[HN Gopher] Self Unhelped: On psychoanalysis and therapeutic cul...
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       Self Unhelped: On psychoanalysis and therapeutic culture
        
       Author : lermontov
       Score  : 44 points
       Date   : 2025-01-02 23:42 UTC (2 days ago)
        
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       | motohagiography wrote:
       | imo depression is a physical circumstance that selects its own
       | downstream psychology. I don't think you can talk or reason out
       | of depression without a radical reframing that causes your
       | physical behavior and circumstances to change. your body and its
       | habits create preferences for psychological intensity, which gets
       | it hits of feelings it would get normally if the being that
       | inhabited it were free and self accepting.
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       | the self or ego speaks language, and the therapist's demeanour is
       | intended to create a physical peace where the self can run and
       | exhaust itself before becoming receptive to a (hopefully
       | constructive) reframing. where I diverge from my psychologist
       | friends is I think using language to relieve the suffering of the
       | being only works accidentally, or when some language can overflow
       | the self and unseat it from its dominion of the being. there's a
       | state of enlightened duality where you can see your thoughts
       | without feeling them or being directed by them, much like what
       | meditation recommends, and from that state the being literally
       | just chooses experiencies that bring it peace or joy. sustaining
       | that is an effort and skill that can developed with practice and
       | exercise.
       | 
       | trying to reconcile the symbols and artifacts of language with
       | other symbols and artifacts of language is a treadmill to me.
       | how's that working out? couldn't say precisely, but wisdom is
       | shown to be right by its results.
        
         | flat-like-paper wrote:
         | Framing the practice of therapy as a space for the "self to run
         | and exhaust itself" before becoming receptive to reframing is
         | one of the more concise and clear explanations of what therapy
         | can be.
         | 
         | What complicates the process is that language based thought and
         | emotion run as a two way feedback loop, repetitive thoughts can
         | create neurochemical repeating patterns which can change what
         | someone is able to experience. In this way artifacts of
         | language alone can have an immense amount of power no?
        
         | dbtc wrote:
         | Though subtle, speech and writing are physical acts. Perhaps
         | thought is not.
         | 
         | I don't know any practicing therapists, but the self and the
         | ego are very different things in the freudian/jungian
         | framework. Having a precise language - regardless of the
         | framework - can be very helpful for gaining productive
         | detachment.
         | 
         | But in fiction language transcends itself and enters the realm
         | of image and dreams, where we might encounter the psyche as
         | soul again, without the -ology.
        
         | rlupi wrote:
         | Yes, the self alone is shouting in the void and appalled and
         | confused at what it hears back. Expand the boundary to
         | encompass enough, loose momentum and be still, and healing
         | happens.
         | 
         | Mindfulness is a tool and a habit that should be embodied in
         | everything.
         | 
         | I recently wrote in a document (filled with too much ego, since
         | it's called "starting points toward a cybernetic theory of
         | karma"):
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         | > I suspect, subjectively we each get the world we need - but
         | you only see when reaching the point of total stillness, so
         | that your energy points outwards from the ordinary. Then your
         | world view shifts, and making sense of how it works with the
         | conceptual tools you have... Truth is a pathless land.
        
       | Mistletoe wrote:
       | Sex and the City saved me from a lifetime wasted with self-help
       | books by one wonderful scene of some pathetic lady crying in the
       | self-help section on the floor. It made me realize that is pretty
       | much every self-help reader ever. They are never helped, they are
       | just on a hamster wheel to the next self-help book, a little of
       | their wallet moved from their pocket to the author.
        
       | Frummy wrote:
       | You know I think a lot of the problems is we are looking for
       | magic when it is dull and boring around us. If all else fails,
       | just stay at the surface and say everything is as it seems and
       | nothing is deep or dramatic, and do nothing else but your
       | eisenhower matrix (what's important and urgent first, four
       | squares on a two axis box). Because when we say nothing is
       | magical we stop looping internally trying to find a touch of
       | divinity when what we need is to interact with the world in a
       | structured way to build momentum to change our environment.
        
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