[HN Gopher] A Brief History of Children Sent Through the Mail
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       A Brief History of Children Sent Through the Mail
        
       Author : m-hodges
       Score  : 60 points
       Date   : 2025-06-27 20:12 UTC (2 hours ago)
        
 (HTM) web link (www.smithsonianmag.com)
 (TXT) w3m dump (www.smithsonianmag.com)
        
       | j-bos wrote:
       | There's something incredible about how much trust there used to
       | be in society.
        
         | ksenzee wrote:
         | I don't know whether it's "everyone trusted everyone" so much
         | as "everyone expected really bad things to happen anyway."
         | Like, if there's a good chance I might lose this kid to
         | diphtheria, or drowning in the river, or whatever, sending them
         | on a trip alone doesn't feel too dangerous by comparison.
        
           | wredcoll wrote:
           | I suspect this is more true than we realize.
           | 
           | I have this idea that if one of us were talking to a bill and
           | ted from 2200 or so, one of their questions would be
           | something like "so 40,000+ people died in america alone from
           | car crashes, and everyone knew this and just ignored it???"
           | 
           | It's amazing what you get used to.
        
           | Nition wrote:
           | I have a similar thought re "work sucks"/"nobody wants to
           | work anymore", where actually maybe work and people are the
           | same as ever but being at home is more entertaining than it
           | used to be.
        
             | esseph wrote:
             | People have been putting this in newspapers for hundreds of
             | years.
             | 
             | Everytime I read the phrase I just groan and move to the
             | next thing to read.
        
           | frollogaston wrote:
           | For this old timey example I agree, but from like 2000 to
           | 2025, I have noticed a decline in trust in the US. People are
           | also more trusting today in certain parts vs others, or in
           | some other countries, and it's not because of lower
           | standards.
        
             | parpfish wrote:
             | Half-baked thought:
             | 
             | when something bad happens now it'll be all over news
             | broadcasts and social media.
             | 
             | I think it's pretty well established that fear mongering
             | will skew your perception of something bad happening, but
             | something I hadn't considered until now is that it can make
             | the bad thing _worse_. In addition to dealing with whatever
             | tragedy befell you, there's a layer of judgemental shame
             | piled on top ("how could they be so careless to let this
             | happen? They must be a bad, neglectful parent")
        
           | 9rx wrote:
           | It is unlikely there has ever been a "everyone trusted
           | everyone" moment in human history, but even today we rely on
           | "random strangers" to move children to and fro every single
           | (school) day. Such trust in people isn't out of the ordinary
           | even now.
           | 
           | I doubt parents put their children on the school bus because
           | "something bad is apt to happen anyway", rather "it is just
           | what you do" without any further thought. The postal service
           | carrying humans isn't what we do these days, so it stands out
           | as a curiosity.
        
         | kube-system wrote:
         | I don't think these newsworthy stories about isolated cases of
         | this happening were in any way representative of society as a
         | whole.
         | 
         | You can today and you always could find instances of people
         | doing unusual stuff.
        
           | gwerbret wrote:
           | I think you can still get a real sense of overall societal
           | trust from such stories. Not too long ago I horrified a
           | relatively-young person by explaining how in the not-too-
           | distant past, people used to have their names, phone numbers
           | and home addresses automatically listed in a large, White-
           | covered book whose Pages were distributed freely to everyone
           | in the city.
        
             | kube-system wrote:
             | Why were they surprised? The fact that it's printed? Or
             | were they just not aware that the same information (and
             | more) is freely available on people search websites today?
             | (one of which has the same namesake as that large white
             | book)
             | 
             | Either way, I think trust now and always in the US has been
             | driven more by the urban/rural divide than anything else.
             | Even as this article points out, this was primarily a rural
             | phenomenon. When you know your mail carrier on a first name
             | basis, things are a lot different.
        
         | arp242 wrote:
         | One has to wonder how often things went wrong in the past and
         | just didn't get reported on. Or were just shrugged off.
         | 
         | I don't think people of the 19th century were fundamentally
         | better than they are today. Things like (sexual) abuse
         | happened. There was probably a lot more of it than today: big
         | taboo on anything related to sex, women couldn't even vote,
         | fewer investigative tools (fingerprints, cameras, DNA). Well,
         | it probably wasn't great.
         | 
         | Today if a child would see a friend blow up in front of him
         | people would be talking about PTSD, (life-long) trauma, etc.
         | During the war my grandfather had a friend blow up in front of
         | him. "Well, you didn't get any help in those days, you just had
         | to deal with it, haha!"
         | 
         | In the past lots of things like this were under-represented.
         | Today they're probably over-represented.
        
           | kbelder wrote:
           | >"Well, you didn't get any help in those days, you just had
           | to deal with it, haha!"
           | 
           | I can't help but wonder sometimes if that's healthier.
           | Probably better for some people in some circumstances and
           | worse in others.
        
           | morkalork wrote:
           | I think they just called it shell-shock
        
         | PKop wrote:
         | It was way more ethnically homogenous. When that decreases,
         | trust declines. See Japan now as a particularly high trust
         | modern society.
        
           | kube-system wrote:
           | Many of the highest crime places on earth are ethnically
           | homogenous. Culture is not determined by skin color. Rather,
           | Japan places a high value on the rights of and responsibility
           | to the collective good. People in the US are culturally much
           | less willing to suppress any rights of the individual, even
           | if it supports a collective good. You can be much more
           | confident that others will do what's in your best interest if
           | society will come down on them hard if they don't.
        
         | amelius wrote:
         | Huh, today children can trust their parents to not send them
         | through the mail ...
        
         | 9rx wrote:
         | From a trust point of view, this isn't any different than a kid
         | taking the school bus, is it?
         | 
         | It is really not that even that dissimilar functionally; both
         | serving to move a child from one place to another.
        
       | kurrupttt wrote:
       | yeah we've done some unironically questionable things over the
       | centuries.
        
       | ashton314 wrote:
       | I'm delighted that the first picture is of a child being carried
       | in a tote bag, and the website is advertising "Subscribe to
       | Smithsonian magazine and get a FREE tote" right up at the top.
       | 
       | Presumably the child is not included.
        
       | orthodonticjake wrote:
       | I see no rule that says an adult cannot be mailed
        
         | LorenDB wrote:
         | That has been done as well.
         | 
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Henry_Box_Brown
        
           | tolerance wrote:
           | This TIL struck like a laxative!
        
         | charcircuit wrote:
         | >Domestic packages may not weigh more than 70 pounds.
         | 
         | https://faq.usps.com/articles/Knowledge/Parcel-Size-Weight-F...
         | 
         | Adults are too heavy.
        
         | lxgr wrote:
         | Adult birds can explicitly be mailed:
         | https://pe.usps.com/text/pub52/pub52c5_008.htm
        
       | sowbug wrote:
       | Flat Stanley was mailed to California. If I recall correctly, his
       | parents saved on postage because he was flat.
       | 
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flat_Stanley
        
       | owlstuffing wrote:
       | Reminds me of a book, Mailing May[1], I read to my daughter and
       | now my granddaughter. A true story of a family on a budget who
       | sent their daughter to see grandma as mail cargo on a train. Cute
       | story.
       | 
       | https://www.amazon.com/Mailing-May-Michael-Tunnell/dp/006443...
        
         | ljf wrote:
         | It is mentioned in the article - I'll have to look out for it
        
         | AnimalMuppet wrote:
         | That book also has drawings that are at least moderately
         | accurate of some of the trestles on that railroad line. They
         | called them "rails on stilts", and that's a fairly accurate
         | description.
        
       | ksherlock wrote:
       | "Mail carriers were trusted servants, and that goes to prove it,"
       | Lynch says. "There are stories of rural carriers delivering
       | babies ..."
       | 
       | Plenty of stories about them fathering babies, too.
        
         | arp242 wrote:
         | Some very hairy babies from a very hair baby-maker, or so I
         | understand.
        
         | brudgers wrote:
         | I am reminded of Bukowski's _Post Office_.
        
       | the_mitsuhiko wrote:
       | For me even more interesting is that people found incredibly fun
       | abuses of early mail. For instance using the postal services to
       | deliver heavy goods such as brick. The transported all the brick
       | for an entire bank building in the early days [1].
       | 
       | [1]: https://postalmuseum.si.edu/object/npm_2022.2007.1
        
       | jvanderbot wrote:
       | > Just a few weeks after Parcel Post began, an Ohio couple named
       | Jesse and Mathilda Beagle "mailed" their 8-month-old son James to
       | his grandmother, who lived just a few miles away in Batavia.
       | 
       | Is there more to this story? Presumably they didn't actually box
       | up their infant and entrust it to a total stranger!?
        
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