[HN Gopher] The Offline Club
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       The Offline Club
        
       Author : esher
       Score  : 50 points
       Date   : 2025-06-25 19:42 UTC (3 hours ago)
        
 (HTM) web link (www.theoffline-club.com)
 (TXT) w3m dump (www.theoffline-club.com)
        
       | _rpxpx wrote:
       | https://www.theludditeclub.org/
        
       | larrymyers wrote:
       | These places already exist, they're your local game stores! Show
       | up, play games with other people. If you like competition most
       | host official tournaments for various TCG's and table top war-
       | games. These tournaments usually forbid devices while playing,
       | since they can be used to gain unfair advantage, so you are
       | forced to be offline by default. (Plus it's considered rude to be
       | on your phone during a match.)
        
       | GuinansEyebrows wrote:
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         | dang wrote:
         | Can you please not post snarky comments here? This is in the
         | site guidelines:
         | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html.
        
       | edent wrote:
       | Looks fun. But PS12.50 to read in silence? Am I missing
       | something?
        
         | LtWorf wrote:
         | There's one in copenhagen where you have to pay to have a
         | picnic in a public park :D
        
         | heyheyhey wrote:
         | Well, if it's at a venue, they have to rent it out.
        
       | ethagnawl wrote:
       | So, Meetup without the baggage (i.e. WeWork)? I'll take it. I
       | made quite a few friends on Meetup back in the day attending and
       | running group events in NYC.
        
       | yesfitz wrote:
       | I think there is a target market for this, and it might seem
       | silly to anyone outside of that market, but it shouldn't.
       | 
       | If you're a screen addict living in these cities, paying an entry
       | fee could be reassuring because you _know_ that you 're supposed
       | to be there. The same goes for having a non-skills based
       | activity, because you can't screw it up.
       | 
       | Compare that to a free and/or skills-based gathering[1], where
       | you end up paying with social capital (which you don't currently
       | have), and staying home with the screen becomes all that more
       | enticing.
       | 
       | 1: I help run a monthly pinball tournament locally, and we've
       | taken deliberate steps to favor socialization over competition,
       | which has been wildly successful, but there are still those for
       | whom the skills-based activity is too much. I feel the same about
       | dancing.
        
       | tonymet wrote:
       | There was a dream that was having a social life. You could only
       | whisper it. Anything more than a whisper and it would vanish, it
       | was so fragile.            -- Marcus Aurelius
       | 
       | Relationships and things that matter are spontaneous. When you
       | try to optimize them into calendars, checklists & databases --
       | they become lame and fall apart.
       | 
       | It's half the reason people aren't social. They try so hard to
       | "schedule a meetup" and the meetup becomes work so people stop
       | hanging out.
       | 
       | You're just supposed to show up at someone's house and do shit.
       | 
       | You don't make friends by agenda. You have cool experiences ,
       | build trust and develop a bond.
        
         | 9283409232 wrote:
         | Where I grew up, just showing up at someone's house unannounced
         | was a faux pas. Scheduling in advance was the only way to do
         | shit.
        
           | tonymet wrote:
           | Was it booked or was it "hey you home" and you head over?
        
             | 9283409232 wrote:
             | A mixture of the two. "Cool if I come by later" or "wanna
             | go to PLACE Friday".
        
         | OkayPhysicist wrote:
         | You're thinking about the wrong stage of friendmaking.
         | 
         | The pitch here is for getting people over the first hurdle,
         | which is being at the same place at the same time as other
         | people, and to some extent, the second hurdle, which is
         | striking up a conversation (as anyone who would attend
         | something like this is, by their presence, signalling an
         | interest in at least casual interaction with the other
         | participants). This adds people to your "acquaintances" list.
         | 
         | The next step is forming setting specific friendships. Your gym
         | buddies, your work friends, etc. Then you need to actually
         | invite some of those friends to other settings, until your
         | friendship isn't entirely predicated on the particular setting.
         | Then you need to spend enough time with that person to maintain
         | the friendship.
         | 
         | For most people, the big hurdles are the "being present",
         | "striking up a conversation", and "converting setting specific
         | friendships into general friendships" steps. Everything else is
         | pretty straightforward.
         | 
         | Casually dropping by someone's place unscheduled is typically
         | reserved for pretty close friends. That's not what this service
         | is targeting.
        
       | tonymet wrote:
       | bro i was hoping "the offline club" was a bunch of apps that just
       | worked without logins radios rest APIs and all the other stuff
       | that broke software
        
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