - usually close friends are limited to people
           | that share the same values and ideas as you. Having more
           | close friends that all think alike would increase rejection
           | of ideas not shared by other close friends. It is harder (but
           | not impossible) to have close friends that have dramatically
           | different lifestyles, ideals, or socioeconomic class.
           | 
           | Weaker ties would include friends that have less in common,
           | and have different ideas. But that fact that they are a
           | friend means that you are aware of their existence and
           | different ideas. In that way, having a broad range of weak
           | friends suggests that you can see things from different
           | perspectives instead of in your own (close) friend bubble.
           | 
           | It's like how people are less likely to know their neighbors
           | now, who can hold different ideas. But you don't have to be
           | close friends with them to have some empathy.
        
             | JumpCrisscross wrote:
             | > _usually close friends are limited to people that share
             | the same values and ideas as you_
             | 
             | That stirkes me as myopic. My closest friends--the ones I
             | trust with all my secrets, with whom have _have_
             | practically no secrets, the ones I 'd hide if it came to
             | that or risk my life to save--are all over the place values
             | and ideas-wise. It's what makes their company fun. It's
             | also what makes their advice useful, because they'll call
             | me out on my bullshit in a way a mirror image of me could
             | not.
        
               | watwut wrote:
               | If you are far right, I have to keep secrets from you.
               | For safety.
               | 
               | And no, someone actively wanting to limit my freedom and
               | safety because their ideology is that women must be
               | limited cant be trusted. They cant be trusted in calling
               | me on my shit, because what they perceive as shit is my
               | self interest and my core values.
        
           | gus_massa wrote:
           | Many of my friends live abroad. We started a weekly Zoom
           | meeting during Covid-19 lockdown. Now we have a WhatsApp
           | group too. Does that change the classification from plain
           | friends to close friends?
        
             | yieldcrv wrote:
             | Oh god flashback, I remember the zoom calls, and people
             | acting like they didn't know how zoom worked 10 months into
             | it or that the host can mute anyone that doesn't know how
             | to mute themselves
             | 
             | I opted out of the extended family ones and the social ones
             | 
             | I wonder if they're still doing that, I'd rather watch
             | paint dry, which I did for a few months in San Francisco
        
         | riazrizvi wrote:
         | Personally, I find modern technology makes it easier to
         | maintain them. 25 years ago my friendships around the world
         | would have been relegated to 'penpalships' because of the cost
         | of long distance calls and the lack of face time.
         | 
         | Loneliness is a big topic now due to the pandemic, and the
         | lingering trends from stay/work-at-home mandates.
        
           | kulahan wrote:
           | They probably aren't the friends people are thinking of when
           | referring to things like this. The benefit of friends isn't
           | just that you have someone fun to talk to, it's that you're
           | building out a social support circle. Your discord friends
           | can't come over and help you clean up after a flood, or watch
           | your dogs while you're away on a sudden emergency, or cook
           | you a meal when you're grieving a loss, or help you get an
           | interview at a job shortly after you're fired (or at least,
           | not one local to you).
           | 
           | Loneliness is a big topic now, imo, because people are losing
           | helpful human friends and relying on middling digital
           | friends. Just like how looking at pictures of a forest is
           | nowhere near as healthy as actually _going_ to a forest.
        
             | snozolli wrote:
             | _Your discord friends can 't come over and help you clean
             | up after a flood, or watch your dogs while you're away on a
             | sudden emergency, or cook you a meal when you're grieving a
             | loss_
             | 
             | I'll make the counter argument that -- although I value
             | those things and try to provide them to friends in need --
             | all of those can be addressed by hiring someone.
             | 
             | On the other hand, I've recently received fantastic
             | emotional support from a friend who moved away a few years
             | ago. We've seen each other in person only a handful of
             | times since then, but of all my friends, she happened to be
             | the one with the experience and attitude to help me.
             | 
             | Incidentally, I'll add that I'm the type of person to
             | provide those types of support to others, but the vast
             | majority of my friends are not. That doesn't make them bad
             | friends, it just means that I have a service disposition
             | while they don't. I think there's a vast range of qualities
             | that people seek and experience from friends and you're
             | going to have a hard time objectively rating them on any
             | sort of scale.
        
         | ToucanLoucan wrote:
         | I have a sinking feeling it's a situation where people who are
         | adept at creating and maintaining relationships are getting
         | more of them, whilst people who struggle socially are being
         | excluded more than ever as a result. The overall count grows,
         | but a substantial slice of the population still has barely any.
         | 
         | I have no data for this, just a gut feeling. I still see so
         | many people on the day-to-day who are completely socially
         | inept. I don't even mean just like, rude or abrasive, I mean
         | people who don't have the emotional intelligence to like,
         | navigate basic conflicts.
        
         | scarmig wrote:
         | It could also be something structural about how the "friendship
         | graph" looks. The mean number of friendships isn't the median
         | or typically experienced number of friendships, and if
         | friendship relationship distributions follow some kind of power
         | law, a change in the power-law exponent could make those
         | diverge.
        
         | cowpig wrote:
         | I can't find any evidence supporting the claim in the article,
         | and the study it links to for me is a dead link. Are you able
         | to find the source?
        
         | yieldcrv wrote:
         | Or women have 8 and guys have 1
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | When you look at studies, women and men are lonely at about
           | the same rate. There are differences at the margins - period
           | right after divorce, being stay at home and such. But overall
           | rates are the same.
        
         | bossyTeacher wrote:
         | > have people redefined what they consider to be "close
         | friends"?
         | 
         | Yes. People nowadays spent 8 hours per day chatting to someone
         | online and they call it close friend even if they never met in
         | real life.
         | 
         | Also, people nowadays are notorious for being unable to have
         | friendship that is not a [insert activity here] buddy.
        
       | zkmon wrote:
       | Polarization maybe a bit unclear word here. Connectivity creates
       | cohesion, which creates larger creatures. So what we have is,
       | virtual monsters roaming around with huge human groups riding on
       | them. They can organize real protests, polarized opinion and
       | massive impact wherever these monsters go.
        
         | zwnow wrote:
         | Monsters is a interesting choice of words. Why call it
         | monsters?
         | 
         | Isn't polarization a good thing? If I was enslaved by tyrants
         | making my life worse everyday, shouldn't I be opposed by their
         | ways?
        
       | thefz wrote:
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar%27s_number
       | 
       | Thanks to David Wong for explaining this in JDATE, calling it the
       | Babel threshold.
        
       | ZebusJesus wrote:
       | group think has always been dangerous, 1984 come to mind
        
       | dauertewigkeit wrote:
       | better connectivity -> people finding better friendship matches
       | -> groups are more homogenous -> more polarization
        
         | HPsquared wrote:
         | Self-actualisation often leads to conflict.
        
         | txrx0000 wrote:
         | I think the causal relationship is not quite that way.
         | 
         | better connectivity -> destroyed physical limits on group size
         | -> groups not only get larger but also more ideologically
         | homogenous because they're moderated by a central authority
         | like how physical crowds are moderated -> people make friends
         | more easily in those homogenous groups OR get kicked and start
         | their own group, which also has the potential to get larger and
         | more homogenous without limit -> groups have larger differences
         | and clash harder
         | 
         | More friends is a symptom rather than a cause.
        
       | VWWHFSfQ wrote:
       | You can have 10 "friends". 3 close ones. Anything larger than
       | that and you are way out of your depth and can't possibly
       | maintain those relationships in a meaningful, personal way.
        
         | HPsquared wrote:
         | Definitely. Close relationships of any kind involve a lot of
         | investment and "costly signals".
        
       | lukebechtel wrote:
       | I favor the theory that polarization is due to decreasing
       | attention spans, effectively preventing us from appropriately
       | considering nuance.
       | 
       | Related:
       | 
       | https://open.substack.com/pub/josephheath/p/populism-fast-an...
        
         | th0ma5 wrote:
         | That's one of Chomsky's major points for decades.
        
           | lukebechtel wrote:
           | embarrassingly haven't dug into Chomsky, this is another
           | update towards me doing so soon!
        
             | DavidPiper wrote:
             | OT: As someone in the same camp, does anyone have any
             | recommendations on where would be best to start?
        
           | JumpCrisscross wrote:
           | > _That 's one of Chomsky's major points for decades_
           | 
           | Curious for the source? To my recollection, Chomsky talked
           | about distraction, _i.e._ repurposing attention. OP is
           | talking about the pool of attention as a whole drying up
           | (versus being misdirected).
        
         | dmix wrote:
         | Agreed, there's so many headlines on X and Reddit that are
         | obviously highly spun and could take 5 seconds of reading into
         | it to see through the BS. But they kill as long as people agree
         | with the phrasing and people go right to the comments to cheer
         | it on instead of reading the article.
         | 
         | It's tough on the internet being a skeptic or generally
         | thoughtful about the world. It's not even worth debunking stuff
         | anymore. Much healthier to not engage entirely.
        
           | Grikbdl wrote:
           | I can no longer engage in (controversial) debates on other
           | social medias, as responses often indicate a lack of
           | understanding with the other person - they glance over the
           | arguments, make a prejudice-based opinion, and then they
           | respond to their straw man, often loaded with bad emotions.
           | It's quite frustrating and as you say, sadly only solution is
           | to disengage, but in so doing the polarisation only increases
           | as dissenting opinions are removing themselves.
        
             | dmix wrote:
             | > but in so doing the polarization only increases as
             | dissenting opinions are removing themselves.
             | 
             | It used to make sense when the internet was smaller but
             | now? Not so much. Especially when the people running
             | platforms/media, content moderators and influencers
             | explicitly don't care about the truth. You're not just
             | fighting some dummy posting a comment.
             | 
             | The only positive thing I've seen in the last decade to
             | address this was Community Notes on X.
        
         | mackeye wrote:
         | i think this is a good article, but these statements,
         | 
         | > If populism is merely a strategy, not an ideology, then why
         | are certain ideas seemingly present in all populist movements
         | (such as the hostility to foreigners, or the distrust of
         | central banking)? > For example, why are "the people" always
         | conceptualized as a culturally homogeneous mass, even in the
         | context of societies that are quite pluralistic (which forces
         | the introduction of additional constructs, such as la France
         | profonde, or "real Americans")?
         | 
         | ... are not quite as applicable to left-wing populism (for the
         | latter --- at least, at the surface). post-colonial, _left-
         | wing_ populism tended to be of international character, or at
         | least of wider appeal than the nation (e.g., nasser). the
         | "distrust of central banking" is of wildly unique impetuses for
         | left- vs. right-wing populism.
         | 
         | the common-sense point is quite poignant, at least for me in
         | the u.s., where each party paints their own solutions as
         | explicitly "common-sense", for solutions as unique as harsh
         | border control ("solutions") vs. city-owned grocery stores &
         | free childcare.
         | 
         | there are certainly issues i imagine i don't hold the "elite"
         | view on. many people don't consider the "elite" view at all ---
         | anti-punitive justice, for example, is rejected for particular
         | types of crimes, despite provenly worse outcomes if we simply
         | punish these crimes. the rise of anti-intellectualism doesn't
         | help :D
        
       | mothballed wrote:
       | Understanding other cultures and giving me a chance to experience
       | them has always been the quickest way to get me to become far
       | more stereotypical / bigoted. I am willing to be open and
       | idealistic about most any idea / ethnicity / culture but once I
       | actually face it in real life and question if I want my kids
       | exposed to that, then the rubber hits the road.
       | 
       | The internet has accelerated this.
        
         | johnny22 wrote:
         | I've found the opposite of that. I've found good people from
         | all sorts of cultures and countries.
        
           | henriquemaia wrote:
           | I'm like you and with you.
           | 
           | I've lived in several countries in 3 continents now, and the
           | more I get to know different peoples, the more I feel we're
           | all the same--albeit stuck in these almost kaleidoscopic ways
           | of outwardly displaying the very same humanity.
           | 
           | Perhaps OP got fixated on the collective differences instead
           | of seeing through them. Perhaps.
        
       | grdomzal wrote:
       | > The sharp rise in both polarization and the number of close
       | friends occurred between 2008 and 2010--precisely when social
       | media platforms and smartphones first achieved widespread
       | adoption. This technological shift may have fundamentally changed
       | how people connect with each other, indirectly promoting
       | polarization.
       | 
       | Indirectly? Seems to me that this is far more likely the "direct"
       | cause, given what we know about the psychology around algorithmic
       | feeds.
       | 
       | Also - I'm not sure if I missed it in the article, but did they
       | define what they mean by "close relationship" means? I'd be very
       | curious to know if a purely online relationship is counted and
       | how this may also contribute to the observations made.
        
         | patrickmay wrote:
         | The article said that a close relationship is one where the
         | other person can influence your views. I didn't dig into the
         | details to see how that was measured.
        
           | grdomzal wrote:
           | Thanks! I tried clicking into the linked research paper but
           | got a 404 >.<
        
       | cowpig wrote:
       | The study linked at the beginning of this article, and the two
       | listed under "More information" at the bottom all take me to a
       | page with the error
       | 
       | "DOI Not Found"
       | 
       | Given that the main (only significant) fact cited in the article
       | goes against everything else I've read, I would like to see the
       | actual study and how it came to the conclusion that the number of
       | close friends has doubled.
       | 
       | Here are some sources that appear to contradict this article:
       | 
       | https://www.americansurveycenter.org/research/the-state-of-a...
       | 
       | https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/daily-quotidien/250617/dq250...
       | 
       | https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11288408/#pone.0305...
        
         | JumpCrisscross wrote:
         | This might be it?
         | https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.1004008107
        
       | DavidPiper wrote:
       | The fact that we have more close friends on average is a novel
       | and surprising observation to me. Very worthy of investigation.
       | 
       | But, how is moving from a circle of 2 close friends to a circle
       | of 4 close friends a significant enough jump to "fuel
       | polarization" on a societal level? There's also a 10-year gap
       | between USA (and other countries' data points too) that covers
       | the span of the whole alleged "aligned trend". It feels a little
       | bit like the authors just went "Look! Two data trends moving in
       | the same direction! Causal?!"
       | 
       | More seriously, I would love to see a much deeper dive on:
       | 
       | - Technological and associated psychological trends that might be
       | causing greater polarisation (plenty of existing data here)
       | 
       | - How an increase in close friends can co-exist with an apparent
       | loneliness epidemic (plenty of existing data here too)
        
         | MattGaiser wrote:
         | > But, how is moving from a circle of 2 close friends to a
         | circle of 4 close friends a significant enough jump to "fuel
         | polarization" on a societal level?
         | 
         | You add 2 close friends and to fit them in, axe 10 weaker ones.
        
           | JumpCrisscross wrote:
           | > _You add 2 close friends and to fit them in, axe 10 weaker
           | ones_
           | 
           | I did this after Covid. Consciously started declining
           | invitations from acquaintances, and instead making time and
           | travel to see close friends. Would never go back.
        
           | DavidPiper wrote:
           | In this case it sounds like the polarisation is fueled by the
           | axing and not the adding?
        
       | bicx wrote:
       | I'm more interested in how people determine who they trust, and
       | the parameters by which humans decide to trust someone.
       | 
       | I would wager that people are shit at determining trustworthiness
       | based on limited information (like social media representations).
       | In the old days before social media, you got to know people in
       | person, and decades ago, most of the people you knew were likely
       | people you grew up around. You knew that person's background, how
       | they treated people, what their family was like, and what likely
       | influences them as a person.
       | 
       | So much of how we process trustworthiness is how we perceive the
       | motives of the speaker. With shallower friendships and parasocial
       | relationships, we want to feel connected but really lack any good
       | context that you need to actually know who you're listening to.
        
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