[HN Gopher] Careless People
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       Careless People
        
       Author : Aldipower
       Score  : 966 points
       Date   : 2025-04-24 08:17 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | bk496 wrote:
       | How abstract is this book? Are there many examples of things that
       | are relevant at meta today, especially on the web and developer
       | front?
        
         | actionfromafar wrote:
         | Maybe depends on if by relevant you mean, "I'm working on
         | airflow surface turbulence" vs "am I making a cruise missile?"
        
       | matthewdgreen wrote:
       | I'm only part of the way through the book, so have nothing to
       | spoil here. But it's entertaining. And shocking. The author will
       | relate a scene that's so absurd that you think "ah, this can't be
       | true, this is made up for dramatic effect, nobody would act like
       | that" and then you Google it and you realize the absurd thing is
       | totally true and was fully documented at the time. All the author
       | is adding is a perspective from the inside.
       | 
       | I understand why Facebook people might have wanted the book to go
       | away. That their attempt to do so comically backfired and
       | resulted in entirely the opposite effect, well, that's also
       | pretty much what you'd expect from this crew after reading the
       | book.
        
         | binaryturtle wrote:
         | It's called the Streisand Effect. :)
        
           | rsynnott wrote:
           | It's kind of amazing that people still hit this, really.
           | Like, if you're Facebook's lawyers, how are you not telling
           | them "don't talk about this; anything you say or do will only
           | promote it further"? The lawyers must _know_.
        
             | lcnPylGDnU4H9OF wrote:
             | After reading the article, it seems plausible that they
             | were advised against this and, well... didn't care.
             | 
             | (Perhaps it's more accurate to say they did not think it
             | would manifest but that's not a fun play on words.)
        
             | remus wrote:
             | From the lawyer's point of view I guess you're making a
             | risk judgement, presumably they thought the chance of
             | getting a successful court order outweighed the potential
             | increase in press of they happened to fail.
        
               | rsynnott wrote:
               | Even if they got a court order (they did get partial bars
               | on publicity AIUI) it would _still make the problem for
               | Facebook worse_, tho.
        
               | remus wrote:
               | I'm not so sure. I think there is some selection bias
               | happening, so it's easy to say "Streisand effect!" When
               | it makes the headlines but that ignores the times it
               | doesn't make the headlines.
        
               | 3np wrote:
               | Yeah. How many were silenced prior to this?
        
             | John23832 wrote:
             | Competing incentives.
             | 
             | Lawyers get paid to "do something". To wealthy people, a
             | lawyer saying "let's actually not do anything" seems like a
             | "what am I paying you for then" moment.
        
             | erikpukinskis wrote:
             | The lawyers and the PR team don't talk to each other.
        
             | stevage wrote:
             | That is not the lawyers' concern.
        
             | openplatypus wrote:
             | Their lawyers are daft as bricks.
             | 
             | They can't even control their client from lying in public.
        
           | Thoreandan wrote:
           | It's right there in the URL, along with #ZDGAF
        
         | notesinthefield wrote:
         | Please tell me exactly when it gets interesting, Im listening
         | to it and completely uninterested in the author's "job pitch"
        
           | kashunstva wrote:
           | > completely uninterested in the author's "job pitch"
           | 
           | It's central to the arc of the narrative though. She begins
           | with the idealistic possibilities for Facebook; and now, in a
           | real-life epilogue, is concluding by pulling back the curtain
           | on how horrible these people are. And by extension this
           | company.
        
             | alain94040 wrote:
             | The book has great stories. You could skip the job pitch
             | part and jump straight to once she joins Facebook, that's
             | fine too.
        
           | derwiki wrote:
           | Sheryl inviting the author to go to bed with her, and then
           | holding it against her when she didn't. That was my double-
           | take moment in the book.
        
         | bondarchuk wrote:
         | What is the thing? (you can rot13 it for spoilers)
        
           | kreddor wrote:
           | It's hardly just one single thing. The book is full of absurd
           | scenes all the way through.
        
         | HexPhantom wrote:
         | For a company that supposedly runs on data and strategy,
         | they're shockingly bad at anticipating how people will react
         | when they try to bury criticism
        
         | armandososa wrote:
         | Did you find the author/narrator very unlikable?
         | 
         | [mild spoilers ahead]
         | 
         | I was tempted to stop reading after the shark attack story when
         | she wakes up in the hospital and declares "I saved myself".
         | Ugh. But I think it makes narrative sense: why would a good
         | person stay at the company after all she has witnessed? It also
         | makes the company leaders seem so much worse in comparison.
         | 
         | One more thing: Is it credible that she had such a high profile
         | job for so long and still be worried about money?
        
           | bombcar wrote:
           | > One more thing: Is it credible that she had such a high
           | profile job for so long and still be worried about money?
           | 
           | Read threads at bogleheads for a month or so. The eighth post
           | that is a variation on "we have fifteen million dollars in
           | cash, and more in stock, can we afford to buy a used 2008
           | Accord" and you'll go insane.
        
             | _dark_matter_ wrote:
             | Cash in USD? They aren't hedged at all against
             | hyperinflation. Wait for a few more gold bars before buying
             | that Accord.
        
           | erikpukinskis wrote:
           | > why would a good person stay at the company after all she
           | has witnessed?
           | 
           | Wait, is the angle of the book that she's a good person? That
           | can't possibly be right... it's a book about all the horrible
           | things _she tried to help Facebook do_.
           | 
           | The title of the book doesn't suggest she was disappointed in
           | their morals. It suggests she was disappointed in their
           | ability to do their jobs.
        
             | armandososa wrote:
             | > Wait, is the angle of the book that she's a good person?
             | That can't possibly be right...
             | 
             | Well, she paints herself as an idealist who believes
             | Facebook can be an agent of [presumably positive] change,
             | so at least she thinks of herself as good in some sense of
             | the word. That's what I found intriguing about that shark
             | attack prologue. If it had been written by a third person
             | or if this were a novelization, it would feel like a
             | character-revealing moment, telling the audience that she's
             | actually selfish and self-absorbed, and setting
             | expectations for her behavior before getting into the
             | story.
        
               | YeGoblynQueenne wrote:
               | Well can you please spoil the shark attack thing? With a
               | bit SPOILERS tag at the top if you like?
        
           | ssimpson wrote:
           | Many times its easier to look back over a period of time and
           | see the differences than when you are gradually exposed to
           | those things over time. Thats kind of how I'm understanding
           | her recollection about it all. I do tend to take things with
           | a grain of salt, not all Americans are as ridiculous as some
           | of the people she makes us out to sound like. She does paint
           | broadly with the "international community is all good and
           | Americans are all morons" brush, again grain of salt.
           | 
           | About the money thing, I think she was probably compensated
           | better at some point, probably when she was more involved
           | with sandberg and zuck. But also sounds like she was working
           | constantly so she may not have had time to worry about it or
           | worry about spending it. I'm only ~20 chapters in, when they
           | move to MP.
           | 
           | Overall I like the author/narrator, we all tell our stories
           | from our perspective and I just keep that in mind.
        
         | mtzaldo wrote:
         | Sounds like the book is similar to the almost famous movie main
         | idea.
        
       | foobarkey wrote:
       | Its a good book I read it, the only thing that she messed up
       | though is not letting her exec level shares vest and be quiet
       | until then imo :)
        
         | kbrtalan wrote:
         | just the opposite. She put her money where her mouth was and
         | didn't trade her dignity for some cash
        
           | foobarkey wrote:
           | Yes correct in some absolute ethical context, but would have
           | been easier to fight with a few hundred million budget to pay
           | for legal fees
        
         | RistrettoMike wrote:
         | While her boss continues to sexually harass her? Doesn't sound
         | like a mistake to me. There's more to life than money, as the
         | author makes quite clear throughout the book, IMO.
        
         | stackbutterflow wrote:
         | Did she say that she renegotiated her compensation? Because
         | early in the book she wrote that unlike basically everyone else
         | she's working with, she poorly negotiated her comp and that
         | she's working for a regular and unimpressive salary while her
         | coworkers are flashing luxury brands that she can't afford.
         | 
         | I've stopped reading after the Myanmar episode so I don't know
         | if she's ever renegotiated her package.
        
       | grunder_advice wrote:
       | Whenever these kind of articles pop up, I always think how sad it
       | is that PyTorch, Llama and many widely used opens source projects
       | are tied to Meta.
        
         | Aeolun wrote:
         | They are open-source. Shouldn't we be happy that at least
         | something good comes of that sentient pile of cash?
        
         | conartist6 wrote:
         | So get a group of other sympathetic people and fork them.
         | 
         | This is virtually the only place where you have a chance to
         | take power from them by your actions.
         | 
         | "The best way to complain is to create things," and yes that's
         | a poster I got for free back when I worked at Facebook.
        
           | diggan wrote:
           | > fork them
           | 
           | This requires all of the "source" to be available. For
           | PyTorch and a bunch of other projects, this is trivial as all
           | the source is straight up on GitHub. But for proprietary
           | things like Llama, it's really hard to fork something when
           | you don't even have access to what they used to build it
           | (software-wise, not even thinking about the hardware yet).
           | 
           | How could you fork something like Llama when Meta don't even
           | speak clearly about what data they used, literally none of
           | the training code is available, and you have to agree to
           | terms and conditions before you're "allowed" to do anything
           | with it?
        
             | lcnPylGDnU4H9OF wrote:
             | > you have to agree to terms and conditions before you're
             | "allowed" to do anything with it
             | 
             | I don't have experience with this so I'm taking it at face
             | value; if this is true, it's so strange that I have an idea
             | of this being an "open" model. As in, not that they PR'ed
             | to make people believe it but that people _who were
             | required to accept those terms_ seem to believe it (as
             | users seem to repeat it). Seems a little bit of critical
             | thinking should dispel that notion. Are there any, more
             | reasonably open models? Is LLaMa just called open because
             | it's the most accessible?
        
               | diggan wrote:
               | > Are there any, more reasonably open models? Is LLaMa
               | just called open because it's the most accessible?
               | 
               | Indeed there are! They aren't exactly SOTA, but they're
               | 100% open source and you could build them yourself from
               | scratch, granted you had the compute, knowledge and time
               | for it. OLMo 2 from Ai2 is probably the most notable one.
               | 
               | I think Llama is called "open source" because that's what
               | Meta, Zuckerberg and the Llama website says it is, and
               | people take it at face value. Then people see "Oh but
               | it's free, who cares about the license?" not understand
               | how we got here in the first place...
        
         | diggan wrote:
         | Lets say Meta goes under tomorrow (won't happen, but bear with
         | me) and stops making new Llama releases.
         | 
         | Would the community be able to take over the project and train
         | new models, assuming they have access to the same hardware?
         | Obviously, the community doesn't have access to similar
         | hardware, but even if it did, would the community be able to
         | continue releasing Llama models?
         | 
         | And if the answer to that is no, why is that and how could
         | Llama be considered open source if no one could pick up the
         | torch afterwards (even theoretically), even if they had access
         | to hardware for training?
        
           | grunder_advice wrote:
           | No. You need a research lab, compute time and talent to train
           | LLMs.
        
             | mr_toad wrote:
             | And truckloads of data.
        
             | diggan wrote:
             | > No. You need a research lab, compute time and talent to
             | train LLMs.
             | 
             | Right, but even if you had those, could you actually train
             | a Llama model from scratch? You'd still have a lot of work
             | in front of you, compared to a "regular" open source
             | project where you have everything available already,
             | download the source and hit "compile" and you have it done.
        
           | caseyy wrote:
           | There are many things to be said about open-source projects
           | and, more broadly, the capabilities of the open-source
           | community.
           | 
           | The most capable parts are for-profit organizations that
           | release open-source software for their business imperative,
           | public benefit companies that write open-source software for
           | ideological reasons but still operate as businesses, and a
           | tiny number of public benefit organizations with unstable
           | cash flow. Most other efforts are unorganized and plagued by
           | bickering.
           | 
           | Llama itself is challenging to take over. The weights are
           | public, but the training data and process is not. It could be
           | evolved, but not fully iterated by anyone else. For a full
           | iteration, the training process and inputs would need to be
           | replicated, with improvements there.
           | 
           | But could another open-source model, as capable as Llama, be
           | produced? Yes. Just like Meta, other companies, such as
           | Google and Microsoft, have the incentive to create a moat
           | around their AI business by offering a free model to the
           | public, one that's just barely under their commercial model's
           | capabilities. That way, no competitor can organically emerge.
           | After all, who would pay for their product if it's inferior
           | to the open-source one? It's a classic barrier to entry in
           | the market - a thing highly sought after by monopolistic
           | companies.
           | 
           | Public benefit companies leading in privacy could develop a
           | model to run offline for privacy purposes, to avoid mass
           | consumer data harvesting. A new open-source ideological
           | project without a stable business could also, in theory, pop
           | up in the same pattern as the Linux project. But these are
           | like unicorns - "one in a million years (maybe)."
           | 
           | So, to answer your question, yes, Llama weights could be
           | evolved; no, an entirely new version cannot be made outside
           | of Meta. Yes, someone else could create such a wholly new
           | open-source model from scratch, and different open-source
           | groups have different incentives. The most likely incentive
           | is monopolistic, to my mind.
        
             | diggan wrote:
             | I think you've kind of answered a different question. Yes,
             | more LLM models could be created. But specifically Llama?
             | Since it's an open source model, the assumption is that we
             | could (given access to the same compute of course) train
             | one from scratch ourselves, just like we can build our own
             | binaries of open source software.
             | 
             | But this obviously isn't true for Llama, hence the
             | uncertainty if Llama even is open source in the first
             | place. If we cannot create something ourselves (again,
             | given access to compute), how could it possibly be
             | considered open source by anyone?
        
               | ImprobableTruth wrote:
               | I think the fact that all (good) LLM datasets are full
               | with licensed/pirated material means we'll never really
               | see a decent open source model under the strict
               | definition. Open weight + open source code is really the
               | best we're going to get, so I'm fine with it coopting the
               | term open source even if it doesn't fully apply.
        
               | diggan wrote:
               | > we'll never really see a decent open source model under
               | the strict definition
               | 
               | But there are already a bunch of models like that, were
               | everything (architecture, training data, training
               | scripts, etc) is open, public and transparent. Since you
               | weren't aware those existed since before, but you now
               | know that, are you willing to change your perspective on
               | it?
               | 
               | > so I'm fine with it coopting the term open source even
               | if it doesn't fully apply
               | 
               | It really sucks that the community seems OK with this. I
               | probably wouldn't have been a developer without FOSS, and
               | I don't understand how it can seem OK to rob other people
               | of this opportunity to learn from FOSS projects.
        
               | pabs3 wrote:
               | Not all of the community is OK with this, lots of folks
               | are strongly against OSI's bullshit OSAID for example.
               | Really it should have been more like the Debian Deep
               | Learning Team's Machine Learning Policy, just like last
               | time when the OSI used the Debian Free Software
               | Guidelines (DFSG) to create the Open Source Definition
               | (OSD).
               | 
               | https://salsa.debian.org/deeplearning-team/ml-policy
        
               | caseyy wrote:
               | I understand I was supposed to say "no" and question the
               | open-source label. We've heard many arguments that if
               | something can't be reproduced from scratch, it's not true
               | open-source.
               | 
               | To me, they sound a bit like "no true Scotsman". Llama
               | _is_ open source, compared to commercial models with
               | closed weights. Even if it could be _more_ open source.
               | 
               | That's why I looked at it in a broader sense -- what
               | could happen in an open-source world to improve or
               | replace Llama. Much _could_ happen, thanks to Llama's
               | open nature, actually.
        
               | diggan wrote:
               | > Llama is open source, compared to commercial models
               | with closed weights
               | 
               | Yeah, just like a turd is a piece of gourmet food if
               | there is no other good food around.
               | 
               | Sorry, but that's a really bad argument, "open source" is
               | not a relative metric you use to compare different
               | things, it's a label that is applied to something depend
               | on what license that thing has. No matter what licenses
               | others use, the license you use is still the license use.
               | 
               | Especially when there are actually open source models out
               | there, so it isn't possible. Maybe Meta feels like it's
               | impossible because of X, Y and Z, but that doesn't make
               | it true just because they don't feel like they could earn
               | enough money on it, or whatever their reasoning is.
        
               | caseyy wrote:
               | > Yeah, just like a turd is a piece of gourmet food if
               | there is no other good food around.
               | 
               | I didn't mean it's on a continuum, as you assumed.
               | Apologies for phrasing it unclearly. I meant that the
               | weights are public. They are open; there is no debate to
               | be had about it. Generally and broadly, that is already
               | considered open-source.
               | 
               | And we all understand what "open-source" means in the
               | context of Llama - it doesn't mean one of the idealized
               | notions of open source, it means open weights.
        
               | diggan wrote:
               | > Generally and broadly, that is already considered open-
               | source.
               | 
               | No, just because something is public doesn't mean it's
               | open source, those are two very different things. If I
               | upload code on my website without any license, that code
               | is not now suddenly open source just because it's public.
               | Just like Llama isn't suddenly "open source" because
               | Meta's marketing department says so, their own legal
               | department still call Llama proprietary, don't you wonder
               | why that is?
               | 
               | > And we all understand what "open-source" means in the
               | context of Llama - it doesn't mean one of the idealized
               | notions of open source, it means open weights.
               | 
               | You, and some others (including Meta) are using a
               | definition Meta came up with themselves, probably in
               | order to try to skirt EU AI regulations as it's different
               | for "open source" models vs others. I'm not sure why you
               | as an individual would fall for it though, unless I'm
               | missing something you have nothing to gain by spreading
               | PR from Meta, do you?
               | 
               | The existing definition of open source (before Meta's
               | bastardization) is not a "idealized" definition, is the
               | one we built an enormous ecosystem on top of, who taught
               | a whole generation of programmers how to program and
               | connected people together, without putting profits first.
        
               | caseyy wrote:
               | Llama 3 license: https://github.com/meta-
               | llama/llama3/blob/main/LICENSE
               | 
               | Calm it with the ad hominem attacks. It's not the place
               | for it.
        
               | diggan wrote:
               | > Llama 3 license
               | 
               | And here I've written an overview if you find it easier
               | to have it summarized: https://notes.victor.earth/youre-
               | probably-breaking-the-llama...
        
           | pabs3 wrote:
           | Its unlikely all the training data for Llama is publicly
           | available, let alone under an open source license. If Llama
           | actually had an open source license (IIRC it doesn't), that
           | would still make it a Toxic Candy model under the Debian Deep
           | Learning Team's Machine Learning policy. That means no-one
           | could replicate it exactly, even if they had the boatloads of
           | cash it would take to buy enough hardware and electricity to
           | do the training. Eventually the community could maybe find or
           | create enough data, but that would be a new different model.
           | 
           | https://salsa.debian.org/deeplearning-team/ml-policy
        
           | lolinder wrote:
           | AI models aren't really iterative in the way that other
           | software is. Llama 4 is a completely different product from
           | Llama 3, with different parameter counts and even different
           | modalities. The only reason it gets to be called Llama 4 is
           | that the company that made it is the same and it's convenient
           | to not have to come up with new names all the time, not
           | because there's any sort of continuity with Llama 2.
           | 
           | Fine tunes are the correct analogy to iterative software
           | development--they take the existing code (weights) and
           | improve upon it and modify it--and fine tunes _can_ be
           | produced with what Meta has released.
           | 
           | The bigger problem with Meta's claim that it's open source is
           | that they've attached a bunch of strings to the license that
           | prevent you from using it in a bunch of different ways. It's
           | not open source because it's not open, not because weights
           | aren't source.
        
         | GardenLetter27 wrote:
         | Be thankful they are open source at all. See OpenAI for the
         | alternative.
        
       | TheAceOfHearts wrote:
       | > There's Zuck, whose underlings let him win at board-games like
       | Settlers of Catan because he's a manbaby who can't lose (and who
       | accuses Wynn-Williams of cheating when she fails to throw a game
       | of Ticket to Ride while they're flying in his private jet).
       | 
       | Why does this seem to be a recurring pattern among the modern
       | ultrawealthy? Does anyone who fails to bend over backwards for
       | them just end up getting exiled? Have the elites through history
       | always been this insecure or is it a modern phenomenon?
       | 
       | If you're wildly successful at something with significant real
       | world influence, why would you care so strongly about something
       | as relatively inconsequential as a board game or a video game?
       | Being good at any kind of game is mostly a function of how much
       | time and energy you've invested into it. If you claim to be an
       | extremely hardcore worker who has any kind of family life there
       | just aren't any leftover hours in the day for you to grind a top
       | position in a game. And anyway, if you're playing games for fun
       | and to bond with people, you probably shouldn't be playing
       | tryhard optimal strategies every game, and should instead explore
       | and experiment with more creative strategies. This is a lesson
       | that took me a while to learn.
        
         | js8 wrote:
         | > Have the elites through history always been this insecure or
         | is it a modern phenomenon?
         | 
         | Yes. As a kid, I read a legend that one of the Charlemagne's
         | knights got so annoyed for losing a game of chess that he
         | killed his opponent with the chessboard.
        
           | laserlight wrote:
           | > this insecure
           | 
           | I agree that such an event would demonstrate insecurity. I
           | would also argue that past elites were not "that insecure",
           | because they put their lives at risk by waging wars. Of
           | course, later elites figured out ways to address the
           | downsides.
        
             | pjc50 wrote:
             | There's a frame question in this, and the history of
             | duelling. Is your image, or self-image, in matters of honor
             | or social status more important than your life? Is it
             | secure or insecure to risk your life simply because of an
             | insult? To what extent does "security" in this context boil
             | down to the capacity for violence, rather than anything
             | else?
        
               | 542354234235 wrote:
               | But duels were instituted primarily to curb vendettas,
               | deadly street brawls, and retaliatory assassinations that
               | aristocrats regularly engaged in. At least with a duel,
               | the violence was limited to one death and a settlement to
               | the honor of all involved. It was in _improvement_ to the
               | situation they were facing at the time.
               | 
               | But the idea of honor itself was a necessity for most of
               | history, when there was no central government to enforce
               | contracts, punish violence, etc. Your reputation was one
               | of the only protections you had. Whether your family was
               | known to exact revenge to those that wronged you or as
               | weak pushovers would affect someone's decision to kill
               | one of you, steal your things, or make a deal with you
               | and keep everything for themselves.
               | 
               | You had to show that anything someone could gain at your
               | expense would be outweighed by your commitment to take
               | more back in revenge.
        
             | giraffe_lady wrote:
             | It's hard to speak broadly about this I think but since we
             | already are. Military aristocrats like knights were at the
             | least risk among combatants in an armed conflict, being
             | better armed, armored, and more likely to be mounted
             | compared to the levied militias or even professional
             | soldiers, later in the early modern era.
             | 
             | And social norms at the time were to take them hostage and
             | ransom them back to their family or allied higher lord if
             | possible, so their chances of surviving a lost battle were
             | much higher than that of the men they were leading. So even
             | in this context they are already figuring out "ways to
             | address the downsides."
             | 
             | Vs the like, the normal people who would _also_ be called
             | on to die in battle, but then the rest of the time would be
             | living under the capricious and frequently violent rule of
             | these certainly-no-more-than-average-emotionally-secure men
             | with more or less unchecked power over their daily lives.
             | 
             | What we have now developed from what they had then and a
             | lot of the dynamics are quite similar. The violence is more
             | abstract but that's exactly what the current crop of tech
             | billionaires is trying to change.
        
         | tux3 wrote:
         | Success has a part of skill, and a part of luck. It hurts to be
         | reminded about skill issues.
         | 
         | Board games aren't as simple as time invested. I could spend my
         | whole life studying chess, and some 13yo prodigy will handily
         | beat me blindfolded, while juggling three other boards.
         | 
         | Board games cannot be conquered with wealth or a successful
         | business. Or, rather, they can, but only by pressuring your
         | underlings into letting you win; giving you the feeling you
         | crave.
        
           | ffsm8 wrote:
           | Naw, the rare super talented 13yo child that excells at such
           | games will have also spend an incredible amount of time
           | learning everything there is about it - leaving very little
           | time to pursuit outside of that discipline to improve
           | themselves.
           | 
           | There is a grain of truth to what you're saying, obviously -
           | as Magnus has proven when he started to enter chess
           | tournaments... Outplaying people with decades more
           | experience. But you're also ignoring that he spend pretty
           | much every waking moment of his thinking life playing chess.
        
           | sampullman wrote:
           | But if you knew people were letting you win, wouldn't that
           | ruin the feeling forever?
           | 
           | It seems like there must be another component, but maybe it
           | is just that simple.
        
             | johannes1234321 wrote:
             | If they let me win, that is since I have power over them.
        
               | IggleSniggle wrote:
               | This is the more interesting answer to me because it's a
               | reminder that everyone is playing a different game.
               | 
               | I used to play games to win, but now I play games to
               | maximize the collective enjoyment of playing the game.
               | This shift began with my spouse (who is a very sore
               | loser) but continued with my children. I still let them
               | lose sometimes because I want them to know how to enjoy a
               | losing game, but I (selfishly) want them to enjoy games
               | as much as I do, so that's my focus, and I will play to
               | lose (as non-obviously as possible) frequently.
               | 
               | When I play games against good players now, I notice that
               | I've lost a lot of skill in the kind of strategic
               | ruthlessness required to win. I found this surprising,
               | because playing in a way where you're trying to "fix" the
               | outcomes for other players and modulate the mood of the
               | game based on outcomes still requires a great deal of
               | strategic insight and clever play. I guess the additional
               | attention to the social and emotional dynamics must
               | naturally reduce focus. It's kind of a shame, because you
               | can't maximize enjoyment with a skilled player without
               | being skilled, but I suppose the trade off is that there
               | will always be more unskilled players who can benefit
               | from enjoyment maximizing play than skilled players who
               | will suffer from subpar opponents. Naturally, skilled
               | players are already getting a lot out of the game, or
               | else they wouldn't be playing enough to become skilled.
        
           | corimaith wrote:
           | Board Games in the same vein as grand strategy/4x with a
           | dizzying number of rules like Catan or HOI4 are very much
           | initially a function of time invested, otherwise you
           | literally have no idea what you're doing.
        
         | ryandrake wrote:
         | Probably have been told their whole lives that they are so
         | smart, clever, and special, that they will (and rightly should)
         | always win. So any loss immediately looks to them like foul
         | play by their opponent(s). Even if it's just a casual game.
         | Anyone telling them otherwise doesn't last long in their orbit.
         | As they gain power, they naturally grow a bubble of sycophants
         | who reinforce their "I always win" beliefs.
        
           | vintermann wrote:
           | There's also no shortage of people willing to tell Zuck and
           | Musk (from a relatively safe distance, like in public here at
           | HN) that they're insecure manbabies born into wealth who
           | don't deserve a fraction of the power they've managed to claw
           | themselves. I suspect that we, and the desire to show us
           | wrong (or at the least spite us) are also part of the
           | equation for why the current crop of billionaires are as they
           | are.
           | 
           | Not that this means we're wrong, exactly.
        
             | enaaem wrote:
             | From an Eastern philosophy point of view, low ego with high
             | confidence, is a skill that can be trained. It is also a
             | skill someone can get worst at. That being said, I don't
             | think that Zuck and Musk would have become low ego people
             | without internet criticism, since they are on the
             | completely wrong path.
        
             | exe34 wrote:
             | For PS1M/year after tax, I'd tell Zuck anything he wants to
             | hear from 9 to 5, excluding weekends, bank holidays and 28
             | days of annual leave.
             | 
             | We all have a price really.
        
               | esafak wrote:
               | You could make more than that without compromising
               | yourself. Aim higher.
        
               | exe34 wrote:
               | I'd have to put in effort. I've already got other things
               | taking up my spare brain cell.
        
             | pixl97 wrote:
             | You mean "us jealous poor people who are mad that he is
             | bright and successful".
             | 
             | I've known a few people in the hundreds and millions of
             | dollars in wealth category and that seemed to be their go
             | to response when anyone had to say anything negative about
             | their behaviors.
             | 
             | In the US at least, never underestimate the amount of
             | calvinism and prosperity gospel that has creeped into every
             | facet of our lives.
        
             | AnimalMuppet wrote:
             | Here on HN, we're not telling Zuck and Musk anything. We're
             | telling each other things about Zuck and Musk. Zuck and
             | Musk aren't dropping by to find out what we think of them,
             | ever.
        
               | vintermann wrote:
               | Figuratively speaking, we're telling them, since we're
               | saying it loudly in public. You bet they know people are
               | saying it. They might even peek in - we know some of
               | their friends (arguably friends) who do, and Musk is
               | among other things famous for being a bit of a social
               | media addict.
        
               | ryandrake wrote:
               | Rich people's bubbles are thick, and their "outside-the-
               | bubble" communication tends to be write-only. I highly
               | doubt Zucc or Musk spends any time at all on places like
               | HN or Reddit, and their comms on their respective social
               | media platforms tend to be broadcast sending/writing and
               | not reading comments or feedback. They rely on the
               | sycophants in their orbit to give them the summarized,
               | sanitized, positive feedback, and downplay/hide the
               | negative.
        
               | vintermann wrote:
               | We know Musk spends time on X. We also know he reads as
               | well as writes, because he often replies to random
               | things.
               | 
               | But even for a slightly wiser billionaire who does what
               | you suggest - they wouldn't do that unless they knew they
               | would get public hate, and were bothered by it. You don't
               | have a thick bubble unless you understand that you need
               | it.
        
         | mherkender wrote:
         | I think it's easy to unknowingly surround yourself with yes-men
         | and become insulated from failure. Losing then seems like an
         | exception to the rule, a bug.
        
         | amarcheschi wrote:
         | Given this, I don't want to imagine how much Elon Musk is
         | suffering right now for the bullying he gets and for Tesla,
         | which have higher stakes than a tabletop game.
         | 
         | And I don't feel bad for it
        
           | aredox wrote:
           | He doesn't care about Tesla anymore. His president will kill
           | EV subsidies and give them to coal. He never cared about the
           | mission of Tesla, and anyone working at Tesla who still
           | believes in it is a sucker.
        
             | generic92034 wrote:
             | So, why is he not selling all his Tesla stocks, then?
        
               | solumunus wrote:
               | One cannot simply sell all of their stock if they own
               | that much.
               | 
               | I don't think Elon cares about Tesla as a vision anymore,
               | but does he care about being "the richest man in the
               | world" or at least one of them. Absolutely, and TSLA is
               | the reason that's true.
        
               | Balinares wrote:
               | That's not how it works. You can't sell without someone
               | buying from you, and if you're selling everything then
               | buyers will know your stock is worthless and will not
               | exactly be rushing to take you up on the offer, except at
               | whatever severely depressed prices will generate a profit
               | margin from liquidating your assets.
               | 
               | He's much better off propping up the stock with a bit
               | more grifting for as long as that will last and living
               | off loans taken with stocks as the collateral.
        
               | amarcheschi wrote:
               | I think they don't have to pay the same amount of taxes
               | if they use the stock as collateral for getting loans
               | 
               | Chances are there are some considerations which I don't
               | know about
        
               | Biganon wrote:
               | Because as soon as he starts selling them, they'll
               | devaluate immensely
        
               | aredox wrote:
               | Because he can afford not to, for now.
        
               | hylaride wrote:
               | IIRC, he borrowed against them for a lot of stuff,
               | including the Twitter acquisition. It's probably why he's
               | freaking out a bit and returning to it. It's also not the
               | first time he's had liquidity problems. Tesla literally
               | did come weeks away from bankruptcy on a few occasions in
               | the 2010s as he often put the cart before the horse. The
               | infamous "refundable deposit" for the car back then that
               | ended up being almost twice as much as promised was
               | essentially an unsecured loan. People were almost out all
               | their money.
               | 
               | Bethany McLean (a journalist that was among the first to
               | start questioning Enron's numbers and wrote the book "the
               | smartest men in the room" on it that also became a
               | documentary) has been following Elon Musk for well over a
               | decade.
               | 
               | She once said "Whenever Elon is lashing out is when he's
               | under enormous stress". Also, he has a large cult of true
               | believers who believe a man who's taken credit for others
               | work as his own all his life. Watch this documentary
               | called "the cult of the dead stock"
               | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C5Bd6YxifCo ; it's like
               | that x100.
        
               | FireBeyond wrote:
               | > Tesla literally did come weeks away from bankruptcy on
               | a few occasions in the 2010s as he often put the cart
               | before the horse.
               | 
               | Yet another thing Tesla should have faced sanctions on -
               | you'd never have known this by listening to any earnings
               | call or looking at any financial filings from Tesla at
               | that time (and at one point I think the number was <10
               | days).
        
               | hylaride wrote:
               | I really do wonder if outright financial fraud was
               | occurring. There was a period of time where they were
               | going through CFOs like water over Niagara Falls (whom I
               | assume were refusing to sign off on the books?).
        
               | 542354234235 wrote:
               | First of all, there has been a significant selloff by
               | Tesla top executives, including over $10 billion by Musk
               | in the past 3 years [1,2,3]. The main reason he can't
               | sell of more is that he is still fighting in court to get
               | his insane $56 billion executive bonus, which would be
               | primarily in Tesla stock [4]. I say insane because it is
               | over 500 times larger than any bonus given by any other
               | company ever and is equivalent to giving every other
               | Tesla employee an almost half a million-dollar bonus. I
               | think we will see a lot more sell offs once the outcome
               | of that legal battle is done, whether it comes out
               | positive or negative for Musk.
               | 
               | More broadly, I think Tesla's general valuation is a
               | house of cards that his been hyper inflated by years of
               | Musk lying to investors about future sales, future
               | products, and future features. He promised a million
               | driverless taxi's that would make $30,000 profit each
               | year would be coming "next year" in 2019 [5], that full
               | self driving was coming in an update "next month" in 2020
               | [6] and wildly incorrect capabilities of basically every
               | product ever released.
               | 
               | [1] "four top officers at the company have offloaded over
               | $100 million in shares since early February [2025]...
               | Elon Musk's brother, Kimbal Musk, who also sits on the
               | board, unloaded 75,000 shares worth approximately $27
               | million last month"
               | https://abcnews.go.com/Business/tesla-board-members-
               | executiv...
               | 
               | [2] "Musk sold a total of 41.5 million shares of Tesla
               | stock between November 4 and December 12 [2024]... The
               | sales came not long after a October 19, 2022 earning call
               | in which he told investors 'I can't emphasize enough, we
               | have excellent demand for Q4.'... But when Tesla reported
               | fourth-quarter sales, they were far weaker than forecast,
               | and that sent stocks down 12%, the worst day of trading
               | for the stock in more than two years."
               | https://www.cnn.com/2024/06/04/business/musk-tesla-stock-
               | sal...
               | 
               | [3] "Tesla CEO Elon Musk said Thursday he does not plan
               | to sell any more shares of Tesla for at least the next
               | two years, after the billionaire and nascent Twitter
               | owner offloaded nearly $3.6 billion worth of stock this
               | week [2022] as Tesla's share price tumbled." https://www.
               | forbes.com/sites/nicholasreimann/2022/12/22/musk...
               | 
               | [4] https://www.investopedia.com/elon-musks-multi-
               | billion-dollar...
               | 
               | [5] https://www.cnn.com/2019/04/22/tech/tesla-
               | robotaxis/index.ht...
               | 
               | [6] https://www.whichcar.com.au/news/tesla-level-five-
               | absurd-say...
        
         | Jevon23 wrote:
         | In order to get into Zuckerberg's position in the first place,
         | you need to have a highly competitive personality type. And
         | competitive people want to win at EVERYTHING, all the time.
         | It's a constant compulsion. Even if they might intellectually
         | understand the distinction between "just a game" and "actual
         | serious time", they don't "feel" that distinction in their
         | bones. They have no off switch.
        
           | throw__away7391 wrote:
           | I think that while the trait itself is fairly common the
           | ability to bully and pressure everyone around you to give in
           | to this level of petty and demeaning deference is quite rare.
           | You only see it in powerful people because they're the only
           | ones who can actually make people do this.
           | 
           | I have an aunt like this and she's super annoying and largely
           | ostracized and in constant conflict with people around her,
           | but if she had $175 billion she could probably surround
           | herself with people who would indulge her.
        
             | TheOtherHobbes wrote:
             | Money is a potent and addictive hallucinogenic neurotoxin.
             | We have a culture where everything is run by addicts, with
             | predictably disastrous consequences.
        
               | dgfitz wrote:
               | s/money/power
               | 
               | Money is a means to an end.
        
             | rightbyte wrote:
             | The two sour losers I know just refuse to play any game at
             | all. Cooperative games or team games they think are kinda
             | fine though of they are "forced to". They just can't handle
             | being targeted as individuals.
             | 
             | Maybe Zuckerberg has a lack of self reflection?
        
               | 01HNNWZ0MV43FF wrote:
               | I'm like that and really I have lots of free time because
               | of not playing any competitive games
               | 
               | Downside is I obviously don't use that free time to do
               | anything I'm not already skilled at, like art or music or
               | writing or exercise (except for rock climbing which I
               | manage to not be competitive at)
        
               | rightbyte wrote:
               | Ye. My problem is the opposite. I am a way too good
               | loser. It has its drawbacks too but they are less
               | emotionally obvious maybe.
        
           | schmidtleonard wrote:
           | The Bill Gates Chair Jump is another great example of this.
           | 
           | https://youtu.be/YUGk30Wy8vU?t=175
        
             | imiric wrote:
             | What a ridiculous video that's reading way too much into a
             | silly 5 second clip.
             | 
             | Bill Gates may be competitive, but this specific event, and
             | the whole idea that it somehow represents a shift, is
             | completely unrelated to the current topic. People have
             | different private and public personas, and even present
             | different personas to different people. This is completely
             | normal, and often the only way to cope with being a
             | celebrity, especially for introverted personality types.
        
               | schmidtleonard wrote:
               | It's only 5 seconds edited down to match your attention
               | span. Exceed it, I suppose, because the fact that
               | personas exist is not the pertinent part, it's the
               | glimpse past BillG's persona to see the compulsive
               | competitive behavior: inventing a chair game, "cheating"
               | at it, and instead of brushing it off as silly fun (which
               | everyone would have accepted) getting increasingly
               | flustered until he walked out of an interview.
        
               | imiric wrote:
               | Way to assume what my attention span is.
               | 
               | Speaking of which, if you watch the (nearly) full
               | interview[1] instead of that 5 second clip, you'll
               | realize that the chair jumping bit had nothing to do with
               | the reason he walked out of that interview. I couldn't
               | find the full version, but you can see that towards the
               | end he gets annoyed at the constant prodding to get him
               | to admit some wrongdoing. The entire segment is made to
               | portray him as some out-of-touch rich guy and tyrant that
               | abuses his employees and competitors. Just poor
               | television all around, more interested in promoting
               | sensationalism for engagement purposes, than showing an
               | honest image of the person. The chair jumping bit is
               | proof of this, given that it's the only thing the public
               | remembers.
               | 
               | Extrapolating that bit to make some grand assumption
               | about his personality is beyond ridiculous.
               | 
               | [1]: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WgwHIwEwGLQ
        
           | rottc0dd wrote:
           | I think there are some similar remarks on Bill Gates in
           | another good memoir by Microsoft co-founder Paul Allen [1].
           | Even on his school days, Gates was so sure he will not have a
           | competition on Math, since he was the best at math at his
           | school. When he went to Harvard, (which I somehow remember as
           | Princeton(!) as pointed out by a commenter) and saw people
           | better than him, he changed to applied math from Pure math.
           | (Remarks are Paul's)
           | 
           | > I was decent in math and Bill was brilliant, but I spoke
           | from experience at Wazzu. One day I watched a professor cover
           | the black board with a maze of partial differential
           | equations, and they might as well have been hieroglyphics
           | from the Second Dynasty. It was one of those moments when you
           | realize, I just can't see it. I felta little sad, but I
           | accepted my limitations. I was OK with being a generalist.
           | 
           | > For Bill it was different. When I saw him again over
           | Christmas break, he seemed subdued. I asked him about his
           | first semester and he said glumly, "I have a math professor
           | who got his PhD at sixteen." The course was purely
           | theoretical, and the homework load ranged up to thirty hours
           | a week. Bill put everything into it and got a B. When it came
           | to higher mathematics, he might have been one in a hundred
           | thousand students or better. But there were people who were
           | one in a million or one in ten million, and some of them
           | wound up at Harvard. Bill would never be the smartest guy in
           | that room, and I think that hurt his motivation. He
           | eventually switched his major to applied math.
           | 
           | Even Paul admits, he was torn between going into Engineering
           | or Music. But, when he saw his classmate giving virtuoso
           | performance, he thought "I am never going to as great as
           | this." So, he chose engineering.
           | 
           | Maybe it is a common trait in ambitious people.
           | 
           | Edits: Removed some misremembered information.
           | 
           | [1] https://www.amazon.com/Idea-Man-Memoir-Cofounder-
           | Microsoft/d...
        
             | technothrasher wrote:
             | Huh. I remember being miles ahead of my peers in computer
             | science in high school. When getting to college and finding
             | people most definitely better than I was, I was incredibly
             | excited to finally find such people, not scared away.
        
               | rottc0dd wrote:
               | Excuse me for generalizing the point. That's not fair to
               | do just based on these anecdotes. But, I can also
               | understand their perspective.
               | 
               | Paul continued to be a guitar player all his life and
               | hosted jamming sessions in his home. I started with piano
               | very late in my life and not very regular, but I am just
               | happy to join the fun party.
        
               | hirvi74 wrote:
               | Congratulations on learning piano. I think everyone who
               | is capable of learning an instrument should consider it.
               | 
               | Rachmaninoff once said, "Music is enough for a lifetime,
               | but a lifetime is not enough for music." So, no matter
               | when one starts, there would never be enough time to
               | truly master the craft.
               | 
               | I believe it is better for one to start late and enjoy it
               | than start early and burnout.
        
               | rottc0dd wrote:
               | Thanks a lot. It is really fun. But, I don't have adult
               | company in my neighborhood.
               | 
               | If take "What if I don't became great with this" anxiety
               | out of the equation, it feels just more fun and life
               | seems a little more colorful being a beginner.
        
               | keerthiko wrote:
               | in my experience, people who grow up as the biggest fish
               | in a small pond (whether concerning just fields they care
               | about, or in general) are always 99% of the time, one of
               | these two when they end up a middling fish in the big
               | pond: like you, happy to find peers and inspiring
               | exemplars to collaborate with and learn from, or those
               | who hate that they are not the best anymore.
               | 
               | the former group probably leads the healthiest & happiest
               | life fulfillment while pursuing their interests -- i'm
               | heavily biased though because i too fall into this
               | category and am proud of this trait.
               | 
               | the latter group consists of people who either spin their
               | wheels real hard and more often than not burn out in
               | their pursuit of being the best, or pivot hard into
               | something else they think they can be the best at (often
               | repeatedly every time they encounter stronger
               | competition) like gates & co, or in rare cases succeed in
               | being the best even in the more competitive environment.
               | 
               | this last .001% are probably people whose egos get so
               | boosted from the positive reinforcement that they become
               | "overcompetitive" and domineering like zuck or elon, and
               | let their egos control their power and resources to
               | suppress competition rather than compete "fairly" ever
               | again.
               | 
               | i think there's a subset of people from both main groups
               | that may move from one into the other based on life
               | experiences, luck, influence of people close to them,
               | maturity, therapy, or simply wanting something different
               | from life after a certain point. i don't have a good
               | model for whether this is _most_ people, or a tiny
               | percentage.
        
               | technol0gic wrote:
               | well put
        
               | swatcoder wrote:
               | I think the more common outcome you're not seeing, for
               | the "other" group, is that they just go back to smaller
               | ponds where they excelled in the first place, and often
               | make strong contributions there.
               | 
               | Once it's been observed that there are bigger fish, you
               | can't really go back to the naive sense of boundless
               | potentiality, but you can go back to feeling like a
               | strong and competent leader among people who benefit from
               | and respect what you have.
               | 
               | Your comment focuses on the irrepressibly ambitious few
               | who linger in the upper echelons of jet-setting academia
               | and commerce and politics, trying to find a niche while
               | constantly nagged by threats to their ego (sometimes
               | succeeding, sometimes not), but there's many more
               | Harvard/etc alum who just went back to Omaha or Baltimore
               | or Denver or Burlington and made more or less big things
               | happen there. That road is not so unhealthy or unhappy
               | for them.
        
               | keerthiko wrote:
               | this is a very good point, and a blind spot in my comment
               | because IME people who left the small pond in the first
               | place were dissatisfied and unfulfilled there.
               | 
               | it is absolutely possible that after experiencing the
               | bigger pond, people can develop purpose in their
               | "original" pond based on values like community and
               | relationships, or even simply dislike the vibes in bigger
               | ponds and want to undo as much as they can. this is a
               | super valuable thing to society and humanity for the most
               | part, as perhaps more change can happen this way than big
               | things happening in big places.
               | 
               | personally i struggle with this, because whenever i re-
               | enter a smaller ecosystem (including/such as the one i
               | grew up around) i feel like everyone has a distorted view
               | of the bigger pond and self-limit themselves, which is a
               | contagious energy i can't stand.
        
               | ninetyninenine wrote:
               | That's not a common reaction with humans. When people are
               | the best, there's a huge serotonin rush. Like literally
               | this is measurable in humans.
               | 
               | Serotonin regulates dominance hierarchies and is
               | associated with happiness. It's so biological in nature
               | that the same effect can be witnessed in lobsters. People
               | or lobsters high in dominance have more serotonin and are
               | generally happier.
               | 
               | Your story is not only anomalous. But it's anomalous to
               | the point where it's unrealistic too. I can't comment on
               | this but if you did not feel the associated come down of
               | serotonin I'm more inclined to say you're not being
               | honest with yourself more then you're a biological
               | anomaly. There's likely enough variation in genetics to
               | produce people like you so I'm not ruling it out.
        
               | dullcrisp wrote:
               | I don't think they said anything about their serotonin.
               | They just described their reaction to the situation. If
               | we were able to ask lobsters about their self-experience
               | we might learn something about them too.
        
               | nadir_ishiguro wrote:
               | You sound like Jordan Peterson.
        
               | Llamamoe wrote:
               | It sounds like the commenter above is just less insecure
               | about themselves and more excited for opportunities to
               | discuss and learn than you and whoever you're describing
               | here are.
        
               | ninetyninenine wrote:
               | No im saying dominance hierarchies are the natural order
               | of things and it's ingrained in biology.
               | 
               | Pretending that hierarchy doesn't matter and that you
               | don't care where you are in that hierarchy is lying to
               | yourself.
               | 
               | It's like saying the janitor is equal in respect to the
               | software engineer. We don't like to admit but the janitor
               | is less respected and looked down upon. I'm annoyed by
               | people who pretend it doesn't matter.
        
               | ewzimm wrote:
               | I don't know if some people are just wired differently,
               | but I can back up the feeling of not caring at all where
               | I fall in a hierarchy or how much people respect or don't
               | respect me.
               | 
               | The things I find most thrilling always relate to being
               | challenged. Finding someone better than me qualifies.
               | Having ideas challenged or being proven wrong are the
               | most positive experience I've had, especially being
               | forced to change deeply held beliefs. I mention this
               | because it's one of those things that I always hear
               | people say that everyone hates, but I've always felt the
               | opposite, just from a pure chemical feeling perspective.
               | I don't think I could possibly be unique in that
               | experience.
        
               | kybernetikos wrote:
               | Human instinct is a complex of different things acting in
               | opposite directions, including things that work against
               | hierarchy.
               | 
               | I'm shocked that you think this is an unbelievable
               | reaction, I know lots of people who really do think like
               | that.
               | 
               | I wonder if you might find C S Lewis's lecture on the
               | "inner ring" interesting.
               | 
               | https://archive.org/details/1944-the-inner-ring
        
               | aoanevdus wrote:
               | In pure math at a school like Harvard, the standout kids
               | like the ones in that quote are probably trying to become
               | tenured math professors. There are very few such
               | positions available. You can shoot for the stars, and if
               | you succeed, make about the same as the average software
               | engineer. More likely, get stuck a postdoc. So most
               | students give up pure math at some point. If you realized
               | you weren't cut out for it in freshman year, you got a
               | head start over the people who got a math phd before
               | finding out the hard way.
               | 
               | This pressure didn't exist in computer science because
               | there were plenty of tech jobs for anyone competent (not
               | sure if that's still true in 2025). And you didn't need
               | to be a genius to build something cool.
        
               | grandempire wrote:
               | Math can also be taught very young with compounding
               | effect, but you're very unlikely to be exposed to the
               | coaching and expertise at a young age. Of course the few
               | in the world who combine aptitude with exposure are the
               | kind of people you will find at Harvard. If you're not
               | one of them you may be a decade behind.
               | 
               | I also had a math professor who believed in extreme
               | differences within the research community. He said only a
               | top advisor would actually be engaging with real research
               | and be able to bring you with them.
               | 
               | > More likely, get stuck a postdoc.
               | 
               | I still can't understand why the outcomes for math Phds
               | are so bad. They have extremely general intelligence
               | which is applicable to any jobs I've had. I think it's
               | some combination of being unable to sell, unable to
               | explain what they do, and still having their aspirations
               | defined by professors.
        
               | BobaFloutist wrote:
               | It's because it's considered settling for lesser to "sell
               | out to industry."
               | 
               | Kinda reminds me of the old "amateur athlete" paradigm.
               | 
               | It's not that you can't get a good job with a math PhD,
               | it's that you can't get a good job _and_ the respect of
               | your peers /community. I'm sure there are plenty of
               | companies that would be thrilled to hire math PhDs, they
               | just don't also offer a ton of opportunities to work on
               | cutting edge (math) research and publish papers.
        
             | marcianx wrote:
             | A less unflattering interpretation might be that once they
             | saw the level of skill required to contribute to a field,
             | they switched to a field that they could more meaningfully
             | contribute to.
        
               | rottc0dd wrote:
               | Yeah, but these are also about people who are not even
               | starting off at a field. These are teenagers. It really
               | stood out that they can think where they can make most
               | impact in the world at such an young age.
        
               | marcosdumay wrote:
               | What are you talking about? Our society harasses every
               | teenager to think again and again and give definite
               | answers to exactly that kind of question. It's completely
               | normal and exactly like every other young person.
        
               | xeromal wrote:
               | Agreed, it's very impressive. The distribution of
               | capability in the human race is incredible.
        
               | overgard wrote:
               | I think the reality though is you don't need to be in the
               | top 99.999% to contribute to a field, you just need a
               | unique take/voice. Trying to be the best at anything is a
               | bad strategy in a connected world
        
               | grandempire wrote:
               | Especially for smart kids who are used to getting in that
               | positive feedback cycle of rewards and admiration.
        
             | jrpelkonen wrote:
             | I'm pretty sure Gates went to Harvard, not Princeton.
        
               | rottc0dd wrote:
               | You are right. I should have looked it up.
               | 
               | > I was decent in math and Bill was brilliant, but I
               | spoke from experience at Wazzu. One day I watched a
               | professor cover the black board with a maze of partial
               | differential equations, and they might as well have been
               | hieroglyphics from the Second Dynasty. It was one of
               | those moments when you realize, I just can't see it. I
               | felta little sad, but I accepted my limitations. I was OK
               | with being a generalist.
               | 
               | > For Bill it was different. When I saw him again over
               | Christmas break, he seemed subdued. I asked him about his
               | first semester and he said glumly, "I have a math
               | professor who got his PhD at sixteen." The course was
               | purely theoretical, and the homework load ranged up to
               | thirty hours a week. Bill put everything into it and got
               | a B. When it came to higher mathematics, he might have
               | been one in a hundred thousand students or better. But
               | there were people who were one in a million or one in ten
               | million, and some of them wound up at Harvard. Bill would
               | never be the smartest guy in that room, and I think that
               | hurt his motivation. He eventually switched his major to
               | applied math.
        
             | myth_drannon wrote:
             | And to understand that there are people who are much
             | better, to internalize it and change the major also
             | requires some intelligence. I wish I had that insight
             | instead of banging my head against the walls, barely
             | passing while others sailed through and continued to Phd
             | with half my effort.
        
             | ninetyninenine wrote:
             | There's a very very similar story about Jeff bezos and
             | physics.
             | 
             | https://youtu.be/eFnV6EM-wzY?si=Nc_EqhXEFJVuQWS6
             | 
             | I'm not making this up. Seems like a shared personality
             | trait among these people.
        
             | apercu wrote:
             | "Oh well, I'm not going to be Andres Segovia, so I guess I
             | will never pick up a guitar."
             | 
             | I think that attitude comes from people who are deeply
             | unhappy. They need therapy.
        
               | wyclif wrote:
               | When I was 18 years old and a new classical guitar
               | student, I was very fortunate to hear the Maestro in
               | concert. I even got to meet him briefly afterward because
               | my music professor had some connection to him.
               | 
               | I was blown away at the time by what was possible and
               | that, even though he was very old at the time and had to
               | be led out onstage by the arm, needed help getting
               | seated, and had the guitar placed in his lap, what he
               | could still play was so far advanced of anyone in my
               | class who were all in attendance.
               | 
               | The temptation (and I have felt this many times since
               | then after hearing various guitarists) could have been "I
               | should just quit now because I'll never be that good."
               | But I'm glad I didn't succumb to that and decided that
               | "I'd rather not sound like anyone else" and still feeling
               | pleasure and accomplishment from playing on my own terms.
        
               | hirvi74 wrote:
               | I wonder if our professors knew each other?
               | 
               | My classical guitar instructor was well acquainted with
               | Segovia, and he himself, was a student of Julian Bream.
               | However, my instructor was without a doubt one of the
               | most angry people I think I have ever interacted with. He
               | was somewhat better known for his arrangements and less
               | so as a performer.
               | 
               | > "I should just quit now because I'll never be that
               | good."
               | 
               | I never had to think about this because my instructor
               | would often tell me this. XD
        
               | imp0cat wrote:
               | Mastery comes with age, no way around that.
               | 
               | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pi7WcHqBNU - Here are
               | some bits of wisdom from Japanese master chefs, both
               | young and old.
        
               | cratermoon wrote:
               | In light of this, it's weird how the software industry,
               | especially startup culture, is so rife with age
               | discrimination.
        
             | hirvi74 wrote:
             | > Even Paul admits, he was torn between going into
             | Engineering or Music. But, when he saw his classmate giving
             | virtuoso performance, he thought "I am never going to as
             | great as this." So, he chose engineering.
             | 
             | Coincidentally, I had a very similar experience, and made a
             | similar decision to switch to software engineering.
             | However, the irony is that I am also just a bad, if not
             | worse, at software engineering. Oh well, not a day goes by
             | that I regret my decision.
        
           | fifticon wrote:
           | I'm pretty sure this is the correct and intuitive reason. In
           | a competition to be 'ever above everything else', tragically
           | it selects for the most pathologically ruthless behaviour
           | pattern, be it Musk or Putin. If there were a contestant even
           | more unscrupulous than you, he'd take your place. So, as long
           | as we allow/tolerate obscene wealth, we invariably get this.
           | And if we try to avoid it the wrong way, we get Stalin.
        
           | eru wrote:
           | > In order to get into Zuckerberg's position in the first
           | place, you need to have a highly competitive personality
           | type. And competitive people want to win at EVERYTHING, all
           | the time.
           | 
           | Many competitive people want to win, but they want to win the
           | real game, not a rigged version.
        
             | Jensson wrote:
             | Some people view rigging the game as a part of a larger
             | game.
        
               | shermantanktop wrote:
               | Yes, that is a convenient escape hatch for justifying
               | amoral behavior.
        
             | daxfohl wrote:
             | "If you're not cheating, you're not trying."
        
               | A4ET8a8uTh0_v2 wrote:
               | To be fair, some games effectively to force you to move
               | outside normal set of rules eventually ( ie. Monopoly,
               | when bank money supply dries out ).
        
               | eru wrote:
               | Diplomacy encourages cheating, but only if you don't get
               | caught.
        
             | mensetmanusman wrote:
             | There is no real game in the fog of business development.
             | You invent your own and see if it works.
        
             | kibwen wrote:
             | _> Many competitive people want to win, but they want to
             | win the real game, not a rigged version._
             | 
             | There are far, far fewer of these people than you think.
             | Lance Armstrong was the best, and he cheated to win anyway.
             | Barry Bonds was the best, and he cheated to win anyway. Tom
             | Brady was the best, and he cheated to win anyway.
        
               | hackeman300 wrote:
               | The thing Tom Brady is accused of (deflating footballs)
               | is scientifically proven to be a result of the ideal gas
               | law. The NFL admitted they had no idea that was a thing
               | when they levied the accusations at him.
               | 
               | Even if you believe the NFL and it was "more probable
               | than not" that he was "generally aware" of a scheme to
               | deflate the balls, let's not pretend that accusation is
               | even in the same universe as what Bonds and Armstrong did
        
               | verteu wrote:
               | Though a far cry from steroids & doping, DeflateGate was
               | found NOT to be explainable by the ideal gas law.
               | 
               | https://web.archive.org/web/20191107043435/https://static
               | .nf...
               | 
               | "we have concluded that it is more probable than not that
               | Jim McNally (the Officials Locker Room attendant for the
               | Patriots) and John Jastremski (an equipment assistant for
               | the Patriots) participated in a deliberate effort to
               | release air from Patriots game balls after the balls were
               | examined by the referee
               | 
               | ...
               | 
               | Our consultants confirmed that a reduction in air
               | pressure is a natural result of footballs moving from a
               | relatively warm environment such as a locker room to a
               | colder environment such as a playing field. According to
               | our scientific consultants, however, the reduction in
               | pressure of the Patriots game balls cannot be explained
               | completely by basic scientific principles, such as the
               | Ideal Gas Law, based on the circumstances and conditions
               | likely to have been present on the day of the AFC
               | Championship Game. In addition, the average pressure drop
               | of the Patriots game balls exceeded the average pressure
               | drop of the Colts balls ...
               | 
               | ...
               | 
               | Based on the testing and analysis, however, Exponent
               | concluded that, within the range of likely game
               | conditions and circumstances studied, they could identify
               | no set of credible environmental or physical factors that
               | completely accounts for the Patriots halftime
               | measurements or for the additional loss in air pressure
               | exhibited by the Patriots game balls, as compared to the
               | loss in air pressure exhibited by the Colts game balls.
               | Dr. Marlow agreed with this conclusion. This absence of a
               | credible scientific explanation for the Patriots halftime
               | measurements tends to support a finding that human
               | intervention may account for the additional loss of
               | pressure exhibited by the Patriots balls."
        
               | fallingknife wrote:
               | Perhaps he failed to cheat, but the text messages that
               | came out make it very clear that he attempted to.
        
             | OtherShrezzing wrote:
             | >Many competitive people want to win, but they want to win
             | the real game, not a rigged version.
             | 
             | Apply the phrase to the staff member he lost to, and the
             | situation makes sense. The staff member wants to win the
             | real game (of remaining a high-salary Facebook employee),
             | and will throw an otherwise inconsequential game of Catan
             | to maintain that position's security.
        
             | Gravityloss wrote:
             | In my personal experience the will to win and the
             | willingness to cheat in general correlates.
        
             | xeromal wrote:
             | The do anything to win mentality often includes bending the
             | rules where they can. Someone listed some top people in
             | their various sports below but I'd include Lebron too. Dude
             | is the best basketball player the world has ever seen at
             | least when considering longevity but he still flops often
             | to get what he wants even though he doesn't need to to win.
             | He's just going to get every edge.
        
             | ninetyninenine wrote:
             | The game of capitalism is to win by any means necessary.
             | Rigging the game and evading the law is part of game
             | itself. All winners play the game this way.
        
               | eru wrote:
               | What does any of this have to do with capitalism?
               | 
               | Have you ever seen a succession struggle in eg any old
               | monarchy?
        
               | ninetyninenine wrote:
               | Capitalism is a system that allows people to make wealth
               | based on trade. The winners in this game are the people
               | at the top of the hierarchy. All these type A
               | billionaires are the ultimate winners of the game. Zuck
               | is a winner.
               | 
               | In communism the system says there are no winners.
               | Everything needs to be fair.
        
               | mionhe wrote:
               | The "system" in this case being the guy at the top who
               | has taken all the power.
               | 
               | Please feel free to point to the real world exception,
               | because I can't find it.
        
               | eru wrote:
               | There's plenty of exceptions. PR China just after Deng
               | was a good exception, and so was the Soviet Union after
               | Stalin.
               | 
               | But they were only exception in the lame technical sense
               | that you didn't have a single 'guy at the top' in charge,
               | but a sharing of power by eg something like the
               | Politburo.
        
               | eru wrote:
               | > In communism the system says there are no winners.
               | Everything needs to be fair.
               | 
               | I'm glad you take them at their word. May I interest you
               | in some beach front property?
               | 
               | In any case, there's plenty more systems than just these
               | two.
        
           | ForHackernews wrote:
           | A few years back (2015ish?) I read a big magazine profile of
           | Michael Jordan in his post-basketball life and I was really
           | surprised by how unhappy he seemed - extraordinarily
           | competitive at everything, even casual games of golf, running
           | up huge gambling debts, etc.
           | 
           | This is a guy who was the most dominant athlete of his
           | generation, arguably the greatest the ever play the game, and
           | yet he can't turn it off, he can't relax and rest on his
           | laurels. The same personality quirks that drove him to win at
           | basketball mean he can't tolerate losing in any arena.
        
             | joseda-hg wrote:
             | Arguably, to be great at modern sports, you have to be good
             | at multiple unrelated thing (On field strategy, Physical
             | Conditioning, Actually the sport itself, playing politics,
             | doing all of that while listening to coach), either you
             | have that kind of drive to be the best at all of them or
             | you'll just be a good athlete
        
           | OtherShrezzing wrote:
           | Reminds me of this post[0] from a few weeks ago:
           | 
           | >A couple years back, I got a job offer from an investment
           | bank to help them win zero sum games against people who
           | didn't necessarily deserve to lose. I had tried very hard to
           | get that offer
           | 
           | https://www.hgreer.com/PlayingInTheCreek/
        
           | dsr_ wrote:
           | It's not competition that they like. It's winning.
           | 
           | Competitive athletes expect to lose. They don't want to lose,
           | but there's only one winner (or three podium spots) in any
           | given contest. They turn "not wanting to lose" into their
           | motivation for getting better, still knowing that they are
           | fairly likely to lose. The competition is the point, and when
           | they lose, they are still a little happy if they did better
           | than they did last time.
           | 
           | The people who want to win regardless of the competition,
           | regardless of the rules: we call those people bullies.
        
           | jollyllama wrote:
           | I can recall being this way as a small child. So had I not
           | been disciplined as a child so that I would not be a sore
           | loser, did this blunt something that would have led to my
           | being more "successful"?
        
           | ip26 wrote:
           | I suppose I assumed "choosing your battles" _had_ to be a
           | skill they were also good at. Only 24 hours in a day.
        
           | stevage wrote:
           | I have trouble believing that highly competitive people enjoy
           | winning against people who aren't trying to win. Catan has a
           | lot of luck, you'd expect to lose a lot of games.
        
         | anal_reactor wrote:
         | > If you're wildly successful at something with significant
         | real world influence, why would you care so strongly about
         | something as relatively inconsequential as a board game or a
         | video game?
         | 
         | I think that successful people tend to be people who pay a lot
         | of attention to "winning" in as many situations as possible. If
         | you accept losing as a part of life and move on, you're not
         | going to be successful, because you don't spend time thinking
         | how you could've won. Of course this looks funny in situations
         | where one cannot win, but it's really helpful when it comes to
         | fixing your mistakes, allowing you to be successful.
        
           | Extasia785 wrote:
           | > but it's really helpful when it comes to fixing your
           | mistakes, allowing you to be successful.
           | 
           | It would be helpful if they'd take a loss as a learning
           | opportunity. But as stated in the original quote they threw a
           | tantrum and accused the opponent of cheating, taking away no
           | lesson to improve the next time around.
        
         | jcgrillo wrote:
         | used to be such accusations were grounds to seek satisfaction
         | in a duel.. might be time to revive that practice
        
         | bmitc wrote:
         | > If you're wildly successful at something with significant
         | real world influence, why would you care so strongly about
         | something as relatively inconsequential as a board game or a
         | video game?
         | 
         | Deep running narcissism, bordering on sociopathy or
         | psychopathy.
        
         | aredox wrote:
         | Because they are psychopaths and sociopaths.
         | 
         | Anyone with a conscience would worry about having the work of
         | your lifetime being used in genocide. Zuck isn't like that. He
         | doesn't care. What he cares is winning at board games.
        
         | pjc50 wrote:
         | > Have the elites through history always been this insecure or
         | is it a modern phenomenon?
         | 
         | This is very Roman Emperor behavior. Or Chinese Emperor, for
         | that matter. It has pretty much always been the case that power
         | and privilege lets you get away with bad behavior while
         | simultaneously holding your subordinates to onerous standards
         | and/or inflicting punishment on a whim.
         | 
         | Building a court who will steer you away from bad ideas rather
         | than surrounding yourself with yes-men requires active effort,
         | and enough humility to be aware of that risk.
         | 
         | The other constant historical trope is of course the abuse of
         | power for sexual purposes.
        
         | genezeta wrote:
         | In the 1800s in Spain, king Ferdinand VII, was famously keen on
         | playing billiards while being a really bad player. His
         | opponents were known to, not only play badly, but play so that
         | he would get easy positions to shoot.
         | 
         | "Asi se las ponian a Fernando VII" is even nowadays a popular
         | -though not that widely used today- expression to tell someone
         | the task in front of them is an easy one nobody can fail.
        
         | TrackerFF wrote:
         | I think it is part nature, part nurture.
         | 
         | To get where they are, they need to be quite smart,
         | competitive, and ruthless.
         | 
         | As soon as they succeed, they become magnets to yes-men and
         | people trying to ride their coat-tails.
         | 
         | So you end up in a position where the majority will ask "how
         | high?" when you tell them to jump, and who will never question
         | you.
         | 
         | Do that for a couple of decades, and something has to change -
         | psychologically. You become condition to it.
        
           | pixl97 wrote:
           | >I think it is part nature, part nurture.
           | 
           | Really rich people aren't any different from the rest of us.
           | You quickly realize that what sets them apart is privilege.
           | You see behaviors in the wealthy that if they were poor
           | they'd be locked up for. "They just let you do it if you're
           | rich" comes to mind.
        
           | ajb wrote:
           | There is also a feedback effect. Most people are part of
           | groups which aren't strongly selected for moral character,
           | but the rich and powerful become surrounded by people who are
           | after money and power, unless they deliberately manage to
           | avoid that. So some of their bad behaviour is because the
           | availability heuristic tells them that that's how most people
           | behave, and fills them with cynicism and contempt
        
         | Mountain_Skies wrote:
         | He should have eaten his own dog food and played the games
         | inside the Metaverse where he could have had the environment
         | ensure his desired outcome. But maybe the Metaverse itself is
         | now a painful reminder of failure.
        
         | teekert wrote:
         | Right? I had a sort of respect for the Zuck, same partner for a
         | long time, seems nice to his children, does charity... And then
         | he gets one of those mega yachts and he can't stand loosing at
         | board games. So disappointing.
        
           | diggan wrote:
           | Surprise surprise, probably the image you had of Zuckerberg
           | was not an intimate look into his personal life but instead a
           | carefully crafted image created by an professional agency
           | whose life and blood is creating neat images of famous
           | people.
           | 
           | Somehow, actual real life details are starting to come out
           | (he does seem more "daring" as of late, might be why),
           | destroying the picture painted by the professionals for all
           | this time.
           | 
           | Celebrity worship really needs to end, including the worship
           | of the celebrity programmer. We're all humans, with a bunch
           | of flaws, and it's easy to forget when what you're consuming
           | is a fake impression of someone.
        
             | exe34 wrote:
             | > crafted image created by an professional agency whose
             | life and blood is creating neat images of famous people
             | 
             | Melon should fire his!
        
               | immibis wrote:
               | Probably did.
        
             | maxehmookau wrote:
             | There is definitely a point where we need to stop assuming
             | that people who are good at building tech companies are, by
             | default, good at _anything_ else.
             | 
             | They might be, sure. But we shouldn't assume it.
        
           | Swoerd123 wrote:
           | Imagine being so spineless, so utterly desperate for power,
           | that you're willing to contort your public persona just to
           | appease a man who made lying a brand. Zuckerberg didn't just
           | sell out--he gift-wrapped his integrity and hand-delivered it
           | to Cheetolini.
        
           | mupuff1234 wrote:
           | I'd think the ruining society for profit part would be a red
           | flag.
        
           | bix6 wrote:
           | You should read about what he did on Kauai. He fell in love
           | with the community so he stole their birthright.
        
         | krapp wrote:
         | > Have the elites through history always been this insecure or
         | is it a modern phenomenon?
         | 
         | The modern phenomenon, relative to history in general, is that
         | upsetting an elite doesn't get you immediately killed or sold
         | into slavery. But yes, they have always been like this. Behind
         | every great fortune is a crime, and absolute power corrupts
         | absolutely.
        
         | astura wrote:
         | Many many many years ago I used to like playing Scrabble
         | (knockoff) on Yahoo Games.
         | 
         | I quit playing completely when my opponent accused me of
         | cheating because I made a high point move and was winning.
        
           | doubled112 wrote:
           | First person shooters were like this back before I stopped
           | playing them online.
           | 
           | Get decent and dominate a few rounds? Here's a kick ban, must
           | be cheating. Couldn't be because they keep bunching up.
        
         | Spooky23 wrote:
         | These guys are sort of like a type of inherited wealth. They
         | created companies at a time where you could go public and have
         | no accountability to a board with power.
         | 
         | When you take a genius and drown them in good fortune... you
         | sometimes get a sense of personal infallibility.
        
         | croisillon wrote:
         | i see it in local politics a lot too, people don't dare to
         | contradict the leaders, who in turn end up believing they are
         | right on everything, it's a sad thing really
        
         | cess11 wrote:
         | At the Versailles court of the Louies there were constant
         | parties and games, gambling and otherwise. It wasn't to bond or
         | for fun, it was to keep the aristocracy too busy to threaten
         | the dictatorship, as well as letting the king exert an
         | immediate influence over them through a borderline insanity.
         | 
         | Infamously the first or second Versailles Louis, I forgot
         | which, got very aggressive around the topic of toilet
         | excretions, basically forcing aristocrats to try and handle
         | being drunk and desperately needing both to piss and stay in
         | his vicinity. The ceremony around the parties and the court in
         | general over time got more and more intricate and maddening,
         | causing the aristocracy to spend more and more resources on
         | getting clothes and drinks and showing up at the right time and
         | doing the right thing and being on top of the fashion of the
         | day.
         | 
         | It would be weird if a late modern corporate dictator didn't
         | apply similar tactics, since they are known to work and didn't
         | come to an end until the guillotines rolled into town. Things
         | like sleepovers in the office, ceremonial games, constant
         | 'after work', oddball demands regarding clothing and behaviour,
         | intimate surveillance and gossiping, and so on.
        
           | hermitcrab wrote:
           | >Things like sleepovers in the office, ceremonial games,
           | constant 'after work', oddball demands regarding clothing and
           | behaviour, intimate surveillance and gossiping, and so on.
           | 
           | That sounds more like a cult than a company.
           | 
           | I don't understand why anyone would put up with that, if they
           | had any other alternative. And most people do have
           | alternatives.
        
             | hylaride wrote:
             | > I don't understand why anyone would put up with that
             | 
             | To paraphrase McBain's answer to "how do you sleep at
             | night?"
             | 
             | "On top of a pile of money with many beautiful ladies".
             | 
             | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GO0JaecRWy0
        
               | hermitcrab wrote:
               | People with the skills to earn lots of money can
               | generally also get well paid jobs at companies not run by
               | sociopaths.
        
               | hylaride wrote:
               | Finding those companies is hard, especially when there's
               | an obvious winner. Hell, I'd have joined facebook (not in
               | hindsight, though) in the early 2000s because the
               | specific challenges they were facing would have been
               | novel. That being said, I'd likely feel terrible for what
               | FB became had I did.
               | 
               | I visited the FB campus ~2015 on the invitation of some
               | former colleagues that worked there. It felt very culty
               | at the time and I left with the vague feeling that I
               | always got when I left the house of my spoiled and over-
               | privileged friend that I had in grade school. How they
               | were working with the scale of data that they had to deal
               | with was very cool, though.
        
             | pixl97 wrote:
             | With the number of people that have been swept up in cults
             | over history the entire idea that "people can just easily
             | leave" doesn't seem to pan out well.
        
             | cess11 wrote:
             | Corporations are commonly run as cults, at least to some
             | extent. It could be demands of loyalty ('we're a family'),
             | personality cult, dress code, 'teambuilding exercises' and
             | so on.
             | 
             | The alternatives usually involve a threat of more
             | uncertainty or misery.
        
           | cafard wrote:
           | Louis XIV had a notably insecure childhood, with portions of
           | the nobility were in open rebellion. When he came of age, he
           | set about to make damn sure that they were under his thumb.
           | 
           | But the parallel seems lacking to me: Musk and Zuckerman
           | can't jail recalcitrant managers.
        
             | cess11 wrote:
             | Sure, every tyrant has a story that superficially allows
             | some shift of blame.
             | 
             | They could, though. It's just that they likely would have
             | to do something more involved than depriving them of their
             | contracts, which is often enough to get rid of the problem
             | and unlike an aristocracy where bloodlines and births set
             | limits there are now institutions that produce replacements
             | 'at scale'.
        
         | lordnacho wrote:
         | You've won the lottery, but you don't want to acknowledge that
         | you won the lottery. You want to feel they you deserve your
         | position through hard work and talent. You're living in a
         | society where people are credulous, to some degree they believe
         | that hard work and talent are related to success.
         | 
         | So what will happen? Everyone you hire ends up patting you on
         | the back, telling you what a great guy you are.
        
           | mercacona wrote:
           | I wish I could upvote you twice.
        
           | sokoloff wrote:
           | > to some degree they believe that hard work and talent are
           | related to success
           | 
           | Does anyone actually believe that hard work and talent are
           | either zero or negatively correlated to success? I don't
           | think the correlation is 1.0, but I firmly believe that it's
           | positive for both.
        
             | latency-guy2 wrote:
             | > Does anyone actually believe
             | 
             | > I firmly believe that it's positive for both.
             | 
             | Alright, setup an experiment and prove it. Should be easy.
             | 
             | Speculation is free. Can't ever be wrong in the land of
             | uncertainty.
        
               | overgard wrote:
               | Yes, it's totally sensible that someone would setup an
               | experiment to prove a conjecture in a comment thread that
               | will be forgotten in a couple hours. Totally reasonable
               | ask.
        
               | latency-guy2 wrote:
               | Guess there's nothing we can do then. Beliefs are all
               | that matter.
        
             | ajb wrote:
             | What they want to believe is that their wealth is in
             | proportion to their hard work and talent. But even ignoring
             | luck, in a "tournament market", rewards are a strongly
             | nonlinear function of inputs. Being no 2 in a market which
             | is a natural monopoly has limited rewards.
        
             | remus wrote:
             | I suspect talent and hard work are pretty well correlated
             | with becoming wealthy (say >$10m), but I think you then
             | need a big injection of luck to take you from wealthy to
             | ultra wealthy.
        
               | zfiber wrote:
               | It's not just luck. It's about how far would you go
               | against the human principles. Remember, zuck is a prime
               | ideological person who never had any ethics on respecting
               | other people's privacy. His well known textual
               | conversation with a friend on calling people "dumb fucks"
               | for giving out their data for using "facebook" is one of
               | the many examples.
        
               | apercu wrote:
               | > I suspect talent and hard work are pretty well
               | correlated with becoming wealthy (say >$10m)
               | 
               | Statistically, no.
        
               | N_Lens wrote:
               | Nah bro all the poors are just lazy bro /s
        
               | scruple wrote:
               | How many are born into it? If I think about the people
               | that I personally know who are worth 8-figures or more
               | they were each born into wealth. I wouldn't ever say that
               | they also don't work hard and have talent, because they
               | truly do, but it doesn't apply to their wealth.
        
               | hnpolicestate wrote:
               | I think it was a Steve Jobs quote, paraphrase "it's 5%
               | the idea, 95% implementation".
               | 
               | Lots of very intelligent and talented people out there.
               | But when you have the good fortune of coming up with a
               | great idea (Facebook in the mid 00's) you have to use
               | your talent to relentlessly implement it.
               | 
               | This is what separates the plebs from the ultra wealthy.
               | Intelligence + talent + idea + implementation = success
        
               | -__---____-ZXyw wrote:
               | I think it was a Tutankhamun quote, paraphrase "it's 5%
               | the idea and the implementation, 95% having been born
               | into a family who are very wealthy and who also happen to
               | do a good job instilling the innate belief in you that
               | dominating in business is everything".
               | 
               | There's a shockingly large number of people out there
               | with buckets of "intelligence + talent + ideas" who never
               | get the opportunity to move to the "implementation" phase
               | of anything as they're too busy surviving, and the world
               | is all the poorer for it.
               | 
               | As if that cruel ignominy weren't enough on its own, we
               | are also blessed with the spectacle of ignoramuses piling
               | up and blaming the "plebs" for a situation they've no
               | control over. What a double whammy.
        
               | nyarlathotep_ wrote:
               | > Facebook in the mid 00's
               | 
               | Timing plays a huge role in this too.
        
               | alabastervlog wrote:
               | Talent and hard work _at what_ is what 's missing from
               | these discussions, I think.
               | 
               | I literally don't even know what kind of work I should do
               | if I wanted to make a billion dollars. I think it's
               | mostly delegating, and convincing people to give me
               | ownership of things that throw off money that I get, or
               | to invest in things for which I have such ownership so my
               | ownership becomes more valuable. But in concrete terms, I
               | don't even know what to do to make that happen, like,
               | step 1 of that process, I have no idea. Just being
               | talented at programming and working hard at it (more
               | talented than I am, and working harder than I do, even)
               | doesn't seem to be a great way to get there. You have to
               | focus on and have talent for activities that cause
               | capital to end up owned by you, and I have zero idea
               | where to even start with that kind of thing.
               | 
               | Meanwhile, I was socialized as a kid into a smear of
               | multiple Fussellian "Prole" categories, plus his
               | "Middle", so I have to hype myself up and _still_ feel
               | bad just to hire a plumber and not hover around them
               | because I feel like I ought to be helping (and definitely
               | feel like I 've failed on some level any time I choose to
               | do that instead of doing the work myself), and the notion
               | of owning a business but not working at, or just being a
               | kind of hype-man for it mostly for my personal benefit,
               | weirds me the fuck out, it feels fragile and strange. Why
               | would people let me do that and make so much money from
               | it? It's so weird; I get that's how things work, but the
               | idea of _doing_ it feels scary and kinda gross, and I don
               | 't mean because of risk of failure.
               | 
               | I think I'd need a huge mindset shift and a totally
               | different skillset to get actually-rich. I'd need to be a
               | different person entirely. Meanwhile there's a long list
               | of things I am or could become talented at, and could
               | work hard at, and that produce real value, that might
               | make me a living but will never get me past seven or
               | maaaaybe with a ton of right-place-right-time luck ten
               | digits of lifetime earnings, let alone net worth.
        
             | achenet wrote:
             | "if hard work was all you needed to get rich, every woman
             | in Africa would be a millionaire".
             | 
             | The clothes I'm wearing right now were probably made by a
             | sweatshop laborer working 12 hours a day under awful
             | conditions, getting paid something like 1% of what I make
             | in my tranquil 7 hour workday sitting comfortably at a
             | computer.
             | 
             | I therefore think that just hard work has an almost zero
             | correlation to success by itself.
             | 
             | If you add in "addressing a valuable market", then yes,
             | hard work helps, in that more effort spent addressing that
             | market will likely yield higher rewards. But working hard
             | on something people don't want will not yield success, in
             | my view.
        
               | Joker_vD wrote:
               | "The horse was the best worker in the _kolkhoz_ , but
               | never became its chairman". Heck, there is an entirely
               | too depressing to read (but probably mostly correct)
               | theory about how the office politics work [0] and I
               | imagine it roughly translates to the other fields as
               | well. Putting lots of efforts into some random thing most
               | likely won't make you rich and/or powerful. It's putting
               | the effort into becoming rich and powerful that gets you
               | there -- but that takes a rather particular personality
               | and skill set.
               | 
               | [0] https://www.ribbonfarm.com/2009/10/07/the-gervais-
               | principle-...
        
             | asoneth wrote:
             | I don't personally know any people who believe that hard
             | work and talent have _zero_ positive correlation with
             | success. However I know many people who believe that
             | parents ' socioeconomic status, genetics, luck, birthplace,
             | and lack of scruples are all much more significant factors.
             | 
             | I choose to actively reject that mindset because doing so
             | motivates me to focus on elements within my control, but if
             | I'm being honest I think they are probably correct, at
             | least from a statistical perspective.
        
             | fooList wrote:
             | >Does anyone actually believe that hard work and talent are
             | either zero or negatively correlated to success?
             | 
             | On average or for a particular person? Maybe on average
             | there's an effect (r=.4), so there will be many people for
             | whom that correlation is in their individual case actually
             | negative. Some struggle with this notion, and assume
             | success must signal talent or hard work in individual
             | cases. How one defines success matters a lot too. If one is
             | comparing zuck to some random CEO, say collison, can you
             | say zuck is more hardworking or talented? He is more
             | successful on paper, but I doubt he is significantly more
             | hardworking or talented.
        
             | llm_nerd wrote:
             | Enormous numbers of humans work hard and are talented at
             | the things they do. Hard work and talent gets you a middle-
             | class existence, at least if you were born in the right
             | country and with the right resources to go to university,
             | etc.
             | 
             | In the case of Zuck, he basically _did_ play a lottery
             | ticket, and a perfect confluence of being in the right
             | place at precisely the right time yielded some success. A
             | million other programmers, working just as hard and just as
             | talented, were trying to make their web app hit at that
             | time and failed.
             | 
             | That's how life is. It _is_ a lottery ticket that Zuck is
             | super rich. And it 's a strawman to act as if pointing this
             | out means that hard work and talent don't matter.
             | 
             | And FWIW, the overwhelming predicate of significant
             | business success is sociopathy. I am kind of a broken
             | record on this, but I think Meta's entire business is
             | basically the oxycontin of the online world, and that
             | everyone involved should feel absolute shame about the
             | negative value they bring to the world. Non-sociopaths
             | would have felt shame and changed course when they realized
             | they were getting rich on the mentally ill, conspiracies,
             | misinformation, etc.
        
               | jajko wrote:
               | > The overwhelming predicate of significant business
               | success is sociopathy
               | 
               | Bingo. Now good luck getting such message into heads of
               | star-stuck young folks who dream of faang and similar
               | jobs thinking there is some respect to get there in 2025,
               | when its all about money.
               | 
               | I work in banking, much better job than startup/faangs
               | could offer here in Europe, at least people aren't so
               | naive when joining. Had a discussion with my boss
               | recently and we figured we have around 40% of management
               | visibly falling under various sociopathic definitions.
               | Not requirement per se but certainly helps thrive up
               | there.
        
               | hirvi74 wrote:
               | > dream of faang and similar jobs thinking there is some
               | respect to get there in 2025
               | 
               | Something that has bothered me in recent times is how
               | much more concerned people are with _where_ they work as
               | opposed to _what_ they work on. I honestly believe people
               | would design software to kill puppies and kittens so long
               | as they could tell people they work at a Big N company.
               | 
               | Not to mention, I think a vast majority of the products
               | and services that come out of these Big N companies have
               | increasingly started to reflect this mentality each
               | passing year and have so for the past decade or more.
        
             | lordnacho wrote:
             | You can believe it's positive, but not buy the idea that
             | someone is millions of times more hard working or talented
             | than ordinary people.
             | 
             | The guy who has made billions needs the stronger form of
             | this karma-like idea.
        
             | viraptor wrote:
             | But negative, but success is correlated to success so much
             | that at some point work and talent are irrelevant. Let's
             | say Zuck has an idea to make something. He has enough
             | people around him discussing ideas that he can basically
             | pick one he likes and it's already pre-filtered. Then he
             | can give it to basically anytime he chooses, with arbitrary
             | skills threshold and resource allocation. Then he's got a
             | whole support network to make it work. And if it falls? A
             | loss of a few millions means nothing to him and he can try
             | again.
             | 
             | Every step of that is inaccessible to someone hardworking
             | and talented. So let's say you got lucky once or was born
             | with wealth available to you - you can skip the whole
             | talent and work thing.
        
             | apercu wrote:
             | I think you can certainly make some of your own luck via
             | hard work, but there is a difference between actually
             | making on your own, and starting on 3rd base.
        
             | scruple wrote:
             | I have no idea. What I do know is that there's no degree of
             | hard work or talent that will make me a billionaire.
        
               | onion2k wrote:
               | I'd argue that every billionaire has a talent for
               | persuading capable people to join them on a journey.
               | 
               | Having that skill alone isn't enough because you also
               | need to pick the right journey at the right time, but not
               | having that skill definitely means you won't be a
               | billionaire.
        
               | devin wrote:
               | Meh. If you get lucky once and make a chunk of money or
               | were born into money, people will associate that success
               | with skill rather than luck, and follow you hoping that
               | luck repeats. You don't need the skill if you can point
               | at a big house and a nice car.
        
               | scruple wrote:
               | This makes me think of early employees in a startup that
               | goes through an IPO or acquisition. Skill and talent get
               | you through the door but heaps and heaps of luck lead to
               | that event. Having personally won a (minor) startup
               | lottery I got to see the luck factor first hand.
        
             | JeremyNT wrote:
             | My take: "winning the lottery" in a Facebook sense
             | _requires_ a _floor_ of talent and work _at the early
             | stages_ , but the odds of winning don't _correlate_ with
             | how much talent and work exists, nor are continued talent
             | and work _required_ once a critical mass of success has
             | occurred. External factors - being in the right place at
             | the right time, having some cushion of familial wealth, etc
             | - dominate once you 're over the floor.
        
             | ZeroGravitas wrote:
             | I do.
             | 
             | 108 Billion humans have ever lived on planet earth. 8
             | billion-ish currently.
             | 
             | Most of them live lives that in no way reflected on their
             | hard work and talent, but rather their circumstances,
             | starting with where and when they were born but
             | encompassing a million different contingencies outside the
             | control of their hard work or talent.
             | 
             | So do you think you have talent and hard work greater than
             | 99% of those many billions? If you're posting on HN you've
             | probably got "success" in that extreme even if you've never
             | applied yourself or excelled in anything of any note.
        
               | sokoloff wrote:
               | Pick any of those 8 billion. Have them work half as hard.
               | Have them have half as much talent. Do their outcomes
               | remain the same , get better, or get worse?
               | 
               | You're arguing that there are other factors that also
               | influence outcomes (and that those other factors are
               | stronger forces).
               | 
               | I agree with that point, but that's not a refutation to
               | the notion that the coefficients on talent and hard work
               | are positive, nor a convincing argument that success is
               | unrelated to those two factors.
        
               | siavosh wrote:
               | Can anyone benefit from working 10% harder or smarter?
               | Undoubtedly. But success isn't linear. It's clear from
               | the zeitgeist that the ultra-rich and powerful--past or
               | present--aren't working a million percent harder or
               | smarter; their positions are more accurately explained by
               | structural advantages. The first million might be 95%
               | hard work and talent. The next million, probably a bit
               | less so.
        
               | Jensson wrote:
               | > It's clear from the zeitgeist that the ultra-rich and
               | powerful--past or present--aren't working a million
               | percent harder or smarter; their positions are more
               | accurately explained by structural advantages.
               | 
               | Millions of people had an equal or better starting
               | condition than Mark Zuckerberg so we aren't really
               | lacking privileged people, but vanishingly few of those
               | do become ultra wealthy.
        
               | siavosh wrote:
               | I'm not going to get into the role of luck, but more
               | curious -- how many ultra-rich individuals do you think
               | can exist on the planet earth?
        
               | Jensson wrote:
               | Point is that wealth is a pretty minor part here compared
               | to luck and skill, as otherwise people born wealthy would
               | dominate the startup world. Instead its people born to
               | upper-middle class families that dominates it.
        
               | siavosh wrote:
               | I broadly agree with your point, but you're overlooking a
               | critical dimension: once someone successfully identifies
               | and exploits a niche (through a combination of skill and
               | luck), the subsequent growth >can< often become largely
               | independent of further skill or luck. At that stage,
               | wealth through some basic intelligence compounds itself,
               | regulatory capture can then occur, monopolistic behaviors
               | can emerge--none of which are necessarily admirable
               | traits in a society. But we're talking about different
               | parts of an elephant and I don't think we disagree, but
               | stepping back what we may disagree about is my opinion
               | that ultra wealth (I'm not talking about millionaires or
               | low level billionaires) but the wealth of Musk/Bezos/Zuck
               | is a bug of the system, not a feature.
               | 
               | Humorous analogy: Imagine you're playing a video game
               | where, through a mix of skill and luck, you stumble upon
               | an incredibly overpowered weapon. With even minimal
               | competence, this weapon lets you easily acquire even more
               | powerful gear, initiating a self-reinforcing loop that
               | rapidly propels you to dominance. Soon enough, your
               | advantage reshapes the entire game--limiting access to
               | similar weapons for other players. The game stops being
               | fun, or as some might put it, it becomes fundamentally
               | unfair.
        
               | TheOtherHobbes wrote:
               | This is a basic feature of capitalism and every other
               | acquisitive social system.
               | 
               | Without forced redistribution of wealth/power that set
               | hard limits you're going to get a runaway, and the whole
               | thing melts down.
               | 
               | This won't happen if the people with wealth/power care
               | about consequences and have the wisdom to model outcomes
               | accurately. But the kinds of people who care about
               | consequences in capitalism are unlikely to be chasing
               | huge wealth in the first place.
               | 
               | The system _cannot work._ It 's fundamentally manic
               | depressive, alternating between irrationally exuberant
               | booms and catastrophic crashes, and consuming talent and
               | raw materials for self-defeating ends.
        
               | lordnacho wrote:
               | > otherwise people born wealthy would dominate the
               | startup world. Instead its people born to upper-middle
               | class families that dominates it.
               | 
               | Those are just two different points on the "wealthy"
               | scale. If you zoom out on a global level, they are not
               | very far apart.
               | 
               | The kind of upper-middle class family that produces
               | startup founders tends to be from the rich countries.
               | 
               | It makes perfect sense that it's the pretty wealthy and
               | not the super-wealthy. There's more of the UMC, and they
               | only need a certain amount of social/economic capital to
               | roll the dice.
        
               | BobbyTables2 wrote:
               | It's not just about starting condition but also the level
               | of psychotic desire to profit at any cost.
        
               | Throw9444 wrote:
               | I imagine first you'd have to define success in a way
               | others might agree with. And talent, for that matter--
               | most notable talents can't be easily exploited by
               | capital.
               | 
               | But, I do know for sure that being wealthy is correlated
               | to neither skill nor hard work, but savvy leverage of the
               | skill and hard work of others. That shit has to end. You
               | should make proportional to the work you put in.
               | Shareholders and investors are even worse.
               | 
               | But whatever. I do not expect the world to improve at
               | this point. We're just stuck in a shitty place (as
               | humanity) and asked to be grateful for the insight of the
               | rich.
        
               | Ray20 wrote:
               | >You should make proportional to the work you put in.
               | 
               | Throughout the 20th century we have seen what such a
               | social structure leads to: millions of deaths from
               | hunger. And always, without exception: the transition to
               | work-based economy - and in the next decade the
               | population becomes many times poorer and a huge
               | percentage of the population dies of starvation.
               | 
               | So no thanks. Between shareholders and investors, and
               | starvation, I choose shareholders and investors.
        
               | 3np wrote:
               | Saying it's literally 0 implies a belief that free will
               | doesn't exist (predeterminism), right? If so, who are you
               | trying to convince here? :p
               | 
               | It's complex.
        
               | Arisaka1 wrote:
               | To play devil's advocate: Free will not existing doesn't
               | mean that your environment doesn't affect your outcomes.
               | On the contrary, in fact. So convincing you means that I
               | am the environment that affects you.
        
               | 3np wrote:
               | I don't see how that complicates things?
               | 
               | This is the thread GP was supposed to be a reply to:
               | 
               | > > Does anyone actually believe that hard work and
               | talent are either zero or negatively correlated to
               | success?
               | 
               | > I do.
        
               | datadrivenangel wrote:
               | Circumstances and luck are hugely important, but you have
               | agency even if you don't have full control.
               | 
               | Any of us could get hit by a meteor or drop dead at any
               | minute, but working harder towards goals in aggregate
               | moves us towards those goals, so I don't understand how
               | this logic works?
        
               | amanaplanacanal wrote:
               | That's assuming that free will actually exists, which is
               | an open question at this point.
        
             | theonething wrote:
             | I agree with you that there is positive correlation.
             | 
             | I also believe those two things are correlated with
             | genetics (and of course environment/upbringing)
        
             | amalcon wrote:
             | A lot of people seem to think of success as the sum of a
             | bunch of independent variables: positioning + insight +
             | hard work + talent + luck - scruples ... Then, they argue
             | about the relative magnitude of each term.
             | 
             | It's obviously more complex than this, but I think it's
             | more useful to think of it as a product. You don't need a
             | high value in any of them to succeed, but a tiny value in
             | even one means you need an astronomical value somewhere
             | else.
        
             | t43562 wrote:
             | At school I used to play marbles. I had no skill whatsoever
             | so I did "set ups" where I put a marble down and other kids
             | threw theirs from a standard distance to hit it. If they
             | missed the marble was mine. More valued marbles got more
             | chances.
             | 
             | I got "marble rich" because I knew who the good players
             | were and when one came a long I put my foot over my marble.
             | Once you knew the trick it was impossible not to win on
             | average and be a few marbles better off every day. Even a
             | slight positive over a few weeks turns into a lot.
             | 
             | At a certain point I stopped finding this desirable and
             | felt a bit guilty about it - the marbles were of no use to
             | me really and it was enough to know that I had the trick of
             | succeeding.
             | 
             | I wonder if this is roughly how people get wealthy in real
             | life other than that they don't think "enough".
        
               | wiz21c wrote:
               | They become rich because 1/ they got marbles to start
               | with 2/ they like marbles when marbles are a thing 3/
               | they figure out a trick nobody has figured out (and it's
               | just a trick, not much genius in there) 4/ they want more
               | marbles 5/ they don't care if they loose (so they can
               | take risk)
        
             | blitzar wrote:
             | Do you actually believe that Mark Zuckerberg worked harder
             | and is more talented than (rounded to the nearest person)
             | every other person on the planet?
        
             | const_cast wrote:
             | Neither talent nor hard work have anything to do with
             | helping humanity.
             | 
             | The reality is that our measurements of success don't
             | correlate with "goodness", they correlate with getting
             | stuff done. And you can do lots of evil stuff pretty
             | easily.
             | 
             | The reason so many rich people seem evil is because they
             | are. You don't become rich via charity. You become rich by
             | exploiting others and siphoning their success to yourself.
             | 
             | It's just plainly evident in every sector of our economy.
             | You don't have to pay for the bad shit you do. Look at
             | tobacco. Tobacco is a zero-value or negative-value
             | industry. The sheer existence of tobacco actively makes the
             | world a worse place.
             | 
             | But guess what? They don't pay for your COPD medicine. They
             | don't pay for your congestive heart failure. But they will
             | happily take your money for a carton.
             | 
             | All bad costs are externalizer, and all profit is kept. The
             | end result is obvious. The more good you do, the stupider
             | you are. The more evil you do, the more money you make.
        
               | sershe wrote:
               | Are you sitting in a room while typing this? At the
               | margin to reduce the odds of heart attacks, you should be
               | at a walking desk outdoors, or ideally not arguing on the
               | internet at all. Someone trying to "help humanity" should
               | decide the threshold of acceptable self harm for you,
               | just like you feel free to decide it for smokers; then
               | after determining how you should live, they can declare
               | that the alternatives make the world a worse place.
               | 
               | If I was asked about the best correlate for being evil,
               | honestly trying to make the world a better place by
               | determining how specifically others should live would be
               | on top of the list by a huge margin.
        
               | const_cast wrote:
               | > If I was asked about the best correlate for being evil,
               | honestly trying to make the world a better place by
               | determining how specifically others should live would be
               | on top of the list by a huge margin.
               | 
               | Really? Telling people, "hey, don't give other's poison,
               | that's bad"... is worse than giving other's poison? You
               | actually believe that?
               | 
               | To give some context, I used to smoke. For a long time!
               | 
               | Nobody wants to smoke. The only people that want you to
               | smoke are the people literally extracting value out of
               | your rotting corpse.
               | 
               | Look, if you actually think those people are better, then
               | whatever. Clearly this isn't something I can dispute or
               | even try to argue against so who cares. Just... find some
               | medication or something, I don't know. This pathetic,
               | self-destructive method of thinking can't be right.
        
               | sershe wrote:
               | Yep, I used to smoke too. I wanted to smoke and i still
               | sometimes miss social and contemplative aspects of it 17
               | years after stopping, even though any chemical cravings
               | stopped in a couple months
               | 
               | On the later part, your comment was very insightful too,
               | cause you are a perfect example of what I'm talking
               | about.
               | 
               | 1) You decide for others what is good for them,
               | implicitly treating their judgements with contempt.
               | 
               | 2) When someone suggests that people might have different
               | thresholds and tradeoffs and you probably wouldn't like
               | it if someone who disagrees with you would make life
               | decisions for you with the same moral certitude as you do
               | in 1, you respond with "This pathetic, self-destructive
               | method of thinking can't be right.", dismissive contempt.
               | 
               | The person coming across in these comments is a self-
               | important possibly power-hungry psychopath - exactly what
               | I was talking about. A mini version of the people behind
               | everything from great leap forward and collective farms
               | to white man's burden. I mean you gotta tell these wrong-
               | thinking people how to live their lives correctly, cause
               | you are right and their objections are just some mental
               | defect!
        
               | xkcd-sucks wrote:
               | Tobacco actually has some value: It produces a craving,
               | which can be satisfied temporarily. Being able to fulfill
               | _some kind of_ desire, even a contrived one, is the
               | value. Or rather, the addiction of smoking created a
               | desire that can definitely be satisfied.
        
             | BobbyTables2 wrote:
             | Who should be promoted and/or given a raise?
             | 
             | The person working hard with the same company for 15 years
             | with extensively proven track record and well known impact
             | across the organization?
             | 
             | Or the interview candidate with 5yrs experience?
             | 
             | Yet every time, companies roll out the red carpet for the
             | new guy. He's probably at least half bluffing and the new
             | company has little concrete evidence of his past
             | performance.
        
             | tpoacher wrote:
             | To throw some controversy onto the mix, they are related,
             | but in the same way that [some race] is correlated to [some
             | behaviour] in the extremes of the probability distribution,
             | but mostly makes no difference at the overwhelming core of
             | it.
             | 
             | And therefore when people say [some race] makes no
             | difference in [some behaviour], and other people say "Why
             | is it always [some race] when we see [some behaviour]", and
             | others say "the observation that [some race] leads to [some
             | behaviour] is false because 50% of the time I see [some
             | other race] being worse than [some race] in terms of [some
             | behaviour]" they are all completely right, but just
             | focusing on different properties of the distribution.
             | 
             | So back to your example, yes, in the extremes, many people
             | who are ultrawealthy may have had those behaviours. But by
             | far and large those behaviours don't make much of a
             | difference to the overwhelming majority of the population,
             | and therefore it's likely that other factors were far more
             | important in terms of making an ultrawealthy person
             | becoming ultrawealthy in the first place. At best, someone
             | who was destined to be ultrawealthy didn't make it because
             | they didn't have those behaviours, but that's more like
             | winning the lottery and being too forgetful to go cash it
             | in, rather than having characteristics that will help you
             | win the lottery in the first place.
        
               | sokoloff wrote:
               | In the case of talent and hard work, I think it works the
               | other way: the vast majority of people will see better
               | results in their "normal/broad-middle" lives from
               | increases in hard work or, said otherwise, suffer
               | negative outcomes from lapses in effort [getting fired
               | for lack of attendance or having worse health outcomes
               | from a lack of exercise being concrete examples].
               | 
               | It's not that interesting or relevant to me whether Musk,
               | Gates, Zuckerberg, Bezos had talent or work ethic as
               | significant elements of their success. It is interesting
               | and relevant to me as an adult, parent, and mentor the
               | role that talent and hard work play in outcomes for my
               | family and the students I mentor.
               | 
               | I strongly doubt it's anything other than a positive
               | correlation and believe that the correlation is relevant
               | for normal people.
        
             | jandrewrogers wrote:
             | To add, it isn't just hard work and talent but also the
             | willingness to take a calculated risk when an opportunity
             | presents itself. Most talented and hard working people I
             | know are so risk averse that they would let multiple
             | opportunities to make billions pass them by.
        
             | camdenreslink wrote:
             | Hard work and talent are related to success. But when the
             | outcome is "become the richest person in the world", hard
             | work and talent are a rounding error compared to luck. Does
             | anybody really think Zuckerberg is even in the top 5%
             | hardest working or talented people in the world? A decision
             | as inconsequential as rewriting Facebook to a different
             | language in the early days could have derailed the entire
             | enterprise. There is a lot of luck involved.
        
               | daseiner1 wrote:
               | Yes, I would absolutely consider Zuckerberg as one of the
               | top 5% most talented people in the world. Frankly, that
               | isn't a particularly high bar whatsoever. Haven't you
               | ever been amongst the general populace?
               | 
               | You've committed the typical sin on this site of
               | overrating technical prowess and underrating business
               | acumen. There's a reason so many founder CEOs from his
               | era ended up getting sacked while he's maintained control
               | and Meta has become the behemoth it is. Next you're going
               | to tell us how Steve Jobs was a charlatan and a cheat.
               | 
               | Is the act of buying a lottery ticket a "rounding error"
               | when it comes to winning the powerball?
        
               | camdenreslink wrote:
               | I think you underrate the talent of people in the general
               | populace. There are very talented people everywhere. It
               | rarely translates into wealth.
               | 
               | By the way, the act of buying a power ball ticket is
               | essentially a rounding error. The odds of winning the
               | grand prize (which is what we're talking about here) is 1
               | in 292,201,338. That is for all intents and purposes the
               | same as zero.
        
               | _dark_matter_ wrote:
               | Seriously, I work at a FAANG and Zuck would be in the top
               | 5% most talented people at my company. Hands down. That
               | doesn't take away from all the things he's clearly
               | _terrible_ at, one being actually caring about other
               | people, but still clearly an exceptional engineer and
               | business mind.
        
               | sitkack wrote:
               | Cut it with the FAANG exceptionalism, I worked for
               | multiple FAANGs, you need to reevaluate many of your
               | opinions. The biggest skill people at FAANGs have is
               | getting hired at a FAANG and that is it.
        
               | _dark_matter_ wrote:
               | I don't know where you got the idea that I have faang
               | exceptionalism, quite the opposite
        
               | BobaFloutist wrote:
               | The United States has ~4.25% of the world population, but
               | 8 of the 10 richest people in the world live in the
               | United States.
               | 
               | Even if you _just_ take the advantage of being born in
               | the United States (which, fine, exclude Musk from that
               | list then) 7 of the 10 people on the list, including
               | Zuckerberg, are among 5%  "luckiest" people in the world
               | just based on where they were born.
               | 
               | This is eliminating any luck they got from hereditary
               | wealth, geographical location, and catching the surge of
               | value in their respective industry at the exact right
               | time.
        
             | techpineapple wrote:
             | I think they're like linearly correlated to a point and
             | then other things take over.
             | 
             | I do think that the primary factor that can lead to
             | billionaire status aside from luck is sort of moral
             | flexibility / shamelessness / irrational risk tolerance
             | above and beyond hard work and talent.
        
             | stonemetal12 wrote:
             | For most of human history yes, the amount of hard work you
             | did was negatively correlated with success. Kings, Queens,
             | and Pharos sat on thrones while peasants built the
             | pyramids, farmed the land, etc.
             | 
             | Even today high effort jobs tend to be low paying, paper
             | shuffling, or keyboard tapping tends to pay better.
        
             | drumdance wrote:
             | I think that, broadly speaking, hard work and talent
             | strongly predict success. But the circumstances can
             | dramatically affect the magnitude. I have no doubt that
             | Zuck would've been successful in 1880, but not one of the
             | richest people who ever lived. The leverage that comes from
             | being an introverted hacker type was not as great then.
        
             | chairmansteve wrote:
             | It's obviously a combination of talent, hard work and luck.
             | Usually in that order. The luck in Zuck's case was being in
             | the right place at the right time. Obviously he made the
             | most of it with talent and hard work.
        
             | ajuc wrote:
             | Depends on what you define as talent.
             | 
             | For example there're studies that intelligence over 120 is
             | negatively correlated with success as a leader.
        
           | scarab92 wrote:
           | Skill and effort obviously has a part in explaining success.
           | 
           | That aside, I can't be the only person tired of people
           | bringing envy politics to this forum, trying to shoehorn
           | wealth into every single discussion involving someone who is
           | wealthy, as if that's the only, or even a valid, way to look
           | at everything they do.
        
           | m463 wrote:
           | I kind of wonder if they have to dominate to be the
           | unquestioned leader.
           | 
           | Like Steve Jobs dominating the whiteboard, or Elon Musk
           | angrily emailing in early Tesla after not being mentioned by
           | PR at the beginning.
        
           | gchamonlive wrote:
           | > You've won the lottery, but you don't want to acknowledge
           | that you won the lottery.
           | 
           | Yes, but where does this drive come from?
           | 
           | I haven't the faintest idea, however we can extrapolate from
           | some facts.
           | 
           | One fact is that they have a lot of money. Duh... But also
           | money is the key metric to measure success, so a lot of other
           | people flock around those who have money so that it rubs a
           | bit off of them, that Midas touch.
           | 
           | Suddenly these ultrawealthy are surrounded by an endless wave
           | of gold diggers. The immediate thing that follows is flatter,
           | and then echo chamber.
           | 
           | Now imagine that goes for years and years. Slowly this
           | metaphorical richy's whole world views -- and also how he
           | view himself, his identity and his relationship with the
           | things around him -- gets tied absolutely to that notion that
           | _he is right_.
           | 
           | For this imaginary person, losing a game isn't just am
           | innocent loss anymore. It's a direct question of his own
           | identity.
           | 
           | I think this explains a lot, but I'm not psychologist so it's
           | just a wild guess.
        
           | Nurw wrote:
           | In addition, I think you have to be sort of selfish to become
           | ultra-wealthy. At some point people who believe that they
           | became rich not by their own merit would start to distribute
           | some wealth around. While selfish and egotistical people
           | would hoard all their wealth, compounding it into ultra-
           | richness.
        
           | eth0up wrote:
           | There's a trove of truth in this <lottery / denial>
           | perspective. It happens on all levels of success. But what a
           | profoundly different world it would be if wholesome humility
           | was the default tendency. I'm not saying it would be a
           | panacea, but understanding the dynamics, even intuitively, of
           | the myriad interdependencies that allow our every action
           | would be a humble leap in a better direction.
           | 
           | For me, the only thing anyone deserves is what everyone else
           | deserves, and everything else _is_ a form of lottery. There
           | 's simply no place for arrogance other than delusion. It's
           | good to remember who built the foundations you've succeeded
           | on, and if not beyond one's capacity, with a little dose of
           | reverence, respect or something other than self immersion.
           | Zuckerborg is a mirror for many.
        
         | benterix wrote:
         | I had a conversation with one of these types. He honestly told
         | me, "I really feel I am superior to most people". He was very
         | frank with me. (And, in the things he did, he was actually much
         | better than most people - he did have great talent but also
         | spend almost all of his time on that.)
         | 
         | So my pet peeve theory is when they feel they are not superior
         | and other people are better than them in activities that
         | involve logical thinking for example, they feel extremely
         | uncomfortable as their perception of themselves gets weaker,
         | hence these strange behaviors.
        
           | HexPhantom wrote:
           | When someone builds their whole identity around being "the
           | smartest person in the room," any situation that challenges
           | that (even something as trivial as losing a game) can feel
           | like a threat to their entire self-image. It's not just ego,
           | it's almost existential.
        
         | klabb3 wrote:
         | It's part of the pathology. So much so it's violating otherwise
         | core tenets of their culture and customs:
         | 
         | Look, today meritocracy and brutal honesty are absolutes,
         | they're considered critical, exactly to overcome biases that
         | stand in your way. The Zuck types are 100% believers in this
         | (heck they accelerated it), yet they still need positive
         | affirmations like winning board games.
         | 
         | Most people (especially smart and opportunistic ones) fold
         | because they know winning a private board game means nothing.
        
         | bsenftner wrote:
         | I know these types of people, a lot of them, but I am not one
         | of them. I was a student at Harvard, I've dated the daughter of
         | a film studio owner, the daughter of the then-owner of Gucci,
         | I've worked at an Academy Award winning VFX studio, I know
         | celebrities and CEOs, and I married an Academy Award winner. I
         | know these people.
         | 
         | There is a mechanism in high wealth investment circles that
         | seeks very ambitious and simultaneously low self knowledge
         | individuals to invest heavily. They tend to be driven and
         | charismatic in that drive, while being very ignorant of their
         | negative impact on others. Many high net worth individuals see
         | themselves in such youth, and invest in them, their ideas and
         | their drive. They create psychopaths, and celebrate their
         | mistakes as fuel for control of them later. This mechanism I am
         | describing is very powerful, dominating.
        
         | DragonStrength wrote:
         | No one deserves that much more than others. No one believes
         | they don't deserve what they have. People work backwards to
         | justify why they need so much more power, control, and wealth
         | than others. Worse for Zuck b/c his special shares.
         | 
         | The ambition/success feedback loop never stops, which is why
         | the folks on top seem somehow less secure and content than the
         | rest of us. Most of us figure out we probably won't be the #1
         | anything pretty early in our journey and stop fixating on
         | comparison and focus on maximizing ourselves.
        
           | HexPhantom wrote:
           | Most people have to make peace with not being 1, and in doing
           | so, they actually get a shot at real contentment. But when
           | you're at the top, the game never ends. There's always
           | another metric to dominate, another threat to neutralize,
           | another narrative to control.
        
         | RiceRichardJ wrote:
         | > If you're wildly successful at something with significant
         | real world influence, why would you care so strongly about
         | something as relatively inconsequential as a board game or a
         | video game?
         | 
         | It's possible that exact personality trait is what drove them
         | to such success in the first place. Perhaps like an obsession
         | with winning.
        
         | myflash13 wrote:
         | We all have personal quirks which would appear silly if
         | publicly known. But most of us are not billionares, so these
         | quirks do not come to light, or do not seem that strange in
         | ordinary people. "Not wanting to lose at board games" is
         | actually quite a mild personal quirk compared to some of the
         | things I know about myself or about my close friends. I know a
         | guy who spends 20 minutes picking out tomatoes.
        
           | Arainach wrote:
           | There is a huge difference between not wanting to lose and
           | getting angry when someone doesn't let you win.
        
         | preommr wrote:
         | > If you're wildly successful at something with significant
         | real world influence, why would you care so strongly about
         | something as relatively inconsequential as a board game or a
         | video game?
         | 
         | All the other comments are about Zuckerberg being an out-of-
         | touch egomaniac, but I think this is a reflection of people.
         | 
         | We want our leaders to be infaliable and we use the stupidest
         | metrics to judge people. Remember how Ed miliband eating a
         | sandwich became a scandal? For every one person that would see
         | losing as not a big deal, there's like ten people that will
         | think "this guy can't win a game of settlers of Catan, and he's
         | running the company???".
         | 
         | I am reminded of that joe rogan clip where he's just in awe of
         | Elon Musk because of his Diablo rankings or something. People
         | feed into the mythology.
         | 
         | It's all stupid and insane, but I don't see how anyone can look
         | at the current state of politics or the stock market and not
         | say that the world is full of crazy things that just run on
         | vibes.
        
         | KeithBrink wrote:
         | I was interested in this anecdote about the board games, but it
         | seems like there's at least some dispute about how true or
         | inflated this story is:
         | 
         | https://www.businessinsider.com/mark-zuckerberg-board-game-c...
         | 
         | I think it's easy to believe a narrative like this about
         | someone generally disliked, but the reality about basically
         | everyone is that we have good moments and bad moments. People
         | that are famous are constantly being watched and evaluated.
         | 
         | Given the inevitability of those bad moments being observed and
         | reported, I don't think it's a good foundation for evaluating
         | someone's character. In this case, it's mostly useful for
         | confirming an already negative point of view.
        
           | achenet wrote:
           | from the article you linked, it seems that Zuck told everyone
           | else to gang up on the next hardest player so he could win.
           | 
           | That they went along with it is... kind of in line with what
           | Wynn-Williams said. Would they still have all teamed up on
           | Zuck's opponent if Zuck hadn't been their boss?
        
           | palata wrote:
           | Sure, one single anecdote doesn't say much.
           | 
           | But at this point it would be hard to say that Zuck is not a
           | toxic individual. Not everyone is toxic.
        
         | rsynnott wrote:
         | > Have the elites through history always been this insecure or
         | is it a modern phenomenon?
         | 
         | I don't think _all_ the superrich _are_ this insecure. Like,
         | the obvious examples of this sort of behaviour are Trump (golf,
         | in particular), Musk (video game nonsense), Zuck (this). But
         | all three of those are very obviously fucked-up, socially
         | maladjusted people in _other_ ways, too. Potentially the issue
         | is more that being very rich allowed them to _get away_ with
         | this behaviour; poor weirdos have more incentive to suppress it
         | because people will only accept it from rich weirdos.
         | 
         | Though the phenomenon of "adult manbaby gets upset when not
         | allowed to win game (especially by his partner)" is
         | _absolutely_ out there, even for non-absurdly-rich people; see
         | any subreddit about relationships for examples.
        
           | mwigdahl wrote:
           | That phenomenon is certainly not exclusive to men. All it
           | takes is someone insecure enough to feel that losing a game
           | threatens their sense of worth as a person.
        
             | rsynnott wrote:
             | Nah, definitely not exclusive to men, but you do see it
             | more from men. I think possibly at least partially because
             | it _is_ seen as somewhat more socially acceptable from men
             | than from women; the boy who never grew up is viewed more
             | favourably than the girl who ditto.
             | 
             | > All it takes is someone insecure enough to feel that
             | losing a game threatens their sense of worth as a person
             | 
             | You also need them to think that they'll get away with this
             | behaviour, whether it be just being very rich, or because
             | there is some societal tolerance of Homer Simpson-esque
             | emotionally immature men, or for some other reason.
        
         | phaedrus441 wrote:
         | I think you'll see this kind of thing in many professions. Some
         | doctors, who are highly specialized and highly trained in their
         | field, act like they should automatically be great at skills
         | they barely have experience with, and then get frustrated when
         | they don't immediately excel or when people with less
         | impressive credentials end up being better at something.
         | 
         | My family member who taught flying to hobbyist pilots always
         | said physicians were the most dangerous students because of
         | their "know-it-all" attitude.
        
         | alfiedotwtf wrote:
         | People who have built empires who then surround themselves with
         | Yes Men is probably the strongest indicator they're about to
         | lose it all
        
         | thesuperbigfrog wrote:
         | >> Why does this seem to be a recurring pattern among the
         | modern ultrawealthy? Does anyone who fails to bend over
         | backwards for them just end up getting exiled? Have the elites
         | through history always been this insecure or is it a modern
         | phenomenon?
         | 
         | There is a long history of wealthy elites wanting to always
         | win, even at games, and who want to be the center of attention.
         | 
         | Kaiser Wilhelm II had many of the same characteristics seen in
         | today's ultrawealthy elites. When he commanded forces in German
         | military exercises his side was always the side that won
         | because it was his side.
         | 
         | "Wilhelm II's reign marked a departure from the more restrained
         | leadership of his predecessors, as he sought to assert direct
         | influence over the German Empire's governance and military
         | affairs. This shift toward a more "personalist" system, where
         | loyalty to the Kaiser outweighed true statesmanship, weakened
         | the effectiveness of German leadership and contributed to its
         | eventual strategic missteps."
         | 
         | Source: https://www.deadcarl.com/p/the-kaiser-and-his-men-
         | civil-mili...
         | 
         | Lots of historical echos in the state of the world today.
        
           | mrguyorama wrote:
           | >This shift toward a more "personalist" system, where loyalty
           | to the Kaiser outweighed true statesmanship, weakened the
           | effectiveness of German leadership and contributed to its
           | eventual strategic missteps."
           | 
           | I'm not convinced there has ever been a positive or
           | constructive outcome from cults of personality.
        
         | HexPhantom wrote:
         | I think it's less a new phenomenon and more a timeless one -
         | we've just digitized the palace
        
         | 542354234235 wrote:
         | Being ultra wealthy/famous/powerful would have a lot of
         | negative psychological pressures that would likely effect all
         | of us in that situation. Personal growth is difficult.
         | Acknowledging negative parts of ourselves is difficult. Many
         | times, we are forced to confront something negative about
         | ourselves because of how it effects our lives and our
         | relationships.
         | 
         | I think we have all had that friend at some point that was a
         | poor sport. They were poor losers, gloating winners, and just
         | unpleasant to play games with. Usually that person stops
         | getting invited to game night, or you have a "come to Jesus"
         | talk with them about their behavior. The social pressure of
         | losing friends is a powerful motivator.
         | 
         | But what if that person has an unlimited supply of people that
         | would validate, flatter, and reinforce their bad behavior? When
         | you are thinking about who to hang out with from your unlimited
         | rolodex, you will likely subconsciously lean towards people
         | that make you feel validated, understood, respected, etc.
         | Slowly, by degrees, over years, you could find yourself
         | surrounded by sycophants, where you more and more validated and
         | catered to, and are less and less used to hearing constructive
         | criticism of your behavior.
         | 
         | It reminds me of how highly processed "junk" foods can short
         | circuit a lot of our physiological mechanisms around
         | overeating. Basically unlimited availability of junk food is
         | part of why obesity is has shot up. Being ultra
         | wealthy/famous/powerful is the highly processed food of the
         | psyche. It doesn't mean every rich person become
         | psychologically unhealthy but it makes the rates of it shoot
         | up.
        
         | mcpar-land wrote:
         | One of my favorite tweets:
         | 
         | > Being a billionaire must be insane. You can buy new teeth,
         | new skin. All your chairs cost 20,000 dollars and weigh 2,000
         | pounds. Your life is just a series of your own preferences. In
         | terms of cognitive impairment it's probably like being kicked
         | in the head by a horse every day
         | 
         | https://x.com/Merman_Melville/status/1088527693757349888
        
         | AnimalMuppet wrote:
         | It's an old problem. Medieval kings had this problem. One way
         | around it was the fool/jester, who could (within limits) say
         | the things that nobody else was free to say.
        
         | ninetyninenine wrote:
         | It's a personality trait that leads him to success.
         | 
         | Yes Zuckerberg won the lottery. But at the same time his
         | business acumen and ruthless personality put him in a position
         | to win the lottery.
        
         | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
         | I know a number of wealthy folks, many of them, actually really
         | decent people. They deserve their wealth, and I have no issues
         | with it. They tend to have somewhat different value systems
         | than I do, but we get along, anyway.
         | 
         | I have learned that one word they pretty much _never_ hear, is
         | "No."
         | 
         | Even the very best of them, gets used to having every whacked-
         | out fever dream their Id squeezes out, treated like God's Word.
         | 
         | People who aren't very good at self-analysis and self-control,
         | can have real problems with it.
         | 
         | We are watching a bunch of _very_ public examples of exactly
         | this, right now.
        
           | nartho wrote:
           | How wealthy are the wealthy folks you know ? a quant or faang
           | principal engineer making 1.5-2 million/year is wealthy and
           | worked hard to get there (although, luck is still a big part
           | of it) yet they're much closer in wealth than a fast food
           | employee than they are to the super rich. Someone who has
           | accumulated 50 millions of assets is wealthy, yet they'll
           | never afford a super yacht or the lifestyle that billionaires
           | can afford.
        
             | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
             | Multi-millionaires (not billionaires), but they are
             | business owners and finance folks.
             | 
             | They own a mansion and a yacht (Bugs Bunny reference).
             | 
             | But you are correct. Different orbit from the ultra-
             | wealthy. They still hang out with plebes like me.
             | 
             | However, if this happens to _these_ folks, then you can bet
             | that it also happens to the next valence level.
        
             | ido wrote:
             | the principle engineer may have a lot of money but also
             | still has a job with a boss and thus probably still hears
             | (or know they can potentially hear) "no".
        
         | sgarland wrote:
         | > And anyway, if you're playing games for fun and to bond with
         | people, you probably shouldn't be playing tryhard optimal
         | strategies every game, and should instead explore and
         | experiment with more creative strategies.
         | 
         | Agreed. I have played some truly awful strategies in games
         | (Azul: Queen's Garden comes to mind) where it was clear within
         | a round or two that it was doomed to fail; my wife / gaming
         | partner expressed dismay that I was doggedly continuing, but to
         | me, I had to see it through without introducing other variables
         | so that I could definitively know (modulo luck of tile draw)
         | that the strategy sucked. I thoroughly enjoyed losing.
         | 
         | EDIT: if anyone is curious, the strategy was to maximize high-
         | point (5/6) tokens above everything else, eschewing end-round
         | bonuses, brief tactical shifts, etc. Turns out it's really hard
         | to collect enough sets of them to count at game end, and you're
         | giving up compounding points along the way.
        
         | conductr wrote:
         | It's more so related to power. Once you've acquired enough
         | power, it consumes most people. They don't like having their
         | power challenged or put in a weakened state. Many of these
         | people are acquiring power via some form or their "genius".
         | Technical wunderkind, military strategy genius, etc. So that
         | drives their ego. But, they probably know they're not actually
         | a genius and plenty of people could have done what they did but
         | they got lucky. So they end up getting defensive and insecure
         | when anything challenges their power, risks to expose their
         | genius as a fraud, etc. They're operating on a mental house of
         | cards and are volatile due to it. For regular people, they seem
         | to be triggered by small things like losing a card game but
         | it's probably just that, a trigger that unleashed a wave of
         | pent up insecurity.
        
         | apercu wrote:
         | > Why does this seem to be a recurring pattern among the modern
         | ultrawealthy?
         | 
         | Who says it's limited to the ultra wealthy? My network has a
         | lot of people who have net worths of under $5-6 million USD and
         | a lot of them are highly insecure.
         | 
         | I've witnessed several of them going out of their way to tear
         | down people who are fitter or more attractive than them as
         | well.
         | 
         | Look at the manbaby actions through that lens and you might get
         | some insight.
        
           | AnimalMuppet wrote:
           | Hmm. So highly insecure people have to "win" (however it's
           | defined at the moment) in order to bury their insecurities
           | for the moment, but ultra wealthy individuals 1) have more
           | power, so they can make it so that they win more often, and
           | 2) are noticed more (or at least by a wider circle), so when
           | they do it, a lot more people pay attention.
        
             | apercu wrote:
             | >so when they do it, a lot more people pay attention.
             | 
             | It makes sense, media glamorizes these people and amplifies
             | their actions, and some of the insecure folks crave
             | attention. Look at that one guy who somehow works harder
             | than all of us but is able to tweet all day every day...
        
         | ubermonkey wrote:
         | The game thing is just the tip of the iceberg.
         | 
         | There's lots of talk in the entertainment world, from the long-
         | term famous, about how money and fame tend to be fundamentally
         | warping. Bill Murray said to Pete Davidson that, once it
         | happens, nearly everyone is an asshole for about two years.
         | People fawn all over you; they do things for you. They give you
         | things for free. You can get things normal people can't get. If
         | you're making a few million a year, you have economic power
         | beyond nearly everyone you've ever known. At a certain level,
         | travel is a whim, not a slog through TSA and airport lines. And
         | you lose the ability to deal with pushback of any kind.
         | 
         | The smart ones -- the ones with some capacity for self-
         | awareness -- course-correct. The others don't.
         | 
         | But in Hollywood, one assumes, the bubble is far less perfect
         | than the one around someone like Zuck, whose power over
         | Facebook is absolute and inviolate, and who has money and power
         | beyond almost every other person on the planet. So there's only
         | a very small chance of any course-correction, and thus he stays
         | an asshole, and that assholery extends to insisting that he win
         | at trivial board games.
        
         | onion2k wrote:
         | _f you 're wildly successful at something with significant real
         | world influence, why would you care so strongly about something
         | as relatively inconsequential as a board game or a video game?_
         | 
         | Zuck 'earning' another billion probably means nothing to him. I
         | doubt he can even keep count. All of that sense of self-worth
         | that people derive from their career or wealth is lost in the
         | noise of Meta's stock price for him. But winning a board game
         | is tangible. It's right there in front of him, as a direct
         | result of his own actions. He can _feel_ that.
         | 
         | If you couple that with him being surrounded by people who know
         | that losing to him makes him feel good, and that Zuck is more
         | generous when he's happy, you can see why people lose on
         | purpose.
        
         | zzzeek wrote:
         | you're getting the order of events backwards. it's not "Become
         | a billionaire, then become a baby who insists they be allowed
         | to win board games". The order is, _first_ you 're an entitled,
         | manipulative jackass with absolutely no bottom for unethical
         | behavior and zero tolerance for "losing", _then_ become a
         | billionaire by being so brazenly shitty in all areas of life
         | and getting people to go along with you. Caveat, you have to be
         | a white guy for this to work and it works much better if you
         | already inherited millions from your dad.
         | 
         | As an exercise, apply this rule to all the other billionaires
         | you know.
        
           | ModernMech wrote:
           | I tend to agree with you, but I also tend to believe that
           | indeed, having a billion dollars (read: having no
           | constraints) will tend to bring out the worst in anyone.
           | 
           | Another way to say this is, most people who earn obscene
           | wealth who would be offended by the obscenity of it would
           | work hard to give most of it away. Those who are not offended
           | by the obscenity of it will be happy to keep it, so there's a
           | selection bias to it.
        
         | jonplackett wrote:
         | There's a podcast I love called Real Dictators.
         | 
         | It looks at loads of dictators from history - Stalin, Hitler,
         | Saddam Hussein.
         | 
         | What they all have in common is a love for loyalty and
         | subservience. And they demand loyalty and subservience be
         | constantly proven. Often in very weird and trivial ways.
         | 
         | Eg. Saddam Hussein liked to have a BBQ where he would cook (but
         | not eat) and make the food inedible spicy. Then he would force
         | his top people to eat it while he laughed at them.
         | 
         | They of course had to keep up the pretence that the food was
         | delicious and pay him lots of compliments.
        
         | JKCalhoun wrote:
         | > If you're wildly successful at something ... why would you
         | care so strongly about something as relatively inconsequential
         | as a board game or a video game?
         | 
         | > And anyway, if you're playing games for fun and to bond with
         | people...
         | 
         | I see you answered your own question.
        
         | miiiiiike wrote:
         | It's weird how moments can go from "we were playing a game
         | when.." to "The New York Times is covering a game we played 15
         | years ago". What I've heard from people who were in the game
         | was that he wanted to go to bed so he was trying to negotiate a
         | quick end to the game. There was a time at a con where I did
         | something similar (i.e. we had to finish, we couldn't just
         | leave the game setup and play later.)
         | 
         | Everything is viewed through a mirror darkly.
         | 
         | "HE FORCED OTHERS TO KNEEL BEFORE HIM, EVEN IN BOARD GAMES!1!"
         | vs. "He wanted to go to bed so made a dickhead comment that
         | would let him both win and sleep." Think back to your 20s,
         | which feels more likely.
        
           | bix6 wrote:
           | I don't understand why people try and justify or defend these
           | tech villains. What has Mark done to defend you? Besides
           | harvest and sell your data.
        
             | miiiiiike wrote:
             | I don't care about Mark Zuckerberg. I don't use Facebook,
             | Instagram, or anything else Meta. I avoid it all, actually.
             | 
             | I'll turn around on you: Why defend people who will distort
             | every utterance just to score points on whatever is in the
             | public's cross-hairs at the moment? Why support it? Why
             | defend it?
             | 
             | Saying that a statement isn't accurate isn't the same as
             | defending or holding water for the subject of the
             | statement. If Zuckerberg said "the sky was blue" and
             | another person started saying "Zuckerberg is a liar, so
             | obviously the sky can't be blue" you're not defending
             | Zuckerberg by stating that the sky is blue.
             | 
             | The world is in a perpetual information war. People and
             | groups are constantly trying to make their version of
             | reality stick by using every bullshit rhetorical tool at
             | their disposal against whatever person or thing they deem a
             | valid target.
             | 
             | I'm sick of it, almost everyone is sick of it.
        
         | tayo42 wrote:
         | That's interesting becasue at least with Zuckerberg, he entered
         | a local bjj tournament under a fake name.
         | 
         | And tbh if you eventually do find yourself against him your
         | going to want the opportunity to say you submitted him. No
         | one's letting him win at a tournament
        
         | paulcole wrote:
         | > Why does this seem to be a recurring pattern among the modern
         | ultrawealthy
         | 
         | It makes a better story in a tell-all memoir?
        
         | dreamcompiler wrote:
         | I think power sometimes leads to this kind of insecurity, but a
         | bigger factor is that people with narcissistic personalities
         | often succeed because ordinary people are unaccustomed to
         | dealing with them. Narcissists often come off as unusually
         | competent, confident, and intimidating. This leads normies to
         | want to follow them and give them what they want.
         | 
         | Narcissists are always extremely insecure, usually because
         | someone crushed their ego during childhood. (There also exist
         | people with intact egos who are simply arrogant; I'm not
         | talking about them. The arrogant are easy to distinguish from
         | narcissists after you study them a bit.)
         | 
         | My point is that Zuck was probably very insecure before the
         | creation of FB, and he became rich partially _because_ he was
         | an insecure narcissist.
        
         | siavosh wrote:
         | It raises the question: where is the crack in this structural
         | system, and how can we pry it open? Perhaps the vulnerability
         | lies in the desire of the ultra-rich and powerful for societal
         | respect--whether born of love or fear hardly matters. How
         | should society respond? Mercilessly mock them.
        
         | reaperducer wrote:
         | _Have the elites through history always been this insecure or
         | is it a modern phenomenon?_
         | 
         | It's always been this way, more or less.
         | 
         | If you look back at the ultra-wealthy in any age, you'll find
         | just these sorts of people. It's in 20th-century literature.
         | It's in classic literature. It's in the Bible. It's probably in
         | ancient Greek literature, but I'm not well-versed there.
         | 
         | At least in the early part of the last century, there was some
         | hope. A number of ultra-wealthy people decided that instead of
         | building a faster steam engine or racing to pump more oil,
         | they'd engage in benefiting society as an alternative penis-
         | measuring contest.
         | 
         | They were happy to pour the equivalent of today's billions into
         | projects like paying artists to spend 30 years documenting the
         | fading culture of the American Indian, or funding scientific
         | expeditions to improve our understanding of ancient history.
         | 
         | Today's billionaires are, instead, trying to one-up each other
         | on getting 12-year-old girls addicted to their apps.
         | 
         | Yay, progress.
        
         | ModernMech wrote:
         | > If you're wildly successful at something with significant
         | real world influence, why would you care so strongly about
         | something as relatively inconsequential as a board game or a
         | video game?
         | 
         | Billionaires are highly psychologically disordered individuals.
         | This is an expression of unrestrained narcissism in a "man" who
         | has fully neglected to grow character as an individual, because
         | his obscene wealth allows him to get through life with the
         | emotional maturity of a teenager. Same with Musk, same with
         | Trump, same with most other billionaires. Bill Gates is another
         | great example.
         | 
         | People hate to admit it, but apparently having a billion
         | dollars either makes one a narcissist, or it takes being a
         | narcissist to make a billion dollars. Either way, just from the
         | data we have in front of us, there's a very strong correlation
         | there.
        
         | ashoeafoot wrote:
         | The problem is also the justification stories they excrete to
         | justify the wealth the capital machine pours on them. The whole
         | gods choosen, superior, natural strong willed aristocratic
         | uebermensch bottled into one cyst of sycophants. Totally unable
         | to connect with "easily distracted by the trivial" normies,
         | barely able to talk to the monomaniacs they once where
         | themselves. Not a good show.
        
         | tasuki wrote:
         | At my work, we play much much better board games than Settlers
         | of Catan and Ticket to Ride. I feel for Zuck and his
         | colleagues.
        
         | xivzgrev wrote:
         | The need to dominate can be a favorable trait for success. It
         | can also be all consuming that you can't easily turn off.
         | Like...ok Zuck, you won the f'ing lottery. You could spend the
         | rest of your life on an island or helping orphans, but you
         | still work at Facebook - why? Because he's wrapped up in it.
         | It's a miracle Bill Gates managed to step down.
         | 
         | It can also be unsettling to know that, just as easily as you
         | killed off competitors, competitors could unseat you.
         | 
         | So yea, you might sleep a bit easier at night if you can just
         | win at the things you can control, like that darn Settlers of
         | Catan game.
         | 
         | Also someone who reflexively accuses the other of cheating
         | while playing a game likely has a hard time admitting they
         | failed at something. Not an admirable trait in a leader.
        
         | arp242 wrote:
         | John Major, who was prime minister of the UK in the 90s, has
         | talked a bit about how isolated a position like that makes you,
         | and how unprepared he was for it. Few of the normal pressures
         | of life apply you in a position like that: you can't get fired
         | (not really), you don't have to accept consequences (not
         | really), and perhaps most importantly: you don't have anyone
         | tell you "you idiot, that's fucking mental". No one that you
         | can just dismiss anyway.
         | 
         | I can't find the interview right now, it was a while ago, but I
         | thought it was pretty interesting. Major was a man in his 50s
         | when he became PM. Zuck was in his early 20s. You have to
         | wonder what that does to a person. People like Zuck are more or
         | less like child actors that made it big: everyone bends over
         | backwards to deepthroat them and they've got a view of the
         | world that's just delusional. I'd feel sorry if it wasn't for
         | the highly negative and caustic effects.
        
         | archagon wrote:
         | Deep-seated insecurity?
         | 
         | https://www.mercurynews.com/2023/11/08/elon-musk-almost-need...
        
         | emmelaich wrote:
         | That story is disputed, to say the least.
         | 
         | Dex Hunter-Torricke:
         | 
         | > _There 's a story about when I was playing Mark Zuckerberg at
         | Catan. Sarah suggests I was deliberately letting Zuckerberg win
         | the game, and "brazenly" dismissing her strategic guidance.
         | It's a lovely anecdote that positions our heroic narrator as
         | some sort of principled mind surrounded by a sea of yes men or
         | something, and that we all liked to let Zuckerberg win. Yeah,
         | except that's not what happened at all._
         | 
         | Read on:
         | https://www.threads.com/@dextorricke/post/DHCUpnssuuw/theres...
         | 
         | I for one don't believe it.
        
         | throaway1989 wrote:
         | Maybe you just hate to lose, which drives you to relentlessly
         | pursue "success?"
        
         | dfxm12 wrote:
         | They _think_ their wealth, position, etc. is a result of merit.
         | However, they _know_ their wealth was not earned, but given. At
         | best, they were born into a position of privilege and simply
         | used their existing, unearned, wealth to build more.
         | 
         | Losing at a board game forces them to confront the fact that
         | they aren't any more clever than their peers. They didn't get
         | to where they were on their wits alone; they started the game
         | with a few routes already developed.
        
         | mapt wrote:
         | Being an Olympic gymnast or marathon runner or boxer is not,
         | broadly speaking, healthy. These pursuits require you to make
         | sacrifices that push your body to extremes, to its physical
         | limits, and not only you are selected for a very particular set
         | of traits, there are also lots of health and psycho-social
         | compromises that are entailed by those traits and by your
         | training process. That is the cost of competition.
         | 
         | Likewise running a company. You guys are, to be blunt, freaks.
         | It requires very particular psychological and social
         | conditioning to be in that place doing that thing, it demands
         | specific types of personality traits and adaptations, and that
         | probably doesn't make you, the successful CEO, a well-balanced,
         | "normal" person.
         | 
         | Now take that person, who is a little bit alien in the first
         | place, and ask what happens when they can choose everything
         | about their surroundings, when they get fitted for their
         | GERDpod https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DtV33YSKOJk . They
         | still have the same personality quirks, traumas and experiences
         | that got them to this place, but now they're rich beyond
         | imagining, every whim trivially achievable except power over
         | other people (and that only minimally constrained). Like a
         | person stuck in a perpetual state of orgasm, the question of
         | whether they like it or not and really isn't relevant to
         | whether we're going to be inviting them to the cookout or how
         | they're going to behave in church. Any interaction, they're
         | going to make it weird. Because they're weird. Their situation
         | is weird, and the mentality that brought them to that situation
         | is independently weird. A normal person would have pursued
         | normal fulfilling things in life, and they chose
         | entrepreneurial ambition.
        
           | hombre_fatal wrote:
           | Good point, and it made me think about a more general point
           | about people:
           | 
           | It's often the same underlying trait that gives someone
           | qualities that we like/admire but also the qualities we don't
           | like.
           | 
           | When we evaluate each other, we sometimes have thoughts like
           | "she has <good quality>, but if only she'd work on <bad
           | quality>".
           | 
           | Over the years I finally realized that's not how we work. Our
           | traits aren't always connected to isolated levers that we can
           | pull independently.
           | 
           | The really good sales guy might exaggerate fibs in personal
           | convo. The girl that moved from Germany to Mexico to start a
           | successful hostel also has a hard impulsiveness that's hard
           | to get along with. The really attentive mother is risk-averse
           | to a point of absurdity. All examples of friends off the top
           | of my head. Or me: I can find happiness anywhere that I am
           | (good), but it also means I don't have the drive to rock the
           | boat when I should (bad).
           | 
           | There doesn't necessarily exist the possibility of preserving
           | the good part if you were to fix the bad part since the fix
           | might require changing the underlying trait.
        
         | mihaaly wrote:
         | Probably he is insecure? Put too much into how much people
         | think about him. And believes that being a big person he needs
         | to be the best at everything, while - and this is a positive
         | trait actually - he knows that he is not that big, needs to
         | overcompensate and project much more than he possesses - which
         | is a common trait on Facebook. Overreacts to the ubiquitous
         | life experience of loss.
        
         | jrvieira wrote:
         | they know deep down that they don't deserve their status which
         | makes them insecure and needing to constantly defend the
         | narrative that they are in fact better.
         | 
         | you'll see this behavior fade in the presence of someone who
         | they themselves perceive as superior by whichever metric
        
       | K0nserv wrote:
       | The book is a good read and she also testified in front of the
       | Senate Judiciary Committee[0], repeating many of the claims from
       | the book under oath. One of the striking things is that it's
       | clear that Mark and several others from Facebook perjured
       | themselves in prior hearings. I expect there will be no
       | consequence for this.
       | 
       | 0: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f3DAnORfgB8
        
         | grafmax wrote:
         | As long as we have this concentration of wealth in this country
         | we are going to have this selective enforcement of laws based
         | on class lines.
        
           | piva00 wrote:
           | I believe it will take at least a couple of generations after
           | a new political ideology is cemented in the USA to change
           | anything.
           | 
           | Market fundamentalism has been the game since the 80s with
           | Reagan, it was building up to it but Reagan was the watershed
           | moment when it really gripped. You see it everywhere now,
           | here on HN especially, any deviation from the dogma of market
           | fundamentalism is met with the usual retort about
           | "innovation", "growth", and all the buzzwords implemented to
           | make it seem to be the only alternative we have. Any
           | discussion about regulation, breaking down behemoths wielding
           | massive power, betterment of wealth distribution, workers'
           | rights, etc. will attract that mass who are true believers of
           | the dogma.
           | 
           | To undo this will require a whole political ideology from the
           | ground up in the USA where the two parties are just two sides
           | of the same coin, I really cannot see how this can
           | realistically change without a series of major crises, bad
           | enough that people will rise and understand who exactly is
           | fucking them... It's sad to realise there's much more pain to
           | happen before it might spark real change, we are kinda bound
           | to live in the aftermath of the erosion of society brought by
           | "shareholder value"-hegemony.
        
             | jfengel wrote:
             | Weirdly, right at the moment the US economy is tanking
             | because of severe departures from market fundamentalism. By
             | the people who most claim to be pro capitalism.
        
               | piva00 wrote:
               | There's no departure from market fundamentalism, the
               | belief in shareholder value being supreme is still very
               | much the current Zeitgeist.
               | 
               | As much as the USA's administration is jerking around
               | with trade, the fundamental principle of what governs any
               | corporation is still market fundamentalism: returning
               | value to shareholders, nothing else.
        
               | immibis wrote:
               | Capitalism is incompatible with free markets. Capitalism
               | means all the wealth goes to those with the most capital,
               | while free markets means the wealth flows freely in all
               | directions.
        
               | piva00 wrote:
               | To me that is the biggest win in public discourse from
               | capitalists: conflating markets with capitalism, as if
               | free markets could only exist under unbounded capitalism.
               | Which, as you say, is incompatible. Capitalism does not
               | want free markets, nor foster free markets, the best end
               | result for a capitalist is the abolition of a market
               | under the control of a monopoly.
               | 
               | Markets are fundamental, and a natural result of human
               | socioeconomic order. Capitalism not at all.
        
               | Jensson wrote:
               | > Capitalism means all the wealth goes to those with the
               | most capital, while free markets means the wealth flows
               | freely in all directions
               | 
               | I don't understand this distinction, why wouldn't capital
               | accumulate under free markets? The freer the market the
               | more capital accumulates.
               | 
               | In a freer market that today you would have to pay a
               | massive toll every time you went to the grocery store,
               | because the road owner has monopoly on that route, that
               | would lead to much more wealth accumulation.
        
               | jfengel wrote:
               | When all of the capital ends up in a small number of
               | hands, the market ceases.
               | 
               | Each capitalist tries to corner the market, but if they
               | succeed, the resulting monopoly isn't a free market. In
               | theory a competitor arises, but it takes only an instant
               | to shut it down and restore the monopoly.
        
               | krapp wrote:
               | >I don't understand this distinction, why wouldn't
               | capital accumulate under free markets?
               | 
               | It would, which is why businesses support deregulation -
               | not because they believe in vigorous competition for the
               | sake of consumers, but because they want as little
               | friction and consequence standing between themselves and
               | oligarchy as possible.
               | 
               | A market in which the wealth "flows freely in all
               | directions" is socialist, not capitalist. "Fair" markets
               | are regulated, and by definition not free.
        
               | ZeroGravitas wrote:
               | In economics perfect markets mean that your company that
               | raises spherical cows has no moat against others doing
               | the same. If you do something to gain profits to become
               | rich someone else joins the market to compete those
               | profits down to zero. This reduces inefficiency and makes
               | everyone rich.
               | 
               | Deregulation is sold as getting closer to this, in
               | reality it means the money collects wherever the market
               | breaks down, monopolies, network effects, externalities,
               | concentrated special interests, middlemen, oligarchies,
               | gangsters, landlords etc.
        
               | jfengel wrote:
               | Shareholders are pretty grumpy right now. They've lost a
               | ton of money.
               | 
               | I'm sure that some economist will asset that this will
               | produce more shareholder value in the long run. But the
               | stock market suggests that shareholders do not currently
               | believe that.
        
               | immibis wrote:
               | We might have just exited from the era where shareholders
               | mattered.
        
             | hermitcrab wrote:
             | You might find this recent talk on neo-liberalism, by
             | journalist and activist George Monbiot, interesting:
             | 
             | https://shows.acast.com/rhlstp/episodes/rhlstp-book-
             | club-134...
        
               | piva00 wrote:
               | I haven't listened to the talk but read Mobiot's book
               | when it came out last year :)
               | 
               | On the same vein, I'd recommend "Capitalist Realism" by
               | Mark Fisher, Naomi Klein's "Shock Doctrine", and even the
               | original "A Neo-Liberal's Manifesto" by Charles Peters to
               | understand how the term is slippery and diverged a lot
               | from the original manifesto.
               | 
               | And I'm not an anti-market, full-blown communism person.
               | The feeling I have is that all the aftermath from the
               | dogmatic implementation of an unsound ideology has
               | brought much of our contemporary malaise, the allowance
               | of finance to take over the real economy, the productive
               | economy, has just eroded any semblance of a good market-
               | driven society. I'm against that, the supremacy of
               | finance over all other economical activity, it's a cancer
               | that festers on every single big corporation.
        
               | hermitcrab wrote:
               | Amen to that. Thanks for the reading recommendations.
               | However my book backlog is a bit out of control. ;0)
        
               | hermitcrab wrote:
               | >And I'm not an anti-market, full-blown communism person
               | 
               | Also, it is interesting that you feel the need to say you
               | aren't a communist before criticising the current system.
               | I guess that is a sign of just how entrenched it is.
        
               | sepositus wrote:
               | I see it more as a sign of how few mainstream
               | alternatives have been proposed. I've been guilty of
               | generally assuming a communist bent when I see a
               | negatively zealous response to the "free market"
               | ideology. I don't act on the assumption, but from my
               | experience, it tends to be the most common result.
               | 
               | Our political system seems hell-bent on only ever having
               | two solutions to a problem, though.
        
               | hermitcrab wrote:
               | We seem to be stuck at a local maxima[1]. The current
               | system works great for the 0.001% who have all the money
               | and the power, so it isn't in their interest to change
               | it. But there definitely seems to have been a failure of
               | the imagination amongst the 99.999%. Too distracted by
               | social media and our phones perhaps?
               | 
               | [1] There is a lot to dislike about the current system,
               | but there have been far worse ones (feudalism, communism
               | etc).
        
               | sepositus wrote:
               | > Too distracted by social media and our phones perhaps?
               | 
               | I think this is a significant contributing factor. It's
               | becoming increasingly difficult to have any semblance of
               | a meaningful conversation with those around me. I don't
               | really know how to describe it other than an apparent
               | "dumbing down" of the average person. I despise elitists,
               | and I hate to even act in a way that might come off as
               | elitist, but I simply have no other explanation for what
               | I am seeing. People just want to talk about the latest
               | trend on TikTok and have no interest in applying anything
               | close to intellectual thought to what's happening around
               | them.
        
               | hermitcrab wrote:
               | 2000 years ago it was 'bread and circuses'. ;0)
        
             | grafmax wrote:
             | These crises are occurring right now so I don't think it
             | will take multiple generations. The rise of neo-fascism,
             | the climate crisis, and the escalating warmongering toward
             | China - a nuclear power - should be seen as symptoms of a
             | system breaking down because it prioritizes profit over
             | people. Intensification of capitalism's worst tendencies is
             | the capitalist's last stand. It's either going to end in
             | mass destruction or people throwing off their chains.
        
               | samiv wrote:
               | This is very much what professor Richard Wolff is saying.
               | 
               | What you're witnessing down is the systemic failure and
               | breakdown of a system (capitalism) that is completely out
               | of control and ultimately starts to attack the very
               | institutions that enable it in its greedy search for
               | "growth" (i.e. producing more wealth for the already
               | wealthy).
               | 
               | The system will eventually collapse.
               | 
               | Recommended video, an interview with Prof Wolff
               | 
               | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeWiKOEkfj8
        
               | grafmax wrote:
               | Fascinating interview. Here is Immanuel Wallerstein
               | making a similar point in 2009:
               | 
               | https://youtu.be/nLvszWBf6BQ?si=vooaKzrHHyRj9sHz
        
             | samiv wrote:
             | Not necessarily..
             | 
             | During the Great Depression the Americans did pull together
             | and demanded from President Roosevelt a social reform. That
             | was called the New Deal Coalition.
             | 
             | This time though the fight will be much harder because even
             | the democrats are so strongly indoctrinated in the "free
             | market" idolatry that they are much closer to the
             | republicans than any true social democratic movement (such
             | as labor unions) that would actually be needed in order to
             | help the American working (and soon ex-middle) class.
             | 
             | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Deal_coalition
        
               | gen220 wrote:
               | I think you and the person you're replying to agree.
               | 
               | We won't get a New Deal Coalition Part 2 without our own
               | Dust Bowl (climate-change/industrial-agronomy-induced
               | disasters, and the massive disruption to peoples way of
               | lives that accompanied it) and Great Depression to
               | conclusively demonstrate that industrialized,
               | financialized oligarchy "doesn't work".
               | 
               | The two-party system was just as much captured by "free
               | market" idolatry pre-FDR as they are today. There was
               | nearly three decades of socialistic organizing in
               | response to crisis in the 1890s-1920s before we finally
               | had those principles manifest in one of the two major
               | political parties in the executive branch, with FDR in
               | 1932.
               | 
               | We're barely into the nascency of our own century's
               | progressive era. If history's any guide, it'll probably
               | take decades and it will get much, much worse before it
               | gets better. :/
               | 
               | I re-read Grapes of Wrath recently, and it was an uncanny
               | feeling: like I was reading something that was both near-
               | future Sci-Fi and a memory-holed but relatively-recent
               | history.
        
           | hermitcrab wrote:
           | "The big thieves hang the little ones." Czech Proverb
        
             | empiko wrote:
             | It's actually Roman: Magni minores saepe fures puniunt
        
               | hermitcrab wrote:
               | Where does it come from? I Googled "Magni minores saepe
               | fures puniunt" and mostly found pages in Czech.
        
               | hadeson wrote:
               | "Magni, inquit, fures minorem puniunt" - Appeared in
               | Pseudo-Caecilius Balbus.
        
               | hermitcrab wrote:
               | I found it here:
               | https://www.thelatinlibrary.com/caeciliusbalbus.html
               | 
               | And from: https://catalog.hathitrust.org/Record/011605246
               | 
               | "The so-called Caecilius Balbus is mainly an ancient
               | Latin translation of a Greek collection of maxims. "
        
           | stevenwoo wrote:
           | Citizens United has enshrined this in law by allowing
           | wholesale purchase of politicians via the current campaign
           | finance system.
        
         | losvedir wrote:
         | I mean, I guess the obvious question is if one person lied
         | under oath (her) or several (all the people that her testimony
         | implies perjured).
         | 
         | The book sounds pretty outlandish. That's not to say that Zuck
         | and co aren't just a whole gang of melodramatically evil and
         | stupid people, but it _a priori_ it seems just as probable to
         | me that she 's the one that is? I don't know much about her. Is
         | she a reliable witness?
        
           | 3np wrote:
           | Maybe you should, you know, read the book or court files or
           | something before publicly speculating.
        
             | losvedir wrote:
             | Maybe I should ask people who have read the book if she's a
             | reliable witness and it's worth my time reading?
        
       | vmurthy wrote:
       | I read the book. It's a very interesting read. A few things stood
       | out ( no spoilers )
       | 
       | - Casual indifference at exec level to atrocities happening
       | because of FB/ Meta.
       | 
       | - Money/power does make you insensitive
       | 
       | - Tech bro view of the world permeates most decisions that Meta
       | takes.
       | 
       | - Casual sexual harassment for women ( follows from the tech bro
       | worldview I guess )
       | 
       | - US centric world view influencing how execs treat world
       | leaders.
       | 
       | All in all worth a read or two!
        
         | diggan wrote:
         | Maybe I'm jaded, but this is how I understand all US technology
         | companies to be run. In fact, I'd be surprised if all of those
         | things weren't true for most of the enormous "tech bro"
         | companies coming from SV.
        
           | geerlingguy wrote:
           | There's a reason the Silicon Valley TV show's humor was so
           | biting.
        
           | apical_dendrite wrote:
           | I would put Meta, the Elon Musk companies, Uber, and some
           | others in a separate category from Amazon, Apple, and Google.
           | To be sure, Amazon, Apple, and Google have done some very
           | immoral things, but there does seem to be something in the
           | culture of those companies that understands that they wield
           | enormous power and that sees value in acting responsibly -
           | even if it's just because they think being cartoonishly evil
           | isn't in their long-term interest. I do think there's been a
           | change in ethos from the Jobs/Bezos/Page/Brin generation of
           | leadership to the Musk/Zuckerberg generation.
        
         | HexPhantom wrote:
         | The casual indifference part really got to me too.
        
           | rubzah wrote:
           | Then you realize that Facebook has been extraordinarily
           | active banning Palestinian posts and accounts over the last
           | year. So the "casual indifference" is at the very least
           | selectively applied.
        
             | belval wrote:
             | > Kaplan fires off an email stating that he's just realized
             | that refugees don't have any money
             | 
             | Maybe they just realized that Palestinians don't have any
             | money.
        
         | bena wrote:
         | > - Money/power does make you insensitive
         | 
         | This is something I try to be acutely aware of in myself. Not
         | that I have any level of wealth worth mentioning.
         | 
         | I started working at a company where they just give me stuff. I
         | can go to work in clothes my employer gave me, eat my meals
         | there, use the phone they pay the plan for, etc.
         | 
         | It _does_ affect you. I first noticed it when I went to buy
         | some triviality. Something small I needed for something or the
         | other. Something that would have been just given to me at work.
         | The line to checkout was long and while waiting, I just thought
         | "Why can't I just fucking go? It's not even $10. What does it
         | matter?"
         | 
         | So now I try and be mindful of what I receive and to be sure to
         | acknowledge it at least mentally.
        
         | hinkley wrote:
         | I don't think I ever connected that "Lean In" was from a
         | C-suite member of Facebook and I certainly didn't know how
         | morally bankrupt it was. The case is made pretty well in the
         | book that Sheryl does not practice what she preaches.
        
           | vmurthy wrote:
           | From the book, it appears that Sheryl used Meta as a platform
           | for promoting her own image and book rather than do the
           | things that prevented a lot of bad. It's beyond sad
        
             | hinkley wrote:
             | Sounds like she got sued over it. But not over
             | propositioning direct reports for sex in front of her
             | entire team.
        
       | lud_lite wrote:
       | Don't mess with a Kiwi I guess :)
       | 
       | That said FB sounds evil not careless.
        
         | meigwilym wrote:
         | The banality of evil.
        
         | sdl wrote:
         | Evil and careless can be one and the same. They (FB) could not
         | care-less about the consequences of their actions on other
         | peoples' lives.
         | 
         | "The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference." - Elie
         | Wiesel
        
         | immibis wrote:
         | Leave it to a Kiwi to be naive about someone's intentions.
         | There's a reason New Zealand scores well on the corruption
         | perception index. Emphasis on perception.
        
       | ewest wrote:
       | I'm responding to TheAceOfHearts, I can't seem to reply directly
       | to the original comment.
       | 
       | The question was "if you're wildly successful at something with
       | significant real world influence, why would you care so strongly
       | about something as relatively inconsequential as a board game or
       | a video game?"
       | 
       | You kind of answered the question yourself. He cares so much
       | because he is successful in something else and has extended that
       | need for success into other areas of his life. It seems this is
       | common among successful people, they try to be successful in
       | everything else in their lives, perhaps not realizing they might
       | have got lucky in one area and are convinced they can apply that
       | to all other areas of their lives.
        
       | ryandrake wrote:
       | This book probably could have been written about any major
       | company. Our corporate system's built-in moral imperative that
       | profits must be optimized above absolutely everything else
       | virtually guarantees that these kind of people end up at the top
       | of each and every one of them.
        
         | fellowniusmonk wrote:
         | It's very odd that we consider corporations to have personhood
         | in the U.S., if you were to actually describe most of these
         | top, predatory companies like Nestle, Meta, etc. and their
         | action as something "a person" did we would all immediately say
         | that person should be jailed, is evil and that allowing them to
         | interact with the general population is too risky. That person
         | once in jail would assuredly never pass a parole board.
         | 
         | Companies should either be treated as people or as companies,
         | what we have is a ongoing classification error that makes all
         | natural persons lives worse as our rights are subordinate to
         | unnatural persons. It's insane how we build our own cages.
         | 
         | That being said, the environment is bad but not all individual
         | companies are the same and saying so is not only false but
         | creates an environment of acceptance and equivocation. "Pay
         | ratio" is often a good indicator of where on the evil spectrum
         | a company is... If only every company could have the moral
         | standards of a HEB or Costco the world would be better than it
         | is.
        
       | baritone wrote:
       | I look forward to reading the book, but I'm not anti-Zuck.
       | 
       | Individuals can change the world. Groups with ideology can change
       | the world.
       | 
       | This is why many of us are here at HN- for the discussion of
       | ideas and for idealism.
       | 
       | Few want to be supreme jerks that ruin things on a massive scale.
       | 
       | Zuck, if you're reading this- thanks for being part of the thing
       | that allowed me to continue communication with my friends when
       | they weren't nearby, and thanks for continuing to provide that
       | for my children.
       | 
       | Are things fucked up? Were lives ruined? Sure. We all fuck shit
       | up and ruin lives, some of us more than others. Then we own up to
       | that as much as we can and use what we have left to try to
       | continue doing what we did before to try to make the world a
       | better place.
        
         | thrance wrote:
         | The great man theory [1] has been thoroughly debunked at this
         | point. I you feel grateful for old Facebook, do thank the
         | thousand nameless engineers that actually built it, not the
         | single man that took all the credit (and money).
         | 
         | [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_man_theory
        
           | madebylaw wrote:
           | Where is it "thoroughly debunked" in that link?
        
         | piva00 wrote:
         | Very few people actively try to be supreme jerks and ruin
         | things, that's very abnormal behaviour for a human being.
         | 
         | It's much more common that your inner narrative keeps finding
         | justifications for why what you are doing is important, and the
         | damage you are causing is either justified or not perceived as
         | so damaging.
         | 
         | The issue is the system we live under doesn't really
         | incentivise moral and ethical behaviour, the rewards to be
         | reaped are much larger if you act immorally, people like Zuck
         | are able to tell themselves what they are doing is ok for
         | "making the world a better place". But there's no reward for
         | making the world a better place, the reward is for you showing
         | revenue growth, user growth, and Zuck chased that even though
         | there was an inflection point where the "good" was outweighed
         | by the "bad".
         | 
         | > Zuck, if you're reading this- thanks for being part of the
         | thing that allowed me to continue communication with my friends
         | when they weren't nearby, and thanks for continuing to provide
         | that for my children.
         | 
         | All of that could still have existed without all the appendages
         | included to extract more money from the machine. Without
         | creating feeds of content measured by "engagement" to the point
         | it became detrimental to the users themselves, all the good
         | Meta has done could have existed if morals and ethics trumped
         | profit-seeking. And for that I do not thank Zuckerberg, at all,
         | even though I do understand he is also a product of the system,
         | in the end he (and Meta) abused one of the most powerful
         | feelings of humans (connection among each other) to extract as
         | much money as they could without regards to the dangerous side-
         | effects that many pointed out were happening when Facebook was
         | growing, there was no care about anyone, you and I were
         | swindled.
         | 
         | It's unfortunate, I hope you can see that, for all the good
         | provided over years on fostering connections, it was just
         | spoiled in the end by his greed, and carelessness.
         | 
         | We can do better than that, no need to thank Zuckerberg for
         | fucking us over.
        
         | sam-cop-vimes wrote:
         | This is a disappointing take on the state of affairs. The book
         | is trying to say the execs couldn't care less about the harm
         | their platform was causing. This is not about "screwing up"
         | inadvertently. This is about prioritising money over everything
         | else.
         | 
         | Yes, individuals have the power to change the world. Some of
         | them in positive ways and some in horrific ways. By all
         | accounts, Zuck and the top execs at FB firmly belong in the
         | latter category.
        
         | achierius wrote:
         | > We all fuck shit up and ruin lives
         | 
         | Part A sure, but I can say with some certainty that _most_
         | people do not ruin lives. It 's just hard to have that much
         | influence over other people. If you want to be particularly
         | pessimistic, you might be able to argue that many people ruin
         | their children's lives -- But even that's a stretch.
        
         | righthand wrote:
         | Who hasn't ruined a life or two for excessive monetary gain?
         | Surely every person on earth right?
         | 
         | Thanks Zuck for ruining lives, selling out the public to
         | advertising and performing psychological experiments on your
         | users, so this guy could send text across the wire. Something
         | not possible before Facebook apparently.
        
         | netsharc wrote:
         | What a disgustingly ass-kissing take. To pull the Godwin:
         | Hitler built the autobahn, should I thank him for allowing me
         | the thrill of going 200km/h (I need a better car...), sure 17++
         | million of lives(1) were ruined, but whatever!
         | 
         | And yes your beloved communication medium helped the Burmese
         | commit genocide...
         | 
         | (1) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victims_of_Nazi_Germany
        
         | dartharva wrote:
         | You talk as if you'd have had no other means of communication
         | had Facebook not existed. Your delusion would have been funny
         | had you not also implied you intend to subject your children to
         | the same poison too.
         | 
         | Please, for God's sake, don't.
        
       | UnreachableCode wrote:
       | > "[Zuck] blows key meetings because he refuses to get out of bed
       | before noon."
       | 
       | Is this meant to be taken literally or is it an expression for
       | arrogance?
        
         | gmac wrote:
         | Can't see any reason not to take it at face value. It's not a
         | common phrase or expression.
        
         | ttw44 wrote:
         | I suddenly now imagine Zuck no differently from some of my
         | unemployed friends.
        
         | RistrettoMike wrote:
         | I read the book. It's something that comes up & happens
         | multiple times, and the potential meetings being described are
         | with various global _heads of state_.
        
       | xdkyx wrote:
       | This may be a little naive from my side, but I'm wondering - is
       | every big tech company the same as Meta and it's leadership? Or
       | is there something special, a perfect storm of circumstances that
       | we only hear so much about so many instances of outright - can't
       | even find the right word here - evil, stupidity, brashness?
       | 
       | If we assume that every big (let's say FAANG) company is the
       | same, why we hear about Meta time and time again?
        
         | dunsany wrote:
         | Have you heard the stories about Uber?
        
           | ozornin wrote:
           | I haven't. What stories?
        
         | hermitcrab wrote:
         | Because Zuckerberg is a worse human being than the senior
         | people in the other FAANG companies.
        
         | moolcool wrote:
         | I think Facebook's core product is inherently evil in a way
         | that other FAANG's core products may not be.
        
           | aprilthird2021 wrote:
           | It doesn't have anything to do with this though. It has to do
           | with having so much power and money in a "meritocracy" and
           | the mental gymnastics needed to maintain those two opposing
           | propositions.
           | 
           | Meta's core product is a machine to sell ads, just like
           | YouTube, TikTok, Netflix (now), etc. It's not that unique.
           | And these stories are all over the valley for even much less
           | powerful individuals
        
             | akudha wrote:
             | I haven't used FB in over a decade, so maybe I am not up-
             | to-date. While YouTube and FB are both machines to sell
             | ads, I'd take YouTube over FB any day. I can pay YouTube a
             | few dollars and avoid ads, YouTube is an _insanely_ useful
             | learning tool as long as I avoid politics /influencer-
             | idiots and comments - is there _any_ useful part of FB?
             | Maybe marketplace, not sure. Is it even possible to avoid
             | ads on FB?
        
               | andrewchilds wrote:
               | I say this as someone with an extremely negative opinion
               | of Facebook/Meta/Zuck: there are communities that only
               | exist on Facebook, in the form of private groups. If you
               | want to reach those communities, you have no other choice
               | but to meet them where they are. Same problem with
               | Twitter/X...
        
         | rsynnott wrote:
         | Zuckerberg is unusually powerful in the company, due to how
         | it's structured (note that few companies of this sort of size
         | are run by their founders...), and he's unusually unhinged.
        
           | myroon5 wrote:
           | 'absolute power corrupts absolutely'
        
         | Arainach wrote:
         | Bias disclaimer: I've worked at multiple FAANGs and Meta isn't
         | one of them, but as with anyone in the industry I've had
         | friends at all of them.
         | 
         | Meta feels very different - both at the top, with Zuckerberg's
         | immunity from the board, full control, and personality "quirks"
         | on public display - but also at the lower levels. Every company
         | has a stable of people who will do what they're told to collect
         | a paycheck but Meta had a much higher ratio of people -
         | including people I know, respect, and consider very smart in
         | other aspects - who bought in to the vision that what the
         | company was doing was good for the world even in a post-2016
         | world when all of the consequences of social media and Meta's
         | specific actions were fully evident.
         | 
         | My Amazon friends won't defend the bad things Amazon does, my
         | Alphabet friends love to gripe, my Microsoft friends....you get
         | the idea. But my friends at Meta would repeatedly try to defend
         | bad things in a way the others don't.
        
           | rozap wrote:
           | The Koolaid is stronger at Facebook, because it has to be.
           | 
           | It does feel slightly cathartic to reject someone's resume
           | for having any time at Facebook on it.
        
             | noitpmeder wrote:
             | Sounds like a net negative filter. I'd recommend you try
             | prevent personal biases from playing this big of a role in
             | hiring decisions.
        
               | busterarm wrote:
               | Not really. Any FB experience post-2011 is a pretty
               | strong signal that the potential hire has a weak ethical
               | foundation, if not overtly unethical inclinations.
               | 
               | Maybe if you only interned there or it was your first job
               | and you left before 2 years.
        
               | rozap wrote:
               | Really? I think it's pretty normal to use your moral
               | compass to take into account someone's work history
               | during hiring decisions.
               | 
               | Did they work for a tobacco company, advertising harmful
               | products to kids? I think that's bad, but you're right,
               | it is a personal bias. Some argue that tobacco is
               | actually fine.
               | 
               | Did they work for a buy-now-pay-later company which
               | sneakily traps people into debt cycles? Again, I think
               | that's bad, but it is just my opinion. And some people
               | can argue that bnpl companies are good because they
               | provide low cost* loans to consumers to buy Coachella
               | tickets. *until you miss a payment then you're fucked.
               | 
               | Did they work for the Trump 2024 Campaign? Plenty of
               | people voted for him so it's just like, my opinion man.
               | 
               | Or, did they work for Facebook, an antisocial,
               | anticompetitive growth at all costs company which is
               | absolutely a net drain on society. But hey - they did
               | produce, er, buy, a messaging app which allows you to
               | keep in touch with your family.
               | 
               | And I could go on and on.
               | 
               | There are plenty of smart people with a moral compass.
               | I've been blessed to have worked with many - truly it has
               | been a joy. There are also unscrupulous, smart people who
               | will do any work as long as the money is there. I've also
               | worked with those types, and it's not as pleasant. The
               | best projects I've been a part of have had teams of
               | people who truly care about the customer, they aren't
               | trying to outsmart or trick them.
        
               | noitpmeder wrote:
               | My prior comment is poorly worded around what my intent
               | was.
               | 
               | I think it's important to separate the person from the
               | machine.                  {company} has done {things I
               | disagree with}, and {candidate} was working for them
               | during this period.
               | 
               | vs                  {candidate} has done {things I
               | disagree with}
               | 
               | Sure there is overlap and gray area, but, not "reject
               | someone's resume for having any {company}" level.
        
               | rozap wrote:
               | Good clarification, and I agree there's a venn diagram
               | that doesn't totally look like a circle - but for me it
               | nearly does look like a circle :)
        
               | nfRfqX5n wrote:
               | Those comparisons are completely disingenuous
               | 
               | Lots of products came out of Facebook that have no moral
               | implications at all
        
               | rozap wrote:
               | Every single product from facebook is or will be a
               | vehicle for advertisement. Every vehicle for
               | advertisement must be optimized for ad delivery.
               | Optimizing for ad delivery chases attention above all
               | else, including the end user's wellbeing.
               | 
               | At the end of the day, every facebook product must
               | optimize for this singular business goal. Even if you
               | don't see it at the moment you ship whatever feature,
               | that is the truth.
        
             | globnomulous wrote:
             | > reject someone's resume for having any time at Facebook
             | on it.
             | 
             | I know some lovely, brilliant people who work at Meta or
             | have. None of them carry around any such delusions or
             | deserve this kind of condemnation.
             | 
             | Or if they do, then so do engineers who have worked at
             | Amazon, Google, Microsoft, Oracle, or any other of a host
             | of countless corporate tech companies -- which would be
             | just as silly.
        
           | busterarm wrote:
           | I share this experience -- had a friend who left from IG to
           | form a startup and came back to FB a couple of years later.
           | His entire perspective on the company shifted and he left
           | after only 2 months. Complete disillusionment at all levels.
           | "This is not the same company."
           | 
           | That said, I do think this kind of behavior extends across
           | the industry. I've seen all sorts of wild things like
           | founders&insiders starting a separate encrypted messaging
           | company just so they had an app to send messages between each
           | other about all of the illegal shit that they were doing in
           | the main company.
        
         | optymizer wrote:
         | I was the TL on a Facebook app feature driven by us, the
         | engineers, that was 100% in the category of "good for humanity
         | and it solves a problem for billions of people". I had to fight
         | internal org leads to launch it, because there was almost no
         | benefit for FB.
         | 
         | Jane leaked the feature and put this entire 'evil Facebook'
         | shade on it, with no real proof, just wildly false speculation
         | based on what she thought the feature is. That's when I
         | realized how easy it is to present anything Meta works on
         | through the lens of "stealing people's data" and "ads bad".
         | Oculus headsets? VR ads. Smart glasses? AR ads. Spyware.
         | Facebook app feature? Must have some privacy issue.
         | 
         | I'm not saying it's not deserved, with all the scandals, just
         | that at some point it was getting a bit ridiculous with all the
         | "Facebook bad" articles, at least one of which I knew first-
         | hand was complete nonsense. It did seem like news outlets were
         | grasping at straws to write yet another article to put Facebook
         | in a bad light.
         | 
         | It's low-hanging fear-mongering fruit that gets the clicks and
         | it's hard to disprove (not that PR/Legal would let us refute
         | anything in the first place) because the trust is broken.
        
           | dogleash wrote:
           | You did something good while working for the devil, people
           | were right to be suspect. You gain no redemption points from
           | pointing out the people describing facebook as evil
           | misunderstand the precise bounds of facebook's evil.
           | 
           | Also, you didn't address parent's question about the
           | uniqueness (or lackthereof) of Meta. Feeling targeted because
           | people on the outside don't have the visibility to properly
           | understand the nature of the evil is shared with at least 3/4
           | of the remaining FAANG letters.
        
             | getnormality wrote:
             | Odd reply to a post containing relevant information.
             | Dismissing misinformation because "people were right to be
             | suspect"? Acting as a judge denying redemption points the
             | poster didn't ask for?
        
           | jkestner wrote:
           | What was the app feature you worked on?
        
           | pseudalopex wrote:
           | Who was Jane?
           | 
           | Tell us the feature so we can evaluate your claim. Absolute
           | certainty, bitter criticism, and expectation of unearned
           | trust do not build confidence in your ability to judge what
           | is good for humanity.
        
             | gessha wrote:
             | It should be Jane Manchun Wong but she has covered a number
             | of FB features.
        
         | apical_dendrite wrote:
         | I worked at a FAANG company that was not Meta. I'm not going to
         | defend everything they did, but the culture was set up in such
         | a way that people at all levels of the organization considered
         | how their decisions would impact customers, and they had some
         | sense of obligation to question harmful decisions.
         | 
         | Afterwards, I went to a startup, and the company leadership was
         | shockingly callous about doing things that would harm
         | customers. Some lower-level people spoke up about it, but
         | nobody in a leadership position seemed to want to hear it.
        
         | charles_f wrote:
         | Their product is somewhat different though, Amazon sells
         | _stuff_ and cloud. Microsoft sells business tools and cloud.
         | Google sells Gmail, a declining search engine and cloud. Apple
         | sells iphones and macs. Facebook sells people 's data,
         | advertising and opinion.
         | 
         | Not that others wouldn't and don't manipulate the market and
         | lobby policy, and exploit humans in bad ways, but the basic
         | precept makes it that Facebook needs to protect something
         | fundamentally more immoral than others, hardened behavior and
         | corruption is somewhat to be expected.
        
       | drdrek wrote:
       | This is exactly the type of people the cultural purge in big tech
       | came to flush out. Trying to change a multi billion dollar
       | company from the inside is delusional, self serving, narcissistic
       | and ineffective. Who the hell do you think you are in the great
       | machine of 100,000+ employees companies, of billions invested in
       | them.
       | 
       | The change is going to be political, regulatory. These companies
       | always can't change until regulation is there, and then they
       | miraculously adapt. If you took big tech money for 7 years you
       | were not part of the solution.
       | 
       | The lengths some people will go to self explain why they were not
       | egotistical is amazing! This is not an expose, everything is well
       | known, this is a books worth of convincing herself she is a good
       | person after all.
        
         | sanderjd wrote:
         | I don't understand your "delusional, self serving, narcissistic
         | and ineffective" / "egotistical" point. All of this would apply
         | to people trying to change things from the outside too.
         | 
         | Who the hell do you think you are in the great machine of
         | hundreds of millions of US citizens, or billions of people
         | globally, to think you can effect political and regulatory
         | change?
         | 
         | And yet, this is how things change, by people working to change
         | them, from either the inside or the outside. Maybe your point
         | is right that anyone trying to be a change agent is self
         | serving and egotistical. But don't fool yourself that there is
         | some big difference here between internal and external
         | activists.
        
           | drdrek wrote:
           | You are equating "Hard" with impossible. Its impossible to
           | turn a for profit company against itself from the inside, its
           | hard to push for regulatory change. One system is built to
           | create shareholder value, the other is to create social
           | value. Its like a vegan working in a pig farm for 7 years to
           | change the industry from the inside, at some point you need
           | to ask yourself, is she just whitewashing her time there.
        
             | sanderjd wrote:
             | This just isn't true that one thing is hard and the other
             | is impossible. Both things are nearly impossible to a
             | similar degree.
             | 
             | What system is "built ... to create social value"? You mean
             | government?
             | 
             | My friend, I'm sorry, but no. Government is built to wield
             | power. Bending that power toward social value is just as
             | hard as bending a business toward ethical behavior.
        
         | omegaworks wrote:
         | I don't think this is about convincing anyone that she's a good
         | person. She's forthright about her instincts and values and the
         | institutions she worked at that fostered her understanding of
         | the world.
         | 
         | She documents in detail critical moments where Facebook
         | executives made decisions that exemplified their incompetence
         | and damaged their potential impact.
         | 
         | That the "cultural purge" in big tech is flushing out people
         | with these instincts is precisely why the industry is flailing
         | and groveling at the feet of power, for they have no internal
         | compass save for growth for growth's sake.
         | 
         | Everyone can see that now laid bare on these pages, and these
         | companies that rely on their user's willingness to exchange
         | details about their personal lives for cheap dopamine hits may
         | find that generosity well run dry.
        
         | dartharva wrote:
         | That's what the author (the linked blog's author, not the
         | book's) also believes and concludes his post with.
        
         | brcmthrowaway wrote:
         | Lina Khan just needed a couple more years.
        
       | concordDance wrote:
       | Disgruntled ex-employee disparaging their old colleagues and
       | bosses is extremely common, I don't get why this is getting so
       | many upvotes...
        
         | K0nserv wrote:
         | Speculating about her motives isn't fruitful, because her
         | motives don't matter particularly. It has many upvotes because
         | the information in the book is newsworthy and relevant for a
         | place like HN.
        
         | nuorah89 wrote:
         | ex-employes can be disgruntled for good reasons
        
         | sanderjd wrote:
         | Because it's an interesting and positive review of a popular
         | book about the industry covered by this forum. It would be
         | really weird if an article like this _didn 't_ get upvoted
         | here...
        
       | dkga wrote:
       | Will definitely read the book after this readout.
       | 
       | Trying to get Xi to name his child is both completely tone deaf
       | to the point of being offensive, and incredibly debilitating for
       | his child's self-esteem as just a bargaining chip.
        
       | xyst wrote:
       | It's a good memoir and like the author of this review. I too only
       | picked it up because of Mark/Meta's attempt to suppress the
       | promotion of it. Listened to a couple of chapters on an audiobook
       | service before picking up physical copy and was hooked.
        
       | hermitcrab wrote:
       | >Zuck learns Mandarin. He studies Xi's book, conspicuously
       | displays a copy of it on his desk. Eventually, he manages to sit
       | next to Xi at a dinner where he begs Xi to name his next child.
       | Xi turns him down.
       | 
       | I do wonder what the point of amassing all that money and power
       | is, if it means you end up grovelling to a despot like Xi (or a
       | would-be despot like Trump).
        
         | kashunstva wrote:
         | Just riding that hedonic treadmill, probably. Once you have
         | bought all the properties you want, airplanes, helicopters and
         | yachts, I imagine your hedonic set-point adjusts to that level
         | and you begin to cast about for what's missing. (What's missing
         | of course, is what all these people can't seem to find, which
         | is an unwavering set of human-centred values.)
        
           | hermitcrab wrote:
           | Once you have several mansions, a helicopter and a super
           | yacht, the only possible reason to want more is for status.
           | And you have to be some sort of sociopath to use that much of
           | the world's resources just have a yacht 5m longer than the
           | other guy.
        
           | hinkley wrote:
           | Chronologically, this event happens a good bit before Mark
           | realizes just how much power he has. I don't know if he would
           | repeat that behavior now.
        
       | hudo wrote:
       | I read the book.
       | 
       | After the part where she was giving a birth to her child, while
       | still writing emails and doing work stuff, I take everything she
       | said with a grain of salt. As a father, the way she prioritised
       | work to family through out many years of her work at FB, I find
       | it very repelling and disgusting.
       | 
       | I believe that Zuck&team are slimy greedy spoiled brats, but I
       | could also say few things about her. Which make me wonder what is
       | actual truth, book is very biased.
        
         | 3np wrote:
         | Judging authors parenting is way off topic.
        
       | yapyap wrote:
       | It's jarring when people refer to having read something and then
       | it turns out they listened to the audiobook.
       | 
       | This is not a jab on this specific blogger but a general thing.
       | 
       | There should be a term for listening to an audiobook that's not
       | reading but does refer to a book on audio level, or just say you
       | listened to the book.
        
         | DreaminDani wrote:
         | Reading an audiobook is reading. As a partially blind person,
         | it is the only way I can read comfortably. I'm not sure how a
         | different word would help. If one was reviewing the audiobook,
         | specifically, they might call it out in order to comment on the
         | narration quality, etc. But if you listened to the book, you've
         | read it.
        
           | righthand wrote:
           | I don't agree. Your eyes sending signals to your brain is
           | different than your ears. It is a different way to digest
           | information. People tend to remember 20% of what they hear
           | and only 10% of what they read. While the hearing is greater
           | it doesn't include the same process of acquiring information.
           | "Listening is reading" is a false generalization just because
           | you were able to gather the same information doesn't mean you
           | "read" the book. I don't consider a person in a wheel chair a
           | "walker" but I would go for a "stroll" (roaming) with them.
        
             | ujkiolp wrote:
             | pls consider strolling away
        
         | eviks wrote:
         | What's wrong with "listening" as that term?
        
         | prophesi wrote:
         | Some of the books that have stuck with me for the longest are
         | the ones I listened to during the years I had a grueling 45+
         | minute commute. The only downside I've found is that it's a lot
         | harder to find and reference passages you've found of interest.
         | Otherwise I think it's a perfectly valid method of ingesting
         | information. If you listen while doing something that really
         | should require your undivided attention, then I'd agree that it
         | falls short to reading the text.
         | 
         | They also state up front that they listened to the audiobook,
         | so I'm not sure how much value there'd be in defining a term to
         | differentiate reading versus listening to a book.
        
       | bix6 wrote:
       | Why does our country continue to exalt people like this? Can we
       | have some compassion up top for once?
        
       | havaloc wrote:
       | To be fair, Catan really brings out the worse in people, despite
       | it being a friendly Euro game. It's worse than Monopoly in a lot
       | of ways.
        
       | yubblegum wrote:
       | "Careless" is doing some seriously heavy duty lifting here.
        
         | lcnPylGDnU4H9OF wrote:
         | Yeah, that's rather the point of the article. They are careless
         | in many ways as the author points out.
        
         | throw4847285 wrote:
         | I assumed the word choice was a reference to this line from The
         | Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald:
         | 
         | "They were careless people, Tom and Daisy- they smashed up
         | things and creatures and then retreated back into their money
         | or their vast carelessness or whatever it was that kept them
         | together, and let other people clean up the mess they had
         | made."
         | 
         | Given the way the novel is written, this is intentional
         | understatement.
        
           | hinkley wrote:
           | That's what she is referring to.
           | 
           | That line is quoted either in the foreword or the first
           | chapter.
        
       | throw4847285 wrote:
       | It's nice to know that despite playing fast and loose with the
       | facts, the film The Social Network does capture something
       | fundamentally true about Zuckerberg's psychology. The
       | pathological need to dominate can be disguised when you're the
       | underdog, but the more power you accrue the more it becomes the
       | sole motivation. To paraphrase Robert Caro, "power does not
       | corrupt, it reveals."
        
         | lithocarpus wrote:
         | I think power also can and often does corrupt. Partly due to
         | the corrupting pressure that comes at a person who has power.
        
         | hinkley wrote:
         | David Brin has it as "absolute power attracts the absolutely
         | corruptible."
        
       | hermitcrab wrote:
       | Compliments to the author of this piece, Cory Doctorow, who I
       | believe coined the useful term "enshittification". He has
       | consistently championed consumer rights (presumably at a
       | significant risk of having powerful people come after him) and
       | lots of other worthwhile causes. And his writing is excellent.
        
       | 0xCafeBabee wrote:
       | Anyone else notice how losing at simple board games seems scarier
       | to billionaires than losing millions in business? Makes you
       | wonder if it's because they can't control the outcome with money
       | or power...
        
       | WoodenChair wrote:
       | I used the form on the author of the book's website a few weeks
       | ago to invite her on our books podcast:
       | 
       | https://sarahwynnwilliams.com
       | 
       | She didn't respond, which is fair enough, it's probably not big
       | enough to be interesting to her. But then I got auto-added to her
       | PR mailing list. I didn't ask or consent to be on the PR mailing
       | list (all the page says as of now is "To contact Sarah, please
       | complete the form below"). Seems I was just added because I used
       | the "contact" form.
       | 
       | Auto-adding someone who contacts you to a PR mailing list is a
       | dark pattern. Seems she learned something at Facebook. I found it
       | ironic.
        
         | aredox wrote:
         | She certainly didn't code that contact form. Still an oversight
         | from her, but...
        
           | pixelatedindex wrote:
           | But what? It's her website and is ultimately responsible. "I
           | didn't code it" is not an excuse.
        
             | aredox wrote:
             | Do you assume full responsability for all the dependencies
             | of all the software you write _and_ use?
        
               | pixelatedindex wrote:
               | That's neither here nor there.
               | 
               | This a very specific situation where someone comes to my
               | website/company, takes an action they believe is safe,
               | and gets a bunch of spam. That would absolutely be my
               | responsibility - it's where the buck stops.
        
               | azemetre wrote:
               | It's similar to how I follow my Congressional
               | Representative but they also added me on various donor
               | lists now.
               | 
               | Just because people do it doesn't mean it's not shitty.
        
       | insane_dreamer wrote:
       | I don't find the anecdotes very interesting--people with great
       | power are or turn out to be assholes; sure, what else is new?--
       | but this little gem stood out to me. Not that I'm surprised, just
       | that it's the first I heard of it:
       | 
       | > According to Wynn-Williams, Facebook actually built an
       | extensive censorship and surveillance system for the Chinese
       | state - spies, cops and military - to use against Chinese
       | Facebook users, and FB users globally. They promise to set up
       | caches of global FB content in China that the Chinese state can
       | use to monitor all Facebook activity, everywhere, with the
       | implication that they'll be able to spy on private
       | communications, and censor content for non-Chinese users.
        
       | acyou wrote:
       | Zuckerberg and co. always seem so basic. Settlers of Catan and
       | Ticket To Ride? I can't imagine more flavorless, generic games.
       | 
       | Wait, those are the games that I play...
       | 
       | I remember listening to Zuckerberg speak at length about the
       | various epochs of Facebook including the fast pivot to global,
       | it's overall a fascinating and compelling story that the book
       | surely capitalizes on well.
        
         | bena wrote:
         | I'm not a big fan of Catan. Players can get locked out of the
         | game with no way to meaningfully play.
         | 
         | Ticket to Ride is decent though. Simple, straight-forward
         | rules. Enough strategy and randomness to make playing
         | interesting. No one can gum up the game by being intransigent.
        
           | acyou wrote:
           | My Ticket To Ride games are usually very passive, everyone
           | has a sort of truce that lasts essentially throughout. But
           | sometimes someone gives up on a big route and devotes
           | themselves to messing up other people, and then things get
           | spicy. Then again, I think we play wrong, because we don't
           | ever use Stations (I think those are only in Ticket To Ride
           | Europe though)?
        
             | bena wrote:
             | Probably. We have the original base game and the Ticket to
             | Ride Junior edition. Neither of those have stations.
        
       | ranger207 wrote:
       | Doctorow touches on this, but I really think the biggest problem
       | with society today is simply that too many people in power simply
       | don't experience consequences
        
         | obscurette wrote:
         | I think that's true for our society in general at the moment.
         | Everyone can behave like an asshole and it's completely OK for
         | a society if they say "I had a tough childhood and haven't
         | received a professional help".
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | Literally none of these people claims that. What they
           | actually say is "acting like an asshole is a cool manly
           | thing".
           | 
           | Meanwhile, the help for people with tough childhoods is
           | slashed and protection for kids is scaled back. People who
           | had tough childhoods and did not received professional help
           | are getting roughly no help or benefit of doubt.
        
             | obscurette wrote:
             | I didn't talk about these people, I was talking about
             | society in general. And the problem with even slight
             | erosion of responsibility is that sociopaths benefit most.
        
         | gessha wrote:
         | I think the problem is people feel so entitled they think they
         | can avoid consequences. And much to everybody's surprise, they
         | can do it if they pay the right people.
        
       | xivzgrev wrote:
       | this cracked me up
       | 
       | "When he gets to the mic, he spontaneously promises that Facebook
       | will provide internet access to refugees all over the world.
       | Various teams at Facebook then race around, trying to figure out
       | whether this is something the company is actually doing, and once
       | they realize Zuck was just bullshitting, set about trying to
       | figure out how to do it.
       | 
       | They get some way down this path when Kaplan intervenes to insist
       | that giving away free internet to refugees is a bad idea, and
       | that instead, they should sell internet access to refugees.
       | Facebookers dutifully throw themselves into this absurd project,
       | which dies when Kaplan fires off an email stating that he's just
       | realized that refugees don't have any money. The project dies."
        
         | CrystalCuckoo wrote:
         | The author of the post tries to use this as an example of
         | Kaplan being an idiot but (having read the books) struck me as
         | a rare case of him being the only sane man in the room -
         | Facebook pivoting from "we have to give free internet to
         | refugees" to "we have to sell it" smacks of broader leadership
         | not considering the wider context.
        
       | selkin wrote:
       | This review is as naive as Wynn-Williams portrays herself in her
       | memoir (which I enjoyed!)
       | 
       | In the book, Wynn-Williams described herself as a wide-eyed,
       | almost helpless person, which doesn't align with her pre-Facebook
       | career as a lawyer in the a diplomatic corps. And when at FB, she
       | was in the rooms where it happened, and had a job enabling some
       | of it. She could've quit, but did not.
       | 
       | She was one of the titular careless people at the time, and
       | excuses it now by pointing at others who were even more careless.
       | It's not atonement, it's whitewashing.
        
         | gr__or wrote:
         | How does her attempt to change things from the inside, by
         | confronting their higher ups, who constantly put her down for
         | it and collectivizing with other insiders, still lead you to
         | such a harsh judgment of her character?
        
           | mistrial9 wrote:
           | a crucial weighting is -- how much was this person
           | implementing the things being decried, versus "change from
           | the inside". Without having read this book, I will personally
           | take away the benefit of doubt on "change from inside" given
           | that this person is an attorney by trade, and has been hired
           | for real money by this company.
        
             | selkin wrote:
             | I'd contrast Wynn-Williams with Susan Fowler: Fowler was
             | only a few years out of school when she took a software
             | engineer position at Uber, didn't had managerial position,
             | yet actually stood up when things happened and made a
             | change.
        
         | va1a wrote:
         | It's interesting, this concept of "just following orders"
         | recurs so much in almost all contexts. War behavior really
         | seems to be the baseline of human interaction.
         | 
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Superior_orders
        
       | jimt1234 wrote:
       | > ... but then Meta's lawyer tried to get the book suppressed and
       | secured an injunction to prevent her from promoting it.
       | 
       | Sounds like the work of Barbra Streisand's PR firm LOL
        
       | boogieknite wrote:
       | here's a callous question: will it ever get to a tipping point
       | where major businesses bail on react? is it already happening?
       | 
       | asking specifically because our backend is pretty much just esri
       | and were heavily considering porting all of our web products to
       | experience builder because of how robust it is these days.
       | experience builder is on react, which sucks imo, but would be
       | helpful to avoid getting the rug pulled on us
        
         | gr__or wrote:
         | I don't think that's a necessary consequence. React is free, a
         | sort-of recruitment loss-leader for Meta. Imo you can get to a
         | moral zero on this pretty easily despite still using React, by
         | supporting out-of-Meta React OSS and using your platforms to
         | denounces Meta's carelessness.
         | 
         | On the other hand: Companies pay for Microsoft's offerings and
         | they support the Israeli military in their genocidal campaign
         | in Gaza, I think getting to a moral zero on that is
         | significantly harder.
        
       | akudha wrote:
       | _Wynn-Williams gets Zuck a chance to address the UN General
       | Assembly. As is his wont, Zuck refuses to be briefed before he
       | takes the dais_
       | 
       | Holy moly! No matter what your feelings are towards the
       | effectiveness of U.N, addressing the general assembly is a huge
       | opportunity to stand out, send a message, do something good etc.
       | What a waste
        
         | disqard wrote:
         | "Zuck it! We'll do it live!!"
        
       | ycombinatornews wrote:
       | Almost finished with it after few days. I think it is must read
       | and the fact author testified adds more reasons.
       | 
       | Glad to see this on HN.
        
       | lifefeed wrote:
       | This is a small bit, and I don't know anything about Zuckerberg's
       | personal life, but "he refuses to get out of bed before noon" is
       | normally more a sign of depression than laziness.
        
         | ycombinatrix wrote:
         | True but we don't know if the dude is getting drunk every night
         | like the CEO from Ex Machina
        
         | banannaise wrote:
         | Far more likely to be "keeps insane hours and refuses to change
         | them"
        
       | malwrar wrote:
       | > Wynn-Williams's firsthand account of the next decade is not a
       | story of these people becoming more reckless, rather, it's a
       | story in which the possibility of consequences for that
       | recklessness recedes, and with it, so does their care over those
       | consequences.
       | 
       | I often feel similar when I witness rich people operate, and I'm
       | sure others on different wealth scales observe the same in me.
       | It's wild to observe someone take risky/dangerous positions,
       | fail, and then shrug it off when you would have been ruined. One
       | of those observable moments of privilege. I feel like it would be
       | something interesting to study.
        
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