[HN Gopher] A Love Letter to People Who Believe in People
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       A Love Letter to People Who Believe in People
        
       Author : NaOH
       Score  : 270 points
       Date   : 2025-04-24 22:35 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | bix6 wrote:
       | "Having more people say, "We just want to make sure you can do
       | your magic," is what the world needs."
       | 
       | Amen to that!
       | 
       | I've found early enthusiasm hard to come by. It really seems to
       | pick up once others are onboard. But the initial 1-2 people make
       | all the difference.
        
         | conception wrote:
         | This is a trick for event planning btw. Put up a "hey anyone
         | wanna go to x?" Crickets. Quietly one on one find two or three
         | people and then say "hey the four of us are doing x anyone else
         | want in?" works a lot better. Most people want to know
         | something is gonna succeed and avoid the risk of failure.
        
       | rfl890 wrote:
       | Thought this was the Swiss Miss (hot chocolate powder) website
       | for a second
        
         | dkh wrote:
         | You can be a fan of that too if you want
        
         | pixelatedindex wrote:
         | Me too! I was like, what a weird timeline - wonder what a hot
         | chocolate company leadership has to say in these "interesting"
         | times.
         | 
         | Good read though, thanks to OP for sharing!
        
       | HanClinto wrote:
       | This is so needed. This was a very encouraging article.
       | 
       | "Being a fan is all about bringing the enthusiasm. It's being a
       | champion of possibility. It's believing in someone. And it's
       | contagious. When you're around someone who is super excited about
       | something, it washes over you. It feels good. You can't help but
       | want to bring the enthusiasm, too."
       | 
       | Stands in contrast to the Hemingway quote: "Critics are men who
       | watch a battle from a high place then come down and shoot the
       | survivors."
       | 
       | It feels socially safe, easy, and destructive to be a critic.
       | 
       | I'd rather be a fan.
        
         | pjc50 wrote:
         | Yes, but .. there is no worse critic than a _scorned_ fan.
         | There 's a lot of fandoms all around the world, and while
         | they're mostly harmless fun the edges can get weird and
         | dangerous. Or when fandoms collide.
        
           | HanClinto wrote:
           | Not entirely sure what you mean. Care to expound?
           | 
           | Are you talking about people who act out on their fandom by
           | criticizing others? "Oh I'm a fan of X, therefore I'm a vocal
           | critic of Y". I agree that such things are toxic -- fandom
           | doesn't need to be a polemic.
           | 
           | I want to cultivate the kind of fandom that builds up without
           | feeling a need to tear down others.
        
             | lukan wrote:
             | I rather think he or she means gamers for example, who send
             | out death threats, because the developers introduced a new
             | thing they don't like.
        
             | bombcar wrote:
             | They're referring to "anti fans". You see it with online
             | personalities especially; the most rabid fans (often
             | parasocial, think online streaming) are the ones who will
             | become the biggest detractors or anti fans.
             | 
             | Most people are "oh that's fun to watch ok" and then when
             | they don't like it anymore, they get bored and forget about
             | it entirely.
             | 
             | The anti-fans continue to follow it, but rabidly hate it.
             | 
             | Think Syndrome from _Incredibles_. He 's always been the
             | biggest fan.
        
             | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
             | Wasn't Selena killed by a scorned fan?
        
         | zupatol wrote:
         | There's a healthy way to be a critic, which is helping people
         | find and enjoy works they didn't notice.
         | 
         | There are also unhealthy ways of being a fan, for example if
         | you admire someone there's probably someone else you despise.
         | It's much better to follow the title of the post and believe in
         | people in general.
        
           | rubicon33 wrote:
           | I imagine being a healthy critic is a skill, something
           | personal to be worked on.
           | 
           | It's just so easy to be critical and even if you have good
           | intentions, being critical can take the wind out of a
           | dreamers sails.
        
         | rubicon33 wrote:
         | I agree but, doesn't the world need critics?
         | 
         | I think of a company where young inspired engineers want to
         | build new things all the time.
         | 
         | Their heart is in the right place but they need someone(s) to
         | be respectfully critical since their efforts and time spent
         | have very real impacts on the company.
        
           | phkahler wrote:
           | Critics maybe. Antagonists no.
        
             | o11c wrote:
             | I can't agree with this at all. There's something deeply
             | wrong with the world if any form of opposition is
             | considered problematic.
             | 
             | Some variant of "the customer is always right" applies in
             | the marketplace of ideas as well. People are allowed to
             | have different preferences.
        
           | mxmilkiib wrote:
           | it's easier to image a dystopia than an eutopia, or even
           | utopia, depending how you see it
        
           | rayiner wrote:
           | The world needs critics, people who say "that's stupid."
           | Because Sturgeon's Law is real. 90% of everything is crap. So
           | the people who calm everything crap, and help slow the
           | enshitification of everything, serve a valuable social role.
        
             | s1artibartfast wrote:
             | There is a big difference between thoughtful critics, and
             | mindless cynics.
             | 
             | I would argue that the latter accelerate enshitification.
             | 
             | Criticism and Cynicism isnt restricted to change, but is
             | also applied to the current state. Thinking the current
             | state is shit and change is shit leads to decay.
        
           | RankingMember wrote:
           | I think the key distinction is between critics and cynics.
           | Critics serve a purpose that provides value, whereas cynics
           | are just all-around bummers who negatively impact the world
           | around them.
        
         | vunderba wrote:
         | _> It feels socially safe, easy, and destructive to be a
         | critic. I 'd rather be a fan._
         | 
         | Trotting out absolute statements does no one any good. I could
         | just as easily spin this on its head and say that it feels
         | socially safe to always show blind enthusiasm for the latest
         | trend lest you be labelled a "hater".
         | 
         | It feels like we're just redefining critic to be synonymous
         | with cynic. There's no reason that you can't simultaneously be
         | both fan and a critic of X.
        
           | MrJohz wrote:
           | In fact, the best critics of something are often its biggest
           | fans. Roger Ebert, for example, wrote some pretty critical
           | pieces, but nobody can deny that he was driven primarily by a
           | love of cinema. Or take politics: I've seen people complain
           | that left-wing commentators were too critical of Biden when
           | they should have been criticising Trump, but often it's
           | easier -- and more useful -- to criticise the things you like
           | in the hope that they will improve, rather than spending all
           | your time criticising something you don't like that will
           | never listen to you.
           | 
           | That said, it's still important to take the time to sing the
           | praises of something you like. If Ebert had spent all his
           | time talking down bad films, reading his columns would have
           | been painful drudgery (see also: CinemaSins, Nostalgia
           | Critic, and similar attempts at film-criticism-by-cynicism).
           | A good critic wants their target to succeed, and celebrates
           | when that happens.
        
             | RyanOD wrote:
             | It is a real skill to critique a thing and not come off as
             | complaining about it.
        
             | memhole wrote:
             | Very accurate description. I think this gets missed
             | sometimes. Sometimes you're criticizing because you know a
             | subject well and want to see it improved.
        
               | atq2119 wrote:
               | See also: code review
        
               | tpmoney wrote:
               | Two things I try to do in every code review:
               | 
               | If I'm doing the review, I try to find at least one or
               | two items to call out as great ideas/moves. Even if it's
               | as simple as refactoring a minor pain point.
               | 
               | If I'm being reviewed I always make sure to
               | thank/compliment comments that either suggest something I
               | genuinely didn't consider or catch a dumb move that isn't
               | wrong but would be a minor pain point in the future.
               | 
               | As you note, code reviews can be largely "negative
               | feedback" systems, and I find encouraging even a small
               | amount of positivity in the process keeps it from
               | becoming soul sucking
        
           | _DeadFred_ wrote:
           | If you're a real critic, absolutely. But most of what passes
           | for criticism today is just hindsight dressed up as insight.
           | It ignores the fact that choices are made in a fog, assumes
           | outcomes were inevitable, and retroactively assigns blame. It
           | feels like scorekeeping not being a rational/fair critic.
        
           | lanyard-textile wrote:
           | The absolute irony of this comment :)
        
             | deadbabe wrote:
             | Irony is often the language of truth.
        
           | jasondigitized wrote:
           | Oh the irony - Sometimes people need to stfu and root for
           | something without pointing out how it could be better.
           | "Awesome! Did you think about..... STFU!"
        
             | gyomu wrote:
             | Feels like engaging with the logic and content of an
             | argument is more in the spirit of this website than
             | replying "stfu".
        
             | Jensson wrote:
             | > Oh the irony - Sometimes people need to stfu and root for
             | something without pointing out how it could be better.
             | "Awesome! Did you think about..... STFU!"
             | 
             | There are many such people already, there are also many
             | haters, and many people in the middle. This diversity is
             | how humanity managed to get this far, we need all of them.
        
         | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
         | I always liked Brendan Behan's quote:
         | 
         |  _"Critics are like eunuchs in a harem; they know how it 's
         | done, they've seen it done every day, but they're unable to do
         | it themselves."_
        
           | nthingtohide wrote:
           | Critics could be experts of past era who have seen it all and
           | are now seeing the same mistakes being repeated.
           | 
           | Everything that needs to be said has already been said. But
           | since no one was listening, everything must be said again. --
           | Andre Gide
        
             | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
             | Love that quote!
             | 
             | Thanks!
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | Harems did not had much of heterosexual sex going on in them.
           | Whole point was gender segregation. Eunuch in harem have seen
           | women, but did not seen them having sex with men.
        
           | bigbadfeline wrote:
           | Behan's criticism of critics then makes him an eunuch who's
           | criticizing eunuchs... according to his own "logic".
        
         | DiscourseFan wrote:
         | Feeling good about shit all the time isn't practical and it
         | indicates a lack of individual, refined taste. Its ok to like
         | things that you like and dislike things others like and one
         | should be able to hold their own opinions without influence
         | from the crowd.
        
         | throwup238 wrote:
         | That's an amazing quote. I recently just started going to some
         | LA Kings hockey games with my family for the first time, so
         | this hits close to home.
         | 
         | I played high school sports (with a three day hospital stay for
         | a serious concussion to show for it - thanks, football), but
         | I've never been a fan of watching sportsball on TV unless it's
         | a social gathering like Superbowl parties. I've generally had a
         | low opinion of people who cared about their city's teams and
         | all the useless competitiveness that goes along with it.
         | 
         | But being there, in the stadium around all the other fans?
         | _Fucking electrifying._ I celebrated, I jeered, I cried, I
         | booed Edmonton, I cursed the refs, I complained about the
         | stadium food and the line for the men 's bathroom, and I was
         | probably the loudest person in the 318 section of the Staples
         | center. I almost fell over the glass boards onto the ESPN
         | newscasters during Wednesday's game on the fourth goal. Too
         | much overpriced beer plus standing up to wave the "Built for
         | This" towels too fast.
         | 
         | I still don't give a flying fuck about the Kings or Lakers or
         | Clippers or whatever, but I am definitely going to enjoy going
         | to their games and feeling the energy. The exact words my mom
         | used were "I've never seen this side of you."
         | 
         | WE WANT SKINNER!!!
        
         | keybored wrote:
         | A top-of-thread subthread complaining about critics on the
         | topic of believing in people.
         | 
         | We didn't last long.
        
         | igorkraw wrote:
         | I really believe in the importance of praising people and
         | acknowledging their efforts, when they are kind and good human
         | beings and (to much lesser degree) their successes.
         | 
         | But, and I mean their without snark: What value is your praise
         | for what is good if I cannot trust that you will be critical of
         | what is bad? Note that critique can be unpleasant but kind, and
         | I don't care for "brutal honesty" (which is much more about the
         | brutality than the honesty in most cases).
         | 
         | But whether it's the joint Slavic-german culture or something
         | else, I much prefer for things to be _appropriate_, _kind_ and
         | _earnest_ instead of just supportive or positive. Real love is
         | despite a flaw, in full cognizance if it, not ignoring them.
        
         | paulpauper wrote:
         | It's so hard to to believe in people or have a positive opinion
         | of them when much of my interactions are negative. Or when
         | people who embody the opposite of goodness are promoted and
         | have status. It's like we live in a society in which
         | mediocrity, borderline sociopathy, and meanness are rewarded.
         | Unless you're Elon Musk or Mark Zuckerberg, but there is a huge
         | middle where people who are competent, smart, and do the right
         | things do not get the promotion or recognition they deserve or
         | are entitled to. It's like you have to super-brilliant to have
         | any hope , or just lucky. No room for the hard-working middle.
        
         | whoknowsidont wrote:
         | Not only is "it" not needed, "being a fan" is pervasive to a
         | detrimental extent. "posio-paths" are everywhere and are
         | basically the default. In order to say something correct, make
         | a correction, or present a counter-factual you have to layer
         | your tone with a thousand feel-goodism's and niceties.
         | 
         | Otherwise you just get labeled as a hater, a contrarian, or
         | worse - a critic. It's exhausting. People confuse being direct,
         | dry, or taking a level-tone with dispassion, disinterest, or
         | again being a "hater."
         | 
         | I would even say I've seen so many people being "super excited"
         | about something that it's the opposite of contagious for me, it
         | causes me to doubt how knowledgeable or sincere they are about
         | the subject (whether it's a general topic or even a person).
         | 
         | We have too much fake-niceness, and we are over-enthused quite
         | often on things that turn out to be nothing, at least in the
         | U.S. We don't need more of it, at least IMO.
        
       | felixarba wrote:
       | This was wonderful. The choice to be a fan is within us all.
        
       | svelle wrote:
       | I had a manager and mentor who was a fan of me. It felt amazing
       | having someone who is _actually_ rooting for you. Him cheering me
       | on and giving me constructive feedback and building me up in a
       | way no one did before that has fundamentally changed my
       | professional and private personality, hopefully in a good way.
        
         | pmkary wrote:
         | I had too, and it was the only reason I was with that company.
        
       | patcon wrote:
       | This woman founded Creative Mornings, which has been one of my
       | most well-respected and beloved quasi-centralised organizations
       | (I tend to have a bias for loving humane decentralized/horizontal
       | orgs/movements, and Creative Mornings struck a delightful balance
       | between order and chaos)
        
         | briankelly wrote:
         | Very glad to see an active chapter near me - sounds awesome and
         | I plan on checking it out.
        
       | flanked-evergl wrote:
       | What we suffer from to-day is humility in the wrong place.
       | Modesty has moved from the organ of ambition. Modesty has settled
       | upon the organ of conviction; where it was never meant to be. A
       | man was meant to be doubtful about himself, but undoubting about
       | the truth; this has been exactly reversed. Nowadays the part of a
       | man that a man does assert is exactly the part he ought not to
       | assert--himself. The part he doubts is exactly the part he ought
       | not to doubt--the Divine Reason. Huxley preached a humility
       | content to learn from Nature. But the new sceptic is so humble
       | that he doubts if he can even learn. Thus we should be wrong if
       | we had said hastily that there is no humility typical of our
       | time. The truth is that there is a real humility typical of our
       | time; but it so happens that it is practically a more poisonous
       | humility than the wildest prostrations of the ascetic. The old
       | humility was a spur that prevented a man from stopping; not a
       | nail in his boot that prevented him from going on. For the old
       | humility made a man doubtful about his efforts, which might make
       | him work harder. But the new humility makes a man doubtful about
       | his aims, which will make him stop working altogether.
       | 
       | (quoted)
        
         | nathan_compton wrote:
         | This seems like Chesterton to me. Good writer, but I take
         | exception to his world view. We should simply doubt that which
         | is warranted to doubt and be confident in that which warrants
         | confidence. If modern people doubt truths more than people used
         | to, perhaps its because those so-called truths aren't so
         | obvious as some people would have you believe.
         | 
         | "But the new humility makes a man doubtful about his aims,
         | which will make him stop working altogether."
         | 
         | This just fundamentally misunderstands what aims are. They can
         | neither be doubted or correct. I can doubt empirically, or
         | epistemologically, but I can't doubt that I want to eat a
         | doughnut or that I want to be healthy or that I want a world
         | with less cruelty in it. It's a waste of time and energy to
         | doubt these things, although I can try to line up all my
         | desires and figure out how they stack up with one another when
         | I try to make plans, the efficacy of which is in the realm of
         | the believable. I can look at other people's actions, try to
         | determine their desires, and decide whether to assist them or
         | interfere with them or fight them, but when I do this its not a
         | cosmic battle about truths. Its just two people acting out on
         | their desires in a shared world.
        
           | dayvigo wrote:
           | > I can't doubt that I want to eat a doughnut or that I want
           | to be healthy or that I want a world with less cruelty in it.
           | 
           | The common case of the smoker (or someone around them)
           | doubting whether they "really" want to quit cigarettes or
           | not, after claiming they do want to quit and will quit, and
           | then failing to do so, shows this is coherent though. It's
           | just not applicable to the two examples you gave, because
           | that's not what is meant.
        
             | roarkeful wrote:
             | Having quit nicotine, I can say that it's simply a matter
             | of wanting to quit. I do love smoking still, and have a
             | pipe or a cigar roughly every two weeks, but my half-a-tin
             | of 12mg nicotine pouches a day habit is gone.
             | 
             | I miss it, and I didn't _want_ to quit, but it was
             | financially a little silly and that much nicotine causes
             | health effects. You can _desire_ to stop something but also
             | not want to. It seems fair to allow both to be true.
        
           | flanked-evergl wrote:
           | The thing that makes you different from the beasts is that
           | you believe that there is a way things ought to be,
           | regardless of how they are. You can view your desire to eat a
           | doughnut separate from your prescriptive belief of whether
           | you ought to eat the donut. You can beliefe that you ought
           | not to eat the donut even though you want to, you can beleive
           | that you ought to eat the donut even if you don't want to.
           | You can even believe that you ought not hold any beliefs
           | regarding what you ought to eat based on your desires to eat
           | it.
           | 
           | Accepting that prescriptive beliefs exists, the claim by
           | Chesterton is quite simply factual. It would be much truer to
           | say that a man will certainly fail, because he believes in
           | himself. Complete self-confidence is not merely a sin;
           | complete self-confidence is a weakness.
           | 
           | The question as to what prescriptive beliefs we ought to hold
           | is another matter, and one Chesterton has dealt with
           | masterfully.
           | 
           | (quoted)
           | 
           | When I had written this down, I felt once again the presence
           | of something else in the discussion: as a man hears a church
           | bell above the sound of the street. Something seemed to be
           | saying, "My ideal at least is fixed; for it was fixed before
           | the foundations of the world. My vision of perfection
           | assuredly cannot be altered; for it is called Eden. You may
           | alter the place to which you are going; but you cannot alter
           | the place from which you have come. To the orthodox there
           | must always be a case for revolution; for in the hearts of
           | men God has been put under the feet of Satan. In the upper
           | world hell once rebelled against heaven. But in this world
           | heaven is rebelling against hell. For the orthodox there can
           | always be a revolution; for a revolution is a restoration. At
           | any instant you may strike a blow for the perfection which no
           | man has seen since Adam. No unchanging custom, no changing
           | evolution can make the original good any thing but good. Man
           | may have had concubines as long as cows have had horns: still
           | they are not a part of him if they are sinful. Men may have
           | been under oppression ever since fish were under water; still
           | they ought not to be, if oppression is sinful. The chain may
           | seem as natural to the slave, or the paint to the harlot, as
           | does the plume to the bird or the burrow to the fox; still
           | they are not, if they are sinful. I lift my prehistoric
           | legend to defy all your history. Your vision is not merely a
           | fixture: it is a fact." I paused to note the new coincidence
           | of Christianity: but I passed on.
        
         | dkarl wrote:
         | > But the new humility makes a man doubtful about his aims,
         | which will make him stop working altogether
         | 
         | Chesterton is just giving clever voice to the eternal
         | prediction that the decline of traditional morals will produce
         | a fundamental degeneration of humanity. T.H. Huxley, who had
         | been dead for over ten years when Chesterton wrote this, was a
         | wildly successful person, an eminent scientist, prolific
         | author, and public figure. But these predictions are eternally
         | about a _coming_ collapse. It didn 't matter that Chesterton's
         | exemplar of the "new humility" had been one of the most shining
         | examples of ambition and fruitful labor of the 19th century. He
         | could still predict that Huxley's ideas would reduce the _next_
         | generation to helpless ineffectualness. And even after three of
         | Huxley 's grandchildren became eminent public figures in the
         | 20th century, there will be people who read this and find it a
         | compelling prediction about the 21st century.
        
           | flanked-evergl wrote:
           | > Chesterton is just giving clever voice to the eternal
           | prediction that the decline of traditional morals will
           | produce a fundamental degeneration of humanity.
           | 
           | No.
           | 
           | (quoted)
           | 
           | We have remarked that one reason offered for being a
           | progressive is that things naturally tend to grow better. But
           | the only real reason for being a progressive is that things
           | naturally tend to grow worse. The corruption in things is not
           | only the best argument for being progressive; it is also the
           | only argument against being conservative. The conservative
           | theory would really be quite sweeping and unanswerable if it
           | were not for this one fact. But all conservatism is based
           | upon the idea that if you leave things alone you leave them
           | as they are. But you do not. If you leave a thing alone you
           | leave it to a torrent of change. If you leave a white post
           | alone it will soon be a black post. If you particularly want
           | it to be white you must be always painting it again; that is,
           | you must be always having a revolution. Briefly, if you want
           | the old white post you must have a new white post. But this
           | which is true even of inanimate things is in a quite special
           | and terrible sense true of all human things. An almost
           | unnatural vigilance is really required of the citizen because
           | of the horrible rapidity with which human institutions grow
           | old. It is the custom in passing romance and journalism to
           | talk of men suffering under old tyrannies. But, as a fact,
           | men have almost always suffered under new tyrannies; under
           | tyrannies that had been public liberties hardly twenty years
           | before. Thus England went mad with joy over the patriotic
           | monarchy of Elizabeth; and then (almost immediately
           | afterwards) went mad with rage in the trap of the tyranny of
           | Charles the First. So, again, in France the monarchy became
           | intolerable, not just after it had been tolerated, but just
           | after it had been adored. The son of Louis the well-beloved
           | was Louis the guillotined. So in the same way in England in
           | the nineteenth century the Radical manufacturer was entirely
           | trusted as a mere tribune of the people, until suddenly we
           | heard the cry of the Socialist that he was a tyrant eating
           | the people like bread. So again, we have almost up to the
           | last instant trusted the newspapers as organs of public
           | opinion. Just recently some of us have seen (not slowly, but
           | with a start) that they are obviously nothing of the kind.
           | They are, by the nature of the case, the hobbies of a few
           | rich men. We have not any need to rebel against antiquity; we
           | have to rebel against novelty. It is the new rulers, the
           | capitalist or the editor, who really hold up the modern
           | world. There is no fear that a modern king will attempt to
           | override the constitution; it is more likely that he will
           | ignore the constitution and work behind its back; he will
           | take no advantage of his kingly power; it is more likely that
           | he will take advantage of his kingly powerlessness, of the
           | fact that he is free from criticism and publicity. For the
           | king is the most private person of our time. It will not be
           | necessary for any one to fight again against the proposal of
           | a censorship of the press. We do not need a censorship of the
           | press. We have a censorship by the press.
           | 
           | ---
           | 
           | The pagans had always adored purity: Athena, Artemis, Vesta.
           | It was when the virgin martyrs began defiantly to practice
           | purity that they rent them with wild beasts, and rolled them
           | on red-hot coals. The world had always loved the notion of
           | the poor man uppermost; it can be proved by every legend from
           | Cinderella to Whittington, by every poem from the Magnificat
           | to the Marseillaise. The kings went mad against France not
           | because she idealized this ideal, but because she realized
           | it. Joseph of Austria and Catherine of Russia quite agreed
           | that the people should rule; what horrified them was that the
           | people did. The French Revolution, therefore, is the type of
           | all true revolutions, because its ideal is as old as the Old
           | Adam, but its fulfilment almost as fresh, as miraculous, and
           | as new as the New Jerusalem.
        
       | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
       | I've always been a fan of enthusiasm. I find many people react
       | badly to it, though; especially in tech. We have a lot of
       | curmudgeons.
        
         | fullshark wrote:
         | We've become jaded by phony enthusiasm or people hijacking it
         | for their own purposes. I agree it's bad, but this industry
         | does seem to run on the enthusiasm of naive 20-40 year olds,
         | the end result of that is many jaded 40+ year old curmudgeons.
        
           | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
           | What I have encountered, is a bit different.
           | 
           | There's a fetching shade of gray, to my well-coiffed
           | pompadour, and I find many younger folks are almost
           | immediately hostile, before I've even had a chance to give
           | them a reason to be.
           | 
           | Speaking only for myself, I am _very_ enthusiastic about all
           | kinds of things, and devote a great deal of effort towards
           | helping folks out. There's reasons for that, which is a story
           | for another time. Suffice it to say that I've seen darker
           | times, and that can add a lot of shine, to what others take
           | for granted.
           | 
           | That said, I've also seen quite a bit of life, and have
           | learned where a lot of the claymores are planted, so some of
           | that "helping folks out," is mentioning things like "Are you
           | _sure_ you want to pet that rattling snake?".
        
         | layer8 wrote:
         | Sometimes that comes with most of the things you were
         | enthusiastic for ending up far from fulfilling their promise.
        
         | spyrefused wrote:
         | They often seem to me to be two sides of the same coin:
         | fanaticism becomes curmudgeonly with what does not coincide
         | with your fanaticism.
        
         | Karrot_Kream wrote:
         | I think it's the curse of being online. Most IRL based social
         | groups in every culture I've been in subconsciously filter out
         | cynics. These folks often feel disenfranchised IRL and
         | congregate online instead. Their presence crowds out non-
         | cynics, who then leave. These online communities then
         | reorganize around cynical baselines.
         | 
         | Apparently Threads had made a decision earlier on to
         | deprioritize negative and charged political topics because of
         | Meta's belief in this negative flywheel.
         | 
         | (I'd rather not go into a discussion about Meta itself in
         | replies here because I find those discussions on HN to be
         | highly unproductive, and I won't respond to comments regarding
         | them.)
         | 
         | EDIT: r/Coronavirus on Reddit was a great place to observe
         | evidence of this flywheel. My partner started using it when she
         | felt really depressed during lockdown restrictions. All the
         | content on the sub was about how the world was irreparably
         | broken and how society as we know it was about to come to an
         | end. Commenters were clamoring for humanity to be cleansed.
         | Then news of the vaccines came out. At first nobody on the sub
         | believed it would work. But when efficacy numbers were
         | released, the tone of the sub changed quickly and the sub
         | started having a lot fewer people posting to it.
        
         | ryandrake wrote:
         | Huh, I was going to post the opposite. We have enough
         | enthusiasm and True Believers in tech work, especially in the
         | USA where even PR pieces read "We are so excited to
         | announce..."
         | 
         | We may or may not have enough critics/curmudgeons, but whether
         | they are there or not, they certainly don't seem to rise into
         | leadership roles where they can use their discernment and
         | wisdom to steer better and to stop terrible projects. I know in
         | my company, the top ranks are all filed with beaming excitement
         | and positivity about everything, and everything we are doing is
         | great, and we are so confident in this, and excited about
         | that...
        
           | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
           | I don't consider that "real" enthusiasm, though.
           | 
           | It's "cargo-cult enthusiasm," where they believe that keeping
           | an almost manic level of energy will magically transcend the
           | bourgeoisie prison of reality, and poop out rainbow unicorn
           | turds.
        
       | PaulHoule wrote:
       | I think the best thing I get out of social media such as Mastodon
       | and Bluesky is finding people who get enthusiastic about me --
       | when somebody discovers my profile and then I see they read
       | everything I've posted in the last month and they favorite 20% of
       | it, I know I have a fan.
       | 
       | I know those folks exist on HN but HNers are more reserved and I
       | only find out about them when they stand up for me against the
       | haters.
        
         | bookofjoe wrote:
         | I stand with Houle
        
       | bicepjai wrote:
       | I love the take on fandom, this is how I would want it. While
       | this article portrays fandom as a pure, innocent and positive
       | force, my experience shows it can have a darker side. In places
       | like South India, fandom often evolves: fandom becomes factions,
       | factions become gangs, gangs become political groups, and
       | political groups become dynasties or kingdoms. This cycle limits
       | leadership diversity and negatively impact governance and
       | society. IMHO fandom isn't always innocent; it can wield
       | significant social and political influence, for better or worse.
       | Note: written with gpt4o
        
         | neilv wrote:
         | > _Note: written with gpt4o_
         | 
         | Good points, but I hope you had your own thoughts, and wrote
         | your own words. And that this tacked on at the end was a joke.
        
       | bookofjoe wrote:
       | Linked article above broken for me; this one works:
       | 
       | https://creativemornings.com/blog/a-love-letter-to-the-peopl...
        
       | gavin_gee wrote:
       | so wholesome. what a great day to have found this blog.
        
       | badmonster wrote:
       | What a beautiful tribute to the power of enthusiasm and belief in
       | others
        
       | Havoc wrote:
       | Also, people that don't have an adversarial bone in their body.
       | They just want everyone to be happy and succeed.
       | 
       | A lot of people reckon that applies to them, but the real deal is
       | pretty scarce in my experience.
       | 
       | Always find people like that inspiring.
        
         | aerhardt wrote:
         | I like people like that too, but surely the world and more
         | narrowly the human experience also benefit from having people
         | that are competitive or even disagreeable?
        
           | dfxm12 wrote:
           | Mostly, yes, but I think at its core, the world benefits from
           | honesty more than out right agreeable- or disagreeableness.
           | We should speak up when we feel the need to agree or
           | disagree, but we shouldn't play devil's advocate for the sake
           | of it.
        
           | hackable_sand wrote:
           | You can be competitive and supportive of your enemies.
        
       | pbsladek wrote:
       | Shared with my team. Lovely read.
        
       | jdthedisciple wrote:
       | Reminds me of the _Pygmalion effect_ [0].
       | 
       | [0] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pygmalion_effect
        
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