[HN Gopher] The mistake of yearning for the 'friendly' online wo...
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       The mistake of yearning for the 'friendly' online world of 20 years
       ago
        
       Author : geox
       Score  : 67 points
       Date   : 2025-01-12 14:03 UTC (8 hours ago)
        
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       | goalieca wrote:
       | The online world of 20 years ago was not federated and
       | centralized into one of four large social media sites. There was
       | no political machine trying to censor and control. We were left
       | alone and no one care to control us.
        
         | AshamedCaptain wrote:
         | The (Spain-focused) article points that 20 years ago was
         | basically the same. "MSN Messenger" is not exactly a shining
         | beacon of federation.
         | 
         | I'll point that there have been cycles (like many things
         | computing) of centralization and federation coming and going.
         | Maybe there's indeed nothing much intrinsically better about
         | "ye olde Internet".
        
           | matthewdgreen wrote:
           | Head over to Instagram and pick a random reel. Now scroll
           | down and let the algorithm pick out suggestions for you. (Not
           | your main timeline, mind you -- this gets you actual
           | algorithmic suggestions.) The first few will be normal, but
           | it gets incredibly disturbing very quickly. I did this last
           | night and it was about 90% AI videos. They included:
           | 
           | 1. Beautiful cakes and muffins that squirmed and then turned
           | into puppies. (This sounds cute but is actually kind of
           | disturbing.)
           | 
           | 2. Rats. Big ass rats. And some cockroaches. A sandwich full
           | of bugs.
           | 
           | 3. Pretty women having their heads sliced up with sharp
           | knives, which then demonstrated that they were actually made
           | of "cake".
           | 
           | 4. Monsters in what appear to be backyard surveillance
           | cameras.
           | 
           | This was interspersed with random content that I actually
           | look at, plus a few thirst traps. The closest description I
           | have for it was "this is what a bad trip is like." The
           | Internet in 2025 is nothing like MSN.
        
             | jazzyjackson wrote:
             | I guess you never stumbled down the liveleak and /b/ back
             | alleys.
        
             | AshamedCaptain wrote:
             | What do you think teenagers discussed over MSN Messenger
             | exactly? The finer points of botanical knowledge?
        
           | jazzyjackson wrote:
           | MSN Messenger allowed me to login with any number of clients.
           | I used Trillian back in the day, with MSN, Yahoo, AIM and IRC
           | all from one chat client.
           | 
           | It was free as in beer, at least, and "lock in" and "walled
           | gardens" were never a concern.
        
             | AshamedCaptain wrote:
             | Sorry, bullshit. You can also login today to
             | $FAVORITE_IM_SERVICE with "unauthorized" 3rd party clients
             | (or even often forgotten Jabber transports). Like today,
             | there was a cat and mouse game between the server and the
             | 3rd party clients, so they would not last long, and you'd
             | run into many problems.
             | 
             | And definitely there was "lock in" and "walled gardens".
             | MSN Messenger was the second "walled garden" service I've
             | escaped ever since Internet was a thing. I literally
             | remember the pain as it if was today. I would even claim
             | the raison-d'etre for Jabber is precisely the IM walled
             | gardens of this era.
             | 
             | And Jabber was then (ab)used (by Whatsapp, Google Talk,
             | etc.) to create more centralized services..
        
         | m3047 wrote:
         | > not federated and centralized
         | 
         | That's curious to me, because I see those as roughly opposed
         | (both are proxies for organizational systems). NNTP (usenet):
         | clearly federated (works by flooding). DNS: the religious
         | obsession with the "one true root" doctrine, while it makes
         | sense in the context of a global naming scheme (anybody
         | advertising false root should be shot, according to
         | Mockapetris), hampers the technology's adoption for other
         | purposes. Global internet routing i.e. BGP is still pretty much
         | federated.
        
         | Eumenes wrote:
         | Lol I was talking to a friend who is a web dev and works for a
         | large company in the social gaming space. He referred to the
         | "Civility" team which is just censorship and content
         | moderation, plus sending mental health notifications if you've
         | been playing/spending too much. I'd rather dig holes or shovel
         | shit over working for a mobile game companies "civility" team.
        
       | readthenotes1 wrote:
       | "The internet hasn't made us bad, we were already like that"
       | 
       | Is merely an application of
       | 
       | "Power doesn't corrupt, it reveals" -Robert Caro
        
       | dijit wrote:
       | Rose-tinted glasses are definitely a thing, as is nostalgia, and
       | before I get into topics like the fact that UI/UX was _actually
       | scientifically better_ [0] back then, I'd like to take a moment
       | to step back and consider what the author is actually implying.
       | 
       | Yes, the world was centralised, and profit motives did exist.
       | There was a time where it looked like AOL would legitimately kill
       | the open web, and MSN was trying too at the same time. However;
       | the early 00's were _blessed_ with technological limitation.
       | 
       | I distinctly remember the fact that IRC and the primitive forum
       | systems we designed such that an identity tied to a real person
       | was not something people felt the need to have. To even _care_
       | what a community thinks because ultimately there 's quite
       | literally another one just around the corner.
       | 
       | The golden era of community creation was 2002-2004 (incidentally
       | this is when my own IRC network formed). Because heavy handed
       | moderation, power trips and so-on caused market pressures on
       | moderation staff.
       | 
       | Too heavy handed and authoritarian: you might kill your
       | community.
       | 
       | Not willing to stamp out toxic elements: you might kill your
       | community.
       | 
       | That's why we're nostalgic, because simpler times was a
       | combination of:
       | 
       | * more focused, human and often better moderation;
       | 
       | * a deluge of communities where _you_ could find a place; even if
       | you were weird, like me - and;
       | 
       | * an understanding that your identity was _not important_.  "On
       | the internet, nobody know's you're a dog".
       | 
       | Yes, there were companies and profit seeking, the web itself was
       | mired in proprietary plugins and jank standards. But there was an
       | ease of hosting communities that is totally lost now.
       | 
       | The best many of us can hope for these days, is a little carved
       | out niche as a serf in a fiefdom.
       | 
       | [0]: https://ics.uci.edu/~kobsa/courses/ICS104/course-
       | notes/Micro...
        
         | mentos wrote:
         | I wonder if AI can fill that gap of high quality minimally
         | biased moderator.
         | 
         | "You are an AI moderator for ___. The community values
         | thoughtful, constructive, and respectful conversations. Your
         | role is to review user comments and take appropriate actions,
         | such as approving, flagging, or suggesting edits. You are
         | tasked with ensuring comments adhere to the community
         | guidelines, which include..."
        
           | elpocko wrote:
           | They will apply the patterns they've learned from the biased
           | moderator actions in their training data, and the even more
           | reinforced bias from their usual fine-tuning that improved
           | their "safety" and crippled their ability to condone
           | controversial statements.
        
             | matthewdgreen wrote:
             | So spin up your own forum and don't moderate it. Or spend
             | some time (un-)finetuning an LLM moderator so you can talk
             | about race or eugenics or whatever "exciting" controversial
             | statements you want to talk about. Who cares.
        
           | hibikir wrote:
           | Moderation systems, even with humans at the helm, are
           | adversarial systems where people can, and will, push on what
           | is allowed. An AI moderator that is as good as a human on a
           | per message basis is still going to be played like a fiddle
           | by an adversary that is interested enough.
           | 
           | Many a forum out there has collapsed because the moderators
           | manage to decide something is fine when it keep losing them
           | contributors. The why do we think the AI will do better?
        
           | satvikpendem wrote:
           | Very easy to do an AI prompt injection attack if the AI is
           | reading every one of the forum's comments.
        
             | mentos wrote:
             | Can have the AI just flag posts for a human to review in
             | v1? Then as you refine the prompt injection detection can
             | move to have the AI be autonomous?
        
               | satvikpendem wrote:
               | There is no way to get rid of a prompt injection attack.
               | There are always ways to convince the AI to do something
               | else besides flagging a post even if that's its initial
               | instruction.
        
               | mentos wrote:
               | The raw text of the persons message can/will be posted to
               | the forum and be obvious to the community if it's a
               | prompt injection to be flagged for human review and their
               | account banned.
        
               | satvikpendem wrote:
               | Sure, that's if human moderators see it before the AI, in
               | which case, why have an AI at all? I presume in this
               | solution that the AI is running all the time and it will
               | see messages the instant they're sent and thus will
               | always be vulnerable to a prompt injection attack before
               | any human even sees it in the first place.
        
         | webwanderings wrote:
         | It is not in human nature to scale their communities/tribes.
         | Case in point, the continuous wars. It was foolish of humans on
         | the early Internet to perceive ideas of forming large scale
         | communities (business and ego motivations did that). If
         | psychologists and anthropologists were techies and influencers
         | of early Internet, we wouldn't have built such experiences in
         | the first place.
         | 
         | Humans thrive in small scale and close knit communities.
         | Unfortunately, Internet was not built for such ideas. It will
         | take a while for the original intent of the social media to die
         | out. First, the ego will have to subside. Then, the business
         | motivations would need to shift to something other than
         | profiting off the human communication (did anyone care to throw
         | Ads on the old fashioned telephone lines? Or tag an Ad inside
         | our snail mail? No). When the humanity reaches such proportion
         | of correction for the sake of Internet, we might come back to
         | our senses.
        
           | rexer wrote:
           | This makes a lot of sense to me. As an individual, how do I
           | help move along the transition to smaller communities?
           | 
           | The answer cannot be 'you can't'. Certainly what you said
           | resonates with a fair number of people, and it only takes a
           | small community to create a small community, right?
        
             | dingnuts wrote:
             | You only need two friends and a chat server to have a
             | community. I've been running one for my friends, like a
             | self hosted discord, for almost ten years. It is by far my
             | most valuable online space. There's maybe a dozen users.
             | Whatever. It's great.
        
               | dijit wrote:
               | > Self-Hosted Discord
               | 
               | How does one achieve this?
        
               | coldtea wrote:
               | Downloads some forum software and runs in it on a VPS or
               | similar?
               | 
               | There are also some FOSS Discord clones in various states
               | of maturity
        
               | jazzyjackson wrote:
               | irc if you don't require any bells and whistles. matrix
               | if you want attachments and encryption. zulip if you're
               | running a company.
        
               | SoftTalker wrote:
               | I'm on a couple of email lists that have a similar vibe.
               | A dozen or two active participants. No ads, no giant
               | corporation trying to push engagement or steer the
               | narrative. You just have to ignore the occasional FOMO
               | feelings and understand that no, trying to find
               | "community" in a sea of 10,000,000 users on a giant
               | social network is not how we are wired.
        
               | beej71 wrote:
               | Absolutely. I'm in about 10 communities like this. I
               | don't think I need global reach or hundreds or thousands
               | of "friends".
               | 
               | For a wider net, I have a self-curated feed on Lemmy and
               | Mastodon. It's super clean and positive compared to
               | suggestive social media.
               | 
               | The old Internet will never be back, but The Good Parts
               | still exist and can be remade. I don't have to visit the
               | shitty parts.
        
             | coldtea wrote:
             | > _The answer cannot be 'you can't'. Certainly what you
             | said resonates with a fair number of people, and it only
             | takes a small community to create a small community,
             | right?_
             | 
             | It also takes a culture. The small community needs to have
             | a culture that empowers them to exlude the enlargement of
             | the community and to prevent those wanting to open it to
             | those not fit for it get to dictate terms...
        
             | mongol wrote:
             | By hanging out in the smaller communities and leaving the
             | larger ones behind. You can't change the world, but you can
             | choose how you live in it.
        
           | smitty1e wrote:
           | Furthermore, while human nature is relatively stable, the
           | technology has increased in every way.
           | 
           | The Edenic simplicity of HTTP has been supplanted by TLS and
           | tracking goop and lions and tigers and bears, oh my!
        
         | coffeebeqn wrote:
         | It wasn't just the moderation. Earlier internet had a much more
         | self-selecting audience. Trolling was in its artisanal infancy
         | and there weren't incentives to spam and scam people since you
         | couldn't monetize on such things. State and other propaganda
         | actors didn't take it as a serious platform, there weren't
         | trillion dollar companies monetizing your every move, and a
         | hundred other variables
        
           | mingus88 wrote:
           | In that era also, the communities you had to chose from were
           | higher quality, simply due to the barrier to entry of being
           | always online.
           | 
           | To continue with IRC as an example, having access to a shell
           | account where you could set up a bouncer to lurk 24/7 in your
           | channels was simply beyond the grasp of most people.
           | 
           | So the people you had available to create communities with
           | were those who were invested in keeping things nice. Why
           | bother with all that overhead only to read shitpost memes and
           | rage bait?
           | 
           | Today the default mode for everyone is to be always online.
           | It's actually harder to disconnect now. The quality of the
           | communities reflects this.
        
         | srmarm wrote:
         | There seems to be a bit of a preoccupation with federated
         | identity and linking communities but the lack of that is what I
         | like about forums and web communities back then.
         | 
         | I don't necessarily want my identity as a bus nerd cross
         | pollinating my interest in going to raves or my interest in
         | business being mixed up with my interest in left wing politics.
         | There all things that I've had some level of interest in joined
         | forums for. I always use different random usernames because I'm
         | also from an age where the internet was it's own world where
         | your real identity didn't matter. More so while we look back at
         | those days with rose tinted specs, many viewed the internet as
         | a dangerous wild west and staying anonymous was one way of
         | protecting yourself.
        
         | metalman wrote:
         | the term, nostalgia, was coined to describe a mental illness,
         | specificaly a type of home sickness, experienced by 17th
         | century mercinaries. Nostagia is a poison, a little will give
         | you a buzz ,but beware of more, as the results are all too
         | common, especialy in those, who mix,there poisons. The only
         | advantage in remembering the past, is to sum up the things that
         | worked, and offer alternative actions for the things that
         | didn't.
        
       | RobotToaster wrote:
       | cookiewall free archive https://archive.ph/aVwAv
        
       | alganet wrote:
       | > hours spent chatting on MSN Messenger (they weren't all that
       | exciting: you used to talk to your classmates right after you'd
       | been with them)
       | 
       | Well, talk for yourself, sir. As a teenager, I had hundreds of IM
       | contacts across ICQ and MSN from all over the world, not only
       | classmates.
       | 
       | > eMule (they often sounded bad and the noise of the computer,
       | running all night, caused nightmares)
       | 
       | A friend recommends a song, you can get it with a 2h download and
       | you both can enjoy talking about it. There was _nothing_ like it
       | at the time.
       | 
       | It's not about wanting to go back. We can't go back, even if
       | everyone wanted to. It was something awesome that happened once
       | and we don't know the formulae for it.
        
       | seneca wrote:
       | I know it's an old man comment, but there really was a time the
       | internet was friendly. It just wasn't 20 years ago. It was before
       | the general public got online, and the internet was a refuge for
       | specialists and early adopters.
       | 
       | In the early 90s, the internet felt like a magical undiscovered
       | wilderness. 90% of the people you met were excited to be there
       | and eager to share. That was long gone 20 years ago.
        
       | macNchz wrote:
       | The most fundamental difference 20 years ago was that online
       | activity was diffused across many different sites, and there was
       | no algorithmic content feed recommending an endless stream of new
       | things. Finding a rabbithole or dark corner required some degree
       | of chance or intentionality, whereas now they are formed around
       | you automatically as one toe in the waters of a given topic
       | prompts the machine to deliver it more frequently and more
       | intensely to keep your attention and draw you deeper in. This is,
       | I think, absolutely foundational to so many sociocultural issues
       | of the present.
        
         | SoftTalker wrote:
         | It's easy to watch it happen. Just watch one youtube video
         | that's outside your usual viewing subjects, and watch how your
         | recommendations instantly change to try to suck you down a path
         | on that new topic.
        
           | ReptileMan wrote:
           | I have the opposite problem. Not sure which genius of youtube
           | thought of it - but no matter how many times I reload it is
           | always the same videos on the home page. Not taking any
           | chances. yes there is a new for you, but if I haven't watched
           | some videos for the last X hours, maybe the algorithm should
           | take a chance with something random.
        
       | pessimizer wrote:
       | The idea that the internet used to be less "hateful" 20 years ago
       | has to be from people who weren't online 20 years ago, or people
       | lying about their own behavior 20 years ago. There were no women
       | or black people on the internet back then, because if you didn't
       | pretend to be white and male, there was a constant stream of
       | abuse.
       | 
       | Every subject you talked about resulted in a discussion about who
       | and what you were, and why it disqualified you from being in the
       | conversation. If it wasn't just a direct insult. Twitter is
       | _nicer_ than the internet back then, and when you see a racial
       | slur or rape threat, that 's the old internet leaking in.
       | 
       | I was a _phone phreak_ and BBSer in the late 80s and early 90s,
       | and it was just as bad, if not worse. The nostalgia about a place
       | without _hate_ is the same as nostalgia for the segregated
       | neighborhood you grew up in.  "Everybody got along." Everybody
       | got along because you belonged to a HOA with racial covenants,
       | and your grandparents burned out half the old residents. The
       | propaganda about a better time in the past, now coming from the
       | nonprofit sector, is a device to make their new speech and
       | behavior codes sound conservative rather than revolutionary.
       | 
       | What _they 've_ taken from us is unmediated, unsurveilled speech.
       | And they've united with the traditional forces of suppression in
       | order to make sure that people can't speak directly to each other
       | without being _corrected_ , whether it's about their opinions
       | about black people, or their opinions about the CIA, or their
       | opinions about Pfizer, or their opinions about UnitedHealth.
       | They're buttbuttinating the world.
       | 
       | Any other nostalgia for the old internet should be because it was
       | smarter. But the fact that it's dumber is part of a process: the
       | world has become more literate since the internet started. People
       | who wouldn't normally write now write. They're also reading. The
       | political fulmination of the current age is due to this, and is
       | going to result in a better educated electorate in general. The
       | reason they hate government is because they've become _more_
       | informed about it, not less.
       | 
       | Nostalgia about your own corner of the internet? Sorry, Eternal
       | September, Evaporative Cooling
       | (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1777665). If you want to
       | create a community that appeals to you, pay for it and gatekeep.
       | If you want to keep a good community together, use classic
       | democratic means (start with Robert's Rules and figure out where
       | you want to go from there), have a dues paying membership, and
       | gatekeep. The open internet is the enemy of corporations, moral
       | police, and governments. They just want you to say good things
       | about products, cultural or otherwise, all day and all night.
       | They want you to produce for free and pay to consume. That's it.
        
         | antigeox wrote:
         | What I'm getting from your over all message is that the
         | Internet used to be less hateful 20 years ago.
        
         | let_me_post_0 wrote:
         | The internet isn't less hateful today, anyway.
         | 
         | In the past internet communities were more heterogeneous. Now
         | everyone lives in a bubble. This makes the snowflakes feel more
         | safe. But this also concentrates the racists, sexists and
         | bigots in their own bubbles where their hate festers.
         | 
         | That heterogeneity is what I miss the most and snowflakes in
         | general ruined web 2.0 for me.
        
           | thomassmith65 wrote:
           | The internet is plenty heterogeneous today... given there are
           | multiple communities that encourage mass killings
           | (Christchurch, most infamously), the internet is _too_
           | heterogeneous.
        
         | jazzyjackson wrote:
         | most inspiring piece of content I've read in weeks and it comes
         | from the pessimizer, thanks for that. also first time I've come
         | across the term buttbuttinating but I like it, captures the
         | zeitgeist.
        
         | bigstrat2003 wrote:
         | > There were no women or black people on the internet back
         | then, because if you didn't pretend to be white and male, there
         | was a constant stream of abuse.
         | 
         | This is not true. Basically everyone I know (including me)
         | didn't pretend to be white or male. We didn't bring up our
         | identities at all. Nobody gave a shit.
         | 
         | I'm not pretending that every single person had a sunshine and
         | roses experience. Assholes exist in every time and place, and
         | some people are unfortunate enough to run into them. But I'm
         | sick of people claiming that the Internet of yesteryear was
         | such a cesspool that if you were anything except a white dude
         | you had a bad time. That was never the case.
        
       | raytopia wrote:
       | Speaking of exploring the friendly a friendly web for a fun
       | little project I made a qt based browser that blocks 500 of the
       | world's most popular websites. It's a lot of fun to be able to
       | explore the web without any fomo caused by the giant sites.
        
       | jillesvangurp wrote:
       | People complaining about things they had when they were young and
       | no longer have is nothing new. Happens to most generations. The
       | music was better, the food was great, people were friendlier,
       | etc. Or so people believe.
       | 
       | Not exactly true of course. Bad people are a constant, and there
       | was some epically bad stuff happening throughout the last century
       | all over the place. The food was mostly bland and boring (at
       | least my part of the world), and did not have a lot of variation.
       | And while I have some appreciation for music of each of the last
       | six decades. I like that I can have all of that now, which is
       | much better, IMHO. Also modern music seems to borrow from, and
       | often imitate all of that. There's a wider variety of music now.
       | And there is still a lot of bland, cringe worthy pop music that
       | people seem to like as well. Average tastes being a bit shit is a
       | constant too.
       | 
       | Objectively, the internet thirty years ago was kind of shit. It
       | was exciting (I was there) but also pretty bad. Things were slow,
       | lame, ugly, amateurish, hopelessly insecure, etc. Many people
       | didn't really see the point of it all. They think of that as the
       | time where they didn't have to use computers and phones and are
       | feeling nostalgic about that.
       | 
       | But there were some nice people you could get in touch with and
       | do stuff with online. Not a lot. Mostly sending emails and
       | reading each other's rants on nntp, irc, slashdot, online gaming,
       | and what not. Or watching that hit counter on your website not
       | increment much at all. Download some stuff you shouldn't be
       | downloading. Napster, emule, kazaa, and all the rest. Been there
       | done that.
       | 
       | The world changes all the time. Old people don't keep up and feel
       | detached from it and whine about that. People get families and
       | stop doing the crazy shit they were doing when they were young,
       | including talking to each other. That's just life. The thing
       | that's not as good as it used to be is you, not the world.
       | 
       | There are still nice people. And you can still get in connect
       | with them. Just not the way you did thirty years ago. New people,
       | new ways of interacting with them. It's easier than ever
       | actually. There are apps for that!
       | 
       | And you can't blame young people for not being that eager to
       | engage with a bunch of old whiny people using old crappy tools.
       | Mostly they do their own thing that they will be all nostalgic
       | about in twenty years. In exactly the same way we are right here.
        
         | coldtea wrote:
         | > _People complaining about things they had when they were
         | young and no longer have is nothing new. Happens to most
         | generations. The music was better, the food was great, people
         | were friendlier, etc. Or so people believe. Not exactly true of
         | course._
         | 
         | In many cases very much true. The trope that "people always
         | complain for things missing from the past, so they're always
         | wrong" needs to die. They're wrong or not depending on a case
         | by case basis (depending on the thing), and based on the
         | standards they put forward:
         | 
         | If you hate corporate culture and like DIY and individual
         | expession, the 90s internet was 100x better.
         | 
         | If you like the "bazaar" style FOSS communities and FOSS
         | idealism, the late 90s was very much better.
         | 
         | > _Objectively, the internet thirty years ago was kind of shit.
         | It was exciting (I was there) but also pretty bad. Things were
         | slow, lame, ugly, amateurish, hopelessly insecure, etc._
         | 
         | I was already loving it, you don't have to sell it to me so
         | hard!
        
         | thsag wrote:
         | During the first bubble (1998-2000) there were Java stock
         | ticker applets that were better than what we have today. You
         | could already get actually cheap flights via travel sites.
         | There was a short window where you had access to the Sabre
         | booking system directly. Travel sites are expensive and garbage
         | nowadays.
         | 
         | There were flash games that are better than what we have now.
         | In Usenet there was real free speech.
         | 
         | There also was the uninteresting AOL walled garden that was
         | quickly replaced ... by other uninteresting walled gardens.
         | Except that everyone is now a sharecropper in some walled
         | garden, depending on the moderator's grace and feeding AI
         | scrapers.
         | 
         | The only thing that is better now is Rumble/YouTube, which
         | depend on the vastly improved bandwidth. Ironically, YouTube
         | also still allows far greater free speech in the comments that
         | other platforms except for _some_ newspaper comments sections,
         | which also allow a lot.
        
       | curtisblaine wrote:
       | So this is essentially a list of things that were bad in the old
       | Internet from the point of view of... a feminist collective? It
       | looks like the writer is trying to universalize an essentially
       | biased point of view, calling _my_ point of view a mistake and
       | suggesting that that point of view is actually an artefact of the
       | passing of time. I 'm sorry but that's not true. I'd take the old
       | Internet any day, defects and all, very sorry for the feminist
       | collective they interviewed.
        
       | coldtea wrote:
       | What mistake would that be?
       | 
       | Reference points are necessary to understand a crappy present.
        
       | m3047 wrote:
       | The "friendly online world" was a reflection of people's
       | willingness to meet in meat space in a civil fashion, even if it
       | was uncomfortable at times.
       | 
       | Purely anecdata, but a recent personal experience which seems
       | pretty unremarkable:
       | 
       | I have a 1991 pickup truck; good truck, I still drive it and use
       | it as a truck. The two local mechanics I would have taken it to
       | for some needed work both sold out in the past few years and the
       | new owners don't want to work on anything more than 20 years old.
       | (Their reasons belying their inexperience, but I digress.)
       | 
       | There used to be auto and bike clubs around here, where
       | motorheads got together to wrench and talk about their vehicles,
       | and share personal experiences with mechanics, machine shops,
       | etc. Now the clubs are (still) focused on the (same) 1930s-1960s
       | cars and they've been upscaled into a high-roller venue and
       | fundraising channel.
       | 
       | I'm not the only person driving 25-50 year old metal around here.
       | 
       | I put an ad on Craigslist seeking a suitable group or birds of a
       | feather to form one; I got six responses. I put my phone number
       | in the ad, and there's no escaping Craigslist's anonymous
       | remailer.
       | 
       | No phone calls. Two of the responses were duds, leaving four
       | people who demonstrated that they wanted to have conversations
       | using CL's anonymous remailer: that doesn't scale. Sent a
       | boilerplate response to all four once again providing my phone
       | number, and also my real email address; offering to drive my
       | truck to some local public place if they drove theirs.
       | 
       | No takers.
       | 
       | 20+ years ago, online communities existed to complement other
       | means of communication whether that was private chat / email /
       | telephone calls, or meatspace meetups.
        
         | DontchaKnowit wrote:
         | Are their not car shows near you? Where im at even the smallest
         | towns (talking like, less than 1000 people) have car show
         | meetups where people gather to display their cars and discuss
         | the work theyve done on them
        
           | m3047 wrote:
           | That's the 30s-60s car people primarily. They charge
           | admission "for a good cause". Show me a picture from your
           | local car show with a 1985-1995 working pickup truck in it;
           | honestly I'd like to see it, and know Santa Claus lives
           | somewhere. But we're off the track.
           | 
           | So about this car show: does it have an internet presence, or
           | is it AOL^H^H^HFacebook? A mailing list? IRC? Slack? What's
           | it got? Is it actually "alive"?
           | 
           | Calling (phone calls, not internet) around, it became
           | apparent that there is more interest around vehicles like
           | this in "farm country": if I'd wanted to drive 50+ miles I'd
           | have several mechanics to choose from.
        
       | MarkusWandel wrote:
       | I do miss it though.
       | 
       | 20 years ago you could run your email domain on a machine in your
       | basement and it would work. You could send out email and it would
       | be received, and the incoming spam volume was manageable.
       | 
       | 20 years ago, a buddy used an account on my net-connected Linux
       | machine to scrape map tiles off Google Maps. Google put a stop to
       | it, and Gmaps wouldn't work any more on my (static) IP address. I
       | told him "you broke it, you fix it" and he got on the horn with
       | someone at Google and got it unblocked.
       | 
       | 20 years ago, you could go on an online dating site and have a
       | serious hope of finding a real mate for life. I did. Several
       | others I know did.
       | 
       | 20 years ago, you could go on Facebook, and see what your friends
       | were up to.
       | 
       | Sure, many things didn't exist back then. But it was a more
       | innocent world. The internet was still an optimistic place.
        
         | Aurornis wrote:
         | Comments like this are a good example of rose colored glasses
         | 
         | > You could send out email and it would be received, and the
         | incoming spam volume was manageable.
         | 
         | You must have very different memories of the spam problem than
         | I do. I wouldn't trade today's spam filtering technologies for
         | what we had back then.
         | 
         | > 20 years ago, a buddy used an account on my net-connected
         | Linux machine to scrape map tiles off Google Maps. Google put a
         | stop to it, and Gmaps wouldn't work any more on my (static) IP
         | address. I told him "you broke it, you fix it" and he got on
         | the horn with someone at Google and got it unblocked.
         | 
         | Which part of this do you miss? The fact that your friend had
         | to try to manually scrape a service because it wasn't trivially
         | easy to download open map tiles like it is today? Or the fact
         | that you had to know somebody to get your home IP un-banned,
         | because it once again wasn't cheap and easy to get a cloud
         | server running in minutes like it is today?
         | 
         | The only fun part about this memory appears to be the adventure
         | you had because the internet was new to you two and doing
         | things is more fun when it's new.
         | 
         | > 20 years ago, you could go on an online dating site and have
         | a serious hope of finding a real mate for life. I did. Several
         | others I know did.
         | 
         | This still happens all the time. Given that you're no longer on
         | those apps, I assume you're getting your perspective from
         | internet anger outlets like Reddit where people who aren't
         | having success on those websites complain about them, but
         | people continue to find partners and get married. I was at such
         | a wedding very recently.
         | 
         | > But it was a more innocent world. The internet was still an
         | optimistic place.
         | 
         | I'm sorry, but I think you're underestimating how much you have
         | changed, along with the content you consume.
        
       | jappgar wrote:
       | It was better simply because normies weren't on the internet yet.
       | 
       | Like so many things, the more popular it becomes, the worse it
       | gets.
        
       | thsag wrote:
       | The article focuses way too much on the "fear of technology". El
       | Pais, formerly the Spanish paper of record, succumbs to
       | mainstream techno optimism.
        
       | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
       | I do not remember the Internet of 20 years ago, as being
       | "friendly."
       | 
       | I was one of the "unfriendly" ones, and I liked it.
       | 
       | These days, I'm trying to atone for that.
        
       | johnea wrote:
       | So, it's a mistake to wish things aren't as fucked up as they
       | are?
        
       | idlewords wrote:
       | I find that nostalgia for the early web is inversely correlated
       | with the number of IE 6 bugs one had to work around back in the
       | day.
        
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