[HN Gopher] My Family and the Flood
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       My Family and the Flood
        
       Author : herbertl
       Score  : 257 points
       Date   : 2025-07-15 22:07 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | a5seo wrote:
       | Reading this account made me think of a paper I read in grad
       | school about the Mann Gulch fire and how quickly one's ability to
       | make sense of the situation unravels.
       | 
       | https://www.cs.unibo.it/~ruffino/Letture%20TDPC/K.%20Weick%2...
        
       | markm248 wrote:
       | This is the most gripping thing I've ever read
        
       | jihadjihad wrote:
       | It's a really tough read regardless, but if you've got young kids
       | (or nieces/nephews), it's downright brutal.
        
         | lpa22 wrote:
         | This was possibly the saddest piece I've ever read based on how
         | it was written
        
       | Configure0251 wrote:
       | Absolutely devastating.
        
       | 999900000999 wrote:
       | Reminds me a bit of A Marker on the Side of The Boat by Boa Ninh
       | from Night, Again.
       | 
       | There's a bit of horrifying tension, and you hope everyone's ok.
       | No matter how unlikely.
        
       | PlunderBunny wrote:
       | I wonder how frequently that river (and the rest of the world)
       | will experience once-in-a-hundred-year weather events from now
       | on.
        
         | sokoloff wrote:
         | There are over 2000 watersheds in the US. It would be unusual
         | if we didn't see around 20 100-year floods every year.
        
           | sorcerer-mar wrote:
           | Extreme precipitation events are also getting more common.
        
           | tbrownaw wrote:
           | I would think they'd be correlated enough to mess up the
           | numbers a little.
        
           | vikingerik wrote:
           | Right. It's the multiple-endpoints principle. The extreme
           | events feel overly frequent because we cherry-pick and only
           | notice them. We never notice the other 99/100 of places that
           | don't have a hundred-year flood in a year.
        
         | jkestner wrote:
         | At a (central Texas) city council hearing today on granting
         | someone a variance to build tennis courts on a meadow next to a
         | creek, a longtime resident said, "I think I've lived through
         | five 500-year floods here."
        
           | nocoiner wrote:
           | Where I live in Texas, we had three "500 year" events in
           | three consecutive years, with the last one probably closer to
           | a 1000 or 10000 year event - more rainfall in one spot than
           | anywhere else ever measured.
           | 
           | We'll see how long that record holds (I'll take the under on
           | 1000 years).
        
             | kbelder wrote:
             | There's probably many other 1 in a 1,000 year events that
             | haven't happened in many thousands. It's really hard to
             | reason about infrequent events, especially post-hoc.
        
           | Havoc wrote:
           | I guess if you're building something in vulnerable spots
           | tennis court is better than house
        
             | jkestner wrote:
             | Not for the neighbors. The courts are 10x the impermeable
             | cover of the house they're also trying to build. There
             | should be nothing on that land.
        
           | Yeul wrote:
           | If in the Netherlands a river floods millions are affected
           | and there is trillions in damage. If in America a river
           | floods a few hundred people die. That's why my country takes
           | this stuff seriously.
        
         | chiph wrote:
         | The "Once in a hundred year" saying is misunderstood. It's
         | actually 1% chance each year. So you roll your D100 every
         | spring.
         | 
         | Whether that's an acceptable risk is up to you. Having lived in
         | central Texas, it's a region known for it's flash floods, and
         | you should take the warnings seriously. If there's heavy
         | rainfall - you should be asking where all that water will go.
         | 
         | In this case, I hope that Texas looks into upgrading their
         | alerting system so that people get word in time to leave the
         | area. The news was saying the weather center added additional
         | staff for the storm (five meteorologists) but if their
         | forecasts can't get to where they're needed, that's not good
         | enough.
        
           | croes wrote:
           | But you would question the dice if you roll your D100 ten
           | times and it shows the same number on six throws
        
           | dylan604 wrote:
           | > In this case, I hope that Texas looks into upgrading their
           | alerting system
           | 
           | Since the July 4 flooding, I feel like the over correction of
           | flood warnings via mobile phones is not a good thing. My
           | phone has been going off with near daily flood warnings with
           | 0% precipitation. I get how rain upstream can cause flooding
           | where it's not raining downstream, but it hasn't even been
           | raining upstream. I'm also well over 200 miles away from
           | where the worst of the flooding happened. People that far
           | away do not need these warnings. The notifications have
           | listed counties not close, so it just comes across as "let's
           | do something just to say we did something"
        
             | wellpast wrote:
             | Mobile notifications is a terrible solution to this
             | 
             | Need ground alert sirens or something that would be taken
             | seriously
        
               | dylan604 wrote:
               | It's a terrible solution if it is the _only_ solution. Up
               | until this situation, the alerts I received on my phone
               | have been pretty spot on, which has been impressive. Yes,
               | local sirens are a good idea, but they come with caveats.
               | I have local sirens in my area, but they are for tornado
               | or other severe weather. If I hear those sirens, my
               | action to take is totally different than for a flood.
               | Naturally, if I were to come to an area where the sirens
               | are meant for flooding, my reaction to them would be the
               | wrong move. I would hope that a siren for flooding would
               | just sound different than how the established tornado
               | siren warning system sounds.
               | 
               | This trained response to a siren/warning system is the
               | reason they chose _not_ to use the tsunami warning system
               | in Hawaii during the fire. When that siren goes off,
               | people seek higher ground which would have driven them to
               | the fire.
        
           | PlunderBunny wrote:
           | I think once-in-one-hundred-year is a definition for weather
           | events used in building standards (sorry to be vague and
           | possibly misleading - if my resident architect/partner was
           | here, I could be more specific). I've certainly heard of
           | constructions like levies etc "build to withstand once-in-a-
           | hundred-year storms". I wonder if these standards are being
           | revised by appropriate international bodies?
        
             | chiph wrote:
             | I think it has become a "term of art" used by agencies like
             | FEMA and insurance companies. And it makes for a good
             | soundbite on the news.
        
       | Aeolun wrote:
       | Well, that was no fun to read. I wonder if my house would survive
       | a flood as well as it would an earthquake.
        
         | K0balt wrote:
         | The only reliable way to survive a flood with strong currents
         | is to not be in one.
         | 
         | I will not live long term on land that has historically been
         | subject to flooding, or where the site forms part of a
         | constricted drainage.
         | 
         | There are enough risks in life that cannot be realistically
         | mitigated. No sense exposing your family to one day in and day
         | out that is just a matter of choice. Unfortunately, humans are
         | terrible about understanding probabilistic risks, and our
         | short, brutal lives offer little opportunity to appreciate the
         | nature of long-period risk.
         | 
         | A "hundred year flood" means that there is a seventy percent
         | chance that your house will be wiped away within your lifetime.
         | It's like choosing to be habitually reckless with fire in your
         | home. We aren't reckless with fire because the risk is very
         | tangible and within our control. Long period risks are just as
         | real and often just as much within our control, but we have to
         | think in terms of math and not our "feeling" of security. Our
         | instincts about safety and security are honed over millions of
         | years to understand what is a safe Place to camp for the night.
         | We are not intrinsically equipped to viscerally understand this
         | kind of risk.
        
           | jonah wrote:
           | My parents property sits at the confluence of a creek and a
           | river. They've built their house on a promontory that had
           | signs of inhabitation by indigenous peoples. We had a
           | "100-year flood" when I was growing up. It was quite
           | impressive to wake up in the morning and see the water within
           | six vertical feet of the house and 30 to 40 ft. of water the
           | bottom field with entire trees floating Long.
        
       | gordon_freeman wrote:
       | Reading this makes me so sad and reminded me of a book I read
       | years ago: Hiroshima by John Hersey - about the first-person
       | narrative account of survivors who witnessed the impact of atomic
       | bomb dropped on Hiroshima that morning.
        
         | madaxe_again wrote:
         | Like the little boy with his skin melted off walking down the
         | road crying for his mother... horrendous stuff.
        
           | Foreignborn wrote:
           | These stories always have me instantly sobbing, life can be
           | tragically unfair.
        
         | qingcharles wrote:
         | That book lives rent-free in my head since I read it about 10
         | years ago. There's no way to forget some of the scenes in that.
        
         | lokl wrote:
         | If you have the opportunity to visit, I recommend Nagasaki over
         | Hiroshima and especially these two places in Nagasaki:
         | 
         | Shiroyama Elementary School
         | 
         | Nagai Takashi Memorial Museum Nagasaki
         | 
         | These felt much more personal than anything I saw in Hiroshima
         | and there were zero (other) tourists to interrupt the
         | experience (very much unlike the museum in Hiroshima).
        
       | gkanai wrote:
       | I cant imagine writing this having experienced the loss the
       | author has.
        
         | dylan604 wrote:
         | And just 10 days after the event to be released, so written
         | earlier. Not sure of the exact date it was written as the
         | article has an August 2025 date in the byline. Hopefully it was
         | helpful in their grief, which with how the last half was
         | written seems to be at least part of the intent.
        
       | mensetmanusman wrote:
       | With all the debris and the water force, would it have even
       | helped if the concrete pillars were 10 ft higher?
        
         | nocoiner wrote:
         | Reasonable question. Yes, in that case, the house probably
         | would have been fine. The lateral force on concrete pillars,
         | even from tremendous volumes of water, is fairly easily
         | withstood.
        
           | brazzy wrote:
           | The very first thing in TFA is a photo of where one of the
           | pillars was ripped from the foundation. If that happened
           | because of the force of the water against the house on top of
           | it, then it could also happen when a tree or other large
           | piece of floating debris hits it.
        
           | KaiserPro wrote:
           | > even from tremendous volumes of water, is fairly easily
           | withstood.
           | 
           | Physics is not on your side here. if it was just water, then
           | perhaps, although I am sceptical given how much force is
           | generated by 10foot of water moving at 18 mph, which is
           | ~6metric tons of lateral force. (assuming 1m2 cross section.)
           | 
           | Thats before any flotsam gets attached increasing the surface
           | area.
           | 
           | Sure you could build something to withstand that, but could
           | you afford to build it?
        
             | acuozzo wrote:
             | > but could you afford to build it?
             | 
             | And, if not, could you really afford to live there?
        
         | madaxe_again wrote:
         | It would have helped if the columns were correctly tied down -
         | those rebar stumps tell a story, which is that they did the
         | foundation pour, left stubs, and then poured columns atop them
         | with a cold joint. Fine if you're doing a carport in a desert.
         | Criminally negligent in a river floodway.
         | 
         | For that kind of structure, you _must_ tie the rebar in - best
         | is to have the entire length of the rebar for the column splay
         | at the base and be threaded through and tied into the rebar for
         | the footing, pour the footing, and then pour the columns as
         | soon as the footing is cured enough to support the mass, but
         | before it's totally hard. That way the footing and the columns
         | form a continuous structure, without any point where they can
         | just lift or shear off.
         | 
         | I speak from experience, having built exactly this type of
         | structure myself, and seeing it resist an enormous flood and a
         | barrage of high-speed trees, unscathed. Absolute mess inside
         | the timber structure atop, but anyone trapped within would have
         | survived.
         | 
         | Unfortunately what they had there was a disaster waiting to
         | happen.
        
           | jonah wrote:
           | Honestly, that protruding rebar reminds me of the common
           | practice in some Central American countries of pouring the
           | columns and crossties for the first story and leaving rebar
           | stubbed out the top for a future second level which may or
           | may not ever get built.
        
             | madaxe_again wrote:
             | Oh, that's a common thing all over the world - it's
             | generally because property taxes aren't payable on
             | incomplete structures. Seen it everywhere from Bulgaria to
             | Cambodia to Egypt.
        
               | wahern wrote:
               | That's a myth, albeit one commonly held everywhere, even
               | by locals.
               | 
               | You don't find it odd that so many poor- and middle-
               | income countries with wildly different legal histories
               | and taxing structures have the same glaring property tax
               | loophole? Despite often wildly different origin stories
               | for how the loophole came about?
               | 
               | Yes, some jurisdictions tax incomplete structures
               | differently, but that only begs the question of whether a
               | habitable structure lived in would be considered
               | incomplete merely because some rebar is sticking out.
               | 
               | The real answer mostly relates to patterns of savings and
               | real estate finance. In places where people invest their
               | savings into their home directly, without a mortgage or
               | similar as is common in more developed countries with
               | robust retail financing options and comparatively liquid
               | real estate markets, they often plan to build
               | incrementally over time. Today you have enough money to
               | build a 1-story out-of-pocket; in a few years you hope to
               | have enough saved to expand to a 1-1/2 story or 2-story.
               | This is much more feasible with concrete construction as
               | it's relatively cheap (if not free or even cheaper than
               | finishing) to just leave rebar exposed. Of course, as you
               | pointed out earlier this doesn't make for great
               | engineering. So you're more likely to see this in areas
               | with loose building codes or lax enforcement.
               | 
               | In really poor areas you'll often find partial structures
               | that aren't even habitable. That makes no sense in the
               | tax loophole theory, but perfectly fits the theory that
               | these structures are methods of investing savings. What's
               | sad is that it's not uncommon for these to sit unfinished
               | (to the point of habitability) for many years, or never
               | finished at all; hard-working people's savings
               | effectively lost.
        
       | SoftTalker wrote:
       | Terrible story. I've lived near a river, and never will again.
       | And the worst I had was just 4 feet of water in the basement.
        
         | rf15 wrote:
         | I'm living next to a river and it's been fine for decades -
         | largely because this area is full of rivers so any flooding is
         | just spread thin. I feel this is mostly a drainage problem of
         | areas where all water is channeled into a narrow area by the
         | surrounding geography? "Narrow" being a relative term here of
         | course, considering geological scale.
        
           | K0balt wrote:
           | Being fine for decades is not a useful metric, unfortunately.
           | 
           | If you want to know, look into the last time it was flooded.
           | 
           | If it has never flooded in the scope of human history, it's
           | possible that the danger of flooding is indeed not
           | significant.
           | 
           | If it has flooded, it will likely flood again.
           | 
           | If it is a flood plain, it will probably flood again many,
           | many times. Weather changes associated with climate change
           | may exacerbate this. It would not be particularly surprising
           | to see the variance in significant precipitation events to
           | double, triple , or more.
           | 
           | In any rate, climate change aside, it would not be
           | particularly remarkable for a flood risk that aggregates to
           | one in ten years to not flood for 50 years running, just as
           | it would not be unexpected if some such areas flooded each
           | year for 3 years straight. Both of those events would be
           | consistent with patterns that would be expected to happen in
           | the big picture.
           | 
           | I know nothing of your situation, but if I were living within
           | less than 100 feet of the altitude of a nearby river or sea,
           | I would consider moving. Life is short, and in my tiny life I
           | have been humanly connected to floods, tsunamis, and
           | hurricanes within my direct circle of friends and family
           | enough to internalize that these risks are not theoretical.
           | 
           | When an existential risk can be categorically eliminated from
           | your life, it is often worth doing.
        
           | peterbecich wrote:
           | A.f.a.i.k. this tragedy was preventable because the flood
           | risk was already known:
           | https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2025/07/09/us/camp-
           | mysti... Apparently this was disregarded.
        
           | KaiserPro wrote:
           | > I'm living next to a river and it's been fine for decades
           | 
           | For the non-expert reader, I must point out that there are
           | many factors that contribute to how "safe" rivers are.
           | 
           | Large parts of texas are flat, or have flat lands further up
           | the water shed. This means that wide areas of rain, even
           | though modest all get funneled into small areas. This is a
           | common cause flash flooding.
           | 
           | More over the river basins are wide and flat too, which means
           | that there isnt much to slow the water down _and_ no shelter
           | for when it comes.
           | 
           | In the same way that some costal areas have tame tides, and
           | other have 7 meter swells, or where I grew up, tides that
           | come in as fast as you can run.
        
           | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
           | One of the things about natural disasters, is that everyone
           | focuses on the big, kinetic ones, like fires, volcanoes,
           | tornados, earthquakes, etc.
           | 
           | But the one that _kills_ the most people, and does the most
           | damage, is good ol ' H2O; water. The giver of life. Even with
           | hurricanes, most of the damage is done by the flooding. Up
           | here, we had Sandy, which, I think was only a Cat 2 or 3, but
           | did 70 Billion dollars' worth of damage, and killed a bunch
           | of folks.
           | 
           | Hulu has a great documentary on the Tsunami from 2004, in the
           | Indian Ocean. It was a true horror.
           | 
           | Insurance companies sure as hell know this. Try getting home
           | insurance in an area that they deem "flood-prone" (you might
           | be surprised, where they say so). I think that most big
           | insurance companies have refused to insure homes, in many
           | parts of Florida.
        
             | SoftTalker wrote:
             | > I think that most big insurance companies have refused to
             | insure homes, in many parts of Florida.
             | 
             | Yes, and instead of making the people who choose to live
             | there bear the true cost of that choice, we instead create
             | state-owned flood insurance plans that subsidize the risk
             | for (typically wealthy) coastal homeowners.
        
         | madaxe_again wrote:
         | I live in an old watermill. We've had a "run for your life"
         | flood. Fortunately, I was well aware of the risks when we moved
         | here, and always keep an eye on the weather in winter.
         | 
         | We had about 10cm of rain fall on already saturated soils
         | upstream of us, and as darkness fell that evening I could see
         | the river rise... and rise... and rise - and in the nick of
         | time came to the realisation that we had to _evacuate, NOW_.
         | Our car had already washed away, so we ended up bushwhacking a
         | few km out in the driving rain, two very pissed off cats
         | stuffed into our go-bags. Turns out the car being gone was no
         | great impediment as the road was gone, too, utterly washed out.
         | 
         | Came back to an almighty mess - flood was a 10,000 year one,
         | the house was buried in gigantic flotsam, entire trees that had
         | been uprooted, and tumbled down the river in an enormous jam,
         | inches of mud coating every surface. The _chimney_ had washed
         | away.
         | 
         | The mill itself was fine. Three meter thick stone walls, for a
         | reason, it turns out.
         | 
         | We still live here. The year after the flood we had a small
         | earthquake, enough to send boulders crashing down into the
         | valley - and the year after that a wildfire, which reduced much
         | of the valley to a moonscape. That time, we fled with a toddler
         | in tow, as well as the cats.
         | 
         | Perhaps one day this place will be the end of us - but the
         | 99.9% of the time it isn't trying to kill us, it couldn't be
         | better.
         | 
         | We now at least have huge water tanks and a deluge system for
         | the fire risk, and a cabin 30 meters above the river for us to
         | decamp to in the winter when the flood risk grows - and a new
         | roof with a steel substructure to catch any errant bits of
         | mountain that decide to visit.
        
           | lostlogin wrote:
           | I live in Auckland, New Zealand and had never been in a flood
           | until 2023. We got something like 280mm in a 24 hours, on the
           | back of a wet month. At its peak we we getting 50mm an hour.
           | 
           | It was incredible. Manhole covers popping off, mildly sloped
           | roads were rivers with rapids and flat ones were lakes,
           | growing as you watched.
           | 
           | Caught completely unprepared, it was chaos.
           | 
           | Living near a river or flood-plain is a hard no for me, even
           | if I had 3m thick stone walls.
        
       | cjcenizal wrote:
       | Having children makes me feel vulnerable. They're like extensions
       | of myself -- if they feel pain, I feel it too. To imagine one of
       | them dying... this story broke my heart.
        
         | disillusioned wrote:
         | My wife had been pushing me to try for kids for, well, a couple
         | of years, and I was finally getting there. I always knew I
         | wanted kids, or figured I did, but then reality comes: can we
         | afford it, shouldn't we enjoy what we have a little bit longer,
         | are we sure we want to do this, etc.
         | 
         | Then, my friend messaged me one night and asked me to join him
         | at the children's hospital to take a few photos as they were
         | saying "goodbye." His 18 month old had been fighting cancer,
         | and it was 1 in the morning and my melatonin-addled brain
         | thought "oh, they must be taking him home."
         | 
         | It wasn't until I walked into the room with my DSLR that I
         | realized what he meant. In fairness, he had prefaced the
         | request with, "do you mind if I ruin your night?"
         | 
         | I am not even close to a professional photographer. But I tried
         | to take as many pictures as respectfully as I could of the
         | literal hardest moment any parents could ever hope not to have
         | to go through. At a certain moment, it became time, and I found
         | myself... stuck, in a sense. I was the only other one in the
         | room aside from the parents, but I didn't feel like I could
         | abandon them, and so I sat there as they disconnected the
         | machines keeping their son alive. It was the most awful two
         | minutes as the attending sat there with a stethoscope against
         | this tiny chest.
         | 
         | I waited until an opportune moment, and then hugged them,
         | quietly took my leave, went home, edited the photos as quickly
         | as possible, uploaded and sent them, and then bawled for an
         | hour or so.
         | 
         | Needless to say, this set back our efforts at even _trying_ for
         | kids by about 2-3 years. Because I just was stuck by this all-
         | encompassing thought: you can't lose what you don't have. You
         | simply aren't open to that sort of vulnerability if you don't
         | have children. It doesn't exist, until you form it into being.
         | And that thought haunted me. Just like it haunts, well, every
         | parent on some level.
         | 
         | And to clarify: this didn't even _happen to me_. It happened to
         | _them_, and their son. But it was a defining moment for me that
         | made it really tough to overcome.
         | 
         | Eventually, we did have two kids (after a miscarriage, of
         | course, because isn't that how it goes), and they're sitting
         | behind me watching a movie as I type this. But these sort of
         | thoughts are always there in the background. And yeah, reading
         | a story like this one about the flood just spears you in the
         | soul.
        
           | GarnetFloride wrote:
           | Being there is a powerful and supportive thing. Yes, it is
           | incredibly hard to deal with the loss of a child, we lost
           | one, too. Having someone there is a help and a support, we
           | didn't really get from others.
        
             | disillusioned wrote:
             | I'm truly sorry for your loss.
        
           | sgt wrote:
           | Miscarriages are more common than people think!
        
           | jajko wrote:
           | Sorry to hear that, no parent is unmoved deeply with such
           | stories which just shouldn't be happening, but life is...
           | life.
           | 
           | Its a mistake in general in life to get swayed and stunned by
           | the negative aspects of it and be blocked to experience the
           | positive aspects, even if some risk of harm is involved.
           | Although some healing and reconciliation is required, no
           | doubt there. You did allright based on your description.
           | Trying to play the game of life as safe as possible
           | ultimately means losing the game.
           | 
           | Life doesn't have to be always a positive experience, rather
           | an intense one compared to keeping it always safe and ending
           | up with meh story (and usually tons of regrets before dying).
           | My philosophy only, but I really think it should be pretty
           | much universal.
           | 
           | Also yes miscarriages are very common, we had one, and so did
           | basically all couples in our circle in various phases. I take
           | it as a defense mechanism of woman's body, figuring out it
           | wouldn't work out later so aborting the mission (at least
           | under normal circumstances). One was very brutal (in 37th
           | week, basically a stillbirth and woman still had to go
           | through whole birth process), a proper traumatic experience
           | that leaves permanent scars on souls of parents. But still,
           | after mourning one has to get up and keep moving even if
           | feeling empty and powerless, thats life.
        
             | binary132 wrote:
             | "Well sometimes your kids just die, that's life" isn't
             | really the most uplifting response to that.
        
               | throwway120385 wrote:
               | That's one of those things that's just hard to be
               | uplifting about.
        
               | jajko wrote:
               | You want to hear empty phrases like typical 'thoughts and
               | prayers' that help absolutely nothing and are overused to
               | the point of losing any value, just so that writer feels
               | for 5s better about themselves? Internet is chock full of
               | those from all those me-participating-too people.
               | 
               | What I wrote is unfortunately true, and brutal. Don't
               | think I didn't cry for those babies who never stood the
               | chance, both ours and other's. But eventually you have to
               | get up, the only other alternative to this is far worse.
               | So I did, and so did my wife, and all the other parents
               | affected. Life goes on and doesn't care about your
               | personal woes.
               | 
               | We live in extremely safe times compared to how things
               | looked even 150 years ago, 40-50% of kids didn't survive
               | to age 5 and deaths during even normal pregnancies were
               | very common. Go read a bit about that if you feel like I
               | talk extreme or are an outlier.
        
               | foobarian wrote:
               | > We live in extremely safe times compared to
               | 
               | This sentence in a HN article from a day ago caught my
               | eye [1][2].
               | 
               | > Second, between the mid-1930s and mid-1950s, the US
               | maternal death rate fell by 94 percent, according to
               | Sarygulov and Arslanagic-Wakefield. Early antibiotics in
               | the 1930s, followed by the mass production of penicillin
               | in the 1940s, "drove down incidences of sepsis, [which
               | were] responsible for 40 percent of maternal deaths at
               | the time, and made caesarean sections safer," they write.
               | 
               | 94 percent!
               | 
               | [1] https://www.derekthompson.org/p/what-caused-the-baby-
               | boom-wh...
               | 
               | [2] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=44572527
        
           | lordnacho wrote:
           | There were three deaths in my family over a 10 month period.
           | Both my parents and my cousin.
           | 
           | I still felt like it was worse when, prior to this, I
           | attended the funeral of a little girl from my kid's school.
           | Tiny coffin, painted with horses. All the kids having their
           | first experience with death. The impossibility of saying
           | anything useful to the parents at the reception afterwards.
        
         | gora_mohanty wrote:
         | The story was powerfully honest, but I think it also concludes
         | that love is as powerful as death. Death will come for all of
         | us, and instead of trying to fight against it, it might make
         | sense to try and understand what it is, and what it also
         | brings. If we fear death so much, it is often because that fear
         | has stopped us from truly living while we are still alive.
         | 
         | A wonderful novella in this context. Hard science fiction in
         | one respect, with correct physics, but also literature in my
         | opinion: https://raley.english.ucsb.edu/wp-
         | content/uploads/Reading/Ch...
        
         | isolli wrote:
         | It's also harder to protect them as well as yourself, adding to
         | that sense of vulnerability.
        
         | throw0101d wrote:
         | > _Having children makes me feel vulnerable. They're like
         | extensions of myself -- if they feel pain, I feel it too._
         | 
         | Once heard the observation that _you 're only as happy as your
         | saddest child_.
        
         | bwb wrote:
         | I can't remember where, but somewhere I heard that before kids
         | you live with your heart inside you, and after you have kids
         | you live without heart out in the world.
        
         | alecco wrote:
         | https://www.statista.com/statistics/1041693/united-states-al...
         | 
         | Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings
         | total obliteration.
         | 
         | Our ancestors had families during wars and famines. In the case
         | of my family, that wasn't that many generations ago.
        
       | giancarlostoro wrote:
       | Theres videos from different people as the flooding started live.
       | It's WILD to watch what happens in a short span of time. We're
       | talking under 30 minutes I think before it starts overtaking a
       | bridge. The water will sweep you up and drag you around too, the
       | random debris is what's fatal.
        
         | anonymars wrote:
         | I watched the first couple minutes of this video (certainly
         | wasn't going to watch 40 minutes) then skipped ahead in chunks,
         | thinking it was clips from different locations.
         | 
         | Then I scrubbed around and realized, no, it was the same place,
         | which left me stunned.
         | 
         | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0kYjiTEDqtw
         | 
         | Make sure to watch the last 3-5 minutes or so for the cherry on
         | top. Then I recommend skipping back to the beginning to really
         | drive home how insane this was.
         | 
         | I will never again be cavalier about flash flood warnings.
        
           | giancarlostoro wrote:
           | That's the video! I didn't have the link, so thank you for
           | that.
        
       | komali2 wrote:
       | > Alissa would tell me, five days later, that Rosemary wanted to
       | play "I spy" while they waited in the tree.
       | 
       | I can't imagine a more grim version of this game as the
       | floodwaters of the Guadalupe recede below you.
        
       | Theodores wrote:
       | What astounds me is how quickly America moves on from
       | environmental catastrophes. As an example, a huge part of Florida
       | was pretty much devastated earlier this year but now you would
       | never know. The electricity and other services were back up in
       | days and all evidence of destroyed buildings gone as if the trash
       | was just collected.
       | 
       | If a similar extreme weather event hit the UK, that would be all
       | you would hear about for months and there would be no instant
       | clear up. The populace would be deeply traumatised and would not
       | move on from the tragedy. America is different, resilient and it
       | is rare for articles like this one to make the light of day.
        
         | morsch wrote:
         | I'm not sure that a country being "resilient" in that manner is
         | a good thing. It's callous towards the individuals involved,
         | who may not be as quick to move on, emotionally or otherwise.
         | And moving on quickly doesn't exactly encourage learning from
         | tragedy, which really is its only upside.
        
         | gkanai wrote:
         | Japan is similar in terms of moving on from environmental
         | catastrophes. Due to it's geographic location, the number and
         | severity of earthquakes and tsunamis not to mention the regular
         | stuff like wildfires, flooding etc. there's just a lot of
         | devastation and loss. Japan does memorialize the larger events
         | of course and there's public memorials at annual schedules,
         | etc.
        
           | bell-cot wrote:
           | Add Japan's volcanoes:
           | 
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Natural_disasters_in_Japan#Lis.
           | ..
           | 
           | At least 3 of those are active calderas, with histories of
           | producing VEI 7 eruptions: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Natu
           | ral_disasters_in_Japan#VEI...
           | 
           | A select quote:
           | 
           | > Aira caldera is surrounded by the major city of Kagoshima
           | which has a population of more than 900,000. Residents do not
           | mind small eruptions because they have measures in place for
           | protection. For example, school students are required to wear
           | hard helmets for protection against falling debris.
        
         | notTooFarGone wrote:
         | Resilience and foolishness are very close together. I can't
         | imagine living in a place where you have to rebuild every X
         | years when you can just move somewhere else. The people are
         | just used to it.
         | 
         | This will get worse and at some point you have to ask if the
         | areas are actually habitable or if it's just a colossal waste
         | of resources to live there.
        
         | thelastgallon wrote:
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Flood_Insurance_Progr...
         | 
         | As of August 2017, the program insured about 5 million homes
         | (down from about 5.5 million homes in April 2010), the majority
         | of which are in Texas and Florida.[4][5] The cost of the
         | insurance program was fully covered by its premiums until the
         | end of 2004, but it has had to steadily borrow funds since,
         | primarily due to Hurricane Katrina and Hurricane Sandy,
         | accumulating $25 billion of debt by August 2017.[4][6] In
         | October 2017, Congress cancelled $16 billion of NFIP debt,
         | making it possible for the program to pay claims. The NFIP owes
         | $20.525 billion to the U.S. as of December 2020.
        
         | thelastgallon wrote:
         | Directly from their website: https://www.fema.gov/flood-
         | insurance. This encourages everyone to build in places that
         | shouldn't be built in the first place.
         | 
         | "Floods can happen anywhere -- just one inch of floodwater can
         | cause up to thousands of dollars' worth of damage. Most
         | homeowners insurance does not cover flood damage. Flood
         | insurance is a separate policy that can cover buildings, the
         | contents in a building, or both, so it is important to protect
         | your most important assets -- your home, your business, your
         | possessions.
         | 
         | The NFIP provides flood insurance to property owners, renters
         | and businesses, and having this coverage helps them recover
         | faster when floodwaters recede. The NFIP works with communities
         | required to adopt and enforce floodplain management regulations
         | that help mitigate flooding effects.
         | 
         | Flood insurance is available to anyone living in one of the
         | 22,600 participating NFIP communities. Homes and businesses in
         | high-risk flood areas with mortgages from government-backed
         | lenders are required to have flood insurance."
        
       | MichaelRo wrote:
       | Quite a few people live near riverbeds, if not all of them. I
       | mean like, it was one of the basic requirements of a settlement
       | to have some flowing water source nearby.
       | 
       | And while not directly on the river bed, I've seen my share of
       | swollen rivers in all places I lived. My grandparents had a house
       | at the edge of the village, the river was some 200 meters from it
       | and much lower but a few times with heavy raining, the garden was
       | flooded and water nearly got to the house. I recall watching in
       | awe from uphill the raging torrent and wondering how the funk
       | could it have gotten so big from the original peaceful river.
       | 
       | Right now, I live downstream of a 100 meters tall water dam
       | holding 200 hectares (500 acres) of lake. If that dam breaks,
       | it's lights out for many. You forget about it but shit happens:
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vajont_Dam
        
         | actionfromafar wrote:
         | And sometimes shit is made to happen:
         | https://www.pbs.org/newshour/world/russia-shells-flooded-ukr...
        
         | dylan604 wrote:
         | Watch any movie with the settlers moving out west, and you'll
         | see them all right next to a river. It all makes sense as
         | nobody likes carrying water far
        
       | NoProfession wrote:
       | The mix of terrifying immediacy and raw loss is haunting,
       | especially when you hear about people literally being swept away
       | from shelters they trusted.
       | 
       | It's a stark reminder that robust early warning isn't just
       | technology, it's life or death and the costs of underfunding
       | those systems aren't hypothetical.
        
       | phendrenad2 wrote:
       | One of the consequenes of our population growth, combined with
       | our willingness to allow NIMBYs to dictate our housing policy, is
       | that more and more new houses are built in areas that regularly
       | experience major natural disasters. And if that isn't enough of a
       | tragedy, these plots of land are treated as valuable when they
       | really aren't, leading to people sinking big chunks of their net
       | worth into what is objectively a liability.
        
         | nop_slide wrote:
         | This was a vacation house. It had nothing to do with
         | building/density/urbanism/policy. Its purpose was to be by the
         | water.
         | 
         | I am a fellow urbanist and while I see where you're coming from
         | this doesn't apply at all to this situation. There's a quote in
         | the article talking about how the grandparents chose this house
         | specifically for the summer memories.
        
         | pixl97 wrote:
         | Eh, there are two conflicting things here.
         | 
         | The land is valuable as entertainment space. Such as temporary
         | camping, hiking, fishing, and other outdoor activities. It is
         | quite beautiful land.
         | 
         | Conversely there are also plots of land that are not valuable
         | along the water where there is little natural beauty which
         | leads to lower land prices, hence people setting up things like
         | mobile homes and RVs as places to live that are less expensive
         | options.
        
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