[HN Gopher] When flat rate movers won't answer your calls
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       When flat rate movers won't answer your calls
        
       Author : kevincox
       Score  : 355 points
       Date   : 2025-05-03 20:44 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | rootsudo wrote:
       | Today I learned there is a national database (for now) so you can
       | bypass and file appropriately. That is nice. I'm happy op got
       | somewhat whole again.
       | 
       | But that sucks, luckily I've been able to just do U-Haul solo but
       | lately (also facing a move) man - it is tiresome the older you
       | get.
        
         | SoftTalker wrote:
         | Honestly the best way to move is to sell or donate everything
         | and buy new for your new place. Get down to suitcases or stuff
         | you can pack and ship via UPS.
         | 
         | Yeah some stuff has sentimental value but try to get past that
         | as much as you can. It's just stuff.
         | 
         | When my uncle moved when he retired he took what would fit in
         | his car. I have never gotten that lean but I admire him for it.
        
           | the__alchemist wrote:
           | This is very situational. Many people have tens or hundreds
           | of thousands of dollars of items, especially furniture.
        
             | SoftTalker wrote:
             | He paid $14k for the movers. That would buy a fair bit of
             | new furniture unless it's really high end.
        
               | the__alchemist wrote:
               | I see many scenarios where the items would add up to less
               | than this. I see more where it doesn't. e.g.: What you
               | say makes sense for a single person who owns a PC, a TV,
               | and Ikea + amazon furniture.
               | 
               | Now imagine a couple or family, who's been (criticize the
               | capitalist/consumer culture or not) buying nice wood
               | furniture, has a well-stocked kitchen, multiple
               | computers, hobby equipment etc.
               | 
               | I encourage you to run a rough estimate of your own
               | household's items. Do the same for your a neighbor's; a
               | friend's.
        
               | throwaway173738 wrote:
               | My nice wood furniture has had three owners and is almost
               | 70 years old, so I certainly think it's possible to own
               | nice things and not be a wasteful consumerist.
        
               | RHSeeger wrote:
               | I built my living room coffee table by hand with my
               | father, who is now dead. I built my shop table by hand
               | (to match the one my father had). Even ignoring the 10s
               | of thousand of dollars it would cost me to refurnish a
               | house to match what I have now (and the staggering amount
               | of time finding suitable replacements), there just a ton
               | of things I could never replace.
        
               | SoftTalker wrote:
               | And yet when you die, the contents of your house (for
               | inheritance purposes) will most likely be valued at under
               | $10K and nobody will raise an eyebrow at that.
        
               | compiler-guy wrote:
               | When I die, my body will be worth a pittance. But I still
               | value it far more than that now.
        
               | UncleMeat wrote:
               | I don't have nice furniture because my kids will value it
               | for an inheritance. I have nice furniture because it is
               | very pretty and extremely sturdy. It is okay to pay for
               | nice things that you get value out of.
        
               | deadbabe wrote:
               | 2 pieces of good (not ikea crap quality which you don't
               | want to move around anyway) furniture would easily cost
               | $14k.
        
               | what wrote:
               | You can buy high quality furniture for way less than
               | that. You're just paying for a brand that no one will
               | even notice.
        
               | throwaway173738 wrote:
               | Or real maple and oak instead of veneer. Which can be
               | reupholstered and sanded and refinished periodically as
               | the piece ages.
        
               | Glyptodon wrote:
               | It's hard to say w/o knowing what, but even getting a
               | couple reasonably priced and finished Amish pieces for
               | something could easily add up to half that. But if you're
               | talking something like a large and well made leather
               | sofa-recliner-sectional type thing it's plausible that it
               | could add up to that much for one piece depending on
               | size, construction, and leather.
        
               | iamacyborg wrote:
               | High quality means different things to different people.
               | 
               | Plenty of folks will notice the brand, because they
               | produce iconic designs.
        
               | zeroonetwothree wrote:
               | I have an IKEA desk I've moved eight times and it's still
               | going great after 20 years. I think it's the oldest thing
               | I own actually.
        
               | harvey9 wrote:
               | I have an IKEA steel futon base of similar age and number
               | of moves. It would take considerable effort to damage it.
        
               | deadbabe wrote:
               | You don't want to really play the anecdotes game because
               | I have had plenty of ikea crap that fell apart with 0
               | moves.
        
               | sandworm101 wrote:
               | 14k? I know people who own more than 14k worth of fishing
               | equipment ... not including any sort of boat. A family of
               | four with any sort of hobby, say four sets of
               | skis/boots/poles, will easily hit 14k on that hobby
               | alone. I don't want to think about how much all my
               | climbing gear would cost to replace.
               | 
               | Packing up everything into suitcases is all well and good
               | for single IT workers moving between generic white-walled
               | apartments. People with kids and hobbies have _stuff_
               | that takes up _space_.
        
               | what wrote:
               | >climbing gear
               | 
               | How much does a harness, shoes and some rope cost?
        
               | aw1621107 wrote:
               | On the order of a few hundred per at most, but if you're
               | climbing outdoors you probably will need a lot more than
               | just those. Trad gear in particular can add up quite
               | quickly.
               | 
               | In addition, it's not uncommon for dedicated climbers to
               | have multiple sets of ropes/shoes (and even harnesses)
               | for different situations.
        
               | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
               | That depends on whether or not you can fly.
               | 
               | When I took climbing, as a teenager, our instructor was
               | _very_ serious about getting the best stuff: shoes,
               | ropes, crampons, carabiners, gloves, jackets, etc.
               | 
               | Not cheap, but he put it as "do you want to die?".
               | 
               | Same with diving gear.
        
               | margalabargala wrote:
               | Crampons are not remotely close to standard rock climbing
               | gear. Mountaineering yes, climbing no.
        
               | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
               | Been a long time, so I'm likely misremembering. I also
               | did a great deal of camping and hiking, with similar
               | admonitions.
               | 
               | Fruits of a ... _colorful_ ... childhood. I was sent to a
               | number of "diversionary" curricula.
        
               | ghaff wrote:
               | Crampons are definitely mountaineering/winter hiking gear
               | which I used to do a fair bit of. (For lower-grade winter
               | hiking, various silicon spikes plus single-layer boots
               | are pretty popular even among relative serious hikers up
               | to some level.) Not rock climbing, which I always sort of
               | hated :-)
               | 
               | But, yeah, even a decent collection of 4-season
               | hiking/backpacking/camping gear--even if you exclude the
               | previous gen stuff you don't really use any longer can
               | easily get into the thousands of dollars though people do
               | scrape by with consignment and the like.
               | 
               | But, by the way, that's one of the issues. In the natural
               | course of things, you can pick up relative bargains over
               | time, If you're presented with "repopulate your house in
               | the next few weeks" not so much.
               | 
               | In fact, I'm presented with the latter in the next month
               | or so. Will have to rebuy a bunch of kitchen stuff in
               | particular fairly quickly and I'll probably just place
               | some big orders with Amazon, Sur La Table, and a handful
               | of other companies without doing much in the way of
               | careful shopping other than pulling from various lists.
        
               | LorenPechtel wrote:
               | Yeah, true replacement cost is often well above "retail"
               | because of the time factor. And hiking is one of those
               | sports where you end up with a lot of stuff duplicated in
               | bigger/smaller and/or warmer/cooler.
        
               | ghaff wrote:
               | I never went out to buy a hiking outfit/collection after
               | a class or whatever at a store. Had I, I'm sure it would
               | have been more expensive and ultimately sub-optimal
               | relative to what I own.
        
               | LorenPechtel wrote:
               | Treat it more generally--gear that you are in some
               | fashion going to trust your life to. It doesn't even need
               | to be something fancy--a couple of days ago I was out on
               | a hike and realized a companion was wearing jeans. The
               | terrain was slightly scrambly (nothing that required any
               | skill) and in a canyon that should have had a stream at
               | this time of year. Fall into that in jeans and
               | hypothermia becomes a very real issue.
        
               | sandworm101 wrote:
               | Not all climbers are gym rats.
               | 
               | A full set of say a dozen cams, probably $1000. A set of
               | tricams ($100). A couple sets of good nuts (2x$150). A
               | set of hexes ($150). About a hundred oval crabs (100x$15)
               | and a few beefy lockers (6x50$). Say 24ish quickdraws
               | (24x$30). A half dozen belay devices/eights for various
               | tasks (6x30$). Ropes are about 200 each for 50-60m
               | dynamics. Any serious climber will own four or more. Plus
               | some static lines for hauling. A set of jummars (2x150$).
               | Lots of webbing for connecting stuff. A few thinner ropes
               | for anchors and general utility uses. A couple pulley
               | blocks (2x100). Rope bags. Gear bags. Cleaning tools. And
               | a hundred other bits and bobs. Every wall climber also
               | has an assortment of strange stuff, things few people
               | ever see two of, for particular problems. For instance I
               | have an ascender rated to catch falls, which is a useful
               | self-rescue device. Such rare things are priceless.
               | 
               | https://www.ukclimbing.com/articles/features/nuts_museum_
               | the...
               | 
               | That's just the technical climbing gear for climbing
               | rock. There is also all the camping stuff used when
               | getting to or staying near the rock.
               | 
               | Then there is the box of aid climbing / bolting stuff.
               | And the first aid stuff.
        
               | what wrote:
               | That's not anywhere near 14k.
        
               | kristjansson wrote:
               | It's a fair fraction, on one hobby's worth of stuff,
               | nevermind the rest of the household (member's!) items.
               | 
               | $14k just doesn't cover replacing a household's worth of
               | stuff. If you still think it does, do a replacement value
               | inventory of your place. And then update your insurance!
        
               | necubi wrote:
               | Uh... who is buying tricams and hexes these days? 100
               | carabiners??
        
               | what wrote:
               | They're a collector and I bet they never use 90% of the
               | stuff they bought. Even more reason to purge it on a
               | move.
        
               | sandworm101 wrote:
               | Tricams are still sold. They are great in horizontal or
               | shallow cracks. They are also way cheaper than mechanical
               | cams. Hexes are still sold under different names (DMM
               | Torque-nuts are just small hexes imho.)
               | 
               | 100 seems like way too many, but things add up fast. Each
               | piece of pro will need one or two. A basic trad anchor
               | setup (three bit of pro) will involve five carabiners (3x
               | plus two to tie off, and maybe a sixth if you want to
               | top-rope the belay). So if you have a long pitch with say
               | 15 bit of pro, and an anchor on either end, you are
               | easily talking about 30+ carabiners in use on a single
               | pitch. But you won't use every bit of pro on every pitch.
               | You will have maybe a dozen other bits hanging off of
               | you. That's another 20+ carabiners. So, on a single not-
               | complicated trad route (no bolts) 50+ carabiners is not
               | unusual. Get into complex things like multiple ropes and
               | _owning_ 100+ is not unusual.
               | 
               | Now having them all be ovals _is_ strange. I took a
               | stance early on that I wanted to standardize as much as
               | possible. I bought BD ovals in bulk over a few years in
               | the early 2000s. I like them, at least for everything
               | other than quickdraw ends, rather than the random
               | assortment many climbers end up collecting bit by bit.
               | 
               | Very basic trad anchor (3 bits of pro, 5 crabs)
               | https://www.theclimbinglifeguides.com/blog/rock-climbing-
               | anc...
        
               | margalabargala wrote:
               | Well, you also need quickdraws and anchor gear if lead
               | climbing outdoors, and this doesn't remotely start to
               | touch on trad gear, but you can set yourself up nicely
               | for climbing for about $500.
               | 
               | The person you replied to does not have anywhere near
               | $14k of climbing gear unless they are into serious big-
               | wall climbing that involves sleeping on the side of the
               | wall, or else they run a rock climbing guide company.
               | 
               | Edit: Just saw they actually listed their kit out in
               | another comment, which tracks closely with what I
               | expected. They could probably replace all of it for under
               | $5k.
        
               | kristjansson wrote:
               | Respectfully, consider that other people are actual
               | people, and their lives are meaningfully distinct from
               | yours. To wit, "climbing equipment" encompasses
               | everything from the backpack of gym-climbing gear you
               | describe to a half-ton of tents, rope, crashpads,
               | anchors, packs, portaledges, outerwear, camp gear, etc.
        
               | blackguardx wrote:
               | Figure $3k or so for a complete set of gear to get you up
               | almost anything in the continental US. Of course you can
               | buy more or less depending on your goals.
        
               | NegativeK wrote:
               | It can add up. https://i.imgur.com/X5SNJZd.jpeg
               | 
               | But 14k is still a lot.
        
               | dan-robertson wrote:
               | I'm sympathetic to the point you're making - it wouldn't
               | be shocking for a moderately sized well-to-do family to
               | have a bunch of expensive gear for some hobby - but I
               | think you're underestimating people's abilities to do
               | things on a budget. I think ski equipment could
               | reasonably come to less than $1k pp, for example.
        
               | brandall10 wrote:
               | That's a fairly significant amount of furniture.
               | 
               | Unless you're buying mid-grade or lower IKEA or
               | purchasing used, you'll almost always come out behind by
               | selling and repurchasing.
        
               | jghn wrote:
               | > He paid $14k for the movers. That would buy a fair bit
               | of new furniture unless it's really high end.
               | 
               | Not really? Furniture is expensive. Once you move out of
               | the garbage tier, that's not a whole lot of stuff.
        
               | RHSeeger wrote:
               | Heck, even at the low end of not-garbage, a couch runs in
               | the $1k range. Something from Bobs Furniture Outlet, for
               | example.
               | 
               | Note, I love Bob's furniture. I have a couch from there I
               | bought 10 years ago and it's absolutely the most
               | comfortable couch I've ever had. My comment that they're
               | low end is not, in any way, to insult the quality of what
               | they have. Rather, they're not expensive (the same couch
               | at a slightly more "name brand" place would have been
               | twice the cost; for no increase in quality).
        
               | kube-system wrote:
               | A sectional at ikea can run several thousand dollars.
        
               | datavirtue wrote:
               | Which is all labor and logistics. Pile of crap.
        
               | kube-system wrote:
               | All sofas have labor and logistics. The more expensive
               | ikea couches are as good as other big box couches, which
               | is to say, they aren't premium furniture.
        
               | Glyptodon wrote:
               | $14k is like one smaller piece of high end furniture.
               | 
               | That said, it might cover two or three rooms of carefully
               | budgeted non-crap furniture. Or like five of lucky thrift
               | store finds.
        
               | normie3000 wrote:
               | Fascinating perspective! I don't think anything in my
               | house cost over $500, including beds, couch, TV and
               | appliances. What item can you get for $14k?
        
               | V99 wrote:
               | Here's a couch from a retail store you've probably heard
               | of that you can configure online for $12k.
               | 
               | https://www.williams-sonoma.com/products/bedford-sofa-
               | uphols...
               | 
               | Personally I'd rather buy one from IKEA and use the
               | change left over from $12k to buy.. a used truck to drive
               | the sofa home in.. but apparently there's a market.
               | 
               | You can certainly go much higher for smaller companies
               | producing actual custom stuff, using exotic materials,
               | for a giant sectional instead of a single sofa, etc.
        
               | normie3000 wrote:
               | Thanks! I haven't heard of that store, and their website
               | seems to be geoblocked in my region.
        
               | sgerenser wrote:
               | TIL that Williams Sonoma sells furniture. I thought they
               | only sold kitchen appliances, pots and pans, etc.
        
               | HeyImAlex wrote:
               | Check out design within reach. Fancy furniture can be
               | incredibly expensive.
        
               | sgerenser wrote:
               | Apparently it's not within reach for most people?
        
               | alabastervlog wrote:
               | Just "made as if it's not supposed to be replaced every
               | five years" can bump the price of a sofa way higher than
               | $500.
               | 
               | Doesn't need to be $14k, but probably $4k bare minimum,
               | without paying a premium for a brand name or anything
               | like that, nor going with leather.
               | 
               | The cheaper ones almost always use low-density foam that
               | compresses badly with use in a couple years (IKEA is a
               | big exception here! But also most of their sofas are more
               | than $500...), frames that start to get iffy in a few
               | years, and upholstery that looks ratty after a similar
               | amount of time.
        
               | Glyptodon wrote:
               | I think a Stickley dining set or side hutch is probably
               | ~$12k not on sale, and a sofa could probably go anywhere
               | from $6k to $20k, but YMMV. (I don't personally own
               | anything like that.)
               | 
               | But even brands like Herman Miller or Ekornes can really
               | add up. (And I don't think of them as being the highest-
               | end of things. Even hiring a quality woodworker to make
               | something for you can end up similarly priced depending
               | on detailing, finish, wood species, etc.)
        
               | sib wrote:
               | One Eames chair is about $6-7K. (Not that I own but, but
               | I'd take a donation ;) )
        
               | aphyr wrote:
               | I made a lot of my furniture--it's hard to replace.
        
             | B-Con wrote:
             | For me it isn't about the cost as much as it is that I've
             | tailored my possessions to be what I like. If I have it, it
             | brings value, and I probably like the details enough that
             | it's hard to replace without getting an exact replica.
        
             | wyclif wrote:
             | It is very situational--I get that. But the fact of the
             | matter is that most people have way too much stuff. This
             | creates a huge amount of problems and headaches if you have
             | to move.
        
               | ghaff wrote:
               | Most of us here can probably agree that moving is a very
               | good time to assess a lot of property. Much of which you
               | probably were given/acquired at some time or another and
               | really don't use.
               | 
               | I had a fairy minor (in the scheme of things) kitchen
               | fire earlier this year. (Not my fault. Microwave burst
               | into flames in the middle of the night.) Most of the
               | contents are probably salvageable (or determined best
               | replaced under replacement policy).
               | 
               | But I intend to be fairly discriminating as I move stuff
               | back into the house. I had already started doing some
               | sorting and donating/chucking bu this will accelerate it.
        
               | the__alchemist wrote:
               | We're on the same page! I agree, and pine for the days
               | before I acquired too many things. The contrast is
               | observation: Most people I know, myself included, do not
               | live that minimal life style. I know someone who does; he
               | lives in a van and loves it; owns few physical
               | belongings, and most are in storage. He's the exception;
               | not the rule.
               | 
               | Personally, I have a molecular bio lab at home; I know
               | (had to calculate for tax purposes) that it cost ~12000
               | USD including reagents, shipping costs etc. I have a nice
               | 3D printer, loads of tools, a well-stocked electronics
               | lab etc. All see regular use. A few pieces of oak
               | furniture. I know that my personal hobbies are weird
               | (Maybe not for this crowd?!), but many people have
               | comparably equipment-bound ones.
               | 
               | Now, picture being married to someone with a comparable
               | set of items (Furniture doesn't double of course), and
               | kids...
        
           | barbazoo wrote:
           | That sounds super wasteful.
        
           | pclmulqdq wrote:
           | Yes, next time I move I will sell or donate my $100,000 piano
           | and simply buy a new one in the new place.
        
             | zeroonetwothree wrote:
             | Or just don't have one? Most people don't own $100,000
             | pianos and somehow they make do.
        
               | glitchcrab wrote:
               | But they do have one, so your point is moot.
        
               | iamacyborg wrote:
               | What a weird take.
        
               | codedokode wrote:
               | I am sure most people wouldn't refuse to have a $100 000
               | piano if they had space for it.
        
               | rwallace wrote:
               | Eh. I mean, I don't have a piano, but I think a world in
               | which no one ever does anything that can't be done on a
               | laptop computer, would not be a better place.
        
               | pclmulqdq wrote:
               | If you take the ratio of amount of time I play my piano
               | to the TCO of my piano, I am expecting to spend something
               | like $2-5 TCO / hour of entertainment (without
               | considering resale value in ~30 years) over my life. That
               | is a ratio that is better than most forms of
               | entertainment. It rivals computer games, which are also
               | pretty good on TCO / hour of enjoyment.
               | 
               | That is even the case with a very high-end instrument.
               | Perhaps more people should have things like pianos.
        
             | Der_Einzige wrote:
             | A guy near me literally gave away a Steinway piano. Like, a
             | real one worth at least 8K (verified it online).
             | 
             | Me being too slow to get it is one of my great regrets in
             | life.
        
               | throwaway173738 wrote:
               | Did you look into how much it costs to move it and have
               | it tuned? It's a significant fraction of the supposed
               | savings.
        
               | pclmulqdq wrote:
               | Yeah, free pianos are usually being sold at the
               | appropriate market price. Often they are badly beat up:
               | the action may not have been maintained, the strings may
               | have been detuning for 5+ years, some notes may not even
               | be tunable any more. On top of that, the moving and setup
               | costs are huge.
        
             | vunderba wrote:
             | Having had a piano (an older Yamaha upright not even a
             | grand) damaged in a move in the past - I will _NEVER EVER_
             | allow general movers, no matter how highly rated they are,
             | to handle any expensive musical instruments of mine.
             | 
             | A couple of my friends have used Modern Piano Moving in the
             | past to move a concert grand reliably and they seem to be
             | pretty highly rated.
             | 
             | https://www.modernpiano.com
        
           | TuringNYC wrote:
           | >> Honestly the best way to move is to sell or donate
           | everything and buy new for your new place.
           | 
           | One problem is the delays on new furniture. I saw delays of
           | 6-14 weeks on furniture when I last moved. I purchased a
           | kitchen island from Ashley Furniture in 2021 which has still
           | not fully arrived (the side-pieces are still pending in 2025)
           | even though payments started as soon as the first item was
           | shipped.
           | 
           | Also, you may find that furniture prices in 2025 are not what
           | they were when you last moved given inflation.
        
             | ghaff wrote:
             | I had a kitchen fire recently with all the associated smoke
             | damage mitigation. One of the "leave it where it is"
             | commands I gave was a good sofa (that I bought second hand
             | off my brother) which I really liked and (almost) perfectly
             | fit in the space. One of those things where I was probably
             | just over some threshold of various processes (and
             | insurance coverages) kicking in though not really necessary
             | for a lot of things. Pushed back on some and will see how
             | successfully at the end of the day.
             | 
             | One problem is that no one is incentivized to save you a
             | lot of inconvenience and a year of living in a house that's
             | not really set up yet.
        
           | idiotsecant wrote:
           | Yes. It's a cliche but it's true. Your stuff owns you.
        
           | subscribed wrote:
           | I ordered by new sofa in February. I expect it in May.
           | 
           | It's just stuff you can or can't get. How would I know I
           | can't get sofa? How much does assembling the furniture take?
           | Do I book someone to help me with that or so I just pay for
           | assembly? How much is the new mattress and why waste the old
           | one, expensive and now destined to the skip?
           | 
           | How much is going to cost me the living room equipment? Not
           | much, two gaming consoles, TV, 7+2 setup with a decent, 8k,
           | flexible AVR.
           | 
           | Do I take the hit on buying the new motorcycle? Old,
           | perfectly fine but a bit beaten bicycles will have to be
           | thrown out as they look quite nasty (even though they ride
           | well, in my currently 5th house), so it's a few grand on
           | bicycles as well.
           | 
           | Do I need to throw out my network equipment as well? I mean,
           | I could probably sell it on ebay for a fraction of the value
           | and buy new for 20 times what I'll get from my old one, then
           | just get through the pain of setting new software anew...
           | 
           | Etc, etc. I'm glad it works for you but it's laughable to
           | offer your solution as a "best way to love" to everyone
           | without knowing their circumstances.
        
           | neom wrote:
           | I'm my 40s over here and in my life I've owned 3 full houses
           | of...stuff, so much stuff, really nice stuff!!! Now I own
           | almost nothing and life is much easier. I find the comments
           | here really funny, now I am free I realize how trapped I was
           | by my trappings, your uncle was a smart guy.
        
             | foobarian wrote:
             | There gets to be a point where you have to assert you own
             | the stuff, not the other way around. And cull ruthlessly.
             | It's hardest with a partner or if you grew up frugal and
             | get hung up on "giving it away to good hands."
        
           | kristjansson wrote:
           | At some life stages and situations, this makes total sense.
           | I'd think those are predominantly when one is embarking on a
           | new stage, and moving as a part of that. Graduations,
           | retirement, marriage, divorce, ... . But someone moving
           | involuntarily (job change, new posting, ...), perhaps with a
           | partner, perhaps with children ... it's hard to begrudge that
           | person bringing many of their things along to ease the
           | transition.
           | 
           | There's a reason the US military pays for movers.
        
           | southernplaces7 wrote:
           | >Honestly the best way to move is to sell or donate
           | everything and buy new for your new place. Get down to
           | suitcases or stuff you can pack and ship via UPS
           | 
           | The best way? Really? Perhaps if you're comfortable enough
           | financially in a way that most people in the U.S, or even
           | more so, the rest of the world are not.
           | 
           | I mean, how wonderful if you have the discretionary budget to
           | simply sell at a typical major discount or donate away most
           | of your major physical possessions and just buy everything
           | new. For many, many, if not most people, attempting such a
           | thing would be a huge economic blow in addition to the
           | already often heavy costs of moving.
           | 
           | If some of the advice and observations often given on this
           | site seem like naval-gazing, bubble-dwelling nonsense, it's
           | due to laughable comments like this one.
        
           | nunez wrote:
           | This works when you have cheap and/or limited furniture.
           | 
           | Better/more expensive furniture is difficult to sell but also
           | valuable enough to keep.
        
             | ghaff wrote:
             | Selling stuff, especially if you're well outside of a major
             | city, is sort of tough. Yard sales don't really bring in
             | the cash and take some work. Most people probably don't
             | want the stuff you don't want and even selling that takes
             | effort.
        
               | nunez wrote:
               | Right. You lose money _and_ time; the worst combination.
        
               | ghaff wrote:
               | My example is that I have a pile of laserdiscs that some
               | retro collector probably wants but I'm _not_ going to
               | individually list them on ebay for $3 each. Maybe I 'll
               | put the whole package on Facebook for a few hundred and
               | see if someone bites but that's about as far as I'll go.
               | 
               | I do live at the end of a long driveway on a busy road
               | and I've found that a good way to dump old lawn equipment
               | and furniture for free.
        
           | Glyptodon wrote:
           | If someone gave me replacement value for my stuff I would not
           | have an issue with this. But realistically nobody is going to
           | give $50k+ to replace all your furniture, electronics,
           | dishes, tools, and so forth. And it only really adds up if
           | you either (a) are wealthy enough that it's not a meaningful
           | cost, or (b) barely have anything in the way of furniture and
           | tools. It's also complicated by things like decently made
           | shelves that aren't wildly expensive being much harder to
           | find than 20 years ago. Like if I could get equivalent
           | shelves adjusted for inflation donating and replacing them
           | would be fine. But I literally can't - I can only find cheap
           | crap or rather expensive stuff that's moderately nicer than
           | my old stuff.
        
         | nunez wrote:
         | Agreed.
         | 
         | My wife and I did a move ourselves once. Never again. Movers
         | ever time.
        
       | sandworm101 wrote:
       | >> Flat Rate called to tell me a five-person team would arrive.
       | When the crew arrived, it wasn't Flat Rate. It was a team of two
       | from Esquire Moving Inc
       | 
       | Yup. 1988 "Moving" staring Richard Pryor had a scene about
       | exactly this. Freedom of contract. Whoever you think you have a
       | contact with will no doubt sublet it to someone else.
        
       | bena wrote:
       | This sounds like something that would catch me too.
       | 
       | Because I also wouldn't do the leg work to vet a moving company
       | before contracting them. Because I've only done the "get a U-Haul
       | and get to it" method.
        
         | criddell wrote:
         | We recently were shopping around for a mover and it seems like
         | most of them hire a local crew to palletize everything and move
         | it to a depot where a second company trucks it to a depot near
         | the destination and a third company is hired to move it from
         | the depot to the destination.
        
           | dadkins wrote:
           | Yup, this is how stuff ends up getting lost and delayed, even
           | if the crews on either side are competent and efficient. Most
           | people can't fill up an 18-wheeler, so some bin packing has
           | to take place for the long haul.
           | 
           | I've done a couple of cross-country moves with a full house
           | and had fairly good luck -- North American Van Lines if
           | anyone is interested -- and by far the best experience was
           | when my stuff was last into the truck making the long
           | distance trip. It was delivered a few days later by the same
           | truck and driver. Nothing was lost or broken. There was no
           | chance to screw things up with intermediate transfers to
           | depots.
        
       | FridayoLeary wrote:
       | this is the message i got when i clicked on the link:
       | 
       |  _> Unavailable Due to the UK Online Safety Act
       | 
       | The Online Safety Act imposes new compliance duties on web sites
       | with the potential for staggering penalties. I'm concerned my
       | blog might fall under the OSA's definition of a Part 3 regulated
       | user-to-user service. It might also qualify as a Part 5 service
       | which provides pornography. Unfortunately, Ofcom's guidance for
       | small services has been exceedingly vague.
       | 
       | I don't have the time, money, or interest to set up highly
       | effective age assurance on a personal blog; nor do I care to
       | spend any more of my nights and weekends working through
       | thousands of pages of guidance and writing up risk assessments.
       | I'm geoblocking the UK instead; Ofcom indicates that's sufficient
       | to comply with the law.
       | 
       | Geoblocking is not precise. If you are not in the UK and seeing
       | this message, you can use Tor or a VPN service to access
       | aphyr.com.
       | 
       | There's a lot of uncertainty among small sites regarding what the
       | OSA means and how Ofcom will enforce it. If you run a web site
       | and you're struggling to interpret the OSA guidance, you might
       | want to reach out to Ofcom's Online Safety team at
       | OSengagement@ofcom.org.uk._
       | 
       | I know it's off topic but i think it has some relevance since it
       | shows how this poorly conceived law is actively degrading my
       | experience online, as was predicted here on hn.
        
         | CaliforniaKarl wrote:
         | Are you going to raise the issue with your MP?
        
           | FridayoLeary wrote:
           | No. I'm just a casual HN user and i assume few people
           | currently in power have any interest in amending a law they
           | only just passed. Also unfortunately there are other bills
           | that this government is passing/wants to pass that will
           | affect me far worse then this one, so whatever ettention i do
           | have is directed at them.
        
         | Drupon wrote:
         | Kyle is a peerless genius when it comes to his technical
         | content about distributed systems, but he has a tendency for
         | histrionics when it comes to this stuff.
        
           | subscribed wrote:
           | I think it's fair.
           | 
           | I can't read this article as well, but it's his right to not
           | be bothered about the unhinged piece of legislation enacted
           | by some foreign parliament.
        
         | mattlondon wrote:
         | It is disappointing that they went to this hassle but
         | apparently didn't read the first link that comes up when you
         | search this:
         | 
         | https://www.legislation.gov.uk/uksi/2025/226/made?hl=en-GB
         | 
         | Tl;Dr at the _most stringent_ you need at least 3 million UK
         | monthly users. Depending on what your site offers in terms of
         | functionality it then allows 7 million or even 34 million UK
         | monthly users before you need to care.
         | 
         | With respect, I doubt this blog has 3+ million active UK
         | viewers. This legislation is designed for Facebook et al, not
         | for random personal blogs on the internet.
         | 
         | But hey it's a free world so if you want to take the moral high
         | ground go-ahead. Just be sure you understand first :)
        
           | aphyr wrote:
           | This is a whole story unto itself. I (and a bunch of other
           | small-site operators) actually got the chance to ask Ofcom
           | directly about how small a site would have to be to declare
           | itself out-of-scope of part 3/5 services, and in short: the
           | law doesn't specify, Ofcom declines to say, and it could be
           | as small as "a one-man band". Ofcom has indicated that
           | they're interested in pursuing aggressive enforcement against
           | small service providers (read: web sites). I wound up
           | concluding that the forum I help run could be defensibly out-
           | of-scope, but aphyr.com gets significantly more traffic, and
           | I'm trying to limit risks.
           | 
           | I think in total I spent something like 80 hours reading the
           | legislation, working through thousands of pages of Ofcom
           | guidance, and corresponding with Ofcom trying to figure out
           | whether and how compliance was feasible.
           | 
           | https://blog.woof.group/announcements/updates-on-the-osa
        
       | gosub100 wrote:
       | I don't say this to victim-blame, but for anything that costs
       | over 5-figures it makes sense to have an attorney review it. I'm
       | not sure if that would have prevented this catastrophe, but a
       | lawyer might be able to jump in and help make decisions (like who
       | to sue, or whether to turn away the subcontractors).
       | 
       | I recently learned that the company I work for incurred a delay
       | on a quarter million dollar shipment of computer parts because
       | the courier didn't know we took deliveries on the weekend
       | (normally we don't but for $250k of stuff headed straight for
       | production we did). I said "next time use airport to airport
       | shipping" to cut out the courier altogether. What's another $400
       | on top of $250k? It's common sense to me.
        
         | the__alchemist wrote:
         | > whether to turn away the subcontractors
         | 
         | This was a mentioned, but subtly key point: He wasn't able to
         | turn away the movers due to a rigid move date. (Details
         | unspecified; it begs the question of what would have happened
         | if the movers cancelled, or were unable to get it done in a
         | day)
        
           | gosub100 wrote:
           | "wasn't able" is dubious. Of course, there are repercussions
           | for not moving out on the date, but it's not an imperative.
           | If the landlord had to move his stuff to the curb, or it
           | delayed closing on a house, that causes a cascade into
           | another transaction. The world doesn't stop, of course. If
           | the landlord is forced to pay movers to put your stuff in
           | storage and send the bill to the tenant, those costs can, in
           | theory, be passed on to the moving company. The details
           | depend on the contract, obviously.
        
             | autoexec wrote:
             | It can hurt your changes of getting your next
             | house/apartment. Depending on where you are it might not be
             | worth risking a bad mark on your rental history/burning
             | bridges with a company that manages a huge number of
             | properties.
        
           | Merad wrote:
           | Yeah, something important to file away in your book of life
           | lessons is that you should _never_ schedule a move on the day
           | you have to be out. Not unless you're backed into a corner
           | with no alternative. Sometimes life throws you curveballs -
           | for example in 2020 I had purchased a house and was scheduled
           | to move, but my mom passed away around 6 PM the day before
           | the move. Thankfully it was just an across-town move, and I
           | had about 10 days to play with before the lease on my condo
           | ended, and the moving company was able to reschedule for a
           | week later.
        
             | crazygringo wrote:
             | > _you should _never_ schedule a move on the day you have
             | to be out_
             | 
             | If you're switching apartments in a city, you usually don't
             | have much of a choice.
             | 
             | Your lease ends at the end of the month, and your new lease
             | starts the next day, and you negotiate a day of overlap.
             | And you sure as heck don't want to be paying rent on two
             | places for a month.
        
         | tczMUFlmoNk wrote:
         | > but for anything that costs over 5-figures it makes sense to
         | have an attorney review it
         | 
         | Can you say more about this? I've never retained an attorney,
         | but it's a skill that I would like to have. What is this
         | process like, to get their services for a short, bounded
         | engagement? How do I get started finding an appropriate
         | provider?
        
           | upghost wrote:
           | I know this is going to sound really dumb but I've had
           | amazing luck just calling lawyers with 5 star reviews on
           | Google Maps.
        
             | nunez wrote:
             | Sort by recent and read a few reviews to filter out people
             | who pay for stars
             | 
             | Applies to everything
        
           | lunr wrote:
           | Find your state's bar association website for the speciality
           | you're looking for. For me it was an attorney specializing in
           | probate court.
           | 
           | Find 2 or 3 that are close to your home (It's nice not having
           | to drive 30 min across town to sign or pick up documents)
           | then give each of them a call.
           | 
           | Most will offer a free consultation to hear why you need
           | their services, they offer what they can do for you, or maybe
           | recommend a specialist.
           | 
           | Then they'll tell you their billable hour rate, or retainer
           | fee* for something larger (probate court takes months) to get
           | started.
           | 
           | If the price is right and you feel good about this attorney,
           | then you're all set. Easy and worth every penny.
           | 
           | Reviewing contracts is probably one of those 30 or 60 min
           | deal that might cost you $200-400 depending on their billable
           | rate, but spending $14k on a mover, $200 is a rounding error.
        
           | gosub100 wrote:
           | Lawyers specialize in certain fields, so I would search for
           | "consumer lawyer" + my city. If you find one that says they
           | handle business disputes or contracts I'd message them. But
           | also say you're looking for "contract review" and consumer
           | protection. I your email be sure to ask for referrals if they
           | are unable to help.
           | 
           | You're paying them to scrutinize the contract and let you
           | know how to protect yourself if there are shenanigans. One
           | very common tactic is to take your money, move your stuff,
           | but hold it until you pay more money that wasn't in the
           | contract.
        
       | OutOfHere wrote:
       | Why not sue them in court?
        
         | the__alchemist wrote:
         | That was the author's remaining option; he partially resolved
         | it one step prior.
        
       | Jtsummers wrote:
       | Issues like this are why I used PODS for my last move. Hire a
       | local packing and unpacking crew at each end yourself, it's a lot
       | less expensive and you get more control but assume more
       | responsibility. Alternatively a rental truck, but you can still
       | hire local crews for the labor.
        
         | abruzzi wrote:
         | Just still be cautious and carry some insurance on your stuff.
         | My brother broke up with his girlfriend, she moved back east.
         | She packed all her stuff up in a PODS and shipped it home, and
         | the pod dissappeared. PODS completely lost it.
        
           | thephyber wrote:
           | Curious if an AirTag (or similar BTLE device on a mesh
           | network) could mitigate some of this risk...
        
             | ajb wrote:
             | If this is a metal box like a shipping container, you'd
             | have to attaching it to the outside somehow. However the
             | website just says "steel framed" which suggests the sides
             | might not be metal, in which case it might work.
             | 
             | However it's quite possible that something else happened to
             | it that they don't want to admit. Like maybe their driver
             | was DUI and crashed it.
        
               | sgerenser wrote:
               | PODS are advertised as having a transparent roof for
               | light, most likely polycarbonate. Not sure if that would
               | be sufficient for an AirTag signal if the rest is metal,
               | but I suspect it would be.
        
               | lesuorac wrote:
               | My experience with PODS is it's basically a smaller
               | shipping container with a rolling door.
               | 
               | I didn't test airtags at all but they definitely stack
               | them pretty high up in a warehouse so idk if an iPhone is
               | always going to walk by yours.
        
               | AmVess wrote:
               | Aluminum frame with fiberglass panels. I put a cellular
               | GPS tracker in the one I rented and it worked fine.
        
             | datavirtue wrote:
             | Isn't that PODS job?
        
             | AmVess wrote:
             | I bought a cellular GPS tracker for my PODS. It worked
             | fine, and being able to track it every step of the way
             | added a bit of stress relief.
             | 
             | It also came in really handy when the driver claimed his
             | truck broke down and he wouldn't be able to drop it off on
             | schedule. I told them I could physically see the container
             | in the storage yard and would like it delivered on the
             | agreed upon date. They dropped it off 20 minutes later.
        
           | gautamcgoel wrote:
           | That's crazy! How does something so big go missing? Did they
           | ever find it?
        
             | jcgrillo wrote:
             | Maybe two records getting written to the database in the
             | same millisecond somehow getting the same uuid primary
             | key... could happen if they use some javascript library to
             | come up with the uuid ;)
        
         | hx8 wrote:
         | I moved a lot.
         | 
         | * If there is something of high value, either handle it
         | yourself separate of the movers, or package it yourself if it's
         | too large. Make sure it's adequately insured and take photos.
         | 
         | * If it's a one day job, hiring a crew with a truck is fine.
         | Keep an eye on the crew and the truck throughout the process.
         | 
         | * If it's a longer job, you can rent one or two trucks and hire
         | a crew to load and another to unload at the destination. If
         | everything is boxed, and you have good access to the front
         | door, then a crew of 3 or 4 should be able to fill a large
         | truck in 2 or 3 hours. Unloading goes quicker.
         | 
         | * I've always regretted using PODS. They are small, and I tend
         | to keep them in the driveway way longer than you should. With a
         | truck rental the time urgency helps me complete the project
         | faster.
        
           | rattray wrote:
           | Any tips on hiring movers?
        
             | hx8 wrote:
             | Unless it's a 1bedroom apartment don't accept less than 3
             | guys. Anything heavy really benefits from multiple people.
             | Get three quotes for the job, talking to someone on the
             | phone for each quote. Ask questions during the phone call.
             | Ask about the company and the service they provide, treat
             | it like a short interview. Select the company that sounds
             | the most professional, unless their price is exorbitant
             | compared to the other two.
             | 
             | When the crew arrives, let the leader of the crew know
             | you'll tip cash for good service.
        
               | Mbwagava wrote:
               | Letting them know you'll tip cash is the best advice
               | here. The movers will treat your stuff better and stuff
               | won't go missing (although I have no reason to think this
               | is specifically a concern, I do understand the paranoia).
        
               | neilv wrote:
               | > _and stuff won 't go missing (although I have no reason
               | to think this is specifically a concern [..]._
               | 
               | I once hired a moving company that was a bit scammy. I
               | lost a nice component stereo system that they secretly
               | took.
               | 
               | I later learned that other people had trouble with that
               | same company "forgetting things on the truck". It seemed
               | to be one of their tactics to enforce scam pricing while
               | they had you over a barrel. If you still didn't buckle on
               | the spot, they'd secretly take away obvious valuables,
               | and hold them hostage until they could extract more
               | money.
               | 
               | (They were based in Providence, RI, shortly before
               | "https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Plunder_Dome",
               | when the FBI cleaned up some local government
               | institutionalized corruption. Occasionally, talking with
               | someone who'd also lived there in that period, I'll hear
               | an anecdote about crossing paths with mob-lite connected
               | people. My favorite was someone whose apartment was
               | burglarized, and their nice landlord told them he'd take
               | care of it, and that they should temporarily be away from
               | the apartment at a specific time; they come back after,
               | and their belongings had been returned. I say mob-lite,
               | because it's not tommy-guns and broken kneecaps, but
               | there did seem to be an alternative system of rules by
               | which some played, distinct from the law, and there was
               | just a faint background awareness of that. Other than
               | that, Providence was a nice place, and presumably is even
               | nicer after the FBI cleaned up some corruption.)
        
               | apparent wrote:
               | I moved a 3-bdrm house with 3 guys. Not sure why you'd
               | say it's necessary to have more. It takes more time, of
               | course, but if you're paying by the man-hour, that
               | doesn't change the price. You definitely need 2-3 to
               | wrap/move couches, but there weren't any items that would
               | have benefited from 4 or more. It's just more parallel
               | processing, which is nice but not critical IMO.
        
               | nkrisc wrote:
               | 100% let them know about a cash tip, be generous too.
               | They're handling all your stuff, if you want them to
               | treat it right they've got to be incentivized to do so.
               | It's a hard job. If it was easy money everyone would be
               | doing it.
               | 
               | When you do tip, give each guy their share directly.
               | 
               | Also buy a bunch of gatorade and water or other drinks
               | and put it in a cooler with ice and tell them to help
               | themselves to it, especially if it's at all warm where
               | you are.
               | 
               | Finally, don't be a hard ass and don't let them walk over
               | you either. Don't get on their case about stuff that
               | actually doesn't matter, and be firm where it does
               | matter. You're paying them to do a job, but they're more
               | likely to respect you and your stuff more if you don't
               | treat them like crap (like some people undoubtedly do -
               | they've told me).
        
             | btilly wrote:
             | When my wife and I moved, we packed up the house over
             | several weeks, decided what went, and what would be left.
             | 
             | We then rented the U-Haul recommended for a 3 bedroom
             | apartment, picked two random Mexican volunteers, and paid
             | them more than they asked for, for a very long day. It
             | worked well.
             | 
             | But this did require having been well-organized before they
             | came, having already found fragile stuff, and having our
             | plan for how to protect those things.
        
               | fooker wrote:
               | > over several weeks
               | 
               | This is the reason people go with movers. A professional
               | crew will do this in a morning.
        
               | saagarjha wrote:
               | The several weeks gives you a chance to sort through
               | things and throw them out.
        
               | datavirtue wrote:
               | Chances of a professional crew actually arriving? Nil.
        
               | btilly wrote:
               | We were downsizing from a house to an apartment. A
               | professional crew absolutely cannot, for example, make
               | decisions such as which books can't be kept because we're
               | moving to a smaller space.
        
             | andy99 wrote:
             | We moved recently, and admittedly lucked out getting a good
             | mover, but the main difference that made me pick the one we
             | did was that they were going to use their own truck and
             | crew. We only talked to 2 companies, and the other one,
             | despite owning their own trucks, for an out of town move
             | was going to subcontract to someone, under which
             | circumstances all bets are off as happened to the OP.
             | 
             | When I moved I just assumed there would be problems with
             | the movers because it seems like that kind of industry.
             | Turns out we got a great crew, no tricks or gimmicks, and
             | no damage to anything. It actually felt weird seeing how
             | "normal" something like that could be, when you almost
             | expect something like what the OP got.
        
         | oplav wrote:
         | Another good option is U-Pack if you have more things that can
         | fit in PODS. ABF Freight drops a container off on your street
         | and you have a couple days to fill it. Then they pick it up and
         | drive it to your destination. You only pay per linear foot you
         | use in the container.
         | 
         | The downside is that it's a little slower than PODS or
         | traditional moving because the unused space is separated and
         | then resold to a local freight partner going to the same
         | destination area. If you can live with that constraint, the
         | process was very smooth and the U-Pack customer service was
         | extremely good and responsive.
         | 
         | We hired local movers on both ends to just load and unload the
         | container (did the packing of boxes ourselves, left furniture
         | to the loaders) and paid a little under $6K to move a small 3BR
         | house from the midwest to the east coast a couple years ago.
        
         | datavirtue wrote:
         | Ad.
        
       | londons_explore wrote:
       | This is exactly what small claims is designed for.
       | 
       | You write the claim, give the evidence, and if they don't show
       | up, you win by default and can hand the judgement to the
       | insurance company to get paid.
        
         | Jtsummers wrote:
         | Small claims courts typically have fairly low limits, much
         | lower than what the insurance might pay for damages to a house
         | or furniture and art (as described in the write up).
         | 
         | You might get the cost of the move restored, but that doesn't
         | cover the cost of repairs, replacements, and restoration.
        
           | kevincox wrote:
           | In this specific case it does seem that the insurance company
           | paid for the damages to property, so recovering some or all
           | of the moving costs would be exactly what is needed.
        
           | 486sx33 wrote:
           | Many jurisdictions have doubled their small claims max in the
           | past decade. It's worth looking into.
        
         | teeray wrote:
         | But if they do show up and know how to play the game, buckle
         | up. You'll be in and out of there for years. The judge will ask
         | you to settle for a fraction of what you're owed. When you
         | finally do get the judgement, they won't pay it. Then you need
         | to drag them back to court to get them on a time-payment
         | plan... then they make a few payments, stop paying and move to
         | another state. Then you need to domesticate your judgement in
         | that state, and maybe you can start to think about garnishing
         | wages or drafting from accounts of theirs. By then, you've
         | wasted so much time and money, you're doing it mostly for spite
         | at this point.
        
           | Ferret7446 wrote:
           | I don't think this applies for small claims? Small claims are
           | a single court session after which a judgement is delivered,
           | though collection is still your problem. Of course, the
           | threshold for small claims is fairly low.
        
             | icelancer wrote:
             | When they don't pay the judgment, where do you think you
             | end back up?
        
               | lurk2 wrote:
               | You can seize control of physical assets if they fail to
               | pay you.
        
               | danielheath wrote:
               | ... by going back to court, and getting the court to
               | order the police to do so.
               | 
               | Which is fine unless they know the system and how to play
               | it - eg by telling the magistrate the second time around
               | that they've made partial payment & have more coming,
               | just need some time, etc.
        
               | lurk2 wrote:
               | > Which is fine unless they know the system and how to
               | play it - eg by telling the magistrate the second time
               | around that they've made partial payment & have more
               | coming, just need some time, etc.
               | 
               | Are you speaking from past experience? This is something
               | I hear repeated on Hacker News all the time but I've
               | never seen evidence that it's particularly common.
        
               | borski wrote:
               | > I've never seen evidence that it's particularly common
               | 
               | Because it isn't, for small claims court. Does it happen?
               | Absolutely. But it's rare.
               | 
               | It's much more common outside small claims, where the
               | stakes are higher.
        
               | compiler-guy wrote:
               | If you have never tried to collect on a judgement from
               | small claims, it is extremely difficult if the target
               | just doesn't want to play ball. I have tried, and they
               | were just like, "Yeah. No. Go get the court to enforce
               | it."
               | 
               | Filing those claims is time consuming and expensive, and
               | if they fight or ignore, it ends up costing more than
               | your claim is worth, even not including time.
               | 
               | And this wasn't even with movers.
        
               | mannykannot wrote:
               | They probably have few assets - the actual work is
               | subcontraced. What options do you have in that situation?
        
               | agos wrote:
               | different country, but here if they either pay or risk
               | bankruptcy
        
               | apparent wrote:
               | If a thinly-capitalized company has its few assets
               | seized, then it ends up going bankrupt (which leads to
               | the stories here about moving companies that went
               | bankrupt). Vicious cycle, really.
        
               | rcstank wrote:
               | Yes, but a few able bodied men with a rental truck have
               | nothing to seize.
        
               | lurk2 wrote:
               | Then you go after their insurance company like in the OP.
               | If they don't have insurance you may be able to go after
               | the owner personally, though that's likely to be much
               | more costly than the dollar value of your damages.
               | 
               | Honestly, why are you guys so committed to this idea that
               | contractors are these criminal masterminds who will
               | thwart your every attempt to sue for damages? Small
               | Claims is an incredibly routine and straightforward
               | process, and pretending that it isn't only serves to
               | dissuade people from making use of it.
        
               | immibis wrote:
               | There's a good story somewhere out there of a man who
               | showed up with the sheriff to his local bank branch to
               | start seizing their computer equipment to suction off,
               | before the bank would obey the court order.
        
               | AStonesThrow wrote:
               | > local bank branch to start seizing their computer
               | equipment to suction off
               | 
               | Oh, did they shove it into those pneumatic tubes to send
               | it somewhere else? That sounds like fun but not very
               | lucrative
        
               | immibis wrote:
               | I meant auction, of course. Autoincorrect had other
               | ideas.
        
               | gnopgnip wrote:
               | You take the judgement to the sheriff and they seize
               | their money from the bank
        
               | teeray wrote:
               | YMMV, but in states I have lived you do not. This is an
               | ultimate power you are deprived of using until many, many
               | times back to court.
        
               | technothrasher wrote:
               | The only time I've ever dealt with small claims court was
               | in NY state. Won a judgement against my landlord for the
               | security deposit and she refused to pay. Went to the
               | sheriff and they garnished her wages. Done and done.
        
               | sethhochberg wrote:
               | This sounds like this might have been in NYC?
               | 
               | NYC has a pretty nontraditional setup where the city
               | sheriffs are basically set up to be the enforcement arm
               | of the courts and only work civil issues. Certainly makes
               | stuff like this easier.
        
             | dennis_jeeves2 wrote:
             | >though collection is still your problem
             | 
             | You state this as some simple issue, Often they will not
             | pay.
        
           | lurk2 wrote:
           | Are you speaking from experience?
        
         | bookofjoe wrote:
         | "I was only ruined but twice in my life -- once when I lost a
         | lawsuit and when I won one." -- Voltaire
        
         | akerl_ wrote:
         | It's not clear to me that a default judgement in a civil case
         | against a moving company would be something their shipping
         | insurer would pay out.
         | 
         | As is demonstrated in this blog post, the insurer paid out
         | directly on a claim of damages, no civil court required. But
         | above & beyond that, to recoup costs paid for the move based on
         | a dispute about the service rendered, my understanding is that
         | you'd end up with a judgement against the moving company and
         | the same struggles chasing them down as you already had.
        
         | deckar01 wrote:
         | You have to serve their registered agent in a way that
         | satisfies a judge. I tried to sue a company whose registered
         | agent was a high profile attorney. I paid multiple people to
         | serve him, but every time it got back to the judge his office
         | had somehow tricked the service officer into accepting the
         | summons in a way the judge deemed invalid. I had to give up
         | because service fees were approaching a significant chunk of
         | the claim and you can't recoup that in OK...
        
           | LorenPechtel wrote:
           | If they were tricked into improper service why would they be
           | paid?
        
             | 8n4vidtmkvmk wrote:
             | Right?? I don't know anything about 'serving' people but if
             | I pay someone to do that, I expect they know how to do it
             | properly, or they shouldn't be paid for a job they didn't
             | deliver on.
        
       | mud_dauber wrote:
       | Boy, if robotics could learn how to bubble wrap, tape, box and
       | stack both hard and soft items... They could hitch a ride on the
       | back of a panel truck. Somewhat similar to forklifts on the tails
       | of Home Depot delivery trucks.
        
         | autoexec wrote:
         | Those robot movers would be recording every item in your home,
         | evaluating the age and condition of those items, logging every
         | member of your family, mapping out the floor plans of your old
         | and new home, and streaming that data back to the moving
         | company who would sell it to data brokers.
        
           | akerl_ wrote:
           | Does that harm me or my stuff? Because smashed furniture and
           | banged up walls suck.
        
             | NegativeK wrote:
             | I don't think I'm alone in viewing it as theft of your
             | personal data.
        
               | akerl_ wrote:
               | Is it theft? Do I stop having my data after they're gone?
        
               | Telemakhos wrote:
               | Rereading the post in question, I'm not so sure that I'd
               | be afraid of "theft of my personal data" so much as "a
               | plan for theft of my personal possessions." A map of my
               | house with an inventory of my possessions would mean a
               | lot to thieves who wanted to hit targets quickly and
               | optimize their spree for a value-to-weight ratio. That
               | kind of data could make organized burglary very
               | profitable.
        
               | akerl_ wrote:
               | The overlap of "the entities that carry out data breaches
               | on digital entities" and "the people who break into your
               | house to steal stuff" is not really well correlated. This
               | is for a variety of reasons, but the most boring is that
               | hacking websites is way smoother when you're a faceless
               | entity far from any kind of jurisdiction, and breaking
               | into somebody's house is something you need boots-on-
               | ground for.
        
               | autoexec wrote:
               | Scammers and thieves are using data brokers more and more
               | all the time. They already buy up lists of rich elderly
               | people, lists of people with dementia, and lists of
               | people with low IQs or poor educations who are often
               | easier to trick out of their cash.
               | 
               | Most criminals breaking into houses aren't buying up
               | targeted lists of likely victims from data brokers yet,
               | but it's effective so you should expect that the number
               | of criminals turning to those resources will only
               | increase.
        
             | autoexec wrote:
             | That data would absolutely be used to harm you eventually.
             | It'd likely haunt you for the rest of your life.
             | 
             | The most innocent use of that data would result in you
             | getting endless spam from the manufacturers of every item
             | in your home letting you know about the latest model you
             | should upgrade to, along with spam from every competitor
             | telling you why their product should replace what you have.
             | Companies you've never even heard of would suggest you buy
             | their stuff just because you happen to have something in
             | your home that is somewhat similar to something they offer.
             | 
             | Maybe the IRS gets their hands on that data and starts
             | wondering how it is you've managed to afford what you have?
             | Maybe you divorce and your ex's attorney uses that data
             | against you because you forgot to list an asset or to
             | demonstrate that you should have to pay more in alimony, or
             | to paint you as being less fit for custody of your
             | children. Maybe you have something in your home that
             | matches something that was used in a crime and you become a
             | suspect when you wouldn't have otherwise.
             | 
             | Maybe you have things in your home that others would find
             | offensive and activists and extremists target you because
             | of something you have. Scammers and thieves will use that
             | data to target you more effectively. Physiological profiles
             | will be updated based on what you own and how well you
             | maintain your possessions. How sentimental are you? How
             | much do brands and trends matter to you? What do your items
             | say about your values? Those insights will be used by
             | people looking to manipulate you and your views.
             | 
             | It could impact the prices you pay when you buy things,
             | factor into whether or not you get employed at a job you
             | want, and it wouldn't just be happening to you either, but
             | to everyone else in your household including your children.
             | 
             | There's basically zero chance of that data helping you in
             | any way and lots of ways it could end up being used against
             | you without you even being aware of the cause. Your health
             | insurance company isn't going to tell you that they raised
             | your rates because the sporting equipment you kept in your
             | garage made it look to an algorithm like you're more likely
             | to get injured. You just see the higher bill. Everyone who
             | gets their hands on that data will try to use in any and
             | every way that they can to benefit themselves and that will
             | usually be at your expense.
        
               | akerl_ wrote:
               | That's a lot of maybes. I think I'd take the trade, the
               | same way I pay for Netflix even though it means they know
               | what I'm watching, or sign up for the store card at the
               | grocery store even though it means they know what I'm
               | eating.
               | 
               | I'm willing to trade information about myself for goods
               | and services.
        
               | autoexec wrote:
               | There's no way to do anything in today's society without
               | being surveilled and the data being collected never goes
               | away. We all make choices on how much to we're okay with
               | handing over knowing that it will all be used against us
               | later. I'll leave the robots to you and just hire a few
               | young men to do the job. I'll sleep better knowing that
               | at least in this case, I won't face negative
               | repercussions for the rest of my life as a result.
        
               | Dylan16807 wrote:
               | > There's basically zero chance of that data helping you
               | in any way
               | 
               | Except with the moving damage risk, which is very
               | significant.
               | 
               | The harms you're listing probably add up to less than a
               | hundred dollars, if we're looking at the realistic risk.
        
             | vemom wrote:
             | Yes absolutely. By the loss of the founding principles and
             | freedoms of your country using technology as an end run.
        
               | akerl_ wrote:
               | The Constitution and the principles of my country are
               | perfectly aligned with adults entering into a mutually
               | agreed business transaction. They're aligned with a
               | company offering to sell me a service with a given price,
               | and where part of their upside is retaining data about
               | me.
               | 
               | autoexec's reply in a parallel thread is a strong case
               | for why somebody might view the impact of that data
               | retention as too costly to be worth using such a service.
               | And that's why nobody is forced to hire data-collecting
               | robot movers. But under the principles and freedoms of my
               | county, companies are allowed to make the offer.
        
           | Scene_Cast2 wrote:
           | I'd love there to be a catalog of all the stuff in my home
           | that I could organize, or easily put up on eBay. The biggest
           | hurdle of selling something, for me, is the work of
           | photographing and uploading the photos. A one-click "sell
           | this" would be amazing.
        
             | esperent wrote:
             | > I'd love there to be a catalog of all the stuff
             | 
             | Oh no, _you_ wouldn 't have access to that data. It belongs
             | to the robot mover company, not you.
        
             | autoexec wrote:
             | With all the surveillance we live under, pretty much none
             | of it benefits you in any way. I'd love to have access to
             | all the data that's collected about me by the state and by
             | corporations (including the inferences and assumptions they
             | make by evaluating that data). I'd never need to keep a
             | journal. They don't want to give you that data. They'd
             | rather you don't think about it at all.
        
               | soupfordummies wrote:
               | They'd rather you don't KNOW about it at all. I think a
               | good percentage of people that are outside of our tech
               | bubble have no idea how deep that rabbit hole goes.
        
           | scarmig wrote:
           | Inevitably, companies would arise that don't sell your data,
           | and charge a higher fee to compensate the loss in revenue.
           | Then, they'd go out of business as customers decide they
           | prefer to sell all their data for a couple extra bucks.
        
             | autoexec wrote:
             | > Inevitably, companies would arise that don't sell your
             | data, and charge a higher fee to compensate the loss in
             | revenue.
             | 
             | I've been waiting for that to happen in just about every
             | product category I have ever used since the rise of
             | surveillance capitalism and it hasn't yet. It's a fantasy.
             | 
             | Companies will always make more money by charging you as
             | much as you're willing to pay and then also selling your
             | data and/or using it against you for the rest of your life.
             | No company is going to leave that endless flow of money on
             | the table and settle for charging you a slightly higher
             | amount one time. The shareholders won't tolerate that.
        
             | andrewflnr wrote:
             | What actually seems to happen is that the expensive company
             | gains customers on the premise of privacy, then eventually
             | succumbs to the temptation to start selling some data
             | anyway.
        
             | hx8 wrote:
             | If only we had a comprehensive set of data privacy laws
             | that allowed users to request their data be deleted and
             | limited what companies can do with people's data.
        
           | sgustard wrote:
           | Human movers have phones, they could be making some extra
           | bucks doing this now?
        
             | autoexec wrote:
             | They could, but it'd take a lot longer and movers are
             | usually paid by the hour so they could expect to hear a lot
             | of "Stop playing on your phone and get to work" or even
             | "why are you taking photos of my (or my child's) stuff"
             | which could get pretty awkward.
             | 
             | I expect that right now moving companies do sell info like
             | your name and your old/new address. That alone should give
             | them a rough idea of your income level, if you're getting
             | poorer or richer, starting a family or recently divorced,
             | etc. If you're using a moving company like Flat Rate and
             | taking photos of all your stuff so that they can make an
             | estimate they could be selling that data too.
        
           | xnx wrote:
           | Isn't this what robot vacuums are for?
        
           | astrange wrote:
           | This falls under the illusion that you are personally
           | interesting. Nobody would do this to you simply because it
           | doesn't matter.
        
       | declan_roberts wrote:
       | This sucks and I feel really sorry for OP. Every once in a while
       | you stumble into a relationship with the company like this and
       | you feel so impotent as to preventing others from falling into
       | the same trap.
       | 
       | Good on OP for not giving up and for going after insurance over
       | and over.
        
       | pilingual wrote:
       | They should report it to the New York Attorney General's office,
       | especially with damning evidence like the insurance company being
       | refused contact.
       | 
       | Also the author links to the moving company's website but the
       | anchor doesn't have the rel="nofollow" attribute.
        
         | TuringNYC wrote:
         | >> They should report it to the New York Attorney General's
         | office, especially with damning evidence like the insurance
         | company being refused contact.
         | 
         | Does this work outside high-profile cases? A condo I lived in
         | faced dozens of serious offenses from the builder (e.g., live
         | electrical wires left dangling open in living areas during a
         | construction dispute.) The lawyers filed complaints with the NY
         | AG but were told it mostly adds to some aggregate and real
         | action is taken when the aggregate is huge. Also, we were told
         | that most AG attention is focused on Manhattan and not the
         | outer-boroughs.
        
           | pilingual wrote:
           | If they have clear evidence with contract, email with
           | company, email with insurance, then it may be worth it to try
           | submitting the evidence to the AG. The AG may write a letter
           | and the company may ignore it, but if other people are in the
           | same situation and the AG's office hears about it they may
           | take more serious action.
           | 
           | Was the builder in the middle of renovating and there was
           | some contract dispute? Legal issues are always nuanced and
           | construction can easily have misunderstandings. With builders
           | I'd have either a good construction attorney draft a contract
           | or just hire a reputable builder. (Matt Risinger, for
           | example, won't deal with custom legal contracts, so you
           | generally will have to choose one or the other. I'd go with a
           | reputable builder and one that doesn't want to tarnish that
           | reputation.)
        
       | vemom wrote:
       | A good removalist will come and quote and figure it all out.
       | They'll discuss what you need to do to protect things and who
       | will do it. You pay on delivery so at least there is the option
       | to not pay.
       | 
       | Any company that subcontracts as a surprise is shit. My MO now is
       | if I get a surprise subby for any job, from coding to paving to
       | moving I am going to tell them to fuck off. It ain't a good sign.
        
         | stavros wrote:
         | Alas, from TFA:
         | 
         | > I had to have everything out that day, so there wasn't any
         | choice
        
         | amarcheschi wrote:
         | At least here in italy subcontracting has worse conditions than
         | the regular workers as well, both for wage and safety. We're
         | having a referendum where that, if passed, could make the
         | parent company liable if they subcontract and a worker gets
         | injured. It absolutely makes sense to me to hold a company
         | accountable if it knowingly subcontracts to shady shell
         | companies so they don't have to care about safety and can pay
         | workers less
        
         | globular-toast wrote:
         | Trouble is with moving you're kinda screwed, unless you want to
         | squat in your buyer's house while you find another solution.
        
           | LamaOfRuin wrote:
           | Incredibly helpful to have buffer days if you can manage it.
           | A very short rent-back agreement for a few days smooths out a
           | lot.
        
             | LorenPechtel wrote:
             | Yeah, create overlap in some fashion. Anything with zero
             | margin is error prone.
        
         | madaxe_again wrote:
         | Eh, they'll do that, and then they'll decide that they can make
         | more by just stealing all of your stuff and selling it overseas
         | anyway.
         | 
         | Happened to me 20 years ago. They vanished off the face of the
         | earth - I only figured out what happened because I found the
         | motorbike on a Dutch auction site. The rest of it - furniture
         | that had been in the family since the 1700s, etc., just gone.
         | 
         | Tracked down their lawyer, who informed me that they had burned
         | him too.
         | 
         | Never got any of it back.
         | 
         | Now, I just rent a truck and do it myself, as it seems that
         | pretty much all removers are charlatans and crooks.
        
       | senordevnyc wrote:
       | I had a similar bad experience (not quite so bad) with Flat Rate
       | Movers in 2015. Sad to see they're still pulling this shit a
       | decade later.
        
       | dramm wrote:
       | I wonder how well flat rate movers is going to survive network
       | partitions, clock skews, and quorum failures.
        
       | anovikov wrote:
       | How much one needs to make to justify the shocking $14K moving
       | bill? I made north of $1M last year and never in my fucking sane
       | mind i'd pay nearly as much! Worst case, it's a matter of renting
       | a truck and moving things oneself maybe hiring asking some
       | neighbour to help loading and unloading, and offering him a drink
       | after. Because you probably won't pack as densely as pro movers
       | will, and you can do packaging as good, do two trips instead of
       | one.
       | 
       | $14K is a shock and a fucking ripoff even if it was done
       | perfectly. How much time is needed to move otherwise? Two days,
       | tops? One of which you spend anyway managing that move done by
       | movers.
        
         | trial3 wrote:
         | your comment's tone suggests you live alone. there are many
         | sane answers to this that do not involve one's salary at all:
         | physical ability, distance, quantity of stuff, other demands on
         | your time or, perhaps most of all, the time of people you are
         | moving with.
         | 
         | i personally am in a place where i still drive my own U-Hauls,
         | but can very easily imagine the value of avoiding that amount
         | of stress being worth just writing a huge check
         | 
         | i also must point out the even brokest friends i've helped move
         | at least sprung for pizza for everyone who helped
        
           | anovikov wrote:
           | I don't live alone, and in general i'm not against the idea
           | of someone doing it for a fee, but $14k!!! It's a fucking
           | annual minimum wage.
           | 
           | Also, as for driving a truck, sure it sucks driving a truck
           | for days, but shipping a 20-foot container over a very long
           | distance does not cost nearly as much. It's in the
           | $1000-$2000 range. A 20-foot container should fit someone's
           | all possessions. Someone charging $12K for packing and
           | unpacking definitely rips people off, big time.
        
             | simoncion wrote:
             | Assuming a three-day job and a three-man crew the math
             | works out to:                 14000/(24*3*3)
             | 64.81481481481481
             | 
             | about sixty-five bucks an hour. [0] OP doesn't mention if
             | the house was packed up into a container to be loaded onto
             | a train (as you suggest would happen), but -given what I've
             | seen and heard of long-haul house movers doing- I find it
             | much more likely that the house contents were loaded into a
             | truck and that truck driven cross-country.
             | 
             | The BLS claims that median pay for tractor-trailer drivers
             | is ~$28/hour. Paying a little more than double that for a
             | competent pack, load, haul and unload seems fair to me.
             | 
             | > ...shipping a 20-foot container over a very long distance
             | does not cost nearly as much.
             | 
             | Now, how much does getting your packed belongings into that
             | container, getting the container to where it can be loaded
             | up on the conveyance, then getting it to where you can get
             | your belongings out of the container, and your belongings
             | into your house cost?
             | 
             | Do keep in mind that there are a whole bunch of places that
             | absolutely would not permit you to drop a twenty-foot steel
             | shipping container out on the street for an extended period
             | of time, and others who won't let you do that without a
             | permit.
             | 
             | [0] I'm fudging the numbers a bit because I can't be arsed
             | to figure out how to work out the "blended" rate for "Five
             | men for two days to pack/load and unload and one man for
             | two days on the road".
        
         | crazygringo wrote:
         | Seeing as the move took "a few days" it is presumably across
         | the country.
         | 
         | Maybe you have better things to do with your time than spend
         | _days_ driving a truck.
         | 
         | And a neighbor might help you move a single couch.
         | 
         | But I sure don't have any neighbors who will spend _an entire
         | day_ doing back-breaking work bringing sofas and heavy
         | bookcases and bed frames down narrow stairs, quite possibly
         | injuring themselves in the process because it 's not something
         | they do regularly.
         | 
         | But I love that you live in a world where serious hard labor is
         | freely provided by your neighbors -- neighbors who will never
         | see you again since you're leaving! And that your family has no
         | problem with you disappearing for days to drive a truck, using
         | your vacation days to do so instead of to spend with them.
        
       | sethammons wrote:
       | My movers took our pre-packed boxes, loaded them up, and were to
       | meet us three days later six states over, in Montana. We couldn't
       | use PODs because they wouldn't deliver to anything closer than
       | about 90 minutes away.
       | 
       | Dumb us. Should have done that. It took the company two months to
       | finally deliver our possessions. They filed bankruptcy during the
       | situation and lost the truck for a while and we were about to
       | have to go through the courts when they finally found some guy
       | with a bad neck to drive and nobody to unload. They wrote our
       | names with permanent marker on some things, broke others, a few
       | boxes were never seen again. But the damage was within some
       | contract provision I missed that said something about up to $1k
       | to be submitted to them for coverage which half they denied.
       | 
       | Subcontractor movers. One of the worst "professional" experiences
       | of my life.
        
         | greenavocado wrote:
         | What was the cost before the troubles began?
        
           | sethammons wrote:
           | $5k I think, it has been a while. It was enough that it was a
           | lot and we considered multiple trips with a uhaul, but
           | decided for the one-and-done
        
         | johnisgood wrote:
         | Is this an American thing? I never experienced such issues here
         | in Eastern Europe. We called a guy with a truck and got it
         | delivered as-is.
        
           | matthewowen wrote:
           | Partly it's a long distance thing, especially at the lower
           | end of the market.
           | 
           | Imagine you want to move your possessions to somewhere that's
           | three days drive away. Generally speaking, you need a team in
           | location a to pack, a driver, and a team in location B to
           | unpack.
           | 
           | In practice that's hard for companies to offer entirely in
           | house, so it winds up being subcontracted out, and then you
           | have the problems you expect.
           | 
           | If you're moving a couple of hours down the road, this
           | doesn't apply, it's easy to find local movers who will load,
           | drive, unload with a single crew.
        
             | raverbashing wrote:
             | As per yesterday's front page: it's the Accountability Sink
             | that keeps on giving
        
             | johnisgood wrote:
             | I think I agree. I mean, I have only moved between cities
             | without issues, not states.
             | 
             | So, what should I do (or who to call or trust) if I want to
             | move between states? Say, from California to Montana?
        
               | lotyrin wrote:
               | Your best bet is to very carefully pack your own
               | containers (possibly with direct help from a local mover)
               | and work with someone to deliver those between states and
               | then carefully unpack the container on the other end
               | (possibly with help from local movers). Problem is that
               | you have to be moving from and to a place with space for
               | the containers to be packed/unpacked, and sit empty or
               | full for a while while they're getting picked up
               | according to whatever schedule you can arrange.
               | 
               | If you're renting and can't accommodate this process, I
               | highly recommend only owning things that you can fit in
               | your personal vehicle or can sell on one end and replace
               | on the other fairly easily.
        
       | massysett wrote:
       | The title of the HN post is incorrect; Flat Rate Movers is a
       | proper name.
        
         | blendergeek wrote:
         | I believe the HN title mangler does that. It frequently changes
         | the meaning of HN titles
        
           | zdw wrote:
           | You can edit the name after the mangler has it's way with the
           | title.
        
       | mjd wrote:
       | I had a similar experience with Bekins a few years ago. A sales
       | rep came to my house to look at my stuff; he promised a crew of
       | six. On moving day, two broken-down subcontractors arrived with a
       | rented truck.
        
       | toomanyrichies wrote:
       | https://archive.ph/LIu6H
        
       | bob1029 wrote:
       | I've been passively downsizing over the last few years just
       | because _having_ a bunch of shit is really fatiguing from an
       | entropy management perspective. Moving it is 10x worse.
       | 
       | If the movers won't answer your calls and your business drives
       | them to bankruptcy, I wonder if maybe the problem exists on the
       | customer side more than the business side.
       | 
       | Hoarders can be extremely difficult people to work with. I've got
       | it in my family and I can feel it in my bones sometimes. There
       | are garages and homes that I will be responsible for cleaning out
       | that will likely take me multiple days to complete even with an
       | army of paid help.
        
         | twodave wrote:
         | This is such an understated take IMO. In our house we are
         | constantly moving things out to reduce clutter, get rid of
         | unneeded items and, maybe most of all, eliminate the stress of
         | just knowing they're there. Sometimes we get rid of something
         | we later realize we needed. It's pretty rare, but when it
         | happens it's almost never anything expensive. How do you put a
         | price tag on your stress level, though? Just get rid of it and
         | spend the $20-50 if you cut a bit too deep. A few "lessons"
         | like that and you'll be way more in tune with what you actually
         | need. It's been years since we had to "rebuy" anything at all.
         | 
         | I still think moving again would be daunting, just because we
         | are a family of 6 and there's no way to move that much
         | furniture easily, much less all the things that fill that
         | furniture. But at least if it happens we don't have to move a
         | bunch of trash we can't easily discern the need for.
         | 
         | EDIT: also "getting rid of stuff" doesn't necessarily mean
         | throwing it away. If you're willing to give things away there
         | are a lot of people out there who could actually use the things
         | you're not. Clothes, kitchen gadgets, kids' toys... especially
         | toys, we have our kids pick several items before every
         | birthday/Christmas to give away to make room for whatever the
         | family is about to give them.
        
           | PebblesRox wrote:
           | The optimal amount of regret from decluttering is non-zero!
           | 
           | I've learned that yes, maybe 1 out of every 100 items I get
           | rid of will turn out to be something I need again in the
           | future. That's a worthwhile price to pay for the benefit of
           | not having the other 99 items in my life!
           | 
           | Donating to thrift stores is very convenient. And I learned
           | recently that if I have stuff that's not really nice enough
           | for the thrift store to sell, I can just list it on Facebook
           | Marketplace for free and people will come take it away from
           | my porch! Makes me feel better about getting rid of stuff
           | that still has some use in it, because I'm not just throwing
           | it in the trash.
           | 
           | My mother-in-law and her friends use a system I call clutter
           | laundering. Anything with too much sentimental value to give
           | to a stranger, they pass along to each other. Presumably once
           | the emotional distance is long enough, somebody can actually
           | get rid of it for good! (That's what I've been helping my MIL
           | do with stuff that comes to her at least!)
        
             | arcastroe wrote:
             | Things with sentimental value have so because they trigger
             | memories. I find a photo of the object triggers memories
             | just the same. Snap a photo, place it in some memories
             | album, and donate. It's much easier to hoard digital photos
             | than physical objects
        
               | _dark_matter_ wrote:
               | This is a great idea! Thank you!
        
           | WillAdams wrote:
           | Yeah, this is best summed up as:
           | 
           | >Only the rich can afford to have nothing.
           | 
           | (if they get rid of something and miss it, they'll just buy
           | another)
        
             | twodave wrote:
             | Yeah, I can understand that sentiment. We've done this
             | since I graduated from college, when I was making about
             | 1/10 annually what I am now, though. As I said, you get
             | pretty good at knowing what is worth keeping. Besides, even
             | with a low income it is important to prioritize being
             | charitable. We teach this to our kids. If you don't
             | prioritize it early in life when things are tight, you're
             | likely not to prioritize it later when most people have
             | even more opportunity to be charitable.
        
           | nullc wrote:
           | > eliminate the stress of just knowing they're there
           | 
           | That sounds both irrational and unhealthy. Why are you
           | suffering from stress because you have stuff?
        
             | twodave wrote:
             | I thought the context of my comment made it obvious.
             | Unneeded and unnecessary items cluttering up your home are
             | to me akin to leaves in the garage. It inconveniences me
             | every time I have to step around or over them, clear space
             | to set a drink down, move that box in my closet full of old
             | cables, etc., similar to how walking into your garage with
             | socks on is a lot more annoying if there are leaves and
             | pollen about. I would contend it's rather less healthy not
             | to notice these things since they subtract from one's
             | executive function.
        
               | nullc wrote:
               | Had your comment said that you were inconvenienced by
               | stuff in your way when you were trying to get things done
               | or find things, I wouldn't have even considered
               | commenting.
        
               | twodave wrote:
               | Interesting! I thought that was implied by my use of the
               | word "clutter," since that's how I think of the term.
        
         | criddell wrote:
         | There's a world of space between hoarder and minimalist and I
         | feel pretty comfortable in the middle. I've been working for 40
         | years now and have bought a lot of stuff that I get a lot of
         | enjoyment out of. My favorite thing in the world is to have
         | time off work with nothing to do and nowhere to go. I think if
         | I were forced to retire today, I'd have no problem spending the
         | rest of my days puttering around my home.
         | 
         | I don't have the hoarding gene, but I might have the hermit
         | gene...
        
         | pfdietz wrote:
         | When we last moved we spent months discarding an enormous
         | quantity of crap that had accumulated over 20+ years. It was
         | very liberating, and has led to even more disposal of unneeded
         | stuff since.
        
           | kbutler wrote:
           | We last moved on a very short notice after 20+ years. Got rid
           | of lots of stuff, but ended up moving a bunch we didn't have
           | time to sort through.
           | 
           | Got to get back to sorting & discarding - or maybe, if it's
           | still in the box, I don't really need it?
        
         | LorenPechtel wrote:
         | Where is there any indication of hoarding in this situation?
         | The company contracted to provide certain services but wasn't
         | staffed to actually do so, nor well enough equipped to actually
         | accomplish it (lack of packing materials.) How much stuff is
         | being moved is completely irrelevant to this.
         | 
         | The thing is movers have little in the way of repeat business,
         | thus little incentive to treat the customer right.
        
           | andrewaylett wrote:
           | The movers you want are the ones that are used by big
           | organisations to relocate their people.
           | 
           | A friend discovered a nearly-ideal way to move out of the
           | house they'd been in for >30 years: she trained as a minister
           | for the Church of England, and when she was placed in a role
           | the church packed up the whole house (including all the
           | fossils and archaeological finds they'd accumulated) and
           | relocated them.
           | 
           | That said, I've always hired a van for house moves, and it's
           | going to have been a lot easier for me (never moving more
           | than 20 miles since coming north for university) than for
           | folk moving across the US.
        
           | rcstank wrote:
           | There isn't any indication of such, OP formed a strawman by
           | suggesting the problem is because of hoarding.
        
         | globular-toast wrote:
         | Multiple days? A proper hoarder will take multiple months if
         | there's any stuff of value there. If it's just boxes of old
         | milk bottle tops it might be easier. But a proper hoarder will
         | have a box of milk bottle tops right next to a box of expensive
         | tools or something.
         | 
         | I've done the minimal lifestyle and found it tiring too. I got
         | myself into a state where I wouldn't have any nice things
         | because I would always be thinking it's one more thing to move
         | when I inevitably do. But I don't _want_ to move. I like being
         | in one place and having a home. Hoarding is not the way, but it
         | 's ok to have this too.
        
       | RS-232 wrote:
       | Another anecdote for never using flat rate/subcontracted movers
       | if you can avoid it.
       | 
       | My employer clearly picked the lowest bidder (naming and shaming
       | Atlantic Relocation Systems) for a long distance move across 3
       | timezones (~2000 miles).
       | 
       | Upon arrival, all of our wooden furniture was destroyed. Every
       | drawer falling off the tracks. Expensive tools missing from my
       | tool bag, such as my Ideal SureTest circuit analyzer. Strange
       | stains on our sofa, reminiscent of animal urine.
       | 
       | The $5000 dollars that we received in damages was a pittance and
       | small multiple of the cost of repairs. Our still broken furniture
       | is a bitter reminder to never trust these kinds of movers.
       | 
       | At least we got our stuff... some lost everything. It would be
       | better to just downsize and circumvent the need for movers
       | completely. We would all be better off with _less shit_.
        
         | reaperducer wrote:
         | While we're naming and shaming: VIP Mayflower in Los Angeles.
         | 
         | I moved from the west coast to the east. VIP sent my stuff to
         | Idaho, where it sat outside unprotected for two weeks while the
         | driver did another load that was of a higher priority than
         | mine.
         | 
         | When I finally got my stuff, nearly two weeks after the
         | delivery window, none of my tables had legs. They had been
         | removed and somehow lost in shipping.
         | 
         | I got enough money from the extra moving insurance and from the
         | payout for the delivery being so late that, in effect, the move
         | was free. But it wasn't anywhere near enough to cover fixing
         | and replacing what was damaged.
        
         | cobertos wrote:
         | Keep all the small, important, sentimental stuff and expensive,
         | hard to acquire tooling. Sell all the furniture. It's
         | essentially commodity, takes up the most space, and easy to get
         | anew. Factor the cost of sale and rebuying into the price of
         | moving. That was my strategy when I moved into a tiny home.
        
           | hinkley wrote:
           | If you find a national furniture store you may even be able
           | to pick out your furniture here and have it delivered there.
           | Particularly if you have kids or elderly, you've given them
           | time to adapt to the idea of new furniture.
        
         | qingcharles wrote:
         | On the flip side, I once paid the lowest bid flat-rate mover
         | and they went so far above and beyond that I felt awful about
         | how low their bid was and gave them double after the job was
         | completed.
        
         | cameldrv wrote:
         | After hearing so many horror stories of stuff not being
         | delivered on time, being damaged, or even held hostage for
         | extra payment, when I did a cross country move, I just hired
         | local movers to load and unload the truck and I drove it
         | myself. It took a few days, but I had full control of the
         | process and I was never handing over all of my stuff to some
         | random company.
        
       | muststopmyths wrote:
       | Years ago, there was a site called movingscams.com where people
       | reviewed moving services. It helped me find a mover for my own
       | move down the West Coast. Turned out to be a really good outfit,
       | honest and great customer service (refunded me a good chunk
       | because they didn't deliver within the timeframe their
       | salesperson had indicated).
       | 
       | There were a couple of big national movers in those days. Allied,
       | Mayflower and I forget one other. The smaller one I used was a
       | subcontractor for Allied (I think).
       | 
       | Sadly, that site seems to be defunct for some years now. Looks
       | like they didn't make it through the Great Recession. :(
       | 
       | I miss those niche forums.
        
         | Spooky23 wrote:
         | Yeah this forum was super handy. They saved my from a bad
         | experience.
         | 
         | A few years ago, a family member worked for a state DOT where
         | they regulate movers and adjudicate some licensing issues. The
         | stories he had were off the chain -- everything from people's
         | stuff getting lost to straight extortion. Basically, any
         | affordable, full service mover is a scam or incompetent. (In a
         | high regulatory state, they are 100% scam.) Period. There's no
         | exception.
         | 
         | He explained that the business kinda melted away as companies
         | don't take responsibility for employee moves anymore - and that
         | was the backbone of the business. Other than executives and the
         | military, best case you get some money for expenses. (And
         | military families have lots of problems with movers.) It's also
         | a business that's harder to do under the table for the strong
         | backs. It was much cheaper to give some goombas a few hundred
         | bucks than to carry worker's compensation insurance for a
         | physical job.
         | 
         | For regular people, the best option short of starting over is
         | to rent a container and have that shipped. You can hire casual
         | labor to help unpack.
        
       | anymouse123456 wrote:
       | For what it's worth Home Depot Services operate exactly the same
       | way as the sub-contracted moving companies.
       | 
       | It's the circle-of-pointing-spider-man-meme but with everyone
       | reaching into your wallet while doing absolutely nothing but
       | damage.
        
         | LorenPechtel wrote:
         | Which is why with airlines it's set up who is liable for your
         | lost bag, let the carriers fight amongst themselves about who
         | actually lost it. Unfortunately, compensation has not kept up
         | with the value of the stuff we typically carry.
        
       | raverbashing wrote:
       | Honestly, some businesses (in the US especially) seems to be
       | simple fronts for scams.
       | 
       | How hard it is to actually do the fsking job you are paid to do
       | for the contracted amount? It's not rocket science
        
       | nobodyandproud wrote:
       | When my (now) wife and I decided to move in together, we hired
       | flat rate movers on craigslist (stupid move, I know).
       | 
       | After waiting an entire day during our scheduled move date as no-
       | shows (and not taking our calls near the end): The next day I
       | rented a u-haul, hired two or three day laborers for then very
       | generous $15.00/hr, and got it done on my own in about 3-4 hours;
       | with a minor incentive to get it done sooner. The total cost was
       | about $250-300 included the rental, which cost the same as hiring
       | the movers.
       | 
       | Because it involved just small furniture, it was doable. It also
       | helped that I was quite fit then. When the movers called a week
       | later I gave them a piece of my mind, naturally.
       | 
       | After this we agreed to only hire small but reputable movers,
       | even if it costs quite a bit more.
        
       | deedubaya wrote:
       | I paid almost as much for an in-state, 240 mile, move without
       | packing/unpacking.
       | 
       | Get what ya pay for? If felt extremely expensive at the time but
       | after hearing a few horror stories...
        
         | elteto wrote:
         | Unless you were moving a full 18-wheeler worth of stuff you
         | overpaid. For a 240 mile move you can rent the truck and drive
         | it yourself, and pay local movers to pack/unpack at each
         | location.
        
       | brenainn wrote:
       | The four times I've paid for removal, I've ended up doing as much
       | lifting as they did on the day. I don't know who I hate more; the
       | guys who showed up four hours late, pissed all over the toilet
       | seat and asked me to order them a pizza (I didn't) or the guys
       | who showed up four hours late, told me we had been underquoted by
       | 75% and that there was only 3 hours to get everything in the
       | truck or they would miss the freight cutoff.
       | 
       | From now on when I move locally I rent the biggest thing I can
       | drive without a truck license. If I have to move interstate ever
       | again I'm selling everything and starting over.
        
         | datavirtue wrote:
         | This. Services are not commodities, and in a business like
         | trucking/moving only the most cut throat ruthless criminals can
         | survive.
        
           | foobarian wrote:
           | I can't figure out how in this day and age of Internet and
           | social networks it is not possible to establish trusted mover
           | companies. Maybe people with good experiences don't care?
        
             | duskwuff wrote:
             | Like a number of other service businesses with reputation
             | problems - plumbers, locksmiths, garage door technicians
             | (no, really) - it's a service which customers only need
             | very infrequently, and where the customer is typically
             | under pressure to choose a vendor quickly when they need
             | service. There's very little repeat business; as such,
             | there's not a lot of pressure against dishonest or
             | substandard vendors.
        
               | pdonis wrote:
               | It used to be that third parties would act as brokers to
               | give vendors an incentive to be honest. For example, my
               | parents had to do several interstate PCS moves when I was
               | a kid while my dad was in the Navy, and each time the
               | movers were hired through the military. They knew there
               | was a lot of repeat business there, so they had an
               | incentive not to screw us. I only remember one mishap
               | during those moves, where a nice desk that was originally
               | from Hong Kong was damaged while the movers were bringing
               | it up a short flight of stairs. They paid the insurance
               | claim without any haggling. The desk was fixed, and I
               | still have it.
               | 
               | Unfortunately, I don't know if even military PCS moves
               | have that level of trustworthiness these days.
        
             | rcstank wrote:
             | There are so many variables. All it takes is a few able
             | bodied guys to start up a company and prey on people who
             | need to move, sometimes short notice. If a job gets screwed
             | up, no big deal, just start another company or have another
             | friend do it and team up.
        
         | pdonis wrote:
         | _> If I have to move interstate ever again I 'm selling
         | everything and starting over._
         | 
         | That's more or less what my wife and I did the last time we did
         | an interstate move. The stuff we simply couldn't part with, I
         | drove myself. Truck rental prices were outrageous (this was
         | during COVID), so I ended up making multiple trips with my SUV
         | stuffed to the gills. The rest we sold or gave away, and then
         | we bought new stuff for the new place. Moving the stuff would
         | have cost more anyway with prices as they were.
         | 
         | I'm reminded of a saying which I think is originally Chinese:
         | During the course of a long life, a wise man will be prepared
         | to abandon his baggage several times. I think the saying was
         | originally about avoiding being caught in a war zone, but it
         | seems like it applies to interstate moves these days.
        
       | hartator wrote:
       | Have anyone had a bad experience with Atlas?
       | 
       | Considering using them for my next move.
        
       | escape42 wrote:
       | What everyone else said plus "Fixed-bid not-to-exceed"
        
       | Graziano_M wrote:
       | I have a similar (but much worse) story.
       | 
       | Long story short: Any moving company in Boca Raton is a scam,
       | don't do cross-state, check very closely for fake reviews (e.g.
       | google the text and see if it's duplicated elsewhere).
       | 
       | Don't pay a dime ahead of time, and absolutely refuse anyone that
       | subcontracts.
       | 
       | https://www.sun-sentinel.com/2018/08/17/feds-south-florida-b...
        
       | Projectiboga wrote:
       | 16 LTL shipping, or Less-Than-Truckload shipping, is a cost-
       | effective method for transporting goods that don't require a full
       | truckload. It's commonly used by businesses shipping smaller
       | quantities, as it combines multiple shipments onto a single
       | truck, sharing the cost among shippers.
       | 
       | This is a way to ship things professionally but it is based on
       | pallet sized packing. Not sure about furnature via this method.
        
       | andreygrehov wrote:
       | I did three moves with Excellent Quality Movers
       | (https://www.eqmovers.com/) and they are fantastic. They've been
       | in the business for like 20 years.
        
       | owenversteeg wrote:
       | The article is a useful piece of advice, "when you can't get
       | money owed from a company, go to their insurer", but _why_ are
       | movers so notoriously bad?
       | 
       | I think the core problem here is a few things. 1) being entirely
       | reliant on other people, 2) people with no incentive to care, and
       | 3) no recourse when things go wrong. When all three combine, it
       | only takes the smallest thing for the shit to hit the fan. This
       | is common with movers, car mechanics, tradespeople, police,
       | interactions with large faceless corporations etc.
       | 
       | The first, being reliant on people, is a more modern phenomenon
       | and something you can mitigate with some proper planning and
       | "lifestyle design." A combination of useful skills, close
       | friends/family, and spare time/money are the answer. The second
       | you can help by being friendly and getting to know people, even
       | better if you have some sort of local connection; if they know
       | they'll see you around town they will be less likely to screw you
       | over. The third is often money: withholding (part of) payment
       | until work is complete, credit card chargebacks, small claims
       | court, etc.
        
         | owenversteeg wrote:
         | One interesting exercise is to identify all the situations in
         | your life that are like this (reliant on other people who have
         | no incentive to care, where you have limited recourse.) The
         | list for your average person is probably fairly long: landlord,
         | bank, CC issuer, Google, Apple, Amazon, power/water/sewer
         | company, mechanic/plumber/HVAC/electrician/any trades you
         | cannot do on your own, physical stores you rely on (Walmart,
         | Target etc), cops/other officials you do not know, the list is
         | infinite.
         | 
         | I think this is a large part of why people feel like they don't
         | have control over their lives anymore: because they don't.
        
           | satanfirst wrote:
           | You really have to make a distinction between monopolies of
           | control and the rest. If you can go to multiple shops,
           | restaurants, etc, then you have selection as control. The
           | troublesome ones here have a lot of lock-in, if you can just
           | move towns, switch phone OSes, etc, then you've probably
           | sacrificed quite a bit to avoid that lock-in.
        
             | owenversteeg wrote:
             | Going somewhere else where you don't have control is not
             | control. Being able to choose who you surrender control to
             | is better than nothing, but it is not control. At the end
             | of the day you are still reliant on other people who have
             | no incentive to care, where you have limited recourse. I
             | have a friend whose landlord screwed her over so she moved.
             | Landlord of the new place sells, and the buyer landlord
             | sucks. No control. You get your accounts closed by Google
             | and you move to Microsoft. Microsoft closes your accounts
             | too. No control. Imagine the OP of this piece cancelled the
             | movers and hired new ones. They would probably have similar
             | results! That's not control!
        
               | satanfirst wrote:
               | Control is met by having ample choice. You are eroding
               | control if you settle for a duopoly where your movement
               | between them is more hassle for you and balances out by
               | the unhappy moving in the other direction.
        
         | yupitsme123 wrote:
         | A big issue is sub-contracting and diffusion of
         | responsibilities. Often the person you're doing business with
         | isn't the person who actually delivers the service to you, who
         | instead is just a lowly paid worker who has no control or
         | freedom to make decisions.
         | 
         | When I got my bathroom remodeled I talked over the design and
         | gave the first payment to a friendly guy who assured me that
         | all of my demands and expectations would be met.
         | 
         | A week later the workers show up and they're subcontractors who
         | barely speak English, don't know anything about what I
         | discussed with the first guy, and have no responsibility to
         | listen to me since they work for the other guy, not for me.
         | Meanwhile the sales guy is suddenly too busy to answer my phone
         | calls.
        
           | owenversteeg wrote:
           | I don't think that's really the issue, I think that's just
           | one of the ways in which the lack of control manifests
           | itself. You could substitute your problem with the main guy
           | sending incompetent employees, or showing up himself but
           | drunk, or doing poor work, and the cause would be the same:
           | you can't do anything about it, you're not in control. If you
           | were in control, it's no big deal. Imagine you're a well-
           | organized GC on a new build house. You hire Sam's Plumbers
           | and Sam sends some shit subcontractors. It's no big deal
           | because you have Sam's money and you have other plumbers
           | you've used before. You're not reliant on Sam, Sam has an
           | incentive to care (and thus fix things), and you have real
           | recourse. Or for a simpler example, I order a pizza, cash on
           | delivery. Pizza place uses Frank's Delivery and Frank drops
           | my pizza and it's all fucked up. They used subcontractors but
           | I am in control: I don't need to pay, I can order different
           | pizza, and I live here, so they have an incentive to make it
           | right.
        
             | yupitsme123 wrote:
             | Your examples are still using subcontractors, which is what
             | I'm saying is the problem. Someone is diffusing
             | responsibility and adding a layer of complexity just so
             | they can reduce their risk and skim a little off the top.
             | 
             | Most of this would go away if the guy who gives me the
             | estimate and takes my money is the same guy who comes back
             | to do the work later. Or if the guy delivering the pizza
             | works for the company that sells me the pizza.
             | 
             | This is the way it was through the 1990s, but now
             | everything is corporatized and sub-contracted out.
        
         | cameldrv wrote:
         | Part of the issue with movers is that you hire them rarely and
         | so they don't rely much on repeat business. Car dealers have a
         | similar problem.
        
       | kaliszad wrote:
       | This seems like a case of insufficient leverage and negotiation.
       | This is of course easy to say after the problem is described.
       | Freelancers and small companies need to be really good at
       | negotiation or accept that they will have a higher risk of losing
       | a lot of money, time and energy on somewhat unnecessary fuck-ups.
       | 
       | Most of the moving I have personally done was with people that
       | someone knew and it worked out reasonably well. We have done most
       | of the packing and these guys have mostly just done the loading/
       | unloading. The only other thing was taking apart and putting
       | together the bed, table etc. This worked well enough even between
       | Zurich and Prague and cost slightly over $1,000.
        
       | reassess_blind wrote:
       | At the end of the story, "I'm still unhappy with Flat Rate
       | movers". Uh, yeah, that's certainly a nice way to put it.
        
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