[HN Gopher] How to negotiate your salary package
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       How to negotiate your salary package
        
       Author : surprisetalk
       Score  : 173 points
       Date   : 2025-06-18 22:16 UTC (4 days ago)
        
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       | dtnewman wrote:
       | For those who prefer reading, this is more or less an audio
       | version of of his essay from years ago:
       | https://www.kalzumeus.com/2012/01/23/salary-negotiation/
        
         | davidmurdoch wrote:
         | Tangential: What's with the disclaimer about reading on an
         | "iDevice"? Do they struggle with lots of words on a single
         | page?
        
           | tonfa wrote:
           | It's from 2012, mobile device screens were way smaller.
        
             | chgs wrote:
             | In 2013 I was buying books on kindle and reading them on my
             | 4s just fine
        
           | hiAndrewQuinn wrote:
           | This was written over 10 years ago, when such devices had
           | much lower resolution.
        
       | Sytten wrote:
       | That reads like something written pre LLM, pre mass layoffs and
       | pre section 174. Reality is that engineers have way less
       | bargaining power that they used to.
       | 
       | Aside, as a small startup I am generally upfront with the salary
       | since if you are not in the range we can afford it is not worth
       | having a discussion.
        
         | mgraczyk wrote:
         | If you have ~5+ years of experience and live in the US, things
         | haven't changed. Regardless, negotiating matters more than
         | ever.
         | 
         | At startups you negotiate for equity instead of salary but a
         | lot of the same advice applies.
        
           | ikiris wrote:
           | Startup equity is the equivalent to the old Foxworthy bit
           | 
           | "You can't write me a check?" I said, "No, I -- a check? Hell
           | yeah, I can write you a check! I thought you needed money.
           | Tell you what, I'm just gonna pay the whole thing off right
           | now! I'm gonna be a congressman when I grow up."
        
             | mgraczyk wrote:
             | It's not really, because it's finite. You don't generally
             | dilute the options pool when you hire new employees, you
             | give them some slice of a scarce options pool
        
               | achierius wrote:
               | Sure, but there's an extent to which the the board and
               | its constitutive shareholders already expect to be giving
               | away options for new employees, and as such will have
               | allocated a pool for such purpose -- both for the
               | "standard" package, and for "hard negotiators". For
               | traditional tech startups (i.e. ones not so flush with
               | cash as OpenAI), giving these away is far easier than
               | giving away more real-world, honest-to-god cashflow,
               | because that directly drains your runway, while all
               | equity does is make your cap sheet look marginally worse.
        
               | mgraczyk wrote:
               | > all equity does is make your cap sheet look marginally
               | worse
               | 
               | But at the time the employee is negotiating this has
               | already been decided. The company has some valuation and
               | you are offering some known percentage of that scarce
               | resource. You could argue that the valuation itself is
               | the thing being manipulated (which is partially true),
               | but that doesn't change the cost of the offer to the
               | company in units of equity %
        
             | paulddraper wrote:
             | My bank account says otherwise, but it depends.
        
               | ikiris wrote:
               | So do all the lottery winners. It doesn't really change
               | how a lottery works, or the likely financial result.
        
               | mgraczyk wrote:
               | What fraction of lottery participants win, vs startup
               | employees? It's rare and there is luck, but the
               | quantities matter. You are much more likely to make money
               | from a startup and it's much more under your control as
               | an employee
        
               | reillyse wrote:
               | That's an interesting thought experiment actually.
               | 
               | If you think about the amount of money given up as a
               | startup employee you will definitely get some winnings.
               | 
               | For example, say as a startup employee you are
               | earning/being compensated 80,000 a year in equity. If you
               | bought $80,000 of lottery ticket's each year how much
               | would you win. Depends on the lottery but most lottery's
               | have a rough payout of approximately 50-70%. Let's say
               | it's 50%. So you would expect to receive back $40,000 per
               | year.
               | 
               | Do half of all startups equity turn into cash, I think
               | not. So probably more likely to make money from the
               | lottery.
        
               | paulddraper wrote:
               | Less than half of startups have exits...
               | 
               | But most startup people don't work at most startups.
        
               | reillyse wrote:
               | I've worked at startups that have had exits and the
               | employees got zilch. I think even in the startups with
               | exits the probability of an employee having their equity
               | turn into cash money is very low (also I doubt 50% of
               | startups have exits - I hear a number of 10% more often
               | and even that seems high, I'd imagine 10% of YC startups
               | have an exit and they are the most likely to succeed so I
               | imagine when you add in all the other startups that
               | percentage gets far far lower).
        
               | paulddraper wrote:
               | Skill issue
        
               | reillyse wrote:
               | I thought this was sarcasm initially, but I think on
               | looking at the rest of your comments that you are
               | actually being serious. wow. Glad I've never had the
               | pleasure of working with you.
        
               | mgraczyk wrote:
               | You are confusing expected value with probability of
               | "winning".
               | 
               | The purpose is to trade EV for a small probability of
               | high payout. It's less extreme than the big ticket
               | lotteries but more extreme than a scratcher. If that's
               | not for you, don't do it
               | 
               | Also your last point is either obviously not true (if
               | you're talking about big lottery winnings) or trivially
               | true (if you're talking about $1000 scratcher prizes).
               | More people made life changing money from a single
               | company (Facebook) than all California lottery winners
               | combined across all time
        
               | reillyse wrote:
               | I think you are confusing how lotteries work, most
               | lotteries have additional prizes not just the big grand
               | prize. There are a range of prizes.
        
               | mgraczyk wrote:
               | Pick a prize amount that is anywhere in the same order of
               | magnitude as any engineers total compensation. For any
               | such amount, there are more people receiving prizes above
               | this amount from startups than lotteries
        
               | reillyse wrote:
               | But why can't you win n smaller prizes, money being
               | fungible and all we can just tot up the smaller prizes.
        
               | mgraczyk wrote:
               | The total number of lottery winners who have won, in
               | total, an amount of say 50,000 USD is at least 2 orders
               | of magnitude smaller than the number of people who have
               | received that amount or more from startup equity
               | 
               | You are making an empirical claim that can be made
               | rigorous, it's just off by several orders of magnitude
        
               | reillyse wrote:
               | But why are you not including all the people who have
               | won.
               | 
               | Surely the calc is, the number of money gambled in
               | startup equity versus the amount of money gambled in the
               | lottery.
               | 
               | Do startups payout at .5 or above, I think not.
        
               | lazide wrote:
               | Most startup gambling is on the form of time.
        
               | reillyse wrote:
               | as an aside, I got to reading some lottery winning tips
               | (https://www.smartluck.com/free-lottery-tips/california-
               | fanta...). A real interesting hodge podge of statistical
               | fallacies and other wishful thinkings but at the same
               | time it does pull at our brains somehow. Like for example
               | even though I know a run of numbers in a row are just as
               | likely to happen as any other number I'm really unlikely
               | to actually pick it as my guess - I suppose my brain just
               | thinks I need some "balance" or the likelihood of this
               | pattern happening is low. Randomness is hard.
        
               | paulddraper wrote:
               | Of course.
               | 
               | Also...the lottery and startups work very differently.
        
               | coleca wrote:
               | Yes, the lottery has rules and governance. It's a much
               | safer bet. Startups can decide to devalue their
               | employees' shares. I'd venture that the odds are at least
               | stated on the back of the ticket with the lottery.
               | Employees of privately held startups are often sold a
               | dream of future riches that rarely happens. Even where
               | there is an exit, often even founding employees get taken
               | for a ride.
        
           | danjl wrote:
           | Startups also have more non-cash options. E.g. they can offer
           | more than 4 weeks of vacation, unlike many enterprise
           | companies. As a CEO, when I gave people 6 weeks of real
           | vacation, they would never leave, since they cannot get that
           | at bigger companies in the US. (We also _stongly_ encouraged
           | them to use their vacation, because a healthy work-life
           | balance is better for the company.) Startups also have more
           | flexibility on WFH, travel options, and other non-cash
           | benefits like providing more authority over your schedule and
           | tasks. They are typically strapped for cash, unless they are
           | not actually startups anymore because they raised $100M, and
           | just like the moniker.
        
             | autarch wrote:
             | I'm working at a mid-size company, c. 5,500 employees. We
             | have unlimited vacation (for US employees). I have taken
             | about 6 weeks every year with no issues. I made sure to
             | check that this was okay before accepting the offer,
             | because unlimited can also mean "no one ever takes
             | vacation".
        
               | danjl wrote:
               | The problem with unlimited vacation is that the majority
               | of engineers never have the guts to ask for it, just like
               | they don't know how to negotiate. Unlimited vacation is a
               | benefit for the company not the employee. It avoids taxes
               | and complications due to carryover constraints.
        
               | autarch wrote:
               | To clarify, unlimited vacation is the company policy for
               | all US employees. I'm just saying you don't need to work
               | at a startup to get 6 weeks PTO.
        
           | Trasmatta wrote:
           | Yeah, as someone with 10+ YOE, there seem to be tons of
           | opportunities with good packages right now. Companies still
           | seem to need lots of senior devs: the market looks much much
           | harder for anyone with less experience right now
        
           | 0x5f3759df-i wrote:
           | Maybe if you have 5+ years experience at FAANG or something.
           | 
           | I have 5+ years experience at a no name place and can't even
           | get an interview anywhere. Maybe my resume is shit but I've
           | tried many different versions with no luck in the last 4-5
           | months.
        
             | mgraczyk wrote:
             | You may want to try moving to the bay area or NYC for a few
             | years if you're not already in one of those places. It's
             | much easier to get a good job, then you can move away after
             | you have the "right" experience. Also follow the advice in
             | the article, in particular find people you want to work for
             | and DM them
        
             | braden-lk wrote:
             | There's been this vein of advice from the past decade
             | that's in the realm of "just work at FAANG". Always rubbed
             | me the wrong way; they make it sound so easy, lol. The
             | couple of interviews I managed to get after hundreds of
             | ghostings, I was absolutely demolished in the interviews.
             | It seems like if you get nervous doing math problems in
             | front of people who really don't want to be there (and tell
             | you to your face), you don't get to work at FAANG.
             | 
             | Just started my own business instead.
        
               | MichaelZuo wrote:
               | Clearly the advice can't be for the literal 50th
               | percentile HN reader in 2025... because nowadays there
               | are hundreds of thousands of readers.
               | 
               | And all the FAANG combined probably don't even have half
               | that many positions, with negotiable salaries, in total
               | worldwide.
        
               | rsanek wrote:
               | i mean, even if we only include Apple Microsoft and
               | Google you're already up to more than half a million
               | employees
        
               | MichaelZuo wrote:
               | Are you confused about the comment?
               | 
               | The majority of positions at any of these (except maybe
               | Netflix) are not hired through negotiable salary packages
               | of the types relevant to the post. I never said anything
               | about overall employee count.
        
               | marcinzm wrote:
               | Theres a difference between something being easy, and
               | something being achievable given a large investment of
               | time and effort. FAANG is the second. Not for everyone
               | but if you have anxiety then practice, therapy and
               | possibly prescribed medications for anxiety. I'm sure
               | there whole groups of people who mutually pair mock
               | interview to get over anxiety like this. Or that you can
               | pay to interview you.
        
               | braden-lk wrote:
               | Totally; and big respect to the people who put in
               | hundreds of hours of prep. I did leetcode, practice
               | interviews, 4.0 gpa, all that. I think the big hang up
               | for me was, no matter how many practice interviews I did,
               | there were only 4 real ones, with long waiting periods
               | between attempts. And honestly... 3/4 my FAANG
               | interviewers were really rude/late/apathetic. I actually
               | did make it to second round at Google on the third try,
               | but at that point I was so exhausted with the process, I
               | took an offer from a company that at least pretended to
               | give a shit whether I joined them or not. Had a wonderful
               | 3 years there building green-field B2C products.
               | 
               | Getting some work experience and then starting my own
               | thing was a better fit for me.
        
           | SoftTalker wrote:
           | Only consider equity if there is actually a market value for
           | it. Early stage startups hand out equity options that likely
           | will not ever be worth anything.
        
         | have-a-break wrote:
         | Honestly at work LLMs seemed to make me less productive. For
         | side projects they help but I've seen papers indicating this is
         | the case for industry.
         | 
         | We as engineers have let the recruiters and VC funding
         | brainwash us into lower salaries. Kind of looking forward to a
         | rebound.
        
           | rednafi wrote:
           | This is my experience too. All these LLMs and agents are
           | great for bootstrapping projects faster than ever. They help
           | immensely with bringing down the activation energy. So I do a
           | lot more tinkering around in multiple languages that I
           | wouldn't have otherwise.
           | 
           | That said, once the project goes beyond a certain threshold,
           | LLMs offer little more than a highly capable autocomplete. In
           | larger codebases, the current context window is too small for
           | the tools to even answer questions properly, let alone make
           | any non-trivial changes.
           | 
           | Productivity starts going down once you try to use LLMs in a
           | large codebase and expect them to be as helpful as they were
           | in a smaller one. Often, these authoritative little shits
           | will whirl you around in a doom loop and still won't find any
           | useful solution. And suddenly you find yourself having to
           | clean up the mess.
           | 
           | I'd still say the productivity benefit is positive, but at
           | the same time, the hype around these is bonkers. Employers
           | are holding onto the hype cycle to bring down wages through
           | FUD.
        
             | bluefirebrand wrote:
             | > LLMs offer little more than a highly capable autocomplete
             | 
             | I find LLM autocomplete extremely annoying compared to
             | traditional intellisense
             | 
             | It is wrong _way_ more and I don 't want multi-line
             | autocomplete, it's too intrusive
        
               | GardenLetter27 wrote:
               | Are you using Copilot or Cursor? I find Cursor's one
               | pretty good. Although they just butchered their pricing
               | :(
        
             | casualscience wrote:
             | You need to setup the problem for the llm. If I am getting
             | an error, I can normally piece together the 10k lines of
             | relevant code much more quickly than I can track down the
             | bug.
             | 
             | Llms are still a big speed boost there
        
               | roncesvalles wrote:
               | If you see an error and can't immediately Cmd+Shift+F an
               | error code or something and jump to the exact line of
               | code that threw the error, that's an engineering problem.
        
             | roncesvalles wrote:
             | >Productivity starts going down once you try to use LLMs in
             | a large codebase and expect them to be as helpful as they
             | were in a smaller one.
             | 
             | Exactly this. I've really tried to find use for LLMs in my
             | big tech company SWE job and I just can't. The context is
             | just too large, and not just the code context. In the time
             | that I can "explain" everything to the LLM, keep iterating
             | until it spits out something semi-useful and massage that
             | into something I can merge, I'd rather just do the whole
             | thing myself.
             | 
             | But it's amazing for greenfield personal projects.
        
           | JonChesterfield wrote:
           | I'm decently excited about the new world of hugely increased
           | quantity of terrible code. Not absolutely sure how to go
           | mining yet but it has opportunity written all over it.
        
         | peab wrote:
         | that's because it was written in 2012! The original essay is
         | here: https://www.kalzumeus.com/2012/01/23/salary-negotiation/
         | (Originally written: January 23, 2012)
        
           | onion2k wrote:
           | 2012! is a very long way in the future.
        
         | dakiol wrote:
         | > Reality is that engineers have way less bargaining power that
         | they used to
         | 
         | There is negotation power but only if you pass all the
         | interview challenges. Only at that point you are in a position
         | to name your number (of course you won't ask $500K when you
         | know the company you are applying to pays around $200K...
         | because you have done your previous research on that; you'll
         | ask something between $200K and $250K and see how they react).
         | Layoffs and AI hasn't change this (sure, thing, 5 years ago
         | companies were hiring more and perhaps were more relaxed about
         | this, but that didn't change the fact that you can only
         | negotiate when they want you)
        
       | buttocks wrote:
       | Life was good for engineers 15 years ago!
        
         | grepLeigh wrote:
         | It still is! I think getting your foot in the door is much more
         | difficult now compared to 5-6 years ago, similar to difficulty
         | finding entry level work in 2008-2009 financial crisis.
         | 
         | Market conditions aside, the points the OP blog post makes
         | about asymmetrical value are evergreen.
        
         | dan-robertson wrote:
         | Ok, but also engineers in the US are much better paid now than
         | 15 years ago. In 2010 the big story in engineer comp was that
         | Google, Apple, and others were conspiring to avoid competing
         | for talent (and thereby driving pay up) [1]. It was roughly
         | Facebook not being part of this scheme that started driving
         | salaries up. A few years ago the popular story was that people
         | were switching jobs because their compensation had been
         | inflated by massive share price increases (ie you are promised
         | x shares vesting over 4 years at sign on with refresher grants,
         | but the value of x shares goes up a bunch over those years) and
         | they wanted to maintain their high realised comp even though
         | shares were no longer rising as much. The only way for that to
         | happen was engineers getting paid very well.
         | 
         | [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High-
         | Tech_Employee_Antitrust_L...
        
       | Drblessing wrote:
       | Ask for $100,000,000
        
       | cornhole wrote:
       | I just ask some stupid amount of money first because there is
       | literally no cost or downsides.
        
         | testfrequency wrote:
         | I can tell you that most hiring managers and recruiters find it
         | offensive, and the conversation quickly shifts to how much do
         | we care about playing games with this candidate who seems a bit
         | reckless in suggesting a salary they know isn't realistic.
        
           | baxuz wrote:
           | I find it offensive and playing games when they won't give me
           | the ranges.
           | 
           | I've been at companies which paid me 1/2 of what some my
           | peers earned. I don't have time for these games. Give me your
           | salary ranges for the position and I can negotiate. Otherwise
           | I'm pulling numbers out of my ass.
           | 
           | The recruiter wants to pay me as close to 0 as possible, and
           | it's up to me to push back on that.
        
           | cornhole wrote:
           | hiring managers and recruiters are not people so its ok
        
             | k__ wrote:
             | Yeah.
             | 
             | The only good jobs I got directly from CEOs.
        
         | nrclark wrote:
         | When talking with recruiters, I usually decline to state the
         | first number politely - saying something like "salary isn't the
         | only reason why I'd take a job, and I always look at the whole
         | package as well as the role. I'm sure your offer will be
         | competitive."
         | 
         | On forms where I have to put a range, I put $1.00.
        
       | moralestapia wrote:
       | How do you negotiate when the position already has a fixed number
       | in there that was even published along the job description?
        
         | sokoloff wrote:
         | If there's a single fixed number (rather than a range), there's
         | probably a reason for that (might be a government, university,
         | or institute role with a fixed pay schedule, for example) and
         | as a hiring manager, I'm assuming you're applying for the job
         | as published, including the comp number.
        
         | throwaway219450 wrote:
         | Let's assume the amount is fixed. One approach is to ask to re-
         | frame the position to be better value.
         | 
         | Ask for working hours that effectively pays you more per day,
         | like an 80% contract at the same comp. If they mumble HR and
         | hours, offer to do 4x10 hour days. The magic phrase in
         | corporate is "flexible working". This doesn't solve your comp
         | going up, but you get a 3-day weekend and 52 more holidays a
         | year.
         | 
         | This one even works at intensely bureaucratic organisations
         | like universities. With grants, the amount you can be paid is
         | very fixed, but almost anything else can be approved if three
         | people sign off on it.
        
       | ryandrake wrote:
       | Patrick's "salary negotiation" piece has made the rounds here a
       | number of times, and I always have the same reaction to it: It
       | probably works, _if you are already_ a software celebrity like
       | Patrick, or some other highly sought after Captain of the
       | software engineering industry. For us rank-and-file employee
       | number 12887 's, I just don't see it working--I've really never
       | negotiated compensation significantly successfully in my 25+ year
       | career. Here's how salary negotiation usually goes if you're not
       | someone like John Carmack:
       | 
       | Them: We'd love to have you join the team! Here's your
       | compensation letter, please get back to us within the next 2
       | weeks and we'll move forward.
       | 
       | You: Thank you, I believe my background and skills would suggest
       | a compensation of $1.5X instead of $X. Is this possible with your
       | hiring budget?
       | 
       | Them: The offer is for $X and we believe it is appropriate for
       | your level.
       | 
       | You: Maybe my level should be higher then?
       | 
       | Them: Ha Ha
       | 
       | You: Looking at [website A, B, C] I see the average compensation
       | for this role is $1.25X. Surely there is room to move this
       | upward.
       | 
       | Them: We don't agree with that data. The offer is for $X. Shall
       | we move forward?
       | 
       | You: What about equity or bonus, is there any flexibility with
       | those numbers, or vacation time, or...?
       | 
       | Them: The offer is for $X. If you don't want the job, we can move
       | on to one of our other 20 candidates who are in the pipeline for
       | the role.
       | 
       | That's basically how salary negotiations went for almost the
       | entirety of my career. If your results have been different, I'm
       | kind of envious!
        
         | sokoloff wrote:
         | If you don't have a strong BATNA (Best Alternative to a
         | Negotiated Agreement), you're not going to get very far with
         | just asking.
         | 
         | "I received your offer for $X. I really enjoyed the interviews,
         | meeting the team, and am intrigued by the problems I'd get to
         | solve with them. Unfortunately, I have a competing offer for
         | $1.25X from another company and I need to make sure my family
         | is provided for. If you would match it, I'm excited to join,
         | but if your offer is firm at $X, I'm afraid I won't be taking
         | it."
         | 
         | If they really just need someone to hold down a chair, they'll
         | probably not budge. If they really want specifically you,
         | they're more likely to bend if they believe that's their only
         | move.
        
           | ryandrake wrote:
           | Basically correct. I guess my point is Patrick could have
           | saved a lot of typing and simply wrote "Have one or more
           | competing offers."
        
             | jt2190 wrote:
             | Do you consider yourself an _excellent_ negotiator already?
             | It really feels like you're trying to suggest that
             | negotiation can't ever work for anyone except a handful of
             | celebrities, even for those who are excellent negotiators.
             | 
             | Someone's already asking about your BATNA, and I'm
             | wondering if you negotiate all benefits (amount of time off
             | for example) since your story focused on salary alone.
        
               | ryandrake wrote:
               | Based on my results, I am clearly not a skilled
               | negotiator! I have found most companies to be inflexible
               | around everything, from salary to equity to vacation time
               | to health benefits to 401(k). The package is what it is,
               | and if you don't want to take it, you can leave it.
        
               | lazide wrote:
               | Sure, because you personally aren't in a place you can
               | just leave it.
               | 
               | If you don't have a good competing alternative
               | offer/option, you're not negotiating, you're begging.
               | 
               | And chances are, _they_ have alternatives.
        
               | jt2190 wrote:
               | Interesting. I think there's definitely a "meta-game"
               | that negotiation requires you to prepare in advance if
               | you want success. For example, knowing if the job opening
               | is in a "cost center" or "revenue center" for the
               | company, or how the job is funded. Clearly a well-funded
               | department can offer more salary, and a revenue
               | increasing job can pay more than a cost-savings one,
               | since revenue has no upper bound and savings is bounded.
               | Companies that have high revenue per developer can pay
               | more in general. Companies that have to compete globally
               | for talent have pay more than those that only have to
               | compete in a local market. I can go on but you get the
               | idea.
        
               | danjl wrote:
               | We're you willing to walk away if you didn't get what you
               | wanted? Or were you just hoping they would capitulate?
               | IMHO, The key to negotiating is knowing where your red
               | line is, and being willing to walk away if you don't
               | reach it.
        
               | systemf_omega wrote:
               | I can imagine many people's view of negotiation is asking
               | "Can I have X" and when they get rejected just moving on
               | with "Ok that's fine".
        
               | sokoloff wrote:
               | As a hiring manager and someone who's an employee rep on
               | the 401k committee, I can't even imagine _how_ I could
               | customize the 401k for an individual candidate. I think
               | the same is true for health insurance.
               | 
               | If someone came with that request, I'd probably be amused
               | but I doubt I could change anything.
        
             | k__ wrote:
             | I mean, they don't know AND you only need one "yes"...
        
             | atrettel wrote:
             | In my experience, some employers don't even care if you
             | have a competing offer. They will change nothing. I've
             | written about this before [1]. To me, the best thing about
             | having multiple offers is that you can at least make a
             | choice.
             | 
             | [1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43598192
        
               | zem wrote:
               | honestly I have no problem with that if they are firm
               | about not negotiating - I actually respect that stance
               | greatly and see it as a green flag. it just bothers me if
               | I am shortchanging myself working somewhere that other
               | people have successfully negotiated higher salaries for
               | and I have not.
        
               | aianus wrote:
               | This just means you'll be working with people that had no
               | other option. Massive red flag.
        
               | zem wrote:
               | or that i'll be working with people who also appreciate a
               | culture where your salary is not based on your
               | negotiation skills, and you don't have to worry about
               | making less than someone doing the same job as you simply
               | because you were less convincing or had less leverage
               | when you joined.
        
               | esseph wrote:
               | Seems like a fight against reality
        
             | roncesvalles wrote:
             | In my experience, the proclivity of a company to negotiate
             | entirely depends on how quickly they need to hire someone.
             | If the requirement is to scale up immediately, once at the
             | offer stage you're the fastest person on the planet who can
             | start working in the role, and this gives you significant
             | leverage.
             | 
             | If the company can afford to onboard someone any time in
             | the next few months, they don't need to negotiate. They
             | just need to keep the pipeline flowing until some candidate
             | accepts their lowball number.
        
             | pcl wrote:
             | I don't get the impression that his brand is based on
             | conciseness.
        
           | whiplash451 wrote:
           | > If they really just need someone to hold down a chair
           | 
           | I would not jump to this conclusion. The company might have a
           | very deliberate compensation strategy. Giving $Y instead of
           | $X to a newcomer at a given level without aligning other
           | people at the same level to $Y raises serious concerns.
           | 
           | As a company, you don't _have to_ let yourself bullied by
           | other companies.
        
             | sokoloff wrote:
             | Agreed. If they just need a chair spring compressed, they
             | won't budge. That doesn't mean if they don't budge that
             | they just need the spring compressed.
             | 
             | P implies Q doesn't necessitate Q implies P.
        
           | octo888 wrote:
           | "rank-and-file employee number 12887"s don't tend to find it
           | easy to get multiple job offers at once to use as leverage !
           | Even more so in today's climate
        
           | zem wrote:
           | pretty much, my first bigco job I made the mistake of only
           | applying to the one place (had a job already, was looking for
           | a change but without any urgency), and they would not budge
           | on salary, just said the offer was already very generous and
           | at the top of their salary band for my level. the next time I
           | was job hunting I had just been laid off and so was
           | frantically applying to a lot of places, ended up getting
           | several offers and that definitely made a difference (though
           | interestingly enough no one was willing to negotiate on base
           | pay, but they would on things like stock and signing bonuses)
        
           | entropi wrote:
           | Last time I got a job offer the hiring process took ~4 months
           | with seven steps, and I had to answer within 3 days.
           | 
           | I do not get how is anyone realistically supposed to coincide
           | the multiple offers they get. Unless you are already in an
           | extremely privileged position, I cannot even imagine how you
           | can do that.
        
             | rsanek wrote:
             | you tell everyone up front what your timeline is, months
             | ahead of time. that way, all of them coincide and you get
             | maximum leverage.
             | 
             | last job search i got 4 offers to line up that i could use
             | in negotiations.
        
             | sokoloff wrote:
             | If you're applying to Google, apply to them _way ahead_ of
             | the others...
        
             | Magmalgebra wrote:
             | > I had to answer within 3 days.
             | 
             | If you re-read the transcript, I hope you will come to the
             | understanding that this is a lie. The company is trying to
             | leverage your desperation for a job.
             | 
             | > Last time I got a job offer the hiring process took ~4
             | months with seven steps
             | 
             | Just like increased compensation, gettting the timeline you
             | want requires leverage. When interviewing I always
             | communicate that I expect an offer from a peer competitor
             | within the next few weeks - this expedies my interview
             | process. I always end up with a minimum of 4 competing
             | offers to use as a BATNA.
             | 
             | Something the article winks at here is that negotation has
             | only a small expected payoff if you've navigated your
             | career such that you're a "small fish in a big pond" so to
             | speak.
             | 
             | Someone who can barely pass a FAANG interview likely can't
             | negotiate much with Google but probably could negotiate at
             | lower tier company like SAP.
             | 
             | *edit* I do this strategy 12-18 months whether or not I
             | leave a company, it has never failed me
        
               | flatline wrote:
               | This was the standard advice 2-3 years ago when the
               | market was hot, I can't imagine this being feasible for
               | most people right now.
        
               | Magmalgebra wrote:
               | This has never stopped working for me - I interview every
               | year or so as a matter of course.
               | 
               | My experience helping others is that in a tightening
               | labor market they are experiencing "small fish in a big
               | pond" syndrome mentioned above.
               | 
               | Compensation for the bottom 50-75% of talent has dropped
               | significantly since 2021* - if you are in that band and
               | chasing the same comp you're dealing with the "small fish
               | in a big pond" situation. If these people drop their
               | compensation expectations back to 2017 levels many of
               | them will find jobs much more plentiful - though the very
               | bottom of the pool is being driven out of the industry
               | entirely.
               | 
               | * this estimate pulled from conversations with
               | engineering leaders and recruiters at large SV tech
               | companies
        
               | scarface_74 wrote:
               | Post 2022, there are hundreds of people applying for
               | every job and they can easily find someone good enough to
               | fill the position.
               | 
               | Have you tried your strategy in the last 2-3 years?
        
               | Magmalgebra wrote:
               | I have - it works.
               | 
               | I can also assure you that despite the 100s of applicants
               | hiring remains hard even with competitive market
               | compensation. Filling a generalist senior eng headcount
               | with $500k liquid total compensation can take months.
               | Many engineers have wildly inflated ideas about their own
               | abilities.
        
             | bigs wrote:
             | It happened for me once by pure chance.
             | 
             | I was looking to leave a secondment I was on, and received
             | an offer, right as the leader of the client I was seconded
             | to said we'd like to take you on permanently and we've
             | cleared it with your company, here's the offer. I used that
             | as leverage and left.
             | 
             | Otherwise, I agree, it's a snowball chance in hell to
             | coincide them.
        
             | jayd16 wrote:
             | Do the alternative offers need to actually be real? They
             | just need to be realistic, no?
        
               | sokoloff wrote:
               | They just have to be real enough for you to convince them
               | you're not taking their offer. That risks you having to
               | not take their offer, of course.
        
         | lnsru wrote:
         | I am the 12887 too. Luckily applied at the place in emergency
         | mode and was perfect fit. Negotiated +6%. Yeah! In the second
         | year it was reduced by 3% coupling my bonus to unachievable
         | goals. As someone wrote on HN: it is not their first rodeo. HR
         | knows how to attract and get to the right salary level
         | afterwards. What can I do? Swallowing is the only way. There
         | are no job ads in my area.
        
           | marcinzm wrote:
           | You still got 3% in a market that's not in your favor. And
           | likely you'd have had -3% otherwise and not 0%.
        
           | Lu2025 wrote:
           | How about extra vacation time? Does anyone have experience
           | getting it when asked (and actually being able to take that
           | time off)?
        
             | wrsh07 wrote:
             | I expect this is one where if you're coming from an Etsy or
             | Google that gives 5 weeks after 5 years of tenure you could
             | negotiate for preservation of that perk, but it seems like
             | it could be challenging depending on your batna (see
             | definition elsewhere in comments)
        
             | jandrewrogers wrote:
             | Yes, I once added two extra weeks of vacation time.
        
           | lostlogin wrote:
           | > HR knows how to attract and get to the right salary level
           | afterwards.
           | 
           | This has to be the key point. They do this all the time as
           | part of their job. You do it every few years, or maybe every
           | decade. Of course they are better at it.
        
         | whiplash451 wrote:
         | You indeed have little to no leverage if you don't have a
         | better offer elsewhere.
         | 
         | Was true in 2012, remains true today.
        
         | Ifkaluva wrote:
         | In my experience the only thing that works is competing offers.
        
         | acrooks wrote:
         | There are two fundamental ways to win a negotiation. By "win",
         | I mean achieve an outcome outside the norm, such as an above
         | market rate salary.
         | 
         | 1. Negotiate from a position of strength
         | 
         | You pointed out a couple of these, like when you have a strong
         | personal brand (like Patrick) or when the market dynamics
         | favour employees. The former is not something you can control
         | so, when the market is in this place, you should take advantage
         | of it to propel yourself. However, the former is completely
         | within your control. You can spend some time and effort
         | building a personal brand. Many people discount the value of a
         | brand and the effort spent building one, but it totally works.
         | I have marketing-savvy friends who, since early in their career
         | as juniors, spent a lot of time on LinkedIn thought leadership
         | & brand building. And it totally works. In fact, I have one
         | such friend who was recently part of a restructuring layoff
         | (i.e., not related to performance). Because of the brand they
         | built, once they posted about the layoff on LinkedIn, they had
         | 12 offers within a week all higher than their previous salary.
         | 
         | Another area where you can gain leverage is when you already
         | work at a company that wants to retain you. The only time a
         | business will bend over backwards for an employee is when the
         | conversation is about retention. To make the conversation about
         | retention you need to be completely willing to walk, and your
         | negotiating position is strengthened if you have counter
         | offers. To maintain your political capital (which will be
         | important if you stay) you need to be careful about how you
         | play this game. I've worked with people in the past who
         | approached the business confrontationally, saying "if you don't
         | give me $X, I quit" - that strategy only works once. But there
         | are ways to structure this conversation where you don't leave a
         | bad taste in anybody's mouth.
         | 
         | 2. Care about something different than your counterpart
         | 
         | Often the person you're negotiating with cares the most about
         | optimising certain metrics. You should try to spend some time
         | figuring out what those metrics are and see if there is
         | something different that makes a difference in your life.
         | 
         | e.g., your employer might be really under the gun about
         | managing fixed salaries. This is very common in a lot of
         | businesses to try to manage their headcount. So they might be
         | more willing to give you a $50k cash bonus compared to a $25k
         | salary increase. Or maybe they're more open to an extra week or
         | two of vacation vs. salary.
         | 
         | This phenomenon has been really helpful for me in the last
         | year. I run my own business, but my business is fully
         | bootstrapped, so I don't have a board or any investors to
         | please. As a result, I'm not as motivated by ARR as other SaaS
         | companies. Sometimes I encounter customers who would rather pay
         | me a 3-4x one-time fee instead of ARR. By making these deals I
         | immediately guarantee what would have otherwise been four years
         | of cash (potentially with a cancellation risk during the term).
         | A VC-funded SaaS business would almost never make a deal like
         | this, because such a deal would not have a material impact on
         | valuation.
         | 
         | Another example - I was moving recently and sold some
         | furniture. I was chatting with somebody who was an optometrist
         | who wanted to buy a few things, which I listed at $200. They
         | offered $100. I countered, asking for the right to use their
         | employee discount, and ended up getting $500 in value.
         | 
         | So you should also spend some time trying to figure out what
         | your negotiation counterpart cares about. Maybe there is an
         | arbitrage where you can both get exactly what you want, instead
         | of needing to find an outcome where one person wins and the
         | other one loses.
        
           | smokel wrote:
           | Why would one negotiate on a few hundred dollars when they're
           | apparently capable of negotiating deals worth hundreds of
           | thousands? In my opinion, the marginal benefit does not
           | outweigh the potential downside of being perceived as petty.
           | 
           | The only reasonable conclusion I can draw is that they simply
           | enjoy the negotiation process itself. I guess most of us do
           | not.
        
             | acrooks wrote:
             | That's an interesting question. I think there are a couple
             | of points here.
             | 
             | So, more broadly, you might be asking me "why waste your
             | time selling $100s of furniture?" which is a completely
             | fair question. The opportunity cost of the time spent
             | selling it was far greater than the benefit I got. From a
             | pure optimization perspective it was a bad use of my time.
             | 
             | But also I just moved to the other side of the world and
             | had an apartment filled with furniture that I needed to get
             | rid of. And I am the type of person who doesn't like waste,
             | so sending everything to the landfill was misaligned with
             | my personal values. And also I don't work 24 hours per day,
             | so it's not like this effort takes tome away from working
             | on the meaningful deals.
             | 
             | It would be reasonable to ask "why not give it away for
             | free?" In my experience, customers that pay you nothing are
             | a much bigger burden than customers that pay you something
             | (and, in fact, I find that higher revenue customers are
             | much easier to deal with on an absolute basis).
             | 
             | And then your more direct question: why negotiate at all?
             | Why not just accept the offer and move on with your life? I
             | think your guess is correct: I am a negotiator at heart. I
             | really truly love the hustle, in all aspects of life. It
             | doesn't matter whether I'm earning $10, $1000 or $100k: I
             | love making deals. And this part of my character is
             | probably a big part of why I've been successful in
             | business.
             | 
             | To your final point - the marginal benefit of negotiating
             | vs. being perceived as petty. In all of these situations
             | the audience is different and their lifetime value is
             | different. It would be foolish to negotiate with a $100k
             | customer over $100s; you're right to assume that the
             | customer might perceive it as petty (and such a move would
             | probably diminish their lifetime value). But, on the other
             | hand, if you sold something to a random person off
             | Craigslist where their expected lifetime value was in the
             | $100s wouldn't it be foolish to not try to maximize your
             | outcome, especially if it only added a minute or two to the
             | transaction?
        
         | setheron wrote:
         | If you say a number, even 1.5x you've already lost. Replying
         | with either yes (accept) or no are the only two responses that
         | work.
        
         | shepherdjerred wrote:
         | I didn't try to negotiate my first job (I was just happy to be
         | employed, especially at AWS)
         | 
         | My two jobs since I've been able to get more by... just asking
         | for more, even without competing offers.
        
         | whatshisface wrote:
         | You really have one option per scenario over a total of two
         | scenarios as #12887, and they are "yes I will take this job,"
         | and "if you want me to leave my present employer, you would
         | have to offer more than my current salary."
        
         | systemf_omega wrote:
         | You don't have to be a star programmer, fame isn't the only
         | form of leverage.
         | 
         | If you're in demand, and you're good at what you do, the road
         | is paved for you. Top companies have already set the bar.
         | 
         | Them: we offer 250k-350k
         | 
         | Me: I don't consider anything below 500
         | 
         | The answers I get vary. Some tell me to politely fvck off. Some
         | tell me they need to discuss with leadership. Some just go for
         | it because they know how hard it is to fill that role.
         | 
         | The justification is simple: why would I take a job with you if
         | I can land an HFT gig at twice the pay?
        
           | dcsan wrote:
           | You had me until HFT...
        
             | systemf_omega wrote:
             | Doesn't have to be finance. AI can pay just as well. Tech
             | too depending on seniority.
        
           | deadbabe wrote:
           | The proliferation of AI and LLMs has completely obliterated
           | leverage.
           | 
           | Don't want the job for the salary offered? Too bad. Hire a
           | cheaper person armed to the teeth with the best LLM coding
           | tools and move on.
           | 
           | Unless you're coming in with significant clout that will move
           | revenue and relations to bridge partnerships across other
           | companies, you will not be worth the extra $250k on skills
           | alone.
        
             | systemf_omega wrote:
             | That's what bottom-tier companies always tell me. Last
             | decade it used to be outsourcing. I was getting low balled
             | left and right with phrases like "I can pay a guy from Asia
             | a lot less for the same work".
             | 
             | Now it's LLMs. Same old.
        
               | deadbabe wrote:
               | Except now it's for _real_.
        
               | lazide wrote:
               | Outsourcing was and is real too. It had and still does
               | have tradeoffs.
               | 
               | LLM's have similar if not worse trade offs imo.
        
             | Magmalgebra wrote:
             | This is situational - as a strong engineer I have more
             | leverage than ever to demand ever more eye watering
             | compensation.
             | 
             | Weaker engineers and junior engineers are in more the
             | situation you describe. This is tough and I feel for these
             | folks but it is possible for many people to become stronger
             | engineers if they choose to put in the work.
             | 
             | I'd encourage you to not take on a feeling of hopelessness
             | here.
        
           | ipdashc wrote:
           | > You don't have to be a star programmer
           | 
           | > 250k-350k
           | 
           | > land an HFT gig
           | 
           | Respectfully, your perspective may be a bit skewed? OP's
           | context was "us rank-and-file employee number 12887's".
        
             | systemf_omega wrote:
             | Many people working in these companies are as rank-and-file
             | as it gets. Non existent public profile, no open source
             | contributions, no flashy portfolio.
             | 
             | Not really in the same category as Carmack
        
         | itronitron wrote:
         | I'm curious what your thoughts are on the "salary expectations"
         | question in the initial phone screen or first stage. In my
         | experience, I have never been asked that question _and then_
         | moved onto the next step in the process, regardless of whether
         | or how I answer the question.
         | 
         | So I am left thinking they are just collecting salary metrics
         | for the position.
        
           | whiplash451 wrote:
           | Never (ever) respond to this question early in the process.
           | The company is just collecting market data.
           | 
           | Tell them that the salary should be negotiated at the end if
           | the process is successful.
           | 
           | If they tell you "but we need this to make sure we're not
           | wasting your time and ours", tell them "well give me a range
           | for what you can do and I'll tell you if you're wasting my
           | time"
        
         | wrsh07 wrote:
         | I actually strongly disagree with this take and
         | 
         | 1) after reading the original post immediately linked it to a
         | friend who had an outstanding offer. She got a significant
         | raise from fairly light negotiating
         | 
         | 2) personally, I don't think of myself as a particularly
         | aggressive negotiator. However, I have been able to truthfully
         | discuss compensation using the tactics described with
         | recruiters to get leveling and comp where I've wanted it to be
         | for my last couple of jobs. Yes, I always had multiple offers.
         | That's part of negotiating.
         | 
         | More generally, though, I think spending 30+ minutes (reading
         | the piece and more) thinking about negotiating has helped me
         | build a better mental model for what to bring to the table.
        
           | whiplash451 wrote:
           | > She got a significant raise from fairly light negotiating
           | 
           | Either she had a competing offer, or the company she is
           | interviewing for has weak processes. A company yielding "a
           | significant raise from fairly light negotiating" is very
           | worrying IMO.
           | 
           | Think about it: what does that tell you about the next
           | newcomer that will come after you?
        
             | wrsh07 wrote:
             | It was a different era, she was a particularly strong
             | candidate and they had given a low-ball offer. I don't
             | think she had a competing offer fwiw
             | 
             | (Less process is normal at smaller orgs, so that's also
             | something to consider)
        
         | tptacek wrote:
         | This could not be less true and I really wish people would stop
         | spreading this idea, because it's costing other people lots of
         | money. In fact, the Venn diagram mapping "software celebrities"
         | like Patrick and expert negotiators has not much overlap at
         | all. You've never heard of some of the best-compensated
         | developers I know (and they don't work on "celebrity" projects,
         | either); meanwhile, I can think of multiple "celebrities" who
         | have gotten extremely raw deals --- one, for instance, was
         | brought in to lead engineering & R&D at a security company
         | working against organized crime, and didn't even get any
         | equity.
         | 
         | Patrick is right: compensation is much more about negotiating
         | skill than it is about reputation or (especially) notoriety,
         | holding everything else equal.
        
         | closeparen wrote:
         | L5 at FAANG and adjacent companies (Airbnb, Uber, Stripe,
         | Block, Databricks, etc) is a rank and file, employee number
         | 12887 rule. Yet it is compensated in the mid six figures, and
         | the ranges are easily more than $100k wide. Position in the
         | range depends on a number of factors, famously stock market
         | timing is a big one, but competing offers and negotiation are
         | certainly in there.
        
         | psanford wrote:
         | One of the key points to patio11's article is that there is
         | only upside to negotiation with no downside. You are basically
         | saying: negotiation doesn't work so why bother. Please stop.
         | 
         | I once negotiated a large raise at a job where afterwards my
         | boss told me that he could not have justified giving me that
         | raise on his own, but because I asked for it he was able to
         | make the case.
         | 
         | Negotiating often works. It has no downside for you (besides
         | making you feel uncomfortable) and major upsides that last well
         | beyond your current role.
        
         | spike021 wrote:
         | the people who can negotiate, especially when changing jobs,
         | are almost always the ones who can get multiple offers.
         | 
         | i'm usually lucky if i can get one offer when interviewing. no
         | room to negotiate that way...
        
         | jstummbillig wrote:
         | I would find this less confusing of a top comment, if it did
         | not ignore vital information and advice that already is in
         | Patricks piece (and apparently ignored, even after having seen
         | it "a number of times"?). To anyone agreeing with this
         | position, I would recommend giving it another read.
         | 
         | Which is not to say that this advice must lead to a raise for
         | everyone who reads it, but if your current assessment of the
         | piece is "this only works for super stars" then you have
         | definitely not really ingested the ideas offered (but you might
         | be making excuses for why that is).
        
         | dan-robertson wrote:
         | Maybe this is a stupid question, but it wasn't clear to me
         | reading your comment: how many times did you attempt
         | negotiation and have it fail in roughly the way you describe?
        
         | xondono wrote:
         | I'm hardly a "Captain", and I've successfully negotiated salary
         | increases several times.
         | 
         | The only thing you need is leverage, and yes, rank-and-file are
         | not going to have a lot of leverage at a FAANG.
         | 
         | You can't negotiate if you're not willing to let the job go
         | through.
        
         | scarface_74 wrote:
         | I'm not a captain of industry by any means but I'm very
         | credentialed in my niche of AWS cloud consulting specializing
         | in app development since 2023 - 7 years of experience, 3.5
         | years working at AWS (Professional Services) open source
         | contributions and a major contributor to popular official open
         | source "AWS Solutions" in a certain niche - and I was not able
         | to negotiate more than 5-10% for certain opportunities and some
         | I couldn't push them for more money at all.
         | 
         | My comp is good for non FAANG especially seeing that I work
         | remotely in a non HCOL no state tax city. But it's hard for
         | normies to do significant negotiations. I also have "unlimited
         | PTO" and fully plan to take 20-25 days at least.
        
         | teaearlgraycold wrote:
         | I have _never_ not successfully negotiated a comp over up since
         | I was 19. Even for college jobs I'd at least get an extra $1
         | /hr. The rest vary from small bumps up $50k extra from Google
         | without a competing offer.
         | 
         | Maybe we're just living in different worlds.
        
         | joshuacc wrote:
         | I'm not a celebrity or superstar, and I've successfully used
         | his techniques several times. The very first time it resulted
         | in $20k improvement over the initial salary offer. Another time
         | it resulted in an additional $40k in signing bonus.
         | 
         | Most recently it resulted in a modest $5k boost to the offered
         | salary.
         | 
         | But the level of success you are likely to experience entirely
         | depends on the alternatives that you have and the alternatives
         | they have.
         | 
         | (I should also note that I've never been located anywhere like
         | SF.)
        
         | g9yuayon wrote:
         | That's why Patrick said it helps to have a strong reputation
         | going in. Still, you can absolutely negotiate--just make sure
         | you have real leverage. That usually means a competing offer
         | from another solid company (ideally a competitor).
         | 
         | Keep this in mind: it's really hard for companies to hire good
         | engineers. The onsite-to-offer ratio might be 20:1 or worse. So
         | when a recruiter says they'll just move on to the next
         | candidate, they're probably bluffing.
         | 
         | But what if they do have 20 people lined up? Then you don't
         | have leverage with that company--and that's fine. Take the
         | offer if it's good enough, or walk and try elsewhere.
         | 
         | P.S., a fun anecdote: when Netflix was extending an offer to a
         | renowned engineer, he brought his PR to negotiate. Apparently,
         | it worked well for him.
         | 
         | P.P.S, always interview for a higher title. I get it -- it's
         | tough with hot companies like OpenAI. But for most places, it's
         | worth a shot. At the very least, don't aim lower than your
         | current level. It's funny how the human mind works--
         | interviewers anchor their expectations to your title. And
         | ironically, a senior engineer interview is often just as hard
         | as a staff-level one. If you're feeling cynical, just remember:
         | title inflation is real and everywhere, and plenty of high-
         | level ICs are great at navigating politics, drawing boxes, and
         | sounding confident, but not necessarily skilled at offering
         | real values like solving hard engineering problems. So if you
         | can't beat the game, why not play it?
        
       | whiplash451 wrote:
       | The main thing that changed since when this article was written
       | is that companies are _much less_ in a rush than they used to to
       | hire people, which means that a lot of mechanics described in the
       | article fall apart.
       | 
       | In particular, companies don't really look at how much they spend
       | to hire someone. They'll just wait for the hiring committee to be
       | "really excited" about a candidate before making an offer.
        
       | andy99 wrote:
       | I regularly exchange currency at the bank. There is a posted rate
       | that I can get online. If I go to the teller, they will propose
       | that rate as well, at which point I say "can I have the premium
       | rate" and they say, ok, I can give you x - something 1% better or
       | so.
       | 
       | Point is, I'm not negotiating with the bank teller, they have a
       | flow chart they need to follow. For a lot of positions with big
       | companies, it's going to be the same. There might be a path on
       | the flowchart you can access, but you're not really negotiating.
       | In some cases you may be able to break though this if there's a
       | real person (not recruiter) that will push for you, but talking
       | to recruiters / talent is like talking to the bank teller.
        
         | dan-robertson wrote:
         | So even if you're just advancing down a flow chart, the
         | 'negotiation' option is better, right?
        
       | brunooliv wrote:
       | In my experience this never worked for me for the simple fact
       | that I never had the skill and time to even GET a second offer to
       | bargain against. I wouldn't say I'm a bad developer, but I'm
       | definitely horrible at interviewing and having to jump through
       | several different steps at different companies just to bargain
       | for a higher end of the range makes me feel like either the
       | market is the problem or the expectations from companies are way
       | unrealistic
        
         | dan-robertson wrote:
         | I think expectations are often realistic in the sense that
         | companies are generally able to hire sufficiently many people
         | at acceptable prices. But I think it's also the case that there
         | are fashions in interviewing such that companies are mostly all
         | trying to hire the same subset of candidates that do well at
         | the current thing. So if you're bad at the current style of
         | interviewing it's going to be more work than someone fortunate
         | enough to do well at the current fad.
        
         | 3eb7988a1663 wrote:
         | I too have never been in situation where the timing would
         | possibly work out to get companies to compete. Some employers
         | take months from start to finish while others can wrap things
         | up within two weeks. Then you get an offer that requires a
         | decision within two-three days.
         | 
         | Sure, make an ask for more money, but I have never had any
         | leverage.
        
           | ashdksnndck wrote:
           | I found that behavior would change a lot once I had an offer
           | from a decent company. Suddenly all the scheduling/matching
           | delays and processes that supposedly were delaying me would
           | be resolved when I revealed that. It was even worth emailing
           | recruiters that ghosted me because they would respond again.
           | Also, offer deadlines are usually just pressure tactics and
           | would go away if there actually was a risk of me not signing.
           | 
           | Caveat that I haven't interviewed in the last couple years
           | and this may not be the case anymore.
        
       | beefnugs wrote:
       | The whole definition of a regular joe employee is that they are
       | working under a coercion hierarchy. There are no negotiations,
       | either you got luck shifted into a shitrole or they go onto the
       | next 20 options.
       | 
       | The only way this will ever move in the direction of the employee
       | is if some drastic change happens where more independence and
       | negotiation is an ongoing part of employment. Unless things are
       | so open to negotiation that someone can go "hey i am a little
       | burned out, but I don't want to hurt the company how about this
       | year i work 50% for 60% compensation" And there is meaningful
       | negotiation without immediate threats of replacement.
        
       | giantg2 wrote:
       | I might lose my job very soon. I assume I won't be able to
       | negotiate salary at my new job... if I get a new job. I assume I
       | will end up with a big pay cut in this market.
        
       | snowwrestler wrote:
       | Is this out of date in a few little ways now?
       | 
       | He says the hiring market for engineers is hot... is it? Maybe
       | for certain rare species of AI specialists, but for anyone else
       | the going looks a good bit tougher now than it did even a couple
       | years ago.
       | 
       | Also, he spends a fair bit of time encouraging people not to
       | reveal their former salary, but in all but a few rare cases your
       | former salary is available to your new employer via data sharing
       | service providers. The HR team at my employer now asks applicants
       | for their former salary strictly as a test of their honesty. And
       | yes, have kicked competitive candidates out for giving a false
       | number. Declining to give the number is fine, but does not create
       | any negotiating advantage.
        
         | ashdksnndck wrote:
         | They can find out your salary, but they won't know your stock,
         | which has much higher variance for software engineers.
        
       | Joel_Mckay wrote:
       | Best method:
       | 
       | 1. Get another job someplace more progressive
       | 
       | 2. Make sure they phone your employer for a reference
       | 
       | 3. Explain to current employer salary package is insufficient,
       | and you are cutting back your available hours
       | 
       | 4. Leave if they argue over something as silly as heavily taxed
       | income
       | 
       | By the time people have to have this conversation, there is
       | already a serious problem in the corporate culture.
       | 
       | Tech people usually must eventually leave if they want a better
       | position. =3
        
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