[HN Gopher] They made computers behave like annoying salesmen
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       They made computers behave like annoying salesmen
        
       Author : NotInOurNames
       Score  : 229 points
       Date   : 2025-04-23 16:10 UTC (6 hours ago)
        
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       | JoshTriplett wrote:
       | Related joke going around right now:
       | 
       | Does Microsoft understand consent? Yes / Ask me again later
       | 
       | In general, options like "never ask me again" seem to have
       | disappeared, and we should bring them back.
        
         | CamperBob2 wrote:
         | Legislation will be necessary. Otherwise, why would they
         | bother?
        
           | JoshTriplett wrote:
           | Or refusing to use software that does this kind of thing, and
           | using more respectful software instead.
        
             | tgsovlerkhgsel wrote:
             | The problem with that is that this is often not a real
             | choice. You don't get to pick individual properties, you
             | get to pick from a (usually pretty small) selection of
             | products which bundle a lot of properties together, and
             | these annoyances are usually not deal-breaking enough to
             | cancel the other reasons why you are using that product.
             | 
             | Often, there simply is no respectful alternative because
             | everyone is doing it, or the respectful alternative is
             | utterly useless due to other issues, or the disrespectful
             | platform is the exclusive distributor for some content that
             | you really want to access.
             | 
             | The platforms/apps know this and generally get more abusive
             | the less alternatives you have.
        
               | otterley wrote:
               | You might be surprised to learn just how much technology
               | and entertainment you can live without.
        
             | ikiris wrote:
             | You think a few niche individuals refusing to use Microsoft
             | os is going to make a noticeable difference in their stats
             | in the slightest? Even apple is a fairly small fraction of
             | that market share and the next smaller option is a rounding
             | error.
        
               | JoshTriplett wrote:
               | I'm not suggesting that a _few_ people doing this is
               | enough, or that individual choice is going to be
               | successful. But I do think it 's one of many reasons for
               | people to systematically use Open Source wherever
               | possible, and it's a case study in what you get by doing
               | so.
        
               | ndiddy wrote:
               | I think we're seeing the effects of Microsoft's treatment
               | of their users. Windows 11 has been out for years now and
               | we're a few months away from Windows 10 being
               | unsupported, but 10 is still the most popular version of
               | Windows. I expect that hundreds of millions of users will
               | choose to run 10 unsupported rather than upgrade to 11.
               | Since 11 came out, desktop Linux market share has
               | increased from 1.5% to 4% and Mac OS has seen significant
               | gains as well. I think the more relevant factor is that
               | Microsoft simply doesn't care. We reached "peak desktop"
               | in the mid-2010s and now Microsoft is simply following
               | the MBA playbook of what to do when you have a widely
               | used product in a market that's stopped growing (spend
               | the bare minimum on maintenance, redirect revenue to
               | developing products in markets that are growing like
               | cloud and AI services, use your market position to push
               | existing Windows customers to use your new products in
               | growth markets).
        
             | andrepd wrote:
             | Many problems with that approach.
             | 
             | - Most users just use what is preinstalled on their device.
             | That's how Windows got their share and its how Chrome,
             | Facebook, Google, etc, retain theirs.
             | 
             | - As the blogpost points out, many people don't even
             | _realise_ there 's an option.
             | 
             | - Which sometimes there is not: either literally or in
             | practice. E.g. I'm forced to maintain at the very least a
             | whatsapp and a facebook account to perform basic everyday
             | tasks.
             | 
             | - Finally, what I think is the most important point: _these
             | behaviours give a competitive advantage, therefore there
             | needs to be a floor enforced by law_. It 's much like
             | environmental protections, it's not enough to say "the
             | customers should pick the greener choice", because dumping
             | waste into a river is cheaper than processing it or
             | recycling. You need to enforce a level playing field via
             | laws, to ensure this does not happen.
        
               | JoshTriplett wrote:
               | > these behaviours give a competitive advantage
               | 
               | That's not inherently the case. Scummy dark patterns like
               | these might show short-term advantages in numbers, but
               | doing that burns user trust.
               | 
               | It's a pretty stark difference between classes of
               | companies. Consider how people feel about Comcast and
               | Facebook, versus how people feel about Stripe and
               | Vanguard. (Random examples of companies with wildly
               | different reputations.)
        
               | esafak wrote:
               | Comcast and Facebook are B2C companies while Microsoft is
               | also B2B, where this problem is most pervasive.
        
               | PaulHoule wrote:
               | Facebook is B2B when it comes to advertising and also its
               | use as a communications and promotional tool outside of
               | advertising.
        
               | AlexandrB wrote:
               | > That's how Windows got their share and its how Chrome,
               | Facebook, Google, etc, retain theirs.
               | 
               | That seems counterfactual when talking about Chrome.
               | Microsoft has tried every trick in the book - short of
               | simply blocking Chrome - to get people using Edge on
               | Windows. It's been somewhat effective, but Chrome still
               | retains a dominant lead. This is entirely due people
               | going out of their way to install Chrome.
        
               | PaulHoule wrote:
               | Don't forget two sided markets. Now that your mother in
               | law is on Facebook and is never going to jump platforms,
               | _you_ are stuck on Facebook.
               | 
               | I find it shocking how many community organizations are
               | completely dependent on Meta. I saw a poster for a club
               | that gets together to play board games that simply had a
               | heading that said "Board Game Club" and a QR code but no
               | meeting times or places, no contact phone, email or web
               | site url. The QR code points to... a Facebook page. If
               | you want to engage with this organization you have no
               | choice but to use Facebook and be subject to their system
               | of pernicious personalization.
               | 
               | Many student organizations at Cornell use Instagram as
               | their primary or only communications tool. There are so
               | many problem with that, not least that you can't engage
               | with that platform without giving a mobile phone number
               | with a real cellular carrier and that doesn't have
               | metadata about events so you get notifications on your
               | phone about events that happened a month ago. It's
               | absurd, but you'd make yourself a hermit if you eschewed
               | these platforms.
        
           | AlexandrB wrote:
           | The legislation required is allowing reverse engineering for
           | interoperability. If there was a legal, alternative Youtube
           | frontend that everyone used and didn't do this crap -
           | YouTube's UI would be forced to compete. As it is, writing
           | such a client/frontend (even if you preserve the ads) will
           | probably land you in legal hot water.
           | 
           | See also: how reddit shut down superior competing UIs by
           | changing their API terms.
        
             | dayvigo wrote:
             | One can publish their client/frontend pseudonymously, using
             | Tor if necessary. Not like one is gonna profit off it
             | anyway, so it shouldn't be a big deal.
        
               | AlexandrB wrote:
               | That massively limits your audience. And without
               | something like the EU's Digital Markets Act locked down
               | platforms like iOS would be a non-starter as well.
               | 
               | I don't think YouTube is going to feel compelled to
               | change their UI if 1% of users are using some alternative
               | UI off of Tor.
        
               | dayvigo wrote:
               | No, I mean the developer publishes under a pseudonym, and
               | said developer can use Tor if needed to hide their tracks
               | so they can't be served legally, as no one knows who they
               | are in real life. Joe Public isn't risking going to
               | prison or being sued to bankruptcy because they
               | downloaded some random YouTube client, so they don't have
               | to use Tor.
        
             | grishka wrote:
             | It depends on the country. In some, reverse engineering a
             | proprietary product for the purpose of interoperability is
             | explicitly allowed.
             | 
             | In the US, as far as I know, there hasn't yet been a
             | precedent about this.
        
           | reverendsteveii wrote:
           | Unfortunately the government seems to have taken on the idea
           | that its primary responsibility is legislation forbidding the
           | government from passing legislation on given topics. This is
           | because it's wholly owned by the people it's supposed to
           | regulate.
        
         | retrac wrote:
         | This is what software freedom means in concrete terms. I wonder
         | if it will be easier to explain the principles of the FLOSS
         | purists to the average person now that multiple facets of their
         | lives are being meddled with by aggressively hostile software,
         | and not just being stung now and then with dropped support,
         | format lock-in, or forced obsolescence.
        
         | whateveracct wrote:
         | PMs don't like it when their funnel gets shut off. They hate
         | true rejection and always think the user is just some finagling
         | away from falling down the funnel.
        
           | JoshTriplett wrote:
           | And they don't understand that respecting users (and non-
           | users) has value, and changes how people see your company.
        
             | trinsic2 wrote:
             | It's going to take a cultural shift in awareness of how
             | abusing peoples freedom harms society before this really
             | changes. Probably 95% of people on hackernews works for
             | corporations that do this. Do what you can to shift the
             | awareness.
        
             | ikiris wrote:
             | They understand it just fine. Their reward metrics only
             | care about the impact they had, not the externalities.
        
             | izacus wrote:
             | Respecting the users does not have value FOR THEM. That's
             | how the job works - they're measured on how much people
             | they trick into falling into their feature so they can put
             | together a slide deck with nice DAU numbers.
             | 
             | Same for engineers - user respect doesn't have value for
             | them either, you'll get the laziest, easiest implementation
             | of a given ticket. Or the most complex and one if they're
             | up for promotion or want to learn a new tech.
             | 
             | Afterwards, both groups will happily run towards greener
             | pastures by the time any of this "respect value"
             | materializes.
        
           | grishka wrote:
           | The more general problem is that software companies started
           | having their own goals that are at odds with just serving the
           | damn users that pay them money.
        
         | astrange wrote:
         | It's surprisingly hard to do this. Never means never and then
         | you have to remember the flag and decide what later things it
         | applies to.
        
           | rozap wrote:
           | ....what? persistence is a solved problem.
           | 
           | i hate it when engineers do this song and dance "well
           | actually it's really hard to do that" in order to justify the
           | position that they already had before the conversation
           | started. no it isn't, it literally isn't, it's just smoke and
           | mirrors to justify your position.
        
             | namaria wrote:
             | I know a guy who made a career out of advising management
             | about this sort of foot dragging in software engineering.
             | He is very wealthy.
        
           | dayvigo wrote:
           | I'm not sure anyone who finds it difficult to write values to
           | file and read from them later should be working on commercial
           | software. I genuinely struggle to think of any single feature
           | that could be _more_ trivial than this is.
        
         | dfxm12 wrote:
         | We? If "we" want this ability, we first have to stop using
         | software by Google, et al. and instead use FOSS. Google isn't
         | going to add this into YT for us. They aren't driven by our
         | satisfaction...
        
         | tremon wrote:
         | I have begun calling this practice "rapey software" in casual
         | conversation. People usually object when they first hear the
         | term, but when I ask them why they would defend such practices
         | they usually fold.
        
           | mixmastamyk wrote:
           | "Enshittified rapeware" ... does have a bit of a ring to it,
           | no? Think I'll stick with malware.
        
         | pndy wrote:
         | I said this last year here: it's not a choice nor consent but a
         | plain harassment. And it won't stop until you give up and let
         | the software/company do what they want.
         | 
         | I doubt anything can be done nowadays without some law
         | enforcement. We're long gone from times when companies offered
         | actual options and features for the user and not for
         | themselves.
        
         | lud_lite wrote:
         | Never ask me again is available here:
         | https://www.debian.org/distrib/
        
       | nipponese wrote:
       | Why are UX designers getting the heat? The PM is the one forcing
       | their hand.
        
         | andrepd wrote:
         | Just following orders amirite
        
         | mystified5016 wrote:
         | Like everyone else, UX designers have a choice to follow
         | unethical orders or refuse them.
         | 
         | Yes yes, labor market, visas, etc. It's still a choice to do
         | something evil, even if you're coerced.
        
           | exsomet wrote:
           | There are degrees of evil though, surely?
           | 
           | I am not sure you're making a reasonable or realistic
           | argument when you are saying that someone should risk or give
           | up their job, personal security, and stability of their
           | family rather than implement a button to turn off iPhone
           | notifications.
           | 
           | I don't disagree with the principle at all, but if it's ever
           | going to change the conversation has to start somewhere
           | rational. "Destroy your life because your UI offends me"
           | isn't it.
        
             | dogleash wrote:
             | Nick Naylor: [out loud] "I just need to pay the mortgage."
             | Nick Naylor: [to self] The Yuppie Nuremberg defense.
        
           | nkrisc wrote:
           | There's a difference though between "unethical" and just
           | "shitty experience". A shitty experience is not inherently
           | unethical. As a UX designer, I never did anything I believed
           | to be unethical, but I did design many things that I thought
           | were a shitty experience. I voiced my concerns, suggested
           | some alternatives, and was told do design it to work the
           | shitty way. If they want to pay me to design a shitty
           | experience, then OK, the money's the same either way.
           | 
           | I just made sure to save the emails/documentation/etc. in
           | case anyone tried to blame it on me when it failed or users
           | complained. If the order came down from high enough up the
           | org, a UX manager or director might also go on the record
           | opposing it to cover for those under them in the org.
           | 
           | I think of it like hiring someone to replace all the
           | beautiful hardwood floors in your home with thick, orange
           | shag carpet. It's a bad idea and it will probably hurt the
           | resale value of your home, but there's nothing unethical
           | about the contractor accepting the work and taking your money
           | as long as everything's done properly and to code.
        
           | lud_lite wrote:
           | I'd be out of work entirely if I quit every job when I saw
           | something disgusting. There are levels though.
        
         | nurettin wrote:
         | Programmers are pretty innocent, but UX Designers by trade
         | should disallow dark patterns that worsen User's eXperience,
         | right?
        
           | ryandrake wrote:
           | Programmers are the ones implementing these designs, so they
           | at the very least _share_ culpability.
        
         | urbandw311er wrote:
         | PM has a product strategy for sure, but it's still downstream
         | of the main business strategy and will be based off that. So
         | your ultimate accountability here rests with some greedy CEO or
         | investor.
        
       | leoc wrote:
       | From the title I assumed it was going to be about LLMs!
        
       | qwerpy wrote:
       | I deeply hate this behavior. Another example: The Health app on
       | iOS has a closeable banner for the "Health Checklist" UI, which
       | gives me the option to turn on things like crash detection, fall
       | detection, etc. All of which are notifications. I hate
       | notifications so I will never turn these on. I dutifully scanned
       | through it the first time and verified everything was turned off,
       | and the banner went away. But like clockwork, the banner comes
       | back every 2 weeks and asks me to go through the checklist again.
       | I suspect there's a "right answer" here. If I consent to turn
       | everything on, it'll stop nagging me. But this badly needs a
       | Never button, not a X button that actually means "nag me again in
       | 2 weeks". I get that some product manager wants their fancy watch
       | features enabled for more users so they can get a promotion, but
       | their career ambitions are degrading my experience.
        
         | ghaff wrote:
         | A lot of these things _could_ be useful but there will probably
         | be more false alarms than not to varying degrees. I know I've
         | had looks like you had a hard fall alerts that ranged from
         | "huh?" To I landed on my butt from the edge of a bed that I
         | wouldn't have wanted an ambulance much less a helicopter for.
        
         | wincy wrote:
         | My grandpa used to say every few years they'd vote on allowing
         | casinos.
         | 
         | And every few years the people of Missouri would vote NO
         | casinos. But one time, they voted to allow the casinos. Then
         | the votes stopped. Hugely manipulative and it feels like this
         | sort of thing is everywhere now.
        
           | JoshTriplett wrote:
           | From a memorable villain monologue:
           | 
           | > all we need... is for one of us, just one, sooner or later
           | to have the thing we're all hoping for. One good day.
        
           | bena wrote:
           | To be fair, when you don't have casinos, you don't have
           | casino taxes, casino employment, casino tourism, etc.
           | 
           | Also, you don't just "have" casinos, building any building of
           | that size is at the very least a multi-month affair and
           | likely multiple years.
           | 
           | So once you say "yes", you've set something in motion that is
           | way harder to unwind than it was to kick off.
           | 
           | Also, I can see it being the casinos themselves asking
           | permission to enter the state. Once they're allowed in, why
           | would they ask to leave? That would be the job of someone
           | else.
        
             | xg15 wrote:
             | Would be interesting to know who petitioned for the votes.
        
             | tartoran wrote:
             | There are also negatives that come with casinos. The taxes
             | are nice but the crime isn't.
        
             | trollbridge wrote:
             | In other words, we should let powerful corporations control
             | the agenda of democracy, not the _demos_ (that is, the
             | people)?
        
               | daedrdev wrote:
               | There is a similar case in California where every year a
               | ballot initiative is proposed to repeal a law banning
               | local rent control. Despite it failing every election it
               | continues to get proposed. So its not just corporations
               | who can do this, the demos do it too.
        
               | namaria wrote:
               | There should be an exponential backoff rule for failing
               | propositions.
        
               | daedrdev wrote:
               | I don't like the idea because if you notice public
               | opinion are slowly shifting on an policy you could
               | purposefully propose it each backoff date to entrench it
               | for like 8 or 16 years when public perception does swap.
        
               | namaria wrote:
               | I was joking, but my serious opinion on this is that
               | direct democracy doesn't scale. For a country like
               | Switzerland that is basically a small patchwork of
               | villages up in the mountains it is probably fine, but for
               | a polity of 39 million people and one of the biggest
               | economies on Earth I should say it's a bad fit. Maybe for
               | some local propositions.
        
             | dredmorbius wrote:
             | _The Logic of Collective Action_ , Mancur Olson, 1965:
             | 
             | <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Logic_of_Collective_Acti
             | on>
             | 
             | <https://libgen.rs/book/index.php?md5=63B1D140FD13A03F15BF8
             | 42...>
             | 
             | Very strongly recommended. I'd stumbled across this in my
             | uni days, and its power and insight were obvious even to
             | naive me then. It's since emerged as a classic of
             | economics.
             | 
             | PaulHoule is also a fan:
             | <https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=43775531>
        
           | frakt0x90 wrote:
           | It's like p-hacking but with voting. Try enough
           | tests/samples/whatever and eventually you'll get something
           | that's "statisitically significant". Like the old xkcd comic:
           | https://xkcd.com/882/
        
           | mhb wrote:
           | It's not just casinos. It's also the Constitution. And
           | they've had over 200 years.
        
             | johnnyanmac wrote:
             | Well yea. That why modifying the constitution is a
             | monumental effort. They don't want things to sway as the
             | congress and president shifts. It was easier for Texas to
             | try and secede than to try and change the constitution in
             | their favor.
        
           | soupfordummies wrote:
           | They did this with a giant new jail and its financing via
           | sales tax in my hometown.
           | 
           | First they bundled it in the regular November election. It
           | failed. So then they bundled it in a run-off or primary
           | election. It still failed. Finally they ran it on a solo
           | ballot and it finally passed.
           | 
           | I was like 19 or so. Voted against it every time but that was
           | sort of an eye-opening moment for young me.
        
           | cortesoft wrote:
           | This is the classic result of the problem with democracy and
           | "concentrated benefits and disperse costs". Legal gambling is
           | a HUGE money making opportunity for casinos, and for most
           | voters it is just a minor negative. Of course, utility wise,
           | the minor cost times the number of voters is much higher than
           | the concentrated benefit, but the concentration makes it
           | worth it for casinos to keep fighting for legalization. The
           | cost of fighting for it is less than the benefit when it is
           | legalized.
           | 
           | Now that it is legalized, though, there is no one who has a
           | concentrated enough cost to fight for its reversal. It is
           | more rational to just suffer the small cost of gambling
           | instead of fighting hard for its repeal.
           | 
           | So as you say, they only have to win the fight once, and it
           | is won forever, and society is slightly worse off.
           | 
           | This is the exact same reason Intuit keeps winning the tax
           | battle... it matters more to them than anyone else, even
           | though it makes it a little bit worse for everyone.
        
             | johnnyanmac wrote:
             | It also doesn't help that these days the stwte/country is
             | probably large enough to gather ebouygh of a petition for
             | whatever you want. Just word it nicely and you can get 10k,
             | 100k people to say "sure why not?"
             | 
             | Apathy reigns as usual.
        
               | cortesoft wrote:
               | It isn't apathy, it is rationality. Why would I spend a
               | ton of time fighting against a problem that is a minor
               | inconvenience to me? I have a lot of important things
               | going on in my life, and a limited amount of time and
               | energy to do things. It isn't rational for me (or most
               | people) to spend a bunch of time, money, and effort
               | fighting against legalized gambling.
               | 
               | There literally isn't enough time in the day for me to
               | fight against everything, so you pick and choose where to
               | spend your energy.
        
               | akoboldfrying wrote:
               | Agree.
               | 
               | I like the idea of policy changes like this having an
               | expiry date a few years in the future, which forces a
               | periodic revote if some party wants to keep the new
               | policy. Like a political office term, this should be long
               | enough to give businesses a timeframe they can plan
               | around, and an opportunity for voters to see how the
               | policy played out.
               | 
               | Perhaps it would lead to an ever-increasing pile of legal
               | "confirmation dialog boxes" that bore the public. But I
               | like that the default action (doing nothing) would lead
               | to regulations being deleted, as there are few forces
               | that act to _reduce_ regulation, and having too many
               | regulations is another slow-burn energy sink for
               | everyone.
        
             | Y_Y wrote:
             | Externalities
        
             | keybored wrote:
             | It's more of a problem with oligarchy and oligarchic
             | tendencies.
             | 
             | Don't make things into a game theory problem. It's a power
             | problem.
        
               | cortesoft wrote:
               | I am not "making" anything into a game theory problem,
               | game theory is simply explaining WHY it becomes a
               | problem.
               | 
               | How to solve the problem is a separate issue, but the
               | problem can be described with game theory.
        
           | _Algernon_ wrote:
           | Same thing is how encryption backdoor laws and other erosions
           | of rights work. Be vigilant because the first time the vote
           | goes through, they will never hold another vote.
        
           | daedrdev wrote:
           | There is a similar case in California where every year a
           | ballot initiative is proposed to repeal a law banning local
           | rent control, in the last election it was prop 33. Despite it
           | failing every election it continues to get proposed.
        
             | johnnyanmac wrote:
             | That one would unfortunately have a huge impact on some
             | people. Aka, anyone who may need to house themselves one
             | days but can't afford to buy. Sure hope we keep fighting
             | that.
        
           | andrepd wrote:
           | Kinda how the European """parliament""" works. It's the only
           | body called "parliament" in the entire world that I'm aware
           | of which does _not_ have the power to propose laws.
           | 
           | Therefore: if the commission wants a law, all they have to do
           | is keep trying. If it fails, they try again. If it passes,
           | well it only has to pass once. Because the parliament can't
           | introduce bills which means it can't repeal existing laws.
        
         | smallmancontrov wrote:
         | Apple's "This video conferencing app just disabled
         | reactions!!!!" notification is just the worst. Every video
         | chat, every app, every time. Ugh!
         | 
         | I even like Apple's reactions implementation, which is pretty
         | good, but there's definitely some PM that wants to push it in
         | my face 10 times every day and I don't know what's worse, the
         | PM doing this fully understanding the cost or whatever system
         | stands aside and lets them continue.
        
           | astrange wrote:
           | PMs basically don't exist at Apple and certainly don't get to
           | make any decisions when they do. That's an exec making you do
           | that ;)
        
           | tobr wrote:
           | Apple is hard at work enshittifying everything despite their
           | main competitive advantage being a business model that
           | doesn't actually require them to do that. The iPhone settings
           | app in particular is filled with advertising banners that add
           | red badges to the icon that cannot be disabled.
        
             | goosedragons wrote:
             | Nah. Their business model requires it, just more subtle.
             | Half the Apple "ecosystem" is just crippling their own
             | products to only play nice with their products so you feel
             | compelled to buy it over alternatives. See things like the
             | Apple Watch, MTP support, iCloud backup etc.
        
               | permo-w wrote:
               | you can see why they do. for me the only real fear of
               | moving to android (I did anyway) was losing access to the
               | Apple ecosystem. on the other hand, they've railroaded
               | themselves into this situation by choosing it as the
               | competitive advantage they want to pursue, and in doing
               | so have damaged computing philosophy as a whole
        
         | tikhonj wrote:
         | YouTube keeps on pushing shorts. If you click the x button on
         | the "shorts" section, it will straight up tell you that it's
         | only hiding the reccomendation for 30 days. They're not even
         | pretending otherwise!
        
           | trollbridge wrote:
           | Which makes me feel much better about using yt-dlp,
           | SponsorBlock, and Brave.
        
             | trinsic2 wrote:
             | Same. With the way they have been trying to circumvent ad-
             | blocking im YT-DLP'ing everythign now.
        
           | duskwuff wrote:
           | That's not even the worst of it. YouTube has a "shelf" that
           | exists solely to announce that YouTube TV was rated highly in
           | a JD Power consumer survey. It's _completely meaningless_ to
           | users, but that doesn 't stop them from trying to show it to
           | you again every few weeks.
           | 
           | Some YouTube executive must be really proud of that award.
        
           | DigitallyFidget wrote:
           | Adblock.
           | 
           | You can selectively block elements from sites. I've blocked
           | shorts from it and honestly forgot how annoying it was until
           | these comments. Just right click, block element, preview
           | before applying, make sure you don't butcher out unintended
           | parts of the pages.
        
         | cortesoft wrote:
         | The annoying one for me right now is Windows 11.
         | 
         | Every few restarts, it is showing a pop up that shows the
         | wallpaper that was chosen and a "learn more" button... the pop
         | up can't be moved, can't be closed, and stays on top no matter
         | what.
         | 
         | It took me a few minutes before I finally gave up and clicked
         | on the "learn more" button, which of course opened Edge (even
         | though edge isn't my default browser), which of course prompted
         | me to switch to using edge as my default browser, which I had
         | to decline and close edge again.
         | 
         | And now I have repeated this dance a number of times on
         | restarts. No, I don't want to learn more about the wallpaper,
         | and I don't want to use Edge!
        
           | srfn wrote:
           | This, certainly, can be disabled. I don't remember the exact
           | name of the setting, BUT here is what I use:
           | 
           | https://www.oo-software.com/en/shutup10
           | 
           | You should be able to find the setting responsible for
           | displaying these "learn more" buttons. I always disable it
           | for myself and friend's computers.
           | 
           | Once you know your ways around disabling all annoyances in
           | Windows, it's really smooth sail.
           | 
           | Good luck!
        
           | anal_reactor wrote:
           | Every few weeks I get "Windows 10 will reach end-of-support
           | soon!". Honestly, I appreciate this, because it helps me
           | mentally prepare for he day I'll finally switch to Linux.
        
         | bongodongobob wrote:
         | Is this maybe a work phone enrolled in MDM or something? I do
         | more phone management than I'd like to at work and haven't seen
         | this.
        
           | qwerpy wrote:
           | It's a personal phone enrolled in work MDM. Seems very
           | surprising that it would affect the Health app in this
           | specific way though.
        
         | spollo wrote:
         | My personal biggest gripe is the Gmail app on iPhone. There is
         | no possible way to stop it from trying to force you to change
         | your default browser to chrome every 2 weeks when you open a
         | link.
        
           | permo-w wrote:
           | the Mail app has its own massive issues. for whatever reason
           | it is completely unable to just background sync and notify
           | you immediately when you get an email. why is every messaging
           | app able to do this instantaneously but email is not?
           | 
           | also their new default-on email classification system is a
           | fucking nightmare and I was so glad when I figured out you
           | can turn it off
           | 
           | plus why do my email drafts load in oldest first?
        
       | NoMoreNicksLeft wrote:
       | >The population (especially the younger generation, who never
       | seen a different kind of technology at all) is being conditioned
       | by the tech industry to accept that software should behave like
       | an unreliable, manipulative human rather than a precise,
       | predictable machine. They're learning that you can't simply tell
       | a computer
       | 
       | Youtube isn't _your_ computer. It 's _their_ computer. And the
       | precise, predictable mechanical command they have given it is to
       | manipulate you.
        
         | cantrecallmypwd wrote:
         | The way out is employee- and customer-owned non-profit
         | platforms not beholden to private equity or publicly-traded
         | corporations driven to exploit dark patterns.
        
           | NoMoreNicksLeft wrote:
           | I've personally witnessed non-profits behave in bizarre and
           | anti-human fashions too, though perhaps not quite to the same
           | intensity as for-profits. I don't believe they're some
           | magical silver-bullet. And "employee-owned" is even more
           | useless in this regard.
           | 
           | The way out is to just not engage. Do you find anything truly
           | appealing about Youtube? If there was some video on it
           | somewhere that was "I can't live without this" good, why
           | haven't you ripped the video with youtube-dl and kept it? It
           | would no longer be a Youtube video, and you'd no longer have
           | to tolerate Youtube's antihuman UI.
        
             | dayvigo wrote:
             | That works great for the one you already have, how would
             | you discover future "I can't live without this" good videos
             | if you stop using YouTube?
        
             | PaulHoule wrote:
             | The index case is public television on the US which has
             | endless cloying and annoying fundraisers but you know in
             | the end of the day they care what big sponsors like the
             | Archer Daniels Midland Corporation and the The John D. and
             | Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation think but not "viewers
             | like you" because of these problems
             | 
             | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Logic_of_Collective_Actio
             | n
             | 
             | Or look at the case of Mozilla which seems to be at least
             | treading water when it comes to browser engineering but in
             | terms of marketing and legitimacy they seem to be doing as
             | little as possible to threaten Chrome but keep plugging
             | along because if Firefox went down then Google might get
             | pulled into antitrust court. (Think how Microsoft funded
             | Apple during the dark years of the 1990s to keep
             | competition alive or how the existence of Android must have
             | a huge value to Apple today in that Apple can claim it has
             | competition -- competition like the heel in pro wrestling)
        
               | trollbridge wrote:
               | "Funded by the CPB, a private corporation funded by the
               | American people."
               | 
               | Of all the interstitials PBS had, this one was by far the
               | oddest.
        
               | philwelch wrote:
               | Public broadcasting in the US is in deep denial about
               | being state media.
        
               | otterley wrote:
               | This comment is way off topic.
        
               | philwelch wrote:
               | "Funded by a private corporation funded by the American
               | people" is just a euphemism for state funding; the
               | oddness of the euphemism is explained by the fact that
               | it's a euphemism in the first place.
        
               | otterley wrote:
               | What part of "this is off topic" do you not understand?
        
               | philwelch wrote:
               | I was directly replying to the comment above me about the
               | oddness of the CPB interstitial by providing an
               | explanation. That might have been tangential but it
               | wasn't off-topic. You're the one having a failure of
               | understanding here, even though I've been patient with
               | you and tried to explain the relevance of my reply.
        
             | AStonesThrow wrote:
             | When I was young, I voraciously consumed media just like
             | today. I watched TV, listened to radio, purchased vinyl and
             | CDs like there was no tomorrow.
             | 
             | Over a few decades starting in 2000, I stopped purchasing
             | music entirely. I also stopped listening to the radio, and
             | in 2015 I got rid of my last TV. (Sometimes when you're in
             | public, you can't avoid these.) And things seemed alright.
             | 
             | But I have come full circle and developed a complete
             | addiction to YouTube that satiates all these desires in one
             | service. Why own music when I can stream anything on
             | demand? Why own a TV or disc player when all movies I want
             | to see are likewise available?
             | 
             | So I pay for Premium. I could live without YouTube, but I
             | would flounder in abject boredom. My music entertainment
             | would be severely limited, like what was available in PD or
             | Creative Commons, and that's rather grim. If YouTube were
             | completely unavailable to me, in terms of any music or
             | video, I would indeed struggle to fill those gaps, because
             | it really fills out my days.
             | 
             | Thankfully, with Premium I am not nagged by ads and the UI
             | generally cooperates. The ads were really wearing me down,
             | because the more you use it, the more you're subjected to.
             | Unfortunately, YouTube as a platform is not oriented to
             | "watching what I want when I want it" but to discovering
             | new content and suggesting "stuff I might like", so I still
             | do fight to stay on the rails of what I truly enjoy.
             | 
             | Android, on the other hand, has become a holy terror. Every
             | time I try to do something with my life, whether it's
             | banking or finance or health care or shopping, Android is
             | getting in my way and hindering my sanity. I cannot
             | accomplish a simple thing without Android distracting me,
             | frustrating me, and making me forget what I was trying to
             | do. How many times have I unlocked my phone, fiddled, and
             | then locked it again, only to discover that I didn't get
             | anything done? That typically didn't happen with Microsoft
             | or Windows, because indeed MS... was... primarily a B2B
             | provider, and home users enjoyed similar deference to let
             | us be productive without getting in our face.
             | Unfortunately, that is all converging on Consumerist
             | Advertising Hell.
        
             | reverendsteveii wrote:
             | Non-profits often aren't looking to avoid making as much
             | money as possible, but that's not actually written into
             | their mandate. What's written into their mandate is that
             | they can't pay out money beyond expenses as profits to
             | owners. They can still have a surplus after cost, they can
             | still re-invest that surplus (often in the form of c-suite
             | salaries "to attract the best and brightest talent at that
             | level"), they just can't pay it out in profits to owners.
             | There's also the fact that non-profits are often rather
             | strapped overall and when they see a dark pattern they're
             | motivated by fear of failure to exploit it.
        
           | astrange wrote:
           | Forcing everyone to work at an employee-owned corporation is
           | bad for their personal finances. Companies can fail, and
           | regular employees shouldn't be invested in the same place
           | that pays their salary. That's why you should usually sell
           | stock as soon as it vests.
        
       | larvaetron wrote:
       | Got it!
        
       | cantrecallmypwd wrote:
       | Yup. Corporate non-ownership, non-control in consumer products
       | and services is becoming far too normalized. Louis Rossmann
       | regularly points out these absurd, customer-hostile practices.
        
         | NoMoreNicksLeft wrote:
         | >these absurd, customer-hostile practices
         | 
         | Companies no longer view their customers as their customers,
         | and I'm not sure I've settled on an explanation that makes
         | sense to me. I only have examples. The biggest one though was
         | Bug Light and the Dylan Mulvaney thing from several years ago.
         | I no longer have a link, but there was a paraphrased quote from
         | the marketing director at the time directly expressing contempt
         | for those who drank Bud Light. But a frustrated expletive,
         | rather a full-on rant about how they were all moronic frat boys
         | and gauche rednecks.
         | 
         | What does it mean when a company has no respect for its own
         | customers, no gratitude, and even measurable levels of what can
         | only be called hatred? I don't know the answer to that
         | question, but that's the world we all live in this year of
         | 2025. And I can't imagine it could possibly turn out well for
         | any of us.
        
       | dblohm7 wrote:
       | I once compared the onboarding experience of a previous product I
       | worked on to walking the timeshare gauntlet in the arrivals area
       | of Mexican airports.
        
         | Zee2 wrote:
         | TurboTax?
        
       | lukev wrote:
       | Agreed. And it's bad enough within apps... it's even worse the
       | way they use push notifications for this kind of thing. I
       | installed your app so I'd know when my prescriptions are ready,
       | or when my ride is here. Abusing that privilege to upsell me on a
       | credit card by making my phone buzz is infuriating.
       | 
       | I've had to uninstall so many apps because of this bad behavior.
        
       | soupfordummies wrote:
       | While I 100% agree with this, I also think this isn't some sort
       | of failing or "oops didn't think of that!" type mistake -- this
       | behavior is fully on purpose.
       | 
       | They want the user to be worn down until they just accept the
       | notifications or whatever else or even just accidentally click
       | YES on one of the recurrent pop ups.
       | 
       | It is beyond infuriating the number of times a google search
       | misclick on my phone leads me to the app store opening the page
       | for the google app. Same with a reddit page. They know what
       | they're doing and they don't care. And even then you have to
       | manually close that giant banner that covers half your screen to
       | dismiss the nag to download the app-- when the web version works
       | perfectly fine!
       | 
       | Alright time to stop ranting and get back to work :)
        
       | reverendsteveii wrote:
       | I have a UX rule that I try to implement: if I'm in a workflow
       | and the app interrupts with something that is not immediately
       | related to that workflow, I uninstall the app and never use it
       | again. No, I don't care about that new feature. I care about the
       | feature I'm currently using. No, I don't want to allow
       | notifications. You don't choose when we interact, I do. You're
       | the machine and I'm the human. No, I don't want to join your
       | discord, or follow you on social media. I assure you that if you
       | prompt me to give you a rating in the app store that you do not
       | want my rating. Let me do the thing I installed you to do and
       | otherwise fuck entirely off.
        
         | airstrike wrote:
         | Amen. We need a whole movement around this to take back control
         | of software.
        
           | encom wrote:
           | Ahem... https://www.fsf.org/
        
         | nkrisc wrote:
         | Amen. I just uninstall applications that do anti-user crap.
         | There are very few applications that I _need_. Almost all are
         | replaceable or truly unnecessary.
         | 
         | The most recent example that sticks in my mind is I uninstalled
         | Duolingo because they kept changing the app icon, but what
         | finally did it for me is when they changed to some disgusting
         | version of it with snot dripping from the creature's (is it an
         | owl? some kind of bird? I forget) nostrils. WTF Duolingo?
         | Uninstalled, I'm done with it.
        
         | johnnyanmac wrote:
         | You must have a very empty phone. I salute you.
        
         | Enginerrrd wrote:
         | I usually take the time to send an email to whoever's email I
         | can find over the issue before walking away.
        
       | kazinator wrote:
       | Given that, say, a garbage collector can "always be closing"
       | abandoned file objects, salesman behavior is easily within reach
       | of a computer. It's just a persistent polling loop combined with
       | a breadth-first search type thing.
        
       | dredmorbius wrote:
       | My own rant on this topic _from 2013_ , twelve years ago, about
       | Google, on Google+:
       | 
       | <https://web.archive.org/web/20190115034109/https://plus.goog...>
       | 
       | (And yes, I archived all my G+ content, though it's one hell of a
       | bastard to search through it.)
       | 
       | That posted to HN on a day where for a moment three of HN's
       | front-page stories were my own content (direct submissions or
       | links to).
       | 
       | HN discussion: <https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=6745525>
       | 
       | The following day saw a slew of Google-critical stories:
       | 
       | <https://news.ycombinator.com/front?day=2013-11-17>
       | 
       | And yeah, it's not got better. I fight back (uBlock origin
       | element remover, custom stylesheets, entire rewrites of news
       | sites (<https://toot.cat/@dredmorbius/114356066459105122>,
       | working on a further revision now), and almost entirely
       | abandoning the mobile comms device space (no smartphone, a
       | largely de-Googled and anonymised e-ink tablet with no no
       | subscription-based apps installed).
       | 
       | I still strongly believe that this ends poorly.
        
       | grishka wrote:
       | Can we also talk about the practice of mass sending push
       | notifications in mobile apps, and usually nonsensical cringely
       | cute ones at that?
       | 
       | The whole notion is absurd to me. A _notification_ is supposed to
       | _notify_ you that something _happened_. But in these cases
       | nothing has actually happened. All these notifications are, are
       | thinly veiled attempts to manipulate you into opening the app to
       | then try to shove more things into you for the benefit of the
       | company that made the app.
       | 
       | I'm generally very stingy with notification permissions, so on
       | the rare occasion that one of these does slip through, it makes
       | me furious. It feels like an insult to my dignity as a human
       | being.
        
         | urbandw311er wrote:
         | Amen. What really pisses me off is that there are certain apps
         | where I really _have_ to enable notifications like Uber so I
         | don't miss my ride, but then they abuse that privilege and
         | start pushing "special offers" etc to me with no way to
         | selectively turn these off.
         | 
         | Or else, if there IS a subcategory to turn off then they just
         | invent a new subcategory a few months after I've opted out, and
         | auto opt me into that instead. eg I opt out of "marketing
         | notifications" and then "relevant suggestions" is created. I'm
         | looking at you, Google Maps.
        
           | grishka wrote:
           | Android has notification categories ("channels" as they're
           | called in the API) that can be individually disabled. But
           | it's on the app developers to assign the right one to their
           | notifications. Many apps do honestly do it and do have
           | separate categories for their marketing spam, but some make
           | just one channel called something like "Miscellaneous" that
           | includes everything all at once.
        
         | endemic wrote:
         | IIRC it's against Apple's guidelines to use push notifications
         | for engagement/spam; not that that ever stopped anyone.
         | 
         | https://developer.apple.com/design/human-interface-guideline...
        
       | Centigonal wrote:
       | > _The population (especially the younger generation, who never
       | seen a different kind of technology at all) is being conditioned
       | by the tech industry to accept that software should behave like
       | an unreliable, manipulative human rather than a precise,
       | predictable machine. They 're learning that you can't simply tell
       | a computer "I'm not interested" and expect it to respect that
       | choice. Instead, you must engage in a perpetual dance of "not
       | now, please" - only to face the same prompts again and again._
       | 
       | Part of the population is learning that -- but I think another
       | part is learning that application providers are not incentivized
       | to design around the users' best interest, and that if you want
       | your software to behave in a predictable, user friendly way, you
       | need to seek out third party tools (like uBlock Origin, UnTrap
       | for Youtube, ReVanced, Invidious etc) to enforce that behavior.
        
       | ValveFan6969 wrote:
       | Also relevant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hieoUkUiFbg
        
       | BrenBarn wrote:
       | Definitely agree. I notice this a lot with search. So many apps
       | and various things have an understanding of search that is not
       | "find me exactly the text I entered". Sometimes I remember that
       | something I want to find was in a sentence with a phrase like "in
       | for all the". I want to be able to search for "in for all the"
       | and get every message/file/whatever that has the text "in for all
       | the" in it, instead of getting zero results because the search
       | tries to be "smart" and filter out stopwords. It's fine to be
       | _able_ to do those things, but I always want the behavior to be:
       | a) fully specified (e.g., full list of stopwords that will be
       | ignored); and b) controllable (e.g., can disable or enable at
       | will).
       | 
       | I tend to see this as one form of a widening gap between software
       | users and software creators. I don't subscribe to the hardcore
       | open-source philosophy that everyone should be contributing to
       | the software they use. But I do think it's getting problematic
       | when a small minority of people who understand the complexities
       | of what's actually going on are crafting elaborate systems of
       | smoke and mirrors to present a seemingly simple interface to
       | users. I would rather that today's interfaces be ten times
       | "worse" but ten times more predictable.
        
       | akoboldfrying wrote:
       | AI agent idea: Detect notifications and dialog boxes that (a)
       | lack a "Don't bother me again" button and (b) which you have
       | responded "Maybe later" to, and forever afterwards automatically
       | "click" "Maybe later" on your behalf the moment they appear.
       | 
       | Yes, this is using an H100 to crack a walnut, we shouldn't have
       | to, etc. But still.
        
       | tcdent wrote:
       | I usually read these opinion pieces and roll my eyes because the
       | OP is just being pedantic.
       | 
       | But, this really cuts to the core of everything wrong with modern
       | software.
       | 
       | Open your bank app. Immediately get blocked by a popup asking you
       | to complete a survey or try some new feature.
       | 
       | Sign up for a new account with some SaaS. Immediately get blocked
       | with a tutorial flow to sell you on how great it is, regardless
       | if you even came there for those features in the first place.
       | 
       | Even the way OS updates are installed has turned into a pushy
       | salesman that tricks you into agreeing to something you didn't
       | originally want.
        
       | jcgrillo wrote:
       | the difference is you're not allowed to shoot the salesman in the
       | face or hit him with a splitting maul
        
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