[HN Gopher] Flounder Mode - Kevin Kelly on a different way to do...
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       Flounder Mode - Kevin Kelly on a different way to do great work
        
       Author : latentnumber
       Score  : 308 points
       Date   : 2025-07-03 15:18 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | pclowes wrote:
       | This was a breath of fresh air.
       | 
       | The tech sector has grown and changed so much. It has gotten much
       | more "professional" which is arguably good but it this in turn
       | promotes a fair amount of "corporate stooge" behavior. I am
       | guilty here for sure, it is really easy to focus on levels, promo
       | packets, OKRs, especially as you age and responsibility grows and
       | forget what make this industry amazing in the first place.
       | 
       | Good reminder to focus on direction and interests and what you
       | feel should be built. Reminds be a bit of the opening section of
       | "The Art of Doing Science and Engineering" which I only came
       | across because I liked other Stripe press books.
       | 
       | You also meet more interesting and passionate people if you pick
       | a direction vs a destination.
        
         | zebriez wrote:
         | Brie, author of the profile here. Funny you mention Art of
         | Doing Science and Engineering. There was a footnote to You and
         | Your Research in an early draft but it hit the cutting room
         | floor in edits. (Also, I helped get Stripe Press off the
         | ground-including tracking down rights to Art of Doing Science
         | and Engineering-so it warms my heart to hear that's how you
         | first came to the essay/speech).
        
           | pclowes wrote:
           | Thank you for all your work! I have several Stripe Press
           | books, especially enjoyed Revolt of the Public and Pieces of
           | the Action.
        
           | coffeemug wrote:
           | When I met you at Stripe you seemed to me the person with
           | strategic foresight and iron discipline-- the kind that gets
           | endless opportunities without even trying. I was hopelessly
           | floundering by comparison, and not in a good Kevin Kelly way.
           | I don't know if people will think of you in 300 years (the
           | day is young!) but you were definitely a role model for what
           | discipline and great execution look like.
        
           | ashwinsundar wrote:
           | I always wondered why Stripe Press was a thing. Why was a
           | financial services company publishing books about the lives
           | of great engineers? I'm very happy you did though, the books
           | themselves are a great read, not to mention they are very
           | beautiful. I really liked "The Dream Machine" in particular
           | 
           | Why did you want to start Stripe Press in the first place?
           | How did you get the support to do it?
        
           | chr15m wrote:
           | Thanks for sharing this, great article!
           | 
           | You describe a way of living that is probably much more
           | common than the ramen scurvy CEO lifestyle, but it doesn't
           | get written about because people want to read about financial
           | success and winning at zero sum games.
           | 
           | The typical "success" archetype is often at the peak of some
           | hierarchy (e.g. CEO) where the vast majority in the game
           | literally cannot occupy the top positions. So in those
           | situations most participants are losers. Sounds like you
           | found a way to quietly opt out of that framing of success
           | e.g. in your time at Stripe.
           | 
           | Thank you for normalizing shiny object syndrome floundering!
        
       | cjbohlman wrote:
       | Really enjoyed reading this article, thank you!
       | 
       | Reminds me a lot of Ryan Norbauer's writings
       | (https://ryan.norbauer.com/journal/the-outsider-option-why-i-...)
       | on why he sold half his company and the satisfaction he got from
       | being able to focus on doing the work that he considered fun.
       | 
       | I hope to engage my interests and hobbies in this way, super
       | thankful that I have the opportunity to try.
        
       | AIorNot wrote:
       | This so much! great article and Kelly sounds like the type of
       | person I would love to meet..
       | 
       | - having just endured time in a startup that was all about PMF,
       | metrics and the 'growth flywheel', that pushed aside human
       | intuition and creativity in place of 'winning'. It's indeed such
       | a waste of humanity that the Reid hoffman's and Bezos's of the
       | world can push inhuman cultural tropes of "winning" over our
       | humanity. Just who is winning, the board, the VCs certainly not
       | the person who loses his soul? On top of that, in today's world
       | AI Slop and social media and lunatic linkedin influencers pushing
       | those same memes hyped to eleven by AI tools, relentlessly on
       | young founders and engineers via push notifications. day and
       | night -what message do we deliver to ourselves?.
       | 
       | Amazon for all its technical chops and innovation and LinkedIn
       | are anti-patterns in that regard. Do not follow.
       | 
       | Also, its too bad that silicon valley is so ageist that the
       | lessons and wisdom of the older generation tend to get forgotten
       | or cast aside-wish that we could at least take advantage of
       | capitalism in our culture instead of it taking advantage of us
       | 
       | When we lose the pleasure of finding things out, going with our
       | passions and intution and lose our love of creativity and
       | invention, curiosity, patience and empathy we loose who we are as
       | a human in society
        
       | dannyobrien wrote:
       | Just after I took on my new role, I wrote to Kevin Kelly and
       | asked if I could meet him (I assumed he wouldn't know who I was,
       | even though we've met informally, but he did). I wanted to talk
       | to him about talking about how to be optimistic about technology.
       | At my heart, I still remain positive about the contributions and
       | opportunities of technology, but I've increasingly struggled to
       | know how to convey, qualify or transmit that. He immediately
       | accepted, I visited him in his tower, and we had a great,
       | sprawling conversation. Like this author, he renewed my
       | confidence in that framing, and the importance of it existing in
       | the world. That single conversation has kept me going more than
       | anything else over the last three or so years.
       | 
       | I realise in reading this, that I never wrote after the fact to
       | say thanks for that: so, thanks, KK, for everything.
        
         | flir wrote:
         | Since you're here, can I ask if you're still writing/publishing
         | anywhere? Long-time fan.
         | 
         | (Alternative comment: I think oblomovka's down).
        
           | dannyobrien wrote:
           | i am! oblomovka runs off a machine on my desk, which tends to
           | crash whenever I walk out of my house, like today. However,
           | this is an excellent notification that I'm now writing enough
           | to maybe make it a bit more resilient.
           | 
           | (For real dannyobrien completists, I also write small more
           | regular email newsletter at https://buttondown.com/dannyob of
           | my work within the Filecoin Extended Cinematic Universe
           | (which includes IPFS, libp2p, iroh, Bluesky, Spritely
           | Institute, Guardian Project, Internet Archive, Prelinger
           | Archive, DWeb Community, Foresight Institute, EFF, Muckrock,
           | etc see https://ffdweb.org/projects ,
           | https://fil.org/ecosystem-explorer , https://directory.plnetw
           | ork.io/projects?focusAreas=Digital+H... ). It's pretty lowkey
           | though.
        
             | flir wrote:
             | Many thanks for the links, I'll dig into them.
             | 
             | > oblomovka runs off a machine on my desk, which tends to
             | crash whenever I walk out of my house
             | 
             | Your essay on moving to the edge when everyone else is
             | moving to the centre had a big effect on me at the time. I
             | think it was prescient.
        
               | dannyobrien wrote:
               | though those crashes show the limitations!
        
       | egypturnash wrote:
       | Is this a story about Kevin Kelly or is this an autobiography? It
       | purports to be the former but it's largely about the author's
       | work history. It sort of gestures vaguely at being an interview
       | with Kevin but there's only about four paragraphs in the entire
       | article that contain quotes from him in response to things the
       | author asked, and most of these are about his collection of
       | knick-knacks.
       | 
       | I kept on waiting for a series of questions that acted as
       | springboards for long responses from Kelly that included him
       | talking about the value of an approach to work that he calls
       | "flounder mode" but they never came; the only appearance of
       | "flounder" is in the title. It's an extended intro to an
       | interview that never actually comes. You talked with Kelly all
       | day and hooray, great for you meeting one of your idols! But you
       | barely tell us a single thing he said.
        
         | deepGem wrote:
         | I first thought this is about Kevin Kelly. Then somewhere
         | midway I thought I was reading an autobiography. It was only
         | towards the latter half that I realized this is the author
         | talking about Kevin Kelly and visiting his house.
         | 
         | Even though the language is very simple, the writing is quite
         | convoluted.
        
         | ashwinsundar wrote:
         | If you want a list of quotes by Kevin Kelly, I'm sure they are
         | just a Google search away. Sometimes, the reader has to do a
         | little work - in this case, to determine what 'Flounder' means.
         | Perhaps it means just that, which is to fumble around
         | awkwardly, kinda like a fish out of water? It's kind of a murky
         | word, and we don't really know how to use it in a sentence. It
         | actually matches the whole tone of the article pretty well,
         | especially when the author talks about how they may have made a
         | huge mistake with their career by bouncing around and trying
         | whatever seems interesting.
        
         | zombiwoof wrote:
         | K I thought I was crazy but you nailed it . What did I just
         | read
        
           | TheOtherHobbes wrote:
           | Perhaps the author decided to demonstrate the point instead
           | of writing about it.
        
         | zem wrote:
         | it's an autobiography with the lens of "here's how my
         | philosophy of life has been influenced by kelly". I found it
         | more interesting than your summary led me to expect!
        
         | jollyllama wrote:
         | He seems like a really cool guy but I also was hoping for a
         | definition of "flounder mode".
        
         | tgsovlerkhgsel wrote:
         | I'm glad I threw that wall of text into an LLM for a summary
         | before wasting my time reading it only to be annoyed that the
         | concept is never explained.
        
       | gleenn wrote:
       | "G-Chat with Charleton, in which he would interview Google
       | executives while sitting with them in a two-person snuggie." What
       | a sight that must have been haha
        
       | blendo wrote:
       | He's quite religious:
       | 
       | https://www.christianitytoday.com/2011/07/geektheologian/
        
         | yeeetz wrote:
         | Many successful American tech founders and entrepreneurs have
         | strong religious or spiritual beliefs -- I believe it's part of
         | the unique competitive advantage and edge in this industry
        
           | Quarrel wrote:
           | Many successful American tech founders and entrepreneurs
           | don't have strong religious or spiritual beliefs. Both are
           | true.
           | 
           | I think finding self-motivation in life is important,
           | particularly for entrepreneurs, but there are many sources.
           | 
           | I've never thought the SV / San Fran scene was particularly
           | religious. I'd have guessed religion was under-represented
           | there compared to the rest of the US.
        
             | iddan wrote:
             | Spirituality doesn't have to be religion and most certainly
             | not an Abrahamic religion.
        
               | TheOtherHobbes wrote:
               | There's often more overlap with plain old Prosperity
               | Gospel Protestantism than many people realise -
               | especially in the sense that the definition of success is
               | likely to be narrow, material, and individual.
               | 
               | There's usually a lot more "I'm entitled to love and
               | money and I will wish them into existence for me
               | personally" than "I think everyone should have good
               | affordable public healthcare, so I will work hard towards
               | making that happen."
        
             | corry wrote:
             | As an outsider but someone who spent a fair bit of time
             | there in the tech scene, it seems like there's a really
             | interesting piece waiting to be written about the
             | juxtaposition of SF/SV culture (tech hedonism,
             | psychedelics, affluence, utopian thinking, dislike of
             | authority, social justice) and a seeming rise in leaders
             | being openly religious (usually Christian).
             | 
             | Or maybe it was always there and now it's just more obvious
             | since you can scroll a big name VC's IG account and see him
             | posting Bible verses from his SoMa office.
             | 
             | I find it actually kind of nice that these things are
             | mixing.
             | 
             | Maybe the world is poorer if people with different
             | metaphysical beliefs completely self-segregate into closed
             | communities, especially during these times of great change
             | where our understanding of consciousness, physics, AI, and
             | everything else is rapidly undermining a lot traditional
             | positions on both sides of the aisle.
        
           | 01HNNWZ0MV43FF wrote:
           | I wonder what the correlation / causation is on that versus
           | having a supportive family and community.
           | 
           | That is, if you took someone who's an atheist, would making
           | them religious (left as an exercise to the reader) make them
           | measurably more successful? Or is it that people who already
           | have supportive families tend to come from religious
           | families, and tend to inherit their parents' religion?
        
             | robertritz wrote:
             | As someone who isn't particularly religious, but grew up in
             | a religious household, and as someone married to a very
             | religious person (different religions), I believe it's all
             | about outlook.
             | 
             | Religion tends to give you several quite positive beliefs
             | about the world that aren't entirely logical. Things like
             | karma, the golden rule, belief in a plan, etc.
             | 
             | Generally speaking I also believe that religious people are
             | more willing to trust and forgive. These are all pretty
             | positive things.
             | 
             | And finally I believe religious people have a higher sense
             | of duty to others, but the better term is probably
             | responsibilism.
        
             | hiAndrewQuinn wrote:
             | An atheist's principles usually have to be deduced at the
             | source, by e.g. talking to the atheist. This isn't hard,
             | but it does take time. It usually doesn't scale to other
             | atheists.
             | 
             | A moderately devout Christian's principles are likely ones
             | you already know in some low resolution through cultural
             | osmosis. This is reason enough to suspect that, ceteris
             | paribus, people will prefer to engage in voluntary trade
             | with the Christian over the atheist. It is less because of
             | the Christianity itself, than because trying to follow a
             | known standard for good conduct reduces transaction costs.
        
         | panza wrote:
         | What a nice companion piece to the article. KK is full of good
         | vibes.
        
       | kaiwenwang wrote:
       | As a young person in the United States, the main concern is that
       | if you aren't one of the greatest at what you do, you'll be
       | doomed to a life of increasing poverty: food derived from
       | vegetable oils and chemically bleached wheat, apartments of grey
       | laminate flooring and concrete, crime, people who derive their
       | actions from social media, a 60 minute commute---as the real
       | world: nature, people who are present, quality food, becomes
       | increasingly out of reach.
        
         | chr15m wrote:
         | "the greatest at what you do" is by definition a zero sum
         | framing that will lead 99.999% of participants to view their
         | lives as a failure. It is literally madness to make this your
         | goal.
         | 
         | The alternative is to choose to be very good at what you do,
         | which has a good chance of success if you try hard at something
         | you care about.
        
           | kaiwenwang wrote:
           | I feel like very good isn't enough as employers want the best
           | candidates but not the average candidates, and if you're sort
           | of in the middle then the so-so companies don't want you
           | either because they think you'll leave.
           | 
           | Something about the increased social stratification of our
           | times, which also has to do with increased transportation and
           | communication.
           | 
           | Might also depend on your locale. Plumber in Germany might be
           | better than SWE in Texas.
        
             | chr15m wrote:
             | Hiring is not a zero sum game (growth of the
             | company/economy through good hiring means more positions
             | are created). I've hired software developers before and
             | what I was looking for was somebody who commits code that
             | works and is good quality. I don't care about their ranking
             | on some imaginary programmer hierarchy. You probably don't
             | want to work at a company where they do.
        
               | kaiwenwang wrote:
               | No, not a fan of Leetcode either, nor imaginary measures
               | of social prestige.
               | 
               | We may not necessarily disagree with any of each other's
               | points, but lack of mutual context and having different
               | lived experience makes our words have different meaning.
        
               | chr15m wrote:
               | Yeah true. Thank you.
        
               | raddan wrote:
               | Not to mention that motivated humans are amazing learning
               | machines. The supposed trend of replacing entry-level
               | programmers with AI is pure insanity. Sure, code of
               | indeterminate quality (let's assume for a moment that it
               | is good) will get written. But a company is its people,
               | and you are shutting the door to new ideas. I can't tell
               | you how many times I've seen the neophyte, who was maybe
               | considered a bit of a dope after they were hired, in
               | their second or third year stumble on a great idea that
               | energizes everybody. People can change. A good
               | organization recognizes this and nurtures them so that
               | both change for the better.
        
             | hiAndrewQuinn wrote:
             | >employers want the best candidates but not the average
             | candidates,
             | 
             | This is just flatly false. Employers want candidates at all
             | ability levels _given a competitive price_.
             | 
             | You can be pretty bad at your job and still have a steady
             | stream of work if you're cheap, for example. The Hacker
             | News crowd loves to poop on these guys because we are
             | almost by definition a quasi-professional platform, but we
             | are far from the median take on this.
             | 
             | >Might also depend on your locale. Plumber in Germany might
             | be better than SWE in Texas.
             | 
             | If you truly believe this, and think the difference is
             | substantial, make a 5 year plan and move to Germany. Talk
             | is cheap.
        
               | kaiwenwang wrote:
               | Added you on LinkedIn if you'd like to chat about your
               | experiences moving to Finland. Yes, I might've been too
               | non-specific with my wording. My communication style
               | tends to link disparate topics together, which seems too
               | hyperbole when people read into the words themselves.
        
         | pragmatic wrote:
         | Woah that's bleak.
         | 
         | You don't have to be faster than the bear, just faster than the
         | other people the bear is chasing.
         | 
         | The bar is so low in corporate America you could trip on it.
         | 
         | Just try to be halfway competent, do something useful at work,
         | read a book or two about your industry. You're already way
         | ahead.
         | 
         | Don't fall for the hacker news bs.
         | 
         | Lots of millionaires out here that never had a successful
         | startup.
        
           | kaiwenwang wrote:
           | I've tried to be as accurate as I perceive it, and the
           | descriptions of the environment are accurate to the locale of
           | most of the United States.
           | 
           | If the bar is that low, then the environment is sure to be
           | like the first place I described.
        
             | danparsonson wrote:
             | "Most of the United States"? You're covering an awfully big
             | area there - how much of it have you actually seen for
             | yourself vs learned about second hand through news and
             | social media?
             | 
             | As for the skills bar, if you're intent on being hired by
             | the likes of OpenAI then sure, you'll need to aim high, but
             | for the majority of jobs, being reasonably good, friendly,
             | and reliable will definitely be sufficient; the challenge
             | is then mainly about seeming slightly more appealing than
             | the other candidates for a position.
        
               | asdf6969 wrote:
               | Sufficient is irrelevant when the interviews are 10x
               | harder than the actual job. Employment is a competition.
               | How else can you explain the credentials arms race for
               | low skilled labour?
        
               | kaiwenwang wrote:
               | As an adult I lived in Georgia, South Carolina, Ohio for
               | internships and visited the major cities: Seattle, SF,
               | Chicago, NYC, Boston, DC, Dallas, Philly.
               | 
               | Most of the United States is suburbanized, and if you
               | want to rent an apartment near the city it tends to be
               | that gray laminate style I've described for $1500/mo with
               | roommates.
               | 
               | Most of the people who managed to have a family in a
               | major city area are doing well for themselves, prior to
               | asset and rent inflation because they have accessible
               | goods and knowledge to them.
               | 
               | I didn't even know what IKEA was until age 18.
               | 
               | Because the national system of laws and transportation
               | forms a certain culture, Costco regardless of the
               | location is the same. The STOP signs in the United States
               | are all the same. The processing of foods all follow
               | certain guidelines. There are certain stores existing up
               | to the limits of the locale, and only certain producers
               | because society has centralized so heavily. So I think my
               | claim of generality is reasonable.
        
           | coderatlarge wrote:
           | > Lots of millionaires out here that never had a successful
           | startup.
           | 
           | what do you mean by this?
        
             | WJW wrote:
             | Not GP, but exactly what he says: don't fall for the HN
             | narrative that the only way to be successful in life is to
             | found a startup and become a billionaire at 25. Carefully
             | and diligently working your way up the career ladder and
             | consistently spending less than you earn has a _vastly_
             | higher expected value than the startup life, but since it
             | can be described in a few sentences and is not very
             | exciting you will not find many influencers pushing it.
        
               | coderatlarge wrote:
               | thanks for explaining; 100% agree.
        
           | asdf6969 wrote:
           | > The bar is so low in corporate America you could trip on
           | it.
           | 
           | I talk to incompetent people all day every day but I don't
           | know anyone competent who could get the opportunity to work
           | here without at least a few weeks of studying and a lot of
           | luck. Thousands of applicants for every position and you
           | still think meritocracy matters? The only winners in this
           | market are people with no self respect and the well connected
        
         | Aurornis wrote:
         | > As a young person in the United States, the main concern is
         | that if you aren't one of the greatest at what you do, you'll
         | be doomed to a life of increasing poverty
         | 
         | In psychology there's a concept called splitting, or
         | dichotomous thinking, where a person only thinks of things in
         | concepts of their extremes. Either the most extreme good
         | outcome, or the most extreme bad outcome. They might see people
         | or public figures as either amazing or evil. The Wikipedia page
         | has a primer on it:
         | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Splitting_(psychology) But you
         | don't need a Wikipedia article or psychology concepts to
         | realize that there are more outcomes than extreme success or
         | increasing poverty.
         | 
         | I'm fascinated by how these concepts that were once relegated
         | to psychology and therapy have started to become commonplace
         | among young people on the internet. They're not seen as failure
         | modes in thinking, but rather an obvious conclusion from
         | whatever they've been consuming so much of online.
         | 
         | The comment above is a prime example. Even the obsession over
         | "food derived from vegetable oils and chemically bleached
         | wheat" is a confusing conclusion for me, someone who has had no
         | problem avoiding wheat products and eating healthy on a budget
         | with even minimal effort. The food topic is particularly
         | strange because it's not _that_ hard to learn basic cooking
         | skills, buy cheap vegetable, and cook quick and easy meals. Yet
         | I continue talking to young people who simultaneously fret
         | about food quality while filling their diets with nothing but
         | processed and fast foods, many of which are more expensive than
         | cooking basic fast meals.
         | 
         | I don't know what else to say, other than the above style of
         | thinking is, in my experience, indicative of what happens when
         | someone collects too much perspective from the internet and not
         | enough from the real world. Given the context of this comment
         | section, I can only recommend trying to reevaluate, disconnect
         | from the internet a little more, and make an effort to
         | reconnect with the real world
        
           | zub-twin wrote:
           | It is not a new outlook, soylent green--is people.
        
           | alexslobodnik wrote:
           | The binary perspective gives an excuse to give up.
           | 
           | The reasonable perspective does not. It demonstrates that
           | though agency is limited it does exist.
           | 
           | Our life outcomes are connected to our actions. For many
           | their circumstances make this an unpleasant thought, thus
           | binary thinking protect their self-image. For some that's all
           | they have left.
        
             | raddan wrote:
             | I too am baffled by the prevailing sense of doom that many
             | young people have. They certainly get a lot of messages
             | about how hard things are, and of course, one's
             | circumstances have a big effect on one's future. I am often
             | asked in my job as a professor: "if I fail this test am I
             | doomed forever?" which strikes me as so miscalibrated with
             | reality that I struggle to respond.
             | 
             | Humanity's initial circumstances, by modern standards, was
             | pretty poor! What is lacking from the modern day doom and
             | gloom is any notion of agency. You can change an awful lot
             | in your life if you identify a goal and then ask yourself
             | "what do I need to do to get there?" The common objection
             | to this line of argument is "well there are people who
             | cannot change their circumstances" and maybe that's true.
             | But I doubt that's true for most people, and it certainly
             | was not true for me. My life is dramatically more
             | interesting and comfortable than the one I started life in.
             | My main advantage over others is that I had loving and
             | supportive parents who encouraged me to dream, and maybe
             | that is a big advantage, but what we did not have was much
             | money.
             | 
             | The recurring thought I have is that, where I live in the
             | Eastern US, most of the houses, which were built in the
             | late 1800's to early 1900's, were built with what we would
             | now think of as primitive (and affordable) tools. That did
             | not stop people from building beautiful things. I have
             | learned to use those tools, and while they are slower than
             | modern ones, they work fine. It's hard not to get the sense
             | that, for all of the complaining about "I will never be
             | able to afford a house," etc, there is also not much effort
             | invested in seriously considering how one might acquire one
             | with limited means. I bought what used to be called a
             | "fixer-upper," a house that sat on the market for years
             | because of its problems, and turned it into a comfortable
             | and pleasant home. I had to sacrifice nights and weekends.
             | For years. But I made it happen, and eight years after I
             | bought it, my mortgage (which was small) is nearly paid
             | off.
             | 
             | Was I lucky? Maybe. But I also coupled that luck with the
             | motivation to actively change things. I would love it if I
             | could somehow convince people that they really can have
             | fulfilling and even happy lives if they are willing to work
             | toward that goal.
        
               | asdf6969 wrote:
               | Inequality is increasing and we're anxious about being on
               | the wrong side. It's just standard (and justified)
               | economic anxiety. We're correct to see that the standard
               | path through life is increasingly precarious and there's
               | no safety net. On the other hand, successful people are
               | more successful than ever.
               | 
               | Your students who can't graduate will have to reevaluate
               | their entire lives. If I didn't become a software
               | engineer I would have to move across the continent and
               | choose a new career. I already had to leave all my
               | friends and family behind and I'm one of the success
               | stories. Sometimes there is a solution but it's not worth
               | the trade offs and that's typically when pessimistic
               | thinking is helpful.
               | 
               | If you live in a low cost of living area then I have no
               | idea though. Those people really are just whining.
        
             | kaiwenwang wrote:
             | Feel like binary perspective is a motivation to not fall
             | into hell. If I lived in certain places in Western Europe
             | or my family was in a developed part of the United States I
             | would be fine being a tradesman or simple office job.
        
           | kaiwenwang wrote:
           | Sorry in advance if this seems rude. Going to context dump a
           | lot of stuff below:
           | 
           | My opinion is based on the real world as I've lived it. I
           | cook for myself. I highly recommend
           | https://www.centurylife.org/ for anyone else learning to
           | cook.
           | 
           | Have also deeply thought about types of cookware: from glass
           | to ceramic to clay, have experimented with clay pots such as
           | ROMERTOPF (not worth it), dutch oven is fine to pressure
           | cookers, or German cookware such as Fissler that has spot
           | welded and presents a neat design compared to riveted
           | cookware common in the US.
           | 
           | If you go to almost any supermarket (Costco, Publix, Kroger,
           | Whole Foods, HMart), the majority of foods people eat are
           | derivatives of what I said.
           | 
           | Whereas recipes in the past were limited by the locale, we
           | are now limited to the cities we have transportation options
           | to.
           | 
           | If you're in a suburb of one of the major metropolitan areas,
           | this doesn't apply. In small cities of the United States,
           | people might only have Walmart, Amazon, Dollar Generals. So
           | people have to cram into cities as the availability of goods
           | is limited.
           | 
           | There are only a few suppliers for things---there is not
           | unlimited choice from free market competition, a wall of
           | supermarket cereals look different but the ingredients are
           | fundamentally the same. I can't get good cuts of meat such as
           | bone-in shoulder easily. Nor can I get it cut at a butcher
           | because USDA guideline has limits on outside meat.
           | 
           | Food is only 3 categories: fats, carbs, or proteins.
           | 
           | Let's consider proteins: The major meat I buy from Costco is
           | the Australian grass-fed lamb import. The Sprouts has lamb,
           | but it's been sitting on the shelf for a long time. The
           | factory farmed pork, chicken, fish, and feedlot beef give me
           | symptoms of malaise.
           | 
           | Almost all processed foods are using canola oil, vegetable
           | oil, sunflower oil, etc.--the polyunsaturated fats are shown
           | to highly depress metabolism, despite what the USDA
           | guidelines say.
           | 
           | For carbs, most of the wheat is chemically bleached with
           | "Oxides of nitrogen, Chlorine, Nitrosyl chloride, Chlorine
           | dioxide."
           | 
           | https://www.ecfr.gov/current/title-21/chapter-I/subchapter-B.
           | ..
           | 
           | The wheat and the corn give me symptoms because I am fairly
           | aware of my body's reactions. Some person might be extremely
           | unhealthy and live in a slum (from my perspective) and say
           | that they're fine, and we would both we right because each
           | perspective is relative to an individual.
           | 
           | Many are increasingly unable to afford to even transport
           | oneself in the United States without a car or gasoline
           | because of the suburbanization of infrastructure yet cities
           | are increasing in price.
           | 
           | The internet affects the real world because federal laws,
           | which be written in places far away from where you live,
           | affects people's behaviors and how they can do things.
           | 
           | You categorize me as a surface-level thinker prone to the
           | emotional dramatics derived from the internet not having
           | deeply thought about the reality and nature of things, but I
           | would hope that the above comment dispels such
           | preassumptions.
           | 
           | Seemingly widening inequality and inability to land
           | meaningful jobs as a lived experience for people I know makes
           | my concerns reasonable and truthful based on lived experience
           | (young 20s).
        
         | iddan wrote:
         | I'm not from the US, but from my visits there and continuous
         | reading of the living conditions in America this comment seems
         | painfully true. As someone living in Israel I'm grateful we
         | don't live in those extremes.
        
       | mindwok wrote:
       | A very cathartic read. I enjoyed this, and I really related to
       | the author's anxieties.
       | 
       | Our economics has created a collective belief that if you aren't
       | trying to be the best at playing the game, then you will be left
       | behind in poverty. Mediocrity is shunned in Silicon Valley, and
       | the rise of social media has only inflated that idea. We're
       | increasingly checking our humanity at the door so we can be
       | great, and sacrifice ourselves at the altar of capitalism. For
       | what? So we can look ourselves in the mirror and believe we are
       | one of the special chosen ones?
        
       | cushychicken wrote:
       | There's a lot to love about this.
       | 
       | I particularly like feeling like you need permission to show
       | optimism and enthusiasm about your work.
       | 
       | I also particularly like this bit:
       | 
       |  _"Greatness is overrated," he said, and I perked up. "It's a
       | form of extremism, and it comes with extreme vices that I have no
       | interest in. Steve Jobs was a jerk. Bob Dylan is a jerk."_
       | 
       | ...but mostly out of a sense of confirmation bias. It 's nice to
       | know that there are smart, accomplished people out there who
       | share my view that Steve Jobs and Bob Dylan are jerks.
       | 
       | One thing this helped crystallize for me, in my position as a
       | nascent team leader, is the position that: "If something about
       | your daily work sucks, let's talk about it. That's the first step
       | to seeing if we can fix it."
       | 
       | This seems like - not a panacea? But a solid strategy to help
       | uncover many problems in an organization.
       | 
       | Enjoyed the read. Thanks for posting.
        
         | endymion-light wrote:
         | That's a great attitude to have I think.
         | 
         | It's definitely something that I was guilty of really early
         | into the development idea, sleepness nights, 80 hour weeks,
         | this idea that greatness must be achieved.
         | 
         | But actually, chilling out, taking time to think about where
         | you actually want to be past accolades and achievements is
         | really important.
        
       | srean wrote:
       | My first thought looking at those magnificent mellow glow
       | photographs -- how does he manage to keep all that dust free.
       | 
       | Beautiful read.
        
         | robertritz wrote:
         | Hired help. Does wonders for stress.
        
       | jebarker wrote:
       | I too would like to hear more from people with similar approaches
       | to work, career and technology to KK. However, it seems like
       | there's a large amount of survivorship bias at play when people
       | talk about just following their interests and it leading to
       | financial security and work freedom.
        
         | spyckie2 wrote:
         | It's not quite about following your interest. It's learning how
         | to take an interest in your interests, IMO.
         | 
         | Basically if you pursue your interest half heartedly or without
         | the rigor and discipline that you would under pressure of work,
         | you would probably never do anything interesting with your
         | interests. But if you held yourself to the same standard of
         | excellence in your interests that you do in work, then your
         | interests will take on a quality that allows it to stand on its
         | own.
        
         | robertritz wrote:
         | Meh I took a serious left turn after college and my first few
         | jobs. Much happier now.
         | 
         | Work on Capitol Hill for less than a year then tech outsourcing
         | then consulting. Realized it was boring, useless, and mind
         | numbing and moved across the world. Now have multiple
         | businesses, more than 30 employees across those business, and I
         | get to have fun. It's stressful sometimes but I think we've
         | kicked the stress finally (at 37). Now it's just fun and we get
         | to see what we can pull off when we want to.
         | 
         | Most people simply quit or aren't willing to do the
         | uncomfortable things. It's uncomfortable to be unbothered. But
         | I certainly didn't follow my interests. I used my interests to
         | get better at what was in front of us. Gotta pay the bills and
         | give people what they want, I just put my own spin on it.
        
           | riehwvfbk wrote:
           | Humblebrag much?
           | 
           | Do you think your employees are where they are in life
           | because they aren't willing to do uncomfortable things? Or
           | because they follow their interests too much?
        
             | financltravsty wrote:
             | Yes.
        
         | dasil003 wrote:
         | Of course there's a survivorship bias. Everyone's gotta eat,
         | and the path of least resistance is to get a job and do what
         | you're told. Finding an alternative path is much harder of
         | course, but in the grand scheme of things well supported by our
         | industrial prosperity and individualist culture.
         | 
         | If you look around you'll find more people doing it than you
         | think, they just tend to be less famous than business moguls
         | since peculiar interests are more of a niche thing but everyone
         | is interested in material success.
        
       | nathanbarry wrote:
       | I love everything that Colossus puts out. Thanks for sharing this
       | one!
        
       | joshdavham wrote:
       | I really appreciated hearing about the author's journey and
       | relating it to my own so far.
       | 
       | It was only about two years ago that I was obsessed with the idea
       | of starting my own ambitious startup and "conquering the world",
       | but I'm now moreso considering the idea that I can have a
       | significant positive impact on the world through building and
       | contributing to software in a more "pro-bono" way.
       | 
       | As kk said in the article:
       | 
       | > "I think one of the least interesting reasons to be interested
       | in something is money,"
        
       | whiplash451 wrote:
       | Very inspiring read. A non-trivial application of it if you work
       | in a fairly big org and the product roadmap is non-
       | existent/uninspiring: in such context, you will often find
       | exciting projects/revenue streams in the cracks of the
       | system/market, not by waiting for the product/strategy team to
       | come up with these exciting venues (pro tip: they won't)
       | 
       | Find _some_ interest in your current product and go hard after
       | it.
        
       | tgsovlerkhgsel wrote:
       | Gemini summary:
       | 
       | The article "Flounder Mode" on JoinColossus.com, while ostensibly
       | about Kevin Kelly and a concept called "flounder mode," is
       | primarily an autobiographical reflection by the author on their
       | own career and life philosophy.
       | 
       | The author describes their journey through various roles and
       | experiences, from working on Capitol Hill to tech outsourcing and
       | consulting, and ultimately to building multiple businesses. They
       | touch upon themes of finding purpose, opting out of traditional
       | success metrics (like reaching the top of a corporate hierarchy),
       | and the importance of pursuing one's interests even if it feels
       | "uncomfortable" or lacking immediate structure.
       | 
       | Despite the title, direct quotes and extended insights from Kevin
       | Kelly on "flounder mode" are minimal. The article's core message
       | seems to be that success can be found by embracing a less linear,
       | more explorative approach to one's career, much like a
       | "floundering" fish might move around until it finds its way. The
       | author suggests that this "flounder mode" involves an openness to
       | trying different things, even if they don't immediately seem to
       | lead to a clear path, and that this can ultimately lead to more
       | fulfilling and interesting work.
        
         | vessenes wrote:
         | Downvoted. Anyone who wants Gemini's take on this is capable of
         | getting it; what's hard is finding thoughts from other people
         | of interest. Please don't post these.
        
       | vessenes wrote:
       | Brie, great essay, and salient - thank you! I had a similar set
       | of feelings getting to know John Seeley Brown; another legend
       | albeit slightly older than KK. Reading his bio on his website
       | once just put me at ease; his interests were so varied and the
       | work he'd done was so interesting, but the through line was just
       | .. him, a person and his interests.
       | 
       | I once asked him about his career and he was very uncomfortable
       | with the idea in any sense - he was like "Do I have a career?"
       | 
       | I'd like a follow up from you in ten years, though: or maybe a
       | counterpoint about someone else: I've recently been mulling over
       | what parts of "just follow your interests" is a super power and
       | what part is just ADD/an excuse for not getting through the
       | boring parts that lead to long term impact: right now my self
       | review is I should have settled down a little.
       | 
       | Thanks again! Fun to read about you and Kevin and see those
       | awesome photos.
        
         | mathgeek wrote:
         | > an excuse for not getting through the boring parts that lead
         | to long term impact
         | 
         | Personally I don't worry too much about long term impact. It's
         | incredibly hard to actually predict what will have an impact
         | after you're gone, and the world will have forgotten about
         | approximately all of us in a hundred years or so. Instead, I
         | focus on the idea that folks happily engaged in useful work
         | produce useful things.
        
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