[HN Gopher] The ADHD body double: A unique tool for getting thin...
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       The ADHD body double: A unique tool for getting things done
        
       Author : yamrzou
       Score  : 325 points
       Date   : 2025-04-05 22:45 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | zeristor wrote:
       | Strangely I've found myself to be something like 400% more
       | productive when pair programming.
       | 
       | I've not heard anyone mention this aspect of paired programming
       | for people with ADHD, although as a colleague once mentioned I
       | jump from one thing to another, but in the end I've done the
       | loop.
        
         | giraffe_lady wrote:
         | Absolutely same experience. It's quite draining but extremely
         | effective.
        
           | bitwize wrote:
           | That kind of aligns with Guy Steele's experience pair
           | programming... with Richard Stallman: "My first thought
           | afterward was: it was a great experience, very intense, and
           | that I never wanted to do it again in my life."
           | 
           | https://www.oreilly.com/openbook/freedom/ch06.html
        
             | Tabular-Iceberg wrote:
             | It helped that they were working on an interesting problem.
             | Most problems that need solving are not interesting.
        
         | N2yhWNXQN3k9 wrote:
         | There is very little evidence for this. IMO, it is feel good
         | advice that sounds right.
         | 
         | Try background noise of any sort, until you find a fit.
         | 
         | I can't pay attention to anything anymore without noise. A
         | little rumble in thy ears does wonders.
         | 
         | I severely question anecdotes that pair programming does
         | anything other than motivate you to not look like a moron
         | wasting time in front of someone else (in the context of ADHD
         | -- there are other uses for it).
         | 
         | That isn't a viable strategy for growth, imo.
         | 
         | Also, if you are new to taking stimulants, you might be
         | surprised how much worse it gets later in life, especially if
         | you have been taking them since youth. There is a non-zero cost
         | (I would say a sacrifice) to treating ADHD with amphetamines or
         | other dopamine reuptake inhibitors / dopamingenics.
         | 
         | If you doubt this, there is very little mention of body
         | doubling in literature outside of blogs:
         | 
         | https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/?term=%20%22Body%20Doubling%...
         | 
         | https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/?term=%22Body%20Double%22%20...
         | 
         | https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/?term=%22Body%20Double%22%
        
           | viraptor wrote:
           | > I severely question anecdotes that pair programming does
           | anything other than motivate you to not look like a moron
           | wasting time in front of someone else
           | 
           | So... you're basically saying it works? Because that's what
           | it does in practice. The other person is the external
           | motivator for keeping attention on the task.
           | 
           | > you might be surprised how much worse it gets later in
           | life, especially if you have been taking them since youth
           | 
           | Got any support for that? (Not being dismissive; never heard
           | of that beyond the usual "effectiveness goes down over time")
           | 
           | > If you doubt this, there is very little mention of body
           | doubling in literature outside of blogs:
           | 
           | Yup, there's still little in terms of specific research, but
           | if you look at the papers about externalising
           | motivation/triggers... it's close to a specific
           | implementation of those ideas rather than a separate thing.
        
             | N2yhWNXQN3k9 wrote:
             | > So... you're basically saying it works?
             | 
             | Working under pressure isn't a viable therapy, IMO. In my
             | experience, it is a path to burn out and diminishing
             | returns.
             | 
             | > Got any support for that?
             | 
             | Anecdotally, ~25 years of eating them, but there is plenty
             | of evidence that prolonged use of amphetamine causes
             | structural neuronal changes, even at therapeutic doses.
             | 
             | Here is one article:
             | https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38665308/
             | 
             | > you look at the papers about externalising
             | motivation/triggers
             | 
             | What papers? What do they say?
             | 
             | Also, fear (an external motivator) is a great way to
             | release catecholamines for positive outcomes in ADHD, but
             | it is also a great way to increase general stress, which
             | has many other outcomes (free cortisol changes, etc).
        
               | pjerem wrote:
               | > Working under pressure isn't a viable therapy, IMO. In
               | my experience, it is a path to burn out and diminishing
               | returns.
               | 
               | Except that pair programming doesn't make you work under
               | pressure. I extensively use this technique for body
               | doubling as much as I can. It motivates me to start the
               | task and I also love the exchange : you can learn things,
               | teach things, be stuck together, find solutions together,
               | swear together, laugh, agree on how horrible is this
               | thing you must fix ...
               | 
               | In fact it's what I'd call real teamwork. I never felt it
               | like pressure and it gives me a lot of energy.
               | 
               | Incidentally, I think the only friends I made at work
               | (the real friends you invite at home even when you don't
               | work at the same place anymore) were through frequent
               | pair programming sessions. I think there is something
               | about knowing how the other person thinks that helps
               | bonding together.
        
               | viraptor wrote:
               | > Working under pressure isn't a viable therapy,
               | 
               | None of ADHD related stuff is really therapy. We only
               | know how to manage symptoms for now.
               | 
               | > Anecdotally
               | 
               | Yeah...
               | 
               | > prolonged use of amphetamine causes structural neuronal
               | changes
               | 
               | Sure. But is it worse than unmanaged ADHD which also
               | results in brain changes over time?
               | 
               | > What papers? What do they say?
               | 
               | It's a whole category, but you could start with this
               | collection:
               | 
               | https://www.connectedpapers.com/main/00e762a8efd5581c93af
               | cb8...
               | 
               | Every time ADHD coaching is mentioned, part of that
               | process is learning planning ahead for distractions, part
               | is learning to externalise reminders / triggers and
               | hacking the reward functions. Maybe there's some paper
               | which tests each of those in isolation, but I'm not going
               | to dig that deep. In aggregate, ADHD coaching has
               | positive results. Pairing is an extreme version of one
               | part of it.
               | 
               | > Also, fear (an external motivator)
               | 
               | Pairing with others shouldn't involve fear. It's just two
               | people being able to share and communicate the motivation
               | to initiate the next step / question. If it causes you
               | actual stress, either you're doing it with a wrong
               | person, or it may just not be for you.
        
           | wavemode wrote:
           | What is at all strange about wanting to work near other
           | people so you keep each other motivated to remain focused?
           | It's not magic, and it's not a treatment for ADHD (nor a
           | replacement for such). It's just a common sense response to
           | living in an age where everyone works from home isolated.
           | Some people just work better with company.
           | 
           | > If you doubt this, there is very little mention of body
           | doubling in literature outside of blogs
           | 
           | Wow, I sure better stop doing everything in my life that
           | there isn't literature on.
        
             | N2yhWNXQN3k9 wrote:
             | Yeah, I mean, saying stuff like this is polarizing.
        
           | zeristor wrote:
           | Good points.
           | 
           | Meds. They never quite worked for me, others have noticed a
           | change, but not me; and the side effects became too
           | intrusive.
           | 
           | Working under pressure, I guess this is an issue for me. As
           | mentioned it can be a load on the person you're pairing with,
           | but so often I can unlock skills pairing with someone that
           | neither of us can ordinarily access.
        
         | bitwize wrote:
         | Pair programming flummoxes me because I find it significantly
         | harder to concentrate when someone's watching. It's like having
         | that execrable old Visual Basic feature where it flags up
         | syntax errors if you cursor off a line, forcing you to correct
         | the errors before moving to a different line. Except now
         | implemented with a smelly human flagging up the errors!
         | 
         | I get it. XP, and Agile in general, is all about relying less
         | on individual programmers' focus on the task and more on
         | external checks (a shoulder surfer and automated tests). The
         | revolution of software development in the 21st century is
         | building more effective teams rather than relying on super-
         | productive individuals (the fabled 10x engineers). But I don't
         | have to like working that way, and I don't.
        
           | nico wrote:
           | My personal experience with pair programming is that I first
           | was very intimidated by it and instinctively hated it
           | 
           | Then, it slowly creeped up at work, and I noticed that
           | initially, most people seemed uncomfortable with it. But, if
           | we were able to build trust and get to a place where we
           | weren't judging each other, just trying to make progress with
           | the task, then things would magically flow and we could solve
           | things that each person individually had been stuck on
           | 
           | We then mostly kept it to a weekly activity, in which we
           | could tackle either specific tickets from a certain list that
           | no-one was actively working on, or on specific things that
           | someone would bring up and needed help with
           | 
           | I believe it's probably not the way to work every single
           | moment, but it is definitely a very powerful and useful tool
        
         | phito wrote:
         | I've never really understood the hype around pair programming.
         | In practice, it's usually just sitting with a coworker who
         | wants to chat and crack jokes while working. That's fine
         | socially, but I don't see any productivity gains.
         | 
         | What I find actually useful is a short, focused meeting with
         | the relevant people before coding. That way, we align on what's
         | being built, resolve confusion, and then I can just go write
         | the code.
         | 
         | Once I'm typing, I don't see how having someone else there
         | helps. It mostly just gets in the way -- we keep having to stop
         | and explain what we're thinking, which slows things down. And
         | usually the other person gets confused at some point, so I have
         | to stop and explain things again to get them back on track.
        
           | pydry wrote:
           | The productivity gains come from:
           | 
           | * You get unstuck faster.
           | 
           | * When the passenger does background research/slacking
           | stakeholders meaning that the driver doesnt have to context
           | switch. Sometimes they even just know the answer to something
           | you would have to spend 30 minutes researching.
           | 
           | * When the passenger spots something you didnt (antipattern,
           | bug, problem) and they spot it _quickly_ before you dug
           | yourself a hole with it.
           | 
           | * When it makes it easier to take bigger decisions and bigger
           | risks as a pair - risks/decisions most people wouldnt feel
           | confident about taking solo.
           | 
           | * When those decisions are _better_ - fewer rabbit holes are
           | jumped into, more landmines are averted.
           | 
           | * When your respective coding philosophies developed over
           | decades hit one another and you try to synthesize something
           | that accomodates the best of both (this is next level
           | pairing).
           | 
           | Mostly I find the productivity gains come from the quality of
           | decisions being higher, which is invisible short term but
           | overwhelming long term.
           | 
           | It doesnt help much if the person is very junior and needs to
           | have everything explained but if theyre junior pairing is the
           | best way to train and mold them into something better, which
           | is probably what you want, right?
        
             | phito wrote:
             | I already get those benefits from focused pre-coding
             | discussions and pull request reviews. They allow for high-
             | quality decisions, involve more perspectives, and are
             | asynchronous.
             | 
             | Pair programming might help when training juniors, since
             | they need that level of hand-holding. But for experienced
             | devs, constant back-and-forth while typing mostly just adds
             | friction.
        
               | pydry wrote:
               | No. You dont. The feedback cadence is then wildly
               | stretched out.
               | 
               | Instead of getting notification that you made a mistake
               | within a few seconds of making it you are told at, say,
               | 4pm, 45 minutes after you raised the PR, 4 hours after
               | you made the mistake and in time for you to maybe fix it
               | tomorrow. Also, if it was a rabbit hole mistake thats a
               | whole lot of wasted work.
               | 
               | With PRs I find reviewers tend to miss more stuff
               | (especially forest-not-trees stuff) because there are
               | usually a lot of changes all going on at the same time
               | and because the mental tax of trying to grasp all of the
               | necessary context is higher.
               | 
               | The pre-coding discussions also do NOT provide the same
               | value because many problems only become apparent after
               | you've started coding. Only correctly anticipated
               | problems are caught at that stage.
               | 
               | Code reviews and pre coding discussions are still good
               | practices and add value of their own (especially because
               | for some issues you do benefit from > 2 sets of eyes),
               | but not as substitutes for pairing.
               | 
               | Pairing is also effective at training juniors and
               | onboarding, but not only.
        
       | readthenotes1 wrote:
       | Couldn't see anything but the menu
        
         | taberiand wrote:
         | I had to switch to reader mode. You're not missing much
        
         | fnordian_slip wrote:
         | Same here, but if this is because of Firefox mobile, then
         | reader mode is the answer, at least it was for me.
        
       | lemming wrote:
       | An online application of this principle is Focusmate, where you
       | schedule calls with essentially random strangers and just work
       | together. There's very little chit chat and it's not some weird
       | front for a hookup scheme. I've been amazed at how well it works
       | for me. I can't really explain why, after all the other person
       | can't see my screen so I could just be doom scrolling YouTube the
       | whole time, but for some reason I don't. I don't use it all the
       | time, but when I need to get something unappealing done I still
       | use it. I've also used it for exercise, and I've had partners use
       | it for all sorts of weird things that they had been
       | procrastinating. I highly recommend it, I thought it would be far
       | weirder than it turned out to be, and it's really useful.
        
         | senordevnyc wrote:
         | I could have written this. I have ADHD and I've done 500+
         | FocusMate sessions in the last year. I've found it sticky and
         | helpful like nothing else I've ever tried, and I can't even
         | explain why. It just feels like some kind of brain hack.
        
           | Aerbil313 wrote:
           | There was a recent discussion about body doubling on HN. One
           | of the theories is that prior to modernity, people mostly
           | worked together and that's how we are wired. Doubly so for us
           | ADHD people, who would tend to partake in hunting, war or
           | such activities.
        
         | ravetcofx wrote:
         | There are free discord groups for this too
        
           | jaboutboul wrote:
           | Care to share some, friend?
        
           | stephantul wrote:
           | Very curious about this
        
           | pxoe wrote:
           | also perhaps coworking streams on twitch
           | https://www.twitch.tv/directory/all/tags/CoWorking
        
           | day_visit wrote:
           | https://discord.com/invite/study
           | 
           | This is a completely free discord server that has pomodoro
           | channels, screen share, cam share etc and also tracks your
           | progress. Hope it helps people like it has helped me.
        
         | sixpackpg wrote:
         | I 2nd focusmate. I feel like it creates an unwritten contract
         | with my partner when I state my goals for the session. If I get
         | distracted I'm disappointing more than myself. The more I work
         | with a partner the easier it is to work with focus too. Though
         | I feel it can be double edged sword in some instances where I
         | feel like I owe people progress. Though I feel that's probably
         | a me problem.
         | 
         | Once you've got a few regular partners Focusmate blossoms.
        
         | ErigmolCt wrote:
         | I've used it for writing sessions and just knocking out random
         | life admin stuff I've been avoiding forever. Definitely not
         | something I use every day, but when I'm stuck, it helps way
         | more than I expected
        
         | Aerbil313 wrote:
         | Hey, you can share your screen in Focusmate. I also started
         | doing body doubling with Focusmate & Focus101 since a month or
         | so, I read about it on HN. Agreed its extremely effective (I
         | have ADHD too). I alternate between the two services so I can
         | stay on the free tiers ;)
        
         | AbstractH24 wrote:
         | I've used focusmate on and off. Need to use it more.
         | 
         | It's not perfect for keeping me on task, but does at least keep
         | me at my desk.
        
         | mcharawi wrote:
         | I used https://www.flow.club/ which i found very helpful, they
         | do small groups rather than one on one, and you can sign up
         | ahead of time or join spontaneously
        
       | BrianHenryIE wrote:
       | Yep, my sister makes fun of me that her mere presence makes me
       | more productive. (when I shared an apartment with her in my early
       | thirties) she'd sit in my room just chatting to me and I would
       | tidy and clean without her doing anything, whereas I'd been
       | meaning to do that for months.
       | 
       | I suggested the idea of a responsiblabuddy website today to my
       | wife - if we're both in the same town I'd commit to coming to
       | your house on Saturday and you'd commit to coming to mine on
       | Sunday and I'd finally tidy my shed / weld those batteries / list
       | those items on fb marketplace etc. Then I realised I'd need a
       | responsabilabuddy to get me to start and finish the website!
       | 
       | There was a guy running a co-working space in Dublin (Ireland)
       | who would open it up on the occasional Sunday for "Sideproject
       | Sundays" which I found great for focus.
       | 
       | Edit: there are no search results for "responsiblabuddy", I know
       | I didn't come up with that term
        
         | MasterBel2 wrote:
         | try "responsibilibuddy" :)
        
         | fsiefken wrote:
         | the term 'accountability partner' is used
        
       | mrmincent wrote:
       | I wfh pretty much 100%, and have inattentive adhd. I'll
       | occasionally go spend a day at a WeWork, either with other
       | workmates, or by myself.
       | 
       | On days that I'm with workmates, I get nothing done. On days I'm
       | by myself, sitting by strangers, I'm really productive. I can
       | just lock in and chug through my work. It never made sense to me
       | until I learned about body-doubling, kind of feels like what I
       | was inadvertently doing on those solo days.
        
         | AbstractH24 wrote:
         | I have a similar phenomenon - I wfh and if my wife is home
         | while I try to work I find it more difficult to get in the zone
         | than if I'm home alone. But if I go to a coworking space with
         | others around I find it easier.
         | 
         | Last week I finally rented a small private office. The
         | difficulty finding coworking spaces that offered external
         | monitors, 24/7 access, and direct sunlight in a part of NYC
         | that was convenient led me to just get the private office.
         | 
         | Renting was a no brainer after I tried it for a day. The little
         | room outside home for me just to work felt shockingly great.
         | But now I wonder if in time I'll regret not going with a
         | dedicated shared desk where I'm around others.
        
       | paulmooreparks wrote:
       | Wow... I start reading the article, and just as I'm thinking,
       | "This site might be helpful for finding tips on how to foc..."
       | 
       | ...A popup slides into view in the lower right-hand corner.
       | 
       | That's when I closed the tab. -\\_(tsu)_/-
        
         | jagged-chisel wrote:
         | I think you dropped this: \
        
       | rpgwaiter wrote:
       | I'm sure this works for some people. Personally I loathe social
       | interaction of any kind, and mixing that with engineering gets me
       | to my mental/emotional limits much faster.
       | 
       | On my own I can work about 2 hours on and 10 mins off, sometimes
       | for 10+ hours total. If I have a 2 hour collab coding call,
       | that's about all I'll do that's productive that day. I'l
       | literally have to spend the rest of that day mentally recovering
       | from the stress of the call.
        
         | jfrbfbreudh wrote:
         | Same here. I started an in-office job recently as the company's
         | highest ranking engineer and my productivity has plummeted vs
         | WFH.
         | 
         | I found myself having to allocate mental bandwidth to my
         | environment to allow for the possibility of being interrupted
         | by others, so I ended up both less productive and more tired.
        
           | dlivingston wrote:
           | Are you in an open office? I found that to be extremely
           | fatiguing relative to a private office, a shared office, or
           | even a cubicle.
        
           | criddell wrote:
           | What you see as an interruption is somebody else clearing
           | their path. It could be that your personal productivity drop
           | is resulting in a productivity gain for the group.
        
         | lurkshark wrote:
         | Whenever I read about pair programming as a standard technique
         | (like XP) it sounds so great in theory but in practice I find
         | it extremely draining whenever I've dabbled.
        
           | pydry wrote:
           | If you have psychological safety and develop a bond of trust
           | with the person it is far less draining. Those things need to
           | be developed and the working environment needs to make them
           | possible, though.
           | 
           | I find that the fact that I rarely get stuck for long and the
           | mistakes I make tend to get caught more quickly makes pairing
           | vastly more productive in practice.
           | 
           | The productivity isnt directly in the speed of code output
           | but the compounded effect over time of it being higher
           | quality - meaning vastly less time doing post hoc debugging,
           | bugfixing, reworking code, etc. It is invisible over the
           | space of one or two tickets, visible over weeks and
           | overwhelming over months.
           | 
           | At one company my pairing team routinely (and quietly) worked
           | 9-3:30pm or 4pm while the surrounding nonpairing teams worked
           | overtime and still delivered way less. If you can nail it it
           | really is almost unreasonably effective.
        
             | kayodelycaon wrote:
             | It also depends on the person and the problem and the
             | problem. :)
             | 
             | My thinking isn't logical and it doesn't use language
             | internally. It's difficult to explain but, due to mental
             | disability I'm using my visual memory to do all of my
             | information processing.
             | 
             | Let's say it is not easy to describe a picture in words if
             | things get complex.
        
           | jim-jim-jim wrote:
           | Like other bad ideas (TDD) it seemed to rise to prominence
           | during the heydey of Ruby and untyped JS, when it was so much
           | easier to fuck everything up. I think lots of managers
           | haven't written a line of code since then and still hold such
           | a cargo cult mentality about prescribing it.
           | 
           | It does a massive disservice to everybody involved,
           | especially juniors who are never given the chance to prove
           | themselves.
        
           | whstl wrote:
           | Probably the most stressful portion of my career was when I
           | was doing mandatory pair programming in a shop where the
           | manager came from Thoughtworks.
           | 
           | Funny enough, the two guys who pushed for it never did any
           | pairing.
           | 
           | The CEO put the kibosh on it when he noticed the staff was
           | not only unproductive but also massively unhappy.
        
           | darkwater wrote:
           | In general I agree but with a caveat: for me it's draining
           | when there is a big difference in thought speed/way of
           | thinking between me and my peer. If I'm with someone "on the
           | same page" we can achieve awesome results, but if OTOH I have
           | to explain why my brain just jumped to that other part, give
           | context etc this is terribly draining for me as well, and
           | after a 2 hours session I'm out for 2-3 hours when I need to
           | recharge.
        
             | drowsspa wrote:
             | Yeah, I find it specially frustrating to do it with a slow
             | reader. Like, in 2 seconds I can scan the page and see that
             | what I need isn't there, and the other person is there
             | taking like 1 minute to read everything... Or the opposite,
             | there is the keyword jumping at my eyes and the other
             | person takes so long to even find it. There's also the
             | whole issue of the person not wanting to discuss about
             | anything deeper other than the task immediately at hand.
             | 
             | But when I do with someone faster and that actually likes
             | to discuss the implications, philosophy behind what we're
             | doing it's amazing
        
         | yaomtc wrote:
         | What type of ADHD do you have? Primarily inattentive,
         | hyperactive-impulsive, or combined?
        
           | rpgwaiter wrote:
           | Idk, was diagnosed very young and haven't seen anyone
           | professionally about it as an adult. Tbh I didn't know there
           | were different subtypes until your comment.
           | 
           | I struggled a lot with impulse control but that's managed
           | well with meds. I often "zone out" when doing.. well pretty
           | much anything that I'm not very interested in
        
           | unethical_ban wrote:
           | Not the OP, but I have the "yeah you have ADHD according to
           | this survey" from my GP, along with an adderall Rx. I didn't
           | know there were documented subtypes.
        
         | ErigmolCt wrote:
         | Honestly, your solo workflow sounds super efficient. If you've
         | found a rhythm that lets you focus and stay productive without
         | burning out, that's gold.
        
       | whatever1 wrote:
       | I just want to get to work from 10pm to 4am. Just me my music and
       | the night highway / city /nature sounds. Anything is possible in
       | that timeframe.
       | 
       | Too bad this is incompatible with the society. So we got to pay
       | the context switching tax.
        
         | 47282847 wrote:
         | The last time I had a sort-of externally imposed schedule was
         | at school. At university, attendance wasn't required, nobody
         | cared as long as I passed the tests. Since then, which is over
         | 20 years ago, I have exclusively worked jobs that are WFH, with
         | teams on various time zones and frequent travel (for others,
         | not me), so everybody is used to scheduling calls via doodle
         | etc.
        
       | t0lo wrote:
       | I have a family member who does this. But I think it's more
       | because they've fallen down an internet rabbit hole which has
       | basically removed all personal autonomy. They just do it because
       | everyone else is doing it. It's just called working with someone
       | else.
        
       | neilv wrote:
       | > _What would chi have to do with a body double? The body double
       | might be a chi balancer or protective barrier helping to contain
       | and calm the energy in and around the person with ADHD._
       | 
       | Does the writer believe that, or are they pandering?
        
         | 47282847 wrote:
         | In modern terms, it is nervous system co-regulation, and, yes,
         | that's a thing.
         | 
         | Many people with ADHD also suffer from complex PTSD (see
         | comorbidity studies), and unless treated, this has effects like
         | social anxiety and emotional dysregulation.
         | 
         | Emotional neglect in early childhood for example can be a
         | 'silent', non-obvious factor at play here (even caring parents
         | can be emotionally unavailable for longer periods of time due
         | to environmental or personal reasons!), which for the later
         | adult means they have not (yet) learned the skill to regulate
         | their nervous system on their own and can make use of a
         | replacement 'caretaker'.
        
       | wormius wrote:
       | My roommate comes in and talks, and while they're doing that I
       | automatically start cleaning my room. I am a slob otherwise. But
       | something about that, it gives me a chance to be away from
       | "online" while also giving me a sort of mental
       | "space"/distraction so I'm not focused/anxious/worried and seems
       | to help me reduce my "executive dysfunction". I also have a
       | tendency to place self-demands and so it makes me doing things I
       | want to do (not like cleaning room but projects) more difficulty
       | because I feel the pressure to do it, so I resist. Having someone
       | in the room helps me relax that self-demand. I don't "should" I
       | just "do".
       | 
       | I used to do a lot more socially and my computer was in the
       | living room with the roomie, but I'm just in my room most of the
       | time, and this is making me think - maybe I should go back to the
       | living room with my computer (since she's out there too most
       | days), maybe that will help me be more productive in
       | programming/projects, etc...
        
         | deinonychus wrote:
         | >My roommate comes in and talks, and while they're doing that I
         | automatically start cleaning my room.
         | 
         | The moment a guest enters my apartment, my body immediately
         | begins cleaning my kitchen and putting away dishes and cleaning
         | up messes or tidying my living room.
         | 
         | I never thought of this in the body doubling context, but as a
         | self-soothing thing for social pressure. Or maybe genuine guilt
         | for the state of my apartment. It gives me something to do
         | instead of just standing around maintaining eye contact (and
         | the second effect of making the place nicer to exist in, for me
         | and my guest).
         | 
         | Kind of reminds me of another social self-soothing thing, where
         | if I'm not entirely comfortable with a guest (a newer friends
         | or romantic partner) I subconsciously place something in
         | between us, like standing on opposite sides of the kitchen
         | island.
         | 
         | >Having someone in the room helps me relax that self-demand. I
         | don't "should" I just "do".
         | 
         | I feel this in my bones. I've been living alone for a few years
         | and I'm actually going to move in with a roommate soon to see
         | if it can keep me "online" more often without draining me. I
         | totally think it's a good idea to try hang or work in the
         | living room with your laptop.
        
       | onemoresoop wrote:
       | I may have ADHD, I never went for a diagnosis and found body
       | doubling useful at times, especially when I was in school some
       | decades ago, back then I had no name for it. However, I find
       | white noise very helpful with staying on the task and with
       | increased focus. My company moved, about a year ago, into a very
       | cramped office that is also extremely noisy. This exasperated me,
       | I would get drained of energy in a couple of hours and my focus
       | was being severy affected. I even considered quitting and looking
       | for something else. As a last resort I started listening to white
       | noise. I've been using white noise (white+brown+pink) for about a
       | year now and find that it helps not only with cancelling out the
       | noise but with focus and staying on task in general. I even use
       | it at home at times. I know this may not be useful for everybody
       | but I'm sure it could help out some of you. I use
       | https://noises.online/ and mix all the types of white noise at
       | the same time for maximim coverage but any type of white noise
       | generator would do. To me it feels like being close to a
       | waterfall. At first my ears hurt a bit after a few hours of white
       | noise but got used to it after a while.
        
         | felipeerias wrote:
         | White noise and similar soundscapes (rain, water...) help me
         | focus much better than pure silence.
         | 
         | Perhaps a predictable sound that drowns all others allows my
         | brain to "shut down" the little part of it that is on edge
         | waiting for noises and distractions.
        
         | steve_adams_86 wrote:
         | There's an app/service called Endel which makes music I find
         | helpful for focus too. My family finds it eerily void and dead,
         | like it's technically music but lacks any soul. I don't mind; I
         | don't listen to it for entertainment. It's like the white
         | noise.
         | 
         | I also like the white/brown/pink noise a lot. I think sometimes
         | I crave a bit more texture and feature in the noise and so I'll
         | pull up endel, but I get by really well without it a lot of the
         | time too.
        
         | sixpackpg wrote:
         | I feel the same about being drained with noises. I use white
         | noise too. But make sure to only use white noise when I want to
         | focus, as it feels like I've conditioned myself to be focused
         | when it's on. Previously, I had it permanently on and I found
         | the effectiveness dropped
        
         | 01100011 wrote:
         | Beyond type II bipolar, I don't have a diagnosis for anything
         | psychological but I'm pretty sure I have ADHD with a touch of
         | Asperger's(based mostly on a review of my behaviors over the
         | past 50 years). But yeah I've found "smoothed brown noise" to
         | work wonders.
         | 
         | I also had some success with wearing a snug fitting balaclava.
         | It's odd, but it worked.
         | 
         | Nicotine helped, but I now have NAFLD and nicotine might be a
         | factor in it so I quit.
         | 
         | Modafinil really worked, despite leaving my body feeling
         | drained and sore. I didn't want to keep taking it though.
        
           | AbstractH24 wrote:
           | > Beyond type II bipolar, I don't have a diagnosis for
           | anything psychological
           | 
           | The word "beyond" is doing some heavy lifting in that
           | sentence (I say as someone with the same diagnosis)
        
           | kayodelycaon wrote:
           | In my experience, bipolar can be one symptom of larger brain
           | problems.
           | 
           | You end up with symptoms of a lot of different mental
           | disorders that have a different underlying cause than normal
           | for those disorders.
           | 
           | For example, I have a rather severe impairment of executive
           | function. I have a diagnosis of ADHD, but my internal
           | experience doesn't seem to match what I've read about other
           | people with ADHD and none of the first or second line
           | treatments for ADHD work on me.
           | 
           | I also have a significant overlap in the symptoms of autism,
           | but I do not have the internal experience of someone who is
           | autistic.
        
         | ErigmolCt wrote:
         | That actually sounds super familiar... I've had a similar
         | experience with noisy work environments just tanking my energy
         | and focus. White noise is such an underrated lifesaver. It's
         | wild how something so simple can create that mental "bubble"
         | where your brain finally chills out enough to focus.
        
         | kristianp wrote:
         | What do you do about notifications from Slack/Emails/Teams
         | messages?
        
           | lionkor wrote:
           | Not OP, but it's good to turn them off for sessions of focus.
           | They can, almost always, wait.
        
           | wpm wrote:
           | I have my notifications for Slack and Outlook turned off. I
           | get a Dock tile badge, and Slack does ping my wrist via
           | smartwatch, but not much else. Most emails I get are not
           | vitally important, nor do most of the things I get on Slack
           | immediately required reading or actionable.
        
           | halfcat wrote:
           | Notifications need to be off if you're doing focused work,
           | and good managers will not only know this, but support you in
           | it, or even expect you to set this boundary in order to do
           | your best work.
           | 
           | Simplest version is to have agreed upon avenues of
           | escalation, which can be _"if someone doesn't respond in the
           | timeframe you need, pick up the phone and call them, and if
           | they still don't respond, pick up the phone and call their
           | boss"_.
           | 
           | Then from your end, you just need to make sure your boss is
           | set as a favorite contact or whatever is required for them to
           | be allowed through your do-not-disturb settings.
           | 
           | You can also set other routines like weekly check in meetings
           | with certain groups. Often times people don't need you right
           | now, but they think blowing you up on slack is the only way
           | to get what they need. By setting aside a couple hours one
           | morning and having several "office hours" style meetings, you
           | give people the comfort of knowing they have a time they can
           | get your attention, and that often cuts down on 50-80% of the
           | ad-hoc interruptions.
        
         | spit2wind wrote:
         | Rather than stream noise over the network, I've generated it
         | locally with either Sox or Chuck. I've since lost the Chuck
         | script, but this is one for Sox:
         | 
         | sox --no-show-progress -c 2 --null synth 3600 brownnoise band
         | -n 1500 499 tremolo 0.05 43 reverb 19 bass -11 treble -1 vol
         | 14dB fade q .01 repeat 9999
        
           | stutonk wrote:
           | Brown noise in Chuck. Adjust the filter cutoff (freq) to your
           | desired comfort level.                 CNoise noise => LPF
           | lpf => dac;       noise.mode("flip");       lpf.freq(120);
           | while(true) {        1::second => now;       }
        
         | dcminter wrote:
         | Not ADHD (as far as I know), but I'm terribly prone to
         | procrastination. I too find white noise helpful - I use and
         | would recommemd an Android app called "A Soft Murmer" which
         | lets you have rain noise and throws in a rumble of thunder etc.
         | from time to time.
        
         | CuriousSkeptic wrote:
         | > my ears hurt a bit after a few hours of white noise
         | 
         | Seems like something that could lead to permanent hearing
         | damage
        
         | Teleoflexuous wrote:
         | I come to shill my webapp for background noise because it has a
         | twist not appearing in anyone's recommendations.
         | 
         | Whenever I'm switching between tasks (thinking vs reading vs
         | writing) I'd either turn the sound off or on, given I needed
         | more or less attention at the moment. Minor problem with that
         | was that sometimes unexpectedly I'd stick with the new task
         | longer than expected, start to get bored, but w/e background
         | sound I had on didn't match the task, so I'd look for something
         | else... Overall a bit annoying for some groups of tasks.
         | 
         | I'm experimenting with mixing music with podcasts with extra
         | noise and turning it on and off, but I also made
         | https://stimulantnoi.se/ (with extra reading on psychological
         | basis of the design and link to open source standalone desktop
         | app on https://incentiveassemblage.substack.com/p/why-is-
         | nobody-ser...). It allows for mixing (including uploading
         | additional) sounds into sets and binds switching between those
         | whole sets to media keys for quick access.
        
           | jimmydddd wrote:
           | Nice job. I played with the industrial set (grouping) and it
           | worked well. The groupings concept looks good. And the
           | intensity adjusting is an interesting concept. I've tried or
           | signed up for a lot of ambient sites over the years, and this
           | one definitely introduces a few concepts I haven't previously
           | seen. Good luck!
        
           | noahjk wrote:
           | For some reason I don't hear anything in Safari on macOS. I
           | tried disabling all of my browser-based content blockers. I
           | see the 'audio playing' icon but I don't hear anything.
        
             | Teleoflexuous wrote:
             | Oh, I'll check what's going on in Safari. Thanks for the
             | report, if you could forward me if there's any error in
             | console, I'd greatly appreciate it.
             | 
             | It's especially surprising if the 'audio playing' icon is
             | there, since that should be coming from the browser itself.
        
           | deinonychus wrote:
           | Interesting. I'm surprised how much I enjoyed the Human
           | playlist, especially the High setting with those percussive
           | sounds that were quite grating at first. I could easily see
           | myself getting in a productive trance to that. It reminded me
           | of why I like techno, drone, and ambient music. I'm surprised
           | how well BPM Forest worked too. Imo it could use some variety
           | in kicks and longer forest/rain loops.
        
             | Teleoflexuous wrote:
             | Thanks for checking it out. It could definitely use larger
             | library of sounds in general.
             | 
             | Ideally, I'd like to allow sharing and storing of presets,
             | but it was simply out of scope for the PoC - the
             | functionality is there in the desktop version btw, but it
             | on the other hand asks users to download an unknown .exe
             | and then share mp3 and json files with each other, putting
             | us firmly in the mid-90s'.
        
         | nexus6 wrote:
         | MyNoise.Net is also very good.
        
         | antfarm wrote:
         | I like to listen to https://coffitivity.com to stay
         | concentrated.
        
           | yamrzou wrote:
           | These don't work for me. My brain knows I'm deceiving it, so
           | it doesn't respond to this kind of stimulation.
        
         | snozolli wrote:
         | Here's an HN submission from 2022 that I have bookmarked. NYT:
         | Can Brown Noise Turn Off Your Brain?
         | 
         | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32998960
        
         | TomK32 wrote:
         | Unless is a very small company you won't be the only one with
         | this problem and management should do something about if it
         | drains your energy which long-term will cause you health
         | problems.
         | 
         | To help me with my ADHD (diagnosed at 42) I put on some
         | Jungle[A], listen to the repetitive Mountain[B] or even a
         | modern classic like Phillip Glass or Terry Riley[C]. I know it
         | sounds mad, but it gets some body part whipping and just
         | overwhelms any distracting thought I could possibly have.
         | 
         | [A] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m7boqBRRiQw [B]
         | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DGyVgm6uiSk [C]
         | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XRaa34E8tXQ
        
         | jbaber wrote:
         | 1. I hope you're saying your ears hurt from physically wearing
         | headphones, not from volume. 2. Many responses in this thread
         | self-diagnose with many disorders because of the need to wear
         | headphones in an open office environment. Open office
         | environments are like emergency rooms filled with crying babies
         | -- they feel almost intended to distract. This is true of
         | "baseline", "normal", "non-disordered", whatever the codeword
         | of the day is for average humans.
         | 
         | Open offices save employers more money (they hope) in space
         | than they lose in lowered productivity. There's no reason to
         | think your average Joe or Jane can just carry on working in one
         | as efficiently as in a private office.
        
         | drzaiusx11 wrote:
         | as an AuDHDer, noise cancellation and white noise are critical
         | for my mental health (at work and elsewhere), but near constant
         | _interruptions_ of my flow state by coworkers in the same
         | physical space causes me almost visceral pain, and has only
         | been amplified to unsustainable levels (for me) from forced
         | RTO. I started fully remote at my current employer, so I
         | communicate effectively and prolifically on async comm channels
         | like slack, but even that can get to distractible levels for
         | me. I recently implemented schedulable "office hours" for folks
         | to access my time, so we'll see if that helps in either case.
         | 
         | If my current mitigations don't help, i'll be forced to file
         | for a wfh exception, but those tend to be denied where i work
         | (fang). I'm already on medications to manage my stressors (of
         | which there are many), so i feel like i'm almost out of options
         | in an RTO world...
         | 
         | This issue is compounded by presenting as neurotypical, as i'm
         | forced to mask when sharing physical space with neurotypicals.
         | this is exhausting on its own, and i've found to be largely
         | unavoidable in a large setting via trial and error spanning 20+
         | years in industry.
         | 
         | AuDHD is almost a full contradictions of needs. I excel with
         | body doubles, but they can't regularly interact with me without
         | me loosing the current "thread". I crave novelty, but require
         | structure. It's a difficult thing to understand, let alone live
         | with...
        
           | drzaiusx11 wrote:
           | if my post above resonates with you, i can say from personal
           | experience that inaction and carrying on the status quo
           | (continual masking, enduring the "pain", etc) inevitably
           | leads to burnout and possible further mental and physical
           | health complications. Please don't just "tough it out", you
           | won't like the end results. It takes a toll on you physically
           | and mentally that can take months or years to recover from
           | (if you ever do)
        
           | brailsafe wrote:
           | You're using "AuDHD" quite liberally, is this a serious
           | portmanteau you've adopted as a label after getting diagnosed
           | for both or either?
        
             | drzaiusx11 wrote:
             | i have a formal diagnosis for both, and yes this is a
             | common abbreviation used within the autistic + adhd
             | community.
             | 
             | edit: i probably should have lead with what that
             | abbreviation meant, but although counterintuitive they're
             | common comorbidities
        
         | riedel wrote:
         | I actually wrote my diploma theses for 6 month in a very
         | crowded student bar / cafe . I didn't even suspected such
         | diagnosis, but I guess it is not so much about diagnosis as
         | finding the things that work. A former colleague always had TV
         | series on while working. Brains are sometimes strange. Also now
         | beyond 45, it seems I have to find new things that work for me.
        
       | growingkittens wrote:
       | Body doubles work especially well for tasks that involve changing
       | visual context and sequencing.
       | 
       | As a child, I noticed that my brain worked differently when
       | someone was in my room. I begged my mom to stay in my room so I
       | could clean my room, but she didn't understand what the point
       | was.
        
       | esaym wrote:
       | Wish I could read it. The menu stays open on Firefox even if you
       | hit the X.
       | 
       | https://imgur.com/a/T6tY7dc
        
         | janwillemb wrote:
         | I could read it using the reader view
        
           | riedel wrote:
           | Sometimes it needs those constructive comments. Thanks, this
           | worked for me.
        
         | UncleSlacky wrote:
         | I blocked the menu using Ublock Origin.
        
       | Xiol32 wrote:
       | This article is clearly written to the word count and not the
       | overall content. A painful read.
        
         | bcoughlan wrote:
         | I'm nearly certain that the images and the text are AI
         | generated from other sources and perhaps tweaked a bit. The
         | headings are the giveaway. Low signal-to-noise ratio.
         | 
         | Google search results is full of this stuff, but first time
         | seeing it at the top of HN
        
           | ascorbic wrote:
           | The article says it was originally written in 1996. It's on
           | the site of the Attention Deficit Disorders Association. The
           | images are generic stock photography.
        
             | netsharc wrote:
             | If the URL claiming uploaded in 2015 can be believed (i.e.
             | in the time before the Internet was 95% sewage), this could
             | be that original article: https://www.gettingclear.com/wp-
             | content/uploads/2015/05/Body...
             | 
             | It's much more fucking concise than the drivel of the
             | republished stuff.
        
       | ErigmolCt wrote:
       | I love how something so low-tech like just sitting next to
       | someone can short-circuit the ADHD chaos spiral. Like, no fancy
       | app, no productivity hack, just a warm body in a chair nearby.
       | It's kind of beautiful.
        
       | snvzz wrote:
       | Website overrides browser scroll behavior, forcing laggy (i.e.
       | animated) scroll.
       | 
       | As such, it's extremely irritating.
       | 
       | Archive version[0] does not have such problem.
       | 
       | 0. https://archive.is/r5SZc
        
       | snvzz wrote:
       | Requiring another person is a major issue.
       | 
       | I wonder if a plushie can act as substitute.
       | 
       | Keep it on the corner of the desk when on task. Maybe have
       | different plushies for different tasks.
        
       | tofflos wrote:
       | What's unique about this? This is basically what every parent and
       | teacher already does.
        
         | janwillemb wrote:
         | True, but this is about adults in a professional context.
        
       | ulrischa wrote:
       | This is why childs in Germany get a Schulbegleiter. A person that
       | just goes with the child to school
        
         | tom89999 wrote:
         | Ich muss mich aber fragen warum dies notig wurde. Niemand an
         | meiner Schule hatte eine Allergie, Erkrankung dieser Art oder
         | irgendwas. Was ist seit den 1980ern passiert? Sind es
         | Umweltgifte? Farb- und Aromastoffe? Zuviel Susses? Ich kann es
         | mir kaum vorstellen dass das menschliche Erbgut so kaputt
         | gegangen ist. Wir haben eine exzellente medizinische Versorgung
         | und Forschung und Entwicklung gehabt. Mein Frau lehrt an einer
         | Waldorf-Schule. Die Kinder leiden wirklich keinen Hunger und
         | Not. Leider aber werden viele Kinder gekundigt da sie
         | verhaltensauffallig und somit unbeschulbar sind. Es kann doch
         | nicht sein, ich wurde es verstehen wenn die pure Armut oder
         | Gewalt in der Familie die Kinder kaputtmacht. Sind es die
         | Smartphones?
        
           | heeen2 wrote:
           | An einer Waldorfschule hast Du selection bias
        
       | Tabular-Iceberg wrote:
       | This is where remote work goes off the rails, but then it's wild
       | how intentionally isolating the implementation of RTO that many
       | large corporations are doing now.
       | 
       | They line people up in rows, put headphones on their heads and
       | wire them up to Teams and Jira to spend the whole day in
       | isolation. Because taking a walk to another floor of building to
       | talk to someone like a normal human being is too wasteful, but
       | somehow forcing everyone to spend hours commuting isn't.
       | 
       | It's the worst of both worlds.
        
         | lionkor wrote:
         | That sounds awful. I go to the office to chat with everyone,
         | it's incredible how much work gets done when you can just walk
         | over to someone and debug or rubbery ducky in real time.
        
           | Tabular-Iceberg wrote:
           | Yes. I got fired from that place for being too negative and
           | now work somewhere much more sane.
           | 
           | The CEO to his credit went on a campaign to improve the
           | culture, but middle management obstinately refused to change
           | a single thing. I recently heard he got fired by the board
           | too, go figure.
        
             | stitched2gethr wrote:
             | Remote work did a number on middle management. When many of
             | them realized that if they aren't the strategic brain at
             | the top, and they aren't individual contributers, and they
             | can supervise butts in chais, then they aren't actually
             | providing that much value.
        
               | firoso wrote:
               | So adapt. Learn to curate your team and their work. Lead
               | by helping people organize, getting obstacles out of
               | their way, shielding them from alarmist BS from higher
               | management, and stop worrying about butts in seats. Focus
               | on agreements, goals, commitments, accountability,
               | growth, and coaching.
               | 
               | It's not that hard.
        
           | hdjjhhvvhga wrote:
           | Everybody is different. When I visit the office sometimes, I
           | do it to socialize and talk about things not related to work
           | mainly. And then I get back to do the actual work. If I need
           | to communicate with someone, I simply ask them for their time
           | - they can get back to me whenever they are free. This system
           | serves me and my coworkers well but it's obvious there are
           | many people who prefer synchronous in-person communication
           | for most tasks.
        
             | lionkor wrote:
             | I don't prefer the in-person communication personally, but
             | I know it's more productive for me, so I do it and end up
             | preferring it. The same way I prefer clean code; it makes
             | my and the companies life easier. Makes more money. I'm
             | German, and it's painfully obvious.
        
         | anshumankmr wrote:
         | Yeah I spent 2 hours in commute to attend Teams calls.. yay?
        
         | saghm wrote:
         | > They line people up in rows, put headphones on their heads
         | and wire them up to Teams and Jira to spend the whole day in
         | isolation. Because taking a walk to another floor of building
         | to talk to someone like a normal human being is too wasteful,
         | but somehow forcing everyone to spend hours commuting isn't.
         | 
         | Sure, this is pretty much exactly what I'd expect from
         | companies; wasting the employee's time doesn't matter, but
         | wasting the _company's_ time is anathema. In the absence of
         | something to push back against it, companies will always make
         | decisions like this. We're only a bit over a century and a few
         | repealed regulations from another Triangle Shirtwaist Factory
         | after all.
        
           | erikerikson wrote:
           | Except we're largely talking about salaried employees who
           | aren't paid by the hour.
        
             | TeMPOraL wrote:
             | They may not be paid by the hour, but they're being
             | _graded_ by the hour.
             | 
             | It may be beneficial to the company to save overall
             | "company time" at expense of wasting time for many
             | individual employees, but I don't think this analysis
             | accounts for the costs of people leaving or being fired.
             | Both of those are very costly, but they're step changes and
             | hard to attribute to any specific cause.
        
               | erikerikson wrote:
               | I've been evaluated half yearly or annually, never hourly
               | that I've known.
               | 
               | Do you work in HR?
        
               | tanjtanjtanj wrote:
               | The above poster was fairly obviously using a figure of
               | speech, they did not mean that there was a specific
               | formal evaluation like a mid-year review every hour.
               | 
               | Think about what the average salaried person (especially
               | outside of tech) might get dinged on either explicitly or
               | implicitly. Come in at 10:00 every day? Not being "seen"
               | enough in your seat or around the office? Not replying
               | quickly enough in Teams/slack? Jira/Github statistics?
               | These are not things that do not reflect a salaried
               | worker's output but you're still getting evaluated by
               | them on an minute by minute, hour by hour, day by ay
               | basis.
        
               | erikerikson wrote:
               | This has sincerely not been my experience, even as my
               | role has blended into management adjacency over the
               | years.
        
               | TeMPOraL wrote:
               | But surely you experienced the fact that being paid a
               | salary is a matter of contract, while being evaluated
               | (formally and informally) for productivity is _not_
               | independent of time. The company may find it valuable on
               | the net to waste your time with distractions and bad
               | process, but _your manager_ may not know it and think you
               | 're just lazy.
        
               | erikerikson wrote:
               | I have certainly experienced management that took many
               | actions which reduced productivity.
               | 
               | I think the biggest blind spot is management's negative
               | emotional externalities which cost far more than anything
               | else. Many of us got into this because we love it, let's
               | us sincerely do our job well, please!
        
         | suzzer99 wrote:
         | Working in an open office on cool stuff with legitimate friends
         | was the best work experience I've ever had by far. Most days it
         | didn't even feel like work. Now I wfh full time with people who
         | are just coworkers and I'm miserable.
        
           | szszrk wrote:
           | I feel a bit like that, when we in the team started to
           | introduce agile practices. Corporate agile practices, of
           | course.
           | 
           | And while some of those aspects are important and we sucked
           | at it, we are also stripping away any relation we had with
           | each other. Insight into what we really struggle with,
           | releasing tension...
           | 
           | Twist is that it's driven by youngest team members and they
           | love it, because that's what they did in past jobs. So we cut
           | some meetings time, but now we have no idea what we are doing
           | and need more meetings ;) Incentive to actually be on the
           | same page dropped, we are becoming strangers.
           | 
           | I still struggle if I should keep trying to fix that or if
           | it's just "going upstream" and will make me seen as problem
           | maker.
        
           | TeMPOraL wrote:
           | That's the core aspect of my open-office experience too.
           | Working together on cool stuff with legitimate friends? Best
           | thing ever. Take away even one of {together, cool stuff,
           | legitimate friends} - just a single thing - and open-office
           | instantly becomes _psychological torture_ for me, because for
           | some reason, my mind parses this as feeling under threat, and
           | gives me large amount of anxiety to deal with.
        
           | swader999 wrote:
           | Volunteer for something your interested in locally on the
           | side. It's the only way I stay sane.
        
           | darkwater wrote:
           | Bingo if you are in your late 20s or early 30s. But then life
           | and priorities change...
        
           | roland35 wrote:
           | I also had a fun experience in an open office, but the key
           | element of it was that the office was only about 15-20 people
           | and we were all on the same project and team.
           | 
           | When I visited the Big Tech office (as a remote employee), it
           | was an entire floor with rows of unrelated people all
           | together. My team was together but it felt much different,
           | more distracting, and hard to have a conversation without
           | feeling like you are bothering other people.
        
             | AbstractH24 wrote:
             | I'm part of the minority of folks who think the value of in
             | office outweighs the cost. Particularly amongst those who
             | aren't in management.
             | 
             | But only if you are working in close proximity to those
             | working on the same projects and leadership going up at
             | least two levels. (leadership, not management)
             | 
             | Why large companies with globally distributed teams see
             | value in having employees in office sitting side by side in
             | isolation is beyond me.
        
               | keybored wrote:
               | That you say "two levels" suggests formal hierarchy,
               | which is management.
        
               | AbstractH24 wrote:
               | I mean, not just the people who ensure ICs show up to
               | work and complete their task, but the people who are
               | responsible for determining strategy, vision, and
               | direction.
               | 
               | Because there is bidirectional benefit in those people
               | having casual interactions with ICs. Both as individuals
               | and as a group.
        
         | pydry wrote:
         | It's about maintaining a feeling of control, it's not about
         | collaboration. Thats just the lie they tell to RTO.
         | 
         | Ive worked in:
         | 
         | 1) collaborative in office
         | 
         | 2) uncollaborative in office
         | 
         | 3) collaborative wfh
         | 
         | 4) uncollaborative wfh
         | 
         | Personally i found 4 to be the most tortuous (because of ADHD),
         | but 2 isnt much better.
         | 
         | 1 and 3 i think are roughly equally good while you're there but
         | wfh has so many ancillary benefits like not commuting that it
         | wins overall.
         | 
         | After experiencing 4 and before I experienced 3 I actually
         | desperately wanted to RTO.
         | 
         | I think a collaborative environment is only quite tangentially
         | related to inhabiting the same space, though. It's more about
         | culture, trust and shared goals.
        
           | AbstractH24 wrote:
           | The trouble with 3 is that while achievable, it requires an
           | incredibly high degree of intentionality and strong
           | leadership.
        
             | pydry wrote:
             | 1 and 3 both do.
        
               | AbstractH24 wrote:
               | Certainly
               | 
               | But the bar is even higher for 3 than 1 and likelihood of
               | it occurring organically lower.
        
             | drzaiusx11 wrote:
             | i don't see how leadership has anything to do with it, at
             | least any more than any other collaborating members of the
             | team. all parties need "good enough" communication skills,
             | which can be learned (to an extent). poor communication
             | skills regardless of in office or remote will tank a
             | project and if systemic, a company
        
               | AbstractH24 wrote:
               | Because in a fully remote environment it is easy to
               | default to having transactional relationships and only
               | when a job responsibility requires them. Just like I do
               | with a customer service rep.
               | 
               | You don't see your coworkers in the hall, overhear them
               | talking to their kid, or talk while working. Certainly
               | don't by default interact with folks who work in
               | parallel.
               | 
               | Not saying that in office means these things will
               | certainly occur. But because by default these
               | interactions don't occur, the likelihood of them
               | happening organically is quite low.
        
               | drzaiusx11 wrote:
               | i have many personal connections to my remote colleagues,
               | but i don't see how that's required or relevant for going
               | beyond "transactional" work. i could be off base, but i
               | think you mean working the minimum that is required for
               | getting "the job done". depending on your intended work
               | life balance, this may or may not be a desirable outcome.
               | obviously employers want more, but that doesn't mean
               | they're entitled to it. most things in life are
               | transactional, at least from my experience. ymmv
        
           | drzaiusx11 wrote:
           | for me, #3 is the ideal, but communication and collaboration
           | being primarily async is the key. face to face has a place
           | but 90% of the time it "could/should have been an email", and
           | just exhausts me like nothing else... ("high functioning"
           | AuDHDer)
        
         | whatnow37373 wrote:
         | The commute isn't paid, so who cares. Let them drive 4 hours a
         | day. But don't you dare stealing a few minutes in idle talk,
         | because yes, _not_ being valuable every second you are on
         | company premises is _stealing_. You should feel bad. Now put on
         | your headphones and work through your task list, you miserable
         | ant.
        
         | swader999 wrote:
         | Meh, we haven't seen anything yet. Just wait till the AI
         | managers take over. Keystroke, app usage, bugs, velocity, eye
         | tracking, stool samples... All logged and dash boarded in real
         | time.
        
           | LadyCailin wrote:
           | "Privacy regulations aren't important, because I have nothing
           | to hide."
        
           | eru wrote:
           | If the AI is any good, it won't need the stool samples: it
           | can infer all that data well enough just from your webcam.
        
           | Tabular-Iceberg wrote:
           | The real value of AI is if they could make one that is
           | capable of looking at dashboards. So much time is wasted
           | making dashboards that nobody cares enough to look at.
        
         | AbstractH24 wrote:
         | As much as I dislike the isolation of WFH, particularly since
         | leaving the job I had pre-2020 that began in office and started
         | doing fractional work at fully remote companies, I keep
         | reminding myself that offices aren't what they used to be.
         | 
         | Also, the kind of relationships I had in office as a 25 year
         | old grinding it out on a sales floor aren't going to be the
         | ones I'd find as a 35 year old in revenue operations.
        
         | dep_b wrote:
         | God yes. I've spent 8 years working remote before the pandemic
         | hit.
         | 
         | Only after that I started coming into offices again because my
         | local freelance customers demanded it.
         | 
         | Spent most days looking at a bunch of nerds with headphones,
         | being ignored until lunch. I had to drag people out of their
         | cocoons to have conversations. Nobody had any collaboration
         | lined up the days I came in.
         | 
         | I mean I see the collaboration thing, but most teams are more
         | autistic working in-office than I was working remote.
         | Apparently I was the only person reaching to other people all
         | the time?
        
           | Qwertious wrote:
           | You can take the tiger out of the jungle, but you can't take
           | the jungle out of the tiger.
        
         | goda90 wrote:
         | My employer was very quick to force return to office after
         | covid lockdowns. Like they were willing to pour millions into
         | subdividing offices into closets so people could isolate at
         | work even, but the county health department gave them a stern
         | look and they ended up scraping that and waiting another year
         | to force RTO.
         | 
         | But they actually put their money where their mouth is. Ad-hoc
         | conversations in the hallway, going to chat in person, etc were
         | all encouraged. Holding a meeting over Teams when everyone was
         | in office became almost a taboo. Even team building activities
         | and events saw an increase in frequency.
        
           | jvanderbot wrote:
           | I would love an offline only work environment. Just a small
           | cadre of tech obsessed smart folks working in a room and
           | talking when they need to.
           | 
           | In grad school we did this. Everyone was heads down, except
           | when they were stumped they'd go to the whiteboard, which was
           | open invitation to discuss a problem, if you had time.
           | 
           | That kind of "opt in" / volunteering help was way more trust
           | building and low pressure than pulling someone from their
           | flow to ask for help. And otherwise being around a bunch of
           | hard workers helped build motivation.
           | 
           | It just doesn't translate though. No work environment I've
           | experienced recreated that spirit of autonomy and esprit de
           | corps. Instead you get open offices and a ton of "calls" and
           | meetings subdividing time. Add in some boss standing over
           | your shoulder and you bet I'll take my basement office over
           | that any time.
        
             | leoqa wrote:
             | I experienced this environment a few times: when I was in
             | school in the CS lab, when I was working at AWS on a
             | research team building a database and when I was working at
             | a startup (early days, like 5 people). The startup scaled
             | to 100s and we lost the spirit. Since then, it's been FANG
             | with no spirit and now I've been WFH for 5 years,
             | effectively stuck in a covid lifestyle.
             | 
             | Would love to return to offline only, 20 people max
             | environment that paid the bills without worrying about
             | implosion.
        
             | perrygeo wrote:
             | I agree. Those offline jobs are highly productive and fun.
             | I'd like to think they still exist somewhere. They did 15
             | years ago. But I'm afraid a whole generation of software
             | professionals is growing up without ever experiencing it,
             | just taking the current state of the industry as the norm.
             | 
             | I like the way you frame it as an "offline only" work
             | environment. Offline vs online does seem to be the main
             | distinction here.
             | 
             | It's not the remoteness. It's the apps and the
             | intellectually-lazy culture they encourage. Slack, Jira,
             | Github, Docs, Sheets, etc. So much of modern work is
             | navigating those byzantine digital games to score virtual
             | communication points, rather than actually communicating
             | anything of value. Being terminally online is almost
             | guaranteed to lead to presence monitoring, stilted
             | communication, territoriality, lack of clarity, poor
             | product quality and dehumanization. It can happen remotely,
             | it can happen in the office. Doesn't matter. The app-
             | ification of all communication lines is what's harmful.
             | 
             | At some point, you need to stop with the digital games and
             | just use your brain. Commit to the deep work of
             | communicating. There are a shocking number of people who
             | would rather shuffle tickets around all day than read or
             | write a single coherent paragraph. Thinking in slack
             | responses and Jira tickets is a symptom of brain rot.
        
             | sneak wrote:
             | I'm quite the opposite. Whiteboards are terrible. The most
             | productive and aligned teams I've ever worked on formed on
             | irc. We don't even know each others' first names.
             | 
             | Imagine if the Linux kernel took this approach.
        
             | tass wrote:
             | My most productive ever was being in a room of 2-4 people
             | working on the same thing. Small conversations were
             | encouraged but anything unrelated was taken outside.
             | 
             | I wish I could find that again.
        
               | woleium wrote:
               | It's magic isn't it! And then it's gone, and you realize
               | you didn't appreciate it for what it was when you had it.
               | I am sure i will say this about youth when i am older
               | (still) too ;)
        
             | ironmanszombie wrote:
             | "Opt in" is exactly what I expect of people when I need
             | help. The closest implementation of your white board is me
             | using Teams to DM people for help - when they have time.
             | The expectation is they'd reply once they're free instead
             | of instantly replying with a meeting invite.
        
             | wrs wrote:
             | When I got the opportunity to build out an office for my
             | own startup, I had it designed with different environments:
             | an open office in the front, a big conference room, a few
             | medium size rooms (for solo focus, meetings, or temporary
             | workgroups), a cafe/meeting area in the back, and a nap
             | room in the quietest corner (with a couch). All the meeting
             | rooms had a big screen TV to connect to meeting rooms in
             | our other office.
             | 
             | So on any given day, you could pick the appropriate
             | environment to work in, while still being within casual
             | reach of everybody else for those impromptu conversations.
             | and of course people could have lunch together in the cafe.
             | 
             | I thought the temporary workgroup offices were a great
             | idea. A few people working on a new feature could move in
             | there for a couple of weeks to get focused time together,
             | and have daylong conversations without bugging everybody
             | else.
        
           | intothemild wrote:
           | Lol, that sounds like hell on earth to me. Do they allow
           | anything for Autistic people? or similar?
           | 
           | Cause that's just... the worst.
        
         | mr_toad wrote:
         | I pretty sure that Teams has tanked productivity in some
         | offices. It used to be that arranging a meeting required
         | finding a physical space. Now some people are spending their
         | days in back-to-back teams meetings and never get any actual
         | work done.
        
           | Eddy_Viscosity2 wrote:
           | The counter to this is that you can actually have a 5 or 10
           | minute teams call which was all that was needed to resolve
           | the issue / answer the question / or whatever the meeting was
           | about. Whereas, if it was a physical meeting in a booked room
           | then it would easily expand to fill 30 or 60min or whatever
           | time the room was booked for.
           | 
           | I see this myself. I get a teams call with a manager and a
           | few others, get something sorted and then end the call. Boom.
           | done. The same in a physical meeting would have been a huge
           | time suck.
           | 
           | Having said that. I like being in the office because there
           | are tons of coffee room and hallway conversations that would
           | not have happened if WFH, but were actually really beneficial
           | to keeping everyone informed about whats happening.
        
             | chubot wrote:
             | People used to have phone calls for this! It was on the way
             | out even 15 years ago, but a simple telephone call can get
             | people unblocked pretty efficiently
        
         | mrbluecoat wrote:
         | I work far more effectively remotely in isolation.
         | 
         | The article is specifically about those with ADD/ADHD, not a
         | generalization.
        
           | firoso wrote:
           | I have ADHD. I doubled my productivity going remote and
           | working from a well curated home office.
           | 
           | Charging station for my phone just inside the room, good
           | sitting/standing desk and chair, good laptop, with a dock, 3
           | displays. A desktop with a vertical monitor I use for teams
           | chat, technical documents, and work management only. Second
           | laptop used for secure prod access tucked under a monitor
           | riser until needed. Whiteboard. Couch with a small station
           | for engineering journaling. I also take video calls from the
           | couch often. Treadmill and elliptical, TV for watching
           | YouTube tech videos while I'm taking a fitness break,
           | bookshelves for my collected engineering journals and useful
           | books. Roughly 275 sqft. Virtual body doubling helps
           | sometimes but is hardly needed.
        
         | firoso wrote:
         | I am ADHD. I work remotely. My productivity went up
         | substantially after leaving the open office. Body doubling is
         | one of many tools, and it is not a required one. I do however
         | often livestream my coding work in an open teams chat meeting
         | and hang out with others im working with relatively often.
        
       | daenney wrote:
       | > While there's no research to prove its effectiveness [..]
       | 
       | > Originally published in 1996, this article was republished on
       | February 20th, 2025.
        
       | coldblues wrote:
       | Focusmate is probably the most popular tool in this category. I
       | don't like the other ones, I am more comfortable in a 1-1 video
       | session rather than multiple people. It works really well when I
       | want to force myself to get something done.
       | 
       | For the most comprehensive and effective solution, medication is
       | still the go-to. Disregard any stigma and misguided fears around
       | it and just get medicated.
        
       | lifeisstillgood wrote:
       | Wow - I actually do this - did not know it had a name but pairing
       | up with someone actually makes it easier (although loads of
       | coders I know dislike working with others - so pair programming
       | is an attempt to do this technique without knowing who has adhd
       | or not?
        
       | robin_reala wrote:
       | There are a bunch of "study with me" videos on YouTube that aim
       | to do a similar thing, for example
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ex_bNIFR1A
        
         | Nevermark wrote:
         | Where does specialization end?
         | 
         | Personally, I would like to vicariously YouTube double with a
         | "friend" on our private jet. For about four hours, then another
         | hour looking out the window, listening to said friend
         | continuing to work, while I enjoy a well earned inflight (I.e.
         | home made) cocktail before we land on a tropical island.
         | 
         | Someone would like to host videos like that for a living.
        
       | suzzer99 wrote:
       | I don't necessarily need someone there all the time. But talking
       | it out really helps when I need get over that hump and get going
       | on some annoying problem.
       | 
       | I've also found it helps sometimes to have the TV on in the other
       | room, on some mindless sports pundit show that I can half-listen
       | to.
       | 
       | When I have some task I don't want to do, especially if it's
       | something no one is expecting me to do right away but I still
       | need to get it done, I go to Starbucks and don't leave until it's
       | finished.
        
       | bgnn wrote:
       | This site (add.org) doesn't function on Firefox mobile.
        
         | _whiteCaps_ wrote:
         | I had to click Reader Mode to see it
        
       | INTPenis wrote:
       | This is super interesting. I can only speak anecdotally but my
       | older brother has ADD and he has already spent 4-5 weeks writing
       | a powershell script to automate a trivial task at work.
       | 
       | But whenever I visit he makes huge breakthroughs and I notice
       | that he really wants me to come visit, and he asks me more and
       | more questions on IM and shares his thoughts and progress.
       | 
       | He has a hard time coming out and saying what he feels but I'm
       | observing that he works better with me present.
       | 
       | What's funny though is that I'm the absolute opposite. When
       | someone is present and only slightly focused on what I'm doing, I
       | act as if I have ADD.
        
       | asar wrote:
       | Really interesting method. I've been calling a similar strategy
       | the library effect. Whenever I work in an environment where other
       | people are productive (or at least look productive) I can focus
       | much better and get in the zone. It's now gotten to a point where
       | I'm actively seeking desks with my screen exposed to the room, so
       | people would be able to see me procrastinate, guilt tripping me
       | to limit this sort of behavior.
        
         | deadbabe wrote:
         | This used to work for me, but not anymore. The less I care
         | about what other people think the more I don't care about
         | procrastinating even when they're right next to me.
        
         | AbstractH24 wrote:
         | > Really interesting method. I've been calling a similar
         | strategy the library effect
         | 
         | As libraries reinvent themselves for an era where all the
         | world's knowledge is available on my cell phone, I wish more
         | emphasis was placed on meeting booths.
         | 
         | Because then I'd work from them all day and never consider
         | coworking spaces.
        
         | deinonychus wrote:
         | > It's now gotten to a point where I'm actively seeking desks
         | with my screen exposed to the room, so people would be able to
         | see me procrastinate, guilt tripping me to limit this sort of
         | behavior.
         | 
         | I have this same brain. Working in public at a coffee shop is a
         | great baseline, but it's even better if I can feel the social
         | pressure to not fuck off even if it's made up by my own
         | neurotic head. It's a crazy double-edged sword to wield. Really
         | useful, but I think it heightens burnout and I can't stand to
         | stay in the same place for long due to the palpable buildup of
         | pressure to Go Home.
        
       | jamesbfb wrote:
       | In my 40s and I've recently been diagnosed with inattentive adhd.
       | TFA makes a lot of sense to me given I'm one of the rare people
       | at my company who commutes to the office every day even though we
       | are an in-person optional workplace. Whenever I've had to WFH,
       | I've struggled massively to gain an initial focus. Although
       | medication has helped tremendously, I still feel much more
       | productive in an office setting.
        
       | deepsun wrote:
       | Looks related to XP (Extreme Programming), but the problem is
       | that you get tired and stressed way too fast to reap the
       | benefits.
        
       | bentt wrote:
       | I find coworking spaces with other people around hits on thos
       | effect. You don't even have to be near the people, just in the
       | same area.
       | 
       | And on the flip side, it seems there is no remote way of getting
       | the same feeling. Even having my business partner on Discord
       | doesn't really do it. He doesn't feel like he is parallel working
       | as much as TOO close in that case.
        
       | Tade0 wrote:
       | My most productive period within the last 12 months was when I
       | rented a desk in a co-working space for the summer so that I
       | could catch up with a friend who also went there.
       | 
       | To me it was less his mere presence and more the ability to
       | immediately share any thoughts that would occur to me. Also air
       | conditioning.
       | 
       | Same goes with chores - I would much rather have someone be in
       | the same room while I e.g. do the dishes or cook.
       | 
       | I also noticed that if I don't have anyone close, I start talking
       | to myself.
       | 
       | That sounds like a strong argument for working from the office
       | and it is, but to me it doesn't outweigh the disadvantages. For
       | one I could pull this off only because my commute was short
       | thanks to it being vacation season, so traffic was way smaller
       | than normal.
        
         | criddell wrote:
         | > I could pull this off only because my commute was short
         | 
         | The other critical factor was sharing a space with somebody who
         | wanted to work in a similar way. If you shared that space with
         | somebody who was significantly more or less social, the
         | impedance mismatch could have been very negative.
        
           | AbstractH24 wrote:
           | Would be interesting to create a tool that efficiently
           | matched people this way.
        
       | sameermanek wrote:
       | So, basically schizos can cancel out their adhd?
        
       | chneu wrote:
       | The podcast Science Vs just had an ADHD episode. They talk about
       | body doubling and a bunch of other ADHD stuff.
       | 
       | Good episode. Recommend. Be aware that most folks who think they
       | have ADHD really don't. Just like "OCD" and "migraines", people
       | just like to throw labels on themselves.
        
       | BOOSTERHIDROGEN wrote:
       | So, this is basically what Mark is trying to do, isn't it?
       | Building a metaverse where everyone can virtually body double.
        
         | viraptor wrote:
         | That concept doesn't need metaverse. If you can body double
         | with someone, you can do it over any communication medium.
        
       | Uptrenda wrote:
       | Yeah, nothing like an open office with random interruptions,
       | noises, and movements to improve your focus.
        
         | viraptor wrote:
         | It may not work for you, but... kinda, yes. My most productive
         | days are while waiting for the periodic car checkup at the
         | dealer and it's effectively an open office environment. But no,
         | an actual open office every day would not give the same result.
         | Brains be weird.
        
       | thimkerbell wrote:
       | Downvote for misleading terminology
        
       | keybored wrote:
       | > The ADHB body double
       | 
       | Okay. Maybe I can apply this metaphorical technique
       | 
       | > You're gonna need a literal body
       | 
       | I'm out.
        
       | codesnik wrote:
       | yep. it works. SOMETIMES.
        
       | parentheses wrote:
       | https://www.focusmate.com/
       | 
       | I used this during the early pandemic and found it very useful
        
       | hbarka wrote:
       | Does having a cool calm collected cat next to you count?
        
       | zoogeny wrote:
       | I've been thinking about this for a while. Seeing paid services
       | like Focusmate, Flow Club and Focus101 show the basic idea is
       | attractive enough to make into a lifestyle sized business.
       | 
       | But my idea was a bit more. A lot of people are leaving religions
       | for many reasons. One of the interesting parts of religion, from
       | my perspective, is a community of people meeting at some cadence
       | (e.g. once per week). At that time, they all make a public
       | commitment to some set of values. It's like a shared affirmation.
       | 
       | This led me to wonder if this ritualistic activity is important
       | in a psychological way that is effective outside of theistic or
       | other dogmatic beliefs.
       | 
       | I was thinking of a service exactly like the ones mentioned,
       | except it would also include some kind of intention setting. The
       | word "prayer" is a little loaded and often brings to mind asking
       | a God for some kind of favor. And "intention" is more like a
       | stated goal.
       | 
       | It is interesting that in the modern world we feel comfortable
       | stating/sharing intentions that are productivity related. But we
       | don't share intentions that are more broadly ethical/moral in the
       | same way that religions promoted.
       | 
       | If anyone has examples of services that do what Focusmate/Flow
       | Club/etc. are doing but on a broader scale, let me know.
        
       | daxfohl wrote:
       | Not for my kid. Even sitting right next to her, she'll zone out
       | and start doodling for hours unless we're on her every couple
       | minutes.
        
       | mrgoldenbrown wrote:
       | What browsers does this site support? It is broken on Firefox
       | mobile.
        
         | jvanderbot wrote:
         | Firefox mobile + read mode works
        
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