[HN Gopher] I Conditioned Myself to Fail
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I Conditioned Myself to Fail
Author : brainbun
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Date : 2025-02-03 16:19 UTC (6 hours ago)
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| tolerance wrote:
| I'm starting to feel like yeah, dopamine and information overload
| have their effects, but I also feel like there is a certain point
| in life where people age out of "the extrinsic motivation force
| field" that insulates and propels young people toward adulthood
| and then leaves them once resources are reallocated to the next
| crop of kids who are primed to enter the labor market.
| dboreham wrote:
| Fortunately software people will constantly keep inventing new
| things, new names for old things, things that don't do anything
| useful but nobody realizes, and on and on. It's hard to get to
| the end of the knowledge curve because it's not a bounded
| space.
| mlloyd wrote:
| This hits home. I love the thrill of the build and I immediately
| stop caring once it's done. I love the 'rewire for action'
| perspective because I've conditioned myself that seeking
| information IS action. But it's not really, it's decision
| avoidance via constructive procrastination. And that feels
| amazing because it makes me more knowledgeable while also
| ensuring that I avoid any anxiety associated with execution.
| Gotta fix this.
| CharlieDigital wrote:
| > But then when I launch, I either don't get much feedback at
| all, or I get a lot of feedback for a day, which then dies down
| completely after the launch. The harsh reality
| is that most products fail and due to so many failed attempts, I
| kind of internalised that I'm doing effort for nothing.
| But then whenever there's a sale or a positive comment, I get
| another small jolt of motivation and I can build a bit again.
|
| I'm the same way as OP, but I think this is easier to overcome if
| you build things that are useful for _you_ or someone you know.
| Unless you 're going to slog through tons of user interviews to
| properly validate your ideas, then just build it for yourself;
| build for fun and curiosity.
|
| There's nothing wrong with that.
|
| Despite Garry Tan's advice, I ended up building a travel planning
| app (initially just for personal use). I shared it with Reddit
| and ended up with a few thousand users. It had a big peak of
| active users that's settled down into a small community of very
| sticky users; never a commercial success. What keeps me coming
| back to it time and again is that I use it myself to plan my
| trips and every time I take it on a trip, I learn something new
| and spend a bit more time tidying it up or adding some missing
| feature.
| JusticeJuice wrote:
| I just looked up your app out of curiosity, and realized I had
| just watched your video about react's inverted-reactivity model
| just a few hours ago! Small world!
| CharlieDigital wrote:
| Small world, indeed! Hope that video was useful/interesting!
| MisterTea wrote:
| I have ADHD and have this very problem. I barely get to the build
| it phase. Mostly I get a high from just the sketch it out, type
| up ideas, attempt some actual build time, then think it's
| stupid/too niche/no one will use it/etc and move on to the next
| addictive idea.
|
| Still trying to figure out a way to get dopamine from doing the
| work and accomplishing stuff. Even if I do discipline myself and
| get something working, it has almost no effect on me emotionally
| leaving me wondering why I even bothered and it seems like a
| waste of time making me feel guilty. When I was younger I had so
| much more motivation and energy while getting more done.
| golol wrote:
| I found the image at the bottom very surprising and enlightening.
| I wonder where it is from. It's really a new thought for me.
| carlosdp wrote:
| It says at the bottom it's from Sahil Bloom (@SahilBloom)
| golol wrote:
| oh thanks I think Im blind :)
| tchock23 wrote:
| For anyone avoiding X these days, sahilbloom.com is the most
| direct resource for more content like this (no affiliation,
| just pointing this out).
| otikik wrote:
| I'm not a mental health professional, and I don't know the
| author. Please be assured that I don't mean any disrespect
| whatsoever: consider getting tested for ADHD by a mental health
| professional.
|
| I was diagnosed very late, since my ADHD was of the "inattentive"
| kind. I would not be troublesome at home or at school, like an
| hyperactive child would. A lot of people like this go
| undiagnosed.
|
| One of the traits of ADHD is that our brains crave _novelty_ ,
| and that is definitely one of my struggles. Having professional
| help makes a difference.
|
| > When I'm building something, that information is the thing
| coming to life in front of my eyes, every new button etc is
| awesome.
|
| The neurotypical version of this is called "being in the zone",
| which just means "enjoying what you are doing, so holding
| concentration for long periods of time takes very little effort".
| The ADHD version of this is more intense, it's called hyperfocus.
| The activity absorbs all of your attention. You barely feel
| hunger or sleepiness, you can literally go a it for days, you
| keep thinking about it while you are not doing it. It's useful if
| you happen to hyperfocus on something that is helpful to you.
| atlintots wrote:
| how has a diagnosis helped you?
| otikik wrote:
| I did get depressed for a while, which is a common
| comorbidity. Drugs helped somewhat. Ultimately sleep, diet,
| family, friends and sport helped more.
|
| I am less hard on myself. My therapist helped me realize that
| some of the things I was blaming myself for were actually not
| my fault. I have some techniques to help me with some of my
| everyday struggles. I sometimes are able to aim my hyperfocus
| instead of just letting it point to whatever random thing
| crosses my mind - the trick there is realizing that almost
| anything worth knowing has some interesting nuggets, you just
| have to dig for them sometimes.
|
| My son was diagnosed at an appropriate age (he has
| hyperactivity so it has been visible for a while).
| pithanyChan wrote:
| Druhgs. Dropped his dealer and got the Gustav.
|
| I'm kidding. Once you know what, you can check your patterns
| against the standard and the deviations. Then you can
| approach the circuits that are fucked and identify triggers.
|
| Best to get to the roots of the reinforcement in childhood,
| though. Behaviors and preferences surpressed, people you
| didn't beat up for reasons and so on, behavioral triggers,
| when you held back and why. What distracted you when you did
| a specific thing or the other. And, of course, the standard
| stuff, what were you rewarded for and did you really care
| about that thing yourself?
|
| Might take a while but it'll be worth it.
| codazoda wrote:
| I am very similar to op.
|
| What type of mental health professional should we seek out?
|
| I talked to a PA about ADD a couple times, but dropped it
| because they seemed doubtful and I felt a bit ashamed (because
| you treat ADD and ADHD with a controlled substance).
|
| I went on phentermine for a few weeks, for weight loss, and my
| mind felt absolutely amazing on that medicine. It's apparently
| dangerous for long term use though.
|
| I've written my own story; how to lose money with 25 years of
| failed businesses.
|
| https://joeldare.com/how-to-lose-money-with-25-years-of-fail...
| Aurornis wrote:
| > I talked to a PA about ADD a couple times, but dropped it
| because they seemed doubtful
|
| Let me add some context to this that isn't obvious from the
| outside: There has been a massive surge in ADHD self-
| diagnosis in recent years, fueled largely by TikTok and other
| social media. During COVID it got so bad that there were even
| pill mills offering ADHD diagnoses via TikTok ads, and anyone
| who paid their fee was basically guaranteed a diagnosis after
| a short 5-minute video call.
|
| This causes problems for many reasons, but one of the biggest
| is that people are arriving to doctors with a self-diagnosis
| to the exclusion of other conditions. It's the job of doctors
| to look at the whole picture and explore other explanations,
| which can feel insulting when someone has already arrived at
| a conclusion.
|
| There's a growing problem where people who are actually
| suffering from depression, anxiety, or even physical
| conditions like sleep apnea are self-diagnosing as ADHD and
| then requesting stimulants from their doctors, which
| temporarily masks their underlying condition and makes
| everything worse.
|
| I understand why you felt shame, but if there's one thing I
| can tell you it's this: You actually _want_ a doctor who
| questions the diagnosis, doesn 't rush to prescribe habit
| forming medications, and explores the big picture. Having
| someone concerned about your health as a whole is very
| valuable.
|
| > (because you treat ADD and ADHD with a controlled
| substance).
|
| There are actually several non-stimulant ADHD medications.
| They can work quite well, but they come with one caveat: They
| can take a long time to show their full effects. There are
| studies showing that the positive effects of Straterra
| (Atomoxetine) continue increasing even past the first 12
| months.
|
| Controlled substance stimulant medications have the opposite
| time course. People take them and feel them working
| immediately. Within hours. However, tolerance also starts
| accruing immediately and people will often feel like the
| medications aren't "working" after a while, when in reality
| they've just reached steady state.
|
| > I went on phentermine for a few weeks, for weight loss, and
| my mind felt absolutely amazing on that medicine.
|
| I have to warn you: All stimulant medications will produce
| false feelings of euphoria, motivation, and excitement _when
| you first start taking them_. These effects do not last. The
| brain will adjust to the medication over time and that
| "amazing" feeling will disappear.
|
| Your experience is extremely common, though: People take a
| stimulant, either from their doctor or from a friend, and
| feel _great_. They think that if they can secure a constant
| supply, they will feel that way forever. Unfortunately, it
| can actually distract from the true goals of ADHD treatment
| when people start chasing that short-lived feeling while
| neglecting the treatment of their attention.
|
| The truth is that after someone has taken a stimulant for
| years, it no longer makes them "feel amazing" like that, even
| though it can help the ADHD. The brain reaches a new
| homeostasis in the reward centers. This introduces a
| secondary problem, wherein any missed doses or attempts to
| lower the dose produces a rebound effect where mood,
| motivation, and focus are temporarily lowered due to
| deviation from that new homeostasis.
|
| In short: Don't read too much into how you felt while taking
| powerful stimulants for a short while. It's not analogous to
| the therapeutic effects of ADHD treatment, though it's easy
| to mistake one for the other.
| robocat wrote:
| > 25 years of failed businesses.
|
| Your written story comes across to me mostly as regrets of
| counterfactual timelines; the result of your perception
| because of societal pushes. If you wrote "25 years of
| successes", I wonder how it would read?
|
| > What type of mental health professional should we seek out?
|
| What a strange question... the implication is that you think
| your life problems (perhaps completely normal) are due to a
| medical condition. Perhaps ask the people who know you best
| what mental health conditions you have. It's a slippery slope
| once you submit into the mental health vampire system (and
| abrogating your agency has other psychological costs).
|
| What's the medical term for a hypercondriac that believes
| there's something wrong with their mental health so badly
| that there is something wrong? I'm pulling your leg: it is
| normal to worry and do seek help if you actually need it.
| Usually family and friends have a good idea if you need
| professional help: mental health problems are almost defined
| as problems that cause you and your loved ones severe
| downsides and outcomes are often visible (less commonly well
| hidden).
|
| In theory, coaches are the people to help us learn to attain
| goals. Is get councelling getting coaching?
|
| The article itself is frustrating because it a narrative
| based on self-diagnosis using psych terms (conditioning,
| dopamine). Any comments here are framed within that context.
| I wonder how their friends would explain the problem they
| have identified?
| otikik wrote:
| Psychologist first. Psychiatrist if the former recommends
| one.
| ajb wrote:
| Not entirely sure that's the right way round, but it may
| depend on your jurisdiction.
|
| In the UK, if a psychiatrist recommends some kind of
| therapy, they will refer you to someone else. But if a
| psychologist* does, they will do it themselves. Which kind
| of leaves them marking their own homework.
|
| * Clinical psychologists are the ones qualified to deal
| with mental health problems. There are several other
| categories.
| Aurornis wrote:
| > One of the traits of ADHD is that our brains crave novelty
|
| I know you meant well by your post, but this type of
| reductionism doesn't really do justice to ADHD and can lead a
| lot of people astray.
|
| It's actually _very normal_ to crave novelty. It 's also normal
| to become bored with repetitive, boring work. It's not a unique
| feature of ADHD, nor is craving novelty a diagnostic indicator
| for ADHD. These are normal features of being human and not, by
| themselves, suggestive of ADHD.
|
| I feel like this is important to highlight because the pop-
| culture definition of ADHD has changed dramatically in recent
| years. The definition has shifted so much that any description
| of feeling bored or seeking novelty is mistaken for ADHD, which
| is definitely not the case for the actual diagnostic criteria.
|
| I don't mean to discourage people from seeking help from mental
| health professionals, but I do want to discourage people from
| self-diagnosing and getting tunnel vision on a specific
| diagnosis (generally ADHD) to the exclusion of other
| explanations.
| otikik wrote:
| Agree on everything. I must point out that I specifically
| mentioned "by a mental health professional" and I led with
| the fact that I am not one. I should have stressed it more
| perhaps.
| csallen wrote:
| _It 's actually very normal to crave novelty. It's also
| normal to become bored with repetitive, boring work. It's not
| a unique feature of ADHD, nor is craving novelty a diagnostic
| indicator for ADHD. These are normal features of being human
| and not, by themselves, suggestive of ADHD._
|
| Thanks for mentioning this. I see so many comments with
| people self-diagnosing themselves with pathologies because,
| "I forget things often," "I get distracted a lot," "I get
| bored," "I sometimes doubt myself when there's a challenge
| ahead of me."
|
| These are normal things!
|
| I think a lot of people just don't have a good baseline for
| what's normal.
| hnuser123456 wrote:
| Mostly people who grew up in too pristine of a world, who
| think that everything should be easy following established
| procedures, that anything being difficult is a sign of a
| medical issue rather than just... a difficult task.
|
| We all have our own interests. We are easily bored by
| things that are very far away from our interests. You
| cannot force any given person to care about any given topic
| as much as you want them to or think they should. Or you
| can, but then you no longer know who that person really is,
| and your concept of them becomes inaccurate, setting you up
| for surprise when that person isn't what you wanted them to
| be.
| balfirevic wrote:
| > I think a lot of people just don't have a good baseline
| for what's normal.
|
| True, but that works both ways. "Surely everyone else gets
| distracted this much".
| richarme wrote:
| Disagree. I think adults with ADHD are well aware that
| they are not "normal" with respect to many of the
| symptoms, even if they don't know it's due to ADHD. At
| least that's my personal experience.
|
| Few examples off the top of my head:
|
| - being unable to pay bills/fines on time even with
| plenty of money in the bank.
|
| - being physically unable to keep sitting in a chair
| after a while in meetings.
|
| It's easy to see that most people around you don't
| exhibit such traits.
| TeMPOraL wrote:
| Yes, but adults who have ADHD, but neither know it nor
| suspect they may have it, will look for alternative
| explanations to make sense of their consistent failures
| at things other people seem to handle fine. A common one
| they arrive at is _character flaws_. They 'll see
| themselves as lazy or childish, and as they try and fail
| to correct it, they'll internalize guilt and shame.
|
| "Surely everyone else gets distracted this much" is
| exactly the kind of belief that creates and reinforces
| feelings of guilt.
| Aurornis wrote:
| > I think a lot of people just don't have a good baseline
| for what's normal.
|
| I saw a lot of this when I mentored college grads for a
| while.
|
| I also saw another problem where people were resistant to
| the idea that they were normal. This happened a lot with
| tech students who grew up being the smartest kid in their
| local elementary school and the computer wizard in the
| family. They grew up being told they were smart and
| destined for success. When they didn't get selected for a
| FAANG job or their startup wasn't successful, they'd often
| go searching for alternate explanations. ADHD was a common
| one. I can't count how many times I listened to people
| explain to me that they were "going to get a FAANG job" or
| "going to do a startup" but then they "discovered they had
| ADHD". Like it wasn't okay to just get a normal job, they
| had to have a specific and public reason why they weren't
| in a 99th percentile position.
| robocat wrote:
| How can we help our friends that buy into this self-
| victimisation?
|
| Our culture accepts and normalises the behaviour of using
| self-deceptive excuses. Our culture provides prepackaged
| excuses which are socially unacceptable to confront. It
| is a self-reinforcing system including professionals and
| woowoo practitioners.
|
| The word trauma gets trivialised to be used as an outcome
| for the normal vicissitudes of life: blame your parents
| for everything and accept you can never "recover" and you
| must never repress. Woowoo past-life trauma and
| regression therapies and discussions - arrrgh.
|
| My responses so far are limited to (a) dropping people I
| like from my life because their behaviour was
| unacceptable, (b) playing along with the beliefs of other
| friends regardless of the damage of those beliefs, (c)
| slowly trying to influence those I care about the most
| (d) blithely ignoring everything - training myself to not
| care.
|
| We can all clearly see faults in others. Our other
| problem is to recognise within ourselves when we are
| making self-deceptive excuses or blaming others for
| things under our own control. Should I buy into the self-
| help industry? Counselling, coaching, or woowoo?
| user68858788 wrote:
| As someone with ADHD that definitely gets dopamine from
| novelty, is there actually anything that can be done? Adderral
| and vyvanse work for a couple days and then I build a
| tolerance. The only indefinite solution is to completely remove
| all distractions from my area (internet, games, food) but
| that's never been sustainable for me. Moderation, rewards on
| completion, and other mental tricks don't work for me. Crisis
| is a good motivator, such as overwhelming student loans, but
| I'm back to being unfocused now that those are under control.
|
| At this point I've mostly accepted my success is severely
| limited by ADHD.
| pithanyChan wrote:
| > But then whenever there's a sale or a positive comment, I get
| another small jolt of motivation and I can build a bit again.
|
| There's your solution. Positivity regarding your productivity,
| which is imperfectly normal, fuck your mental health.
|
| No sale, no comment, no problem. Find something that rewards your
| productivity or tech savvy.
|
| Put your projects on git, you'll get forks and stars (maybe).
| Maybe pieces will get adopted elsewhere. Talk about how you did
| what. Grow, help others. Do the opposite, hack something, for
| example, or reverse engineer something that'll be rewarding by
| itself: "holy shit, thatt's how they did it?".
|
| If you don't have "it" internally, get it from elsewhere.
| inSenCite wrote:
| Well, zero criticism IS a form of criticism so I don't blame the
| author for not being motivated after the fact. I'd even say its
| the worst kind of criticism because it leaves you with nothing to
| build next.
|
| But I think they are highlighting an important thing here that
| most of us struggle with...building is fun, progress is discrete
| and clear, the feedback loop is very tight. Selling and marketing
| to people sucks, its clunky, the feedback loops are variable, and
| if you're inclined more to being an introvert it is very
| exhausting.
|
| I'm not sure the author is conditioned to fail as much as they
| are just more inclined to build.
| tithe wrote:
| Agreed, building something is just the first step.
|
| One of the marketing struggles I've had is just getting people
| to care. I did have a bit of an "If you build it, they will
| come attitude" because I had confidence in the quality of the
| work...but even that seems to be irrelevant if you can't get
| people interested.
|
| As an introvert by nature (extrovert by necessity), I wonder
| what I'm missing that others seems to grasp innately, because
| the consequences are fatal for an entrepreneur if you can't
| convince others to at least _try_ the thing you 're offering.
| ph4evers wrote:
| Very much relatable. I have dozens of high effort GitHub repos
| that I didn't touch after launching it. For me it works by
| sparring with friends to really grasp if something is a viable
| long term idea or not and then stick to it.
| scarface_74 wrote:
| I've found that I like the thrill of designing a project as I get
| older. But not building. By design I don't mean UI - which I suck
| at.
|
| I have experience up and down the stack from requirements
| analysis and pre-sales, enough project management to get by, back
| end development, database, cloud architecture and "DevOps" [sic]
| and creating deployment pipelines. I'm not bragging, I'm just old
| (50).
|
| I would have to hire someone to do any front end work except
| ironically hosted call centers.
|
| I _can_ do all that myself for a large project and for smaller
| projects I could simplify the "DevOps" portion. But knowing the
| work involved, I would rather lead a team at this point in my
| life and work with the "business", project managers and people
| who want to be heads down.
|
| Honestly though, the one thing I wouldn't be good at anyway is
| marketing and sales and that's the most important part of getting
| a project off the ground.
| dboreham wrote:
| > wouldn't be good at anyway is marketing and sales
|
| Shift perspective: Consider these things to be an optimization
| problem. People buying your thing is the output from some
| undefined function. You get to supply inputs to that function.
| Now sales and marketing is revealed as being about modeling
| that undefined function such that you can pick more optimal
| inputs thereby improving the output. Now traverse the gradient.
| scarface_74 wrote:
| While I'm not interested in marketing, my focus over the next
| year will be to get better at sales. One of my best friends
| is in technical sales and he gave me a few books to read.
|
| I consider marketing, broad based brand awareness and "sales"
| to be more one on one. Of course I'm talking B2B.
|
| Context: I'm a "staff" cloud consultant at a 3rd party
| consulting firm and was previously a mid level cloud
| consultant (L5) working directly ar AWS (ProServe). I just
| got into consulting four years ago from hands on keyboard
| development + cloud architecture at smallish product
| companies. I'm _really_ new to this.
|
| Currently, when I come into a project, I already know from a
| thousand foot view what the customer wants - the business
| problem they are trying to solve or the opportunity they are
| going after since sales has already spoken to them and I've
| spoken to sales.
|
| My job is to get them there (well now to lead a team) and to
| convince them that the solution I present to them is the
| right one. But my job is still just to convince the decision
| makers. Sales handles talking to the people who control the
| purse strings.
|
| My next goal is to convince clients they need something that
| they didn't know they needed instead of convincing them that
| we are the people that can help them execute on an initiative
| they already know they want.
|
| Hopefully moving closer to the customer will provide some
| protection against software development getting commoditized
| to cheaper places (more likely) or AI (less likely)
| HPsquared wrote:
| This resonates hard with me. A huge list of partially-completed
| projects, work stopping right around the "boring but easy
| finishing off work". Incredible waste.
|
| Edit: this is why we have teamwork and division of labour, btw.
| ajkjk wrote:
| I tend to believe that whatever a person ends up doing is what
| they actually "want" to do at some inner emotional level (which
| they may not consciously be aware of).
|
| So this person wants to build, but after releasing things to
| lukewarm feedback, wants to not work on them anymore. Why would
| they want that? Well, that is a pretty normal behavior I think.
| But I would speculate...
|
| I wonder if this person is like me? Because they sound kinda like
| it. If so, I'd guess that they know that they're capable of a
| lot, so they're inspired to work really hard at goals, but that
| they're also mortified at presenting themselves to the world as
| confident and capable publicly. So they can work really hard when
| it's private and based on their internal self-image, but when it
| becomes public they have to reconcile it with their public
| embarrassment at who they are, and so they choose (in the sense
| of: their fear chooses for them) instead to hide and go back to
| working in private where it is safe. They are _hoping_ for
| something else to happen: probably, they release one of their
| projects and it is so well-received, and garners so much respect,
| that they find a new public identity which they can step into and
| inhabit, allowing them to be proud of themselves and solving
| their inner problem.
|
| I wonder (more analogy to myself): was this person bullied or
| ostracized as a child, and made to feel like being confident and
| proud in public was shameful? If I've guessed right I hope you
| figure it out (and then please tell me what you find cause I
| could use some tips...). I wonder what they _want_ to have happen
| when they release a project? What, if they had to admit to it,
| would their most happy outcome upon releasing a product look
| like? Probably it will be sort of embarrassing to even describe,
| but the details are probably telling: they will point straight at
| the core anxiety. It will be a fantasy about the anxiety being
| cured.
|
| Just speculating. But I would imagine that the explanation here
| isn't the real one, because the actual explanation will cause
| their behavior to completely change, instead of just building an
| intellectual edifice around it. (Personally I am very skeptical
| of any explanation that goes "because ADHD", because, what causes
| the ADHD? In some people it seems to be intrinsic but in lots of
| others it's clearly induced by something social. So is it
| fixable? Are there stories of it being "fixed" by solving the
| social issue? I dunno. But surely the goal is to somehow not live
| in this tension anymore: either fix the thing or let it go, and
| not be stuck in a loop of trying to get it fixed by some external
| blessing.)
| dboreham wrote:
| Ultimately it's all a product of training data, mixed in with a
| few chemical global variables and some gate-level performance
| variation. The human brain is literally a thing that craves the
| input of new information, so feeling bad because that's what
| your brain is doing is a bit strange imho.
| thesurlydev wrote:
| First, thanks for sharing.
|
| Second, as I read this and other similar posts over the years I
| understand exactly what you mean. Although, in my case it's
| worse. I've built lots of things and left it in various degrees
| of completion before making it public. Sometimes, I go back and
| make improvements but still never launching.
| hedayet wrote:
| I'm not a mental health professional, so I won't comment on the
| ADHD side of things. But as a tech and business lead, I can say
| this trait is actually the norm; Zuckerberg-types are the
| exception.
|
| Most software engineers I've worked with love writing code.
| They're good at it, they know what they're doing, and they can
| make steady progress toward what they set out to build. But what
| comes after writing code--the rejection, the silence, the
| outages, the bug reports--isn't as fun.
|
| Shipping software is easy for us (engineers) because, as
| engineers, we're in total control. But landing it in the market?
| That's a different challenge--one that requires skills we often
| don't have.
|
| But the good news is - like any other skills, we can develop this
| one too. I have observed significant improvement in myself over
| last few years in "Landing vs shipping" as I have been working on
| this trait deliberately. Still a long way to go...
| huqedato wrote:
| The sadest thing in this world for me is not receiving feedback
| on my work. Any feedback, not necessarily positive. This breaks
| me down every time, even now, after 25 years of experience.
| htk wrote:
| Love to read posts like this one. Honest, straight to the point,
| relatable, and as a bonus makes me want to do something about it
| as well. I hope the author keeps on writing.
| jarebear6expepj wrote:
| This entire domain is bot, btw. Yes. It learned how to express in
| thought what a psilocybin trip was... decided to learn how to
| register a domain, and has established a character with which to
| interact with the network. TLDR; AI-cosplay is hawt.
|
| ... It's also using twitter.com links. A little outdated for 2025
| models apparently.
| kirsebaer wrote:
| Collaborate with other people on your projects. You could do some
| of the initial work, and then hand it off to others to do the
| marketing and follow-up. You don't have to do everything
| yourself.
| yobbo wrote:
| How is "I condition myself to fail" the conclusion from the
| description of what happened?
|
| If there is little or no interest from the audience, then there
| is no action available other than changing the project and trying
| again.
| paulpauper wrote:
| The trend towards the glorification of failure is annoying.
| Failure sucks for many reasons: wasted time and other resources,
| disappointment, worsening mental health, and so on.
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